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[FIELD REPORT]toriar/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:45 AM
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Sorry, I wasn't very clear in my first comment. I meant the uproar about the entire thing is silly. Though I am from Canada where everything is taxed to the high heavens, so on my front it's silly to get so upset about an extra few bucks a year.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 04:19 PM
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Well TIL haha. Puts it into perspective that this whole thing is even sillier than I originally thought.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 03:57 PM
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Oh I know, my Facebook is clogged up with all of this still. There's also, surprisingly, a bunch of women who are really passionate about this subject, which I just don't understand.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 09:06 PM
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I think the tax is kind of bullshit. Why not put taxes on condoms or other things too, you know? Either way, I'm not going to get all my feathers ruffled up for something so small in the grand scheme of things. Plus, I live in the land up North where everything is taxed through the roof. I pay 7% tax on pretty much everything anyways, so I'm not concerned. In conclusion: Is the tax stupid? Yes. Does it deserve this much media attention? No.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 04:13 PM
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First and foremost, their marriage is none of your business. Just because their "arrangement" doesn't seem right to you, doesn't mean it's not working for them. Have you talked to them about the division of chores, work, etc? Maybe they have already discussed all this and are happy with how things are. Maybe they're not, but again, it's still none of your business either way. If your father is un happy, please know that he is a big boy. He can discuss his issues with his wife if he needs to, or …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 04:34 PM
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23, married, daughter age (almost) 2. Definitely wanted to get married. I'm not religious in any way, just something special about marriage to me. :) We live in Canada, so even if he didn't want to get married for legal reasons, it wouldn't make a difference since we would be "common law" and in BC that means we're basically married in the eye of the government. Living together is a necessity for me. We moved in pretty quickly together and it was definitely a mutual want/need. If he didn't ever …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 12:38 AM
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Thanks! :3 I will be scouring the aisles for that headband also! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 04:41 PM
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You have a sailor moon headband! :O I am currently so jealous. And a very happy birthday! I hope one day to get this exact vanity, been hinting at it lately since my birthday is next month haha.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 11:33 PM
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The first year of having a child is going to be questionable. You won't have a lot of time to yourself if baby is feeding every few hours, etc. Your house will definitely be a mess when your kid is first born. The first year is hell, haha. But once you get through all that, it's pretty easy. Just don't get lazy is my best advice. If you have time to do things like watch Netflix, go on Facebook, etc, then you have time to tidy up your kitchen or put on some makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 04:49 PM
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Not really. My one friend wants to be a RPW, but she married the wrong guy if that was her goal in life. All my friends are pretty blue pill. Though, I've waded out the ones that were over the top feminists, who claimed that any PIV sex is rape.....yeah...
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 04:40 PM
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I struggled with this when my husband I first started dating. He slept around a lot, I didn't (he's one of the two people I've ever slept with). At first it hurt my ego, but that's when I realized it was my problem. Also, he's a hot piece of meat (if you don't mind me tooting my own horn) and I feel very grateful that he chose me to be his wife, and not one of the other women who had fucked him in the past. Either you get over it, or you leave him. I'd suggest getting over it, if you're happy be…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:43 AM
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I will be the first to admit that I loathe cooking. Absolutely hate it. But that doesn't mean I don't know how to cook. I still enjoy being able to eat delicious and/or complicated meals. So even if you don't enjoy cooking and don't care to learn more and hone your skills, then at least do it for you and your family's tummies. Plus, my husband loves me even more knowing that I try hard to cook our family delicious meals, even though he knows I hate it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 08:16 PM
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Sometimes that trick works for me, and sometimes it doesn't. I can't figure out those damn jars lol. Husband to the rescue!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 04:22 PM
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For me personally, what works is my husband helps me with things he knows I can't do, or just not very good at. So he does the "manly" chores with mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, etc. Or the typical "oh honey, I can't open this jar, could you please do that for me?" But that's mostly because I'm terrible with opening brand new pickle jars, haha. My husband also has the final say with things and I don't argue with him, he's my Captain and I trust his decisions. He doesn't have to specifica…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 01:36 AM
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My husband doesn't order my food for me. It's usually me not being able to decide between two meals, and he helps me with the deciding vote. "This sounds good but so does this..." and he will usually say something along the lines of "yeah, but you love this kind of meal better, so that one sounds good for you." I'm also not useless....my husband likes that I'm independent and able to survive without him. If I legitamitely need his help for something, then I ask him for help and then he's happy f…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/15 07:22 PM
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I try to put a minimum of foundation and mascara on every day. Also, once the warm weather starts I wear dresses. Lots and lots of dresses. They're so comfy, easy to wear in the hot sun, and my husband loves them. I'm also eating better and losing weight, so that's keeping him pretty happy and I definitely notice him checking me out more often ;)
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/15 06:16 PM
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Why would you expect him to text you while he's at work? To be his distraction and upset him more? The less I text my husband while at work, the more "I miss you" texts I get from him. Cool it, bring it back, and work on trusting him and hopefully he can look past what you've done in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 11:32 PM
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My husband and I slept in separate beds for a few months when our daughter was born. He was working 12 hour days, and the last thing he needed was to be woken up 3-5 times a night because baby needs to nurse or have her diaper changed. I hated it at first, but it really was the best alternative for us at the time. I wouldn't over analyze it, especially if you're pregnant right now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 08:44 PM
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It's honestly more likely that it's because they don't have children. Or if they have expressed that they don't want kids. It's unfortunate, but employers don't want to hire someone who is just going to leave to have kids anyways. Especially here in Canada, when the mat leave you get is up to 12 months if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 03:54 PM
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I am definitely not progressive enough for this shit... But seriously, a man and a woman ("only friends") going on a THREE WEEK VACATION together. And he didn't even invite you, the girlfriend? How does this entire situation not scream "THEY'RE GOING TO DO IT!"?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 04:40 AM
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It's unfortunate that most girls (notice how I don't use "women") just want the wedding, when they should be wanting to get married. The values are all fucked there.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 03:26 AM
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Do whatever nasty sex act you need to accomplish in order to fill that empty void inside your heart. Then, when you do find "the one," just deny deny and deny some more when he starts questioning your sexual history. The best part? Stop taking your birth control ("no honey, I'm totally taking my birth control! Promise") and snag him for at least the next 18 years and live off that until the child moves out. Rinse. Repeat.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 03:57 PM
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I didn't feel an obligation to continue working or to stay home. In my specific situation, I was maxed out in the job I was at and didn't make all that much. It wasn't enough incentive to continue working and having someone else (nanny, daycare) raise my child. My husband and I both saw more of a benefit for me to stay home. With the costs of daycare these days, and the cost of living in my neighbourhood (Vancouver, BC), we're actually making more money with me NOT working.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 02:31 AM
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If the relationship is going no where, you both don't have the same life goals, etc, you 'next' them. Why bother wasting time on someone that will not work out? Nexting is just a nicer term for dumping.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 04:47 PM
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It's been extra difficult lately as a few close friends have moved away from me (hours away, to a different province) so I haven't had much socialization as my last close friend has been on vacation (luckily she's coming back this weekend though). I definitely don't mind how often he goes out, I think it's great that he's having time away and is enjoying himself. He definitely deserves it with all the hard work he does daily. I've just noticed him being gone more so because of the reason I state…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 03:27 PM
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Haha I've got: Iced cinnamon dolce latte (my favourite) Cupcakes Cuddling with my baby Watching LeapFrog (until she goes to bed in 30 minutes) I feel rather positive about tonight now, thank you ladies <3
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 01:34 AM
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K looks his best when he has a clean shaven head, but he has a large beard. That look....sigh....just makes me melt. I lucked out in this department with K, in that he has hair in all the right places. He isn't going to lose his hairline (his dad is 70 and still has a thick head of hair, as well as all his uncles on his mums side), he has a smooth back, and a hairy chest (but just the right amount). A hair turn off would be a hairy back, I would have to deal with that if I encountered it. Otherw…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 01:30 AM
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You're definitely right in that it was my fault, I hope that one day I can react in a way that won't give away every little thought (I have a very telling face), so I feel bad that he knew it made me sad. I need to control my face more. I am still in the process of losing weight, but goddamnit I have planned for today so I have allotted myself 2 cupcakes without going over my calories. Gotta celebrate the small victories.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 01:22 AM
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I know I have to let it go, and I have. Thank you for your words :) I need to just enjoy the quiet for now, and watch some Grey's Anatomy since hubby hates it and I never get to watch it when he's around.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 01:09 AM
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There is most definitely a time to fall in love, even late in the game. My great grandma remarried after my great grandpa passed away- she was 72 when they got married, and got exactly 20 years with him. She passed away last year at 92. My great great uncle Bing got remarried after his first wife passed away, and he got another 25 years with his second wife and STILL kicking at 104! At this point, it doesn't sound like you're ready to be emotionally/physically involved with anyone, and I wouldn'…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 12:58 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/15 05:55 PM
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If anyone wants to wait for sex until they're in a relationship, within a certain time frame, etc, whatever that's cool. But I don't think that applies 100% of the time for everyone. For myself, I "gave it up" earlier than other women might have for one guy I really liked. Though it worked out for me as I'm married to that man now. I think if there's a real connection then there's no reason to wait a certain amount of time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/15 02:29 AM
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The problem with #2 is that it may give him the idea that threesomes or their relationship being "open" is a green light. She might get lucky and he only wants to do it the one time. Or more likely, he'll want to keep doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/14 06:23 PM
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Glad you like it! Hopefully it all works out for you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 05:56 PM
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If I'm not at home when hubby gets home (which honestly, being a SAHM it's rare but it happens) I like to leave a note somewhere I know he will look that reads: "Hey sorry I couldn't be home for you, made you your favourite! Love you lots- Toriar" And then I'll leave a snack I know he'll love. He likes it because he still gets his after work snack even though I'm not home.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 05:17 PM
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Thanks for the input! I'm crafty, so I thought I could make anything of that nature and see if I can bring in an extra bit of income if possible. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 04:54 PM
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Do you prefer Ebay over Etsy? I've been deliberating doing a little "online shop" but not sure which site to choose.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/14 03:29 AM
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Tax break? Ultimately, I would love to think that love conquers all and that this is purely selfless. But, I'm having a hard time believing it's only about her love for him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/14 05:13 PM
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This whole thing just screams temptation to me. Though, to be perfectly honest I've never had a good experience with my SO keeping in touch with an ex. So maybe I'm jaded, but it always ended terribly. For my SO and I, it's a big no-no to be talking to any of our ex's. It's not a jealousy issue, it's just that we both don't feel comfortable with the situation and this is what works for us. K is quite attractive and "alternative," so he gets a lot of attention. And right now I have a 9 month old …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/14 05:22 PM
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I love this comment because I asked for a vacuum for Christmas this year. xD
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/14 08:35 PM
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I was 19 and he was 29 when we met. We moved in together after 3 months of dating. Together ever since. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 05:02 PM
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He is definitely an alpha and RP, but I'm the one who follows RPW and knows the ins and outs and such. My SO agrees with the basics (he would prefer me to child rear and be a SAHM while he is the main breadwinner), but I doubt he understands what TRP or RPW are. We don't talk about it at all besides the whole "you should be a stay at home mom." Whether he understands our dynamic or not, it works for us. :) Edit: He's also not on Reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/14 06:30 PM
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Not even just in our personal life either. K has excelled tremendously in his work field as well! He's on a fast track to business partner in his company, and each year his income has gone up around 20%! He has even told me that he feels the need to do better now that he has our daughter and I "depending on him."
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/14 10:18 PM
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I can imagine a single woman in her late 30s thinking she missed the mark, so she went and got herself inseminated so that she wouldn't miss her opportunity to have a child. But to plan this seems so backwards to me. No matter the sex, a child will develop better with two parents.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/14 12:03 AM
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I will scratch his head or back, and he absolutely loves it. I basically scratch a part of him at least 2 times a day, everyday, haha. Something he does for me is in the morning, before he has to leave for work. He will pull me in and spoon/snuggle me until he has to get up. He usually makes his alarm wake him up 10 minutes earlier so that he can devote that time to snuggling me. :3
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:50 PM
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Gasp! I had no idea this existed! When I have more time today I will definitely be posting some recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:40 PM
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Haha at the time, both our parents thought we were crazy. Even now, when I think about it, I'm like: that could have gone so badly... lol
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:39 PM
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I never had the traditional mother role model. But this was something that my grandma always told me!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:38 PM
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Thanks! If I ever see a recipe thread around in the future, I will definitely throw out some of my recipes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 04:02 AM
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I must admit, I slept with my boyfriend (now husband) on the first date. We met on POF and had talked online for a few weeks, so I couldn't help myself when we met in person, and we moved in together after 3 months. It all worked out for me, and we now have a very successful RP relationship. But remember, I'm the exception to the rule.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:55 AM
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Exactly! It's irritating but not enough to actually start an argument over it. shakes head If I choose to be anal about how clean I want my house to be, then I need to be the one to do it. I shouldn't expect my spouse to think the exact same way as me. Same goes for cleaning the dishes after cooking, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:33 AM
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I cook and always clean up the mess after. My husband works hard enough during the work day- I can muster up the strength to do dishes as well. The only thing that irks me is if he makes himself a snack and doesn't clean up the mess. Though honestly, I've never brought it up and clean it up myself since it will get done faster that way. I'm in no way my husband's "mother," but I do understand that if I want things done to my standards/time frame, then I need to do it. If you want to cook and he …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 03:24 AM
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My husband and I did the same thing. We know every dirty little secret about each other. A sort of "confessional" if you will.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 05:08 PM
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I've had guy friends that were "like a brother to me." That's how I felt. Each and every one of them (over time) tried to come onto me at some point or another. Unless they're gay, they're gonna want to have sex with you. Period. Guy friends = trouble. Don't put your "friends" above your boyfriend/husband. It will be very bad times indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:13 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with this. In the last couple weeks after "swallowing the RP," our sex life has been way better. Have I done anything different in the sex department? No. Have I made sure our home is well kept, our daughter happy, and bettering myself? Heck yes. Yet, my sex life is the best it's been in quite some time. I thank the RP for everything and the bettering of my, and my family's, life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/14 07:40 PM
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My husband has a physically demanding job, and his job covers both of us, so that means I can stay home with baby while he works. Since I'm a SAHM, I do all the housework. I feel that it's perfectly fair as he is the breadwinner in our home, and I've obviously got the time to do it all. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/14 01:21 AM
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This is going to sound cheesy, but I love feeling like a "dainty little flower" next to my man. He's tall, strong, and has lots of tattoos. I like feeling like I'm the woman, and he's the man. So when he looks like a man.....drool
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 03:23 PM
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I found we just have to be creative after we had a kid- sex doesn't always have to be in bed. Plus, the naps and early bedtime when they're young doesn't really alter your sex life too dramatically.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 07:56 PM
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This is laziness in its purest form. Really, you didn't even have 5 minutes for your poor husband? I highly doubt that you couldn't muster up at least a tiny bit of enthusiasm for a minimal hand job. Granted, after our first child our sex life has gone down. But we're still getting in an average of 3 times a week. You can be a wife, mother, and lover. You don't have to pick one or the other. Edit: She's not a wife. She's a roommate.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 07:52 PM
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I'm not religious, but this was a fantastic read!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 07:39 PM
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This. I was thinking (as I was going through her photos) how she has encouraged me to do better with myself. If she can do all this crazy, wonderful art, I can at least do something.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 03:45 AM
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If you're in a relationship with someone you love, nothing is a chore. You do things for that person not because you have to, but because you want to. It makes you happy, to make them happy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 03:40 PM
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That's pretty much exactly how I felt. Even if I didn't have any health concerns, I would still want to have a child relatively younger. Luckily, my fianceé and I are fortunate that we have the finances in place to be able to afford a family. I want to be able to have the energy, stamina, and excitement for things for my daughter as she grows. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 03:23 PM
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Thanks and thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 10:22 PM
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We are most definitely happier since I made these changes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 09:11 PM
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Been a lurker for about a week now. I originally came here to see the "disaster" this sub was that everyone talked about. But after reading a few posts, it made sense to me. I'm 21 and engaged. I have a beautiful 6 month old daughter. My fiancé and I decided to try for a child first, rather than to wait until after marriage, is because I have some health issues. My doctor had told me that the younger I went through pregnancy, the better. Now I've had my miracle baby, and just in time because I c…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 08:27 PM
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