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trannymcbride/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 07:30 PM
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trannymcbride/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 12:19 PM
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trannymcbride/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 12:18 PM
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Use that last sentence/concern as motivation to be the best parent you can be to them. There is no greater gift you can give them or yourself than that. I know it’s hard to push through the difficulty of the situation at times but you got this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 02:04 PM
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Mine was finalized in Nov last year. Ages were 9, 13, 15. Like you hear everyone say they’re resilient. More than you think. It’s never as bad at all as what your mind makes you believe it will be like, especially if you’re a stable parent. The hardest part was me telling them we were getting divorced (two years earlier) since their mom was cheating (I didn’t tell them the why part). I wanted to lead the conversation since I was the father and felt it was my duty I guess. Probably the hardest th…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 02:28 AM
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I just finalized mine in GA. Get a lawyer asap take their advice and do discovery. Don’t waffle on this. Figure out how to pay when you talk to your attorney. My ex didn’t work and I paid her legal fees. Message me if u have questions about GA divorce laws for free non-attorney answers.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 07:57 PM
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Same boat here. Moved to a small town away from friends and fam to run ex’s family’s business…she cheated and got pregnant. I battle this daily not wanting to be here anymore and start over, but I have 3 kids and don’t think I could ever do it even though I know we’d all make it work as best we can. I guess that’s just our sacrifice we make. I know this doesn’t help, but letting you know you’re not alone. What state btw?
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 08:04 PM
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That’s what I felt was best from day 1 of this. I’ve sort of softened on that stance over the last few years, but I’m seeing how it makes things complicated. It’s cleanest no doubt. There is a great rate on the home, and I don’t scoff at the idea of the kids’ stability being benefited. But she’s entitled af and is convinced we (she) can and should keep it. I think the courts would order her to remain in it and me remain paying her mortgage, selling is something she’s going to have to agree to.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 11:01 PM
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Thank you. Great stuff as always. My attorney did say spousal support ends if she remarries.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 10:58 PM
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Lol. Trying to avoid that here obviously because that’s like what a judge would order.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 10:56 PM
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Much appreciated. I want minimal arrangement of anything after this. Selling the house feels like a little of a selfish out but obviously is what people have to do here..she’s already blamed me for having to be the one responsible and tell the kids we have to sell the house if we go that route. That’s what I’m dealing with.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 10:55 PM
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Who knows what a realistic salary is for her. She can easily make 40-50k to cover the house (imo). She’s been trying to start a business for the last 5 years but she hasn’t committed. She wants to work at home which is her rationale for keeping primary custody of the kids (8, 12, 14) yet that hasn’t happened… And good call on the child support calculation. My attorney never told me that so I’ll have to ask about it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 02:16 PM
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My attorney says I could easily be ordered to keep it in my name until my youngest is 18, so I guess I don’t consider that a closed door as much as I want maximum segregation of our lives after this at least from the support standpoint. There’s no requirement for alimony in GA but I’m probably looking at being ordered to pay since the income disparity is large. At least again, according to my attorney. And agree it’s a total excuse not finding work. She’s been eating cake this whole time and can…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:12 PM
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17 year marriage. She has a 4 year degree in kinesiology. Easily employable.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 01:05 PM
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That’s how you feel NOW and be okay with that, but your feelings will change once you get closer to the new reality. I wanted to bail on the town I’m in after my wife said she didn’t love me anymore and instantly began an affair behind my back and fell in love with the guy. But once your faced with real decisions and you start coping with the new reality you will start using your rational mind to do what’s best for the kids and family. Don’t worry about figuring it all out now. We went through a…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 11:04 AM
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Thanks for the insight. I’ve definitely valued her above myself, 100%, for way too long. For the past year I’ve focused on building my personal value way beyond what it was before and I’m at the point where she’s not adding value. I’ve known divorce wasn’t the answer for a while until I’ve gotten to this point I’m at now, where I am feeling too good for her. I’ve grown a ton while she’s regressed massively. I’m sacrificing my values at this point in allowing our situation to remain unchanged. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 06:22 PM
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Thanks buddy for the context and deep thought. I’ve been feeling this. Being used. Divorce is what I feel led to do now, to file and get it moving. For context, her dude was screwing his side chick for 4 months while he and my wife “we’re in love” behind her back. I think she’s totally traumatized by him and feels massive shame but she can’t turn to anyone for help because obviously what she did was awful.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 04:00 PM
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Thanks…where things are is not healthy. I’ve recognized I’ve sacrificed too much for this and without any action we’re in no different a place than a year ago.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 03:56 PM
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You’re spot on, like 100%. She’s believed the lies she’s told herself for her convenience to excuse herself for her abhorrent decisions. Thanks for the words.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 03:54 PM
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Totally agree. I’m definitely heavily guarded right now, and that feeling is super shitty. Of course she can’t do anything to help rebuild trust after this…nothing has changed in a year except her affair making us grow further apart. She justified that what she did was okay since she told me a year ago she wasn’t in love in anymore, which is total bs imo. I’ve said that to her a lot by this point, “why didn’t you just file a year ago if you knew you’d let yourself find someone else”.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 10:32 AM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 10:28 AM
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Both I guess but probably less so that she’s still in love…she’s ultimately fearful of going in either direction. Obviously there’s nothing safe about our marriage right now and I recognize she could totally do it again. She’s “working” on herself but she’s also so incapable of making hard decisions and seems very much asleep to everything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 10:28 AM
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Not offended at all bro…thanks for the honesty. That’s what I want.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 10:24 AM
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Lol thanks
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 12:21 AM
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lol, yup, definitely thought about that plenty
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 10:09 PM
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Thanks buddy :)
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 09:02 PM
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Thank you sir!
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 09:01 PM
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Thanks. In case it does anything for your understanding (as it has mine), I guess I’ve been able to somewhat take responsibility for her cheating even though it was ultimately her own choice to cheat. I take a majority of the blame for leading her to separate. And the guy was a piece of shit. Plus I also cheated eventually, not that she cared. I guess I want to believe this was a one off given where she’s at now, but obviously there’s no guarantee of that. Probably what every man says before it …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:15 PM
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Thanks…yup, exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:10 PM
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Thanks for the input…that’s where I continue being led to it feels. There’s zero trust on my end, and the whole marriage is way vulnerable.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:09 PM
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