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you aint ugly bro just gotta shave that pubey beard of your's. And dude idk if you're memeing but you don't need an 8' cock to get girls, stay off the incel forums. Plenty of us non-mandingo packing dudes have gotten girls recently lmao.
/r/seduction16/08/20 12:23 PM
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depends. From my experience at least, women tend to decide rather early on whether you're gonna be nothing more than a friend, or you have potential as a future intimate partner. If a girl has been in my social circle for some time and she hasn't given me ANY signs whatsoever, I assume she doesn't see me in that way and asking her only makes the dynamic awkward, particularly if it is a consistent circle where I have close friends in.
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:39 AM
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yes.. are you listening to that incel shit where they say "it's over" if it hasn't happened by the time you're 18 or whatever? Some guys are late bloomers. Improve on yourself and get out there. Being in a regular social environment helps a lot, like university or a job.
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:36 AM
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girls are actually more valued the longer they keep their v-card, while for men it's the opposite. I agree this guy shouldn't have lowered his standards but at the same time I can understand he was probably tired of having the virgin label, and not being in on the conversations whenever his boys would talk about sex. 23 is pretty late to lose your v-card as a man these days.
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:30 AM
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especially if it smells super bad and has an "organism"
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:27 AM
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you fingered a girl w/ a condom? thats big virgin energy bro do not do that w/ another girl in the future unless she asks for it Also news flash.. girls tend to moan, doesn't mean she's having a god damn orgasm (or "organism" as you say). I highly doubt you were able to get her to actually have an orgasm considering this was your first time being intimate w/ a woman.
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:26 AM
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judging by how he bad he said it smelled her coochie probably did have many organisms
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:23 AM
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they way I see it is rejection is hell and regret is purgatory. Rejection feels like shit and multiple studies have proven that humans are wired to feel bad about it, so anyone who claims they love rejection is flat-out lying to themselves. However, although it feels bad, you at least know what you get w/ it and there's an end to it. But w/ regret you're constantly worried about the what-ifs which is probably worse in the long run.
/r/seduction27/07/20 03:09 AM
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the fact that this post got a trophy and hundreds of upvotes really speaks to the simp nature of most redditors. Omg a female! Better upvote and spend points for my kween!
/r/seduction27/07/20 03:02 AM
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I don't understand what you're saying
/r/seduction27/07/20 02:59 AM
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Next time just give the girl your age, I think girls may think it's weird or you're hiding something if you intentionally withhold it despite her asking you after giving you her age. Also, I'd consider making a snapchat. I know someone else here said women often use social media as a defensive tool, and while I agree to a certain extent, these days people are genuinely more comfortable talking thru social media versus their phones. often times at my university, when we have to exchange numbers f…
/r/seduction03/07/20 09:00 AM
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Just act like you’re playing a character. A lot of the girls I’ve interacted with think I’m this unemotional and under control guy but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. In reality I’m quite emotionally sensitive and I lose my temper pretty easily. This one girl I was intimate with said “you just never give a fuck, you always keep a poker face!” And I’m thinking in my head that couldn’t be further from how I really act. Obviously you want to keep some authenticity. But we all play roles an…
/r/seduction29/06/20 05:17 AM
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lets be real if a guy who looked like Chris Hemsworth complimented you on your appearance you wouldn't gaf
/r/seduction26/06/20 03:33 AM
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you really need to loosen up and relax. I'm not gonna try and force someone to drink but I actually think having a drink or two can help you out loads. also you may need to improve your pics if you're not getting any results from online dating. people over complicate online dating but in reality if you have goods pics and your bio isn't something crazy you should be getting some results. Maybe even hire a photographer if you think it'll help you out, i know a lot of guys do that
/r/seduction20/05/20 09:31 PM
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to be fair a 7 is not average, average is really a 5... a true 7 would mean you're like top 20% or higher. But yeah, I think what helps guys a lot is facial hair tbh. A nice beard can seriously make a man look drastically different. Also men tend to gain more aesthetic results from working out, and a considerable number of young men don't start doing until they're in their 20s. Reason being is estrogen stores fat differently, tends to be in places that do not affect a woman's perceived attractiv…
/r/seduction15/03/20 12:47 AM
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I cant :( this was the last day of class. Hopefully I see her again. I was thinking of just adding her on social media or something but that may seem weird, like we know each other to at least know our names but I've only talked to her like 3 times
/r/seduction11/03/20 06:56 AM
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yeah I have crazy approach anxiety, i'm pretty shy to begin w/. for every girl I've ever been romantically/sexually involved w/ (never been in a relationship tho) I never had to approach them. I have trouble just going up to a girl I've never met and chatting them up and asking for their number. I've done it just a couple times when I was drunk at a bar
/r/seduction11/03/20 06:55 AM
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I'd say if you're a good-looking guy you can use this to your advantage and have it be a way to talk to girls. I know this sub sometimes likes to undervalue looks but it's no secret that often times the difference b/w a guy coming off as "creepy" or not comes down to what you look like. that isn't always the case, of course. But often times from my experience, at least in my college whenever one of my female friends calls a guy creepy 9 times out of 10 it will be some ugly or old looking guy she…
/r/seduction09/03/20 09:13 PM
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I definitely brings attention towards you. On my college campus whenever someone has a dog girls circle around it and spend a significant amount of time petting the dog and talking to the owner. Idk if it's attracts women per se but it certainly can open the door for you to make conversation. But there's a fine line- if a woman is there for the dog, she might be creeped out if you ask her for her number to hang out or something
/r/seduction09/03/20 08:22 AM
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some of these aren't signs she's not into you, a girl doesn't have to be absolutely obsessed w/ you right away for you to have a future w/ her. Number 5 in particular seems wrong to me, if you met her right away on Tinder and w/in two messages you try to hang out w/ her, it's pretty reasonable for her to say "i think we need to get to know each other better." Also, saying this can, depending on the tone and context, imply that she's open to getting to know you better, as if she was simply not in…
/r/seduction08/03/20 06:54 AM
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Lmao can’t even reply back with something that makes sense so you reduce yourself to ad hominems. Amazing! You probably don’t even know what that means tho
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:45 AM
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Wtf are you on about OP made a post about going up to woman and approaching, of course they’re making a judgement on him. So I told him when he feels insecure, think about a positive approach interaction. What’s so wrong with that? When did I say women are thinking about him all the time? You’re comprehension skills are laughable, of course someone is thinking about you when you’re a stranger and they’re talking to you
/r/seduction01/03/20 10:06 PM
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hey man it's great you're getting out of your comfort zone but I recommend not asking the girl to hang out right away if you just met her, unless she's throwing you over-the-top signs she's interested. You have to build a certain level of trust and rapport before you can hang out w/ her. Next time you should ask for her number or social media instead of asking her to hang out right away. Or, you can combine the two and say "If you're interested, I'd like to take you to XYZ place sometime, maybe …
/r/seduction01/03/20 05:43 AM
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have you at least had one instance where it went well, or a woman thought you were attractive? Cuz if it happened even once you should always remind yourself of that. Whenever I feel insecure in an interaction I always think of the successes I've had rather than letting my brain automatically assume a bad scenario
/r/seduction01/03/20 04:49 AM
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yeah the only girls that ever straight-up come and hit on me tend to be ones that aren't super attractive. I do get IOIs from some of the attractive ones, but I've never had a girl I was very attracted to come up and straight-up make a move on me. Girls are more likely to give IOIs than approach tho, data shows that. I'd say if you're openly getting hit-on by women at all it means you're decent-looking at least
/r/seduction01/03/20 04:45 AM
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if it's a girl you have to be around in the future and it's over text just say "oh okay, I appreciate you letting me know, I hope we can still be friends in the future!" even if you don't mean it I was addressing your part about not being rude
/r/seduction01/03/20 04:42 AM
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lmao some women really take that 6 ft standard way too seriously
/r/seduction01/03/20 04:38 AM
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how did they belittle you? sounds a bit excessive if you didn't game and all you did was try to be friendly at a party
/r/seduction01/03/20 03:44 AM
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Seems like it. She at least thought you were attractive most likely. She wouldn’t be inviting you to escalate with her as soon as she got out of a relationship if she wasn’t attracted. What’s signs does she give you?
/r/seduction29/02/20 04:18 AM
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No that’s not really friendzoning because she had a relationship. Friendzoning usually entails the girl likes you as a friend but doesnt wanna go further b/c she isn’t attracted to you. If she wants to be Friends cuz she’s in a relationship that doesn’t really count, that’s to be expected
/r/seduction29/02/20 04:15 AM
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I live in LA, im around the same age as you and while I’m not black the majority of the friends I go out with are. Soloing is gonna be very tough here if you aren’t attractive + decently tall. My black friends that are good looking have no issues, girls will even approach them. But my black friends who are average have found it tough to get girls, and when they solo girl automatically assume they’re creeps. The competition here is fierce and the girls tend to be on the shallow side. If you’re ab…
/r/seduction29/02/20 04:13 AM
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Romance from friendships or friend zones? Friendzones are completely different, it’s usually the girl rejected you b/c she likes your friendship but isn’t attracted to you. Those are very very difficult to get out of, nearly impossible
/r/seduction29/02/20 04:03 AM
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Lots of girls play with their hair, idk why guys think that always means something. I’ve seen girls play with their hair while talking to their dads, or a super old professor they’re clearly not attracted to. It CAN mean something, but imo it’s not this huge this everyone makes it out to be.
/r/seduction29/02/20 03:59 AM
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Not really. That’s pretty normal for most guys tbh. Out of 100 girls you approach AT LEAST half will be taken already. That leaves you w/ 50. Assuming you’re an above average looking guy and your approach wasn’t god awful, you may be able to get 10-15 legit numbers (some girls will give fake ones). And out of that, you’re only gonna be able to meet up with a small minority, maybe 10%. It’s like on tinder, if you’re a guy and you have 20 matches, out of those you’re lucky to even get 1 meet-up
/r/seduction29/02/20 03:39 AM
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I've noticed eastern european women tend to be pretty receptive/warm when it comes to being approached
/r/seduction24/02/20 05:34 AM
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don't feel bad man, shit happened to me too. Sex is nothing like how it is in the videos and it can be very surprising when it happens, and she didn't know you were a virgin so she probably expected you to have a decent idea on what you're doing. just remind yourself you can only get better w/ experience. So at the end of the day, you still learned a lot from this and it's a confidence booster, it shows that you are able to attract a woman to be intimate w/ you
/r/seduction23/02/20 04:13 AM
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dude this is so crazy cuz something very similar to me happened my first time. How did the sex go, if you don't mind me asking? cuz if the sex did not go well (as it usually occurs on the first time) she may be turned off by that and ghost you. Sucks but it happens to a lot of people. but yeah i think you're playing it fine. You invited her, so if she wants to go and is open to another hook-up the ball is in her court now
/r/seduction23/02/20 03:32 AM
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damn that guy she was referring to brought up really good arguments. I gotta use them next time someone tries to pull that "you can't discriminate against men" bs
/r/MensRights23/02/20 01:03 AM
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i see what you're saying w/ this, and I agree this mindset can be toxic sometimes. But if you're ever doubting the amount of options even a basic woman has (not even a particularly attractive one) just put the girl filter on yourself, make a tinder, and see how much attention and matches you get. It's pretty eye-opening. never did this myself but there are plenty of youtube videos on it, and if a guy on a snapchat girl filter gets that much attention I can't imagine how much even an average look…
/r/seduction22/02/20 03:40 AM
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I lost my v-card at 23, tho I made out w/ a couple girls before then (had my first makeout/kiss at 18). I know how tough it can be. I used to cringe when I'd be w/ my homies and they would start talking about the girls they were fucking and going into details like "you know how it feels good when you do xyz position?" I just felt so left out of the convo and I would always try to steer it to a different topic so they wouldn't start asking me shit. Being deprived of intimacy definitely can have d…
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:06 AM
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I think Charisma is a real thing, and what you say can certainly have an effect on women, but I don't think there is any magical phrase or series of words you can say that can make a women like you if there wasn't that baseline level of attraction already there.
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:00 AM
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I had a somewhat similar situation with a girl I went to the same school w/. She was always willing to hang out and even drove pretty far one time to do so. I thought she was into me but turns out she just wanted to be friends. College is a weird place sometimes, and while there are some signs she may be into you, it’s difficult to say if she’s just being friendly or she is into you romantically at this point. The fact that she texted you a week later about hanging out shows that she remembers w…
/r/seduction19/02/20 08:05 PM
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If you’re already fucking other girls then best to move on. She’s being pretty confusing tbh. I had something similar happen tho it wasn’t cuz my dick was too big but instead I was pretty trash in bed. Oh well. For you I think it may be because she didn’t think y’all were compatible in bed, in that she thinks the sex isn’t gonna be enjoyable for her in the long run
/r/seduction19/02/20 09:42 AM
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I'm a firm believer in that there needs to be a baseline level of attraction before you can turn her on w/ your words. SHe doesn't necessarily need to think your god's gift to women but to turn her on w/ words she usually has to think you're at least decently attractive beforehand. I guess maybe compliments, but most girls hear that all the time... which is why I say she needs to be at least somewhat attracted to you
/r/seduction18/02/20 05:16 AM
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not just prolonged eye contact but her eyes follow you. Maybe even a quick glance up-and-down. touchy w/ you (some girls are just touchy in general tho). idk if this is a non-verbal but if you're in a group in a social setting (i.e. party or club) she makes reasons to be w/in your proximity. I hooked-up w/ this one girl and I had no idea she was even into me, like I totally thought she had a different type to what I looked like. But I guess the one sign she showed when I looked back was while we…
/r/seduction18/02/20 05:13 AM
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A) Yep, if the other person has them on. I also thought this was an instagram convo but I guess not. If you texted her honestly at this point it'd be best to not say anything at all, seems like she made her stance clear by ignoring C) I think that's a great place to meet women. Talking to them in-person for short amounts of time isn't that bad- when you first meet them in a social event you really wanna just get the contact info asap, unless it's at a bar and you feel like you can build some ten…
/r/seduction18/02/20 05:04 AM
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make a tinder. If you can AT LEAST get in the double digits of matches w/in the first day or 2, then you're probably at least above average. If you got like 60+ matches in the same time span and several girls are initiating messages w/ you, then you are very attractive. for women it's different tho- even below average girls can get hundreds of matches, but for men it's not as easy. getting those off-hand comments does not really mean much tbh. Everyone has received at least a couple of those in …
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:32 AM
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yeah I would stop after 2 if I'm getting straight-up ignores A) are there read receipts? does it show that she has read it or not? If not I guess you could ask that you're just making sure she got the message but tbh I think at this point any further messaging, especially about the event, makes you come off as desperate B) it's all about context. If she is actively talking to you and is giving you what seems like reasonable excuses for why she can't come, then maybe you may ask her multiple time…
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:28 AM
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idk what your experiences have been w/ women but if you've been hanging out w/ a girl for a long time (years in your case) chances are you're not gonna just magically hook-up w/ her one night unless there has been sexual tension before. Whether she had a bf the whole time you knew her or not- has she shown you signs she was attracted to you? I'm just saying you've hung out w/ this girl consistently for years so it may be weird from her pov if you just come at her sexually at one point. But hey i…
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:17 AM
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"If you invited a college girl to two events you were going to and got no response from her after two attempts, what (or even should you) do to provoke a response? " nothing at all. She's not into you, just being frank. If you asked her twice about going somewhere w/ no response, not much you can do. I am in my last year of college at a very social school so I have some experience w/ college girls. I disagree w/ thesingleguy, don't know who he is but I just don't agree w/ what he said. It can ap…
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:12 AM
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if you guys already hang out regularly then in this situation the only thing you can do is tell her and be frank about it. Don't plan some grand way to confess your undying love for her but just be casual about it and let her know that as you guys have been spending a lot of time w/ each other you'd like to get to know her in a non-platonic way
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:08 AM
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she's just trying to be safe. If you're attracted to her and you think it's worth for the first "date" to be essentially just a hangout then do it. I don't see it as that much of an issue- as guys sometimes we underestimate the dangers women have to go thru when dating someone off the internet. She's just making sure you're not a guy who collects women's scalps
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:03 AM
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What do you mean by friend zone tho exactly? Have you already made a move on her? If you already did and she put you in the friend zone, then I’d say no. But if you have just been hanging out as friends, and you haven’t made a move yet, then I don’t see why not
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:20 PM
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I understand why you might be mad I guess but you shouldn’t be mad at him at all. He didn’t know you had feelings for her, for him it was just any other girl that was down to fuck. I’d talk to him about it beforehand tho if you wanna make a move- I’ve been in similar situations in my friend group and things can get a bit messy.
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:18 PM
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That’s great! I lost mine a few months ago, I’m exactly a decade younger than you but these days even losing your vcard at 23 is considered a late bloomer. The girl was very experienced, and I was attracted to her. My experience didn’t go as well- I was pretty drunk and I literally met her the same day we smashed. It went okay in the beginning but due to my drunken state and inexperience we had to stop like 15 mins into it cuz it just was going well. We don’t talk anymore but oh well. Happy for …
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:13 PM
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Tinder is fucking weird. I got a decent amount of matches, even some superlikes, and nothing has come out of it. I even had this one girl message me first, show clear interest, and yet when I ask for her number she unmatched me. Shit is so confusing, makes no sense whatsoever. I wish I could have low inhibition like you and cold approach tho. How tall are you btw? girls on tinder have crazy standards when it comes to height. Anything below 6'0 and they will not wanna right-swipe you
/r/seduction16/02/20 05:35 AM
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stop being a puss he just said he doesn't go that way.
/r/seduction16/02/20 05:33 AM
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she never said this applies to all women... but from my experience what she said applies to majority of women. Being masculine but not overly cocky, approaching w/ confidence, and not being submissive tend to be things most straight women, from my experience, like in men.. whether they admit it or not
/r/seduction09/12/19 01:28 AM
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I've been there before.. just get over her bro. If you're going as far as researching to see what her behavior entails, it seems like you're thinking about her too much. This girl ghosted you (not only did she reject, but that's kinda disrespectful), and despite you taking the rejection well it seems like she has you on a string. Girls will do all types of weird, unpredictable shit, but tbh I don't think it's likely she's somehow "changed her mind" all of a sudden. You'd look silly asking her fo…
/r/askTRP06/12/19 10:35 AM
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Yeah, I swear guys can be the biggest haters sometimes. Some guys wanna be like those catty girls who hate on other girls for getting the attention of their crush. These guys are too afraid to approach any girl so they try to make fun of you to make themselves feel better, cuz deep down it bothers them that they can't make a bold move like that. I know it's difficult but you just gotta ignore them. This type of shit happens
/r/seduction06/12/19 07:37 AM
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I've learned that these days, when you see a girl is interested and you are interested in her, you wanna close or set something up right there on the night out. There have been one too many times where I just say "oh I'll ask her on a date later, that way it'll be more private" only for it to fucked me over as she ghosts me. I feel like w/ social media and online dating ppl in general have lower attention spans, but it's even worse for girls. I don't have any concrete data to back this claim, bu…
/r/seduction06/12/19 07:34 AM
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nightlife settings are always the best for hooking up w/ girls in college imho. It helps to know some frat ppl, which gives you an easy in "hey [girl], theta blah blah blah is hosting this party. I can bring one girl with me, would you like to come?" Of course not everyone knows or cares to develop relationships w/ frat guys so you may need to find other things. Just being an overall social person helps, that way you know of events and can invite girls to one. basically, going from a club meetin…
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:07 PM
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How to make beautiful women "beg" to be your gf? Either be attractive af or be super successful/rich. If you're not either of these then you have to work hard to get a beautiful woman to consider being your gf. I think when they're "begging" to be your gf that's a whole different league you're in
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:51 PM
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this one has me at an odds. I'm not a social butterfly per se but I'm in my last year of college and I want to enjoy my free time when possible, so I like to go out w/ my friends to bars/clubs every so often. If I do it, I don't think it's fair I would never let my gf go out w/ her gfs (don't have a gf atm, just speaking hypothetically). It's one thing to go to clubs and get wasted every week (if that's what she's doing you should prob. drop her), but if she wants to go once in a while w/ her gf…
/r/seduction04/12/19 10:49 PM
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I think when OP posted this question, he was asking how you build sexual tension/vibe w/ a girl who is just a friend or stranger. Your suggestion seemed more for a guy that already has sexual relationship w/ a girl
/r/seduction04/12/19 05:56 AM
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this sub doesn't have that many women on it, so if you're looking for a woman's pov this may not be the right place to ask. But from my experience it's gonna depends on your features, so i don't think you'll get a good answer on reddit regardless. If you're already tall, then you dont "need" to have muscles as bad as someone who is average height or shorter to attract women. If you already have a defined jaw then it may be better to just sacrifice some of that sharpness for muscle
/r/seduction03/12/19 10:23 AM
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whats your race combination, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/seduction03/12/19 09:42 AM
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Really? A lot of girls I've talked to in real life told me they and their friends take time and actually read the bio, as long as it's not too lengthy. But yeah either way, pics matter the most. My friend also was getting no matches, he was an average looking white guy. He had my photographer friend take photos of him w/ a professional camera, and afterwards he was getting matches like crazy. I think also to capture a shot of you doing something you're passionate about. Music helps a lot particu…
/r/seduction03/12/19 08:51 AM
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Idk if being asian "helps" tbh, I mean more and more girls of other races (particularly white girls) are becoming open to dating asian guys, especially in my area of LA. But there's still a long way to go and Asian men are generally considered to be among the bottom of the latter in terms of desirability among women. Still, I don't let that get me down and use it as a crutch like some other Asian men do. At the end of the day, if you work on yourself and maximize your potential, you will attract…
/r/seduction03/12/19 08:46 AM
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dudes really downplay the importance of taking good pics. I feel like I'm a pretty normal looking guy- and I'm asian at that (some ppl will say don't even bother w/ tinder if you're an Asian guy). I used to get no matches, I think I got like 3 in 2 months when I first made tinder. Discouraged af, I deleted that shit... but I recently thought I'd make one, being in a new city and all (LA). I took a way better pictures this time, and thus for this account I got way more matches in 2 days than I co…
/r/seduction03/12/19 06:13 AM
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Yeah I would basically just keep it to that. Maybe a few messages a day at most. Nothing where you guys are having prolonged conversations.
/r/seduction03/12/19 05:18 AM
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dude this is horrible. "1 year anniversary of us knowing each other"?!! What kinda simp ass shit is this? Sorry, I don't mean to come off like a dick but come on man, have some respect for yourself, and the girl. She rejected you, move on. there are other girls in this world for you. Life isn't a movie where you get rejected and win over the girl thru all odds. Sure it happens, but 99% of the time if the girl rejects you, that's the end of it and it's a signal for you to move on
/r/seduction02/12/19 10:21 AM
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I'm about to be in finals week too. I generally avoid talking to women at all when it's close to finals week, women I'm interested in that is. I'm very serious about school tho, so idk if everyone else does that. If you guys are both as busy as you say I'm sure the interest wont fizzle out. You can talk to her but keep it to a minimum
/r/seduction02/12/19 09:33 AM
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If it gives you confidence and it's doesn't look like a halloween costume, I don't think there's anything wrong w/ it, personally. But (just being realistic) I feel like some girls will judge you for it. Just like how some girls will judge you for wearing make-up, they may question if you're truly confident about yourself or not. Not saying this is right, but it's just something that could definitely happen
/r/seduction02/12/19 03:23 AM
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I feel like it's not nearly as socially accepted for guys to wear colored contacts, as it is for women. Just like how it is for wearing make-up.
/r/seduction02/12/19 02:12 AM
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I wouldn't say it's "letting go" per se, more like I don't pressure myself to see that as the only outcome. It just takes the pressure off.. some dudes approach women and all they're thinking of is "how do i build sexual attraction w/ this girl?" and then every single move and word the utter to the girl is something to meet that goal. It can end up backfiring... some ppl can disagree w/ me but personally I find myself being able to talk to women way more successfully when I'm not just thinking a…
/r/seduction30/11/19 04:27 AM
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Seems like the book is selling you some crap- I guess they took some buddhist ideas and morphed it into some bs. In buddhism they talk about this state of not wanting anything, and how that's the ultimate state (don't know too much, so forgive me if I'm leaving out details). But that state should not be desired to want something. I mean, that literally doesn't even make sense, it's contradictory. If i wanna get a certain job, i should just forget about it and do nothing, and somehow that gets me…
/r/seduction30/11/19 04:10 AM
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when you're on college it's pretty easy to talk to girls. You say you're in a nursing problem, so i'd imagine that the ratios in most of your core classes are going to be crazy (as in heavily disproportionate towards females). I don't have experience at a small school, I go to a big university but I do know that being in college makes it way easier to talk to girls. First off, a lot of them are open to meeting new people, and it's even necessary to a degree. What I do sometimes is, if I see a cu…
/r/seduction30/11/19 04:03 AM
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if you've already hooked up then why not? Just keep reminding yourself to not go overboard
/r/seduction30/11/19 03:42 AM
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Good luck man! I think it's great you wanna change your life for the better by being more social. And for the tinder thing- tinder is cool to have on the side while youre meeting girls in person. It can teach you a lot about texting game, tbh. Maybe you didn't get any matches cuz you didn't have a good profile? When i first made it I didn't get any matches either, I think I got like 2 after weeks. But I just recently got back into it and I've been able to get way more matches then I ever thought…
/r/seduction30/11/19 02:49 AM
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this is true, but I think when you always approach women w/ this pressure to build sexual attention, it can backfire. I've always found it easier/had more success by not putting pressure on myself and just going into it as a friend. Once you get them comfortable enough to exchange numbers, you can get to know them better and either set up a date or try to build more attraction from there. I think you may be running out of things to say because you're not experienced enough and you're putting too…
/r/seduction29/11/19 11:50 AM
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tbh i think you may be looking a little deeply into it. Some girls do this all the time. You can only get a sense if you're around the girl pretty regularly and you analyze how her behavior is around other ppl versus you
/r/seduction29/11/19 01:44 AM
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I would only ask for nudes if I had hooked up w/ the girl before. Or if she was being overly sexual/clearly acting like she would be down to send nudes. Most girls would be creeped/turned off by the notion of a man asking them for nudes no matter how you ask, especially if you guys don't already have some type of sexual relationship
/r/seduction29/11/19 01:42 AM
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You don't necessarily have to be attractive in the face to get cute gym girls. Haven't you seen those couples where the girl is really hot/fit and the dude is a kinda ugly buff guy? What I would say is, you usually have to have a good physique tho. If she goes to the gym regularly and keeps on her fitness game, she probably expects you to be the same
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:13 AM
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Find a hobby, set a goal to work at, meet some new girls. That's about all you can do. If you follow her on social media mute her or unfollow her. I know how it is... she's gonna stay on your mind if you continue seeing her. Best way to move on is to have other things going on in your life.
/r/seduction28/11/19 02:51 AM
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Musician thing definitely helps a lot, it's an easy conversation starter for a lot of girls. Also, women wanna man that is respected by his peers and other women. This can be a certain personality trait, appearance, a skillset, or job. As a musician myself, although I tend to be quiet and reserved I still feel like girls don't automatically categorize me as "low value" simply b/c I am respected by a lot of others for my skills in music. With music specifically, it also depends on what you're doi…
/r/seduction26/11/19 09:26 AM
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I transferred to a university at 22 and I’m 23 now. I’ll be 24 when I graduate. Honestly it’s not a huge deal man, girls don’t really care like that. It may also help I don’t necessarily look my age (a lot of ppl ask me if I’m 18), but there are plenty of dudes at my college 24 having no problem with girls. Don’t be self-conscious about it and it won’t be an issue. Also go for the right girls- it’s understandable that a freshman might be apprehensive about your age, I mean she just got out of hi…
/r/seduction27/07/19 03:07 AM
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I mean you can. But the way I thought about it is this- if the girl finds out you lied, tho it’s rather harmless lie, she might use that to label you as a “liar” and not be interested in you. But if she is interested in you, whether you’re 23 or 24, it’s gonna make any difference lol
/r/seduction10/07/19 09:36 PM
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I wouldn’t do this unless you’re absolutely certain a woman is into you, or you just don’t care about your job. A customer can easily report you for sexual harassment and you’ll be fucked-not only will you be fired but shit like that could stay on your record. I know cuz I’ve worked retail for a while, I would have instances where I’d be very tempted to try to go at a woman, but I avoided doing so cuz of the potential consequences. Light flirting may be okay-even that tho I’d only do it if they …
/r/seduction10/07/19 08:29 PM
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Well at my school (I go to UCLA) area is very diverse, people here are very liberal, and it’s already hard enough to get in here so people don’t really give a shit. Some girls do act like you’re really old, not gonna lie. I mean, when you were graduating high school they were still in middle school so it’s understandable to an extent. But most girls I’ve interacted with are 20+ and they haven’t given a shit. Most will even consider me the same age group, like they’ll say things like “so and so i…
/r/seduction10/07/19 06:15 AM
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24 as freshman or as a transfer student? So as a 24 year old college student (I’ll be 25 when I graduate next year) I’ve had mixed reactions. I guess I look younger than my age cuz people ask me if I’m 18, and generally they’re surprised that I’m 24. Some act like you’re really old-I’ve had a 19 year old tell me I’m part of a different generation lol I had to correct him on that tho. But generally people don’t give a shit. I have some people I’m my classes who are in their 30s, a rare few in the…
/r/seduction10/07/19 05:21 AM
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Don’t fall into this trap. Girls will use you for drinks. I have a friend who does this all the time and the girls stay for a couple seconds as they both drink and leave. I think it’s different if you’re going to a bar with a girl, and you decide to get her a drink. But buying a girl who’s a stranger a drink does nothing but waste money
/r/seduction10/07/19 03:28 AM
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I feel like some of us are hardwired to suffer from “oneitis.” I myself am not just like this w/ girls (tho it’s currently with a girl I know somewhat well) but other things- I like to eat one type of meal, walk a specific way to school, listen to the same songs over and over again, etc. I mean sure I like to have some novel experiences here and there but generally I get attached to one thing and focus my energy on that. Oneitis isn’t so bad if the feelings are reciprocated. Its like the same th…
/r/seduction07/07/19 02:20 AM
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Did you double message her and she left you on read both times? Sorry to say it man but if that’s the case that’s a pretty big L. Just cuz she sat in front of you in lecture doesn’t really mean anything. She may just naturally be a flirty person-I wouldn’t say there are enough signs here to say she wants you to chase and it’s weird for her to completely ignore your messages on multiple occasions. Only thing I’d say for you to do is just chill and let her come to you, if she is interested at all.
/r/seduction07/07/19 02:12 AM
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I honestly thought it was weird this guy tired 6 times after she said no. I mean I’d assume after the 2nd or 3rd time you’d get the message. I understand she’s on your bed and you guys are making out-but she set clear boundaries, and she was comfortable with being intimate but not having sex on the first encounter
/r/seduction07/07/19 02:08 AM
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If the party is cool with smoking (weed or nicotine) and you smoke, you can always use that as reason to get a girl to come outside with you or something. It’s the same situation as when you’re in a club tho. It is quite annoying but usually I don’t just approach a group of girls by myself, usually I come with a group of friends and I’ll try to single out a girl while my friends talk to others
/r/seduction07/07/19 02:02 AM
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How long has it been? There’s nothing you could do but wait. Don’t even think about double texting her. She could just be busy
/r/seduction05/07/19 09:45 AM
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If you don’t know them then don’t do it. Girls are smarter than you think and they’ll see that you decided to hit them up after a selfie pic and think you’re just another thirsty dude. Any cute girl gets a shit ton of compliments any time she posts a selfie from her girlfriends and other thirsty dudes. If you’re already friends with her then I think that’s a different story. If I’m already friends with her and I think it’s a good idea to compliment (like I’ve already flirted with her before) the…
/r/seduction05/07/19 09:43 AM
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What do you mean by “known” this girl for a couple months now? Do you guys see each other/hang out consistently? Talk regularly? And when you talk how do you guys talk? You’d know if it’s purely friendly, or if there is some playful/flirty shit going on
/r/seduction02/07/19 02:21 AM
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Depends on the situation and girl, there’s no single rule to this shit But I feel like generally it should be a bit of both. Don’t treat her so shitty that you completely ignore her (tho it may work for some girls) and don’t put her on a pedastal to the point where you come off as needy
/r/seduction02/07/19 02:19 AM
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Height is definitely one of the things girls TEND to care about, there’s no sugarcoating that. But I say “tend to” because it is far from an absolute and I’ve seen plenty of girls who don’t mind dating guys shorter than them. I’ve also known plenty of girls who don’t care as long as you’re taller than them and if you’re 5 foot 6 in the us then you’re an inch taller than the average woman. Still, and again there’s no sugarcoating this- 5 foot 6 is considered short. But height is just one of the t…
/r/seduction01/07/19 09:41 PM
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I mean celebrities wear it all the time right? If it’s not noticeable I don’t see a problem. But I could imagine there may be women who may be turned off if they can tell you’re wearing foundation. It is a little different for us men just because women care a lot about a man’s confidence, whereas most of us guys could care less about how confident a woman is (to an extent). So wearing make-up might make some women think you’re not as confident as other guys. Idk tho man if it’s helping you tho I…
/r/seduction30/06/19 02:07 AM
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Yeah I mean that’s what I meant, the looking at her while you’re behind her part. I get you’re just looking to see if she’ll look back but honestly from her pov it seems like she was creeped out man
/r/seduction27/06/19 10:44 PM
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Seemed okay until the walking behind her part, honestly that shit is lowkey creepy bro, that’s just my opinion at least
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:08 PM
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🤔🤔🤔 this is a tough one, because this post assumes that qualities like shyness, confidence, etc. are enduring personality traits rather than things that can change. I’d have to disagree, cuz you can absolutely change and work on your shyness and become more confident. That “you make me feel nervous” shit may work on some girls, but looking at things from a completely neutral perspective, I’d reckon that the confident approach would have way more success.
/r/seduction26/06/19 09:25 PM
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I don’t see what’s the big deal with approaching women on social media. Times are changing, it is what it is. I’d rather approach a woman in person as well but I don’t see anything wrong w/ meeting women from Instagram. Only thing is you have to either be really photogenic or good-looking to have success on Instagram because it’s very similar to tinder in that it’s very vain/any half-decently looking women gets flooded with messages all day
/r/seduction26/06/19 09:09 PM
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I wouldn’t put too much thought into it. Some people are just like this, including myself. Even when I text girls I like I may tAke hours to reply, and funnily enough the girl then starts doing it to me lmao. The whole point of texting anyways is to get the girl to meet up w/ you in person. So cut the bs and ask her to hang out, then depending on her response you can determine whether it’s a lost cause or has potential.
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:49 PM
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99.9% the girl gives you an explanation it’s some bs anyways. Like “0h the timing isn’t right, I just didn’t feel a spark” etc. etc. So what’s even the point of asking for an explanation? It’s not gonna make you any better at your approach because she either lied or doesn’t understand her true feelings, so you end up just looking insecure. And don’t say you’re never gonna see the girl again, she could easily hook you up with one of her friends or even come crawling back to you if you approach th…
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:42 PM
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I’m kinda confused, the thumbnail is at my school but I didn’t see it in the actual video, tho I scrubbed thru it and didn’t see the full thing. And I’m not worried at all hahaha my school is 60% female and in LA, pretty girls are a dime a dozen Edit:typo
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:33 PM
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Don’t tell her about your lack of experience and that you’re sexually frustrated. She’s an older girl who seems to have a rather “no bs” attitude when it comes to sex, and telling her about your inexperience may be unattractive to her. I personally would go for a more subtle route- ask her on a date and try to escalate from there. But I’ve never had a FWB situation before so idk how shit like that starts- are people usually so upfront about it?
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:29 PM
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Girls do this literally all time to guys
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:17 PM
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There’s always someone better looking, bigger, stronger, smarter, more talented than you. There’s someone that’s better looking and taller than your friend also. This is just life man. I know it’s difficult but you gotta stop comparing yourself to other people all the time, otherwise you’re never gonna be happy. We don’t have any control over the cards were dealt with but it’s our job to make use of what we have. I’ve realized that the less of these natural “gifts” one has, the more game they ne…
/r/seduction26/06/19 08:14 AM
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The absolute WORST thing you can do after getting rejected by a girl is asking for an explanation. It honestly just makes you look weak and insecure. I’ve learned from personal experience cuz I once lacked a lot of confidence. I learned from that shit and recently when a girl rejected me instead of asking for an explanation I just left the conversation and a couple weeks later she’s initiating things w/ me all of a sudden. It’s funny how just leaving a situation can work so much in your benefit.…
/r/seduction26/06/19 02:06 AM
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Also I feel like you shouldn’t expect a woman to give you feedback. At the end of the day, we really don’t know our own feelings, and sometimes something just doesn’t feel right and we can’t pinpoint the exact reason why
/r/seduction26/06/19 01:58 AM
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Wtf this is at my school lmfao
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:59 AM
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I’d have to respectfully disagree man. Some girls don’t care too much about status, but I’ve been around a lot of girls who most certainly care about what you have going for you. Maybe it’s just because I live in Southern California, idk, but a lot of the girls in my age group (21+) consider what you have going for you when deciding on whether to date you or not. It doesn’t mean you have to be a millionaire engineer working at Silicon Valley, but whether/where you go to school, what job you have…
/r/seduction23/06/19 12:50 AM
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Dude working as retail helped me get out of my comfort zone ALOT especially when I worked in the cash register. At the time my manager made me greet every single person that walked in the door, so I went from being an extreme introvert to having no problems greeting/starting conversations w/ complete strangers. Start by asking how their day is when you’re ringing them up, and a conversation can start from there. There may be some dick customers who want to completely ignore you but most people a…
/r/seduction19/06/19 04:07 AM
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I'd go to a bar with some friends. Or hit up girls you know from college online. I really don't think girls will mind about you not having a job if they're within your age group since you have a college degree. Maybe women in their late 20s+ will mind cuz at that age they care about that type of shit a lot more. Not gonna lie tho college is prob the best time to meet girls, which is why I'm tryin to optimize on whatever time I have left as an undergrad. If your college is close by maybe go there…
/r/seduction30/05/19 02:40 AM
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Only 4 dudes? Damn that's crazy my lecture halls usually have hundreds of students. I really wish my college had more smaller classes. The first week is the easiest time to talk to people. You'll get another chance
/r/seduction30/05/19 12:32 AM
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It seems like you're playing games too tho tbh? You want to kiss her cuz you're attracted to her, but you don't cuz you know she's talking to other guys atm? Honestly if she's single I don't understand why that's such a big problem. You haven't made the move for anything exclusive. Most single girls these days that are even half attractive talk to multiple guys at once w/ social media being a thing and all.
/r/seduction30/05/19 12:31 AM
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Damn she really hit you up like that after the allergy joke? Honestly it was kinda corny but hilarious in a dad joke kinda way and I'm very surprised she gave you the cold shoulder Anyways I can understand this is really shitty, having gone thru something similar. You meet a new girl, engage in some intimate acts, then you guys speak afterwards like it's developing into a relationship, only to be blindsided by her cold shoulder. Maybe the poem was a little too much for her? Like she thought you …
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:31 AM
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Are you saying that the issue is you don't have a place to meet girls, or the fact that you don't have a job is a turn off? As far as it being a turn off goes, you're only 1 year out of college so I'd say it's understandable. If it's really an issue just say you're in a temporary internship or some bs
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:27 AM
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I have a girl just like this. Sometimes when she sees me in the bar she'll start laying her head on my shoulder, and I really don't know her like that. I wouldn't personally just cuz I'm not that attracted to her physically, and it seems that's the case for you. But if you think she's somewhat attractive and she makes herself available, why not?
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:23 AM
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I feel like the whole point of texting is to get the girl to hangout with you in person. Girls tend to play way too many games and it's hard to know what their intentions are thru text. In-person you can pick up on all the non-verbal cues, and everything is more organic. The fact that you can think about what you say before you text is helpful sometimes, but it doesn't really give you a glimpse of what the conversation should've been like
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:21 AM
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Honestly man it seems to me that you're looking for signs when there aren't any, and that's why you're confused. The fact that she's willingly talking about other guys is a huge sign that you're in the friendZone. I mean I guess there's a small possibility she could be doing this to make you jealous but I highly doubt that's the case. As far as wanting to go to a restaurant I don't really think that's means anything romantically. But who knows maybe you should go and see how it plays out, wouldn…
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:16 AM
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You've basically developed a schema where your mind goes to the worst possible outcome as a likely outcome. It's pretty much like a phobia. You attack phobias by confronting them and learning that they aren't as scary as you thought it was. For instance let's say you're scared of spiders, you don't like them and worried one might bite and poison you. Thru many baby steps, you start approaching spiders, learning they're not that harmful after all, until the point where you can grab one w/ your ha…
/r/seduction27/05/19 08:25 AM
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given that she's relatively comfortable around you, if she has tattoos (on her arms, let's say) you can touch and make a comment about it. How she reacts may also reveal how she feels about you (tho not all the time), since in this case the touch was unexpected, so her reaction will be reflexive. Also if you say a funny joke or watch something funny and you guys share a laugh you can tap her or lightly grab her arm. This one is hard to explain but you see people doing this all the time w/ other …
/r/seduction27/05/19 07:21 AM
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thank you. I needed this lol.
/r/seduction27/05/19 05:54 AM
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what was the text she didn't respond to? if it was just some small talk shit then yeah i'd just go ahead and ask her out for a 2nd date
/r/seduction27/05/19 04:51 AM
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back off immediately. Now her friend is gonna tell her that you were looking for her after the fact that she ignored your text to hang out.
/r/seduction27/05/19 04:45 AM
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I don't understand why you're so confused about her intentions? seems like you guys just had some good text conversations, and that's about it. Just ask her out and see what she says. playing this game of trying to decipher every little thing she's doing is going to drive you crazy, trust me I know cuz I used to do that. I found it's way easier ,once you and the girl you're interested in are friendly and have had a decent amount of convos, to just ask her out for dinner/movie/etc.
/r/seduction27/05/19 03:02 AM
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Some girls will never make the first move (maybe that's the conservative culture coming into play) and they'll treat you like a friend until you do something. It's difficult to say if you were truly friendzoned to begin w/
/r/seduction27/05/19 02:58 AM
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