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Hey Camille! I haven't been here for a while, but have been feeling the holiday stress and knew I needed to come back and 'read up' again to realign my values. This was perfect. It feels good in the moment, but then you feel horrible. And you know even as your doing it, that you shouldn't. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives26/12/17 05:19 PM
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When I first got to college guys were always flirting with me. I thought I was hot shit and I was going to have no problems getting my first boyfriend. I thought the same type of things you are saying: I'm in a top university, thin, pretty, etc. Well, needless to say not every guy who gives you the time of day is going to want to date you let alone have a relationship with you. Especially in the early 20s when so many guys just want to get experience. In fact, it wasn't until after college I fou…
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 07:31 PM
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I'm a preschool teacher. My favorite thing about teaching is figuring about what interests the kids and giving them opportunities to further explore those interests indepth. I love to watch their brains grow and trying to figure out what makes their minds tick. I always say my favorite days are when I get to hear "I have an idea!" all day long as they explore and problem solve all day because they are so dedicated to finding out how the world works.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 11:53 PM
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I loved the Bannon comment as well! As some one who hopes to never see my husband forced into a suit and tie I found that particularly manly. haha
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 02:19 AM
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Congratulations! How exciting!
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 01:09 AM
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Wow, this would have been amazing. Of all the articles I've read about ASP struggling to make the show come full circle and making it seem like 10 years never past, I've never seen anyone actually come up with a perfect way this revival should have gone.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 12:59 AM
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I've watched this show since I was a teen. I feel like I went to high school with Rory and always felt like I could identify with her pro-cons lists, desire for higher education, and overall serious attitude. The first time I was really shocked by her behavior was when we were in college and she cheated with Dean. That's when felt like I couldn't identify with the character at all anymore. Her plate status with Logan, choosing career over marriage, she seemed to be heading for the embarrassing o…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 12:51 AM
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I subscribed to that subreddit when we got engaged. It's not the reason we eventually eloped, but it definitely helped! XD
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 02:59 PM
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I was always a fan of the inexpensive ring. Like the ring you get out of a bubble gum machine kind of proposal. When we got engaged my husband didn't have a ring so when we were shopping around I chose this $30 ring. He was surprised, but I said the ring didn't matter. I'll be damned if the prongs on the ring didn't get caught on everything. Needless to say when we chose wedding bands I let him lead the way and he ended up choosing the $280 wedding band set on etsy and it is much more comfortabl…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 02:23 AM
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Also, my husband's love language is receiving gifts! XD
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 11:24 PM
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That is pretty cool. The year i bought him a drill and i also got a small ax just for fun and he loves chopping stuff with that ax, haha. So you never know!
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 03:44 PM
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Very cool, thanks for sharing. I think for that price it might make more sense to build my own 'man crate' so that i can tailor to my husband's taste. Awesome idea, though!
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 03:37 PM
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Some of the best gifts he's really enjoyed receiving- Leatherman pocket tool, a new electric drill, Honey Baked Ham, a tasting sample of different beers based on the beers I already new he liked, and Mr. Beer home brewing kit. This year I'm still not positive what I'm getting him, but I was kinda thinking about a sampling of fancy beef jerky and a new sampling of different beers I've been researching. Or maybe getting him a new glass carboy to brew beer in. Edit: my husband is also big on woodwo…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 02:40 PM
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I really like to get my dresses from Etsy. They can be a little pricey some times, but I can usually find something that works from clearance/ sale marked dresses. More expensive things I keep favorited in a separate account as a sort of wish list my husband goes through for gift shopping. Those dresses I have had forever they are such great quality anytime I splurge it is usually worth it.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 12:24 AM
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Thank you, i'll check them out!
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 03:38 PM
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Does anyone know of any good examples of long lasting fruity scents? I find it hard to find a scent in the store that isn't overwhelming floral smelling.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 02:41 PM
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I am all about rugged guys. My holy trinity is blonde, long hair, beard...example I was so excited to find my husband!
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 01:17 AM
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I heard about this and told my husband and he laughed. We are both very shy people and personally it seems like trying to get back the attention you received as a bride because one day wasn't enough. I could see if you both find some meaning in it putting it on during your anniversary night to relive that honeymooning feeling or something. I don't know... parading around strangers in your wedding dress doesn't exactly sound romantic to me.
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 04:42 PM
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We also do game night, but we prefer cooperative games where you work together to either win or lose. Our favorites so far are Pandemic and Forbidden Island. We just got Flash Point to try playing on our anniversary and my husband keeps talking about how he can't wait.
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 03:40 PM
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I have that dress too! Got it on our honeymoon <3
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 12:11 AM
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Wife Dressing: The Fine Art of Being a Well-Dressed Wife When told my husband this was a book he said "Don't read it! It's a cookbook!"
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 11:54 PM
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I got coconut. Guess I'm a hard nut to crack?
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 04:34 PM
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Feel this way too, but would like to add how irritating it is that Hillary seems to build her campaign around the fact that she is a woman and that not voting for her would be politically incorrect. You would think that having more experience would be a better political platform rather than focusing on the gimmick of how America is ready for it's first woman president (regardless who that person is).
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 07:38 PM
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Oh, I was this girl in college too. I think male/female friendships without any sexual interest are definitely possible, people can bond over mutual interests. But that does not make them wholesome for either person's relationship/dating life. Either way you are forming bonds with some who is not your SO. I think the key word is definitely boundaries no matter how innocent the relationship is. I would say I have some male friends, but they are friends I met with my husband. I don't have their ph…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 02:38 PM
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Very interesting. I've never really thought about nail polish and had never used it, but I've recently started wearing gloves and had always wondered why they had gone out of style. Now I know!
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 02:52 AM
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I never imagined that I'd read anyone describing divorce and shared custody as a fantasy for them and their children. When I was in college I was writing a paper on Scandinavia and I came across an article about it being widely known and accepted that women there would have children with men who 'would be good dads' and marry a totally other man whom she is actually attracted to. I was completely blown away and reading Rollo's essay reminded me of it, but searching it now it seems like they've j…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 10:56 PM
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We both talk to our cat. Our cat is pretty vocal, but she doesn't really meow, more of a meow/ purr combo-- a 'murr' so we will murr back and forth with her. We also rewrite songs so they have our cat's name it them and sing them to her. Yep, we are those people.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 03:35 AM
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it's always a synonym for smelly followed by an animal, like "It's good to see you ya stinky baboon" or "I love you my smelly rabbit" or "ahhhh, my foul-smelling gazelle, come here for a kiss." Me too! Only he calls me Stinky [my childhood nickname]. He has called me by my childhood nickname since we started dating if he ever called my Baby, Honey, Sweetie it would be super strange.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 03:15 AM
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Well, rest assured they are not doing themselves any favors by feeling that way.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 10:11 PM
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Thanks for your opinion! Yeah, everyone know's the friend zone thing, I always thought that I didn't count because a lot of my friends had girlfriends. And that mentality "Well, she's a girl and I really get along more with guys, we wouldn't have anything in common." is such terrible excuse. And now I love when we go out with other couples. After I became a girlfriend myself I became very reflective on my own behavior and how it both affected others and kept me single for so long.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 09:37 PM
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It is definitely shooting yourself in the foot. It's like everything is balanced for a reason and even if it seems like it's benefiting one side it's probably just throwing off the balance for everyone.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 09:28 PM
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Cringes at younger self. Actually after that group of guys split, one guy broke up with his girlfriend and she became my first really close girlfriend. Wish I would have thought about things from her perspective earlier.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 01:14 PM
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Yep, surprising how many 'nice guys' out there who think they can make it out of the friendzone if they just keep working at it.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 01:11 PM
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Do they really think that random hodge podge of dialog was really a coherent explanation of rape and consent? Also... If it feels like rape, it's rape. Oh wow, what a civilized basis for forming a law and passing judgement on another human being. Change 'rape' to 'witchcraft' and I'm pretty sure that's the same reason they gave for the Salem witch trials.
/r/RedPillWives13/09/16 12:35 AM
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My maiden name was difficult to pronounce so it was always on my mind when I was interested in somebody. I remember having a crush on a guy with a Polish last name that was way too long and had way too many consonants that was pretty ridiculous. I got really, REALLY lucky in that department when I got married, but I wouldn't have turned down my husband if his name was hard to pronounce.
/r/RedPillWives13/09/16 12:03 AM
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Good points. From personal experience, men in niches are still attracted (if not more) to women who dress femininely. I've been the girl in a group of guys who gawk over the sexy girl who walks by. Wearing the apparel fitting to your niche might (or might not) make you look original, but can still be detrimental to getting the guy you want.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:56 PM
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My husband was my first boyfriend so I was reallllly inexperienced. We had been together for a of couple weeks and then it was valentines day. He found a record store that had a rare record I was talking about and blew me away. The next day I shyly said "Do you think you might love me?" and he said "Actually, yeah, but I thought it might be too soon to say it." and I was like "Me too."
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 07:35 PM
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That sounds adorable and totally my style :D
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 08:27 PM
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Yep. Everything on that website looks like a was created as a joke by College Humor or something.
/r/RedPillWives23/07/16 06:19 PM
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Looked up this Lammily (God awful name by the way) and there is a male version He may not have a six-pack, but he has a fantastic sense of humor. He may not have the biggest biceps, but he has a big heart. He may not look like a runway model, but he values himself for who he truly is Sounds like somebody is used to getting friend zoned.
/r/RedPillWives23/07/16 04:03 AM
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Ha! Well, that explains it.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/16 04:32 AM
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Then the second list should be not masculine, not feminine and not for me.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/16 02:44 AM
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Hm, maybe I should rephrase it as masculine traits?
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 11:26 PM
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You are so freakin awesome!
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:15 PM
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That sounds super fun! We like to play Battleship , but we are talking about getting our hunting licenses next month and going rabbit hunting. Have you guys ever gone hunting? I've never shot a revolver before, but Hus has talked about getting one. I'm into old timely type guns. Like my rifle is from the 1930s. It's actually short because it was marketed as a child's first gun model.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 01:49 PM
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This is exactly how I pictured you! By the way, my husband got into guns last year, personally I've never really been interested in them. But then I remembered you talking about shooting guns with your hubs and how fun it is and I ended up getting a little .22 rifle to shoot along with him. I've been meaning to say thanks! :D
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 12:47 PM
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I didn't realize that not everybody's husband swatted them on the ass, to be honest! I think I'm probably middle of the road when it comes to threshold. Alpha traits I love in a man is a guy who can work with wood, a man that doesn't worry about how he dresses or if he's dirty, a man that can take problem and get on his hands a knees to fix it. Alpha traits I have no desire in would a man in a suit, someone who fixes his problems with money, or is into his looks or obsessed with his muscles. As …
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 11:29 PM
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Yeah, it was just when I was out and about, but I made point to pick up hobbies that would put me out and about like biking and ice skating. I also like playing guitar and painting, but those things didn't get me out of the house. I never joined any clubs, but that sounds like it would work too.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 04:54 AM
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I'll admit I'm no expert on the topic. I can only say what worked for me. What I changed was being more likely to make eye contact and smile or say 'hi' when I left the house. I was always looking down or away before. If I was feeling more brazen I would approach a guy and ask with help opening a water bottle for me. But I never forced a conversation or made it seem like a was expecting him to ask me out.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 02:41 AM
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I think it depends on a lot of factors. I went to school in a big city and it seemed all the boys I met moved to a big city school to party and have fun, while I had friends in small colleges meeting serious boyfriends right away. But I also was very introverted and dressed tomboyish. Once I started dressing more femininely and put myself out there more I met my husband immediately. If you're extroverted or decide to put effort into it I think you can meet people in under all circumstances.
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 02:20 AM
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“I know no single woman in NYC who would ever do a man’s chores,” Kinrys says. “It feels like the 1960s. “They should go on Craigslist instead.” Ah, yes, the good old days.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 02:11 PM
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I met my husband after college. When I couldn't seem to meet anyone in college I worked on some self-improvement and I met him around that time. We are both into biking and would see each other every Saturday early at the park before most people would show up. After seeing each other around a few Saturdays we finally introduced ourselves. Then he invited me out for tacos and the rest is history. We were together 2 years before he proposed we were in our mid twenties.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 01:20 PM
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"but do not want to lie and say I am on the pill. So i want to use a condom, but poke holes or damage it in some other way before hand" ...uh, pretty sure that's still a lie. As cringe worthy as this is an older female relative gave me this advice. Hm, no thanks.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 01:15 PM
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This drives me crazy. Articles about this are constantly posted through the multiple teaching forms I am on and they do not fit in at all with constructivist theory of teaching they are posted on.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 02:59 AM
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Thanks for all that information. Admittedly, I'm not familiar with the type of person you are talking about. Looks like I was thinking about sluts that use attention grabbing things as a strategy.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 01:05 PM
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Very interesting, but I wonder if prudification is the right word. I mean, we can all agree a girl going to a party then making out with her best friend is trying to get the attention of the men in the room, but what happens after that. Surely she's not sleeping with every man she is trying to get the attention of, but she's not going home to feed her 9 cats either. I've actually never known someone like this in person, so I'm only assuming she's feeding off the attention, but also planning to g…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/16 12:49 PM
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It's an interesting concept, but to be honest I have a hard time taking anyone seriously who continuously references Twilight as examples to prove his point. Edit: didn't mean to offend anybody. I was home-schooled through high school and don't have any personal experience to relate to this theory and so I scrutinized by quality of examples given. I think that if someone were presenting a new sociological theory to the field I don't think his proof would hold it's weight to be published in a pee…
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 01:55 PM
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I will forever vouch for the awesomeness that is Saltwater Sandals I have them in so many colors. They look great with all my outfits and are super comfy. We went to Hawaii and I went from ocean to sand to walking the streets never got a blister and they are still kicking. My husband had sore feet and his water shoes fell apart :(
/r/RedPillWives16/06/16 10:20 PM
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Personally, I love the Donna Reed Show. She's always cheerful and puts me in a good mood before work. The first 5 seasons can be seen for free on Hulu. There are actually a lot of shows from the 50s up on there to watch for free if that's your thing.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/16 01:38 PM
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The worst is how men are all considered predators now. I can't imagine how I would feel if I were the mother of a boy. I read somewhere about a woman teaching her son this and that because she was abused and want to make sure her son never became an abuser. How sickening to make your innocent child responsible for the actions of your abuser simply because they are both male.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/16 01:30 PM
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Nice! Thanks for sharing that. Though it looks like Sara needs to chill, haha.
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 06:03 PM
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I'm glad you asked because I didn't think to google it before and it looks hilarious. It's here , but it looks like it might be hard to find.
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 03:44 AM
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My husband showed me this one the other day.
/r/RedPillWives04/06/16 10:39 PM
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We were planning to do a small ceremony for family, but finally just eloped. Personally, I think it was the best choice for us and we have wonderful memories from that day. The reasons we opted not to do a whole wedding: Even a small wedding was looking very expensive. Maybe it's just our area, but just hiring an officiant to meet in us in the park was looking like too much. Then a wedding cake. Enough places for everyone to sit, etc, etc. We had a rule to keep it small- only family members that…
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 01:37 PM
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Ah, good point.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 03:08 PM
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I see there is no Best Comment category, but if there was there would be no doubt that your comment here would be a nomination.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 01:15 PM
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My husband knows. He doesn't like the assumption that RPW are dating men from TRP. He likes everything I've taken away from here (especially recipes ;) but he does not like TRP.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 10:20 PM
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I prefer Shirley Temples. Am... am I going to hell?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:34 AM
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I didn't read the whole thing, but I can tell you my first, honest impression was that it was stressing me out just reading it! And that's how I know you weren't really trusting your husband. Have you read Surrendered Wife? One of the things that really made an impression on me is how she talks about what a relief it is to let your husband lead. See, I have anxiety and one way I have learned to deal with it is to just take care of everything myself, right away so that it's done and taken care of…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 10:45 PM
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I'm so glad you typed this up. This thread really got me a while back. I'm not saying arguing is something to attain to do or be proud of, but we are human and slip up. The amount of people who said they never, ever had an argument here made me feel a bit nervous to be honest.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 02:48 AM
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Yeah, you never know what you're going to get with in-laws. My situation is actually opposite yours in that my mother-in-law is quite snooty to the point that she screamed at me for putting the forks on the wrong side. My husband is great at sticking up for me when that side of her rears it's ugly head. We are on good terms, but I never feel 100% comfortable around her because i know she is always judging me. However, his aunt and uncle, whom we are both closer to, are wonderful. They have a fan…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 01:34 PM
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I think she's been watching too many movies. I married at 29 and never had some magical group of best friends. In fact, once everyone started getting into serious relationships I lost touch with most everyone I knew in my twenties. You will never have more powerful, important relationships than those you have with your family.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 02:37 PM
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I usually put on music or a show as background noise if the task is something that doesn't much focus like dishes.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 06:40 PM
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I don't have a lot of stories because I've only dated my husband, but here are two that come to mind- Horrifying moment: We went out for lunch for the second time. I knew he didn't like tomatoes, but I didn't know he really hated them. I was eating a salad, taking small bites so not to embarrass myself. I bit into a cherry tomato and it squirt all over me. He kinda grimaced and handed me a napkin. Cringe! Best Moment: We happened to have same day off together so we went to his place to watch som…
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 12:19 AM
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"talking about how bored they'd be if they had to stay home with kids all day" I'm so confused whenever I hear this. If you really think you're going to have that much down time how about enjoying your passions without all the pressure of pleasing a boss?
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 02:04 AM
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I'm not really a night person, so much of the prep I do for the next day is done usually when I'm making dinner. I'll make my lunch for the next day (husband has his lunch catered at work), make sure I have all the materials for the next day ready (it's parent teacher conference time, so getting forms and portfolios ready), and prepping the cat's next 2 meals. At night I feed the cat dinner, get into my pajamas, brush/floss/rinse teeth, wash my face and apply Nivea Creme, cuddle on the couch wit…
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 01:40 PM
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I found out about TRP from an AskReddit thread and was, well, shocked. Then I went to RPW from there to see what it was all about. I first read about it being for women who want traditional marriages and were against sleeping with everyone culture and I was like "Yes! Totally!" Then I read about having to wear make up every day and dresses and I was like "...what?" I posted a few dumb posts trying figure out exactly what this place was that got removed (sorry mods!) because I forgot a search but…
/r/RedPillWives01/05/16 01:08 PM
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You absolutely can do it. Remember I'm not talking about hypothetical children, not only do I do it every day I see first time parents do it every day.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 03:12 PM
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Oh boy, this is a big one. As a teacher I've read many articles on spanking and I have to say after many years working with kids talking through their problems is the way to go. When children misbehave it's a problem stemmed from something the child is going through (anger, frustration, need of attention) and spanking might stop the behavior, but it does not satisfy the need. If you can keep calm and talk to the child about what's going on you can usually get to the root of the problem. Talking …
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 01:16 PM
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"learn to make your own clothes" What a neat idea for anyone to pick up! Now I've gotta learn to use a sewing machine...
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 01:24 PM
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You are free to use or not use any of the great advice that was given to you (like work less hours, change your job, get a hobby, move, cultivate a happy attitude), but don't be shocked if you do nothing (which is what you are saying you are choosing) and nothing in your life changes.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 12:29 AM
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She's made excuses for every bit of advice as defense for her inaction. Sounds like someone who would rather be kissed by a lie than slapped by the truth to me.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 03:22 PM
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Tempest, I really enjoyed this article particularly this part: "But your clothes can be a tool to remind you of it; a way of tapping into the essence of who you are. This has nothing to do with showing cleavage, for example, as there is nothing less sexy than enforced femininity. Femininity is all about being relaxed with yourself." Growing up a tom boy, when boys would say I'd be so cute if I'd dress girly I never paid attention because I thought dressing girly 'wasn't me'. But finding a femini…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 11:30 PM
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Mmm, we love Sweet Baby Ray's sauce. We recently tried this orange chicken recipe with Sweet Baby Ray's and it's delicious.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 09:02 PM
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I remember this coming up before, I actually found my previous answer: He takes care of me. Whether I'm feeling stressed or just want cuddles he will never deny me affection. When I'm sick he picks up the slack so I don't have to cook/clean. He even hides chocolate so when I get my period he can surprise me. He is a solid human being. He genuinely cares about other people's welfare. No matter if they are a coworker or homeless person he wants to help them out. He isn't a party animal. I'm not in…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 09:03 PM
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I didn't read the article, but I completely agree with your write up. If a person feels like all they are doing is continually sacrificing for a relationship it's going to lead down a road of resentment. It's more about changing the way you think about doing. You're both contributing together as a team to the relationship. So, you're not sacrificing you're contributing to the whole, which also benefits you, him, and the relationship you both value.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 02:52 PM
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I think it really depends on the person. While I'll agree with the negative ones, I don't think all the positive ones fit everyone. For example, I don't think my husband would be amused by bitchy humor.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 02:05 PM
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Hi everyone! I have been a part of this community, posting off and on, since about as long as I've been married 2.5 years. I have to say I'm still feeling pretty rocked about the subreddit change and whole ordeal. While I think there is a wealth of great posts being posted I miss seeing regular posts from newbies, who seem to be going to the first subreddit only to get questions answered by men. I really hope we can start bringing in some new blood to this subreddit!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 07:55 PM
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My husband said a Compound Miter Saw would be a really helpful thing for him to have, if he doesn't have one. He said it might be a little pricey though. I personally think the Leatherman Skeletool is awesome. He carries it every where, uses it every day and is just a good everything tool. edit: I also caught him bragging about the Leatherman with all his friends, haha
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:47 PM
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Do you know what sort of work he does with tools? My husband said he might have some tool recommendations that might help you.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:38 PM
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Some winners: Mr. Beer Home Brewing Kit, Dewalt Power Drill, I read reviews on his favorite beers and found similar beers that were recommended and put together a tasting of new beers that he was almost guaranteed to like, ordered a Honey Baked Ham, a Leatherman Skeletool.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:25 PM
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Thanks for your commitment to this sub. I'm glad for all the effort you guys put into keeping everything going!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 01:23 PM
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How come it wasn't possible to sever the ties to TRP and still keep the original RPW?
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 01:10 PM
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She's actually not asking for your opinion. She's asking you to analyze female behavior through the lens of Red Pill theory. I can see why you are confused though, this much more common a request on TRP than on RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 12:33 PM
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That's great, but that's not what OP is asking. Not sure why everyone is taking it so personally.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 07:22 PM
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I think this is a bit tricky. I'm going to refer to celebrities because those are the most prominent examples of high value relationships I can think of. I think a lot of the time we can expect high value men to cheat not because of what a woman is doing, but because women are throwing themselves at high value men all the time. If a man is traveling constantly for work like we see with actors, rock stars, presidents, etc. it's more than likely happened, but not because he was directly looking fo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 01:47 PM
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It's great advice. I never thought of myself as very negative, but for the New Year I decided to be more conscious of when I complain and instead find the positive things from my day. I started noticing things like when people complain how unpleasant it is to be the person complained to and how much happier I am to head to work having been focusing on the good things from previous days.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/16 08:48 PM
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When you raise a person by taking away any opportunity for them to make their own decisions and take accountability for them and then throw them in the real world of course it's going to be a disaster.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/16 01:27 PM
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I think when you're single it can be a conundrum doing hobbies with guys. Besides being fun, guys like girls that share their interests so it can be a good way to meet a future SO. But if you become too close with them then you can lead them on, etc. I'm ashamed to say that I had a lot of guy friends before I met my husband and after college the group broke up and I was alone. Thats when I realized I had relied on them too much for help and that was keeping me closed off from meeting someone els…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 10:16 PM
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She's not married to him. Dating is part of the vetting process. She admits she made a mistake moving in with him. She acknowledges he doesn't have the traits she's looking for in a leader. I'd say it sounds like his inability to live within his own means is the biggest problem rather than his income.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/16 02:07 PM
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My husband and I are both teachers, but he works at a very elite private school. Guess who gets paid more? Damn you patriarchy!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 01:51 PM
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No joke, my husband and I know a guy like this who is a super sappy hippie type guy. I've seen him cry multiple times (though he does wipe his salty emotional badges away). But... he is a well-known professional skateboarder and the ladies love him. Go figure.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 01:48 PM
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Yes. Unfortunately, big cities are not ideal places to find a husband. Guys move there for two reasons- to party and run away from the responsibility they were about to be saddled with in their hometown or to focus on their career and being successful. Nobody goes to a big city to look for a RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 03:08 PM
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Yes! I'm not sure why they picked Carol King's Where you Lead as a theme song for that show, but I have always believed it to be a great RPW song.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/16 05:41 AM
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Thank you for sharing, I can't imagine it was easy. Sometimes I come here and feel like everybody's relationships sound so perfect I worry I'll never obtain that quality of perfection. Hearing stories of improvement like this makes me want to take even greater strides in my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 01:32 AM
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Yeah, my husband also hates having his photo taken. When I get the urge I tell myself to live in the moment and make memories instead
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/16 02:51 PM
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Yes, he is subscribed!
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 10:15 PM
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My husband does woodworking and it's pretty freakin awesome to see what he makes for me. My favorite was the guitar stand.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 04:25 PM
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Try it with a little fancy jam.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 07:09 PM
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Something like fancy cheese with water crackers is simple and ridiculously delicious. If you go to a gourmet cheese shop you can taste the various cheeses and pick favorites and buy as little as you want so you don't have spend too much money.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 06:46 PM
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We don't celebrate valentines day because we first got together Feb 2nd and it's too close to our anniversary. For Feb 2nd, I did get him a bunch of different beers as a sampler after pouring over reviews and asking different people with similar taste. He loves beer, but only has a few choice favorites and has mentioned wondering what other good beers there are. I hope he likes most of them!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 11:17 PM
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He takes care of me. Whether I'm feeling stressed or just want cuddles he will never deny me affection. When I'm sick he picks up the slack so I don't have to cook/clean. He even hides chocolate so when I get my period he can surprise me. He is a solid human being. He genuinely cares about other people's welfare. No matter if they are a coworker or homeless person he wants to help them out. He isn't a party animal. I'm not into that whole scene and I appreciate that we are on the same page. He. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 03:28 PM
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They all fit a little differently. I have pairs of both the Ribbed M thigh highs and the M45s and personally I prefer the M45s. The Ribbed M thigh highs stay up better, but the heel goes up to high and I don't like it (I'm a US size 8 womens). The M45s slip a little, but I usually pair them with some leggings underneath and they stay up fine. But all of the stuff I've gotten from Sock Dreams are really great quality and I highly recommend them!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 10:57 PM
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I agree you should ask him what he prefers. I just kinda found out through his feedback over time, but I wished I just asked. When I come home I usually change into a comfortable flowy skirt and my husband is crazy about thigh high socks like these now that it's cold.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 02:57 PM
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Actually, it doesn't sound that unbelievable. Some men work really hard and when they finally have a day off would rather chill and recuperate. I would actually think of a browbeaten man dragged out to an event because his SO was complaining that they never do anything anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 07:55 PM
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My husband and I recently decided to celebrate our anniversary with a night in. It took a little more planning than one night, but we had a great night and I figured I'd share it in case it helps someone with ideas: -grown up board game. Neither of us had played board games since we were kids, but when we started looking it up there are a bunch of elaborate and addicting cooperative (you both win together or lose together) board games. We bought Pandemic (read the lengthy directions before hand)…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 04:14 PM
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My husband gets pretty tired after work and isn't usually in the mood if it's been a particularly rough week, but he is always down for a bj. Sometimes it even becomes more when he's fully in the mood. If you're looking for more of a sexual connection, maybe that would help.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 07:48 PM
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My favorite RPW type song is Carol King's "Where You Lead".
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 01:19 AM
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I know, right. I was going to say it wouldn't kill her to be nice, but she said she'd "literally die" so many times I'm not so sure.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 11:36 PM
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Yes, I've seen that Ted Talk about that kindergarten before. And nature based education is wonderful. Seems like you already have an interest in the ECE field.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 10:20 PM
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Oh, hello me! Are you also a follower of the constructivist/Reggio approach?
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 07:14 PM
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You'll nurture your children; you don't need to teach to fill that void I don't understand this mentality towards teaching. Yes, it is not a high paying career, but most of the RPW type women and best mothers I met have been teachers.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:33 PM
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It depends who is hiring and what they are looking for. Generally, a bachelor's in any field and between 12-24 ECE credits in the US. I took all my ECE classes online after I graduated while working as a teacher's assistant.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:29 PM
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I was an anthropology major too. People would always ask why I would choose such a major when there wouldn't be many career opportunities with it unless I persued at least a masters. To be honest I never even thought about career options, I just really found anthropology interesting. People kept saying that's the kind of major you get and end up being a teacher. And I always thought "Whats wrong with being a teacher?" Anyways, I am a preschool teacher and I love it. I find it has really built up…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 03:28 PM
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Its the same at my house with my cat. Because I do all the domestic duties (in other words, I handle all the food of the house) she follows me around. One thing that helps is he gives her the treats. We have trained our cat to do simple tricks (sit, up, lay down) and he is the treat giver. When she hears the treat bag rattling she runs to him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:01 PM
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Ah, yes, I've been through this process. First thing I did was start wearing more feminine accessories in my hair- I'm very active and i work with young children so I still usually wear my hair back, but adding bows, ribbons, cute headbands already makes it look like I've put consideration in my look. Then, I started wearing more feminine tops with jeans. Floral tops, flowing tops, lacy tops. I tend to really like pale pink, peach, and creamy colors. Because I ride my bike to work and work with …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 02:18 PM
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First I've got say I'm so happy you got the big flair added to your name. I was going to reply to one of your comments about how your responses are so one point with the other endorsed users! At 3 months of dating we had sex (I was a virgin) > 6 months we moved in, we lived in different towns and had opposite working schedules > 2 years engaged > 3 years we eloped. 31 years young I'm not a SAHM, but either way my side of the family is very laid back, but his side is all strong, independent women…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 10:41 PM
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That blog is fantastic! Thank you so much for sharing it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:07 AM
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Oh, I know! I knew nothing about tools until I met him, he loves woodworking. He uses a lot of his dad's tools still, so if I'm ever at a loss what to get him I can always ask my father-in-law. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 12:09 AM
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He asked for a Dremel and I usually add a small surprise each year. Last year he wanted a new drill and I added a cover for his hatchet. One year I surprised him with a beer brewing kit and he loved it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 10:20 PM
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I have definitely told this story on here before, but... I used to go biking at the park around 7 on Saturdays before work and I kept seeing these three guys there at the same time riding around. We were the only ones riding bikes and at one point we ended up stopped next to each other. We were like "Who are you?! I always see you here so early!" And so we all introduced ourselves. At one point I heard him say something funny to his friend and I thought "He's so funny. I just want to be around h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 02:27 PM
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My first thought was who wants to deal with their SO's ex being in their lives for the next 18 or so years? But it goes deeper than that such as do we have matching parenting styles, what role will i play in the children's lives, does he want more children, are the kids messed up from the divorce (or loss of parent), is the single dad messed up from the divorce (loss of partner), am i okay with fact he loved another woman enough to have kids with her (possibly marry) etc.? As someone whose only …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/15 01:45 PM
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When I'm active, but want to add a cute element I put something in my hair that would not get in my way- flower hair clips that will also keep lose strands of hair out of the way, polka dot headband, ponytail with a ribbon tied around it. But I do want to add that u/hawthornevine is right that RPW is not about playing dress up and that you do not need hair clips to be feminine, you should be feminine through your demeanor.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 02:58 AM
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Yeah, since reading the Surrender Wife I have been handing the problems over to him. And relaxing more about things that don't matter as much.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 12:48 AM
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So helpful to know. I'm the type of person who likes to get things done/ have things fixed. Maybe what I need to do is not take problems to seriously in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 12:35 AM
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I'm sensing a trend, my husband also likes me a bit rough around the edges to keep up with him. He has said his preferred outfit for me is a tight striped sweater and fitted jeans. He does like when I dress girly for around the house so he can just pick me up and carry me to the bedroom. But when we leave the house he has been known to say "___ is not a fashion show." so I remember to keep it practical. We met biking and he is always trying to get me to step up my game and we recently started go…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 12:53 AM
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I have a somewhat similar story. I got a phone call one night at 2am (which i didn't answer) who left a message saying he saw me around town and got my number from a friend asking me to call him if i was interested in meeting him. It really freaked me out that he didn't say which friend and none of the friends I asked seemed to know who it was. I ignored him and every couple of months I would get a text like "Hey, how are you? ;)" It was really weird because I thought I had made it very clear by…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 04:02 PM
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I am 2 years older than my husband. I was never attracted to older men. I think it does sound ideal when I hear women here talk about getting married young, when I was that age I was meeting guys that were fun to be around, but I could never move forward with because they only wanted sex. Then I met my husband and he said he wanted to have his life established before we married. I asked what he thought about us marrying and building our lives together instead and he proposed. 2 years is really n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/15 03:28 AM
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Yes, I do all the domestic duties (gasp!) but just because I given you a portion of my life do not think that you have enough information to judge my marriage. My husband contributes plenty to our marriage, to list a few he handles any household problems such as a recent plumbing problem, he is always driving us places because I don't like to drive, takes care of all the mechanics of the car, and when we eat out he always pays. And if you still find yourself insulted by my marriage rest assured …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/15 04:36 AM
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We both work at schools. I get home at 2:30ish. Feed the cat, clean litter box, check mail, change into a dress, etc. When he comes home at 3 I've had my minute to relax. I always get up to greet him and offer a beer, catch up on each other's day. We realized its much easier to relax apart after that. He watches some explosion movie, a sci-fi show or he'll do some wood carving and I'll paint, play guitar, or get work done. He'll tell me when he's ready for dinner. That means I prepare dinner and…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 07:33 PM
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I enjoyed reading this, thanks for sharing. Its nice to remember all the different things you can do to make someone feel appreciated, although he is not a fan of the love note!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 02:51 AM
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Whenever I see this pop up I always think prioritize. There are only so many hours in that day, you are never going to get everything done that you want. I used to thoroughly clean our place every weekend until I realized my husband was waiting for me to finish to spend time with me and he didn't really care that the house was clean. I think we can get so caught up in what we see as important, what our SO finds important can get lost. So I prioritize keeping a sanitary kitchen and bathroom. That…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/15 03:45 AM
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Those are really pretty. The best dresses I own are from etsy.com to be honest. They are all either vintage or really good quality handmade and there are a lot of venders that are reasonably priced. I really can't say enough good things about the stuff I get there. I've even got my mother-in-law getting clothes from there.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 03:08 AM
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While I think waiting until marriage/engagement is a good option for virgins, particularly those looking for more conservative men who are most likely also virgins, I think this ship has sailed for OP. I don't know how she could possibly pull off having sex with two other men and then say she won't have sex with her next SO until engagement/marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 02:56 AM
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I guess I would say the most intimate might be when we are watching something and I tuck my shoulder into his armpit and rest my rest my head on his chest and he'll wrap his arm around me. Whenever I see him watching something I might enjoy I'll ask 'Can I tuck?' I have some anxiety problems and once he said " Of course you're anxious, you're not tucked. You're like a turtle without it's shell!" I feel so safe cocooned in there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 02:05 PM
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Also on the front page: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/3f83w6/what_makes_a_good_captain/
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 03:28 AM
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This question is literally still on the front page: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/3eyrbm/how_did_you_meet_you_so/
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 03:09 AM
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I met my husband around your age, also with no previous dating/sexual experience. I like to think that I skipped all of that experimenting everybody goes through and got right to the one serious relationship I was meant to be in. All my friends were going through relationship after relationship-serial monogamists- and were always bugging me about not being in a relationship. I kept running into my husband early at the park and we finally spoke to each other. We married 3 years later, while my fr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 02:17 PM
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I can't really wear dresses to work. I can get away with a cute short skirt or short dress over jeans, if this is the case then the jeans come off when I get home. Other wise I wear a cute top (think floral or lacy) then switch my pants to a skirt when I get home. It's too hot and uncomfortable where I live to stay in pants anyways. I'm always so relieved when I get home to change to a skirt.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/15 02:20 AM
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Ok, I'm realizing how old I am so maybe this isn't still a thing people do, but ten years ago I put an flyer up in a college I wasn't even attending asking to start an all girl band and I met an awesome girl. Maybe you put a flyer up looking to start an all girl D&D group?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 03:06 AM
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I think there is a lot of good advice on here. I'm going to second the recommendation for The Surrendered Wife. I know what you're talking about, that split second reaction when you are so stressed out. Sometimes you feel like you can't stop yourself from saying it. The problem is your stress, it's hard to be a pleasant person when you are so stressed and the stress comes from trying to control everything (not blaming you, I totally relate). So when I feel that stress and I see that pile of laun…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 10:13 PM
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This is exactly what I was thinking. And it's not just just feminists. If you want media attention its about playing the victim card. I'm seeing it a lot in politics these days, complaints about being victimized so that people say 'These poor (whoever) aren't being heard! Let's give them what they want.'
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/15 01:35 PM
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When I started dating my now husband I was completely inexperienced. We became committed to each other pretty early on and first kissed when we admitted that we liked each other. Then about 3 months later we had sex for the first time- but that time line occurred because I was very inexperienced and we worked our way up to sex slowly. We were very honest with each other- I told him right away I was a virgin and he told me that he was okay with waiting a little while, but not until marriage. That…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 03:51 PM
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My husband is the same way. It took trying a lot of different veggie, but now he has a few favorites (asparagus, bell peppers, corn and we eat a lot of potatos). I'm also looking for more recipes because he is picky (no tomatos/tomato sauce, no beans, no onions, no seafood, etc) and I like to eat everything so I will definitely be coming back to this thread for ideas. Here are some of his favorites: Beef or chicken stir fry (lots of mushrooms and peppers) chicken Parmesan ribs (with corn, potato…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/15 02:38 PM
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Personally, I found online dating scary because it was a stranger and I felt pressure to move quickly. But this is my experience as a shy homeschooled 25 year old virgin who had zero boyfriends or dating experience. It seems like more people in this thread have more experience with social anxiety than I do so I guess take my advice with a grain of salt. When I read that she has had 2 boyfriends and already a group of friends and then she moved I thought more that she needs access to casual, low-…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/15 01:13 PM
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Ah, man, she sounds like me! I wish I had a big sis to help out, I was so shy. First, I would take her shopping somewhere inexpensive and encourage her to buy clothes that compliment her. I used to dress very tomboyish because I was afraid of the attention I'd get, I just wanted to fade into the background. The more cute pieces of clothes she has in her closet (and if they are inexpensive, how can she say no?) the more likely they will get added in her rotation. Also, I would avoid parties. As a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 01:15 PM
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I don't see anybody mentioning that you said you are 29 and want children. I think this changes your options a little bit, this isn't quite the same as if you were 23 in the same position with extra time. You said he is still interested in having a family with you? If I were you I'd be willing to make that compromise. I'd make absolutely sure he still wants a family, though.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 02:28 PM
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Hus doesn't have a dress code, but two rules: No flannel and no fluffy sleeves. I know that he likes me in tighter fitting striped shirts and fitted jeans. Other than that he doesn't say much about what I wear. He does usually help me choose what to wear when we dress fancy. Usually fancy dress events are for his work or his family functions.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 10:37 PM
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What I found amusing is that people who criticize RPW usually complain that RPW aren't 'interesting and accomplished' and are some sort of slave robots and not a real people. I don't know about accomplished, but I think everybody is attracted to interesting people.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 08:03 PM
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10 “Men will always be magnetically attracted to you when you’re interesting and accomplished.” I'm baffled as how feminists found this insulting.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 02:32 PM
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I'm not into games and I think they are a bad idea on both sides. You wait for commitment before having sex and if he doesn't commit, you move on. Don't waste your time trying to trick him into committing with you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 02:54 AM
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It is interesting that you say that because reading this brought two thoughts to my head and neither had anything to do with them having sex. The first is how sad I would feel that he would be thinking of having such a bonding experience alone with another lady. The planning, then he would be gone for so long, and when he'd come back they'd have all these inside jokes and 'you just had to be there' moments. The second was that he didn't so much as say 'Is it weird that Anna asked to join me on m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 01:29 PM
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You can still do some sort of party after. You can let your family plan a party for afterwards that way they can do it how they like without any pressure on your part and your wedding is how you and your husband like.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 02:50 PM
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You guys are going to have a blast!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 09:12 PM
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You guys sound awesome! It's the small things, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 06:01 PM
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You know, we were worried when we finally told everyone that we were eloping that we would also receive 'eternal grudges', but once the deed was done everybody dropped it. I think it took some trust in the maturity of our family to understand that this was important to us.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 04:46 PM
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First, congratulations! Second, we also eloped. We weren't planning on it at first, we were going to do a small wedding with only family because we both are not into being the center of attention. But the definition of 'immediate family' was getting out of control, so we told everyone we were going to elope instead. Suddenly we didn't have to worry about divorced parents sitting next to each other or the various dietary requirements, it was awesome! We planned a day we both had off and woke up a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 02:14 PM
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We eloped at the courthouse. Then we went for burgers after and it was so great. Very low pressure. Totally recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 03:52 AM
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I agree vacationing apart seems weird, but my mom knew a couple who did this and had been married for a long time maybe different strokes? My favorite is what the Rabbi had to say about negative thoughts. Thanks for sharing this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/15 03:09 PM
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I'm so glad you said that because it is so true. I made a couple mistakes in my youth that kept me single for a couple of years, but moving to a huge city was definitely the worst.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/15 06:56 PM
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I bike to and from work and I work with young children so i'm always on the ground setting up projects, playing, getting paint and food on my clothes, so it's not like I'm dressing for the Oscars, but there are still simple things I do to look feminine. For clothing I wear cute tops (for example something floral or lacy) that won't get in the way of biking or working or I will pull a short skirt on over my jeans. I almost always put something cute in my hair, a ribbon, head band, daisy clips, li…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 02:17 PM
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Try sockdreams.com
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 05:00 AM
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Love this idea! My feet are always cold and my husband thinks any kind of stockings are sexy. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 11:19 PM
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Yes, manly beards and chest hair! Though I'm more into the lumberjack masculine look rather than slick back hair and suit type.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 12:21 AM
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I love skirts, when I first started dressing more feminine I felt too many dresses were revealing on the top. A skirt with pretty blouse is perfect. Also, leggings are great if is still chilly outside.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/15 10:05 PM
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I don't think your hobbies are a problem. From my experience men love a girl who has the same interests as they do. It's being feminine at the same time that drives them crazy. You said you don't like wearing skirts because of your height, try pairing them with some leggings. As a tomboy growing up I've heard it all my life how I'd be so cute if I'd just put on a dress, etc. Small things will make a big difference like putting a ribbon in your hair and then continue to add more girly things. Pre…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 01:30 PM
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sure thing
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 11:10 PM
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Thanks for your reply, I will look it up.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 11:03 PM
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That sounds good. Thanks for the info.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 02:50 AM
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What am I struggling with? Anxiety. In truth my life isn't that stressful, but I have always had anxiety problems. It isn't severe, I've only had one anxiety attack my whole life, but I would really like to not feel this way anymore. I try not to let it affect my husband's life. I know he doesn't know what to do or say when I am starting to feel anxious. I know playing guitar and watching something distracting can help, but it would be really helpful if anyone has any ideas of what I can do whil…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 11:48 PM
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"Do you have any single friends that are like you?" From the guys we go biking with on the weekends.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 11:42 PM
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I also don't have a set schedule. I keep counters, table tops and sink clean and pick up the floors every day (I have to or else the cat gets into it). Then Saturday I'll usually clean the kitchen and Sunday the bathroom. I realized that being flexible is important because some weekends are too crazy to have it split like I usually do it, but also because my husband doesn't really care too much about a clean house and would rather spend time with me. I used to think "My family deserves a clean h…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/15 11:12 PM
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Sounds good! I ordered some to try. Thanks for the info.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/15 03:14 AM
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I'm curious about the rice water cleanser oil. It has good reviews, have you tried it personally?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/15 11:52 PM
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Well, we had seen each other around early Saturday mornings at the park before he said anything, he was always with his buddy and i was alone. After the 3rd or 4th time seeing them we ended up stopped next to each other to rest, not sure if that was planned or not, but we both wanted to talk to each other for sure. He said "I keep seeing you here!" and I said "I was wondering who else was so crazy to get up so early." As we were talking he said something funny to his friend and I thought to myse…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/15 11:46 PM
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I met my husband at the park, early before most people were there. I don't drink, I would never go to a bar expecting to meet anyone and it was never my cup of tea. Whenever I moved I always do some sort of co-ed sports to meet new friends and guys. It was always so much fun, then we'd go out to eat together. And it doesn't have to be competitive sports, ice skating, rock climbing, biking. I've met some awesome people at all of them. Also, clubs are a good option. I never took advantage of all t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/15 04:31 AM
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You already got some great advice. I'm going to add that how you present yourself can be helpful showing those guys that you are not that type of girl. For example I don't drink, I hardly ever went to the bar, but on occasion when I went with friends dressing conservatively and not drinking sent the message that I wasn't there for a quick hook up.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 02:54 PM
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I've noticed a lot of (not always informed) comments from men recently in this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/15 02:27 PM
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We thought it would be fun to go to the local burger place on valentines day once. We will never make the mistake of underestimating valentines day traffic again! Though we did buy tickets to Hawaii for next month so maybe it'll be fun to plan some things to do on the 14th while, you know, spending the night in.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/15 12:13 AM
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I think the problem most people have with TRP are the posts from people in the anger phase. While SJW might dislike the idea of this sub, I think they would have a hard time selling it as a hate sub or anything towards harassment. It also sounds like they aren't going to remove the sub, but place more rules on whats okay to post. I don't think it's going to affect us. If others think they might like to have access to sidebar offline then it might be a good idea. I don't think there's anything cl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 02:17 PM
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Is this really a thing? I think taking risks like that is very manly and attractive. My husband is into woodworking. We talk about if he were start working with a chainsaw and what the risks would be. We joke that a man should not leave this Earth with all of his fingers.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 03:31 AM
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Both my husband and I work same hours, but I take care of everything inside of the house. I do all the cleaning, take care of the cat, pick up all the clothes, and do all the cooking. Those things are not important to my husband, but he is very grateful for me doing them. If I happen to say I had a bad day I usually come home to things done, which means I know he appreciates that they get done every day. Not only that, but my husband does so many things that I'd rather not do, like he drives us …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/15 03:20 AM
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Ah, I get what you are saying, swimming isn't great for that. I still think you should experiment with different activities. I've never done an activity to gain muscle, but biking every day to and from work has really made my legs look amazing and I know a girl who really enjoys rowing out on the lake and her arms look great. I think you can still get results with physical activity you enjoy, it would just taking some exploring.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 02:21 PM
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I'm going to agree with Phantomdream, you should try something new. I hate sports and never set foot in a gym, yet I have always been active and fit. Some things I have done and loved are rock climbing, horse back riding, ice skating, biking, swimming, recently my husband and I have gotten into snorkling in warm weather. Is there anything you have wanted to try?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/15 11:40 PM
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I have to say that since I have finished school I don't hold as high of a regard for traditional, structured education. I have met a lot of very interesting and intellectual people who have not been to college, but enjoy reading or traveling. So I wouldn't discount anyone without a higher education as not intelligent. As far as income goes I personally did not put much consideration on it as I always liked to live simply and within my own means and was not looking to buy a house or anything like…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 02:30 PM
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Wow, it sounds like you a pretty quick reaction time there. I'm glad everything is okay and that you have such a wonderful partner.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/15 11:07 PM
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I don't think this belongs here. We recommend women not be plates to achieve a LTR and only have sex when commitment has been agreed to. And we definitely don't encourage the other behaviors you addressed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/15 08:44 PM
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Interesting read, but I know I'm not the only one here who has said they were attracted to men who work with their hands and come home dirty. I think that's the most manly thing a man can do. Yet it seems so often I see it out as undesirable because of financial reasons and that women go crazy for a man in a suit and tie. When I see a man in a suit and tie masculine is not my first thought.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/15 12:30 AM
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Well said. I think it goes with when she said marriage is a creation made between you, you both play your part and why not create something worthwhile.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 12:09 AM
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I'm one of those people who looks older even with a little bit of make up on. I figured at 20 having a youthful face was probably one of the better things I had going for me so I never wore it. Always, always sunscreen though and wash my face at night. When I met my husband he would not stop talking about how smooth my skin was. I never thought it was anything special. As I turned 30 recently I asked if he thought I should try make up again and he asked me not to because he thought my skin was s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/14 02:53 AM
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This was starting to happen to me. My husband is pretty on point with getting stuff done, but he hates going grocery shopping and I realized I would remind him we should get going way to frequently. He knows we need to go, geez! So what I did was ask "hey, do you think I have time to clean the bathroom before grocery shopping?" and then he tells me the plan or even better make it easier by offering to drive when he's ready to go (something I'm relearning to do). I think this girl needs to figure…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/14 03:56 AM
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Don't want to get too detailed because he knows my account. He uses his own tools at work and when they brake they replace them with poor quality ones so I looked up some reviews and got some good quality ones.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 10:22 PM
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Great idea! Just told my husband and he wants one next year!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 10:16 PM
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I'm going to be honest, you've got an uphill battle looking for commitment in the city. The city is a place where people go to party, get experiences, and build a career, not a family. I saw that you spent much of your 20s working and in school, I'm assuming focusing on a career. Moving to a smaller town would not do much for your career, but will surround you with more family focused people. Also, I'm not sure how old the man you dated was, but consider dating someone older than you. Hope that …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 12:22 AM
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Everyone is saying you dodged a bullet, but I want to add leaving on such calm note means he'll probably look back on you as the one that got away when he matures, which is pretty cool. Most important is that you get to take away what you learned to a better prospect and you didn't bump up your number, good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 12:16 AM
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My husband got super sick the beginning of November, it lasted something like two weeks. I didn't mind doing all the sanitizing and cleaning. It was hard doing the things he usually does and it was so worrisome seeing him so sick. Like he usually drives because driving scares me. I drove him to the doctors and I went to the store to get him whatever he thought he could stomach. I really grew to appreciate what he does for me on a day to day basis. But it was also scary because I wasn't sure if s…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/14 04:09 PM
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Well, I met my husband in the city where there were a lot of players. I was obviously pretty weary of players and I was a virgin and not interested in taking that chance. I think it's interesting whenever I pop over to TRP that they seem to link confidence with spinning plates and experience with women. I fell for my husband when I saw how confident he was with his friends and his masculine skills. I'm an introvert and was not looking for Mr. Life of the Party. When I say his confidence is a tur…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 01:41 AM
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I think you had mentioned this before when the 'spreadsheet guy' came out with the documented list of reason his wife gave for not having sex with him. Somebody mentioned how his self-esteem must feel. I was already 'never saying no' unless I was feeling sick, but that made me really think about how I say no even then. I don't just say "I have a headache." I make sure he knows that I'm disappointed we didn't get to do it and I'll say something like 'in the morning for sure' and I follow up with …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 05:12 PM
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This is great advice if you're working as well. When I get home I just like to zone out a little, but I think I can get carried away. What I have been trying to do is take that time that I'm online to search photography websites for pictures that I would like to paint or sheet music for songs I'd like to play on the piano. Once I have a picture or song I'm excited about I am motivated to get off the computer and focus on a hobby instead!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 02:45 PM
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I think you are being too hard on yourself. It sounded more like what you did was because you were overwhelmed and unable to think through the consequences of your decision. I work with children 2-5 and we have some really young 2 year olds whom I personally think are too young to be sharing playground equipment with 5 year olds, but they surprisingly resilient. When I read your daughter was playing with the trash can I could see where it was going, but I did not for a second think that was poor…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/14 01:59 PM
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Thanks for posting this. My marriage is still quite new and as we are a few days from our anniversary I wonder in what ways can I make sure we continue to be happy. Cooking and cleaning are nice, but it's a good reminder that when he asks me to stop to see something or to watch a movie that I remember to honor his bid for affection.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/14 03:07 PM
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I usually make breakfast in bed on the weekends for my husband. He likes a breakfast sandwich with bacon, eggs, hash browns and cheese. If I have time in the mornings I'll do some painting. Then we'll meet in the mornings with our group of friends to do some biking until the afternoons. Then we'll all go out for lunch together. After that, we'll go home and I'll do some housework and we'll go shopping together and take care of errands to get prepared for the week. In the evenings we'll usually w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 02:15 PM
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As a person living in the urban US, I think it's stupid. I don't like being catcalled, but I am far more afraid of being hit by a car that's not watching where it's going then being hurt by a catcaller. Besides that, it is ridiculous to talk about policing somebody else's freedom of speech because what they said made you uncomfortable. If you don't like the way somebody is trying to converse with you, take yourself out of the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 02:05 PM
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Agreed, a man in a suit making a lot of money doesn't come off as masculine like a man who knows how build or fix something. I almost think a girl attracted a man who makes a lot of money is looking for a beta bucks rather than a sexually attractive man.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/14 03:37 PM
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Pretty much.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/14 01:26 PM
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Personally I don't like when people imply that cat calling is flattering or enjoyable. I prefer to keep to myself in public. BUT just because I don't like it doesn't mean there should be a law enacted. Sharing public space is uncomfortable for everyone at some point, especially in urban areas. Its all about being squished in a sweaty bus with strangers and being approached from homeless people, some on drugs or with mental health issues. Life is not always sunshine and rainbows for anyone and to…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/14 03:07 PM
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If she's such a unique snowflake how come men aren't falling over themselves trying to marry her? Sounds more like she's hampstering why it's ok she's having an affair.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/14 02:08 PM
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Im a little confused about your question. Are you referring to hobbies, work, retirement, all three? I work as a teacher. If I didn't need to work, I would still volunteer there. I like to paint with acrylics, play piano, and my husband and are quite active. Not sure, does this answer your question?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/14 01:50 AM
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Interesting article, my mom had always felt that feminism was about getting the rest of the population working and investing that money back into the system. The one thing I was wondering though is the concept of violence being the only form of power. If someone was smart enough they could manipulate violence for whatever means they pleased. Wouldn't that make intelligence more powerful than violence in a way?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/14 05:08 PM
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This is so important. I thought I would have my friends forever and I invested a lot of time into my friendships, but the is truth as you get older most people drift apart. You don't have time to maintain those relationships and start turning more to your family for help. And the more time you are investing in these relationships, like Jane said, the less time you can invest in building your own family.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/14 03:06 PM
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Unfortunately, I don't have any recipes, but I wanted to say I got my hubby a home brewing kit for Christmas one year and he LOVED it. My advice would be to get all of the ingredients for his first brew so he can start brewing right away.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 01:03 AM
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relationship: Personal space in public. we are newlyweds, so sometimes I forget we don't always need to be hugging. Self-improvement: Baking more. His friend from high school is moving back to town and hubs asked me to make some cookies for his homecoming. I've also been meaning to make a strawberry pie before they go out of season.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 12:58 AM
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Does lifting weights really do these things more than a sport?
/r/askTRP11/10/14 04:42 PM
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Makes sense, thanks for your helpful reply!
/r/askTRP11/10/14 04:40 PM
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You sound like my kind of people. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/14 02:30 PM
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From what I have seen on TRP most men work towards a higher SMV by working on their appearance (working out), building confidence, working towards being attractive to lots of women, and building on their careers. Now, since some people have talked about what they look for in a man I'll add that I don't find most of those traits above attractive at all. I looked for and married the more Ron Swanson-esque mans man, with skills like hunting, fishing, woodworking, quiet and serious, history of mostl…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/14 01:18 PM
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Aim high? Seriously? Because you did such a great job with your first marriage Ryan Gosling would be crazy not to marry you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/14 01:27 AM
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I also married my first boyfriend, so I'm not for sure this is right, but from what I gather it's based on the 'I can have it all' mentality. Girls are essentially being told what a fun adventure sleeping with a variety of men is. They explore and find out about their sexuality when they are young and work on their careers, and worry about settling down and having a family later. Not that they never want a boyfriend, but why bother when they can just experiment with zillion guys before then. Of …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/14 11:13 PM
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"How dare you think sexual thoughts about me! Can't you tell this marriage is a business transaction so I can get to your money!"
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/14 12:38 PM
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We met at the park. I would go early before work when there was nobody there and he would go with a few friends. We were like 'who is this crazy person coming to the park so early?' and introduced ourselves. I overheard him say something funny to his friend (I wish I remember what it was) and I thought "I wanna be around this guy." They were going to eat after one day and he invited me and that's when I knew he was interested in me. Everything fell into place so easily, I think that's how I knew…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/14 02:14 PM
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It's fun getting to know someone especially when you are connecting. I think people can get caught up in the sense of adventure this person is bringing to their lives. The truth is when you get into a relationship with someone your mentality needs to change from me to we. It needs to be less about the this person bringing adventure into your life and more about the adventures you will go on together. That can mean taking what you both enjoy and exploring new aspects of that- traveling to new pla…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/14 11:13 PM
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While I agree a couple can be happy together without marriage, that doesn't mean it's not valued beyond a legal or religious perspective. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. A woman might not understand a man's strong desire and need for sex the same way you might not understand a woman's strong desire for commitment to the level of marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/14 10:04 PM
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I love this idea! You won't regret being the weird one who never smoked, drank, slept around. There is a reason you weren't meant to date boy A, B, and C and when you meet him you know why right away and he will knock your socks off.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 08:58 PM
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Holy cow! I just went to the blue pill for the first time, who wastes all their time and energy being so negative?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 03:59 AM
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Sorry, should I delete it?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/14 02:31 PM
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Thank you, the funeral will be at a funeral home and they are going for the full nine yards. It seems like quite a few people are going to sweating out there, so maybe I should keep it traditional then.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/14 02:00 PM
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That dress is gorgeous! Maybe I should add it to my wardrobe for any future black dress events.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/14 01:58 PM
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Thank you for your advice. I wish I could just wear a floral dress, she would have loved that! The dress isn't low cut or anything, it's just bare shoulders/ collarbone. I felt like comfort should be important until I started seeing how some of his usually relaxed family members have become quite traditional in their mourning. I'm sure I wouldn't be the only one dressed untraditionally, but perhaps I should error on the side of caution as to not offend any of his family?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/14 01:57 PM
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Thank you! It's an incredibly rewarding job, but not an easy one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 03:01 PM
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I am a constructivist teacher. The time I put into work after school varies based on the projects we are working on. Every month I have to work on their portfolios, there are parent teacher conferences. I love working on projects though, that means I spend my own time and money on ordering bugs to study, random construction pieces to create with, researching books. I think if you are looking for a simple job teaching adults would be the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 02:22 PM
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I'm a teacher of young children. I started as a volunteer and honestly I had a hard time filling the 'disciplinarian' role that accompanies the job. It's something I had to develop over the years. It so fun coming in the morning and seeing all these smiling faces excited to see you, but it does take a lot out of you and I wouldn't recommend it if you are not passionate about it. You could teach adults English, that would be something you could do around the world and would certainly bring down t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 01:38 PM
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My bad, I meant virginal women. We do have some virginal women here so please take that into consideration when giving advice. Also, the second part made me laugh!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/14 02:27 PM
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Virginal girls (which we have a few of here, so watch your advice) are not like virginal boys, they aren't eagerly waiting to just give their virginity away and will probably not be emotionally ready to give it to you no matter how much of a dreamy hunk you are after 2-3 dates. The fact that you mention FWB tells me you do not know the audience you are giving advice to. When you are ready to settle down (if that time comes) be aware that you may not be able to stick to this rule IF you are expec…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 09:42 PM
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I think of it like this: if you tell someone that responsibility should be split 50/50 they start looking for that 50 they feel entitled to. People say it feels more 60/40, etc. If you tell somebody they have to give it 100% they start focusing on whether they are giving enough.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 12:27 AM
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Prosperous probably fits better.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:55 AM
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Many people believe this because it was after the war (a time of rationing) and things seemed plentiful. It was a time when people could finally own a big house, two cars in the garage, etc. It was also when the term 'teenager' as we know it was born, before they were working and helping their families and in the 1950s they were seen as between adult and child.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:37 AM
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This post reminds me of when my mom told me marriage isn't 50/50, it's 100/100. Both people need to give 100%. Many times when people come to this subreddit they think giving 100% makes you some kind of slave to your husband, when in reality if you have married somebody you love and trust if you focus on giving them 100%, they will focus on giving that 100% back to you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/14 12:32 AM
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This topic has been addressed in this subreddit many times before and while a few have dropped by from TRP to share a similar opinion, RPW have agreed that this is not what RPW would recommend. If you need an example, my husband was my first boyfriend and he was completely understanding how overwhelming all the new experiences are in a first relationship. How any man would expect the same from a virgin as slut is beyond me and is probably not a person ready for a LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 01:53 PM
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I also wasn't comfortable dating older men. It became a matter of meeting lots of people whom I would interact with regularly. I want to add that you should develop a way to tell that the guys you like are interested in a relationship. I feel like there is this misconception that if you are perfect wife material that will land you any man, but I think that is more likely to make you the one he thinks about when he's older as the one that got a way if he is still into spinning plates. Sure it is …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 08:40 PM
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I recently stopped eating sugar and replaced it with fruit. No more soda. I ride my bike to and from work. I wear sunscreen during the day, Nivea creme at night.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 01:38 PM
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I feel like whenever these articles pop up every now and then they are written by men who are still spinning plates and hardly see women useful beyond sex. These articles always come off as very robotic. I'd love for a RP husband to write an article about what his marriage is really like.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 03:40 AM
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I don't really consider myself a RPW because I don't believe all of it, but I do enjoy coming here learning from this community. RPW stands for women who believe in RP values more than wives of RP men. Quite a few RPW are married to men who are alpha by nature and don't go to the TRP site.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 01:10 PM
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Hey, I'm also in a traditional marriage. There are somethings I don't agree with on TRP also, beyond what you have listed, but there are somethings that I do agree with and that keeps me here. Most people have explained some of your concerns, but I just wanted to add you can be a member of this community without going on to TRP. My husband personally dislikes the TRP, but really likes the things I've learned on RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 12:59 AM
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My first thought was that he is lying, but I just remembered something like this happened to my husband when he was in high school. A girl came up to him after a party all smiley and said something like "Thank you for the talk we had last night. I've been wanting to tell you that for a long time." He had no idea what she was talking about. I'm not sure if he didn't remember because he no feelings for her or he just didn't remember. I'd say either way pretend it didn't happen continue with your g…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/14 01:49 PM
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This was perfectly stated. I hope someone gives you a point.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/14 01:33 PM
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Moving is so crazy. I know what you mean about his calm keeping you calm. Its totally whats keeping me sane.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 12:47 AM
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That is the perfect story. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 12:45 AM
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This is only from my personal experience, but the guys I met in big cities are running away from the responsibilities at home. It will expand the amount of guys you meet, but there is a chance that they aren't anymore ready to get married and settle down unless they are older. If you move and aren't happy you may consider moving or commuting for activities in a nearby small town.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/14 07:52 PM
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I know where you are coming from, this how I felt before I met my husband. I feel very lucky to met somebody my age with my same values. What really helped me was broadening my circles, outside of the city and more into the suburbs. Do you live in a small town or city? How do you meet guys?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/14 07:19 PM
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This reminds me of a time when my husband and I were having a date night and we were walking past a gym where the treadmills face the windows. There was a lady running and I stopped and jokingly gave her 'elevator eyes' and pretended to check her out and she laughed. I can't imagine if it was husband instead of me and she came out screaming! The worst part is I can think of a time when I was really harassed when I was young by a drunken man at a bus stop and it was terrifying and this just makes…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 02:13 PM
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She mentions a time when people in marriages grew together instead of a part, but instead of saying how she would like to bring those days back, she wants to skip it all? Is that what she thinks the next evolution in marriage should be? I'm surprised she thinks that her child is not going feel like he or she is missing anything when kids ask about his or her father. And we seeing that genetics are playing such a huge role in our lives and not knowing about that side of yourself. Or that she thin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 02:03 PM
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Did you run all of this by him? As long as this is a decision you are both making together and he knows that you want kids just as soon as college is done and you are financial stable and is on the same page then I think you know your answer. You can always continue to educate yourself without the college debt, the internet is a wonderful thing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 02:44 PM
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I can't upvote this enough! How can a single income family compete with a double income family? Being double income went from beneficial to just expected. I don't get it. Is this what feminists wanted?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/14 12:28 AM
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"A big part of why my husband chose me was because we shared common interests." This is my husband and me as well. Though he appreciates that I cook and clean. He's never quite as proud as when he's showing off some stuff we made together to our friends.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 10:39 PM
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Reading more of your responses, I'd say you have more wiggle room than when I first responded. Most young couples I know that start families young have a strong support group in their own parents. Most salaries for a 21 year old are not great for adding an additional mouth to feed, but it sounds like dropping out might save you a significant amount of money as a nest egg. My next question would be are you going to be able to wait to have child while your SO is finishing college? It sounds like y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 10:35 PM
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My first thought is what's the rush in dropping out? You don't know what the future holds, just how you are hoping it will play out. If he is finishing school, then I don't see why you shouldn't continue your education. If he finished and got a great job and said "let's have kids!" and things all fell into place and you thought that you really couldn't handle school and a baby, then would be an okay time to drop out. My second thought is if everything does play out the way you hope, don't you wa…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 01:20 PM
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"a woman worth giving commitment to... me having flings and side girls" does not compute.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 08:25 PM
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I'm confused. Are you implying there is no middle ground between a bag of skittles and $15,000 flowers?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 07:12 PM
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I'm not too worried about body fat percentage, etc. I think concern about apperience is a feminine trait. I was more looking for a rugged personality, and a guy standing in front of a mirror lifting weights is not attractive to me at all. If he didn't have the greatest body, but could build a log cabin, that would have been fine.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 03:03 PM
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This is 100% my opinion, so take it however you want. I personally see guys like that as more pretty boy types. When I was single I looked for masculine types: rugged, who can provide for his family physically rather than monetarily. Who comes home with dirty, rough hands rather than a suit and is physically fit from hard labor rather than the gym. A knowledge of how to use tools to build, how to work with wood, some outdoor survival knowledge. Again, just my preference.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 02:34 PM
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I've been so curious about this since I read some PUA plan on settling down, is a man who spins plates really going to make a good captain? I'm asking because my mind automatically thinks- would he really want a relationship or is he saying whatever to get into a girl's pants? Or is he likely to get bored? Or does he even know how to be a leader in a relationship, or just how to get sex from women? What are the chance he has an STD? That wouldn't be a man I would trust, and aren't there plenty o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 01:15 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 03:00 AM
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I'm going to say go with TempestTcup's advice. I don't know about all these guys into plate spinning, but when I met my husband I was a virgin, when I asked my husband he said he was looking for something serious and had only had LTRs. But she's also right when she says small town guys are more likely looking for LTR. When I went to the city for college all the small town guys were in the city running away from traditional values so I'd say keep that in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 10:47 PM
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There are really great second hand shops where I live. Great quality clothes and in great condition. I'm not ashamed to say I buy almost all of mine and hubby's clothes second hand. This isn't true for all stores, though, definitely shop around.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 01:55 PM
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Is a RP man interested in spinning plates, but also open to potential LTR more likely to give a girl more time if she says she's a virgin, or at least say "You're a good girl and I'm not looking for that right now"?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/14 01:45 PM
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I don't fully consider myself a RPW, I believe in traditional gender roles and for the most part I believe in what a lot of this subreddit stands for. I was raised to be a good girl, I was told that marriages do not work when a woman is in charge, the man needs to fill the man's role and to protect my chastity. So there was no transition for me at least. Not sure why it would be different for guys verses girls, though I've never known anyone to raise their son to behave the way they do in that s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/14 01:52 AM
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It's true! Always have an inspiring conversation with the hubby after initiating great sex. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 05:11 PM
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Ha! "Hm... how can I stretch initiate great sex, send him notes and pray for him into 50 things...?"
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/14 04:29 PM
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Loved this list! Of all the lists posted recently this is my favorite. I can really see how these can help build a stronger relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 10:16 PM
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Some one posted sockdreams.com here before and they have tons of tight, socks, leggings that you could layer to keep warm and they are all really cute and reasonably priced (thanks to who mentioned it before!) Also, I have always loved these coats: https://www.google.com/search?q=dresscoat&client=firefox-a&hs=B0D&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=fflb&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=ND69U_GJK8qgogTynIGoCw&ved=0CCgQsAQ&biw=1366&bih=633#channel=fflb&q=dress+coat&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:offic…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 01:09 PM
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Not in the least. He is even thinking about getting a vasectomy. He really doesn't want them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 02:37 PM
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We don't have children. I had wanted children since an early age, but when I met my husband he made it clear early in our relationship he did not want them. He is the person I chose to marry and so I am honoring his choice to not have children.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 01:46 PM
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That's cute! Thanks for sharing. I wish I had a fire place that I could light for when my husband returns from work.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 12:20 AM
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"Take responsibility for your own choices instead of telling yourself it's outside your control to make yourself feel better about it." This is great advice about anything.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 09:36 PM
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Those look really good! Starting to rethink my decision to cut down on sugar...
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 01:04 PM
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Ah! I love Modcloth. I've actually been checking out Etsy more lately because there is a lot of cute handmade and vintage stuff in a variety of price ranges. You should pair these dresses with Saltwater Sandals. Edit to add link: http://www.modcloth.com/shop/shoes-sandals/outer-bank-on-it-sandal-in-tan?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=G.PLA.US_NB.X_Shoes&gclid=CJrKvNXMrL8CFQWTfgod7zoADQ
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 09:23 PM
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Haha! My hubby has big feet too. When I asked him "Why do you have such big feet?" and his reply was "So I can step on you." followed by a foot fight.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 08:58 PM
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My husband and I work in similar fields, though he has been working longer and has been better trained. When I come home to talk about my day he really teaches me how to fix problems or how I can do things better so that I can do my job better. He is literally my teacher away from work.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 04:24 PM
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I'm so glad you left early when you knew it wasn't going to work out. I wouldn't discount meeting an awesome dude when you're out doing something you enjoy and not looking your best. I met my husband at the park. We were both sweaty, but we met doing something we both love and that was part of the attraction!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 11:52 AM
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Not sure how much I buy into this. I sleep on my stomach with my arm slung over my husband, pretty sure there are tons of alternate positions not mentioned.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 04:08 AM
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Was about to say bring him beer. Some times I buy his favorite on my way from work when I know he's had a bad day. A wet paper towel and put it in the freezer for a couple of minutes and it's ice cold.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 01:31 AM
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Getting them tailored! Great advice, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 01:22 AM
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I wear the longer shorts. Sort of like these: http://www.traderscity.com/board/products-1/offers-to-sell-and-export-1/womens-shorts-wholesale-pocket-boucle-half-long-pants-98587/ It gets pretty hot around here and I'm pretty active so dresses/skirts aren't always appropriate. My husband always says I look adorable in them! Yay!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 01:19 AM
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I don't usually wear dresses either. I find them to be either too short or too tight to move comfortably in the top. However I have found skirts are usually a bit longer and far more comfortable. You can pair them with a cute blouse. I can't wear them to work, but when I get home I change right away.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 10:57 PM
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"Let's face it, feminism is exhausting..." Finally something we agree on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/14 04:11 AM
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It was a very interesting exchange, thanks for sharing. Though I don't think it is uniquely Red Pill to defer to your SO. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think of someone as a RPW as someone who also believes in evolutionary psychology behind RP beliefs that both TRP and RPW are anchored in. Though defering to your SO because you love them and you want them to have everything that makes them happy is a great trait to have.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 01:58 PM
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It's such a beautifully tragic romance. Though I heard it was actually written in the 60s as nod to free love. The concept was if Bud and Deanie followed their feelings instead of listening to their pushy parents they would have been really happy. I think you can look at it in different ways. I love everything Natalie Wood wears in that movie.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 10:14 PM
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