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Appreciate the advice. I definitely agree that I should slow things down. But how would you go about rushing things along without it seeming like you're trying to rush things? I wouldn't mind being in a LTR with her, I just want the sex to come first.
/r/askTRP23/08/17 04:23 PM
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I don't plan to pump and dump this one. Just wanting to not go into a sexless relationship. I'd like her as a LTR, I just want the sex to come ASAP. And no one here is telling me how to do that lol
/r/askTRP23/08/17 04:21 PM
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Bro DHA is the fatty acid found in fish (Docosahexaenoic acid), I'm just nitpicking a little mistake. We always abbreviate the hormone you're talking about as DHEA.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 02:06 AM
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Creepy perv guy is your character at work. It's my character according to one person. The crazy bitch who thinks everyone looks at her. I'm on good to very good terms with 90% of the people in the store so I'm not worried that EVERYONE sees me this way. And if your job was to help customers, wouldn't you go above and beyond when they're cuties? I mean just the other day apparently some milf came in asking for me and wanted to give me her number (according to a guy I work with). I have enough gam…
/r/askTRP29/01/17 02:00 AM
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dehydroepiandrosterone (DHA) That's DHEA. DHA is the omega-3 fatty acid.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:04 AM
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Is there anything I can take from this Yeah, you got to nut. You have to ask yourself how important that is to you. Is pussy so necessary for your life that you need to lower your standards to get a release, or can you hold off, keep your standards up, and use your time and energy on girls you're excited about. I've been in your situation before and trust me, I've fucked around with some chicks that I'm not proud of messing with. Looking back on it, I wouldn't necessarily say I regret it, but th…
/r/askTRP28/01/17 07:56 AM
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I'm gonna be the guy who challenges you on the "no exceptions" part. What do you think about shitting where you eat? If you have a girl giving you IOI's at work, don't you think it's a good idea not to act on it?
/r/TheRedPill22/01/17 05:32 AM
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I don't think it's a matter of good vs evil at all. The ego isn't an evil construct. I mean if you're here on TRP I'm assuming you're a strong believer in self improvement and being the best version of yourself. This desire is fueled by the ego. It wants to be the best. It also wants some stupid, short term shit that will fuck up that same desire of being the best. I see this more as the ego being a very impressionable child. A child isn't inherently bad at all, but if you leave the child alone …
/r/TheRedPill28/05/16 06:23 PM
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What service do you use for the audio books?
/r/TheRedPill18/04/16 12:07 AM
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Prior to finding TRP I made a lot of progress in other areas of life and self improvement. A couple years ago I got into meditation and went on a long hard journey of nofap. I was at a point where my average day I was jerkin it 3-4 times daily, sometimes more. Had some embarrassing experiences with girls like OP talked about and I knew I had to make a big change. Long story short I went on a 165 day streak of no masturbating and it was one of the best things I've done for myself. I lost my virgi…
/r/TheRedPill09/04/16 02:43 AM
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Check out the nootropics sub if you haven't already. I actually haven't tried piracetam yet, although I definitely want to with all the good stuff I hear about it. What's a good place to get some?
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 08:45 PM
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I'll second the Theanine combo. I take this on most school days and it literally has similar (positive) effects to adderall, minus all the negatives. Take 200mg of both and you'll be alert, energized, focused, and calm for a good 4-5 hours.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 09:12 PM
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Patrice would bring his girl on the show frequently whom was assuredly an LTR for him. He definitely had her "trained" so to speak to not act and talk like the typical female, and it seemed like he did this mostly through logically explaining to her that she acts like a basic bitch and thus gave her more options. They had a great relationship complete with a bunch of threesomes too. I get what you're saying about the rest, but I'm fairly convinced if Patrice were alive he'd be preaching to help …
/r/TheRedPill28/03/16 05:25 PM
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I read on this forum quite often that you shouldn't engage a woman in an argument. And that logic will never be the way to win such an engagement. OP, I'm sure you're familiar with Patrice O'Neal, but I'm wondering if you've ever listened to the Black Philip Show he did. See Patrice had the opposite approach to this. He basically outargued the fuck out of the women that came onto the show/called in. His approach was to bludgeon them hard with logic and attack the shit out of their weak frames/ar…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/16 04:53 PM
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Bro, what kind of drugs are you on?
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 07:39 PM
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So well put. Came here to counter what OP said, but you took the bullets right out of my gun and had a bullseye aim. This post was horribly cynical and I'm guessing OP is just frustrated after trying online dating, finding it didn't work, and realizing he doesn't have the balls to cold approach women during the day.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/15 05:12 AM
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I don't think you have to form these questions in a way that makes you look stupid. That's not necessary at all. If you just ask the right questions that gets her to open up your golden.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/15 04:51 AM
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Incredible post, and incredibly motivating. I've swallowed the pill fairly recently (~ 2 months ago) and one thing I see about myself is that I have so many ambitions. I want to be that ladies man with mad game, I want to be making mad money, plating mad bitches, pursuing sports and lifting like a mad man. But obviously there's only so many hours in a day, and with so many pursuits, it's kind of hard to know what to focus on. I'm a college student, so even though school is a top priority for me …
/r/TheRedPill25/12/15 04:46 PM
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I thought it was pretty funny that you detest shit tests as a "PUA relic" when the entire point of this post is to use canned lines on girls. Let's move forward not backward brah.
/r/TheRedPill24/12/15 11:08 PM
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What do you say to the college men still working toward that foundation for a career? Game is important my friend.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/15 09:19 PM
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OP, I"m assuming you wrote this out of experience. I'm a dude who has pretty mild anxiety but my biggest issue with it is that it comes in waves. I'm in college and what I've noticed the last three years is that I'll start a semester off being a super chatty, confident dude with hardly any social anxiety. As the semester rolls on (all three years) I'll get involved with a woman, things go sour, and my confident goes way down and anxiety goes way up. Since finding TRP, I'm realizing I gave women …
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 07:22 PM
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I appreciate the honesty. But are you speaking out of experience or is that pure speculation? Every team hires a nutritionist and there is work outside of clinical stuff. Like working for retirement communities/school districts/correctional facilities. I completely agree about the part how everyone deems themselves a nutritionist after googling some stuff. But there is a TON of misinformation out there.
/r/askTRP14/11/15 01:35 AM
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Very aware of this. Looking at this more from a financial standpoint.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 08:45 PM
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The movie hasn't even been released yet...
/r/TheRedPill13/11/15 05:24 PM
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On the skincare part, what products do you use? I've never used a mask but keep hearing it's a good idea. What is a good company/product? Same with the exfoliant, what should I be using for that? Correct me if I'm wrong but exfoliants are the ones with tiny little beads that kind of burn your face, right? Right now I use a non salicylic acid cleanser at night. Moisturize before bed and in the morning. I was prescribed some medicine for breakouts that works well, can't remember what it's called. …
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 09:15 PM
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Look into the Dark Triad personality type. Complete narcissistic manipulator type, but albeit they are damn successful with women and their careers. When you truly don't give a fuck it has an affect on women where they see you as very high value. Then combine that with the ability to get people to do what you want them to and you can see a lot of success with women and your job. I'm not exactly saying you should manipulate people to do your bidding. But if you are narcissistic and self confident…
/r/seduction11/11/15 08:25 PM
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Sounds like a good way to develop a terrible reputation at the school you frequent everyday...
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 07:06 PM
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I like the way you explained that and it makes perfect sense. I've always been really good at getting a woman engaged and opening up. I feel that I have no problem getting her to talk because I usually do take an active, genuine interest. I think the problem is, I can come off as too interested and too eager sometimes. So I'm wondering how exactly do you be simultaneously engaging, interested, but also detached and NGAF?
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 06:44 PM
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It almost sounds like you go into interview mode on a girl.... How exactly do you go about "owning her brain."
/r/TheRedPill11/11/15 05:26 AM
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“It used to be that, if I wasn’t OK with myself, she was going to make me OK with myself – because she’s beautiful, because she likes me. But if she doesn’t like me or respond to me, then I’m not OK, I’m a failure. The goal now is really to be OK with yourself, to not need anything else. And maybe once you’re OK with yourself, you can see people as they are, without them having to give commentary on who you are or what your status is.” Holy damn that's a heavy statement. I feel that sometimes I …
/r/seduction11/10/15 03:01 AM
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Am I the only one who thinks that tinder shouldn't be apart of the discussions involving Pick Up Art? I just feel like it takes relatively zero skill or art to swipe right and text a female. I'm getting tired of guys coming to this forum with posts like this acting like they accomplished something amazing or have something figured out, but put them in a bar or day game situation and I bet they'd get zero girls. Call me cynical or whatever, I just feel like tinder is an anti-PUA tool. It makes me…
/r/seduction08/08/15 03:53 AM
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You're doing it wrong. Right I must have forgot that there's only one right way of approaching seduction. Whoops! I'm perfectly fine with accepting the fact that this girl may be having an off day, but I'm not OK with OP framing the situation so negatively like he did. I was only supporting reframing the situation to a positive one as opposed to the original "Oh I am shunned from women because of this one ugly encounter." Seduction and especially approaching women is a very emotional process. In…
/r/seduction21/07/15 03:43 AM
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I think you should figure yourself out more. I mean come on, you're asking a bunch of horn dogs on a seduction forum how you should live your life. Sounds like you don't have much direction at all. Also sounds like you put way too much of yourself and your identity into PUA. You should focus on other areas of life and becoming a well rounded dude. Find your own path, no one can help you down your own road.
/r/seduction20/07/15 03:54 PM
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No what he's saying is that you don't need women like this in your life, and in fact, you're better off without them. And it's not just putting a positive perspective to a seemingly bad situation. When you logically think about it, does this chick seem like a keeper? No (although you're right, there's limited info here). Did he deserve such a harsh reaction? No (seemingly). When you think about it logically like that you can easily deduce that she's a woman you probably don't want in your life a…
/r/seduction20/07/15 03:50 PM
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Old saying or Spice Girls lyric?
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:23 AM
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Leave em better than you found them. I've always lived by this philosophy in regards to seduction .This is awesome to read, you sound like a solid dude. May all the world's pussy be laid upon you.
/r/seduction14/07/15 04:29 PM
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If I were you I'd practice touching people. Hug more people than you ever have in your life! Get used to it. Push passed your irrational discomfort and you may find it eventually turns comfortable. Expose yourself frequently to touch and initiate it yourself until you just get used to it. Also, realize how irrational this is.
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:41 PM
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Hey OP, I'm curious, do you feel like any kind of flirting, kino, or general hitting on women is considered "giving them too much attention" and therefore seeking their approval? Because the way I see it those things are more of a genuine expression of how you feel and what you desire. I realize that when we chase our desires in the form of other people we generally seek for there approval, but obviously we can't expect the women to come to us. So what I'm asking is, at what point - let's say in…
/r/seduction19/06/15 12:40 AM
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I wasn't saying society respects those who give no fucks, that's a bit of a slippery slope. What I'm saying is society respects those who go after what they want without giving a fuck about their fears or what other people think. I'm someone who promotes the /r/howtonotgiveafuck lifestyle but there's a distinction between the punk teenage kid who literally cares about nothing, and the person who carefully chooses what to give a fuck about. It's important to be the latter, I think, because there'…
/r/seduction09/06/15 05:27 PM
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While you're eating her out, put a finger in her booty. Actually put one in each hole, she'll fucking love that.
/r/seduction08/06/15 04:04 PM
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Yeah exactly. Except there is a lot more value to a failed approach than you mentioned. You learn crucial things about yourself that really helps your growth. For example, you may realize you don't give enough eye contact or kino. Or realize you came on too strong and seemed needy. If you were needy you can examine the reasons behind that and what's going on with you to make you feel that way. You also learn how to deal with rejection, failures, and awkward situatuons. This is huge! A socially a…
/r/seduction08/06/15 03:52 PM
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Ok here, I'll give you another tough lesson of seduction: stop looking for tips, tricks, and shortcuts and just take some fucking action already! You can only fill your head with so much theory and routines and bullshit PUA stuff. What beginners fail to understand is that BY FAR the best teacher is real life experience. You will learn so much more from one weekend of gaming than you would from an entire book written by the greatest PUA. Just dip your toes into the damn water and you'll find your…
/r/seduction08/06/15 06:08 AM
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Ok I agree and am fine with that one 100%. I could never justify starting a cancerous, lung suicide habit like smoking just for improving my social skills and opportunities.
/r/seduction07/06/15 03:49 PM
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These are the hard lessons of seduction. You'll eventually find, if you haven't already, that the risk of going for it and failing is soooo much better than the pain of regret. Plus, you still have good chances of going for it and being successful. Just internalize the belief that there's nothing to lose in approaching women, because you can't lose something you never had.
/r/seduction07/06/15 03:46 PM
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So we should all start smoking cigarettes so we can chill with the cool kids?
/r/seduction07/06/15 03:42 PM
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My issue with it being not for beginners was not the only issue I had for the post. My point is you don't have to make this so complicated, because sometimes the only opener you need is "Hi, I'm ____." There were only two useful points he made as well. The last one needs a lot more work and editing.
/r/seduction07/06/15 03:39 PM
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They're on a slower social clock. What do you mean by this exactly? Sounds interesting, I'd like you to expand if you don't mind.
/r/seduction06/06/15 09:29 PM
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Day game is generally where you'll find a lot more of the girls you seek. By day game I mean general street, super market, out and about kind of everyday girls you see. Try talking to some, I've met some real quality "high class" girls with day game. Also, look into joing a club, meet up, or something interesting that you're into. Like a rock climbing gym, you'd meet some fit and smart ladies most likely. Tons of other options, just put yourself out there!
/r/seduction06/06/15 09:28 PM
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This is the kind of stuff that makes beginners overthink and worry too much about their AA. Speaking from personal experience, one of the things that got me past my AA was realizing how simple and easy it is. If you throw in this crap about testing her "compliance" and making sure she laughs at the very first thing you say, it makes approaching sound much more intimidating and hard. I like your first tip but the rest seem unnecessary and they're definitely not indicators of whether or not you'll…
/r/seduction06/06/15 09:24 PM
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I have a ton of experience picking up girls at my place of work. Luckily, I have a real nice, low key job that promotes conversations with customers. It's a health foods store that gets a good share of attractive women. I can't count how many numbers I've gotten working in the dairy/grocery department. I have a lot of down time to chat with customers and a lot of times I end up chatting up the pretty ones and one thing leads to another. Never had a negative thing happen with getting in trouble o…
/r/seduction06/06/15 06:25 AM
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It sounds to me like you haven't jumped the "hurdle" of vulnerability. In seduction, I think it's key to not only allow yourself to be vulnerable in your sexual expressions, but embrace and own that vulnerability. You're a fucking man, with a fucking sac, and it's your genetic duty to put your sac swimmers between her thighs. There's nothing shameful about that at all. You will find that by expressing your sexuality people actually respect you more because: A) You're going after what you want B)…
/r/seduction06/06/15 06:09 AM
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I wish we could get Shia LaBeouf to read this for us...
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:26 PM
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Sounds like you handled the situation very well. You were honest with her about what you want and stuck to your guns. No shame in that. I mean, it is a shame things didn't work out for you two but it's for the best that it didn't. No worries bruh, you'll find another in no time and have great guilt-free sex!
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:24 PM
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Other than getting laid, the same cannot really be said of /r/seduction. This tells me that you are the one with a misunderstanding of the content of this sub. I suggest you stick to the red pill and being forever alone. This subs core message is to improve your life first, then go out and share that awesome life with women. The main topics are usually about developing yourself into a person girl's would want to sleep with. You clearly don't know what goes in here so like I said, go back to that…
/r/seduction31/05/15 10:17 PM
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GTFO here trying to promote the red pill garbage....
/r/seduction31/05/15 10:14 PM
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This post screams Red Pill mindset. It's not necessary to treat women like inferior beings to sleep with them. That's actually incredibly manipulative, and like another user said, it's sociopathic. You start off your post claiming wild success in such a short timespan. Well, it's not uncommon to reach those numbers at all when you use things like tindr and OkCupid. Those really speed up the process of putting notches on the belt, but from my experience and those I've talked to, quality women don…
/r/seduction26/05/15 03:33 PM
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Hey thanks man I appreciate it. And no problem on the advice. One thing I'd like to leave you with is exactly what you said, it's time to put what you've learned to work. I came to this forum a few years ago a virgin. I read it daily and would study this shit like it's a science. It wasn't until I internalized a few concepts (body language, confidence, JUST GOING FOR IT) and got off the forum and books that I actually made some real progress. This is not a science, this is not stuff you can lear…
/r/seduction26/05/15 07:20 AM
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Well similar to you, I got into seduction after being fed up with being a virgin and getting zero action at my lame ass high school (super ghetto with hardly any girls). Freshmen year of college was really depressing for me. I was commuting to school while living at home so I made zero friends and just smoked weed and played video games with high school friends. So, sophomore year I decided it was time to make a change. I stopped with the constant porn because I knew I had some sort of addiction…
/r/seduction22/05/15 05:16 PM
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I'm glad that my post had that affect on you! I don't know how much of my history you actually checked out but you may have seen my post about falling for a girl on a student exchange. Long story short, I got home from Hawai'i less than a week ago after doing a year long exchange. Probably the best experience of my life but honestly I'd say it set me back in terms of my journey in seduction. There was not many girls to chase over there and the school itself was low key small and a close knit com…
/r/seduction21/05/15 04:49 PM
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In a nutshell, I concentrate on my breath or the occasional guided meditation. It's quite simple and you should follow something like this. Start by sitting for 5 minutes and gradually increase that time as you get comfortable and your mind wanders less. Good luck!
/r/seduction21/05/15 04:44 PM
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I'll give my two cents here. I've always promoted meditation practice on this sub for more than seduction purposes. I mean at the end of the day we're trying to improve our entire lives right? Not only the seduction aspect. Meditation (and thus mindfulness) has been hugely beneficial for me. I don't necessarily consider it a spiritual practice however. I was raised catholic but abandoned those beliefs years ago when I was around 15. Since then I've been bouncing around with Atheism, Agnosticism,…
/r/seduction20/05/15 06:01 PM
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I love that you meditate and integrate that into your game and daily life. I've been a daily meditator for nearly 3 years now and it's helped me more than I ever could have imagined. I also agree with all of what you said. But come on bro! Let's give credit where it's due. Some youtube PUA didn't come up with "Be like water." BRUCE LEE DID!!!
/r/seduction10/04/15 07:10 AM
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I'm gonna chime in and say what everyone else has basically said: this is an amazing post. It's been months since I've seen something of this high quality. I love it when someone cuts through to the truths of seduction and fallacies therein. It's refreshing. That said, I don't entirely agree with you. I love the spiel about embracing your default personality and playing to those strengths, but that can be a dangerous game. You're essentially telling us introverts to stick with the comfort zone, …
/r/seduction10/04/15 12:05 AM
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Came here to say this and it turns out everyone else is saying it too. You should have a good idea of what your best move is here...
/r/seduction06/04/15 09:28 AM
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I highly doubt she was actually furious with you. That was probably just a tease that you misinterpreted due to the limiting nature of text conversation. The fact that she supposedly won't kiss on the first date but made an exception for you makes you really stand out to her. She's probably racking her brain for reasons why you're so special to break this rule. You're definitely in a good position here and I don't think you should regret the kiss at all!
/r/seduction04/04/15 09:34 PM
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Now that I think about it. I'm pretty sure every first date that I've been on where we didn't smooch at least once never ended up with me sleeping with her. Granted, I can recall a couple girls who I did kiss on the first date and still didn't sleep with. That said, kissing a girl on the first date shows you've got balls, know what you want, and how to get what you want. There's no reason not to I mean it's just kissing, come on...
/r/seduction04/04/15 09:32 PM
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Haha this was great. I can definitely relate bro. When I'm high I feel like there's always ample opportunities that I would/could eat up if I was sober. But since I'm high I'll have no fucking clue on how to handle women or most social situations for that matter lol. I usually get super introverted when I'm baked needless to say. But it's interesting how much you attracted that girl after your "failed" intro. It seems like a classic example of how walking away from a girl can make her chase you …
/r/seduction31/03/15 08:23 AM
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I've never really been for the extreme pickups. You know, the kind of wild-card approaches where you do something so socially out there that it leaves a girls jaw dropped. I mean sure, it probably dulls the AA and puts you in a mindset of "everything and anything is OK" but I'm more in the camp of being a suave motherfucker and picking targets carefully. For example, in a public (daygame) setting I'll only approach girls who give me IOI's like solid eye contact and a cutesy smile. I have confide…
/r/seduction31/03/15 08:14 AM
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You pretty much always have to take the initiative. The only exceptions come when you're actually in a commited relationship with a girl. If there's no reciprocation in a relationship then you got problems. But as far as casual dating and getting-to-know each other stuff, never expect a girl to set things up. One thing you can do, which is a great gesture, is suggest doing something, e.g. go on a hike, and then ask how she'd like that and if she had something else in mind. All women want a man w…
/r/seduction25/03/15 09:11 PM
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No your post is one of the very few that actually answered my question. Most posts here, and really this sums up the quality of this sub lately, are full of baseless presumptions and condescending advice. I don't think people actually took the 30 seconds to read what I wrote outside of the title, and it reflects in the replies. I appreciate some solid advice and that's why I upvoted you. So good on you man!!! I just wish this sub could be more discussion oriented. Everyone just comes in here thi…
/r/seduction20/03/15 06:38 PM
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You make that all sound so simple hahah. Thanks man.
/r/seduction20/03/15 06:27 AM
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I actually have read that article thanks for reminding me! Gotta love Marky mark. The lack of excitement, interest, and effort on their part makes me think it's just not worth the pursuit. I don't like convincing a girl to be interested in me if she's not already hooked within the first couple of interactions. What my thinking is too, is that some girls really care a lot about how others see them. So while a girl may not like you enough to date/sleep with you, she will care about how you view he…
/r/seduction20/03/15 01:13 AM
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Yeah good call on not giving in to her neediness. It's super rare for a woman to initiate texting first of all, it's even more rare for her to be the one asking to hang out. That combined with her flakey, needy replies makes me think this girl could have mad problems with neediness and such. If I was you I'd be careful on this one. Although if you're looking to just hook up I'm sure that'd be easy lol. I hope she's a looker.
/r/seduction12/03/15 07:22 PM
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I think your fear of a relationship is really just a fear of vulnerability. You don't allow relationships to go past casually hooking up because you don't want to get close with someone. You're afraid that these girls will get to know you. The real you. The man behind this PUA shit. Maybe you put on this facade to get women and you're afraid to take off that mask and be real with girls. Either that or you're just scared of getting close. That could be due to insecurities, or simply a fear of int…
/r/seduction12/03/15 03:09 AM
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Have you slept with/gone on a date with this girl? This seems like very odd behavior for a woman that you just met.
/r/seduction12/03/15 12:19 AM
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I hope I'm not the first to tell you this: she's not going to text you back bro...
/r/seduction09/03/15 07:13 AM
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NoFap means the only way you should orgasm, is inside a female. And since the vast majority of guys doing it are single, that's a huge commitment to make. PornFree is exactly what it sounds like except you're OK to give yourself a (healthy) release every now and then. In my view, I stick to the old quote, "Everything in moderation." Sadly for me though, once I jerk it to porn once there's a bit of a snowball effect and I can rarely limit myself to one session in a day.
/r/seduction23/02/15 09:25 AM
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Yeah I'd like to read a guide like that. I go to a small university (~6,000 kids, kinda feels like high school) and I'm finding it difficult talking to girls I see everyday. I just had one bad experience with it and then things went sour. I had to deal with that shit for the rest of the semester, and every class I had with her was awkward as hell lol. I don't want that again so I'm being careful.
/r/seduction19/02/15 08:04 AM
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I mean personally I haven't used Tinder, well.... at all. But my impression from what I've heard and seen is that it's just for casual flings. You're much more likely to find a suitable long term partner through day game. It can be so much fun bro! You learn a lot about yourself when you get rejected and go through a few painfully awkward conversations. It really does build character though and gives you more confidence when things do go your way. Yes you probably won't get as many numbers in a …
/r/seduction01/02/15 07:29 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, what are your goals with seduction?
/r/seduction31/01/15 07:49 PM
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Maybe you should try manning up and meeting girls in real life... Just sayin.
/r/seduction26/01/15 05:09 AM
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Don't worry about getting laid, that's not your goal tomorrow night. You've already made a huge step in your path of personal progress I think all you should do is enjoy the night with this lady. There's no need to put further pressure on yourself and expectations on the interaction. Go into this date empty minded. That is, no expectations, no desires to make her like you, and no worrying if she'll like you or anything like that. As for actual tips during the date. Listen. It's my goal in any in…
/r/seduction14/01/15 12:26 AM
1

Wait are you saying that after 5-6 days of not masturbating you not only get raging random boners, but you unintentionally cum yourself? Like you'll be sitting around watching Netflix and next thing you know you're pumping white soldiers into your shorts without provocation? That's crazy bro. What I meant by that is, it's more likely (this was my issue anyway) that you'll be too nervous to even get it up on your first rodeo. That's the worst case scenario though, because girls tend to get offend…
/r/seduction08/01/15 10:23 PM
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How do you know you will "blow up" when you're about to sex up a girl if you've never sexed up a girl? I say do what's best to get yourself to that point. Once you've crossed the bridge and reached PussyTown, then worry about blowing your load all over the soft pink streets. Chances are your issue will be more of the too-shy-to-come-out-and-play variety.
/r/seduction08/01/15 09:37 PM
1

Sweet! Looking forward to it.
/r/seduction07/01/15 09:42 AM
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This is the type of comment I was hoping for! This was very helpful to me, so for that I thank you good sir. I completely agree that it gets tiring. And for this girl in particular, I think it's absolutely worth the effort. My follow up question for you and the main reason I made this thread is; have you found that her insecurity can be a direct cause for some conflict in the relationship? For example, she asked me what I'd like to try on her (sexually) and I mentioned something I did with an ex…
/r/seduction04/01/15 08:56 AM
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I wouldn't say it's "too low." It's more of a sexual/physical hang up of hers, which I should have clarified. She's a bit sassy and doesn't take shit from people but she just doesn't believe herself to be very attractive. So it's more of a sexual insecurity.
/r/seduction03/01/15 09:34 PM
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Preaching to the choir here boss. It is nice to see an in length review of the book, but from my experience most of us here know about it and have read it. The ones who reject it are more the TRP types. In any case, good work!
/r/seduction03/01/15 09:07 PM
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She's not worth it, you should move on. Judging from the way you described her, your personalities don't even mesh and she seems really lame. Don't waste your time on lame girls who can't see the value in you. You don't deserve that man! You deserve amazing women who are grateful to have you.
/r/seduction02/01/15 09:29 AM
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I think there's a minority of men on seddit who feel the way you do. The kind of guys looking for connections and meaningful encounters/sex. The kind of guys who believe in leaving them better than you found them. I'm trying to fall under this category, although I'm still fighting with my outrageous appetite for sex. But I can say sex with a woman you know intimately and care about, always beats sex with randoms who you barely know.
/r/seduction02/01/15 09:26 AM
1

Sometimes you've had a long day at work and a hard gym session and all you want to do is sit on ass for the evening. In this case, yeah, sit on ass because it's well deserved and don't feel sorry for yourself when you do. That's the point I'm making. OP is in the habit of criticizing everything he does, so I think the most important step to take (before he actually goes out into the world) is to take pride and responsibility in all of his actions. He needs confidence more than he needs friends r…
/r/seduction29/12/14 10:09 PM
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You don't have a choice? I'm sorry but that's utter baloney. When you stay in every night that's a choice. It's playing into your fears of not wanting to socialize because it's scary. Yeah it is scary, but if you're confident in yourself and your abilities like I mentioned, you will be able to handle any social situation with ease. I'm not condoning that you stay complacent and watch Netflix but if you've reached a point where you're unsatisfied with life then TAKE REPSONSIBILITY for it. You've …
/r/seduction29/12/14 10:05 PM
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I think what you should try to avoid right now is changing because you feel like you have to or because you dislike the person you are. Sure, I absolutely advocate self improvement. By all means go out there and improve upon the weaknesses you know you have. But until you learn to love and accept yourself, failures and all, I don't see any kind of lasting change. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and downplaying the talents that you know you have. If your thought process right now is that you're u…
/r/seduction29/12/14 04:10 PM
1

Sack up and put the phone down, it's as simple as that. Tinder is nice and convenient and all that but I don't believe it creates experiences that actually build your character. It's the perfect summation of our lazy generation. You need to get laid? Here's an app to find others to fuck! There's no real substitute to putting yourself out there in a bar, grocery store, or at a park, etc and laying yourself and your pride on the line for a few minutes of absolute vulnerability to test the waters w…
/r/seduction28/12/14 05:44 PM
1

I'd recommend you read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle to get you into meditation and mindfulness. The book reads almost like a pseudo-religion message but there's many powerful exercises and advice on living in the present. It's a truly life altering book if you practice the stuff daily. Meditation has been the key for me going through all the bullshit and games with girls so I feel like it could greatly help you. I got into game a year ago and have been with numerous women who all sound some…
/r/seduction26/11/14 11:22 PM
1

You in the springs as well?
/r/seduction02/11/14 10:47 PM
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Colorado Springs!!
/r/seduction02/11/14 08:49 PM
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Hate to be the guy that says it, but it sounds like you need to occupy yourself and time with things you enjoy doing or being productive. You're showing pretty needy behavior with this girl and it sounds like you've hung once. That's not a good sign to me. But hey, it's totally cool man, I've been there before, it's not like I don't know what you're going through. Sometimes you need to just focus on you and your life. Girls you aren't dating aren't worth the stress.
/r/seduction02/11/14 06:45 AM
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I'd honestly like to say that I have a bit of a...not necessarily unique, but weird situation. I'd really like to hear your thoughts on it. So I'm in college living in the dorms. Since the start of the semester I made friends with a group of about 10 people, split evenly (male and female). We hung out all the time and still do. About 3/4 weeks into it one of the girls starts coming onto me hard. We end up having a bunch of netflix nights and sleepovers with lots of sex and good times. When the r…
/r/seduction29/10/14 09:16 AM
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I completely agree with your post, especially the part about taking a break from that person. However, my current situation doesn't really allow me to do that. I'm a college student and I got involved with a girl in my group of friends who always hang out. Our group eats together, hangs out all the time, on the weekends, etc. I see her EVERYDAY. Things went a little sour and now I can't escape her. I'll be over her and let her go during the day....but then I see her, and all those feelings come …
/r/seduction28/10/14 11:07 PM
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much appreciated
/r/seduction23/10/14 08:29 AM
1

Do you have the link for that article? I remember reading that one and I liked it a lot, just forgot to save it.
/r/seduction23/10/14 07:45 AM
1

That's solid advice, thanks mate. I guess my difficulty is picturing what an interesting person looks like. It's difficult to know what things I do that really engage people and what are the things I do that repel others. I want to be that charismatic guy who people enjoy talking to. But when that's my actual goal in conversation I end up trying too hard/over thinking what to say. It's not that I want to artificially be interesting only when the time is right (conversating with attractive girls)…
/r/seduction17/09/14 08:03 PM
2

Yeah bro I can totally relate to you in this situation. Shit, I'm from Colorado dude, so weed is in abundance here. I've had my red card for a couple years now and it used to be a daily thing for me for about a couple years. My social circle was heavily influenced by it and at times that was basically all we did hanging out. My advice on this situation is probably exactly what you don't want to hear. You need to cut that shit. Stop smoking everyday and when you do smoke, only have a few hits. No…
/r/seduction17/08/14 10:54 PM
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Ok good shit man haha. Keep it up, have fun bro.
/r/seduction17/08/14 10:22 PM
2

I think this is a very innovative idea and I'm happy it worked out for you. All I'm curious about is the quality of these gals. Are any of them ones you'd hook up with again and keep around? Or are you doing this purely for the sake of hooking up and not worried about that really?
/r/seduction17/08/14 09:37 PM
1

I shouldn't have included girls at work. I don't fuck with that either. As an example, there's a very cute/cool trainer at the gym I frequent. She also shops at the place I work. I see her quite often so I'd want to probe her for that question. Another example is amazingly cute PT assistant at the place fixing up my shoulder. Another situation where I feel she's interested but I don't want to aggressively ask her out. These are the kinds of situations I'm talking about here. I suppose it's best …
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:38 AM
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Why do you say it's a no-no to ask that question? Personally, I never do because I assume if she doesn't mention one and seems interested then I'm in the clear. I guess I feel like in certain situations it can be appropriate however.
/r/seduction15/08/14 11:55 PM
1

Are these questions you generally ask a girl when first talking? I just feel like it's one of those things that can either work out very well for you or turn a great interaction sour. In some situations, I don't want a girl to feel sour towards me (girls I see frequently).
/r/seduction15/08/14 11:49 PM
1

Seems like extremely standard advice on pick up in general. You'll take a lot more away from a book like Models, or reading the top posts here (tofu tofu posts for example). Also, some of the advice they gave was just stupid with shitty lines. I spent 10 minutes there and feel like it would have been better spent rubbing lotion on. Generally wasteful site.
/r/seduction15/08/14 11:41 PM
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Yes I agree. I think one of the most important life lessons in general is to lose the desire to control everything. MANY many things in this world are beyond our control. Like OP said, he's had girls tell him they love him and want to spend all kinds of times with him - then randomly dump him. That's the kind of shit that's outside our control. Girl having a bad day is rude when you open her? Not your fault as it's outside your control. You must learn to accept life as it comes to you and surren…
/r/seduction15/08/14 07:06 PM
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I feel like you're overreacting a tad bit here. The worst thing that could have came from this is you got to see/taste some titties. There was no obligation for you to have sex with this girl. I don't like the part about the camera though, are we talking phone camera or legit porno production camera? I mean you said you were hitting it off with this Emily girl so it would seem you had sexual intent with her. You got your chance with her bro, you set yourself up for this one.
/r/seduction15/08/14 06:51 PM
1

Something more narrow? Such as..... ?
/r/seduction06/08/14 12:44 AM
1

EQ?
/r/seduction22/07/14 12:42 AM
2

Absolutely loved this article and your values/views on seduction. Since I began my journey of self improvement in seduction and social relations, I'm often questioning my own motives. For example, I was on this really great date recently with a girl I really like. We went on this tour at a wolf preservation place - it was a really great time. But I ended up spending 70 bucks on this girl and myself and we only ended up lightly kissing when I dropped her off. I remember being a little angry and d…
/r/seduction04/07/14 09:31 PM
1

Ok well in my opinion that's great. You're chatting up attractive women, that's never a bad thing. If anything, think of it as good practice for when the really great girls (personality and looks) come around. Maybe you just have a little desperation and too much seeking. You seem like you REALLY want to meet an awesome chick and my guess is this thought consumes you when you're out. So, instead of screening girls to see if they are actually quality ladies that you get along with, you'll pursue …
/r/seduction04/07/14 08:51 PM
1

I don't know how you're meeting these women but demographics play a big part in this game. You say you only run into bad women with baggage, well, I'll be blunt and say maybe that's just who you're attracting. Maybe you're not in the best headspace right now man. I can say from experience when I wasn't in a very positive mood and outlook on life I attracted much shittier women. How you feel on the inside and carry yourself really does cross over to the external world. Perhaps you're attracting t…
/r/seduction04/07/14 08:22 PM
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Seems like most of the advice here is of the variety of "ignore it, get more girls." That's not very helpful in my eyes so I'll throw in my two pennies. If you're serious about fixing this issue, you need to learn more about yourself and these feelings. Do they come from neediness? Over attachment? And ask yourself why. Really explore those answers. I'd highly suggest looking into meditation as it's a good practice of introspection and helps to investigate feelings like you have. Believe me dude…
/r/seduction01/04/14 05:43 PM
3

I like your style... I'd now like to converse with you
/r/seduction29/01/14 07:04 PM
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Being vulnerable is about conveying your truths to others and basically being an honest human being. Perhaps your parents were divorced when you were young and this played a big part in your upbringing. You may value family relationships and bonding even more as a result. You may have abandonment issues that you need to face at some point. These are all things you must accept and be honest and open about. I'm not saying that you go around to girls talking about how shitty your parents' divorce w…
/r/seduction25/01/14 02:09 AM
1

I think it's a combination of those two things. I'm 20 but over the last 6 months I've been doing nofap. My streak got up to 167 days and I ended that little over a week ago. Hormones like crazy and I haven't been this horny in months!
/r/seduction04/01/14 04:49 PM
1

MUTHAFUCKAS ALWAYS LOVED US!
/r/seduction04/01/14 08:21 AM
1

Hey I feel you man, I think we've all been there. I was in a very similar situation recently and completely screwed myself over. Slept with this girl, and the next morning we had that relationship chat. She said she wasn't really looking for anything serious. Couple weeks go by and I make a few futile attempts to see her. She's always been busy/difficult to hang out with so I communicated my frustration with her. She then reminded me of that conversation we had which I'm sure was a way of her sa…
/r/seduction25/12/13 04:16 AM
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Your "misogyny alert" alarm signal should cover the entire post instead of that one paragraph.
/r/seduction21/12/13 04:31 AM
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Hey dude I just dropped in to say you're totally overthinking it. Over the last few months I've been working pretty hard with self improvement type stuff. No fap helped me manifest sexual desire externally instead of relying on myself for sexual satisfaction. Meditation helped calm down my over analyzing, over worked, and over anxious mind. Then I came here. I came just like you, a virgin, desperate for the love and affection of a woman. About a month ago I lost that virginity, and you know what…
/r/seduction08/12/13 05:27 PM
1

Yeah I can see how that could hurt her, but my intention in that compliment is NOT to tease or make fun of her. She really does look like Monroe, just more attractive (in my eyes).
/r/seduction17/11/13 11:05 PM
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Inspiring. Saved for those days where I'm feeling all lame and lazy.
/r/seduction28/09/13 08:59 PM
1

I'd genuinely like to know which books you read, if you don't mind sharing.
/r/seduction25/09/13 12:47 AM
3

Check. There's actually a good grip of sexy stoners over here. It's fuckin great.
/r/seduction25/08/13 04:22 AM
2

I'll keep this in mind for the next time I want to be a giant douchebag.
/r/seduction24/08/13 06:12 PM
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Ok good tip man. Now just tell me where are some good beaches in Colorado?
/r/seduction24/08/13 05:57 PM
8

Personally I use "chica" on every girl. Maybe it's because I have a thing for latinas and Hispanic culture in general, but I've never gotten any complaints from it.
/r/seduction20/08/13 06:31 AM
1

"The court of play...." haha
/r/seduction24/03/13 05:24 AM
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