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Being a dancing monkey gets bad rap, it’s an essential step. Everyone has a dancing monkey phase whether they admit it or not, and you either evolve from it or you revert to old behaviours when you run out of steam. It takes time to find authenticity. It takes time to find out what works for you and what doesn’t. The dancing monkey phase is when you try on different outfits and see what fits.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 04:14 AM
1

I haven’t reached a level of zen or stoicism where I advocate not holding any anger, so long as the anger you hold doesn’t blind you from your own culpability. But I do fully advocate letting go of relationships when they have run their course: be that your wife, a family member or a friend. Goodluck to you!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 12:20 AM
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No, your friend was the one who was acting “normally”. You know this guy had been fucking your wife and yet you were still trying to hang out with him after she had left town. What was that about? Are friends so hard to come by? If I’m in your friends shoes I’m feeling pretty fucking weird about hanging out with you after having been doing all sorts of nasty shit with your wife while you were still living with her. Awkward. But more than that, are you the sort of guy I want to hang out with? The…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 11:34 PM
7

Nah buddy, your mate sounds like he was on the up and up. He told you what happened and you still let her go around to his place. Your approval of him fucking her was implicit after that phone call. This is all on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:19 PM
1

No one else can live your life for you.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 04:41 AM
14

Wait... you are being paid to not work for two months while you look for a new job with your highly marketable skills and even if it takes longer than 2 months no worries because you have 6 months of savings? And you are worried? Worried about how not to sound like a little whiny bitch. With an LTR of 1.5 years? An LTR that can’t handle a little bit of stress ain’t worth keeping around. Doesn’t mean you should whine to her though, you shouldn’t be whining, instead you should flip the situation i…
/r/askMRP01/09/20 12:16 AM
3

Here is the sequence in the correct order: I’ve been her shoulder to cry on, been giving her a lot of advice and also my thoughts. We’ve had some long conversations. She cries a lot, and the last weeks she shut me out a lot as well. This got under my skin and because of it I’ve gone a bit bet on her and we’ve had long talks. So this is all related obviously. Related to your big fat fucking mouth. First you try to fix her problems by giving her (most likely) unsolicited advice. Then she starts to…
/r/askMRP27/08/20 06:52 AM
2

Maybe you are shit in bed? The once a week fuck is a maintenance fuck, it relieves her guilt, but there’s nothing else in it for her. She doesn’t get off and currently she doesn’t get off on your getting off. Sex should be something she craves from you. It should be a “safe place” for her, she goes there as an escape. HoA has written some good stuff on this. Clearly sex with you for her is a chore, and this is why your initiations aren’t working. Do you need to use lube when you have sex with he…
/r/askMRP26/08/20 02:06 AM
2

Figure out what it is you want.
/r/askMRP19/08/20 01:01 AM
3

Mazel tov
/r/askMRP14/08/20 06:47 AM
5

If she’s a plate then you shouldn’t be so invested and you should instead be however you want to be and if she doesn’t like it she can find the exit. It’s a crucial fucking point. 10 years in, married, shared finances, couple of kids, house... yeah okay ask these sorts of questions. But for a plate? Or a girlfriend for that matter. Nah man. I used to struggle with this a little. Just nodding and listening felt inauthentic. Now I just deal with it however my mood strikes at the time. Maybe I feel…
/r/askMRP10/08/20 04:17 AM
1

Is your friend autistic by any chance? Learn to enjoy doubt, contradictions and uncertainty. It’ll set you apart. Nothing is real or permanent - it’s all bullshit on one level or another. And that’s OK.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:32 PM
2

Pretty much anything other than sitting on your lazy ass watching TV.
/r/askMRP28/07/20 02:30 PM
2

For the first time in my life I started to have some issues with my dick not getting hard post separation. Could barely get it hard for a wank, but morning wood was still frequent. It hadn’t been an issue for ONS’s during the final few months of my dumpster marriage but there was something illicit about those that got me hard. Anyway, then I remembered the only other time in my life where I had trouble getting hard: the first time I had sex (and probably the few times after that). Helped me real…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 11:48 AM
15

Your plan fails to take into account that your daughter, when she is 10, will likely not want to spend an increased amount of time with you. Fight for whatever It is you want now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/20 09:34 PM
12

Staying after your wife goes and fucks another man is never the answer. It’s done. I gave it a fair crack and the intrusive thoughts and ruminating didn’t really start to reduce until I ended it permanently. Now I am out I can’t relate to the guy that wanted to fix it. What the fuck was I thinking? Actually a turning point was reading on a subreddit about a guy who stayed with his wife after her affair and he was talking about how 10 years later they have a great relationship and he’s happy agai…
/r/askMRP10/06/20 09:09 AM
3

Most guys fall off the wagon when the kids arrive because of a lot of reasons. It’s pivotal time. It’s highly unlikely that this would have played out the way you imagine it.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 03:54 AM
3

You have a defeatist attitude. Problem number 1. Problem number 2 is that you haven’t hit rock bottom yet and you seem like the sort of person that had to hit rock bottom before you stop making excuses. At the moment you are just half-assing life. You can either do the work now or do the work later (once you actually realise just how fucking unhappy you are with your miserable existence) or you can never do the work like so many countless others. It’s up to you. Just realise that it is a choice.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 03:47 AM
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Too exhausted to nag... I don’t even know where to start with that, but it’s very revealing of your flawed thinking patterns. Lol, too exhausted to nag. Damn boy, go have yourself a couple of kids with her and report back to us in a few years.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 03:41 AM
1

Lol, I hope you aren’t serious.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 10:20 PM
8

Stumbled across this classic just after reading yours: https://www.reddit.com/r/SAHP/comments/fzxlns/my_husband_has_zero_respect_for_what_i_do/ This is you right now. Your wife hates you. She fantasies about divorce raping your ass to inflict pain on you. Let that sink in, you are such a disappointment of a man that she fantasies about inflicting pain on you. You’ve got some work to do. Start with Steele’s guide.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 08:42 AM
13

I thought he was going down a totally different mind-boggling path on first read of the title.
/r/askMRP21/04/20 03:39 AM
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Lol, no doubt you are an engineer of some sort. What are you gonna do, put the answers in a spreadsheet and track your progress until you can successfully mimic them and then declare “mission complete”? If you don’t want to be a lying cheating shit-bag then maybe dig into what drives you to behave like that. What issues are you avoiding or trying to cover up? Until you address your core issues you will just continue to piss into the wind.
/r/askMRP18/04/20 03:29 AM
2

I didn’t stay, I left, but only once I realised the diminishing returns I was getting in myself from staying. Two years of work on myself in a difficult situation and when I left I was done and happy. No anger, no regrets. FYI > he isn’t the prize and he isn’t the shit. Exhibit A: this post.
/r/askMRP17/04/20 01:31 AM
5

Primarily because leaving is the easy way out. If you just pack up and quit when things get tough then you are missing out on an opportunity to make positive changes to yourself and life. You don’t learn from running away. There can come a time when you realise that your current environment is inhibiting your growth but that comes after a fair bit of grinding. Eventually if you do leave it won’t be because your wife is x or does y but because you have decided that you no longer want to be there …
/r/askMRP16/04/20 11:56 PM
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Based on how long you’ve been lurking around on reddit I doubt you can even see your balls, so this doesn’t apply to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 12:29 AM
1

Jaysus. Where’s the fun? Your wife’s coming at you with a temper tantrum? Have fun with it, don’t be sarcastic, be fun Daddy. Your wife says you don’t talk to her anymore? You know it’s possible to talk without complaining. If you are incapable of opening your mouth without being a little bitch then sure maybe going full autist mute is the right path. When you get home: bring energy, bring fun. Imagine yourself as a weather system, when you walk in the room the sun starts to fucking shine. A lit…
/r/askMRP08/04/20 05:04 AM
13

You just got a sneak peak into your future. That coldness you felt from her? She was giving her warmth to someone else.
/r/askMRP27/03/20 10:36 AM
1

Haha well travelling overseas at the moment isn’t really that practical due to travel restrictions. It’s gone beyond personal choice now. Travel restricted, events cancelled, kids school closed, work budget cuts, etc. I’ll have a good 2020 regardless but it won’t be the 2020 I planned at the start of the year because this will not have gone away by April. I get what you are saying and I hope you are right, but you can’t compare flu deaths and whatever else you like to this because you are not co…
/r/askMRP14/03/20 06:51 AM
1

Well we won’t have to wait long to find out on which trajectory it will head over the next 6 months. I’ll be happy if I’m wrong because this is really fucking with my 2020 plans. And of course over the long-term this too shall pass, but if you are advising your elderly relatives or at-risk family members on how seriously to take this right now then taking the long-term view is a bit flippant.
/r/askMRP14/03/20 05:03 AM
1

I wonder how well this comment is going to age, unless of course you are being sarcastic about catching this early and a great plan. The US will be a shit-show on par or worse than Italy. Probably worse because of the punitive healthcare system you guys have got which will discourage people from seeking treatment, and the lack of a meaningful safety net for service industry workers etc which will either force people to work while sick or leave them out on the streets. In 10 days time shit is goi…
/r/askMRP14/03/20 03:34 AM
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You are just another young cunt who doesn’t know who they are or what they want. Fuck off and go make some mistakes.
/r/askMRP08/03/20 10:34 PM
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No need to be too cute or by the play book with plates. Women want to fuck. Women going through a divorce and with young kids really want to fuck. Texting for logistics blah blah doesn’t necessarily apply if the texting is hot and heavy, and you can make it sexual. If you can’t then yeah avoid. Wear a condom.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 10:37 AM
1

All true, but I don’t give two fucks if guys fail to make that final leap of realisation - my save a bro complex only extends so far. Sink or swim.
/r/askMRP02/03/20 09:08 PM
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Meh, I suspect most readers are larping. OP has certainly improved his situation and kudos to him for that, but his post and save a ho ex question indicate that he’s just playing a role using a script he found online rather than being his own man (i.e one that can work out the fucking answer himself).
/r/askMRP01/03/20 04:04 AM
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I get the desire to help the ex (because the kids spend substantial time with her) who is clearly struggling with what she hath wrought but it’s a fools errand. And magnanimous victory? You don’t actually think there’s a finish line do you? I mean there is, but it’s when you are dead.
/r/askMRP29/02/20 10:07 PM
0

...and later he’s going to post something about how the feminists got to his upgraded plate/future wife and rah rah rah rinse repeat, just so he can blame something external for this inability to see the way things work.
/r/askMRP29/02/20 10:02 PM
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Attaman. The cognitive dissonance becomes amusing after a while. You are gonna be fine, keep at it, and once you are out you’ll fully realise what a fucked up situation you just extracted yourself from. It’ll feel good.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 05:15 AM
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You would probably be better served by reflecting on what sort of man you want to be (don’t create a false idol) and then building out from there. There’s tools everywhere but you do have to think about how to use them before you go full dumb fuck Rambo. Fuck this red, blue, purple shit. They are all bullshit labels. What sort of man do you want to be? It’s the only bit that betters. Since you are clearly a bit fucking stupid I would suggest posting in OYS so that you can get some guidance on a …
/r/askMRP24/02/20 10:30 PM
1

Lol, postponing responsibility seems to be an area that you excel at. And logic isn’t something you excel at either it seems. If you could take charge of the finance, that is to say you had the financial knowledge and were recognised as the most capable person in the household to do so, then you would already be managing the finances. But you are not. So reflect on that.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 08:02 PM
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Hold my beer indeed. You certainly fit in the conga-line of suckholes who have been waltzing in (and out) recently. There’s zero point offering a fuckwit like you advice because you are nothing but a low value wanker and won’t do anything useful with it. But fuck it. Here you go. Stop talking about owning your shit and start doing it. But make sure you can function as an adult man before you try to manage the finances. Baby steps for you darling.
/r/askMRP23/02/20 08:28 AM
4

Also t-minus 30 minutes till this pussy deletes his account, the profile fits...
/r/askMRP21/02/20 10:00 PM
3

Best case scenario the lady he cheated with is a slightly smaller land whale. The things his wife is going to do with the next guy once she’s fit is going to be off the charts. Anything goes for the next guy.
/r/askMRP21/02/20 09:58 PM
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Always amuses me when weak pieces of shit like you do the deed and then confess. If you can’t do it without confessing, don’t do it. It’s also clear that you haven’t read shit otherwise you would now understand what is happening. You have set off a ticking time bomb, once your wife gets out of the hysterical bonding period, and gets herself fit (which she will) she’s going to realise what a weak piece of shit you are and leave. You are not a man of high value, you are a fat weak loser.
/r/askMRP21/02/20 09:19 PM
2

If you want to be a middle manager forever keeping whining like a little bitch. If you want to get to the top learn to play the fucking game.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 01:16 AM
1

Not that it really matters but did she have an affair over a period of time or did she slip and fall on a dick at a night club “one time”?
/r/askMRP17/02/20 08:30 PM
1

Yeah it is hard to assess. I am not familiar with gym fighting culture so there’s nuisance’s there that I don’t understand. I pictured this guy rocking up to a new place and not reviewing the lay of the land before he went running to Mommy because someone was targeting him. The culture down under is more along the lines of ingraining yourself with the new group before you go swinging your dick around and making noise. People will push your buttons intentionally to see how you react, to see if yo…
/r/askMRP17/02/20 02:07 AM
2

Come on, you’d seriously go to the manager? I go away for a month and come back and people are suggesting he goes and cries to Mummy because someone got a bit rough? Respect is earned, not paid for.
/r/askMRP14/02/20 05:08 AM
1

On the flip side, once you do exit you will find that you are in a far better position to be a single parent and a man who can handle his shit. It’s only bad if you stay or repeat the same mistakes in your next relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 10:42 PM
1

Very much in favour of BB’ing your way out of marriage once you have decided you are exiting (though smartly of course - don’t want to screw your future self financially). Strategically it makes way more sense than burning it all to the ground in some feeble attempt to protect your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 11:07 AM
5

Thanks for the waffles.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:42 PM
5

Lol. Nice one. My point is that your comments have increasingly been sounding inauthentic.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 07:30 PM
1

No, she signed you up for the priesthood instead.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 12:42 PM
1

Is this advice you plan on following sometime soon Foxy?
/r/askMRP21/01/20 12:38 PM
3

I had to come to terms with this too, but the reality is that sometimes shit happens and at that point it is out of our control. We don’t always get to choose what happens to us, sometimes we can only choose how to respond. FYI > it’s never as bad as you think. I have had two big fears over the past couple of years. My brother dying and telling my kids that their mother and I were separating. Both events occurred within two months of each other last year and while it was hard, I got through it m…
/r/askMRP21/01/20 12:14 PM
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You can’t put humpty dumpty back together again. You will always know that it’s broken and it will gnaw at you. Do you want to live another year like that? Your whole life? I used to beat myself up with the thought of not having the kids with me 100%. But you get passed that and realise you are an individual, first and foremost, and that you have a life to live as well. Set an example for them. When you do have the kids give them your full attention, when you have don’t have the kids do whatever…
/r/askMRP21/01/20 11:49 AM
7

Engaging is a choice. Letting someone else’s moods impact your mood is a choice.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 09:42 AM
1

The thing you are missing is perspective. Let go of the anger. Cold and calculating is your friend. It’s done and dusted. Make as clean an exit as you can using whatever plan you form. Own it. Life’s good when you start letting go of the losers in your life that are dragging you down.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 06:54 AM
2

You have my permission to leave your wife. Life without the bullshit is much better, if you do the hard work.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:38 AM
2

My guess is that you have a problem with intimacy. The goofiness that comes out is a way of dealing with the awkwardness that you feel in being intimate with your partner. You don’t know if you are “doing the right thing”, or if you are “saying the right thing”, so you make a joke to relieve the tension. It’s a self-conscious behaviour. How do you feel about just kissing your wife? Just kissing her for an extended period of time without using it as an on-ramp to sex? Does it make you feel uncomf…
/r/askMRP08/01/20 08:27 PM
2

No, in this case the fan fiction is that this guy thinks he’s a man who owns his shit, but really he’s simply functioning at the bare level minimum that a man should. But, hey he didn’t delete his account after a little bit of criticism so maybe there’s hope for him.
/r/askMRP07/01/20 09:37 PM
2

Well someone thinks they are a special little snow flake. Come on man, it’s pretty fucking simple, there’s a plethora of material, you read it, reflect on it, and then implement if it’s relevant and congruent to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 10:58 AM
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It makes no difference. Saying my wife is a SJW is in the same category as calling your wife crazy/what diagnoses. It’s bullshit, just a bullshit excuse used by OP to make up for his own shortcomings. Political, social, environmental, etc, beliefs — these things don’t over-ride the laws of attraction.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 09:25 PM
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Obese partner, no kids, potential desire to be a SAHM. The noose must feel like it’s tightening. GTFO. My prediction: OP stays, gets her pregnant, once, twice, OP’s wife gets fatter, enjoys not working, OP grinds away at work providing, slowly dying inside. Kids get a bit older, start school, frees up a bit of time for the wife. Wife has developed a lot of resentment for her boring husband, starts to see the wall and starts a health and wellness binge. Loses the weight. Blows her PT in the car p…
/r/askMRP01/01/20 04:01 AM
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She probably got pass out drunk so she wouldn’t have to fuck you at the end of the night.
/r/askMRP01/01/20 03:45 AM
3

Christmas is for the kids, and at least where I live, it has sweet fuck all to do with Christianity in any practical sense. So yes it’s a consumerists dream, but there’s also opportunities there to bring family together and make it a special occasion. As the leader of the family you set the tone.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 01:19 AM
2

Hey Grinch. You sound fun. No Christmas huh, I sure hope it’s because you are strongly of another faith, and not just a huge weeping ass. It’s soo cool that you used to be alpha. Well done. Make sure you collect your participation badge at the front office.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/19 08:41 PM
1

You know it’s muscle when people start calling you a unit (and it’s not because you are a fat fuck with a beer belly).
/r/askMRP29/12/19 08:36 AM
2

This is stage one of enlightenment when it comes to being the captain, also known as the dancing monkey program. Stage two is the captain does whatever the fuck he wants because he’s the captain. I think fear is the primary difference between stages. The loss of fear makes it much easier to be your own mental point of origin.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 09:56 AM
3

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/egg27v/how_do_you_handle_those_in_your_life_that_havent/ Is this you Johnny?
/r/askMRP28/12/19 02:07 AM
1

You’re easily the least interesting mod around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/19 10:11 AM
7

Tell her that you have green shit coming out of your dick and check for her reaction?
/r/askMRP25/12/19 05:55 AM
2

Is it that you aren’t emotional at all, or, that you aren’t emotional at specific moments/periods where there’s an external expectation that you should be emotional?
/r/askMRP24/12/19 10:42 AM
1

Motherfucker, have you deleted another post? No matter how far you have come, your lack of authenticity is glaring at times.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 12:58 AM
1

Hey there Red Knight.
/r/askMRP22/12/19 04:35 AM
5

I think you are right btw, being too Rambo prematurely isn’t necessarily good, but many of the guys are licking the pill, not swallowing it, and as such won’t ever make any real progress.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 11:07 PM
2

You forget that MRP is about saving the man, not the marriage. And men typically don’t make real changes until their world-view has been majorly challenged — until they have a fire lit under their asses by some event. A death, a cheating spouse, a realisation that their spouse or kids detests them, an existential crisis, etc. We can not know the inner workings of the mind of every wank that comes to this place, so it is entirely up to them to parse the information and implement it in a way that …
/r/askMRP21/12/19 10:44 PM
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Yeah, it doesn’t add up. She panicked with the potential serious health issues (cause leaving or cheating on a seriously ill husband would make her look totally shit) and then latched onto the testosterone stuff to project onto him this idea that he is cheating to cover up for the fact that she is mid-branch swing or that she can’t stand him and wants out. Probably both.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 09:01 PM
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Sometimes you need to go Rambo to mix things up a bit, reset and find a new normal. After 20 years of this shit he needs to blow some shit up again to feel alive.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 08:48 PM
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Each to their own I guess, but seems like it’s a shitty way to live your life.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 11:06 AM
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Can you stay in your marriage with the knowledge that this has happened? Right now you are probably in some sort of hysterical bonding and rationalising phase. That will pass, but the facts of what happened will endure. Remember: it is one thing to understand why something happened, and to take responsibility for it, but to stay in the relationship and truly be at peace with what happened is something completely different. I was not able to live authentically, at peace in my mind with how I was …
/r/askMRP21/12/19 03:27 AM
1

By working on yourself. Every time you get “triggered” reflect on it. What was unique about that interaction which made you feel the need to engage in an undesired way? What caused the negative spike in your motions? Then get to work on that.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 10:23 PM
1

It repeats like clockwork. It’s why I think this place is great, men swapping notes based on real world experiences.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 09:28 AM
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You could try paying her?
/r/askMRP19/12/19 01:51 AM
1

Come on man stop busting balls, he had to choose which high interest term deposit he would put his inheritance in.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:50 AM
1

This is probably my biggest red area. Continue grinding in a job that makes me feel like this for another 10 years and then parachute the fuck out of there or do what I really want to do now and earn sweet fuck all. I know what the answer is, but I have some work to do on myself before I can take that step. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:46 AM
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Your fear of getting divorced will ensure that you develop oneitis, Co-dependency, etc, and as a result, you will repel her over time and ultimately find your way back here, but next time 10-15 years older and a broken shell of a man. Maybe it’s the divorce process tinge of bitterness talking but you are asking a stupid question. There is no guarantees in life, the only thing you can do is... fuck, I don’t know, maybe ensure that you always have a glass half full attitude to life so that when it…
/r/askMRP18/12/19 01:31 AM
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You can start by posting in askmrp, though I probably wouldn’t bother. Your fear of getting divorced will ensure that you develop oneitis, Co-dependency, etc, and as a result, you will repel her over time and ultimately find your way back here, but next time 10-15 years older and a broken shell of a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:23 PM
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I think you need more work in this area than you realise. You probably have some deep rooted anger related to her trying to blow up the marriage, and whether you realise it or not it is being communicated to her, which is causing her to drag her feet. Currently you lean Captain Rambo, rather than Captain Oak, which is making this more work than it needs to be. She doesn’t trust you and you don’t trust her. Understand this point clearly.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:08 PM
1

Damn. You have yourself a live one there. That would have been awful.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 06:36 PM
8

Telling the kids is really the only thing holding you back now. It truly sucks to tell the kids but it’s not as bad as you are probably imagining it to be. They will be shocked, upset and it’ll hurt to see that, but in my experience it wasn’t as bad as I was expecting. Especially if you can keep things civil with your ex and re-assure then that you will still be in their lives. Until you tell the kids you will be living a lie and holding onto the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:39 AM
2

I doubt this nice guy has sat his wife down and gone through the budget with her and then articulated his expectations and boundaries when it comes to her contributions and spending. Instead he relies on covert contracts and passive aggressive bullshit. The most basic of basic shit. He doesn’t even know how much she earns, and she doesn’t know explicitly how much he expects her to contribute!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:29 AM
3

Banging a women who doesn’t want any more kids has its benefits.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:17 PM
2

Cool.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 06:04 AM
13

What should be going through your mind right now is: what am I doing which would make my wife do something like this? Your wife is a reflection of you. She does not feel like she can talk to you because every time she does you shut her down. I dare say you are quick to anger and not approachable. She rebels against it in subtle and sometimes major ways, but never directly because years of dealing with you has taught her that you won’t listen. So, undo the damage by helping her to find a way to c…
/r/askMRP14/12/19 03:05 AM
18

You sound like a shit leader of your family. The problem is you and your temper.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 02:37 AM
8

What a crap plan. Shit or get off the can.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 02:35 AM
12

A classic love story. A classic case study. A bored/attention deprived wife gets exciting new validating attention, a sex deprived beta husband gets sex. Rinse repeat. Funny how as soon as anymore kids are off the table some of them start exploring their options. I wonder what that says about her view of you? Good Dad? Good provider? Betabux? Trust is a helluva drug and the come down sucks. Get to work on you, this isn’t about her anymore.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 12:36 AM
2

I don’t think it’s about being weak or strong. For me it was about identity, frame, mental point of origin, whatever you want to call it. My identity was attached to my perfect little Disney family and my job, it had nothing to do with me as an individual. When that illusion was blown up it destroyed me and I went into some sort of hysterical bonding / white knight / fight or flight / adrenal fuelled episode where I desperately tried to put all of the pieces back together. I tried every damn thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/19 09:02 AM
1

/u/mrpmonk, this guy gets it. The other guy is just making mouth noises. Don’t look for a universal theory of things. You are a man, not a parrot.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 08:32 AM
8

This is so much bullshit.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 02:46 AM
2

Hey, I hear you, I got cucked and still took 18 months to do what needed to be done. The advantage of taking the path of the tortoise for me was that when I reached done, I was actually done and had dealt with a lot of my baggage. I was left with acceptance and a true desire to move forward with my life. The disadvantage is that a dancing monkey cannot live authentically. Also, no point whipping yourself with all of this “it’s all my fault” bizzo. Yeah, maybe it is, but fuck it. Life’s too short…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 11:40 AM
2

I feel like you are spinning around in circles mate. I had to check and re-check your username because it feels like this OYS is from a guy that’s only been here a few weeks. I doubt you will progress much further without shaking up your environment. I know my progress stalled when the dancing monkey got tired, and at that point, I knew it was time to kill the puppy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 10:39 AM
1

I have other more interesting things to do.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 06:23 PM
1

Chalk. I reached a DL plateau because of grip. 6 weeks later tried chalk and fixed it that session. Sweaty, oily hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 06:55 AM
2

The thing I love the most about my life turning into a dumpster fire, and then having to slowly rebuild it, is the level of introspection it brings. I never used to give two shits about this sort of stuff, now I find it fascinating. The vast majority of people who come here (myself included) are dancing monkeys, though they would deny it. Or crabs in the bucket. Only a small percentage will actually transcend the dancing monkey stage and truly become their own mental point of origin (and then su…
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:50 AM
2

You are right. Also, watch this closely, she’s likely to be more affectionate/upset about you leaving when she’s on her period. When she’s ovulating she won’t be affectionate or upset. Beta provider/ chad paradox
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 06:57 PM
10

Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Now that you have decided that you are leaving you might want to consider your approach over the coming weeks and months. Your goal should now be to have an amicable relationship with your ex and to achieve a divorce settlement that is beneficial or at very least neutral to you. You should no longer care whether she is attracted to you, in-fact it’s probably better if she isn’t, but ego can trip you up here so be careful.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 11:00 AM
64

Get your Go plan ready, tell her, and then deal with the fall out. Do not give her the STD. You fucked up, time to own it. Hopefully this serves as a lesson to all you rambos out there. Wrap it, wrap it, wrap it... until you have verified (through a doctors test - multiple over a period of time in reality) your plate or girl is safe. No hole is safe, no hole is worth it. Lol, especially with a fucking prostitute. God damn.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 09:18 PM
1

Sounds just peachy, I am sure nothing will go wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/19 09:52 AM
1

What’s the word for when you want to read the wall of text (cause you just know it’s going to be a train wreck) before it gets deleted but you don’t have enough time to do it between sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 12:52 AM
2

Hmm, yeah maybe it is a shame, but that’s life. Ego will make you a dancing monkey, Keep focused on yourself and in 12 months if she isn’t fully checked back-in, and completely on the path to the wife you want, show her the door. FYI > my STBX and I get along fantastically. I move out next month into my new place. My new place rocks and I cannot wait to start a new decade in style.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 07:55 PM
1

In response to your subject, yes it is weakness under the guise of strength. I realise now after being a martyr on this topic for a while that all my reasons for not ending the marriage were tied up in ego relating to the outside image of my marriage, the fear of telling the children, and a fear of fundamental change to my life map. At the end of the day, if you’ve done the work to unfuck yourself, you ultimately have to decide if your relationship is one that you would want to be in, if it were…
/r/askMRP03/12/19 09:57 PM
1

Walking away is an option too. After you’ve unfucked yourself to the extent that you can in your current setup,
/r/askMRP03/12/19 01:23 AM
1

Uhuh. I am not saying she is, but you’d be shocked as to what they do to get the dick once an affair starts.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 01:21 AM
7

Lol. It’s painful.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 08:41 PM
2

Lol, you have a 1 year old and 2 year old - no fucking shit your wife wants to get out of the house. Plus, an uptight OCD husband who apparently loves to play video games. But hey you earn 5x as much as her so suck it up princess. Your life man, but I suspect you aren’t leading shit and your marriage is on the rocks, though you don’t know it yet. You are just a pay packet. Your wife probably wants to get back into the workforce so she can leave you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/19 03:34 AM
14

Yeah I gotta say, I am far more concerned about being the man I want to be. Sex is good and all but it’s a nice side dish to my life, not the main course anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:45 PM
2

There's many occasions where you can do this sort of thing or variations of it. Weddings, funerals, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Birthdays, Going Away Events, etc. These sorts of events are ripe for sentimentality and as you say, most people crave someone to lead the way and take control. It applies equally to work events equally, a project kick-off, work conferences, team building exercises, etc. It's great technique when you are put on the spot to make a speech as well without having prepa…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:32 PM
3

It may seem contrived, but I suspect there is some projection here. Fear of embarrassment or something. I have seen this sort of thing done numerous times and it takes balls to put people on the spot and ask them to share something person in-front of a group. It’s an assertive move, whether in personal life or at work, and works very well. The only issue is that you need to have the frame and authenticity to pull it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 09:08 PM
6

It is an important point. There’s so much inertia in relationships that most people just stay because it is easier than leaving. But when events happen, it’s often a wake up call and a good opportunity to evaluate the relationship at its core to determine whether it’s actually worth saving or whether you are just hanging on because of ego and the sunk cost fallacy. But... a person’s ability to be objective at a time like this is really dependent on which level of fucked they are starting from.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 03:43 AM
3

This place is full of nothing but advice. Your situation isn’t unique, dig in for the long haul, there ain’t no quick fixes.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 02:59 AM
25

The first question you want to ask yourself is.. how did I truly feel about my wife and marriage 2 months ago, before everything turned to shit? You see, right now, you are probably caught up in being worried about: the impact to your child the hit to your ego about your marriage failure anxiety about starting again fear of being alone and meeting someone new 16 years of marriage thrown away etc All of these things have something in common, but it isn’t a genuine desire to be in a relationship w…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 02:57 AM
7

They are being sarcastic, or, they are lost. Your wife doesn’t want to communicate right now. You won’t be able to talk her out of it. She’s not listening anymore.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 02:42 AM
3

Imagine if your wife said this “it looks like you have nothing useful to do, so why don’t you be useful and mind the kids while I go and do the shopping”. Add to that the general down energy that Horns would have been exuding while depressed and you should be able to see how this becomes a slippery path that leads to being in his wife’s frame. It’s not minding the kids that’s the problem, it’s that Horns wasn’t operating from a place of strength at the time and felt that switch in dynamic back t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:14 PM
2

Lol, I’m shocked. Stop your bull-shit navel gazing and start doing. At best you have another 15 years, what the fuck are you waiting for?
/r/askMRP12/11/19 10:34 AM
3

You are the worst sort of loser. What a pathetic waste of space you are. Fuck off.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 08:06 PM
5

Fuck off.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 04:08 AM
2

I used to get very angry and it would often manifest itself in the car. Either raging at other drivers, or, and I deeply regret this now, yelling at my kids for doing kid stuff. Screaming at them actually. I don’t do that anymore (2 years thankfully) and have reflected on this quite a bit. Did I rage like that at work? No. Did I rage like that at home? Rarely and never to the same extent. Did I rage like that in any other environment? No. There was something about being in a car that some part o…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:09 AM
3

Looking at myself – I did this because I don’t want to be the guy posting to askMRP about his wife cheating on him. It’s irrational and I know I should not care – but I do. It’s another layer of ego that I need to shed. I will walk away in the future. Lol, so many of you fuckers fear this outcome like this is the worst thing that could happen to you. On another note, if you care that much about what the folks on askMRP think of you, it's probably time to take a break.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 03:22 AM
1

A line in the sand is a narrative created after an implicit boundary has been crossed. She did x and y but she didn’t do z, therefore it’s ok for me to stay. BUT if she had of done z I would totally have gone. My point? No fucking point, just amused at the narratives we create to justify decisions we make.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:08 PM
2

She manipulates sugar daddy’s with pictures of her tits, she manipulates you with pictures of your kid.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 11:32 AM
1

Attaboy
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 09:19 PM
1

When you don’t think about it then you are over it. You are talking about becoming friends with him seemingly for no other reason than he is your wife’s ex-boyfriend and you want to show everyone how totally ok you are with that by becoming friends with him. Hey maybe you can bond over stories of her blow job technique or her cum face.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:58 PM
1

You aren’t over shit. WHY THE FLYING FUCK DO YOU CARE THAT SHE HAD SEX WITH AN EX-BOYFRIEND? Damn brother, it’s like you think that he’s the only guy that’s railed her. It’s sex. She had sex with guys before you had sex with her. It doesn’t fucking matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:38 PM
1

Why would you low-ball yourself? This ain’t Black Friday and you aren’t dime a dozen shitty plastic merchandise sitting on the middle shelf. That is telling them that you are not confident in your ability to do the job. They are trying to fill a senior position with a person who is going to confidently and competently get the job done. Give them confidence by asking for 10K more than they are offering you (but leave wiggle room for you to take the 310K). Abundance, Outcome Independence, etc — it…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:21 PM
6

Fuck off.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 08:55 PM
2

Yes.
/r/askMRP18/10/19 08:07 PM
2

I think you think too much and have dug yourself a hole with your LTR, by way of your youth, and adopted conservative religious principles, from which you are now trying to dig yourself out by creating a narrative about some “special” randy scandy that is giving you a boner. You see, when in a different environment, with different people, you can be a different person. You have dropped your conservative religious principles while out of country and you are now letting yourself entertain thoughts…
/r/askMRP18/10/19 12:00 PM
1

I am not saying you are wrong, but I can see how you get yourself into high risk (and life threatening) situations. Like the guy from A River Runs Through It. Edit: The p.p.s is 100% easier to take in and relate to.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 02:13 AM
1

It does seem out of the ordinary yes, but I am from down under and maybe things are a bit tamer here. I don’t know anyone who could rattle off a list like you have. I am guessing you have a higher tolerance for risk than the average person and so find yourself in more eventful situations.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 12:45 AM
6

You certainly don’t live a dull life. I hope you buy lottery tickets and I hope I never fly on the same plane as you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 10:35 PM
2

Some people don’t know they are being treated shitty because that’s how they have always treated.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 11:08 PM
1

It’s like you become disenchanted because the Disney fairytale can’t be put back together, even though you now know that it never really existed. It’s hard to reconcile those two things. Anyway, if you haven’t already try some strange, it might bend the perspective again.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 07:15 PM
1

Is there a subreddit that you haven’t posted this to? Fuck off out of here, you have no interest in actually doing the work required.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 10:14 PM
2

Yep, no sense sending it to her as you have found. But a lot sense writing them to yourself to help establish your MAP. Also, it’s not her job to hold you to account. She’s not your Mom. It’s unattractive behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/19 05:00 PM
2

Aww that’s a sweet letter. Could have written it myself. Shit, I did write it myself 3 or 4 times before I found this place. At the time I couldn’t understand why it didn’t change anything. But I do now. It’s just words (and that doesn’t work, especially after the honeymoon period, long after you have shown her what a loser you are). Great, you’ve had a big revelation - you can now see where you fucked up. It doesn’t change anything. Actions are the only thing that matters. So STFU and get to wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/19 10:31 AM
2

You must spend a lot of time ruminating. Stuck in your echo chamber. Put in the work reading the sidebar. Maybe it will never go away, but the silent roar in your head gets quieter. Also, always STFU about ancient history like this. Live in the present with your boundaries.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 05:57 AM
4

Yeah. They do that. If she wasn’t crying, she will be next time. It doesn’t mean or change anything, just emotions. STFU and get your divorce papers sorted.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:52 PM
8

Well if that’s the case dude, do you know what’s cool? Setting up the house just the way you like it or saying fuck it and moving some place new. You have been gifted an exit from a sub-optimal situation.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:42 PM
13

Is she actually diagnosed BPD or are you just throwing around words to protect your ego?
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:58 PM
11

It certainly didn’t stop OP from marrying her. The cognitive dissonance hurts.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:57 PM
3

You are out of control and need to find a way to slow down and relax your mind - it’s on fire and not in a good way. It’s like you have this ticking time bomb in your head and it’s counting down to the day your wife cheats on you and you are desperately trying to disarm it, but the only thing you are achieving is ensuring that it happens. It’s like you are trying to visualise it into happening. Cut out the weed and the uppers you are taking, they aren’t doing you any good. The strip club stuff..…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 12:20 PM
3

Why do you think it’s about being mad at your wife? You don’t have to live with your mistakes for the rest of your life. You can learn and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 12:03 PM
23

Channel your anger at improving your lifts, owning your shit and NEXT. It doesn’t matter that it was your fault - it still happened. The goose is cooked. Stats are funny things, 50% of marriages end in divorce or whatever it is. What’s the stats for spouses that cheat? 20, 30, 40, 50 percent? Those look like good odds to me. I don’t look at 50/50 things and think oh shit why bother, I look at it and think you mean there’s a 50% chance things will work with a new LTR in the future and I GET TO KE…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 03:13 AM
1

What’s the actual timeline here? Because if it happened while married, then GTFO, but if it happened in the beginning while you were also playing, then let it go its ancient history.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 10:20 AM
7

The timeline is all screwy. Either you are saying she had an affair 4 years ago and you just found out or you are saying that she banged someone else 10+ years when she was a plate (and married) and you found out 6 odd years ago and now you have discovered TRP and your hamster is on fire because you are now realising that you are in-fact not chad but rather just another dude who has oneitis and thinks that his peacocking from 10+ years ago, and a bit of current day strange, means anything at all…
/r/askMRP08/10/19 12:59 AM
2

Why do you stay given that you have no kids with her. What fear are you not confronting which keeps you there?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/19 02:42 AM
2

Haha just checked your post history, how’s the oneitis going maaaaaate? Got yourself a real unicorn have you. That’s nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/19 08:33 AM
1

Why do you care? If it works for you, great.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/19 08:29 AM
6

That is excellent advice, thank you.
/r/askMRP05/10/19 04:18 AM
5

If my wife cheated on me tonight, I would find out about it and I would scorch earth with great pleasure. Is scorched earth going to put you in the best position after? I would think cold indifference with immediate swing to separation plan is best. With scorched earth you give fuel to her feelz, which fires the fight and her desire to squeeze you for everything you have. Scorched earth is just revenge porn, born in the minds of little men who got their little hearts broken. I kind of fantasize …
/r/askMRP03/10/19 11:22 PM
3

Dude, it's pretty simple, if you have legal concerns then check a Gov website for wherever you live and see what the law says about abandoned property. We've got no idea where you live, so we don't fucking know. But fuck the legal side honestly, you've got one week collect your stuff or I'm taking it to the dump. What are you scared of? That she'll sue you? Maybe she will, but at least you'll still have your balls.
/r/askMRP02/10/19 06:00 AM
7

There it is. This is a pressure switch of sorts. She has no intention of working things out, she just doesn’t want to be the bad guy who initiated the separation, so she’s flipping it onto OP now.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 11:03 PM
9

Meh, if the only way you can stop your wife from jumping on chads dick is by avoiding chad then what the fuck are you trying to save. Let her swing if she wants to so you can get the fuck out of there.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 02:01 PM
3

Lol, she really did a number on you didn’t she. You’ve reached beast mode going by your recent comments. Helluva job.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 01:54 PM
13

Let the person who has not fantasised about fucking someone else while fucking their spouse cast the first stone.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 01:24 PM
12

For now, it’s a case of avoiding this Alpha I don’t even know where to start with comments like this. It’s like some of you are worried that in the presence of chad the AMOG you will spontaneously assume the submissive role and lay down in your back like a puppy while he scratches your stomach and tells you that you’re a good boy. Fuck that.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 01:19 PM
4

I am personally waiting to see how the Work Widows thing plays out. One man, and four lonely women, regularly catching up while their spouses are away. It think this sub-plot has the most potential to take things to a new level.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 05:00 AM
2

Yep. Took me the best part of 18 months. But I don’t regret the time spent, it was what I needed to re-build myself.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 08:19 PM
11

Stage 6 You accept that it happened and that it was all your fault, but also realise that the fact that it happened is unacceptable, and incongruent with who you are today, so you GTFO.
/r/askMRP19/09/19 01:31 AM
1

Which measurement units are you using? Non-American here...
/r/askMRP16/09/19 10:18 PM
13

Dude there is no relationship, sell the house and move on. She doesn’t need to agree to shit, she’s made her choice. GTFO and read the sidebar. Start with NNMNG because the shit you are tolerating now is fucked up on so many levels that I struggle to think you have read anything and if you have you have internalized nothing. Brother, move on.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 10:12 AM
6

Really? I could give zero fucks about splitting my wealth - who gives a shit. I will make it all back or I won’t. When I married her I had zero. The only thing I really care about is not having to pay spousal support because after the separation I want a clean break. Not spending every Christmas with the kids? Now that’s going to suck. But that’s me.
/r/askMRP13/09/19 09:32 PM
1

The only time I eat cake these days is at birthday parties. I don’t care if it’s white choc, dark choc or some abomination, just give me some fucking carbs.
/r/askMRP10/09/19 01:08 AM
2

100%. I don’t understand why some Dad’s are hell bent on avoiding kids birthday parties, school events, etc. i suspect it’s out of fear or an inability to experience joy from the simple things in life. It’s as fun or as shit as you make it, like anything, and is a great opportunity to build your social game (everyone is awkward at first, so be the one that breaks the ice). Plus, if the parents are boring as fuck you can just go and be the cool Dad with the kids and have fun.
/r/askMRP10/09/19 01:02 AM
9

No, you don’t get it. You stated in your OP that a couple of weeks ago she said that these drinks would be good for your son because of the sweating, etc. Now she’s giving you attitude when you get that drink for your son. What’s changed? I am guessing that the only thing that’s changed is her mood / feelz. Hopefully you are starting to put the pieces together. Let’s go deeper and imagine two scenarios: You take her shit test and make a joke about it with a smirk and a twinkle in your eye as you…
/r/askMRP09/09/19 12:17 PM
9

Nah mate, the example was loads better than yours. But I am guessing you can’t deliver the line with a smirk and a twinkle in your eye. If you engage with the shit test then you turn into a DEER.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 01:33 AM
23

He needs a loving family where I can show him how to be a man. ...one day when you grow up you might be able to fill those shoes.
/r/askMRP08/09/19 12:49 PM
3

Mate you are such a fucking mess, and the only way you can *begin* to fix this mess, is to divorce your wife -- as soon as fucking possible. You will get screwed because she doesn't have a job, but it's a small price to pay for self-respect. Obviously we do not know your full story, but the level of contempt that your wife is showing towards you means that your "relationship" can never recover. It's toast. But more importantly, you can never recover in the current environment. Start fresh and re…
/r/askMRP06/09/19 01:07 AM
12

Let her go bro. The sooner you accept it’s over, and actually separate properly, the sooner you can move on. Also, your post is weird, she’s your STBXW, not your friend, stop talking with her about your flaming dates and her bloody boyfriend.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 12:26 PM
9

In my opinion OI isn’t something you can think into reality. It’s something that comes from having genuine options for your time and attention. Things that you enjoy doing. Some might suggest plates are a good way of ensuring you have some OI with your LTR, but I think that if you need plates to ensure you have OI then it’s a strong indicator that you are not your own mental point of origin (and if you are not your own mental point of origin, then you can never have true OI). As your own mental …
/r/askMRP04/09/19 12:02 PM
25

The thing is if you are avoiding posting this to RP because you want to avoid oneitis shaming, then you already know the answer, but are not willing to accept it. The answer will be no different here. You have zero OI and are a needy bitch. She will see that eventually. Sorry bro, but hit the sidebar and do the work, there is no easy answer.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 10:33 AM
2

With “As much as you are” I think it’s less about how it is said and more interesting that you chose to respond that way. You are qualifying your level of commitment to her level of commitment. My inference from this is that you don’t think she is super committed (because if she was the sex would be great) and therefore you are not super commit, which you demonstrate by seeking validation from randoms. Maybe I am parsing your words too much, but on the surface it seems like an odd response from …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 03:24 AM
2

A couple of things stick out to me. Why does your wife feel the need to tell you she is not your caretaker? “As much as you are” is a butt-hurt response if ever there was one. My guess is that there is an air of butt-hurt wafting around you, with too much selfish-asshole and not enough family/household leadership (that includes your wife as the oldest teenager). You are in a pickle now because there’s no way you can talk with your wife in a way that’s not going to end with you negotiating desire…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 12:56 AM
8

You haven’t really got a lot to think about mate. Just be thankful you don’t have kids with her and move on. The single worst thing you could do now is get her pregnant. You will regret that all your life.
/r/askMRP03/09/19 09:17 AM
2

Your wife is literally asking you to step in and be the authority figure with the kids and you are umming and ahhhing about not wanting to step on her toes. You see that don’t you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/19 10:19 AM
2

Could have written that myself.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 09:51 PM
1

No wonder he’s texting her, she sounds like fun in the sack.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 11:23 AM
1

It’s the best 60 minutes sleep money can buy,
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 10:48 AM
4

I've no doubt you have read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl. If you are able to get to a place where you can experience the beauty of struggle then you are in a much better position to face the challenges that life will unquestionably throw at you. The key though is to recognise that while struggle is inevitable, and that it can be enjoyed, if you stay in a state of struggling with a particular scenario for too long it is an indication that you are on the wrong path. Struggle should…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 12:11 AM
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He’s gay, so just pretend it’s a women singing. Problem solved.
/r/askMRP21/08/19 12:37 AM
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It’s about what you will and won’t accept. Boundaries. The problem you have now is that your wife has disrespected you. You know she did it, she knows she did it. You can say to her “THIS IS A HARD BOUNDARY, DON’T DO IT AGAIN” but the reality is that it was already a hard boundary (unless you have an open marriage) and she did it anyway. So what you are really saying is “I SWEAR TO GOD IF YOU DO THIS AGAIN THEN I AM KICKING YOU OUT”. But will you? Or will you make up another excuse? And will she…
/r/askMRP19/08/19 09:23 PM
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You should definitely branch swing. She sounds like a winner.
/r/askMRP17/08/19 12:03 PM
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The Stay Plan Is The Same As The Go Plan Just read the fucking sidebar, mine the gold in the old posts, become attractive and STFU. Your wife does not care what you say or try now, she’s done with you at the moment. Haha haha, you are totally going to try to talk your wife around. Doesn’t 17 years mean something? What about the kids? What about how we talked about growing old together? We built a life together, we can fix this! Also if your wife’s friends and family are telling her to leave you.…
/r/askMRP15/08/19 09:22 AM
1

Do you need so many reps on your deadlift? That seems like a high volume.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:08 PM
1

Do you often tell people - your wife, children, colleagues - how to do things properly? If so STFU. Instead, let people come to you and ask for advice because you have demonstrated skill in an area. You might be waiting a while, but OYS for long enough and it might happen.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 09:46 PM
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Your wife got off from the vibrations an hour before you got home and when you initiated sex later she gave you sloppy uninterested starfish seconds. Do you think she was thinking about you when she got off by herself? What was your takeaway from this?
/r/askMRP09/08/19 11:09 PM
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Where did you read that you should say rude things and sarcastic? Do you like yourself when you behave like that? It’s important that there’s congruence there. If you have frame you can pull off the loveable asshole but without frame you are just an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 10:48 AM
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With you 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 05:59 AM
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You are pushing but it needs to be pull. Red had a good comment a while back about setting up the next meetup on the spot. Something like “I want to see x film, I will be there at x time with 2 tickets, come if you want”. Continuing the conversation just gives you more opportunities to fuck things up and for her to question whether there is a connection. Review the night again, if you had of planned the next thing before parting ways and had minimal contact after that then her focus would have b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 01:46 AM
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You say that your father didn't leave you shit, but in your OYS you also said: It's also around the time my dad died so there was a big frame shift there where I oddly took on more of my father's personality. He had strong frame in some areas and really owned who he was. It helped me own my shit and own my personality I had suppressed. I am finally just comfortable being me and I like me. Your memories of your Dad, the relationship you had, the role model he was. Those are the things that will s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/19 12:49 AM
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...and she wants kids, while he doesn’t! That’s kind of a big deal and a good reason to end the marriage.
/r/askMRP03/08/19 09:59 PM
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You can’t take these tags too literally. You think every branch swing is to an Alpha Fucks? A Chad? In my own experience and others I have seen this is not the case. It’s simply a rejection of you and a latching onto someone else who gives them feels at that moment. These feels are exaggerated for the other by their total lack of feels (and disdain) for you. There’s theory and then there is real world experience. Having said that, one night stands in my opinion are much more likely to be with Ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 01:08 AM
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You are right I know very little about a D/s relationship and I see no problem with fulfilling all of your wife’s needs while she is fulfilling yours. What I was getting at is more your mental state, but without actually knowing you I am just shooting in the dark, so I will leave it at that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 12:53 AM
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Mate you are miles ahead of me, so take this with a grain of salt, but you seem singularly focused on her. And there’s something unusual about your OYS, it’s a little like you are peaking on a high. I wonder if you might fall in a heap at some stage once you stop peaking and you realise there’s more to life then having a wife that’s ticking all the boxes.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 05:54 AM
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Lol, a classic trap and one that enhances the butt-hurt later and your presence in her frame. Fuck it’s good to have found this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 05:41 AM
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The thing is that you are going to feel shit no matter what you do, so you might as well focus on doing the “right” things while you feel shit, instead of compounding that shit feeling by continuing your drunk captain habits. That means continue to lift, eat well, get sleep, socialise, be a good father, educate yourself, etc. Use this solo time to rebuild, learning from your past mistakes.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 11:25 PM
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You know this isn’t about RP. My wife didn’t find RP and she was trying many of the things they spout. Their husbands are drunk and won’t notice till long after those women have given up trying. Call me a cynic but you can’t make a person see until they want to see. Especially a man whose wife is doing her wifely duties and fluffing him all the while resenting that she’s driving him because he isn’t leading her. When I look around me now I see family, children, colleagues and strangers calling o…
/r/askMRP30/07/19 11:01 AM
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You could just fuck around with the weights and only go when you feel like it (I.e never in the beginning) or you could just listen to everyone here and just start lifting, no excuses. And diet. Just fucking cut the crap and eat better. You lack mental toughness. You are physically and mentally weak. And lead. Just try making the small little day to day decisions to begin with, stop deferring to Mommy, don’t be an ass about it. It’s the little ones that make all the difference. And before you bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 11:59 PM
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I take your point, I think. But doesn’t all this get a bit circular? Vetting/boundary enforcing become the same thing if you look at it long enough, at least in the early stages. I.e. having clear boundaries means you can dismiss (vet) some plates based on early exhibited behaviors.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 11:35 PM
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Exactly. Vetting is useful to an extent (is she a hooker? A drug addict? Clearly crazy? Does she have or want kids? You get the idea) but mostly bullshit in many less obvious areas. Vetting is about someone else’s behavior. Boundaries are about your behavior, or more specifically, about how you behave when someone steps over your boundary. The only person you can control long-term is you. Vet yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/19 01:26 PM
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You go back to front with just a wipe off? No wonder she is getting UTI’s. If unwrapped you go front to back and that’s that. Otherwise wrap it for the back. Unless you don’t care about UTI’s.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 05:00 AM
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Then don’t go to bars. Go and do things you do like but in group situations. Listen you are coming across as a pessimistic sort of person. Glass half full. It’s not an attractive quality and I am sure it’s not a good feeling internally. Do things you enjoy for yourself, live a positive and proactive life and your chances of living a happy life will most likely increase.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 05:25 AM
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You are going to the bar with the wrong intent. Go to the bar and have FUN, talk to people, strike up conversation in the bar to see if you find THEM interesting enough to continue talking to. Don’t just talk to the girls, talk to everyone for practice. If you go to the bar searching to find a girl to marry then holy shit are you going about it wrong and no doubt exuding neediness.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 03:50 AM
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Do you even like her? Is she worth it? If you weren’t married to her what would you do? If you were dating and she was like this what would you do?
/r/askMRP13/07/19 10:42 AM
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Given where you are and your habit of falling off the wagon I would advise: Start with low carb diet, keto probably easiest place to start as there are pretty clear guides on the internet After a couple of weeks of keto start tracking calories After a couple of weeks of keto + tracking calories start IF (16/8 to begin with i.e. skip breakfast) Once you are skinny fat - rather than just fat - start a lean bulk start optimising your diet for muscle gain. Be careful here, maybe drop keto and reintr…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 01:05 AM
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Ahh buddy, seriously? It didn’t damage you? Listen, I admire the fact that you turn up here week after week to document your life. And I hope that you get value out of doing so. The value I see here in MRP is guys get to swap notes on topics they wouldn’t normally discuss with people. This can be an eye opening experience and hopefully a learning one. Your mother telling you that you ruined her life is unfortunate and outside the “normal” range of motherly behaviors but not unheard in my experie…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 10:47 AM
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OYS #7 LIFTING Tight fucking hamstrings. Other than stretching and rolling does anyone have any other tips? Anyone tried acupuncture? I have moved to 4 days a week weights and 1 day cardio, but squats are stalling because of tightness and a collapsing right knee and my form on deadlifts is somewhat impacted by tight hamstrings which means I sit much lower than I want to in order to get my back in the right position. Foam rolling nightly but need to find other methods of loosening things up. FRAM…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 11:48 PM
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You know there’s nothing stopping you from building your new life before completing the exit from your old life? Join sports clubs, hobby clubs, charities, whatever, build a social network. If you don’t have blood or marriage relatives in your future then you can make your local community your family. Maybe you feel like you can’t move forward until you have ended the current phase of your life but that’s bullshit. Stop ruminating in the mud and start building.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 06:32 AM
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The other comments have been really good. Just to emphasise. Your GF won’t fuck you and wants to open the relationship. You are 23. This is really too young to live in a sexless relationship with a girl who isn’t committed to you. A girl who wants a long-term future with you does not suggest an open relationship. Go get fit, educated and become more social. There’s no rush, focus on looking good and feeling good and you will meet plenty of other girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/19 10:54 PM
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The general consensus is that the sex moratorium is a bad idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/19 10:49 PM
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Go get your dick wet is what.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:28 PM
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Great post. As always you are one of the most genuine people here. As someone entering their mid-30's -- kids sorted, marriage effectively done, career established -- if the best ROI would be just going with 1-2 year relationships, getting the best that the women has to offer and then moving on when the juice is no longer worth the squeeze. I mean sure I could invest my time in trying to make my new partner a long term option but... why? I've already got kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 05:20 AM
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The thing that’s really sinking in for me, reading peoples stories here, my own life and then just observing the people around me is the inertia that keeps people in relationships. Fear of change is a huge reason I think. I can comfortably say I don’t have oneitis for my wife, I have oneitis for the family and life we built. As an individual I am confident I will meet new women and have wild monkey sex, yet it is the drastically different life path that it will send me down which holds me back. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 10:26 AM
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There’s a time and a place brother but you have to find what works for you and your relationships. It’s not a wrong or right thing, it’s what is congruent with the way you want to live your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 11:43 PM
2

Maybe it’s just a coincidence or larger truths at play but there has been countless lines in Billions which makes me think that one their writers lurks in these parts.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 11:19 PM
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I love it when these guys pop-up because once upon a time I was that fucking guy. Life’s funny like that.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 09:07 AM
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You have an internet tracker for porn stuff that your wife watches? That could be read either way, but either way there’s a story there that should be unpacked because it rates high on the oddness scale. Retreating to sleep in another room when your wife rejects you is uber butt-hurt and stupid. Is it your bedroom or not? You won’t progress far while you let your wife’s moods and rejections impact you so deeply. Read NNMNG and WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 04:09 AM
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I dunno dude, you seem to have created a narrative for yourself that is going to hold you back. E.g. you cheated on your wife (though it was mostly an emotional fair!) with her sister because of innate red pill characteristics? And your emotional reaction to your own affair, the indescribable guilt, made you confess and turned you blue pill? Sounds like there is a backstory there which you aren’t sharing. I wonder why. Think about this from a different perspective, more of an MRP angle than a st…
/r/askMRP25/06/19 11:24 PM
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It’s just fucking weird. Like, mind your own fucking business.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 11:33 PM
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I hope the three front-end dev languages that you are referring to aren’t HTML/CSS/JS because if they are and you aren’t any good at JS then what the hell are you doing. Not trying to increase your anxiety but yeah learn JS quick smart and then learn the popular frameworks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 05:16 AM
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Weak. Either tel her pre- or never tell her. If you intentionally wait until post- to tell her then it’s going to sound like this: “Mommy, I got my dick wet in another women, I thought you should know because I want to be honest with you.” ...5 minutes later... “well you rarely want to have sex with me so why do you care?” and then you’ll be DEER’ing all night long. STFU. If you do cheat, cheat for you, not because you want Mommy’s attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 05:04 AM
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Any thoughts on the trade-off between getting up same time every day and making sure you get a minimum of 7.5 hours of sleep?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 02:21 AM
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My 2 cents... Carrying on an affair whilst half-assing your marriage is weak behavior. Your “girlfriend” might be fucking you willingly but that’s not because you have a high SMV. It’s because new relationships and affairs are exhilarating and on-top of that you are literally anyone but her husband for whom she obviously has high contempt. You are beta, he is beta. The only difference is that you aren’t him in her eyes (yet). See where I am going with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 12:04 PM
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Apathetic is a good username for you. What’s your plan? Where do you expect your current actions to lead you?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 10:43 AM
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I self identify as MGTOW but still loves the company of fun women. However that works. lol Ha, I guess you like the theory but not the practice. It makes sense, when I think about the future now it's kind of open ended, I've already got all the kids I want and I'm entering my prime, so...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 04:38 AM
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Yes. I've noticed the same with employer/employee relationships. You can mentor, educate, shepherd, build up, promote, protect, whatever, etc, an employee but do not ever expect that they will return your investment in them with long-term loyalty. Ultimately they will do what's best for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 12:58 AM
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You are right but your line of thinking has you headed towards MGTOW - which is fine if that works for you. You sound angry about AWALT. Is real reality getting stabbed in the back by a women? That’s one very possible outcome, maybe even inevitable, but if we retreat from relationships in our lives because of a fear of AWALT then we aren’t living in our own frame. Having said that, yes I suspect some people here think they can beat hypergamy with MRP and so they hold onto their oneitis. Also, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 11:45 PM
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Amen. OYS and pump iron. Take responsibility for your kids and household: imagine your wife was hit by a bus tomorrow, would you be able to instantly handle everything? You don’t have to do all the things, all the time, but you sure as fuck need to know how to do them when necessary (without asking Mummy how to do it).
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 11:58 PM
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You have not been at this long and are a) too focused on your wife, b) walking on egg shells because you are too afraid to burn it down and c) not focused on living an excellent life yourself. It isn’t easy and it will take a long time for you to actually change yourself. It will take longer for your wife to recognise the changes, though there will be no moment where your wife acknowledges that you have changed. You will get no credit for effort. Mummy isn’t going to give you a cookie because yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 10:07 PM
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Hmm that’s interesting. I think I am entering this now. Encountering irrational behaviour and mood swings that I haven’t seen in years. The good news is that it’s not from drunk captaining anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 08:16 AM
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You could do with reading the sidebar. NNMNG and WISNIFG specifically. You are young and don’t have a lot of life experience yet. Choosing to not tell your girlfriend that you have swapped nudes online with anonymous people in the past is in the scheme of things not a big deal. Do I tell my wife about the hand jobs, blow jobs, etc, that I got from my female high school friends 20 years ago even though she’s good friends with them now? No, I don’t, because it is irrelevant to the here and now. Re…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 01:55 AM
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Thank you. Makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:05 PM
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What are fuzzies?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 12:20 PM
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Yes, absolutely. Even if the past 18 months has been a dumpster fire and the previous couple of years to that were shit (though I was so deep in my beta funk that I didn’t recognise just how shit things had become), I do not regret getting married and having kids. I never regret the past because regretting something that has already happened is stupid. Learn from it and move forward. Hot tip though: I don’t think you should get married if you don’t feel 100% certain it’s for you. I don’t regret …
/r/askMRP11/06/19 10:50 PM
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Wear a fucking condom dumbass. JFC. Not only are you endangering yourself but you are also endangering your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:34 AM
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A pre-nup is one of those things that can give everyone the illusion of keeping things “clean” at the start of a marriage but once emotions take over the rationale behind it is quickly forgotten. Specifically, I think the other posters who have mentioned that your wife’s inherent need to protect her offspring is coming to the fore now makes a lot of sense. She detects a threat. I also hazard a guess that you don’t want to mention the pre-nup and who actually owns the house out of trepidation ove…
/r/askMRP10/06/19 02:59 AM
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Is there a disconnect, dare I say, a covert contract, between how you view the house asset (yours) and how your wife views it? You discussed general financial decisions without getting to the point that you view the house as solely yours and therefore you will do whatever the fuck your like. That’s the covert contract. Did you specifically mention that to her in your DEER’ing?
/r/askMRP07/06/19 04:04 AM
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Dude, just no. Maybe you are a fuck up and maybe you did fuck up your marriage. But that is no excuse to let yourself be treated like a worthless piece of shit. Give the kids a Dad they can look up to - have pride and self respect. They won’t understand now but you are the adult and need to make the hard decisions. This isn’t sustainable for you. Don’t make excuses, let her go if she won’t respect this basic boundary.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 07:28 AM
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It is some advanced shit and it’s fucking brilliant. Blows my mind every time I read it.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 10:14 PM
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Steps: Delete this post. Read the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 09:17 AM
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As messed up as my life is, the reason she probably stays somewhat sweet is either because I'm mean or because she is somehow secretly cheating while she's at work (I highly doubt this because she's just not smart enough to hide it and I am already extremely paranoid.) I’m not sure how you arrived at this conclusion, but it’s a reflection on your state of mind. You are, by your own description a mean fuckup, and your wife isn’t sweet to you because of that. I doubt she is cheating either. More l…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/19 03:49 AM
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I don’t know you, but I think there’s some ego protection going on here. Impatience comes from entitlement “if you won’t fuck me how I want, and when I want, then I will burn this down and find someone who will!”. That’s fine, burn it down if you want, but 4 months is a drop in the ocean of your beta career.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 11:52 PM
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He’ll get there. Based on my experience I summize that he’s in a state of hyper-arousal/vigilance devouring everything he can find here, taking on board bits and pieces but not fully internalizing, knowing that MRP speaks to him, but still doing it for the wrong reasons. Eventually he’ll burn out and then start again this time doing it for the right reasons (I.e. himself). Or not. I had to encounter AWALT way too many times before it really sunk in. We all have different starting points.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 11:45 PM
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By a high I mean that you seem to be detached from what the actual fall out will be like when you separate. I would be fine with separating from my wife if it wasn’t for the kids as well, but there are kids so it’s a useless statement. In your impatience to get what you want make sure you don’t skip over the fact that getting what you want involves actually changing you, which will take hard work and time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 06:57 AM
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Own your shit at work and at home and go to the gym. That’s the only thing you need to focus on right now. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking if I read one more book, or do a new list of goals, or create a better map that it will magically all click into place. Start with the simple day to day tasks and build from there. Compound effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 05:24 AM
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This is all fluff. You are on a high at the moment but it’s not based on anything solid - certainly not based on a solid understanding of the sidebar. I would be shocked if your days old “frame” could actually handle a separation. You know this, stop fucking talking idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 05:19 AM
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I now laugh when I remember how totally fucked my world was this time last year. So, significantly better, but a long way to go.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 04:31 AM
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He sounds very much like me 18 months ago, though he found this place much sooner. As pathetic as the story sounds, it’s a text book response from someone who thought they were living a Disney life and then one day woke to discover they were actually living a nightmare. Upon waking he reached for the tools that were immediately available to him, Disney’s Beta Tools (tm), and set to work trying to escape his nightmare, only to discover that everything he had learned over the years about what wome…
/r/askMRP30/05/19 04:12 AM
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You should lift because it is hard and scary for newbies. It is the first step in doing something that is hard and which most avoid because they don’t know how to do it and are afraid they will embarrass themselves at the gym. It will suck for a while and then it will feel great. Marriage counseling, couples retreats, etc, huge waste of time. Just giving her the opportunity to say she tried to save the marriage when you already know that she doesn’t think it can be saved. Right now, the only thi…
/r/askMRP30/05/19 12:07 AM
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Haha this, and your post history, it’s just too weird not to be a writer or some shit looking for material in the comments section that they can use in their next script.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/19 09:11 AM
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Fair enough.
/r/askMRP26/05/19 01:36 PM
2

Sure champ, believe what you want.
/r/askMRP26/05/19 06:35 AM
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Ha. How do you reconcile this comment with the weird ass creepy mate guarding behavior you exhibit when you try to brainwash your wife into believing that everyone is evil and you are the only one she can trust? I smell bullshit, with a faint perfume of wannabe alpha.
/r/askMRP26/05/19 04:46 AM
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Oh fuck off it’s about you wanting your women to respect herself. Fuck off. Stop lying to yourself. This is purely about your insecurities and mate guarding. You, little boy, get all jealous and butt hurt when your freshly minted girlfriend shows interest in other people. Other men. When she engages with dudes all of the RP material you have read sweeps into your head (revealing clothing, an arm touch! She must like him. Branch swing time!). You are still a dancing monkey.
/r/askMRP26/05/19 04:42 AM
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And this, at the end of the day, is maybe all we need to read in order to understand frame.
/r/askMRP25/05/19 08:29 AM
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Are you... wondering why you are here? Having a bit of an existential crisis? Seeking validation? Cause I am not sure why you would bother with this post if it wasn’t one (probably all) of those things. Read the sidebar (THE SIDEBAR) and post in OYS, lurker.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 05:16 AM
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I get you - I chose my words poorly. Thanks for taking the time to write it all up and clarify.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 09:12 AM
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My takeaway is that I should slap her on the ass more and not display neediness by seeking comfort from her. Seems pretty in-line with MRP. Over the past few days I've taken to slapping her on the ass (she giggles) and not trying to hug/kiss etc her (she's trying to initiate affection, I'm minimising my responses to it). I feel better behaving this way actually. It's more in-line with how I was for the majority of our relationship, I only became a needy fuck in the past year. Maybe there's a lot…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 05:05 AM
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I see it’s relatively common from what I have just read. Makes sense. I think my wife has always been like this, it’s me who has changed. In fact it kind of highlights this feeling of insecurity I have had over the past year, it’s been striking because it was the same feeling I had for the first six months of our relationship. She would go hot and cold, come close and withdraw. But for the large middle chunk of the relationship I had a strong DNGAF attitude (passed shit tests, failed comfort tes…
/r/askMRP16/05/19 10:11 PM
1

That was super insightful. Was your wife always FA? Was it consistent or has it been stronger at some stages than others?
/r/askMRP16/05/19 08:23 PM
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Thanks man, I will get this done over the next week, my bank has an app for categorising expenses, I will start there. I am also cutting up my CC.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 11:39 AM
1

This is what I try to do and how I feel when I am on an up day. But you are right, I need to find more intentional ways of handling it on down days, instead of just pushing through the day and hoping tomorrow I will swing up. I will try journaling again when it happens to get the intrusive thoughts and anger out. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 11:36 AM
1

I wanted to own the not having actually killed the puppy bit. But in terms of the relationship there’s definitely progress - but no sex, going on 15 months now. My SMV is massively up year over year and continues. I am getting overt IOI from girls 10 years younger than me, I didn’t mention them because it’s a massive ego boost / validation for me and that’s not what I want. I don’t want external attention to have such a wild impact on my mood. But yeah, girls notice me now. Shit tests? No real s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 11:33 AM
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I reckon you just want out of your marriage. Fair enough. It's been a long-time, you are a new man and you want to see what else is out there -- it's gnawing away at you isn't it. I held my ground again - "If this is something you have to try, I don't want it. Either you are going to be this person or you aren't." This can be taken two ways: Either you are you this person already or you aren't. Rhetorical question. Clearly she isn't this person already based on your 20~ years experience with her…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 02:14 AM
2

OYS #6 Stats Age: 34 Height: 5ft 10 Weight 82kg BF: 22~% navy LTR 15 years, 2 kids Current Lifts Deadlift 3x6 @ 110 kg / 242~ pounds Squats 3x6 @ 95 kg / 209~ pounds Bench Press 3x6 @ 70 kg / 154~ pounds Overhead Press 3x6 @ 50 kg / 110~ pounds Barbell Row 3x8 @ 50 kg / 110~ pounds Lifting is going well. I realized I wasn’t pushing myself enough and was staying within a level of comfort by only moving up in slow increments and aiming for 3x10 each time, so now I’m going up in larger increments s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 05:43 AM
6

Focus on his larger point. She’s getting her feelz from the young kids at the moment. Where some men fuck up is by becoming a needy unattractive fuck during this stage because Mommy isn’t paying them attention. Read the fucking sidebar you lazy fuck.
/r/askMRP12/05/19 09:04 AM
25

You don’t have the frame for it.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 03:38 AM
2

Dude, the benefit to my wife having an affair was that this particular point was clear as day. At the end of the day when things got tough she didn’t give a fuck about me. That realisation took months to settle in. I can imagine without infidelity being involved it might take much longer. Do you give a fuck about you? At the end of the day that’s all that matters. In 10 / 20 years your kids will be adults and will stop visiting you frequently, maybe they will move overseas and call a few times a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 11:38 PM
1

You are a virgin at life fuckwit.
/r/askMRP26/04/19 02:28 AM
3

The question is... are you ready to be alone? If I recall correctly that was your reason for upgrading a plate to a girlfriend in the first place. My guess is you have some unaddressed codependency issues due to the fact that you haven't been single in a long time which is causing you to push/pull because you don't want a relationship but you don't know how to live without one. You are a comfort seeker.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 04:29 AM
3

...and when you come back you have a recording device in your pocket - at a fucking minimum - to record her apologising for hitting you. You do not hit her or threaten her with physical violence, that’s only going to end badly for you. Just leave.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 10:41 PM
1

Couldn’t it simply be summed up as a fear of the unknown? I can identify with that. I have had similar experiences recently. Really too many fucks given, at the core still a nice guy afraid to upset the status quo.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 05:20 AM
3

Slow down cowboy. You are angry, frustrated and don’t sound like you are comfortable living in limbo. Much like myself. That’s OK, but recognise it for what it is and give yourself time to get to the other side of the anger (so you can make a clear headed decision that you will stand behind) for the sake of your kids and the younger man (you) who decided to have kids with this women. It sounds like you went through a really rough period and when you needed a loving wife the most she shut you out…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 10:02 PM
1

I said there was something off about you OR her. Address what is inside you before you assign blame to her. She is 4 months pregnant and you have a history of threatening her with divorce for gods knows what. Add to that you’ve been sprinkling some alpha bullshit (which bs because you clearly haven’t read the sidebar) over the past couple of months (why now, what was your trigger?) and I have not doubt that she is all over the shop emotionally. Sort yourself out before you fuckup your kids life.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 09:18 PM
1

This seems beyond regular beta territory, it is dysfunctional to say the least, and... I don’t know there’s something off about him and/or her. This is weird behavior. Does anyone else’s wives actually do this shit?
/r/askMRP12/04/19 01:29 PM
6

It’s implying that the LTR is holding the man back e.g. he would be able to do x if it wasn’t for the old ball and chain i.e he’s not leading, he’s following. Of course it was just a throw away line, but it’s one that has always shit me.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 12:41 PM
5

The ball and chain is on a work trip Sun-Thursday This is up there with "I'll check with the boss" as one of the most beta things you can say.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 03:52 AM
2

This in my mind is what it means to be an alpha man. Fucking owning it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 09:49 PM
6

When your LTR shows real contempt to you then you will know. Mommy not helping you make your dinner is not contempt. Her making and serving up dinner for everyone in the house except you - while you are present - would be contempt. I.e. you would fucking notice.
/r/askMRP09/04/19 10:54 PM
4

So, the question is, am I ok with her dating and sleeping with other guys? I don't know dude, are you OK with her dating and sleeping with other guys? Do I adopt a DADT attitude or demand she stay loyal or I walk? Cute.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 11:03 PM
2

Sweet baby Jesus. You come across as a complete and utter fuckwit. If this is what you are like in real life then a good place to start is your personality. Change it. Read a quarter of the sidebar and 30 of the top posts, and then come back and re-read what you just wrote. If you still can’t see why you are a pathetic cunt then put aside some time to work on your reading comprehension because this is fucking amateur hour.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 08:31 AM
3

I wouldn’t spend too much time obsessing over the captain/first mate dynamic - that’s the end goal sure, but you get there by consistently owning your shit over a long period of time. You can’t flip a switch and expect her to start following your lead because you woke up one day and realized that your are a fag. Why not? Because she doesn’t trust your fat ass and therefore cannot relax into your frame. Focus on your immediate tasks and don’t worry about the end goal stuff, trust the process. Als…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/19 12:54 PM
6

Beautiful.
/r/askMRP06/04/19 07:34 AM
7

9 times out of 10 you know it’s a joke and then there’s that 1 time...
/r/askMRP05/04/19 10:19 PM
3

Maaaaate... the simple truth is you recover by making hard decisions. Stop hamstering excuses.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 10:26 PM
10

When I was 22 I sure as shit would not have listened to this advice but... you are too young to be worried about this shit or to settle down longer than you already have. Go get some life experience.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 11:07 PM
2

Right, so the usual then.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 11:38 AM
3

Roast you for what exactly dude? What details are you leaving out?
/r/askMRP01/04/19 06:12 AM
14

The order in which you do things is going to need to be a little different to other people here. Every situation is different. For example, if your wife has barely fucked you for 7 years, and is currently not speaking to you, then there is fuck all chance that she’s going to respond well to your physical touch. It’s only going to make the situation worse. As it currently stands it sounds like her mind is set on divorce based on your pre-MRP blowup and your recent I-have-seen-the-light fuckups. P…
/r/askMRP31/03/19 11:25 AM
10

Bingo. It’s something us noobs have to wrap our heads around. Chad initially sounds like some jacked, hot and smooth cunt just waiting to pounce. And while that may be the case in some situations, the reality is he’s more than likely just another gay beta who is not you. He’s no better or worse, he’s just not you. Especially where work affairs are concerned IMO due to the opportunity to “connect emotionally” over time.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 03:47 AM
3

Camera’s in the house dude? To what, catch your wife in the act? Get a fucking grip. The sooner you realise you are the only thing you can control the better (for you). Also fuck the ultimatum get that shit out of your storage unit. Dump it on the street if you have to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 11:38 PM
2

Do you even sidebar bro?
/r/askMRP26/03/19 01:03 PM
2

Sure thing, it seemed like a brainstorming thread so I jumped in. Goodluck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 06:52 AM
4

Alright. Here’s a slightly different take champ. What makes you think you are a special snowflake? You survived the impossible, congratulations, big fucking deal. I bet you got yourself through the dark times by imagining how much joy and thankfulness you would feel if you could be cured. To be given another chance. You wanted to survive so fucking badly. But they kept on telling you no. And you wished harder and worked even harder. Just one more chance please. And things just kept getting worse…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 03:15 AM
1

On IDNGAF. It’s an easy place to go Rambo. In my opinion when you are starting out this should be internal. If overnight (and even worse if you have talked fight club with your wife) you start outwardly displaying an IDNGAF attitude then it will cause unnecessary friction that is counter to your long-term goals and lead to short-term friction. It also lacks congruence. You don’t actually NGAF and your wife knows it. So do you. Your wife will just fight against you and you will fold and fail to S…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 08:39 AM
2

Is there something important or semi-important that you are procrastinating on?
/r/askMRP17/03/19 01:01 PM
6

This. Spanking in OP’s case was pure sleep deprived frustration. He couldn’t handle the situation. It’s not about being anti-spanking, for me it is about remaining in control. I know for myself when I have come close or screamed at my kids it wasn’t related to their level of bad behaviour, but it was related to my level of stress. I.e I was a whinny beta bitch.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 11:20 PM
4

I see nothing but advice so far. OP has his head up his ass. Not because of how he handled the situation but because he’s focused on his “strong willed wife” rather than on his weak ass frame.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 12:28 PM
7

Dude, your wife didn’t hit your daughter because she was tired and frustrated by the antics of a young kid in the middle of the night... you did. I am not moralising, you choose how you want to raise your kids. But, reflect on the situation and ask yourself, what does hitting your kid in this situation actually accomplish other than momentarily releasing some of your frustration? Focus on you, not your wife.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 12:07 PM
1

I dunno you all seem to have this scenario where the guy is red faced and yelling at the underling. It’s likely not the case. Remember it is a female recounting the story. He was probably just assertive and wasn’t taking any shit. Dominance in the work place is more often calmly asserting yourself and having the other person submit because your frame/position/personality is stronger. Back in the day (before I went through my fat faggot phase) my STBX would get off on hearing me talk to people wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 12:35 AM
7

Your idea of manhood appears to be fucking people up for being disrespectful or hurting your feelings. Seems like you have some anger issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 04:06 AM
9

There’s the door mate, on your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 04:03 AM
11

...and if you do try to leave her and she pulls you into a hysterical bonding period, use a fucking condom if you cannot exit clean.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 03:35 AM
0

Why would your wife pay for cheap and nasty sex with you when she can pay 3x as much to have the artisan crafted deluxe sex experience with me?
/r/askMRP08/03/19 04:50 AM
3

This is performance art. Perfection.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 12:42 AM
4

Why you bottling bro? If you can't close your eyes for two minutes without crying then you've got some shit to deal with. So deal with it. I used to bottle. I used to wear it as a badge of honor that the only time my wife saw me cry in 15 years of marriage was when a close friend died (motherfucker I'm tearing up just writing that). Big boys don't cry, right? Well you know what, fuck that shit. Feeling like crying? Meditate or listen to sad songs or whatever gets you going and fucking cry. It's …
/r/askMRP05/03/19 03:40 AM
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Seriously? You aren’t allowed to go out without each other? That’s some gay ass shit. Hot tip for you Brother, if she wants to fuck another guy she will find a way, and chances are it won’t be at a club. Another hot tip, if you feel the desperate need to mate guard then either you are a low confidence guy (most definitely not the prize) or she’s a loose women and you already know it but you think maybe she can change (lol).
/r/askMRP03/03/19 09:28 AM
1

For me the inability to switch off was something I used to my advantage for many years. That is until I discovered my life is in fact a shit show at which point it became a total pain in the ass and is ultimately what prompted me to move to the next stage of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 12:04 AM
5

Yeah, not sure you get it. There’s thinking things through and then there’s never having a moments peace because your fucking brain will not stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 11:55 PM
1

It gets significantly better once the dialogs start. First 1/3 of the book is a real slog as you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:09 AM
5

I was surprised by this. I had the expectation that the longer I went without masturbating the hornier I would get, but in reality if I went a week without shaking the sauce bottle I would lose some drive. A few days is optimal for me.
/r/askMRP25/02/19 11:20 PM
1

If he has the higher SMV... ouch. Sounds like a nice guy and sit-com Dad to boot.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 11:50 AM
1

Try WISNIG audiobook.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 11:27 AM
2

Fuckin’ A
/r/askMRP24/02/19 07:03 AM
2

Yada yada yada my LTR wants to send a care package to her ex boyfriend and this makes me feel insecure. Deal with your insecurity.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 03:35 AM
4

Motherfucker are you hamstering over shit from 8 plus years ago? Fuck alpha widow bullshit, you are already together 15 years with two kids, worrying about that shit now is pointless. Do the fucking work on yourself and forget about her for now.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 02:58 AM
2

You haven’t told us anything. There’s no quick fix. If you have boundaries and are willing to enforce them then go ahead and do that. Not in a butt hurt way, but in a firm way. If you don’t have boundaries that you are willing to enforce then get started on the side bar.
/r/askMRP23/02/19 04:58 PM
1

This is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 10:11 AM
4

OYS #5 You’ll know when the time is up. There are some guys who choose to burn the house down to the ground on day one and others who need to take the scenic route. I took the scenic route. It was a tough fucking year. No regrets. I gave it all I could, while I could, but in the end the outcome was inevitable. It was inevitable because I actually could not truly forgive my wife or look at her the same way. The rope could not tighten in my case, it had already been cut. I was just not ready to ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 11:09 AM
13

The correlation isn't between unplugging and blowing up your marriage. The correlation is between your wife engaging in emotional and/or physical affairs and your inability to enforce boundaries. Once your boundaries are clear and you are willing to enforce them then you possibly won't feel so conflicted about the situation. Getting to a place where your boundaries are clear and you are willing to enforce them is where the work is. Your wife is just a side show for now. You are not unplugged (ne…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 02:16 AM
3

It's a good point. 90~ days is nothing in the scheme of things. I've only realized over the past couple of weeks that I am actually in the anger phase with a big dose of entitlement still lingering.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:27 AM
12

You seem obsessed with finding a women that you can develop oneitis for and being obsessed with not getting cucked. Women will come and go, the only thing that is constant is you. You don’t seem very happy with you.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 12:20 AM
1

If you aren't already, start thinking of yourself as if you are a single Dad with full-custody of your children. This will help you OYS and stop you from seeking validation from your AWOL wife. It doesn't matter if you haven't reached acceptance of the situation yet. Do not waste your energy chasing your wife. If she comes back into the fold it won't be because you chased her and talked her into coming back, it will be because she see's the prize getting away, at which point you probably won't w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/19 06:26 AM
1

My wife and I went to a meet and greet at my 4 year’s old preschool. I don’t like these events > and realized how pathetic I am in these situations. I’ve never liked introducing myself to people, I have a lot of anxiety and fear. I spent some time examining why I feel this way in these situations and I think the reason I don’t have anything to say to people is I don’t know who I am and I have no sense of self to share with other people. I am so focused on what people think of me and trying to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/19 05:07 AM
1

Totally. The benefit of lifting is ultimately the mental boost it gives you. It’s easy to dismiss it if you haven’t done it properly for an extended period of time. At first it wrecked me for the rest of the day, now I walk out of the gym buzzing. And diet is the reason I lost 50+ pounds, nothing to do with exercise at the time. Newbies, dismiss it at your own peril.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/19 04:31 AM
1

Any of you guys on here thinking of walking, >better use me as an example. Any of you guys on here staying for the kids, >better use me as an example. If you had your time again is there anything you would have done differently before walking? Exit strategy I mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/19 04:03 AM
7

As one of the aforementioned, and with the aide of hindsight, I agree. If you do not burn it to the ground and allow new fruit to grow, it creates a dynamic which puts you in a very weak and unattractive position with your wife holding way too much power.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 10:57 PM
6

Why did you let your wife see what you are reading? Now you are in a situation where you aren’t taking about Fight Club but your wife knows about Fight Club and her hamster is fucking hamstering. I am no RP expert but it kind of seems like the worst of both worlds. Her mind is creating all sorts of wild narratives because of what she’s read and there you are just telling her to piss off.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 04:21 AM
2

Shit bro. If you can STFU while you get your ducks in a row then do that. If you can behave like nothing has happened for an extended period of time... well that indicates something. Make sure you do not lose your temper. It won’t help and may hurt. If you are going for 50/50 custody make sure you are the primary carer and that it is known. Start building your case. Do not leave the family home. When you confront her about the affair you can ask her to leave the family home to give you space, yo…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 09:20 PM
1

I see what you mean. I have major fuckarounditis going on when it comes to all of this. Next weeks OYS will be different.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 08:33 AM
1

Fair enough. Is the larger point wrong in your opinion?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 07:42 AM
1

So now that your stream of consciousness is done, what brings you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 05:05 AM
1

I am in fact, doing all of these things as a big giant fuckin covert contract and I need to escape this. I just don’t know how. Isn't it a big giant overt contract? It's Married Red Pill. Married. We're here because we're trying to have better marriages, save marriages or prepare ourselves for marriage. The covert contract you may have is that you think that going through the MRP process is going to save your marriage. That's not the case, much of the material and comments point out that this is…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 04:46 AM
1

OYS #4 Mid-thirties, 80kg, 2 young kids, emotionally dead marriage, 15 years together Lifting Deadlift 3x10 @ 92.5 kg / 203 pounds Squats 3x10 @ 72.5 kg / 159 pounds Bench Press 3x10 @ 55 kg / 121 pounds Overhead Press 3x6 @ 42.5 kg / 93 pounds Barbell Row 3x10 @ 30 kg / 66 pounds Progress stalled while away. Beginner muscle pain returned after gym on Monday. I thought I was done with that. Recovery and ramping up this week to be back in full swing next week. Lesson = don't ease up while traveli…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:53 AM
3

In addition to the other comments the Stronglifts5x5 sub-reddit is relatively active.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 03:31 AM
6

Listen to the advice. Fapping is escapism and can neuter your desire for your wife or plates.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:49 AM
18

Brother. I feelz for you. But if you don’t have kids then get the fuck out. DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THIS WOMEN. Seriously examine your financial situation to see if you really would be homeless. Don’t hamster up excuses. If she’s showing you this much disrespect so early in your marriage it’s hopeless. Sorry bro. Plus, do you actually want to be with someone who does this shit to you? She doesn’t love you like you love her. Sounds like you might be quite co-dependent. Work on that. Did I say don’t…
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:05 AM
3

That’s great. I don’t mean to come across jaded because I am not. I look forward to doing it all again but this time with my eyes open. You sound proactive, that’s good. If I had a time machine the things I would change are not becoming co-dependent (kids kicked this into overdrive), not losing a zest for life, and pushing my way through life on a mission rather than being pulled by different currents (I.e. don’t drift) with no real destination in mind.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 02:49 AM
11

Haha, yeah mate. Good one. You found the “one”. There’s a reason my wife cheating on me and her willingness to throw our marriage away absolutely crushed me. We never argued, she never complained about my long working hours, she never complained about my weight gain, she gave me the porn star sex I wanted, she was/is hot, she had our kids, was a good mother, and then got a good paying full-time job. We were the perfect little family to the outside world. Except. I thought we were in it together,…
/r/askMRP18/01/19 01:47 AM
1

Thanks bro. The trip has been good. I am on my way back now re-energised. You are totally right. I find the less time I spend with her the more I focus on me and live my own life. When I am near her I fail back into the nice guy routine. The answer is to spend less time near her. Withdrawing attention had been a weak area that I will improve. The parents in law are here during summer holidays looking after kids. Wife also works full-time and earns good money, but I earn much more. Leading while …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 01:31 AM
1

Thanks, downloading the podcast now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 01:18 AM
2

OYS #3 Have been overseas over the past week for work. Fly back tomorrow. I hit the hotel gym once in the past 5 days. Occasionally popped in for some chin-ups but that was it. No barbells there. Eating habits were shit, drank too much and got too little sleep. But that’s OK, A week like this reminds me that eating good healthy food, getting 7.5 hours sleep and going to the gym 4 days a week feels so much better. Can’t wait to get back to it. Before I left on the trip my hamster was kicking into…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 08:16 AM
1

Welcome.
/r/askMRP17/01/19 01:47 AM
11

Motherfucker in the honeymoon stage of his 2nd attempt at marriage is here to answer our questions. What else you got bro?
/r/askMRP17/01/19 01:02 AM
5

This is clearly one of the biggest hurdles for reforming beta’s. A constant fucking battle while in her frame. But Mummy I have seen the light! Look how good I am at owning my shit. Look at my new biceps! I squatted 100kg today, I am making great progress aren’t I! Mummy doesn’t care bitches. The hardest truth to learn.
/r/askMRP17/01/19 12:27 AM
3

It’s your opportunity to grow the fuck up. Put the drink down, take care of your kids, then go the fuck to sleep. Tomorrow you start reading the sidebar and owning your shit. Look after yourself, look after your kids. I can tell you right now that the chance of emotionally connecting with a person who doesn’t want the same thing is slim. Ask me how I know. Do the work. Read the books. Think for yourself. It’s going to take months if not years to unfuck yourself. Or don’t. It’s your choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/19 05:49 AM
2

This was really useful in helping me identify additional areas where I seek validation but also acknowledges that some level of validation is inevitable in some situations as we don’t live in a vacuum. Thanks for taking the time to share your insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 06:42 PM
2

Good points, I have noticed when I am more playful she and the kids quickly join in. It goes against the grain of my default demeanour but that’s largely due to a self-consciousness that I am working on overcoming.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 06:34 PM
1

as far as heavy emotions - on the lighter stuff we're talking negging or compliments, practical jokes , surprises both good and bad, being dramatic or belicose in your language This I have made big strides in over the past few months. Well, except bad surprises probably. But definitely coming out of my shell in the other areas. as far as the heavy stuff - IMO it's all about polarizing a decision. in essence you need to stop being a bitch if you want to not be treated like a bitch. this needs to …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 09:14 PM
1

Consider my wife to be basically fully withdrawn. Two feet out the door, turning her head back and having second thoughts because of the kids and all the other things she’d lose. Loves me like family, but doesn’t desire me emotionally or see a time in the future when she would (last time I checked a couple of months ago). I am full faggot for sticking around, but I don’t want to lose the kids either. For me it’s only the kids that keeps me here. Everything else I can replace or do better. Now, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 09:58 AM
2

Coming back to reading this again to remind myself to keep the pedal way down. It's fully on point. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 01:29 AM
2

My OYS was boring as shit. So here’s part 2. I don’t have oneitis for my wife, but I do for my little family. I really want to provide a happy, stable, nuclear family for my kids and I sure as fuck don’t want to get to see them only every other week or deal with the bullshit of separation and dealing with new partners and the kids. But. The cards are stacked against that happening. I am currently pushing shit up a hill. It’s hard to describe the situation. The family home is pleasant, I get alon…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 09:55 AM
2

OYS #2: Mid-thirties, 80kg, 2 young kids, 1 unfaithful wife, together 15 years Lifting Deadlift 3x10 @ 92.5 kg / 203 pounds Squats 3x10 @ 72.5 kg / 159 pounds Bench Press 3x10 @ 55 kg / 121 pounds Overhead Press 3x10 @ 30 kg / 66 pounds Barbell Row 3x10 @ 30 kg / 66 pounds My lifts are shit but I am incrementing 2.5 kg per session and am only close to failure with bench press and overhead press. Doing barbel and half-weight warm ups followed by 3 x 10 sets. Hitting the gym 3-4 days a week on ave…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 01:22 AM
1

Why was the washing not already hung? Do you need Mommy to remind you to do basic household chores? When the washing machine finished did you think “oh I will leave that for heavily pregnant Mommy who is putting out toddler to sleep cause I have been a big strong man all day working outside and now I am sore and tired and need to rest”. I think I am fucking hopeless some days and then I read shit like this. Which part of own your shit do you not understand? Do you think you get to rest? Do you t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 11:39 PM
8

Thank you for fucking up so I didn’t have to make the same stupid mistake today. New day brother.
/r/askMRP06/01/19 08:54 PM
6

I need that, thanks.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 11:05 AM
1

Be ambitious for you because you want to be the best you. Not because you want to be better than someone else. Be your own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/18 10:21 AM
1

Make sure you internalize the content of the books you are reading. You have covert contracts in this OYS around money and presents. And you sound like you are hanging around after initiating and getting rejected. Don’t hang around, go do something else without being butt hurt about it. With regards to presents I used to have the same wish. If I wanted a physical present I would just buy it myself. What I really wanted was to be “treated” to a BJ. Something that was just about and for me. Sounds…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/18 09:56 AM
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It sounds like you drink an unhealthy amount of alcohol and you have seen first hand where it can lead. But you know this already which is why you are hamstering about what would be a healthy amount to drink. You are probably thinking that you won’t be able to relax or have fun without alcohol. The little boy inside you doesn’t want to give it up and the man inside you isn’t ready to own his shit. Make lifting your new vice.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/18 04:36 AM
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I am in a similar boat. I don’t even know where to begin with bringing emotion into sex/intimacy. STFU has been my default mode when it came to emotions for 10+ years.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 10:01 PM
2

Just lead by example. You do you. Above all else do not be butt hurt or salty because that is a strong indication that you are in someone else’s frame.
/r/askMRP22/12/18 09:02 PM
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Every time I feel like being a lazy fuck I take a trip down memory lane to the day I discovered that I was a cuck and the drive to never get that low again fires me up. On a day to day basis it’s the gains and progress I am making that gives me drive. The energy I have now, the muscle growth, the IOI’s, the opportunities that present themselves. Going back to what came before is not an option I can accept. What’s your motivation to kill the beta?
/r/askMRP21/12/18 11:55 PM
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It’s real, that’s for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 05:28 AM
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Yes, basically. It’s what helped open my eyes and keeps them open now. How someone could just become so cold, like flicking a light switch and to just not give a fuck about me anymore. It floored me more than processing the affair to some extent.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 11:58 PM
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I did deserve it. I thought we were solid because we'd been together so long, been through so much. I got fat, couldn't control my impulses and never took care her feelz. Her SMV increased over the past few years and mine declined (but that is changing now). I was naive as fuck. Like so much here and other places, it's all so fucking clear and I see it all around me now too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 02:59 AM
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Gym 3-4, sometimes 5 times per week. Lift 3 days with other days body weight and a bit of cardio. Have a trainer 2-3 days a week to push me, but I'm finding I now have the motivation to push myself as I'm seeing results and it feels good. Eating healthy. Cut out sugar, wheat, dairy and keep carbs generally low. I have lost 57 pounds in 9 months. I used to eat a block of chocolate or similar every night. Every single night. I don't do that anymore. I have a healthier work/life balance. I rarely w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 02:51 AM
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Thank you. I have been putting it off out of fear or disbelief or some shit, but that's just delaying the inevitable instead of being a man of action. I will get on it as soon as I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 02:32 AM
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Thinking about this more. I am working on getting to a position of strength. Of building frame. Being the father I want to be. I've been doing the "right things" for a few months now, but only recently have I actually started to feel like I am living inside my own frame, developing some DNGAF. Still, it is weak and I'm a long way from where I want to be, physically or mentally. Settling in for the long haul, it's going to take a while to unfuck myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 11:27 PM
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I do need more bros. Working on that. Probably no surprise but there’s another nice guy over here raised by single mother with his sisters and has mostly female friends. Though a few pretty close male friends. Totally right about the no sex thing. I see the error of my ways. Beta me was trying to figure out how to get her to stay. It makes me cringe writing that now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 08:25 PM
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I have not spoken to a lawyer yet. I will make it a priority after holidays. Our home life is smooth. We rarely argue (which in hindsight...), we bottled for years. And she’s still bottled or maybe that’s just how she is, nah she would unbottle for chad. She adds value as the mother of my children, she adds very little value as my partner these days, other than providing support that a very close friend could provide. I am focused on what’s best for me now. Slowly figuring it out and plotting my…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 08:22 PM
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There are kids. I am working on fucking her. I went full beta after finding out and said no sex until we sort out our relationship. Sweet baby Jesus, it’s good to say this out loud.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:26 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:24 PM
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No, I don’t really think it was appropriate. I was absolutely shattered to discover that my wife was AWALT and would do this to me. But I grew up in a divorced house with fighting parents and trying to avoid that is deeply internalised. Like the beta. I am 8 months in two owning my shit, lifting and eating healthy, but only 1~ month in to opening my eyes. I have been owning it. The only thing that sticks for me is the thought of losing my kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:23 PM
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The day I found out about the affair. I haven’t initiated since then really.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:03 PM
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Thank you brother. I needed the reminder. Making myself scarce seems to be a real big challenge for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 12:28 PM
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OYS Weekly #1 Brief: usual story, screwed up my marriage by failing to lead and just generally became a grumpy, stressed, fat bastard who worked all day/night and did not own my own shit. I wouldn’t have screwed me by the end of it. Which lead to... Wife had an emotional/physical affair with Co-worker. Shit hits the fan. I love you, not in love with you - you know the rest. I have two kids that I don’t want to lose a moment with, but reality is what it is. Mid-thirties. Married 10 years, togethe…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 12:18 PM
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Yep, that’s my life at the moment. Old cotton knickers to make it clear to stay away.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/18 08:08 PM
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