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9

Been there can confirm. Wasn’t random tourist girls though but hookers are aggressive
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:47 PM
3

I have a house in the burbs and a good job. I don’t want random people coming over and messing with my stuff so I game in the wild
/r/seduction22/04/24 05:51 PM
30

Fine line between playful negging and aggressive behavior
/r/seduction26/03/24 06:27 PM
2

Man isn’t it refreshing to mingle with a grounded girl. This kinda situation is my favorite hook up scenario
/r/seduction25/03/24 07:57 PM
114

Or your standards are low kek
/r/seduction18/03/24 06:50 PM
2

Well I’d say you want to at least have the girl notice you before you approach. Surprising her when she’s walking or reading a book somewhere without her at least looking your way once requires chad level game ready to address shit tests or rejection
/r/seduction07/08/23 06:17 PM
1

Technically although most guys wouldn’t realize those nonchalant signs most girls give off today so they’d take those silent stares and looking off into space when you’re around as not an indicator
/r/seduction07/08/23 06:06 PM
2

Agree in a club setting. I was referring to the day game typical spots like a store, gym, campus etc
/r/seduction07/08/23 06:03 PM
5

So many girls are timid and shy or they just want validation as they dread being rejected. The only IOIs I see are: hovering around in your space, trying to catch glances and then looking stone faced, silent dull face like the saw a ghost
/r/seduction07/08/23 02:27 PM
0

I was at this one random hotel for a conference and there was this total bombshell working out solo in this small hotel gym. I thought she was on the job
/r/seduction25/10/22 12:14 AM
10

Ignoring girls only works if she’s already attracted to you but she has to give in at some level in order to progress forward or it’s just a game. Have fun with it and snap some gym stories with you and a random girl or somethjng
/r/seduction19/10/22 04:02 PM
2

Old is all about the flash instant physical interaction for teens/early 20s and college. After that, the attractive girls don’t swipe on older guys and they’re bombarded with likes. Irl is where it’s at for me- I look younger than I am and I don’t get profiled like I do on the apps. I did an experiment where I put my age at 21 vs 28 and I got sooo many more likes with an identical profile
/r/seduction11/10/22 06:52 PM
8

So what are some good generic openers for autists?
/r/seduction05/10/22 05:26 PM
1

You can look tops and have everything on point but you still have to have some conversation go-tos that don’t have to be pickupy lines
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:50 PM
123

I want a dog bad..it definitely is a big pro with women that you can care for another creature subconsciously. But I’m not home often enough rn so it wouldn’t be responsible
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:42 PM
1

It’s a fine line on picking up at the gym- if you’re there often don’t approach a girl you just saw once- she should be a regular. Curious to hear a woman’s take on some signals guys could give out to show they’re interested- besides just going for it
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:08 PM
2

Only works on younger women. That won’t last
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:27 PM
2

I am all of you
/r/seduction15/09/22 12:48 PM
2

What are some of your favorite jokes?
/r/seduction14/09/22 05:04 PM
46

Facts. For me I don’t have any issues in business bc I’m confident in my product but for some reason when it comes to attracting women I take it more personal
/r/seduction14/09/22 04:58 PM
11

Don’t give an accurate description of what your wearing/vehicle you’re driving so you can scope out beforehand and bail if there’s a carrot and beans between the legs Oh and if you’re talking on Reddit chances are they’ll see your post history and know you’re asking bout this…
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:56 PM
5

Being attractive does have downsides ie girls are a lot more reserved around you bc they don’t think they’re good enough for you and if you’re not immediately direct and approach they’ll starting playing games
/r/seduction29/08/22 02:00 PM
2

Just buy a shirt with a bunch of peacocks on it. They’ll get it
/r/seduction24/08/22 03:54 PM
1

Joe dirt Buffalo bob
/r/seduction03/08/22 06:05 PM
1

Haha look him up
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:58 PM
1

They default to thinking you’re buffalo bob
/r/seduction03/08/22 05:53 PM
3

Ooooo Stan darsh
/r/seduction01/08/22 07:29 PM
2

Gawd..a European 6 is like an American 8 at least most euro girls aren’t overweight
/r/seduction27/07/22 08:19 PM
3

Toxic drama
/r/seduction26/07/22 08:27 PM
2

Night game means you’ve got to playfully bust their balls a bit instead of generic day game openers
/r/seduction26/07/22 01:46 PM
1

Don’t. She’ll either shit test with the BF drop and if you solider through like a champ she’ll never say it again. If she keeps at it back off
/r/seduction23/07/22 01:56 AM
2

Curious how’d you meet her and what was the approach? Btw quite a few male models are gay so maybe she runs with them
/r/seduction22/07/22 03:59 PM
5

“So it’s a fight to the death then” ;)
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:23 PM
1

You need to say “I’m not going to have sex with you” first as you ask her to get outta there
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:31 PM
1

You’re being vulnerable asking her out and it can be tough to do it multiple times (in person). She can also make it a shit test to see how confident you are but I’ve always burned that bc I hate games
/r/seduction07/07/22 02:45 PM
2

Drinks work magic. 5/hr tho and you’re up shit creek
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:53 PM
1

Depends…I wouldn’t approach a girl I haven’t seen before but after we’ve noticed each other and get a smile..that’s fair gsme
/r/seduction28/06/22 02:25 PM
2

Go up and joke around with him
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:16 PM
1

Besides the “it” guys rn..how do you keep and raise status..date/marry Kim k and vise versa. She’s a billionaire btw
/r/seduction24/05/22 08:24 PM
1

Truth. I always find the reaction “oh too bad…welp see you around” approach tends to be best
/r/seduction12/05/22 07:28 PM
2

It’s def a two way street but both should open up if one shows intent and vulnerability. If not- ditch em
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:31 PM
1

Ever heard of Hinge?
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:20 PM
4

Hell if you lower your standards you can all the women you want kings
/r/seduction19/04/22 08:40 PM
1

+1 yes- once I switched to “yeah she’s hot but does she have a personality/is interesting?” Completely changed my mindset
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:05 PM
1

Facts.
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:59 PM
2

Gotcha I feel ya. There’s a mom/daughter at my gym giving off positive vibes..I want to go for the daughter but she’s coming off shy..talking to the mom could get her to open up which is why the sisters play could work
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:57 PM
0

So on mom/daughter sets.. would you say a consistent solid opener would be to go for the “sisters” approach?
/r/seduction11/04/22 04:13 PM
1

It’s a crime it cost you $20k in attorney fees to get it wiped
/r/seduction08/04/22 07:14 PM
1

For sure I get ya. I was referring to the passive girls (seems like the majority). They may be interested but they’re so dull that it turns me off to approach. As the saying goes 20% of guys get 80% of women.. those guys push through the passiveness so those girls just assume to act passive expecting you to be that type of guy and then they never experience rejection (which I believe is actually worse for their mental state than for a guy). I’ve seem passive girls get frustrated cause I wasn’t p…
/r/seduction06/04/22 08:11 PM
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My issue is..when they’re mostly passive like that..what’s the point? A girl could be DTF but would never utter a word- yeah society tells her “if you’re showing interest, guys think you’re a hoe” and if a guy shows interest he’s conditioned to think “this guy is a creep get away from me”
/r/seduction06/04/22 01:07 PM
10

In the butt
/r/seduction04/04/22 08:28 PM
6

“Smoky weed on the street” now that’s my kind girl
/r/seduction21/03/22 06:50 PM
1

I like the treat her like an old friend approach. I tend to come across across a bit too forward and while they still give out IOIs it usually turns into her giving constant short glances and breaking eye contact quickly
/r/seduction21/03/22 05:39 PM
46

The cider move. Works every time
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:23 PM
1

Or just lowered standards
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:09 PM
3

Get em cold first
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:26 PM
1

Sounds exhausting
/r/seduction01/03/22 03:48 PM
1

My teacher told me real beauty comes from the inside
/r/seduction27/02/22 09:30 PM
20

OP works at hinge
/r/seduction22/02/22 02:05 AM
1

Helps me. But bar settings are so limited it’s not reliable.
/r/seduction21/02/22 09:32 PM
1

You wanna go out sometime? “Yes”..Are you free Friday “no” Saturday “no”..”well I am free Wednesday”
/r/seduction21/02/22 09:16 PM
2

+1 if you’re both shy and hot it won’t work..gotta be balsy as a dude
/r/seduction16/02/22 10:08 PM
2

Depends on the girl. Some more aggressive girls like to test what you’re made of..if you crumble then she thinks you don’t know how to fuck her right
/r/seduction16/02/22 08:51 PM
17

Facts. Men need to hear that women have the same desires and drive..hell I need to hear it again. If a girl comes off and shy and reserved while she’s giving IOIs it’s because the ingredients are there but she’s expecting you to be the chef.
/r/seduction07/02/22 09:02 PM
3

The Justin Bieber body rock
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:18 PM
2

I suppose the only women I’ve had success with would be considered to be more on the aggressive side. But tbh they were only aggressive bc they already knew me
/r/seduction02/02/22 05:10 PM
1

I agree with the difference for day game. Yeah they have to feel special but you have to come across as non needy as you make her think you’re not talking to every other girl around. It’s tough cause for ex. I try not to shit wear I eat at my local gym cause I don’t immediately approach even if she’s giving out signals.
/r/seduction27/01/22 03:12 PM
3

I’ll buy that- these convos did not flow like water and yeah I can say these were daytime interactions and not a bar setting. I’ve always had more luck with night game but working on improving the mindset for day game now
/r/seduction27/01/22 02:02 PM
1

I tend to forget the numbers game and that she may have other things going on at that time. The only solution is to continue to approach and of course those kind of girls get approached quite often so you gotta be on ur toes and hopefully she’s in a receptive mood.
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:59 PM
7

Possibly. Just make sure you follow rules 1 and 2
/r/seduction23/01/22 06:10 AM
3

This..I’ve had similar experiences as OP and yeah you gotta tease it outta her cause her guard is up cause she doesn’t wanna do something stupid but is expecting you to take the lead
/r/seduction22/01/22 02:25 AM
2

The best you can hope for from women are touchy flirty signs and then you have to step up
/r/seduction19/01/22 01:23 AM
3

+1 on #5 if she’s a girl you’ve built tension with, didn’t effectively close, and then see her again. If you’re not direct when you’re vibing the first time, then she’s sees you again and tests you- if you come across as needy instead of carefree and aren’t direct, it’s basically over and she’ll play games
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:05 AM
14

True unfortunately unless you see the woman frequently it’s pretty tough to build a friendship into a relationship. And trying to build the connection without a sexual vibe leads to a permanent friend zone. And that’s when chick moves on. I’m talking about the girls who get approached often
/r/seduction12/10/21 03:07 AM
1

I’m an ectomorph and I started working out around 3 years ago. It takes a while to see gains but I’m in a good spot. Btw girls like lean dudes so if you get some muscle it’ll help. Still if you wanna attract you have to work on your interpersonal game
/r/seduction20/09/21 09:54 PM
1

Are you saying as the conversation progresses, so should the physical touch and interaction? Often when I get to a point where it feels right to state my intentions I don’t get physical beyond a light touch on the arm or hand- especially in the day. Looking back, when I see a girl get quiet and doe eyed, I’d just smile and not move things forward because she wasn’t reciprocating to me so I took that as a lack of interest.
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:08 PM
1

Listen..if the lack of sex is the cause of your depression I will tell you that if you have sex you’ll find that it’s not that big of a deal and there won’t be this epiphany moment and you’ll feel empty if that’s all you look forward to
/r/seduction30/08/21 08:56 PM
1

Let’s get it on- Marvin Gaye
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:07 PM
2

Women know that all she can provide a man is company and children. So she’s gonna typically be very choosy in the small desirable window she’s got to “get it right”
/r/seduction12/08/21 08:51 PM
16

And weed too
/r/seduction12/08/21 08:00 PM
0

Don’t think she’s outta ur league or then she is. When you two are together in a quiet place look into her eyes and say “damn..” if she says what be like “I wanna kiss you bad”
/r/seduction12/08/21 05:38 PM
27

Imo when you’re in a relationship you feel like you can get anyone but once you’re out for a while, confidence drains and you’re back to square 1
/r/seduction11/08/21 04:21 PM
1

For a hesitant girl like that, it helps to see each other more than once..even though sometimes its not possible
/r/seduction10/08/21 12:35 PM
15

It’s not Reddit if ur not getting ur balls busted a bit lol. That’s awesome man the way it should be
/r/seduction04/08/21 05:49 PM
23

How much did she cost? Haha
/r/seduction04/08/21 05:12 PM
1

Tell her you’re going to get some drinks after work and she should come
/r/seduction04/08/21 12:58 PM
3

Don’t look at porn
/r/seduction29/07/21 01:20 PM
2

857 t’was if there were so many hours in a day
/r/seduction23/07/21 12:19 AM
1

Dang girl ur pussy needs a tutor..imma teach her the whole alphabet
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:55 PM
9

Great info. It’s important to wait for those teasy goof times in a convo to engage in light touch. One time this one girl said “you wanna be my best friend” I said smiling “just friends?!” And touched her leg.. things changed after that
/r/seduction30/06/21 05:13 PM
3

Very good info that resonates with me. I was a dating novice and fell for this girl and totally put her on a pedestal like she was more precious than I. Needless to say it didn’t work. Now I’ve taken the time to think on and increase my own self worth. Fear of rejection and being vulnerable are things I avoided. Still not perfect but everything should be more in the moment. And everyone poops.
/r/seduction29/06/21 03:48 PM
1

You actually should’ve exchanged fluids before the vax..spike proteins in all
/r/seduction21/06/21 12:29 PM
1

The core group of friends you can drop and mingle is very helpful if you’re not so good with cold approaching solo..gives you a safe environment to assess the room and you can show interested girls your outgoing funny side just having a good time with that group..then slowly gravitate her way
/r/seduction07/06/21 04:44 PM
1

It’s true..if they sense your jealousy you’re on the train to dump town
/r/seduction11/05/21 01:16 AM
2

Yup sounds right. Keeping multiple options with fwb is key to avoid lean times.
/r/seduction01/05/21 01:28 AM
2

Makes sense, but one question-how is she getting all these messages if she’s not swiping right on all these unattractive or undesirable dudes? Does she also flat out ask for their income or just assume based on their profile description?
/r/seduction28/04/21 12:18 PM
2

Wise as a fox makes sense. Thanks!
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:18 PM
1

What tips does one have for the right mindset to approach?
/r/seduction27/04/21 07:34 PM
3

You’ve got to date her before you propose to her. It’s not 1821 anymore.
/r/seduction26/04/21 02:59 PM
1

Yep..and exactly my point. If you want a 1-7 then looks don’t matter at all ha
/r/seduction26/04/21 01:53 PM
1

Depends on the woman..8-10 yeah but the majority are open
/r/seduction26/04/21 12:34 PM
9

I’ve seen that look too many times I’m going in the next time it happens
/r/seduction23/04/21 02:59 PM
4

True I agree it does amplify your inner self. As heavy user though it pretty much became my identity. My body was in a fight or flight mode and I kid you not my skull and lymph nodes became inflamed. They’re slowly receding now.
/r/seduction21/04/21 02:57 PM
6

It is! And if you don’t have any negative effects that bleed over to your daily life..then keep on burning.
/r/seduction21/04/21 02:18 PM
5

I agree with the legalization aspect totally,but speaking as a 10yr daily cannabis user it kills my social game and creates unwarranted anxiety. I’ll still use again after a detox,but only socially.
/r/seduction21/04/21 02:17 PM
2

Yeah..+1 for going in for the kiss and taking the initiative. She’ll pass real quick if you don’t and it’s over or friend zone city for sure. That’s a real thing
/r/seduction21/04/21 01:02 PM
2

You’ve got to look out for IOIs. Some sexy girls only are there to workout and others are open. See if they hold eye contact and respond to a smile or two by reciprocating or moving close to you.
/r/seduction21/04/21 12:54 PM
1

Should be dece around there..I’d think
/r/seduction20/04/21 08:13 PM
1

I’m in southern OH..if you’re talking round Portsmouth yeah..Cincy prob not
/r/seduction20/04/21 04:04 PM
608

I’ll go with #1 pickup approach for any random girl. 2 only works if the girl is into you already.
/r/seduction12/04/21 08:09 PM
1

And don’t get emotionally invested in trying to attract one particular chick cause that’ll mess the whole game up.
/r/seduction07/04/21 12:28 PM
2

I agree. Yeah some girls even if they’re into want you to bend over backwards for them as an ego boost. Some dudes would fall into the trap and then the balls in their court to decide. I’d hate to be in that position. But tbh I’ve kinda done that before to a girl who did that then I backed off..then she started pursuing me
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:00 PM
1

With those statistics, that means none of this is by accident, the soul is real, and there is a God. The end.
/r/seduction31/03/21 08:42 PM
4

That’s true wing girls are great for that. I was talking about the whole courting in general..if she’s into him and sends signals and he responds then she may play hard to get once he shows interest. Someone has to give in for the relationship to start..what is that tipping point?
/r/seduction31/03/21 08:41 PM
1

Yeah it’s important to have a cheesy look on your face as you say it to not have the douche vibe
/r/seduction31/03/21 08:25 PM
2

Tell her “you know you’re gonna have to buy me dinner if you keep looking at me like that”
/r/seduction31/03/21 07:46 PM
16

The phenomenon that intrigues me is what actions cause the tipping point for the woman to give in and ask him out or open up to him?
/r/seduction31/03/21 07:32 PM
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