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Couldn't agree with you more OP. This internet will have people believing that us normal dudes spend every waking moment secretly wishing we were F-boys or had their dating options. I literally clown women who date or have kids with jailbirds. I don't care how hot she is, women like that have an IQ of a doorknob and will never be taken seriously by me or the guys in my circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:47 PM
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Those scenarios typically come up when no clear discussions regarding each partner's roles and responsibilities took place prior to or during the marriage. If my spouse decided to "nag" about not picking up clothes, I would simply reply: "You're definitely the more tidy one between the two of us, which is why I decided to let you handle those tasks. If you can no longer manage that responsibility, just let me know". Leaders don't argue with followers. They explain their position and allow the fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:09 PM
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OP is spot on. This really comes down to people not wanting to take responsibility for their relationship choices. If two adults decide not to have an honest discussion about who will be doing what and instead would rather "wing it" and have some version of an unstructured, "egalitarian" arrangement where role reversals are constant and rules change on a whim, then they need to accept whatever trade-offs come with that. On the other hand, if a leader/follower model is agreed upon, but neither pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:54 PM
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Does personality really go that long of a way compared to how you look ? Not nearly as much as people want you to believe. The most sexually active men are also the most likely to be called "toxic" by women. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:21 PM
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If you as an average, mediocre guy, approach a woman at a bar that matched with 50 guys on a dating app, you are also competing with those same 50 men for her attention. The competition doesn't lessen with in-person approaches just because you can't see them. Even if she's only interested in 5 of those 50 men, if she's more excited about meeting one of those men than she is in giving you her phone number, then the "confident approach" was all for naught. The irony is that the men online are gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:14 PM
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I noticed there's typically two schools of thought regarding the OLD vs IRL debate: Online dating only works for attractive/above-average men In-person pickup is better for average men because they can boost their attractiveness level "in the moment" through utilizing their personality/charisma/charm etc. as opposed to their looks or status. Unfortunately, the things that often gets missed in these conversations is that online dating has now allowed women to have easier access to a wider pool of…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:59 PM
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It's simple really. Online dating has two major advantages over in-person pickup: You can play the numbers game far more aggressively with way less effort. A right swipe on a woman's profile is pretty similar to a cold approach except you don't have to actually walk up to anyone or even leave your house. You can only talk to women who liked your profile. IRL this would be known as "pre-selection". This alone reduces a major step in the closing process. Online dating works as a natural filter so …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:23 PM
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While I agree with the spirit of this post, I feel a lot of red pilled/awakened men severely underestimate the power of social programming. The social engineers (i.e Mass media, politicians, corporate overlords, etc.) have a deep understand of human psychology and are experts at exploiting vulnerabilities of human nature such as our tendency to prefer comfort over conflict, to fulfill their agendas, whatever they may be. They do this by terraforming the social landscape to ensure simps enjoy les…
/r/seduction16/04/23 11:04 PM
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You "dating other women" doesn't actually make your situation with this girl any better, in fact, it's a bit odd that you're giving her this much attention when she's clearly not even the best among all of your current options (or is she??). Why is she so special to you? Are you a person who gets off more from the pursuit of sex than the actual sex? The truth is that 99% of women, even the prudes, already decide if they want to sleep with you by the end of the first date (most within the very fi…
/r/seduction08/01/22 09:36 PM
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Best comment on the thread so far.
/r/seduction08/01/22 09:23 PM
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I'm a bit old school when it comes to these situations. I personally wouldn't invite a woman I'm serious with to do something with the expectation that she would need to pay for anything. In addition, it's been my experience that even if she volunteers to split expenses, women "mysteriously" tend to be bad at sticking to a budget or pulling out her credit card when her man is around lol. I'd rather just tell her that I can't afford to travel right now due to COVID, unexpected bills, etc.
/r/seduction08/01/22 09:15 PM
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I agree with the OP to an extent, however, I think it's best to view the "Alpha/Beta" thing as merely euphemisms for where men are on the spectrum when it comes to their demeanor with women as well as their overall social skills. Unfortunately, too many guys treat the Alpha/Beta concept like a religion, which drives the growing disdain with these terminologies.
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:27 AM
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"I'm concerned about COVID" is the new "I have a boyfriend"
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:19 AM
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I recommend not even dealing with women who refuse to exchange numbers online. It's not your responsibility to pay for the mistakes of other men. If her dating experiences were so traumatic that she can't even bring herself to hand out a Google number to a normal guy on an app, then in my opinion, she has no business dating.
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:13 AM
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You sound like a guy who would gain more from being in a traditional relationship vs. a player phase and as a dude in my 30s, I'm here to tell you that's a good thing. Even in high school, there is a strong demand for steady boyfriends and because there is a short supply of guys who are willing to do that, you are in the drivers seat. This means you can have multiple girls competing for that position which will ensure that you will always have the leverage among the best options, which ironicall…
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:04 AM
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My position is that as long as a woman I'm dealing with isn't my S/O or someone I'm actively pursuing for a serious relationship, there's really no reason for me to be concerned about nor continually speculate as to why she suddenly goes cold turkey. My general rule of thumb is that if a woman is unresponsive after two contact attempts or ignores/flakes on two hang-out invitations in a row, I simply move on to other prospects. This is also why I always recommend rotations for dudes who are going…
/r/seduction01/01/22 12:53 AM
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But let's say, a person like me gets really defensive about letting people in their personal space. But I could be super interested. How does that work? I don't think this is healthy. How are able to have sex? It's natural to want to close any physical distance between people that you're attracted to.
/r/seduction24/08/21 01:36 AM
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The best way I found to clear any confusion is to remember that people show their interest level by their actions, not their words. She texted you that she had a great time on your date (even had a smiling emoji at the end), but stops responding to any future calls/texts? She's all smiles at dinner, but avoids holding hands, brushes your hand off her leg, or pushes her back up after you touch it? She says she's down to come to your place to "watch a movie", but doesn't wanna take her shoes off a…
/r/seduction21/08/21 09:54 PM
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You're in a real tough spot bro. Honestly at your stage, I don't recommend cold approaching as it's likely going to worsen your social anxiety. I always recommend that adult virgin men either pay for a few sessions with an escort or do strictly online and/or social circle dating until you've had sex with at least 3 women. Cold approach in my opinion, only makes sense for guys with options, not newbies.
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:49 AM
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But regarding reason two about slut shame, is that something as man to correct or make her feel not guilty or bad? Or maybe it’s to late? Nah not your job. Only a therapist can fix that.
/r/seduction08/08/21 03:03 AM
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The OP's approach is example of what Alan Roger Currie (ARC) would call "Mode One Hardcore". It's essentially a direct approach where you express your honest intentions to a woman using X-rated language. No nonsense, no filter. This style of verbal game is probably the most efficient way to screen out non-reciprocating women almost instantly. If you're going to use this approach, it's most effective in private 1-on-1 interactions (e.g. Whispering to her at a club or large gathering).
/r/seduction08/08/21 12:31 AM
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I've experienced similar situations countless times. My theory is that these are either: a) Low sex drive women who you happened to have met while they were on their bi-annual libido spike and since you satisfied their twice-a-year nut requirement, she can now go back to six-months of voluntary celibacy. OR.. b) Slut's remorse. While she may have enjoyed the bang, her "good girl" social programming kicked in post-orgasm and she now feels guilty about letting herself become vulnerable to you so q…
/r/seduction08/08/21 12:17 AM
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If she already agreed to end the night at your place, she's basically giving you the green light to smash and the date is just foreplay. That being said, definitely don't tell her it's your first time doing this. Remain cool, touch her and remain physically close to one another throughout the date. By the time she comes over, she'll probably be ready to do the deed right then and there. If you get nervous, just keep reminding yourself that she wants to be with you and that she wants to end her n…
/r/seduction07/07/21 03:33 PM
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Sounds like you just don't want to put in the effort needed to get the results you want, which is fine, but then why even ask for advice? Imagine if someone came to you for advice on how to build muscle, but they don't have time to go to the gym and "mindlessly do so many reps" because "they have a life" or being in-shape "is a myth tbh"? You would probably look at that person like they're crazy. Anyway bro, best of luck to you.
/r/seduction07/07/21 02:10 PM
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The last thing a 6'4 black dude with muscles has to worry about is whether he'll attract white women. You are basically their dream guy. On a more serious note, how many women do you talk to in person or message online per day? If you look good, but don't talk to enough girls, you will never get good results. Purchase a Tinder/Bumble/Hitch subscription, post a shirtless pic and a couple of nightlife photos in your profile, right swap on every girl and hit on all of your matches (within reason). …
/r/seduction07/07/21 02:44 AM
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A lot of men on this sub have this issue, women are seen as objects rather than people and are treated as such. You're not going to get into dating and sex if you just think of women as sex things, we're people. I hate this kind of virtue signaling. Men and women we're put on this planet to have sex and reproduce. It's literally the only thing that men need a woman to accomplish
/r/seduction06/07/21 08:29 PM
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Yup, let me go ahead and send you an invitation to my BLOCK party.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 08:11 PM
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Yup this was basically the answer I was going to type. All the red pill content did was put the inevitable demise of their marriage on an accelerated schedule. It was doomed from the start. Your sister's best course of action is to move on with this new stage of her life.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 08:07 PM
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yea my concerns dont matter. i should just shut the fuck up Pretty much..
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 04:09 PM
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This show is basically porn for women...think 50 Shades of Grey. Red pill men are not the target audience Also most men tend to be very creeped out by women's sexuality, so the OP's response doesn't surprise me, however it's really not a big deal.
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 03:31 PM
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It cracks me up how guys fool themselves into believing that women they encounter in IRL and the women they encounter on a dating app are "sooo different". Nah bro, these are the exact same women. The only reasons guys tend to feel this way is that when approaching a woman on the spot in person, she won't have enough time (or balls) to abruptly end the interaction without appearing extremely rude or risking a confrontational response from the man, so instead she just "plays along", which many me…
/r/seduction03/07/21 09:01 PM
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The dating standards of the top tier men don't matter to men who aren't getting any action in the first place. There's an assumption in your statement that the women who the 20 percent of men reject will suddenly rush into the arms of average, everyday guys. That's not how it works. Those women who are rejected will either: a) Remain celibate/stop dating until there is a top 20 percent guy that is available b) Reluctantly "settle" for an average guy, then cheat on him with the 20% guy whenever h…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/21 11:53 PM
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Men are at a disadvantage because women, generally speaking, are sexually attracted to a smaller percentage of men, which often leads to the commonly cited scenario where a minority of males enjoy sexual access to the majority of females. Even if it's a 40/60 split (Which is much more realistic than 80/20), that still leaves 60 percent of men that now must compete over the 40 percent of women who also prefer to have sex with men in the top 40 percent. Having said that, I definitely don't agree w…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/21 11:35 PM
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I've learned over time that women are surprisingly more pragmatic when they enter into committed relationships. It's usually the men that are operating in the realms of fantasy. The Red Pill movement is basically a consequence of men en masse learning for the first time that Santa isn't real.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 10:30 PM
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It's not the only factor of course, but don't underestimate the effect having a "bachelor pad" does for a man's desirability with women. If a horny 19 year old had to pick between sneaking into a guy's dorm room or getting Uber'd to some dude's Midtown loft and smash on his king size bed, guess who's the better option? Having your own place gives you a competitive advantage and as you mention, having a space where you're "the boss" is a massive confidence booster that will tend to manifest in yo…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 05:35 AM
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That must go for a lot of people then because most of my dates and ex-girlfriends still live with their parents and grandparents as we're all still in our twenties and either fresh out of high school or college It absolutely does, which is a major reason why your age group tends to have far less sex than older adults. I myself didn't have a consistent sex life as a single man until I was 29 when I was finally able to live alone. Your living situation is going to be biggest factor in your dating …
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 02:15 AM
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Men like women who look good period. Not too many men are chasing down unattractive women just because she's in her 20s lol Younger women typically have the monopoly on good looks since they're in their prime at that point. However, a curvy 40 year old woman isn't gonna be struggling with men either.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 01:56 AM
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So tjohnson do you tell your partner that you are seeing other people? And if your partner or partners decided to see other people, how does that make you feel? I'm not in a relationship atm. I also don't demand or expect monogamy from anyone I'm dating. Also you say you have "multiple options" would that be that you are able to use both your right and left hand? No, but it does it does mean that you have a special invite to my BLOCK party
/r/ExRedPill27/06/21 01:21 AM
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If the RP is true and our behavior is indeed somehow constructed by society, then why is it so natural and pleasing to have LTR and to be monogamous? Natural and pleasing based on what evidence? An unbiased study of human sexual behavior throughout history would lead to a very different conclusion. The irony of the OP is that he or she tried to counter the RP narrative of "social constructs" with....another social construct. Marriage only came into existence with the rise of agriculture and by e…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 09:45 PM
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Unlike you sir/ma'am, I have multiple options when it comes to dating and exercise them freely, so cheating doesn't offend me. Based on your response however, you should definitely seek some sort of counseling. Best of luck to you.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 07:57 PM
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She eventually drove home and I offered her that she could sleep in her car behind my garage. (I would offer her to sleep on the couch but I live with my grandparents and I don't want to seem creepy) So her sleeping indoors on your grandparents couch is creepier than having her sleep outside within the confines of her vehicle, a situation where she is less safe and more vulnerable?? This is why I say that if a man does not have a place he can OPENLY bring women to, he has no business dating.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 07:42 PM
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Folks, this is not a difficult concept People with options have the option to exercise their options Am I "cheating" on my employer if I decide to interview with other companies or take a 2nd job "on the side". Especially if my LinkedIn/Indeed/Monster inbox is constantly flooded with said companies competing for my skills? Same concept applies to dating and relationships You're still competing for your partners companionship even if strict monogamy is promised or implied. Unfortunately, most peo…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/21 07:33 PM
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The answer is yes, but the trade-off is that age-gap relationships tend to be noticeably more transactional than average, probably due to the maturity and lifestyle gap between the two. The things that would incentivize a 40 year man and a 19 year old woman to spend the next 10+ years together romantically would be similar to a father-daughter or maybe a mentor-mentee relationship versus two 20-somethings.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 11:16 PM
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"Alpha" and "Beta" as a scientific concept, has been largely debunked "Alpha" and "Beta" as a sociological concept however, has some merit to it If we look at masculinity as a spectrum, then Alpha/Beta represent the opposing ends of that spectrum. The more masculine traits a man expresses over time, the more "Alpha" he is and the less he is able to express, the more "Beta" he becomes. This is what most people are trying to describe when they use the terminology.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 11:03 PM
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Yea and the people who believe this will also tell you exercise any leverage you have during a salary negotiation or to make sure you always have the upper hand when dealing with a car salesman (even though they're people too amirite?). Power is only bad to those who don't have it.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 09:49 PM
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I don't know why it's considered a controversy that women may be more sexually active than men. Mothers also outnumber fathers. The truth is that it's always been this way. Women can access sexual companionship in ways that men cannot because they are the gatekeepers of it. I even came across a study recently which claimed that only 40 percent of men in human history, were able to successfully reproduce. In other words, the majority of offspring were fathered by a minority of men.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 06:18 PM
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I agree with the "As long as his bank account is good...he'll age well" posts. A man's value generally appreciates as he attains more of the resources that women desire from men. Not just money, but maturity, leadership skills, confidence level, etc. It just so happens that it takes much longer for men to achieve this so many older men end up having the edge over younger men because of this.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 06:06 PM
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All the OP proved is that men and women date in accordance with their options. There's a difference between someone getting what they want and someone getting what they can.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/21 10:17 PM
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To put this height debate to rest once and for all... Despite me being 6'5, the guys I've met who've gotten the most women (I'm talking 100+ sex partners in a lifetime, women cold-approaching them, have no less than 3 girls on rotation at any given time, etc.) were all under 6 foot. In fact I struggled with women most of my life despite towering over all of the men in the room. The guys who get the most girls tend to take pride in their appearance and date with an abundant, "girls are like buses…
/r/ExRedPill17/05/21 02:52 AM
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Meh, most people today are trained not to critique women's behavior. We're all are just supposed to pretend that men's negative experiences with the opposite sex are either fictional or self-imposed.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/21 06:35 PM
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One of the basic rules of online dating for men is that most women are there to waste time (i.e Find a text/facetime buddy or a "foodie friend"), so you will need to be direct and move quickly to weed them out. Whether they accept your prioritization for an in-person meetup or not is not your concern. Other than that, you simply meet women wherever you can.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/21 04:27 PM
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From my experience, it's considered a deal-breaker for a lot of women.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/21 05:39 PM
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Best: Not feeling ashamed for having my own standards with women, regardless of how taboo (e.g. No single mothers, no OnlyFans accounts etc). Also the importance of prioritizing self-improvement over all else, including relationships. Worst: Expecting the worst behavior of women from the jump. I think preparing for the worst is valid, but assuming that a woman is "out to get me" can easily turn into paranoia and also encourage perfectionist thinking. Better off going into knowing that life is ju…
/r/ExRedPill05/03/21 05:33 PM
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A lot of men are simply reacting to the state of the dating market. In my experience with online dating, for the sake of efficiency, I had to use various "techniques" and methods to weed out women who were timewasters or were simply not the right fit for what I wanted at the moment. For instance, I'm only interested in dating a woman if the sexual interest is mutual, so yes I will attempt some sexual banter in the first conversation as a way to screen out women who don't meet this requirement. I…
/r/ExRedPill24/02/21 06:27 AM
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No it's not wrong to feel that way. I am actually a "relationship guy" myself where I prefer to have sex with someone who's interested in being my long term partner. I just like the stability that comes with a steady companion. I tried the casual dating lifestyle for about a year just to see if I liked it and it was one of the most exhausting things I've ever done. Now I'm currently dealing with a woman for a few months exclusively and it's definitely been a more enjoyable experience thus far. H…
/r/seduction22/02/21 08:28 PM
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u/Buckley92, you sound very sheltered if this is truly your view of marriage. Life is not some sanitized, Disney fairytale where everyone who ties the knot remain deeply in love and lives happily ever after. Shit happens, people cheat, become abusive, or just simply lose interest in their partner and the married life. The last thing I want to do is hold someone hostage in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 11:54 PM
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I think those guys need to explain exactly what they mean when they say "submission" because the term is so loaded and vague that it's very easily misunderstood and often gets lost in translation. I will say though that I do believe that there is a basic level of decorum that girls and women should have towards boys/men (and vice versa). For example, I think it's inappropriate for a woman to be confrontational towards a man as she should be adept in feminine ways of handling disagreements. I als…
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 11:05 PM
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Red pill guys are generally ruled by fear and paranoia. It's obvious that their obsession with a woman's number of partners stems from insecurities they have about their own sex lives or lack thereof. Me personally, I am not concerned with a woman's partner count, but I would be concerned if her sex life was public knowledge (there's a difference between a girl who's slept around, and a girl that everyone knows slept around) as sex for me, is a private matter.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 10:37 PM
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It's natural to place more importance on your interactions with attractive girls than unattractive ones. It's also natural to become desensitized to the presence of attractive women when you have had repeated exposure to them...hence your solution being to give yourself more experiences, sexual or not, with attractive girls. With women in your social circle, this should be easy to accomplish as hot girls tend to run in packs lol. In other words, there's a very high chance, that your friend has a…
/r/seduction09/02/20 07:24 PM
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This is the issue I have with number ranking attractiveness and why I prefer using "Average", "Above average", "Bangable" etc. Number ranking just leads to overanalyzing looks and intellectual masturbation. Due to genetic limitations, every woman has an attractiveness ceiling. A severely disfigured woman or a female with a small bone structure may only become a "7" after MAXING out their genetic potential, but last I checked..7 is still above-average and by definition, a "dime". After a certain …
/r/seduction09/02/20 06:36 PM
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I attract people that I'm not attracted to and how do I attract the people that I am attracted to? Literally the question every hot girl asks herself whenever she's out in public lol. Unfortunately you can't pick and choose who's attracted to you. That's the trade-off for being good looking, the fat girl and her sexy friend will both think you're cute lol. Another thing to consider is that the dating pool for attractive women is far higher vs attractive men with similar SMV, making it far easier…
/r/seduction09/02/20 06:02 PM
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Chris from Good Looking Loser has an opener that I think would be good in your situation. He simply walks up to women and tells them the following: "Hey I know this is random, but I thought you were attractive and I wanted to come see what you were like. I'm Chris btw.." It's a good opener because it's direct and it makes it clear to her that you're weren't just trying to compliment her, but are actually interested in spending some one on one time with her, making a date proposal expected. As fo…
/r/seduction09/02/20 05:47 PM
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You can tell a lot about a man's experiences with women based on how he views rejection. If he speaks about it as if it's a rare occurrence or something that the man is responsible for most of the time due to "lack of game", then I know he is wildly naive and unlearned. The reality is that only a small percentage of women in any given location will be open to forming a sexual relationship with a new man, especially if he someone outside of her social circle. Even if she is open, at least two-thi…
/r/seduction09/02/20 05:02 PM
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I don't recommend it. You have to get her alone in at least a semi-intimate setting (e.g. Coffee shop, bar on a slow night, your place, etc) for a prolonged enough time to be able to escalate properly to sex. At social events, you are introducing way too many variables outside of your control that can ruin your ability to close this girl.
/r/seduction09/02/20 05:16 AM
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Lol..that's interesting. My opinion on being "the side piece" of course is that maintaining her relationship with her spouse is her responsibility, not yours.
/r/seduction06/07/19 03:04 AM
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OP posts looks like something I would read in Cosmo or Teen Vogue lol. First off, let's get the "does she like me?" question out of the way. Um, of course she does..any girl who travels 3 hours to see you (I'm assuming on her own dime), spends the night at your place, and let's you fuck her 3 times is definitely into you. I think your issue is that you are putting too many expectations on this girl. This woman just sounds like your stereotypical shy and reserved Asian chick. Not every woman is g…
/r/seduction06/07/19 02:39 AM
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OP, listen to this guy... Never agree to planned meetups with a romantic interest and her friends until after you have had sex with her a few times...and even then, only do it sparingly.
/r/seduction06/07/19 02:20 AM
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What did you think you "messed up" on? What exactly are you worried about? You can just respond with "lol, whatever. Anyway, what are you doing Thursday? Wanna hang out?" If she continues to act disinterested, just stop replying and delete her number. Simple. Basically just ignore her "shit test" and change the subject.
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:49 AM
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What you are experiencing is very common. You just lack the dating experience to notice the predictable patterns that women will give you. Basically, you are meeting up with women who find you attractive, but aren't sexually available so they bail whenever they sense that your interactions are leading her closer to sex. My advice to you is to continue doing what you're doing (improving your looks/confidence, asking women on dates, try to sleep with them quickly, etc) and you will eventually star…
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:45 AM
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Your only response should be to unmatch her. Women who are interested will give you their number when asked.
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:29 AM
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In your case she's either a a) Tranny b) Bot c) Catfish Good luck!
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:51 AM
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Lol..nothing wrong with dating girls from work man. Most normal guys get laid through social circle game anyway, including girls at the job. Not really any riskier than approaching random broad on the street or a night club in my opinion.
/r/seduction28/06/19 09:07 PM
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This sounds wayy to direct for someone like me. If you want these hookups/FWB situations to happen quickly and consistently, being direct is really the only way to accomplish this. I'm not what you would call an "alpha male" (I don't believe in that shit anyway). I'm quiet, reserved and have approach anxiety, but after going on about 20+ "go-nowhere" dates or dropping $50 on dinner with the world's most obnoxious prudes, I had to start being blunt by necessity. Think about it this way, the more …
/r/seduction28/06/19 08:01 PM
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I'm at work, so I don't have time to do a full write up..so I'll just give you the basics... First off, my qualifications is that I have had sex with around 20-25 different women in the last two years. About 6-7 of those women became regulars for a period ranging from two weeks to six months. The vast majority of the women I met online. All of the first sexual encounters (penis-in-vagina) happened within the first two dates. Not trying to boast, but I thought it would be helpful if I prefaced my…
/r/seduction28/06/19 07:44 PM
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So...what's your question??
/r/seduction28/06/19 01:18 AM
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Preach! The OP missed an easy layup smh
/r/seduction28/06/19 01:14 AM
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This is the best advice in the whole thread. Next time you see her just say: "Hey what's up, I see you all the time, but I don't think we've formally met..I'm Lance2409" shake her hand, then after she tells you her name, ask her how she likes the gig so far..then tell her if she wants to join you for lunch tomorrow. If she says yes, get her work email or extension..then go from there. Shouldn't be too difficult.
/r/seduction28/06/19 01:00 AM
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We been texting and talking for a bit after I met her through mutral friends. After the second date I kissed her and now I feel like she's not really hitting me up. What are you waiting on her to do exactly? If you are waiting for her to give you permission to ask her out again, then it's totally unnecessary and counterproductive. Just hit her up and ask her if she wants to hang out. In fact, she may be wondering why you haven't done that yet. Women will only take so much initiative. So I starte…
/r/seduction27/06/19 04:22 AM
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This is good advice in general. I'll say that for me, coming to the understanding that what is commonly referred as "Alpha" is really just another word for "Social freedom" or "socially free person", has helped relieve a lot of the pressures that often come with "appearing alpha" to women. Instead, of beating myself up for being "too shy", I can just give myself permission to talk to girls. Instead of agonizing over whether to touch a girl on a date, or go for a kiss..I can instead just give mys…
/r/seduction27/06/19 04:08 AM
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I would consider both men Red Pill. Pretty much anything advocating direct game is Red Pill/anti-PUA. Can't verify if David X is being truthful about his sex life, but I give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 09:46 PM
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From my experience, not much. Most women don't expect guys to have a home that's decked out, some women might even deduct points since to them, a dude with a decorated house = less masculine. As long as it's clean, that's all you need.
/r/seduction11/05/19 05:37 PM
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"Keep women attracted" as in "Keep women wanting to have sex with me"? OR "Keep women attracted" as in "Keep women wanting to give me emotional attention (i.e affection), even when we don't have sex"? If it's the former: Women are the gatekeepers of sex, so as a man you don't really get much say in how long you get to maintain access to her in that way. She's gonna fuck you until she no longer wants to. If it's the latter: Just make her your girlfriend.
/r/seduction11/05/19 05:29 PM
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Don't even bother...most women aren't honest with most men. Especially in a pro-PC environment like the US. Always look at her actions if you want "honest feedback". If she says she had an "awesome time", but doesn't return your texts/calls or avoids confirming plans for a 2nd date/meetup, then her verbal commentary was obviously her being nice/avoiding confrontation.
/r/seduction11/05/19 05:19 PM
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Girls going silent after pitching an in-person meetup is pretty normal. A lot of girls on dating sites just want text buddies/pen pals with no intentions on ever meeting up. This is why you need to already have a date set PRIOR to exchanging numbers.
/r/seduction11/05/19 05:09 PM
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"Let's just chill at my place" Can't get more casual than that..
/r/seduction11/05/19 05:01 PM
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No, you are wrong on every point. Real life doesn't go that way. But it's not my place, or duty to prove you wrong with logical arguments on the internet. Didn't think common sense could be debated with, but ok..
/r/seduction11/05/19 04:54 PM
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Swipe apps basically destroyed the main selling point of PUAs: that Game > Looks. The pick up scene being built on this lie basically meant it was doomed to fail from the very beginning. Also the recession has really made it harder for even incels to justify paying $1000+ for a "PUA bootcamp". At that point the traditional PUA scene ran its course. It also didn't help that rumors began cropping up of RSD and other dating companies hiring actresses for their "infield" videos.
/r/seduction11/05/19 04:44 PM
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I personally know two "regular" guys (i.e. Non-rich, non-celebrity) who had over 100 partners. One is a dating/lifestyle coach (most of the women he's slept with never knew his occupation) and the other is a saxophonist (very local, you guys def wouldn't know him). I would say from talking to them and seeing them in action, that they have two things in common. They treat socializing with women as simply another part of their lifestyle. Having flirty and sexualized conversations with women just b…
/r/seduction11/05/19 03:53 PM
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The girl doesn't realize that she wasted her own time as well. It actually depends on what she was looking for.. If her intentions was to hookup, or have a FWB type of thing..then yea, a colossal waste of time. But if she's like most women and goes out with men to simply enjoy the free attention and validation she gets from them, and have most of the expenses paid for on top of that. Then it's basically "mission accomplished".
/r/seduction11/05/19 03:21 PM
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Another downside of online dating is that it lets your real skills rust. Why risk dressing up, going out, growing the balls to approach the hotties YOU WANT on the street, when you can just swipe and be content with average girls who WANT YOU? You know guys meeting up with women in person that they found on a dating site is a thing right?? Dorks don't have the advantage online either. The same dudes who bang 20+ women from Tinder can accomplish the same from cold approach. If anything attractive…
/r/seduction11/05/19 03:12 PM
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Agreed..some of these dudes sound like born again Christians when they got on their "Women/Dating are a distraction" soapbox. Nah the dating apps aren't the problem, OP just sucks at multi-tasking and time management.
/r/seduction11/05/19 02:36 PM
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Realizing that your experiences are normal and even common for very attractive men to be rejected the majority of the time. ​ Understanding only a fraction of getting dates/getting laid is within your control. ​ Remembering that the majority of sexually active women have fucked a guy that was uglier, shorter, fatter, than you at some point in their lives and will continue to do so long after she "rejects" you. More often than not as long as you're a 7/10 (if not work on that first), most women w…
/r/seduction27/02/19 03:46 AM
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Like others said, scarcity thinking is the root of your problem. You're simply putting far too much value on this prospect. This will often lead to you focusing on playing not to lose rather than playing to win. Playing not to lose is an attempt to avoid rejection while preserving as much of her approval and validation for you as possible. This is very counter-productive as it will not allow you to have the social freedom necessary to quickly convert social interactions into results. To overcome…
/r/seduction31/01/19 04:23 AM
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Try to look as physically attractive as possible. You want to be considered at least a 7/10 by most women (posting your pictures on a pic rating site like "Hot or not" will give you a good indicator of your SMV in real time). Physically attractive meaning: Clear skin, slim or muscular physique, no visible belly fat, neatly trimmed facial hair (if any), trendy clothes that compliment your body type, a nice watch or some cosmetic men's jewelry (doesn't need to be expensive). Check out men's magazi…
/r/seduction30/12/18 06:26 PM
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Ask her when she's free and invite her over to your place. Because you've already had sex with her, you won't need to beat around the bush, use any bullshit "false pretenses" or anything like that. If she asks you what you're looking for, just tell her "nothing serious" or you could be super direct (recommended) and let her know you just want a FWB situation.
/r/seduction30/12/18 05:32 PM
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You're not bad looking. By that I mean, you wouldn't need to do a whole lot to become above average. Probably a nice haircut and def a cooler, more trendy wardrobe ($500 trip to H&M or Express should do the trick) would be all you need. As for your Tinder pic, stay away from side profile shots. Only frontal views where we can see your whole face. Like another use mentioned, have a pic of you in a nightlife or other public setting. Also don't use too many selfies. 1 or 2 should be enough. ​ Also,…
/r/seduction25/10/18 12:41 AM
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Not helping Lol..what did you expect, a dissertation?? There's nothing more that needed to be said. The way to deal with flaky girls is realizing that most of what is required for a man to get laid is out his control. Internalizing that this is a numbers game is very important so that you don't spend hours and days dwelling on why some random broad is giving you the cold shoulder. Treat every girl that you chat with online as just a "number" until you fuck her.
/r/seduction22/10/18 04:17 AM
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Does being tall help?? Is water wet??? ​
/r/seduction22/10/18 04:05 AM
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Create "multiple streams of confidence" for yourself. Wealthy people don't just rely on the stock market for financial success, they also use commodities and real estate. There should be different things you do besides dating women that gives you emotional satisfaction. Allow your ego to catch up with your level of attractiveness. Reading your original post, there is obvious evidence that you already possess the looks/personality to get dates with women you are attracted to. The problem is that …
/r/seduction15/09/18 11:29 PM
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Your ego/sense of entitlement hasn't caught up with your increase in SMV. Right now I would simply enjoy the validation you're getting until you get tired of receiving it (because you discovered compliments from cute girls isn't a "Get Laid Now" card). Accept the glances and compliments while pushing yourself to take things further with these particular girls (i.e Ask them to hang out, try to fuck them on your dates). After a while, your brain will finally realize that it totally logical for gir…
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:49 PM
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Quickest way: Find ways to get friendly responses from women (i.e. Validation) until you get tired of it. Take a selfie and post it on hotornot or some other pic rating site Post of a pic of yourself on Facebook or Instagram with the caption. "Ladies, would you give this guy your number?" Create an account on the most popular dating sites (POF, OKCupid, Zoosk, etc) Message every girl and ask them if they'd like to hang out with you sometime. Internalize the fact that every girl that rejected you…
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:35 PM
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Too geeky and gimmicky for my tastes. Puts way too much importance on getting validation from women (i.e. "How to make her laugh!") instead of how to get them in your bed quickly.
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:19 PM
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You become more interesting to women by looking and dressing better than the average guy (which isn't hard to do). Trust me if a girl gets approached by a male model, the last thing she's gonna care about is whether or not he's well traveled lol.
/r/seduction09/09/18 07:50 PM
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She ain't interested man..just move on. She probably enjoys the free attention (i.e Validation) you're giving her, but for whatever she doesn't see you as a guy she would fuck. Trust me, if she was DTF she would behave very differently. She would come see you alone, she would let you touch her, she would let you kiss her (even at the venue), she would agree to leave the venue with you and come back to your place to close the deal. I'm willing to bet her fuck buddy doesn't even give her half of t…
/r/seduction09/09/18 07:40 PM
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Well damn.. What have y'all been doing for a whole year that y'all been together? Cuddle?? lol Next time you're at his place just start kissing his neck and rub his junk. He'll get the hint.
/r/seduction09/09/18 07:17 PM
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Invite her over to chill. Or offer to come to her place to enjoy some company.
/r/seduction09/09/18 07:02 PM
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"Men don't kiss and tell"
/r/seduction09/09/18 06:54 PM
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If your friend was approaching those women to see which ones would go home with him that night, then yes, even good looking guys will get rejected the majority of the time. Only a tiny minority of women at any given location will be DTF. Having said that, like most things, the importance of looks in attracting women exists on a spectrum of sorts with physical appearance being most important to women who are looking for a ONS/FB and women under 25 (sexual prime), and physical appearance being the…
/r/seduction09/09/18 06:29 PM
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Depends... If she's looking for a boyfriend..then looks aren't that important. If she's only looking for casual sex...then looks become way more important.
/r/seduction09/09/18 06:01 PM
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You're trying to do the process in reverse. The girl should already know your intentions well before you pitch the "date". As far as what to say, you can say anything you'd like. I usually say "let's chill at this spot tomorrow night around 8" or some other variation of it.
/r/seduction07/09/18 08:27 PM
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Why reinvent the wheel? Obviously what you're doing now is working for you. Improvements should only be considered when experiencing a significant drop in success rates. As far as direct vs. indrect. Remember the purpose of direct game is to weed out time wasters ASAP. We don't wanna chill with EVERY girl that happens to find us attractive, just the DTF ones ;)
/r/seduction07/09/18 08:19 PM
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Lol...I'm afraid you are well beyond the point of "seeming" like another friend. You're basically her BFF
/r/seduction07/09/18 08:09 PM
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Agreed. Her assumption that bringing her friend along would be totally appropriate for this occasion is basically confirmation of the OP's friend-zone status.
/r/seduction07/09/18 08:06 PM
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Don't know why this was downvoted...this is excellent advice.
/r/seduction07/09/18 08:03 PM
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I don't know what you mean exactly by "physicality" (have you fucked her before?) But regardless, I would offer to reschedule to a time where she can come by herself, but really girls only tend to "bring a friend a long" at the last minute when she needs a trusted third-party to "vet" a guy she sees as boyfriend material. Unless she's your ONLY option at the moment for female companionship (not judging, it happens), then I would just cancel the meet up and move on.
/r/seduction07/09/18 07:58 PM
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This is the normal process for guys transitioning from AFC/incel to player. The first phase is getting so tired of rejection that you start focusing your efforts on simply getting validation (i.e positive affirmations) from women by any means necessary. You fish for nice compliments, say whatever she wants to hear, embrace the friend zone/orbiter role, etc. At some point though, and it sounds like you are almost at that stage, you will get so tired of receiving all of this validation without hav…
/r/seduction07/09/18 07:39 PM
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Yes, they're called attention whores lol Seriously though, I think the average so-called party girl is like this. They're sexually duplicitous to the max. They're extremely social and extroverted so they are very good at being "everything to everybody". I'm very reserved and introverted and I'm almost positive that I have been much more sexually and socially liberal than all of the social butterflies that I've dated. The party girls crave attention more than anything, if they have to act slutty …
/r/askTRP27/02/18 01:50 AM
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Yep, pretty much.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 02:16 AM
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I would keep the approach extremely basic. Something like "hey how's it going, you want to grab some lunch later?" A lot of guys seem to think they always need something "cool" or "interesting" to say to women. Most of my conversations with women are pretty boring in my opinion, but that hasn't prevented me from getting a 2nd date. If she agrees to hang out with you by herself "for lunch" or "for drinks after work" that mean she likes you at least enough to be alone with you so that's one less t…
/r/seduction11/02/18 07:53 PM
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If I got a text like that..I would likely respond with this verbatim: "That's cool. Right now, I'm not looking for "just friends" or anything like that, so that might not work for me. It was meeting u tho". No other follow up msg would be sent after that unless she ask me a direct question..and even that's optional depending on what it was. My style of communication is very direct so I tend to tell girls things that are purposely polarizing in order to force her pick a side and thus, save me fro…
/r/seduction12/01/18 02:31 AM
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There are two reasons why women "reject" sexual advances from men The girl is not sexually available (i.e. Open to any encounter of a sexual nature) The guy failed to pass her minimum standards for physical attractiveness. The first reason is the most common. At any given time, in any given location, there will only be a small percentage of women who are interested in something other than platonic, non-intimate male companionship. You will be lucky if the number is 15% or 1 out of 6 girls...real…
/r/seduction12/01/18 02:12 AM
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Men do worse on swipe apps because given looks alone women have far higher standards than men when it comes to cheap sex, which is what swipe apps are about. Very true DTF women in are much pickier about who they will sleep with vs DTF men. Women I've met online have admitted to me on our dates that they don't read guys profiles most of the time and use his pictures to determine if he gets a response. It's almost not uncommon for a woman to receive 20-50 new messages a day. I went out with a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 11:01 PM
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Good looking guys will always have the upper hand attracting women over average looking ones whether online or in person. Why men are so reluctant to improve their looks is beyond me. Get you body fat to 10%, go to a barber on a weekly basis, and spend $200 on some cool clothes from H&M and your dating life will improve drastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 10:54 PM
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This is good advice. Props to the OP
/r/seduction10/01/18 10:37 PM
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Out of the handful of girls I know with 10+ sex partners, the majority are average to slightly above average looking, but I don't think that's in any way conclusive. Sexual freedom is an expression of someone's personality, not really something that can be guesstimated strictly through looks. Women are sexually hypergamous anyway, so even if the hot ones are sluttier, only the guys in the top 10% will benefit.
/r/seduction10/01/18 09:39 PM
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I used to do this myself. Nowadays however, I primarily use text to setup and confirm dates. No text convos. Next time you shoot a girl a text and she replies back, try calling her right away or text back asking if she has a few minutes to talk. This is a pretty good way to weed out flakes.
/r/seduction10/01/18 08:27 PM
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Agreed. Text messaging should really only be used to set up the date and to confirm said date on the day of. Save the sexual innuendos for when she's sees you.
/r/seduction10/01/18 08:16 PM
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Just do it whenever you feel like it. I'm very reserved and introverted myself and unless the girl is not DTF or if she's a prude, it'll never be awkward. I usually start touching when she starts answering a question I just asked her. For some reason this feels the most comfortable for me, but it really doesn't matter when.
/r/seduction10/01/18 08:09 PM
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It's actually pretty simple from my experience. Next time you see your friend ask her if she wants to have drink with you later tonight. If the bar is walking distance to your place, have her park at your spot and walk there together. Once at the bar, touch her early and often. I usually rub her thighs or put my arms around her and rub her shoulders and lower back. If she lets you do that, then she's sexually attracted to you and potentially DTF. To find out for sure, ask her if she wants to sto…
/r/seduction06/01/18 06:41 PM
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