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I’ve probably told this story here before, but I paid on the first date with my husband and I know it was a huge green flag for him. I had showed up to a regular hang out of mine early for our date and I had dinner before he got there. We had a drink or two together to get to know each other - his were beers and mine were mixed drinks. The bill was like 75% my stuff and he offered but I had my own money and insisted that I could treat him to two beers. We are now married and I don’t work anymore…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 11:42 PM
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At every juncture if it is not a F YES, it’s a no. You were both very young when you had a kid together. Why try to rekindle something you already know doesn’t work? Flip side if you are just looking at this pragmatically: get back with him, ignore all the reasons you aren’t together now, have another baby.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 03:37 AM
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I have a credit card where I charge everything normal- including gas, groceries, hair, anything I order on Amazon, etc. I also get an allowance of sorts. I get cash transferred into my personal account each month that I can spend on anything I want. Spa days, dinner out with girlfriends. That kind of thing. DH pays all bills. I have no clue about our finances unless I ask.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 01:32 PM
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I absolutely understand that. You should find a career (not childcare) that’s a fallback. If you do love caregiving, nursing is great. You will always have options with even a 2 year nursing degree. Probably anything healthcare related is going to fully forgive an employment gap. They are desperate and are only on track to get more desperate.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 03:04 AM
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We have 2 dogs, so to start the day I feed and walk them. I either then take them to the park or I go to yoga - never both. I shower and get dressed for the day after. Twice a week I clean the house from top to bottom. (Every other week we have a cleaner come in to do a deep clean as well). Once a week I water/feed the plants indoors and out. I have a garden going seasonally. I am currently also rearing monarch caterpillars. I go to the grocery store pretty much everyday after I decide what we a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 11:58 PM
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There are a few things to consider: Being a SAHW is a lot of work. I’m not sure how clear you are on that fact at 19. There are days (like today) that I get up at 8:30am and - other than driving - I don’t sit down until after dinner is served. Then I get right back up to clean dishes and the kitchen. It’s not all fun and games. It’s mentally exhausting as well. Add kids to that and you might honestly end up hating it. Point is: You don’t know yet. You haven’t done it. You are correct that it’s h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 11:25 PM
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Here are a few that are my go-tos: Turkey sausage dogs with sautéed peppers and onions. Chili and skillet corn bread (NYT recipe for the cornbread). Turkey sausage and tortellini with a creamy pesto sauce. Grilled chicken over a bagged caesar salad. Charcuterie. (This would be particularly easy if you’re headed to Whole Foods) Reverse sear steaks with roasted Brussels sprouts. (Can also do reverse sear pork chops.) Spaghetti and meat sauce with sautéed broccoli.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 08:42 PM
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My hobbies come and go with the seasons sometimes. I’m currently raising monarch caterpillars on the back porch. My husband loves watching me get excited about new things.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:04 PM
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Domestic goddess? I honestly struggle with this because I came to a traditional set up way later in life. I spend my time doing yoga, at the dog park, running errands, cooking, cleaning, gardening… it all sounds like nothing but added together it’s a full day and people (especially my generation - Gen X) do not value any of that. We were raised to believe only money mattered and a woman should do all that and bring home a big salary.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:33 AM
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Yes, indeed. Please read her second and third paragraph again.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 09:39 PM
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Your spouse will ideally be there after the kids are grown and flown. I thoroughly disagree with putting your SO second to the kids and taking the kids everywhere (never having a date night). That’s a recipe for a cheating husband.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 03:10 PM
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Bonobos are highly promiscuous and use sex as bonding. They practice something referred to as a “genital handshake” when they meet new tribes. They are definitely not monogamous. I have no idea what point OP was trying to make there.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 08:44 PM
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Take a trip over to r/stepparents and do a bit of reading. Being a stepmom is hard under the very best of circumstances. You already know, though, that this isn’t the best of circumstances. You have what is referred to on the other sub as a high conflict baby mama (HCBM). It’s possible/likely that she will do everything in her power to make this relationship difficult for you. Is your boyfriend officially divorced? You said separated, which sounds like a “no” to me. If he’s still married on pape…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 01:42 PM
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Don’t Starve Together. Our family plays a lot of coop games. We’ve played Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime. Overcooked and Overcooked 2 are both fun. Unravel Two is super cute. I will tell you that my husband games and he doesn’t really love gaming as a team. The only game he actually enjoys playing as a group is Diablo 3, but I don’t think that’s the type of thing you’re looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 12:43 AM
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Most men, if asked, wouldn’t say they care about having their bed made. They like it. Make the bed everyday, if you can. Definitely agree on chores up front. My husband and I both worked FT when we moved in together. We had the fastest chore talk ever. 😂 He said: I don’t mind mowing the lawn and doing dishes, but I hate cleaning toilets. I said: I know you also hate laundry and I have no problem with laundry and cooking, but I also don’t want to clean toilets. He said: Ok. Sounds like we are hir…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 04:19 PM
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Are you looking to get married and/or have children? If so, he is likely not the man for you. I would have said the same thing to you 5 years ago and without knowledge of the girlfriend. This man will never ever make you his wife. If that’s ok with you, go ahead and leach off his income for as long as he will allow. He already bought cheap some of the best years of your life. Let him keep paying I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 01:52 AM
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I would do both things: Seek medical help and also move forward with your education. Is there nothing social that you have found to do while your husband is working? Garden club? Yoga? Golf? Tennis? Dog park? I am a full time homemaker and I’m not bored.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 02:01 AM
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I just recently started drinking cacao shell tea. It’s delicious. The brand I’m drinking is from Lydgate Farms in Hawaii.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:27 PM
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It’s a supplement that’s been show to boost NAD+ levels. NAD+ in turn helps guard your cells from epigenetic changes (aging).
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 04:57 PM
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Not to that extent. I find when I implement STFU too much I end up having to remind my DH that I am also a person who has feelings. It’s not that he’s a horrible narcissist or anything. He just legit forgets to consider how his actions (or lack thereof) might have repercussions that effect my mental wellbeing. If it goes on too long he will start speaking to me the way he speaks to his employees and I’ll have to gently remind him that (despite the fact that he provides financially) I don’t work …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 03:12 AM
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I take NMN because I read the book Lifespan and it was recommended. I also take a multivitamin.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 10:59 PM
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Our situation is the same. Most of our money is either joint or in individual retirement accounts. I don’t bother with any of that money though. I have a CC on an account he pays. I also get a set amount of cash to spend as I please. I have individual bank and CC accounts from before we met, but they are peanuts comparatively. It takes a ton of trust and unity to make this work. I agonized about leaving my career. It’s great now but I was afraid I might be opening myself up to financial abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/22 04:28 AM
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I was raised in a household where teasing and tearing down was pretty much our only interactions. Big family. Did your husband come from a big family? I didn’t know I was hurting people for years after I left home. I thought all people did this. I thought that’s how people bonded. Husband is probably clueless.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 03:33 AM
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Ha ha! Two kids from my first marriage here. I’m 8 years into marriage #2 and I still play coy and pretend innocence or naïveté. DH loves that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 12:24 AM
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Good men don’t ask. Good women don’t offer up that information unsolicited. Most humans aren’t good 100% of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 12:21 AM
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Nothing. No. DH works his butt off to earn money. What I do is pack his lunch, tend to his kids, take care of the dogs, keep the house clean, laundry done and put away, dishes clean and in the cabinets, dinner decided on, shopped for, prepped, and served, then I clean up and make his lunch for the next day before joining him in bed. At what point should I be trying to earn money?
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 04:09 AM
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I’m an Athleta fan. I specifically need to have deep pockets in my leggings. I wear them to work out but also on long walks and to take my dogs to the park. I need those pockets for keys, phone, AirPods case, poop bags, etc. Athleta makes soft strong leggings with deep side pockets.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 04:18 AM
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I just want to let you know that I always said “I come from a long line of bad cooks” but I realized at some point that cooking is really easy! It’s nothing more than following instructions. I now have about ten meals and probably as many desserts or appetizers that my husband, kids, and step kids love and demand. Not gonna lie: I am so sick of these 10 meals. I sometimes just make myself a salad. Point is: try cooking again. It’s not that hard. And the people who can’t cook really really apprec…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 02:41 AM
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Depends on the day. Mondays are a free day. Sometimes the housekeepers come. If not, I clean. We have two Labradors, so fur management is an issue. We will come back to this on Fridays. Tuesday and Thursday are pretty much the same. Yoga from 9 to 10. Dog park from 11 to 1. Wednesday I have a standing lunch date with a friend I’ve known for 20+ years. Before that I do a health treatment- hyperbaric or cryotherapy. Friday is another cleaning day. This is also when I water all my plants. Any day t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 02:24 AM
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Make the bed. Honestly, if that’s the only thing I do all day, he’s happy. I hold myself to dealing with dinner almost every day as well. Beyond that, I’m free to do nothing. However, most days I don’t even sit down until dinner. I’m free to do nothing, but I have things to do that I enjoy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 04:19 AM
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Sam Edelman is my go to. Why? A woman physician recommended them. She was on her feet all day.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 04:28 AM
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He is buying cheap crap and expecting you to preserve his trash? Look, I’m actually all in on this sub, but if he buys tissue paper t-shirts, you can’t actually wash them. The best advice I’ve got is cold water wash and hang dry.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 03:37 AM
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According to Dr Laura 27 is the magic number. Perhaps you can introduce your MIL to her. I think she’s on XM and also has a podcast
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:25 AM
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I live in an old city (by US standards). My husband cringes when I put on heels. Limited parking + cobblestone roads are not a place for heels. I wear ballet flats to make him happy and make our outings comfortable for everyone. That’s for a night out. I spend the bulk of my time in flip flops or sneakers or barefoot. Not sure who needs to hear this, but working out can be feminine, gardening can be feminine, cooking/baking doesn’t require heels (though I do often wear a dress and apron for fun …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/22 01:12 AM
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If you look back at prosperous couples historically, this was the way. Honestly, I would keep sleeping with my husband in the same (king minimum) bed, but I absolutely hate sharing a bathroom with him. Currently we are fine. Our schedules are different enough that we never share the space. It’s terrible when we vacation together. We don’t share a bathroom well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/22 02:35 AM
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I haven’t. I live my life. My friends think I’m crazy and oppressed while they work full time and I don’t work.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 01:47 AM
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I can’t be bothered to read all that unless you are the woman who was going to give birth to a child she immediately signed over all rights to. Without marriage. If that’s you I’ll read it. The tldr was way too long.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 02:52 AM
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I am American and was raised with very misandrist principles. “Men are pigs.” “Men only want one thing.” “Men will lie even when the truth is better.” I’m 44. Those lessons are true for like 80% of men. Honestly. But there is that 20% who aren’t terrible. Find the minority. Treat them well. They will pay you back tenfold.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 04:21 AM
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Two different things. I love tika masala. I also love Marsala chicken.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 03:23 AM
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Definitely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 02:08 AM
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This sounds great and I’m absolutely going to try it, but it seems polarizing. He will love it or hate it. A big roll of the dice for a new relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 02:07 AM
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Chicken Marsala. Make it w the Tyler Florence recipe. Keep your oven at 200. Chicken stays there. Sauce just keeps warm once it’s done. Throw them together when he gets there.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 02:05 AM
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Slow meditative sex that enjoys the moment rather than the destination. He will take his time to get inside me and then we will just stay there for a bit. He’s throbbing. I’m pulsing. No one is moving. Then you do what feels best. I had to have a full conversation excusing him from having an orgasm. If he is focused on his orgasm or my orgasm, it can’t work. He can get soft. I can lose focus. But we are both doing our best to just be present. Honestly we end up cumming at the same time more ofte…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 12:24 AM
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Honestly, sex is better when neither partner is fixated on the end game. I’ve been w my husband for a decade. In the past year or less we’ve been exploring what probably amounts to tantric sex and it is mind blowing. Slow down. Feel what feels good. Soak in that feeling for as long as you can. It would be the most boring porn video ever, but holy cow, it feels so good.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 02:56 AM
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I agree with a prior post: Don’t aim for spotless. I have 2 dogs and 5 kids. This place is never going to be spotless. I have housekeepers come every 2 weeks to clean all surfaces (showers, toilets, floors, sinks). I clean the floors myself 3 times between those visits on set days. What ultimately makes my house “clean” is that I do not tolerate clutter. Papers go on the desk. Then they get sorted, stacked, filed, or tossed. Dishes go in the sink. Then they get washed and put away. Dog leashes h…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 01:53 AM
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Hey an audible account and some ear buds.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 02:13 AM
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Love the way you handled this. I will throw out there one of my parenting pet peeves though: Teach your children from an early age how to behave in a restaurant, theater, at someone’s home. Two is young to sit, but not to talk. “Hey, I get that you’re antsy but gramma and papi came here to see us. Can we try to spend time with them? Do you think we could do that?” Just a suggestion. You’ve got this. Either way.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 02:33 AM
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Creed Aventus Sadly, Aventus for Her is terrible. I had such high hopes when it was introduced.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/22 02:54 AM
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I plan my down times to coincide with his. I clean the whole house on Monday and Friday. I work out in the AM on weekdays. I figure out what’s for dinner by 3 and have it bought/prepped by 4.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 03:26 AM
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You don’t think it’s your profile that is inviting interest from men you aren’t interested in but also repelling men you are interested in? I’m just saying that it might be.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 01:28 AM
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When I was on the apps (and to be clear, I was only on OKC and I was only on there 4 days before I met my husband. Also, this was 2012.) it was a full-time job to reply to incoming messages. I feel this issue you are having might be related to the religious aspect of the site. Otherwise this lack of messages is related to something about your profile. ETA: Definitely message first if you feel strongly about his profile. Be confident. If he doesn’t respond, don’t be offended and don’t message him…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 12:09 AM
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Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 02:18 AM
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Yes. Sorry. You are correct.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 11:55 PM
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I’d it isn’t a YES!!!!!, it’s a no.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 03:29 AM
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Note: The following advice is not for anyone with an unhealthy relationship with food. Intermittent fasting is the key, as far as I have found. I usually only eat one meal a day. At that meal I can have absolutely whatever I want. Appetizers, drinks, meats, carbs, cheeses, desserts. I also take vitamins and prioritize veggies and fruits during my break from fast. The rest of the day I don’t eat. And I mean, I consume zero calories from food or beverage. I drink water or unsweetened tea. It’s sup…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 03:13 AM
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We are not allowed to say “leave him”. All we can do is offer suggestions that may or may not help. You are absolutely right though. No amount of polishing could put a shine on some of the turds we read about.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 02:25 AM
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Just throwing this out there, but are you “drowning” due to lack of structure in your days? Asking because your post is vague but I have intermittently struggled with that. If that is the case, what has helped me is assigning tasks to certain days and/or times. For example: Mondays and Fridays I clean and wash everything I can. (I want to be able to spend my weekends not cleaning and washing anything unnecessary. I want to spend my weekends with my husband who isn’t around on Mondays and Fridays…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 01:42 AM
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Finance
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 12:56 AM
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Can you tell us more about your situation? Are you married to a man who worships the body you hate? Are you a completely healthy weight but have body dysmorphia? What’s the deal?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 04:01 AM
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I was in a similar position many… 18+ years ago. My husband kept telling me he was just around the corner from a big break. I got pregnant. He asked me to stay home and I knew that just wasn’t possible. He was not earning enough. I went back to work 2 weeks after I gave birth to our first daughter. He actually went back to college while working full time while we had an infant. It was an absolute nightmare. He graduated, claiming this BS would earn him promotions and pay raises. It didn’t. Still…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 03:21 AM
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Also, absolutely nothing untrue about the statement. Adoption is transactional these days.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:40 AM
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It was a joke. I almost clarified on the post, but figured it was obvious. It was a sarcastic response to his crappy attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:39 AM
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Kind of the opposite side of this, but I love my husband’s hair a few inches long and his beard the same, but shaped well. He had it all close cropped when we met. I told him that I’d love for him to grow it a bit and he did. He looks sooooo much better and I love being able to get my fingers in his hair or grab his beard at his chin and pull him to me. It’s involved him learning to tend a beard and go through various hair products to get a look he likes, but he’s done the work. I would be absol…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 01:48 AM
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My brother was adopted at 10 days old. That was roughly 11 months before I was born. Adoption was perfectly normal to me growing up. Bro was just the kid that didn’t look like the rest of us. I also have 2 bio siblings. Adopted brother is everyone’s favorite. I assumed that once I was married I would also adopt a child. My first husband was vehemently opposed to “raising someone else’s kid” as he put it. No matter how many times I explained “they are yours once you pay for them”. We had 2 bio ki…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 01:16 PM
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Very similar story here. Looking back now, we both feel that we knew there was something special between us from the first communication (we met on OKC). Dating was difficult. We both worked full time and lived 30+ minutes apart. Also, as we had both been married with children and divorced previously, we were both juggling childcare commitments. We took turns “commuting”. I would drive to his city for a date 2 or 3 times a week and he would drive to my city for a date 2 or 3 times a week. Yes, w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 12:29 PM
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Many things: 1) All these comments about children incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure: Have you people not had children? Toddler girls hump their pillows to go to sleep. Or their 5 point harness. Is it super normal and does it occur with every toddler? Absolutely not. Does it happen? Yes! 2) Your number isn’t high. I actually have many more numbers but this thread is probably deleted by now. Just play to your strengths.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 01:49 AM
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Yeah, I saw the title and I’m a married women with an “allowance” so I wanted to chime in positively. My allowance money is just the money I get to spend with zero oversight. I also spend whatever I need in order to maintain our house, vehicles, wardrobes, children, and kitchen pantry. The allowance is totally my money to do whatever I want with. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. This arrangement took years to perfect. Hard conversations were had. Different set ups we’re attempted. Fundame…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 02:03 AM
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My head is a whirlwind of negativity all the time. I struggle with feeling like I’m a terrible human being. I’m crazy judgy about weight, tattoos, wait staff, your chosen dog breed, how you feed that dog, how you parent, how much make up you wear, etc, etc. I hate how I have an opinion about everything. Most of which I absolutely shouldn’t care about. And, to be perfectly honest, I’m busy all day judging myself just as harshly and admonishing myself for being unkind and generally not good enough…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 01:27 AM
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It was much easier before we started building a custom home. I generally just let him decide about most things. What do I care? He is paying. He is working for that money. I get to do pretty much whatever I want from daybreak to 5pm. He gets what he wants. Building a home takes about 10,000 decisions that he has no time or mental energy for. Now I have to make choices about materials, design, colors… and if I’m wrong, it’s on me. And it’s still “his” money, though he shies away from that talk. E…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 12:04 AM
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I found the love of my life at 34. He was 32. You are crazy young.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 04:40 AM
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And you are how old now?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 04:28 AM
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I do think that every woman should read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. It’s a quick read but really drives home the message: Belly full, balls empty, a decent man will very rarely stray. Is that simplistic, yes. Does it paint men as stupid eating sex machines, you betcha. But… it’s also true.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:22 PM
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“Get in a fight”? Do you mean an actual physical altercation with another human? Just wanted to ask that. Financial independence: I basically spend whatever I want on the credit card he pays but I also get a set amount in cash that he has no say in or oversight of. I expect once you do have kids, you will realize that’s a pretty full-time type job (especially on top of cooking and cleaning and gardening and whatever else you have going on - for me it’s dog care and a yoga addiction). Subservienc…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 12:07 AM
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What’s super fun about this as a Gen Xer, which I absolutely assume OPs mom is: We get called Boomers but the reality is our parents were the Boomers. And it’s our kids who are the whiney babies everyone is complaining about. But we get off Scott free because everyone forgot we existed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 12:31 AM
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My husband can’t take off work on a whim. Even a long weekend involves weeks of planning ahead. So for us, I identify a time frame and discuss it with him. If he’s agreeable to the timeframe, he or I will contact his schedule staff to block of dates/hours. Then I can start to research local attractions for our destination. Look up good restaurants. Read reviews for hotels or VRBOs. In general, I present him with a wish list and he gets veto rights to anything that doesn’t sound fun. This is pret…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 11:43 PM
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I agree with this advice. I was fully committed to working until typical retirement age, but I ended up with a man who earned so much more than me that it was just silly for me to continue spending my time on earning a relative pittance when I could have been using that time to tend to our home, kids, cars, yard, pets, etc, etc, etc. Everything will ride on who you end up with. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 08:21 PM
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Honestly, I wear yoga pants, sports bras, and tank tops throughout most of the day. Shoes vary. Headed to yoga: flops; Headed to the dog park or working in the garden: rubber boots. Out for a walk or to the grocery store: sneakers. By the time my husband is headed home I will have showered, changed, and put on make up. The attire still depends on what we are doing. I have dresses ranging from ball gown to casino night to sun dress. I have “business casual” for meeting potential new hires. Most n…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 03:37 AM
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I have to be honest, my first response was to actually recoil at this post. My mind said “EW!” and perhaps I should have moved on. Our situation is this: He is full on atheist. I am agnostic/very much welcoming if answers walk into my life. They haven’t so far. But I’m still pondering every day. I’ve actually read the full Bible, old and New Testament. Which is frankly weird in itself that god had a whole personality change within a few thousand years and flat changed his mind about a lot of thi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 03:41 AM
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Love you most. Any requests for dinner tonight?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 03:21 AM
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My husband, bless him, doesn’t want to hear about any prior exploits. At the same time, he appreciates the skills I bring to the bed thanks to those supposed (we have pretend they are fake) exploits. Starfishing isn’t winning. Gain some skills. Watching porn is actually the worst way to be good at sex.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 03:07 AM
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Unless this insistence is hampering your preferred lifestyle, I’d let it go and use your money to fund investments. Now, if you want spa day or a new car and he can’t foot the bill… I would be concerned that he will feel demeaned if you go ahead and pay for it. It might become restrictive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 01:59 AM
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Not sure where the couple is located, but in some areas any income after the marriage is considered “marital assets” and attributed 50/50 in the event of divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 01:55 AM
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I read a book called Lifespan buy a scientist that studies anti-aging. Then I did a bit of googling. Basically, might help, doesn’t seem to hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 12:13 AM
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Have you ever toured an old historic home where the couple had separate bedrooms and bathrooms and sitting rooms. I absolutely love my husband so much, but that would benefit our marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 02:19 AM
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I had sex with my now husband the actual day we met. If not for him I would never have been on a position to be an RPW. I didn’t want that for my life even a little. So I guess I’m your “reformed RPW”. Do I regret any of it? Absolutely not! Regret is wasted emotion. You can’t change the past. I love my husband. We ended up together. He’s provided me with everything I could possibly need or want. He actually admitted today that my sexual prowess (learned before I met him) is a huge plus in our re…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 01:24 AM
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The only definitive diagnosis is exploratory laparoscopic surgery. If you have super heavy periods, try to get scanned for fibroids. My uterus was 10x the size it should have been when I finally got it taken out. The periods were nightmarish.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 12:52 AM
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I dealt with a similar situation. The doc looked at my ultrasound after a failed insemination and said he thought I had endo. I knew women with terribly painful endo and said “I don’t have that”. I did/do. At this point I have had two kids and a hysterectomy. Hysterectomy doesn’t cure endometriosis though. I still have ovaries and a cervix and whatever organs it spread to before.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 12:50 AM
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To echo a prior comment “everyone is telling you happiness is a choice”. That’s because happiness is a choice. Focus on what is pissing you off or focus on what is so beautiful about your life. That’s pretty much the most important decision you can make each and every day.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 02:39 AM
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I grew up in a Navy family. Grandfathers, uncles, father, brothers. I knew from the moment I began noticing boys that I did not want that for me. It’s a special breed of person who can deal with months of separation from your supposed partner. Most humans actually don’t function well like that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/22 02:28 AM
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I’m 44. My husband is 42. He is so hot for me. I worry all the time about the aging process and put a ton of time, effort, blood, sweat, tears, and of course money into aging well. Honestly, at this point, a woman can age quite well into her 50s. That’s where it gets a bit dicey. Currently. It’s hard to say what will be your limit. Products continue to be developed. Micro-needling, chemical peels, deep plane face lifts. Those things weren’t available or accessible to my mother. I also get IPL fo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 01:45 AM
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I have a niece who was adopted from China at 18 months old. She will never speak normally. She’s been in speech therapy from the moment they identified the issue (maybe at 2 or 3 years old). She’s now 18, brilliant student, and amazing at sports, but hard to understand in a verbal situation. She works with it. I have no concerns for her. I have 2 bio kids and 3 step kids. None of them are “perfect”. Perfect doesn’t exist. What’s super hard to accept, as a parent, is that your kid isn’t amazing j…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 01:46 AM
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Do you have dogs? Because dog parks are a quick and easy friend group if you have park friendly dogs.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 02:41 AM
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You have been with him 4 years. Does he want to marry you? If so, why hasn’t he yet? Question 1. Look, kids are a huge issue. Most marriages rise and fall on kids, sex, and money. Are you on the same page with sex, spending, and child rearing?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 03:39 AM
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Intermittent fasting.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 02:57 AM
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My surgeon husband’s first wife was a doctor of veterinary medicine. What I’ve learned from him, her, and the men and women physicians we have known throughout our relationship is the following: If you want to be a wife/mother, don’t go this route. You will end up outsourcing the mother role and often the wife roll will also come second to work. I always say, there are 3 rolls: wife, mother, professional. Pick two. It is a very rare woman who can do all 3, and she likely isn’t a happy woman beca…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 02:06 AM
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In college I learned that my shitty sarcasm wasn’t as funny as I thought. Let’s just jump to 2 decades of learning later. My husband loves my dark humor. I grew up with 3 close siblings and we were constantly sniping. I thought that was how people related. I was wrong. The people who enjoy that behavior a specific class who had a bunch of siblings. Anyone who is an only child is going to feel so attacked by any offhanded joke you make. It’s all about knowing you audience.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 04:33 AM
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I guess I’d wonder why he opted to tell me that. As far as I know I’m exactly my husband’s type. If I were not I’d either want him to keep that to himself or go ahead and find someone else. This is on him, not you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 09:05 PM
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I worked full time (often plus) in the mortgage business. So many hours that when I got divorced from my first husband it made absolutely no sense for me to try to take even 50/50 custody. He worked reasonable hours from home. I worked 12 hours a day at the end of the month and earned accordingly. I took the “dad” role and got every other weekend plus a hefty child support bill. Ever heard a story that’s less likely to end on a RPW page? I met my current husband via OKCupid and we clicked immedi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 01:11 AM
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I’m 44. So according to all RP ideas, I’m passed the “wall”. I think about that every day. I look in the mirror and worry about it. My husband assures me that he is still strongly attracted to me and frankly I know that I’m still attractive. But… the end is near. Very near. I have no answers for you. I know my husband loves me and will remain devoted. I also know that soon I will stop turning heads and that will hurt. It will hurt my ego because I gave up my career to be with a man. It was a goo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 02:48 AM
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Confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear. Head high, straight back. I know you won’t feel it initially but “fake it til you make it” applies here. I especially practice this on the grocery store. Not rude or snooty, but confident and strong.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 02:21 AM
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Hi. I also never pictured this for myself but am now SAHW. No tats, piercings, or weird dyes. Growing into the wife roll is a whole process. I actually had a career. I was well respected. Now I cultivate plants in my yard and feed birds. We have a bunch of kids but they are back and forth w other parents. I’m definitely not a SAHM. They aren’t here enough for me to claim that title.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 02:03 AM
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WAY more modern. I’m trad under duress. I had a career and was super content with that. Eventually what made more sense was for me to take the reins at home. I didn’t/don’t love it but I’m fine. I can do it. Deciding what’s for dinner each day is the worst.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 01:53 AM
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It has always been possible for super high value men (Elvis) to obtain an inappropriately young virgin spouse. There are many more high profile examples and I’m absolutely sure there are countless low profile examples. The world has changed pretty fast on this count. I don’t know any parents today who would shrug and sell their child to a rich man. That said, it really wasn’t that long ago that these things happened and in some circles it still happens and people might be weird about acknowledgi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:29 AM
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I don’t like this situation for you. I’m 5’6” which is absolutely average where I live but I walk around like a queen and people often object when I tell them my height. They insist I am taller. Regardless, your confidence needs to grow. He is not providing the soil and fertilizer for that. He might be spraying poison instead. Do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:00 AM
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Ok. You got real weird there. Please clarify: Do you interpret that I think I’m different because I do not feel fulfilled by the act of making a child and raising it to adulthood? What this comment was ultimately about. Or is there something larger that you are trying to steer me toward seeing? I’m not a conspiracy theorist. Additionally, I’ve done therapy, meditation, introspection, I have dear friends and a spouse to bounce feelings off of. My children and step-children know they can come to m…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 01:48 AM
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I’m actually really confounded by what you wrote. I don’t see that at all. But I’m 44 and not on TikTok or Instagram. What I experienced with my generation is that we were told that having children would give us a fulfillment in a way that nothing else ever would. That may be true for some people. It’s definitely not true for all people. I was very fulfilled by working and being incredible at my job. It was so satisfying to show up and know that I was likely to fix something that day and other p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:42 AM
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I love all of our All Clad cookware. Not sure how you are situated with oven/toaster oven, but I use our Breville toaster oven nearly every day - anything from toasting to baking to reheating. It’s just so much faster than the big oven.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/22 06:44 PM
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Kegels are just something you should do whenever you think about it. PCOS is rough. You might want to establish a relationship with a reproductive endocrinologist to talk about what you can do now to help you in the future. Pre-marital counseling is a great idea for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:42 AM
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Smart men marry the person who from day one made their life easier/more pleasant. They avoid women who cause drama. Not all men are smart men though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 01:37 AM
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I was absolutely terrified. I also knew that if I needed to I could return to my prior career. It took years before my old bosses stopped calling and texting me things like “we will pay you double what you were making and you can work from home”. I’ve been out of the business 6 years now and have let all my licenses go, and I still know I could get hired tomorrow at a subsistence living and re-establish myself to be making good money within 6-12 months. If he cheated… as the years have gone by t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 02:22 AM
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1) I’m assuming that your ex was court ordered to pay child support. Please do let the courts know that he isn’t meeting his obligations. Don’t let him just shirk this. 2) This man who is toying with you and making you feel bad for your past mistakes but blaming all his bad choices on others is not “the one”. Show your daughter what you are BOTH worth. Hold her father to account and kick this new guy to the curb.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/22 03:57 AM
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I’ve known since I was a child that not every person I met was going to like me. I am fun and funny. I laugh a lot. I find myself delightful. I also have a twisted sense of humor and can be mildly inappropriate. There are people who just don’t vibe with my sensibilities. That’s fine. It isn’t their fault or mine. Not everyone is going to like everyone else. I guess maybe growing up as one of four kids plus also now having a hand in raising five children makes that abundantly clear. Some people a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 03:02 AM
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I hesitate to share this but my husband loves my scent. I stopped wearing antiperspirant/deodorant for a long time because he just loved my stink. (I have never gotten smelly enough for someone 2 feet away to notice, but up close it’s dense) There’s a biological pheromone related reason that my husband wants to shove his nose in my armpit the second I see him. We are animals. Him more than me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 05:00 AM
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I had many of your same thoughts and worries and I’m not going to say that even now today I’m totally past them. My husband (who is an insanely good provider and wants sex a lot) works like a beast. He deals with early mornings, commuting, high stress work environment, office drama, etc. I used to have to do all of that too. And honestly it blows. Working is only good for two things: Feeling like you are good at/the best at one particular task and earning money. The only fulfillment you will eve…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 03:47 AM
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The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands might be a good choice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 02:07 AM
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My first husband asked me to quit my job when I became pregnant with our first child. He wanted me to stay home. However he made less than I did at the time, no benefits, and we were already not saving enough. I laughed. There was no way that was happening. I was a strong woman and I could do it all. (Wrong!) That marriage ended 5 years later. I met and married my current husband with no expectation on either side that I would stop working. I was well established in my career. He was just out of…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 01:12 AM
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Interesting take. No one forced her to stay. Of course. She quit her job when they got involved because he was her superior at the office. After that she never worked more than part-time because they traveled a lot and he only had to be at the office 4 days a week. There were many benefits to her in staying. Like food, housing, and a general lifestyle that she could never have afforded on her own. The unfortunate point (and the subject of the post) is that she thought she was getting all that pl…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 01:39 PM
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Orchids? Do you have any natural light? I killed lots of orchids before I realized they like real sun. Now I have a stunning spread of orchids on a windowsill.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:31 AM
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Replied above because clearly I’m not good at Reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:27 AM
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Tried to reply to this a couple days ago but internet issues and then life got in the way. Long story short: Dude does not like women. After meeting him the first time, verifying with my husband that I wasn’t crazy/projecting/being overly sensitive, I stopped trying to converse with him. I became friends with her and disengaged from him. From then on my experience of their relationship was 100% from her POV. They were going to get married/have kids. Then 2 years go by. Then 3. There was always a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:25 AM
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Rosy
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 03:18 AM
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I watched a friend get strung along for 6 years before he finally kicked her out for another woman. I hated the guy from the day I met him. Unfortunately that was before I met her and we became good friends despite him. After the break up I came clean that I always had a bad guy feeling about him plus specifying certain behaviors and attitudes that turned me off to him. She was pissed I never said anything. I honestly doubt she would have been receptive to listening at the time. I don’t know. It…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 09:39 PM
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Currently raising 2 - about to be 3 - teenage girls. It’s walking a damned tightrope to be clear that “your size is important” and not be seen as a dirty fat-shamer.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 12:16 AM
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I do. It’s pretty much the same thing every day unless we have something particularly yummy left over. Turkey sandwich and sliced apples. He definitely appreciates it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 12:47 PM
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I made a heart shaped pizza from scratch one year. I’m pretty sure that was my husband’s favorite V Day gift.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 12:32 AM
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Most evenings are the same: He gets home, we have dinner as a family, we ignore each other until 8, we watch an episode or two of TV. Sometimes after that I stay up and he goes to bed. Sometimes we go to bed together. Going out is fairly rare. Much more often we get take-out and the evening is exactly the same except I didn’t cook dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/22 01:04 AM
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There used to be a popular morning radio duo in my town. They had a number of catch phrases and sayings. One of those really stuck with me. “No matter how hot she is, someone out there is sick of her sh*t.” Physical appearance isn’t everything. If you do end up married, as you age, your looks will fade. You have to cultivate more than looks. Do the best you can with what you’ve got. After that, it’s all about who you are and how you behave, what skills you have, and what you bring to the table t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 02:39 AM
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I’m not sure if you are up to date on the latest science. The books The Obesity Code and Lifespan both discuss fasting as a way to overcome insulin resistance and optimize body hormone levels for weight loss and cellular longevity. Calories in/calories out is old news.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 02:31 AM
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I love that all these examples came from intermittent fasting. It’s so easy and it works!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 01:16 PM
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Honestly, skip the fiction and just listen to Dr Laura.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 03:05 AM
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“Oh… Is this what we are doing today?” Eye roll. Laugh. Kiss. Walk away. You proceed to not manage his mental health. You are entertained by his outbursts. You have your own plan for showers, walks, dinner. He is welcome to join but you are going regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 04:16 AM
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You DON’T!!! You can be sweet and loving to your husband but the child needs a firm hand. Left to his own devices I’m not sure my husband would have even fed his children (2, 3, and 5) when we met. He had ZERO parenting skills. I had to be the one to feed them, tell them to bathe (or tell him to bathe them - as ages permitted), wash and fold their clothes, etc. They are now 12, 13, and 15 and they are absolutely aware that dad has no interest in parenting. He provides. That’s who he his. He has …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 03:26 AM
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Do what you want but “having it all” is not an option. That’s a lie that feminism sold us. There are 3 roles. If you are good at 2, you are neglecting the third. If you are amazing at one, you are likely neglecting the other two. The rolls are: Employee, Spouse, Parent. In my first marriage, I was a great employee, an ok parent, and a terrible spouse. That marriage ended. Because why wouldn’t it? Second marriage now. I’m an amazing spouse. I don’t work. And I’m still just an ok parent. (I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 02:41 AM
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Why can’t you just talk about what you both want or need? In my first marriage I had to spend Christmas Eve with my family and ALL DAY on Christmas with his. Like, show up at 8am and leave at 8pm. It sucked. Also, hanging out with my family sucks. Now on marriage 2. We don’t bow to anyone else’s expectations. We will show up if we feel like it. We will leave when we want. We aren’t suffering through a long drive for anyone. I actually just told my mom recently that I’m not going to bring 7 peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 04:21 AM
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This is a decision that is absolutely steeped in how much you trust your spouse. My first husband asked me to be a SAHM and I wouldn’t even consider it. He could never have provided for our needs. Ten years later I remarried and I trusted him and he could provide, but I had people in my life telling me not to relinquish control. In my head I didn’t want to. I came to him sobbing about it. We came up with accommodations to make me secure. If you are not married the answer is NOOOOOOO!!! If you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 04:19 AM
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The truth is obvious, but it has absolutely nothing to do with politics. Live your life. Don’t try to convert others. I have no idea how Trump or COVID even relate to this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 03:31 AM
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I met my husband on OKC. He likes to say “I didn’t have any money when we met” and it’s true. I paid on our first date. He had just gotten his first real job after college, Med school, residency, and fellowship. He didn’t have money. He had potential.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 05:01 AM
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1) Cooking is just following instructions. You will mess up though. An understanding husband will allow for a pizza night or dinner out if you screw up a meal. It’s not the end of the world. Eventually you will have go-to easy meals that you can make on the fly with no instructions (burgers, spaghetti and meatballs) and special meals that take some time and planning (chicken Marsala, beef Wellington). 2) The sex will be a learning process for both of you. Men are generally very much the same in …
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 04:29 AM
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My husband literally doesn’t have meaningful conversations with anyone other than me. Sometimes I relay a conversation I had with girlfriends of mine and he is absolutely shocked about the depth of female conversation. He says that men are well trained from a young age to guard their emotions from each other. Just anecdotal. Though I’m well into my 40s and I’ve never known a man to be open with his friends beyond boasting.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 02:35 AM
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With both of you working, can you hire a housekeeper to come once a week or so? I do stay at home but we still have housekeepers come twice a month to clean toilets and whatnot.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 01:47 AM
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My advice is this: If the relationship you are in doesn’t feel amazing, don’t get married. It doesn’t generally get lots better just because you said so in front of a lot of people. Some men have depression or anxiety issues. Those men take extra mindfulness and understanding to deal with. It’s not for everyone. Ask yourself this: “What if there is nothing you, he, or anyone else can do to make him happy; do you want to live with that from now until dead?” I’m not talking you out of it. There ar…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/21 03:37 AM
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My take is get married! I have a dear friend going through a break up right now. They have been together maybe a year or two less than me and my husband. She will walk away with nothing after decorating, cooking, cleaning, raising his dog (he will definitely keep), etc. She has like renters rights maybe. Eta: You don’t have to give advice to a woman who got married and helped him. She will get hers. Generally
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:58 AM
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I guess that depends on your perspective. Objectively, no. I had not graduated with a 4 year degree, much less gone to med school. On the other hand, I had been in the work force for 20 years, during which time he was either in school or training (residency/fellowship). I had been earning well over the median income for my state for quite a while. He probably made about half of what I did the year before we met. I had more real world experience. He had more earning potential. He’s since blown me…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 02:31 AM
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I met my MD husband when I was 34 and he was 32. We don’t have kids together because I already had 2 and he already had 3. Regardless, our relationship is much more RP than anything I ever expected to be involved in. He works. I stay home. I cook, clean, raise kids and dogs. It wasn’t what I was looking for. It wasn’t what I thought I wanted. That being the case, it’s still what I got.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 01:24 AM
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Who you want at 18 or 20 or 22 is very likely not who you will want at 28 or 30. Men mature and grow a lot in their early 20s, as do women.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 02:04 AM
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Comparing yourself to others will be the death of all joy in your life. Also, you have no idea what is happening on any real level in anyone else’s relationship. You only know what those people decide to tell you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 01:43 AM
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You absolutely cannot outrun a bad diet. If she’s constantly snacking on garbage, no amount of exercise will be sufficient.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 08:42 PM
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Yes! I’m a big believer. Stay busy during the day. Eating is so often a response to boredom. Stay hydrated during the day. Hunger can be misinterpreted thirst. Don’t hang around people when they are eating unless you are scheduled to eat. Eating is very social. Seeing others eat will make food harder to resist. Read or listen to “The Obesity Code” and “Lifespan”
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 08:41 PM
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I paid on the first day with my now husband. We met at a local sports bar near my house. I had shown up, socialized, and had food before he got there. He had like 2 beers. So 75-80% of the bill was mine anyway. He still brings it up a decade later that I wasn’t acting like an entitled gold digger from day 1. To me, it absolutely depends on the circumstances but I would always at least offer to split unless he explicitly states that he doesn’t want that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/21 11:49 PM
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My husband’s sister is absolutely insane and we jointly opt not to engage in her shenanigans. It’s possible that your man has some eye opening moments to come going forward. Meanwhile I will hope (for your sake) that this was a silly jest on her part and she’s not completely crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 02:10 AM
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Not everyone is going to like you! Ignore it. I’m actually annoyed that he opted to tell you about this. That’s just stirring the pot.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 01:45 AM
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I used OKCupid at 34 and met my husband on day 4. All of those days included hours of going through screening questions on the app to narrow down match percentages. I was flooded with messages, most of which were garbage, of course, but I tried to nicely respond to each. (That was probably silly and I definitely shouldn’t have engaged with some of those men at all. Had to block a few.) I reached out to some men I found interesting. That can be a pretty effective strategy since most men are getti…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 11:45 AM
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In my first marriage I worked FT, so did my ex, and I handled the majority of the finances. When we split I had to walk him through how to pay the bills. Second marriage now. I’m a SAHW. He handles pretty much everything financially. My previous career was mortgage finance, so I have overseen all real estate purchases and refinances, from the start of the relationship. I also have access to everything.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 01:18 AM
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Our kids are very aware that we have a sexual relationship. We make out in front of them. We make eyes in front of them. Our parents are still married and don’t seem to like each other. We are trying to be clear with our kids that married people should love and want each other. Our house is split where the master suite is on one side and all the kid rooms are on the other side. There’s a gate to keep the dogs from banging against our bedroom door. That gate is also the limit for children, barrin…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 02:49 AM
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I love the idea of sex music. Definitely going to try to implement that. Our 5 kids are between 17 and 11 so there’s probably a lot more laundry and dishes but a lot less chasing them around and managing their days. My husband and I also end up staying up with the kids later in the evening to watch a movie together at the end of the day. Sometimes that leaves us too tired to be much in the mood.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 10:20 PM
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My husband often states that woman are human beings but men are human doings. Women often complain about being objectified as sexual beings. Meanwhile, men are defined by their job/income.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 03:30 AM
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I had a similar story told to me years ago. Have you seen any evidence he has a degree? Day trading is a gambling hobby, not a job. From all evidence, your man is broke. I’ll tell you what I told my friend with a similar story to yours: He’s probably not the one. You know too little about him to be invested as much as you are. Turned out that her boyfriend was lying about his degree and his investments. Be wary.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:25 AM
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I was well into my 30s, raised by a misandrist, thinking I knew all about what was best for me as a strong, independent woman when I first saw this sub. I’m now 43, obnoxiously happily married, a stay at home wife who loves my husband beyond measure. There are really truly some solid lessons to be learned around here. Welcome. Read with an open mind.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 03:33 AM
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Men look. My husband recently had to butt heads with a hiring manager to hire a girl the manager thought was “too pretty” and would distract the staff. Frankly, I’ve met her and yes she’s pretty but no one is too pretty to have a job! I advocated for her to be hired and work with my husband. If I were there and my husband was clearly drooling over another woman, I’d be pissed. If I were there and he cut eyes over and I turned and saw a woman with 87% of her tits on display (happened about 10 day…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 03:20 AM
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Focus on your weight and your health. What he’s telling you is (a) I’m not attracted to you and (b) I don’t want to be seen with you. I am absolutely sure that you bring 1000 other amazing things to the table, but this is a man and he is primarily a visual animal. Play to his strengths as best you can. I believe you can.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 02:39 AM
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So funny because while I am thrilled to see him and happy to do most things he wants and I solve most of my problems myself and run his errands on top, he’s the one we joke about being a “good boy”. He is my devoted puppy. Same with the dogs though. Ours will do absolutely anything I ask because they know that I feed them and provide all the fun stuff and the butt scratches.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 02:27 AM
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I can’t speak for how RP in general views your past, but I can tell you that your past doesn’t define you. You can change. You can heal. Just because you did a stupid thing once (or a hundred times) doesn’t mean you will never stop doing that stupid thing. Recognize what you want to change. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings. I actually don’t believe in free will but I do believe that we all respond to the stimuli we are exposed to. You might respond to this post or you might have already …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 02:05 AM
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Marriage to a man who is already successful and well connected is not about what you bring to the table in terms of financial success and business connections! It’s about what you bring to the table at home. He needs support from a wife that can see to the house, children, even his parents when he doesn’t have the time. He needs all of that taken off his mind so that he can focus on what he is already good at.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 01:49 AM
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Sunscreen- I live in Florida and have two labradors. There are no days that I don’t expect to be in the sun. Back when I was working in an office all day I might have skipped SPF. Not anymore. Mostly this is face stuff. I sunscreen my hands. Alastin has a body product that I’ve recently started using on my arms. I’m considering IPL for my hands/forearms. Again, Florida and the sun. I’m covered in sun damage. I did IPL on my chest and it was a huge transformation. IPL is mainly for sun damage/pig…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 11:33 PM
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Yep, pretty much all of the above. Botox (actually dysport but it’s the same mechanism) quarterly. IPL for sun damage annually or as needed if I see something new. I use the Alastin skincare line. Moisturizer in the AM, followed by SPF 50 sunscreen every day. Moisturizer in the PM followed by Retinol product. Just recently started micro needling quarterly as well. On top of all that, I drink a LOT of water. And I get a facial every now and then. I have done a chemical peel before but that’s not …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 08:22 PM
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Babies love beautiful symmetry. They love watching me. Flip side: I’m not about babies at all. I only like them when someone else is responsible.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 02:25 AM
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I’m 43 and I regularly get carded. My husband is 42 and looks every bit of 50. You keep doing you. My husband only recently started asking about my skincare regimen. He’s made fun of me in the past for getting laser treatments or facials or buying expensive moisturizers. If you keep looking good he will have to keep up.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 02:17 AM
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Video gaming. I actually don’t care what my husband does with his time generally, but certain games seem to effect his mood. He’s anxious about getting to play. Mad if other plans get in the way. Obstinately opposed to stopping at agreed upon times. There are reasons that some people need to avoid certain types of games for the health of their relationships. To be clear, my husband is free to do whatever he wants, but he is now as attuned as I am to what games consume him versus what games enter…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:26 AM
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Being clear that you are dating to find a husband and not just to hook up is a very good idea. Discussing what kind of car, home, and pets you expect him to provide will send most sane and honest men running. You’ll be left with the liars who tell you what you want to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 03:42 PM
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You have been married 3 years and you have 3 kids? Also you both work full time? Honestly, that’s a lot! My husband and I really connect when he walks on the door from work. I stop what I’m doing to essentially make out with him. It’s not always kissing. Often it’s a hug, nuzzling, rubbing his head. We are both busy. To stop whatever I’m doing to acknowledge him and welcome him home is huge.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 02:33 AM
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Also, 27 is your prime.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:38 AM
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Honestly, my MD husband was in his early 30s before he could even think about parenting. That didn’t stop him from having 3 kids by then (with his now ex). Would your man consider staying home?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:38 AM
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That’s amazing. It’s actually the reason I was willing to have a second child. My mother promised that she would quit work and be our nanny. That said, it comes with its own challenges. If the nanny isn’t living up to your expectations or is letting your kids run rogue, you can fire her. Not so much with your mom. My mother being in my martial home every day, leaving messes and spoiling our daughters, was a huge point of contention in what ended up being my first marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:35 AM
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I’m a housewife as well and don’t have kids in the house most of the time. I relate to your comment about dinner being the biggest stress in my life. I have great friends who work full time or work weird hours or don’t work at all. One of the people I see most often is a retired neighbor. These school mothers aren’t your friends and it doesn’t matter at all what they think of you. Find real friends and ignore them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 03:25 AM
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If my hobbies were writing and feeding stray cats my husband would have never even dated me. My “hobbies” involve self improvement. Yoga. Meditation. Reading.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 03:41 AM
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I’m all about trying to stop assigning motive to a situation. Your instinct is to think “He is doing this because...” but usually the reason is not what you think. I’m actually very good at accepting my husband’s reactions. Even when they are contrary to what I want, I don’t get mad. He reacts a certain way to certain stimulus. I need to negotiate that. But when he blows his nose 6 times in a row I actually want to murder him and have already decided where to hide the body.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 03:59 AM
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I listen to books or podcasts for the most part. If I do need to switch to music, I like 80s music... because I’m old.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/21 11:51 PM
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This!!!! I married a 35 year old doctor. At that point he was only 3 years out of Fellowship. So his whole life had been schooling and training. He doesn’t know songs that played on the radio non-stop when we were both college aged. I think OP is being really negative about a guy she’s never met in person though. A huge amount of chemistry can occur in a face to face date that might not be sparked by texting. Also, my husband chose some horrid pictures for his dating profile. He’s way hotter in …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 09:14 PM
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So I think I fall into a weird area here. I would not say that my husband is my best friend. I have 3 women in my life that I would rank higher than him. These are the women from whom I seek emotional support and advice outside of my marriage. Note, I didn’t say “about my marriage”. It’s kid related venting 99.9% of the time. However, I am most certainly my husband’s best friend. Outside of work he almost never spends time with anyone else he might label as a friend at all. He is friendly with m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 07:19 PM
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It’s hard with an infant. Once they are on a schedule it’s a bit easier, but that takes months. I’ll tell you though that I’m more than a decade from having an infant and keeping a house doesn’t get easier. Dinner only gets harder. Every year. Every child. Being a mom is a job. More of a job than I expected. Do prioritize your mate though. That’s so important. Honestly. Make sure your baby is taken care of but also try to still love your man.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 02:30 AM
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Woman here. Came to this whole philosophy later in my life. I am without tattoos, which I know is a huge plus to my husband. I was born in the late 70s (so I’m old). But I was raised steeped in feminist BS and misandrist philosophy. I now am in a position where I spend all my time supporting my personal wellness, my husband, our kids, and our household. I had to talk my very good friend through her crisis about “just being a wife” recently and it’s straight shit that we were conditioned to feel …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:35 AM
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I was discussing “good kitchen knives” with a male friend of my husband. Me: He doesn’t want me to put them in the dishwasher but I do anyway. I put them tip up. Him: I wouldn’t want to reach into your dishwasher. Me (confused): No one reaches into my dishwasher other than me.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/21 04:03 AM
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I am not going to cop to being in the spectrum but I HATE physical closeness that isn’t initiated on my end. Therefore, having babies was a terrible idea on my part. I’m almost 2 decades in now (have a 17 year old and a 14 year old). Both kids are amazing. I have limitations as a mother. There are times I cringe my way through a hug and there are times I demure. Babies are actually easier in many ways. They aren’t going to get offended if you just can’t give them yourself at the moment. They spe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 03:21 AM
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I agree with this. I want to be attractive to my husband. Everyone else can take their opinions elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 01:01 AM
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My husband recently asked me “what would you do if you found out I had an account you didn’t know about?” Honestly, I shrugged. He probably has a handful of accounts I’m vaguely aware of but don’t keep tabs on. Meanwhile, with our joint account alone, I want for nothing. Difference is that we are married. If it came to a divorce, I could likely count on a forensic audit to turn up any undeclared money. If I had ANY indication that said undeclared money was specifically earmarked for a breakup, t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 12:44 AM
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I struggled for 2 years to conceive my first child. I understand the heartache involved. And the rollercoaster of monthly hope and devastation. It’s so hard. I did finally have a healthy little girl and then struggled again to conceive the second time. That time I found an RE and took steps to figure out what the issue was. It was endometriosis. Confirmed via laparoscopic surgery. They lasered what they could and told me “If you don’t get pregnant in the next 6 months, we’ll go in again”. I was …
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 10:53 PM
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Whoa. That’s a lot. I was married at 21 and divorced by 31 to a man my age, so I absolutely understand the antsiness that is your 20s. This is likely about much more than your spouse. If you had ended up with a young man, you might now be looking at your current husband and be wondering “what if”. He obviously has given you the benefit of becoming a mother and being able to stay home. Your life isn’t over. You do now have a child, though, so it might be best to consider her interests firsts. Rea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 04:21 AM
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My MIL is demonstrably bat shit crazy. Her husband acknowledges this. Her son, my husband, acknowledges this. She has never, ever tried to bait me into a fight. Nor would I participate if she did. I am perfectly capable of walking into my bedroom and closing the door, taking the dogs for a walk, or even grabbing my car keys and leaving for a while on an errand. I’m not someone who participates in conflict against my will. I also think your man should be standing up for you. By not doing so he is…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 03:49 AM
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If they still live with an ex, that’s reason enough to move along. I’ve seen men lie about some crazy things. College degrees. Income. Assets. Age. Residence. Employment. Coming into the relationship with my now husband, I was very jaded. I explained my past and the resulting distrust. He took it all in stride. When there’s nothing to hide, being open isn’t scary. I could pick up, unlock, and scroll through his phone at any time. I haven’t bothered to do so for years, but I know I still could an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 03:34 AM
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Yoga pants and a tight tank top. Tight tank top because I’m top heavy and I need a bit of binding for the boobs. The silhouette looks really good.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/21 04:11 AM
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Ritual: Make the bed! A made bed is so nice to come home to. The rest is all true, though once I found my husband I was able to quit working (with his eager approval) and I also now have very few independent activities that occur when he is off work. It’s limited to dinner w a friend once a month or so. Anything else I do independently is during his work day because he prefers that I am with him as much as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 05:00 AM
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I struggle with this one and I’m in my 40s! My main problem though is that he doesn’t like to be without me when he’s not working. My alone activities are mainly taking my dogs places and working out. I also ravenously devour audiobooks, which means that I tend to have new things to talk about on any given day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 03:41 AM
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I was divorced with two kids when I met my current husband. He’s amazing and we are so in love. My husband also was divorced and had 3 children from his prior marriage. Nothing about this is easy. We still are forced to deal with exes and also to correct issues that other parents perhaps caused. My ex , for example, met a woman and had another baby this year. My daughters are 13 and 17 and are so pissed about the baby. Meanwhile, his ex decided that one of the kids should go full virtual school …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 03:27 AM
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This would be a no go for any kid over 5, in my experience. The best thing I’ve found to help foster interests in new foods is to let the kid help make the food and (with limits) have a say in the ingredients. I was a picky eater until I started cooking. I’ve also found this strategy helpful for my own kids and step-kids.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 02:56 AM
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Ok. Does he have a day off? Because much as we want to take all these duties on ourselves, perhaps that’s not the best fit here. I do not work. But my husband deals with garbage, recycling, and dishes that need to be handwashed. You are in a forum where we tend towards traditional gender rolls. He should provide. You should make the home a happy place. What you are living isn’t that currently. Is there negotiation to be had to maximize the use of (both of) your time?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 01:21 AM
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I read your other comment. Dishes and laundry are huge. Is he going to get irritated if you run a load that isn’t technically full? If not, just get on a schedule unto yourself. Dishes get run every other day, laundry gets done once a week, all on one day if you can manage that (do you have a day off?). If you can wash, dry, fold, and put away the laundry once a week, that’s one less thing to even think about on all the other days.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 12:16 AM
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Is he frustrated with something you aren’t doing or is he frustrated that you are stressed out and unpleasant all the time?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 11:52 PM
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Nah. We have like 12 shades of grey in our house. What’s the other option? Beige? F That!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 01:22 AM
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I’m sorry. This sucks. The only real suggestion I have is to potentially seek out a woman’s clinic where they could test your hormone levels and see if something is amiss. I’m on the verge of perimenopause so I see a doctor to monitor my levels and I do get hormone supplements. You could simply be asexual, which is to say just naturally disinterested in sex. In that case, you have a couple of options. Keep doing what you are doing or share that information with your current mate.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 02:32 AM
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I’m just speaking from personal experience (I married at 22 and couldn’t stand the man I married by the time I was 30) and from statistics (which show that marriages before 27 are more likely to fail). To be clear, I didn’t enjoy my youth. I was married to an arse the entire time. I chose poorly, because I chose as a teenager. Historically people might only be exposed to the people in their village or town, so they would need to settle for what they could get. Looking at coupling through hindsig…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 02:26 AM
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I’ve said it before here and it’s not a popular perspective, but I don’t think anyone should decide on forever before 27-30. Statistically the odds are poor before 27. Fundamentally, I just don’t think we (men or women) know ourselves well enough before 30ish. Other notes: Are you on hormonal birth control? It can mess with your libido. Have you ever felt sexually fulfilled with him? Does he try to please you? Are you happy to see him every day? I get that you are asleep when he leaves, but are …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 11:40 PM
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I’d say that BF may not be the man for you. I met my husband when I was 34 and I had 2 kids from a prior marriage. He had 3 kids from a prior marriage. We didn’t judge each other because we had similar experience with getting married too young, making bad decisions, getting divorced. One of the things we will both tell everyone today (we are both in our 40s now) is that people in their 30s know what they are willing to put up with. It sounds like this man isn’t something you are truly willing to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 01:15 AM
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I stay at home now but I did this for years: Make the bed. Manage the laundry. Know what is for dinner. This three things will get you quite far. Beyond that, it’s floors and toilets. Hit those on the weekends.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 01:01 AM
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Tonight it was tacos. We feed ourselves and somewhere between 0 and 5 picky children. Tonight it was 3 kids. Ground turkey tacos. Tortilla wraps, tortilla chips, shredded cheese, melted queso, chopped tomato, chopped jalapeños. Tomorrow it will be seared sea scallops and steamed asparagus. They also love homemade chicken noodle soup and chicken Marsala. But the kids are a hot mess of dietary specialities. I have one vegetarian and one pescatarian. Couple of pains in the 🤬
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 03:15 AM
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A picnic with a charcuterie type menu.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 03:07 AM
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This isn’t RPW doctrine, but I wouldn’t suggest that my daughter get married before 27ish. Statistically, you have better odds of working out. I left my first husband at 31 after being with him since I was 19. I’m now married to a man I met 3 years later who is amazingly perfect for me. At 19 I had no clue what I wanted. I wanted a hot guy who was interested in me. Ten years later I couldn’t stand him. Currently I can’t even believe I was with him. We are so different. Yet we are stuck raising c…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 11:30 PM
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Ok. Weird back story: My dad told my first husband when he asked for my hand “Yes, but you need to learn to tell her ‘no’” He (first husband) obviously didn’t follow that advice. I guess I would say that men generally need to demand to be heard from day 1. They need to show leadership and logic if they know when they are right. Don’t be swayed by a pouty woman withholding sex. There is a lot to say for being comparable from the start though. Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 11:16 PM
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Take care of your skin and don’t be/get/stay fat. I’m 42 and look better than I have in my entire life. I fully expect there will be a downhill slope coming very soon, but I don’t care because I’m already with the love of my life. And I’m not opposed to lasers, Botox, etc to help stave off looking “old”. Fertility is another story entirely. I struggled to conceive during my 20s and probably would not have had any successful pregnancies in my 30s. By 40 I was on track for a hysterectomy. Don’t pu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 09:19 PM
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My husband and I heard a podcast one time where the couple ranked how much each decision mattered to them, in day to day life. Example: He wants steak and she wants chicken. He feels 3 about steak. She feels 6 about chicken. They have chicken. If he had felt 9 about steak and she was a 2 on chicken, they have steak. So, there are those little things. What are we having for dinner? Go out or stay in? Even so far as maybe How much do we spend on dog food? And then there are big decisions. What cit…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 06:52 PM
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I really enjoyed the article. I got choked up there at the end. What a beautiful love story. I don’t think this relationship fits within the dynamics of RPW very well, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a valid model to strive for. It certainly is going to be a rare man that fits this mold today, to say nothing of the 1950s. That said, I happen to know a similar couple. She’s a lawyer. He got an architecture degree but he’s never worked as an architect. He teaches college part-time and raises their …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 02:17 PM
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I agree with this. I think we tend to underestimate the amount of self-awareness that grows between 20 and 30. It’s a giant leap. It’s a rare person who knows what she wants at 22 and that remains what she wants for the next ten years, much less her entire adult life. It can happen, but I wouldn’t count on it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:10 PM
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Yes my man is worth more. To be fair to the question though, he’s fully capable of buying me whatever I want at this point. That wasn’t true when we met. I’m not sure it will remain true forever. But probably it will. Regardless, our best times together have little to do with riches. Tonight I wanted him to help me bake pies. He said he would help if we both only wore aprons. We had a blast listening to music, prepping pies, and flirting with each other. Money makes life easier, but a man you lo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 03:15 AM
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Of course he is getting older too. But I am an anomaly. I married a surgeon who was 34 when I was 36. He’s always going to be younger than me. And he’s always going to have options that are WAY younger than me. Second marriage. We are incredibly happy. I hope to keep it that way.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 12:40 AM
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I thought about this and want to point out that if you don’t feel good about how you look after babies, after aging, after sun damage, you aren’t going to feel good in the bedroom with your husband. I know that to you 40 sounds so old, but it’s coming for you. And what I’m saying is: don’t rule out procedures to help you still feel like you aren’t just a tired old hag. Because I’m not. And he definitely doesn’t see me that way. At least for another decade or so. I don’t plan to be traded in for …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 12:06 AM
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Ok. Well I’m saving that for 60.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 11:53 PM
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I mean. I’m not dead yet. And I got the surgery shortly before 40. If you read, you will note that I’m happier with my body now than I’ve ever been. I guess maybe you don’t see many decent looking women over 40 but I’m in Florida and there are tons of them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 11:51 PM
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I was au naturalle until almost 40. My boobs weren’t perky anymore after 2 kids but they were small with great nips and I never had any complaints. I HATED my belly after kids. As a small woman generally, my belly bore the brunt of stretching to accommodate another life and it didn’t snap back. I had lots of stretch marks and excess skin. In my late 30s I wanted to get a tummy tuck and my husband expressed that he wouldn’t mind if I got my tits done in the process. I did both. It was so painful.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 11:44 PM
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My husband is the absolute provider and “captain” of our relationship from my point of view but he recently told me he loves the image of being in control while also relying heavily on my opinion. To clarify, I could certainly provide for myself but we decided not to do that. Previously I had a career in finance where I was in a position that I was regularly told men were afraid of me. Afraid to ask me questions. Afraid to look ignorant around me. I gave that up (happily) after I married. Now my…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 02:46 AM
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Kill em with kindness. I’m so freaking nice to my MIL, she probably thinks I adore every piece of her.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 10:55 PM
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I stay at home and my husband works. I look scrubby most of the day because I’m taking dogs to the park or working out or cleaning. However, I make sure to shower and dress nice before he gets home - not dressed up by any means, but a step up from yoga pants and sports bras with a tank top, which is what I wear during most of the day. I also make sure my makeup is done and my hair looks nice - again, nothing fancy but at least it’s not a scraggly pony tail.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 02:35 PM
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Creed Virgin Island Water. It’s $$$ but every time I spray it on my husband practically humps my leg.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 02:21 PM
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Learn to sew. It’s actually pretty easy to sew from a pattern. Just tedious. And I second switching from reading books to listening to them. That frees you up to accomplish more while learning. I’m amused and intrigued about the pig. I’ve seen you mention it before. Will this be an indoor pet? I have two Labrador retrievers and they take up a lot of my time, but I’m able to take them places and they compete in various sports. What do you intend to do with the pig?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:49 PM
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I had a friend recommend it but she made it conditional on “answer a ton of questions and only consider others who also answered a ton of questions”. Seriously, take a few days answering the questions that range from sex to religion to politics to everything. Seriously. Answer 1000 questions and then start looking at matches.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 01:22 AM
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I met my husband on OKCupid and it was a great experience. The app allows you to vet men for various attributes and narrow down what you are looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 08:57 PM
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I saw your post in another sub and didn’t respond but I will now: stop overthinking this and just do it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 08:29 PM
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Either a dick or he was trying some pick up artist BS. Either way, yuck!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 07:06 PM
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You simply have to go to sleep earlier. I despise mornings. I very much prefer staying up late and sleeping in. Unfortunately that doesn’t work for my husband, who has to be up before 6, and it doesn’t work for my dogs, who want to be fed by 8. Regardless, I still need 8 hours of sleep to feel like a human being and to be able to be pleasant to the people around me. I actually shoot for more than 8 hours. Therefore, I force myself to go to bed around 9:30 in the hopes of being asleep by 10. I do…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:41 PM
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What was the long term plan? I find I do much better with crappy situations if I know there’s an end game and I can look forward to/work toward that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 08:06 PM
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They all claim that their current marriage is on the rocks. Often they will say “we are sleeping in separate bedrooms” or “we haven’t had sex in years”. It’s almost always a lie. He has no intention of ever leaving the wife. If at all possible you need to go no contact.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:25 PM
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I have a male friend. We get pedicures together and meet up for a driveway happy hour a couple times a week. He’s 72. I’m 42. Even that friendship (which developed because we are neighbors, he is retired and lives alone, and I walk my dogs past him often) got a fair bit of push back from my husband. He’s fine with it now, as husband has accepted that my friend is more like an adopted father. He comes to dinner at our house once a month or so. He helps with projects around the house and always co…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 04:49 PM
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SAHW to a surgeon here. Second marriage. His first marriage was to another doctor. I was self-sufficient when we met. I had a full-time career in finance. I continued to work full-time the entire two years we dated and almost another two years after we got married. It became increasingly more obvious each year that someone should be spending more time tending to the home and needs of the children and I was the obvious choice. As this was not something either of us had envisioned, we both struggl…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:35 PM
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My kids and step kids stopped asking this and started vigorously defending me to anyone who dared ask this once I had to upturn my whole life to handle virtual learning for 5 kids on top of all the cooking, cleaning, and animal care. Prior to that, they saw me on the weekends or on weeks that I pre-planned for, so that I wasn’t busting my butt the entire time and I could instead hang out with them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 04:43 PM
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I’ve met friends at the dog park, at dog competitions/training, at the community pool, in a gym class, reconnecting with high school friends from FB when they moved back into town, introduced by one friend to another person I clicked with due to a similar shared interest. You have to walk a fine line between being open to conversation but not annoying. For example, the people I’m not reconnecting with I would probably encounter a few times before I greet them upon seeing them and ask “how’s it g…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 04:37 PM
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Statistics point to 28 being the earliest appropriate age to consider marriage. Anecdotally, I met my first husband at 19 and married at 22. We had 2 children. I divorced him at 31 because we had nothing in common at that point other than the kids. I met my second husband at 34 and we married at 36. Almost 5 years in and my daughters would tell you that they have no idea why I was ever even with their father and my current husband is perfect for me. To be clear, they like their father. We just s…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 02:25 AM
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So sweet!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 01:28 AM
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I very rarely wear panties at all. It makes my husband go crazy when I do.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 01:23 AM
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Wife of a doctor here. It’s a nightmare to get through Med school and training and try and have kids at the same time. You will be making next to nothing until you are near 30. (I get this info 2nd hand as we did not get together until he was 34) I’ve heard that dermatology is more friendly to women building families, but that’s a competitive field. What about becoming a vet? My husband’s ex is a vet and it seems to be a good career with a lot of family friendly dynamics. Lots of women in the fi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 12:32 AM
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I guess I’m on the other side of the fence from most of the ladies here. I had wanted a tummy tuck for a decade, since my youngest child was born. The stretch marks went up to my ribs and I had a ton of loose skin. Weight loss and muscle building was never going to correct it. My husband finally said yes. He suggested that I also get breast implants, since my boobs were deflated from years of breastfeeding. I was iffy about that but, after thinking it over for a year or so, I went ahead and book…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 12:24 AM
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