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| 12 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?I love this. I noticed a guy was gassing me up left and right, only to find out he was basically saying the same things to other people. We have to question - does he just say this to everyone? If so, it just comes off as disingenuous and robotic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:15 AM |
| 21 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menSo accurate. If they start trashing other women’s choices, music taste, style of dress…it’s a giant, glaring red flag that you’re next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:34 PM |
| 7 | Juxtaposition, Screencapped by me, Digital, 2022😂 A masterpiece. It really does illustrate the premise of this sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:33 PM |
| 3 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Women are deranged in their standards for male beauty?! Clearly he has not met Leonardo DiCaprio | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:25 PM |
| 17 | Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values.You’re right. We shouldn’t even need a modifier like “gentle.” It should be the default. But as always, the bar is in hell, and men apparently need to be linguistically reminded to treat women properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 08:25 PM |
| 102 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKSickening. Meanwhile the same men complain over a simple dental cleaning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:47 PM |
| 7 | you're not toxic.Beautiful. This deserves a million upvotes and awards. Remember this, ladies: As always, the men who dismiss us as toxic, dramatic, too sensitive, overreacting…are talking about THEMSELVES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 225 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.“LVM, fundamentally, are aware of their partner’s ability to do better than them.” 100% accurate and applicable to so many situations. The chronic insults, sarcasm, and jabs disguised as “jokes” are just reflections of their deep insecurity, jealousy, and poor ego structure. Do not tolerate this behavior for a second, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:55 PM |
| 2 | I did it!That’s amazing! I know the feeling. So happy for you. That’s what this community is all about. Wishing you well as you live your best life 💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 06:50 PM |
| 17 | The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last TimePREACH. This is exactly what LVM will do with sensitive information: weaponize it. They use your vulnerabilities to suggest “no one will want you” as a tactic to coerce you into staying in the relationship. This is precisely why we vet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 08:27 PM |
| 7 | Put Yourself Out There!Ugh I totally agree. I absolutely hate that phrase and especially as applied to OLD. Why would we willingly “put ourselves” in hell? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 01:58 PM |
| 18 | Thought I met someone I really liked, but recently he's ignoring me. Last night, I mourned my loss. I deleted his number so I wouldn't be tempted to reach out to him. Then I came to this sub to remind myself that I made the right choice. Thank you all for being my rock 💓Honestly it’s his loss. YOU are the prize and he’s missing out. You snooze you lose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 09:56 PM |
| 169 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?News flash LVM: women shut down sexually when you have zero hygiene. The men who complain about “dead bedrooms” likely don’t own a toothbrush. Case closed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:59 PM |
| 63 | If you’ve watched Selling Sunset, you know all of them would be better off without their useless men.Damn I thought I was the only one who watched this show. I agree the LVM seem to be the common denominator in a lot of the conflict. I’ll never forget that moissanite ring moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:08 AM |
| 23 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.I would advise you to dump him immediately. Not kidding. I have been in this position (lies about student loans, financial situation, major purchases) and it only gets worse. If you forgive the lie, he will think that you will tolerate that behavior and it will continue. If you stand your ground and impose a consequence (leaving him) you are honoring your own standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 10:02 PM |
| 31 | Holiday Dating Reminders & Tips“Corporate scams.” So accurate. LVM, take note: maybe take some personal responsibility for avoiding gift giving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:14 PM |
| 500 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.Why do unattractive men think they are the arbiters of attractiveness?! Who do they think they are? It boggles my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:29 PM |
| 62 | “Communicating” gives LVM the perfect opportunity to gaslight youI am so sorry. Men know exactly when we are vulnerable and then exploit us. I was in a similar situation though somewhat opposite - I was lying in bed after we broke up and he called me a baby and child for declining sex. “You know you’ve really regressed.” Well thanks for the causal infantilization. I had a panic attack. He followed me out to my car and screamed at me “Whose fault is this?!?!” Men are so depraved. Their behavior is horrifying and then they have the audacity to play dumb and say… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:40 AM |
| 21 | Idk a better case of mirroring than the one I'm about to describe.😂 Great story. I have heard so many of these lines, I’m convinced these men are essentially the same. “I’m sex deprived…spiritually speaking.” Boo hoo, read some more Deepak Chopra. We see through your bs, faux-feminists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 05:57 AM |
| 28 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmPREACH. I was already doing this pre-FDS, but frankly I’m relieved and happy to see it as a principle 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 03:53 AM |
| 33 | Men rarely think they are the problemYes absolutely. Women have been socialized to passively comply with the behavior of LVM. It sickens me to my core. Let’s normalize dumping at the first sign of depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:43 PM |
| 7 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”Agreed. We don’t need to “cOmMuNiCaTe more.” If anything, we actually need to communicate LESS! “Just cOmMuNiCaTe” will not solve fundamental relationship issues. Remember, we’re talking about LVM or NVM here. And why should WE be expected to bear the burden of responsibility for communicating when they lie, omit, and manipulate? I’ve literally been told “I hid [transmissible disease] from you because I didn’t want you to leave me.” 🤮 Sorry, this is not up for additional discussion. I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:17 PM |
| 54 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”Moral of the story here is actions speak louder than words. My experience has been that they will try to placate you in the moment, but if they can’t keep promises, execute what they say they will do, or show consistent effort through BEHAVIOR, they need to be dumped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:11 PM |
| 85 | I know a pickme had to swipe right on him. 🤮“I told you upfront! You’re being dRaMa.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:53 AM |
| 38 | I know a pickme had to swipe right on him. 🤮Ugh. Is this supposed to be charming?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 69 | ENTHUSIASM matters. If he does not show authentic excitement to court you, DROP him.Yes. And also, don’t accept an “enthusiastic” proposition to have sex if he decides you’re not it relationship-wise. That’s not a HVM. That’s getting fuck zoned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:37 PM |
| 8 | Straight from the horse’s mouth: men who ask you to hook up with them literally only want you for sex. These comments were in response to a woman who was complaining about the audacity men on Tinder have in asking her if she “wants to fuck”THIS. Perfectly stated. 🥇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 01:38 PM |
| 8 | Straight from the horse’s mouth: men who ask you to hook up with them literally only want you for sex. These comments were in response to a woman who was complaining about the audacity men on Tinder have in asking her if she “wants to fuck”See this is what we mean by getting “fuck zoned.” What’s going on in their heads in awful, but for LVM this is standard practice. They’d sleep with a plastic blowup doll ladies, it is not a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 01:28 PM |
| 245 | The comment section is a dumpster fire. How dare she to have standards! Some of them are “I see her future buying dog and cat food”, “the higher they fly, lower they fall”, “phd doesn’t buy you class obviously”, etc.Dr. Airin Avery, PhD Chemistry. She’s an inspiration. I once dared to tell a guy that I had age preferences, and he looked at me like he was about to pass out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 01:24 PM |
| 6 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Yes, couldn’t have said it better myself. Don’t mistake early charm for consistent effort, and DO NOT put him on a pedestal. Date 1 - he’s on his best behavior ladies, and the mask usually slips. Never stop vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:37 PM |
| 40 | Job interviews are like datingDid we have the same boss? Money laundering, reminiscing about going to strip clubs, drinking on the job, making fun of my Jewish heritage - yeah, I said it. I, too, had to learn the hard way that I could not make him appreciate my efforts. He saw me as disposable. He gaslighted me, saying “I don’t want you to go home frustrated.” Then maybe get a clue and look at the tone you’re setting and how you’re treating your employees. Thankfully I got the hell out of there. Your concluding statement is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 12:03 PM |
| 383 | The Bar is in Hell ExpressionsThe bar is lower than their floor mattresses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 01:15 AM |
| 137 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.This post is spot-on. It’s funny how they act so “gentlemanly” when they think sex is on the table, as if reading from a script. They feign interest, bring you water, even offer you a jacket…then they drop off the face of the Earth when you politely decline sex. It’s like they can’t see through the fog of their porn-infested brains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 136 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Don’t even get me started on “I’m not looking for drama.” There are so many problems with this statement, I don’t know where to begin. Number one, it places the burden on women so we question if we’re being “dRaMaTiC” when we’re merely expressing an emotion or a dissenting opinion. Number two, LVM are usually such poor communicators that their conflicting statements cause undue stress, aka “drama.” Number three, I commented this on another post, but no well-adjusted person is looking for “drama.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:38 PM |
| 42 | Woman translates the real meanings behind men’s dating demands. Just a reminder that men defined ‘femininity’ as submission, passivity, performance & endless forgiveness because it serves abusive men & makes us easier to exploit.They really do. It’s unbelievable how alike they all are. And not in a good way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:25 PM |
| 5 | That time I THOUGHT I was dating a HVM 🤡 And the PLETHORA of red flags I ignoredThis was an excellent analysis and reflection. At this point, I’m convinced that everything LVM say is a projection or externalization of their own shortcomings. “She/they need therapy” is often code for “I think I am a perfect specimen and am not willing to look at my own issues.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:02 PM |
| 83 | Judging women for loving animalsThis is a very interesting topic. I have been subject to this as well and I too do not understand what is wrong with being a single woman and owning a cat or dog. Sounds like solitude to me. As always, there is no male equivalent for this insult. Nurturing and socializing an animal is a sign of high empathy, yet somehow it’s used as evidence that we’re not fit for a relationship. The implication is that we couldn’t “secure a mate” so we had to adopt a companion instead. I want to roll my eyes an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:09 AM |
| 63 | I feel like this is reflective of HV people.Yes. And let’s also distinguish LVM-termed “drama” (aka women expressing themselves or holding LVM accountable for their questionable actions) from steering clear of unnecessary conflict. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 08:54 PM |
| 11 | The man I had a crush on for two years finally slid into my DMs…Yas I’m loving this queen energy. I can totally relate to that feeling. A huge crush usually ends up being a disappointment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:42 AM |
| 50 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriendCOMPLETELY agree. It’s not a compliment and it’s actually quite objectifying. It echoes the Madonna-whore complex also. Either we’re placed in the “fuckable but not dateable” box or we’re categorized as a “good girl” who will be subservient to her man’s “needs.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:05 PM |
| 82 | How can I help a friend with absolutely zero self esteem?That’s great that she is getting help. Unfortunately we have to vet therapists also. Many are LVM apologists and “cOmMuNiCaTe” preachers. That’s not really your job in this situation though. You’ve already helped her a lot. We can’t save anyone if they aren’t willing to help themselves. All you can do is give general support/encouragement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 47 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’THANK YOU. And OP, for bringing up this topic. It’s just another pejorative term to shame women out of voicing their opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 5 | Celebrity pick-me’s!!It sounds like even her own mother coerced her into staying. It’s sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 02:21 PM |
| 27 | No return policy - why do they always come back?Yup, mine said he got me a birthday gift (after not getting me anything for years), but he “left it in his car.” Either he doesn’t know how the postal system works or there’s no gift. Neither would surprise me at this point. These men simply do not care. It’s all empty promises and zero execution. They’re just vying for our attention and trying to weasel their way back in. They try to win us over with dollar store garbage…but it’s too late. Per the FDS mantra - “if he wanted to, he would” - have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 02:47 AM |
| 58 | Role of a therapistI agree. I told one therapist when my ex would chronically complain when we would go out. She said, “It sounds like you’re JuDgInG him.” Yes of course I’m judging him. I’m emotionally exhausted with the constant negativity. Another therapist asked me if I was manipulating when I said my ex would say that I cried too much. Please. Some therapists are not out for your best interests. They have the “CoMmUnIcAtE” mentality and will lead you to make poor choices. These therapists just want to keep yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:55 PM |
| 121 | men's responses to your job/career situation is a quick, easy way to vetThis is so true. I almost forgot, a guy once told me I could use my tongue to examine him. It’s honestly disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 04:27 AM |
| 70 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”I agree and just wanted to add that experiencing depression doesn’t automatically make you LV. Women have higher rates of anxiety and depression on average and society plays a role in that. I think there is a lot of gray area here because even with diet, exercise, sleep, therapy, etc, some women still experience depressive thoughts but are generally pleasant to be around and make great partners. As you pointed out, it’s how you handle it and manage it that counts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Thank you FDS for making dating fun and enjoyable again!That’s amazing! It sounds like you’re having a blast. And thanks for sharing your success story, it’s very encouraging to us all. May I ask, do you live in a big city? I always wonder about location as a factor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:13 PM |
| 9 | Let's talk about why women have sex with men they don't really like and/or are not attracted toMy personal reasoning included a high teenage libido and not considering alternatives to my situation. Thankfully I’ve since woken up and am now repulsed at the thought. There’s no shame in prioritizing physical attraction. I think the moral of the story here is to be honest with yourself and honor your feelings if you’re even remotely turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:47 PM |
| 29 | Don't stay for a guy that claims they don't know what they wantExactly. Other variations include “not sure what I’m looking for,” “don’t know if you’re the one,” etc. All tactics designed to obscure the language so you’re unsure of where you stand. Had to learn the hard way, if it’s a “maybe” then it’s a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:11 AM |
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