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The court is only going to care really about abuse, child custody arrangements, and then equal divisions of assets. Who supports who, cheating, etc literally won't matter to the court. If he is making your life difficult in your chain of command, it may be worth speaking to someone familiar in military divorces to obtain better advice. If he is non-military calling into your chain of command to slander you, at the very least one would expect that you should have the right to at least defend your…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 10:49 PM
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Your husband is going to be in for a rude surprise regarding splitting of assets. You will get 50%, barring any prenups or other chicanery. First off, go get yourself to a psychiatrist. You need to begin medication as well as individual therapy by seeing a psychologist. This is to deal with the bipolar (psychiatrist) and the resulting emotional turmoil from that and your divorce (psychologist). Work through the divorce with your lawyer. Your husband will need to disclose pay stubs, bank statemen…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 10:40 PM
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I think you missed the point. You need your lawyer to explain to you what visitation rights you have.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 06:22 PM
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What does your lawyer say or has said about the visitation schedule?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 06:17 PM
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If the wife stayed at home for 20 years and had forgone pursuing a career in agreement with her husband to take care of the house - then yes, spousal support is completely fair. I think that the couple is responsible for any decisions that they made together while married. For instance, if a secretary marries a doctor, should the doctor have to pay spousal support? It depends. Did the secretary begin their career pursuit while they were married? Then yes, probably should owe support. Did the sec…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 06:59 PM
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In my case, I was the one that needed help. She had chronic illness the entire time we dated. I literally saved her life on multiple occasions. Was the only one working (in a high col area), paid for everything, and carried the entire responsibility for the household myself. Eventually I couldn't manage it anymore, fell into depression, and she just left at the first moment I needed help. It's one of the reasons that I strongly feel that people shouldn't even consider marriage until their late 2…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 03:31 PM
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All of this highly dependent on the state that you are living. Retain a lawyer, even if it means debt, and proceed with the divorce. The money she spent is likely gone, and you are unlikely to get it back unfortunately. If she opened up new lines of credit, purchased property, or a car - then you may have some recourse since those will need to be documented during discovery in filing. If she just withdrew cash and went to dinner & bars, then you are going to have a hard time proving anything rel…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/20 04:00 PM
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This is terrible advice. The longer the marriage goes on, the more alimony he will owe. Just file and end it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/20 03:56 PM
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This is mostly a thread of divorced guys. I get that you are angry, but most forums are going to far more sympathetic to her. Look, i get that you are upset that your wife who don't work, and then didn't contribute - is shockingly looking for a payout. But being angry and emotional doesn't change the reality you face. It just makes it harder to change in court. Present the facts, and don't react to her baits and attempts to make you angry.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:47 AM
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Controlling the finances like you have is not a good sign. The courts will not look on it well. Up until I read that comment, I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. But, after that you come across as narcassistic and potentially abusive. She likely feels trapped in the marriage, unhappy, and doesn't know how to exit it. Go see a therapist and take a step back from this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 07:36 AM
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I just went to a general psychologist. It was a huge help in the first few months. After about 18 months, I've reduced my frequency significantly
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 06:06 AM
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I would recommend it 100%. You can certainly work through this yourself, but you will get through it faster with help. There is no shame in reaching out for help.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 06:01 AM
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Go read "No More Mr Nice Guy"
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 03:03 AM
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Most states have a pretty clear formula on how spousal support, child support, and division of assets works. You just follow the formula unless you and your wife decide on something else most of the time. Go read the book, and then figure out if you want to actually do this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 04:40 PM
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You clearly are beyond burnt out by the moves and supporting her career. That seems to be generating alot of the grievances you have. You also seem to be bending over backwards to accommodate her, her lifestyle, and her ambitions. You are also approaching the problems to be addressed in constructive ways: therapy, counseling. The thing is: Type A people want/need to believe they can get anything they want done, by themselves. This likely is causing her to diminish your contributions to the house…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 04:19 PM
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I think for men coming out of a long spell of depression where they are not taking care of themselves mentally and physically - doing something as this can be hugely empowering. I remember going out and buying new underwear and socks instead of continuing to use the ones I'd had for years - it felt amazing. Starting to come out of that hole, taking care of yourself, and realize your full potential as a man - can feel hugely empowering.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 08:24 PM
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You got 50% custody by showing you are an exemplary citizen, who should be involved in the raising of your child. That means crossing ever t, sitting every I, being polite and straightforward and avoiding confrontation with the law. Get a lawyer and a nice suit. Your living situation is tough. Con is her parents are going to likely be on her side, so living with them puts you at risk for false reports you won't be able to easily disprove. Con of moving out is you are abandoning the family home. …
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/19 07:28 AM
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OP stated that his wife had sex with the same child months before he turned 18. Either way, a 30 something having sex with a just turned 18 child is beyond disgusting. Regardless of the genders involved - if you are nearing your 40s and want to sleep with children, that's fucked up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/19 06:48 PM
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"And the one that bothers me the most... She recently slept with our son's best friend who just recently turned 18, who she was already caught messing around with a year and a half prior. She still doesn't know that I know. I found out the day it happened, and was able to get copies of the proof on my phone. Since the day after though she hasn't talked to him at all and he hasn't even showed up to "try" to hang out with my son. " This is sexual assault of a child. You don't have to any further j…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/19 04:32 PM
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1) Blackmailing someone to notarize something makes the notarized document invalid. 2) If he has proof that she said "false restraining order" (text, email communication) - than he should take that to overturn the order. As always, consult a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/19 11:37 PM
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Talk to a lawyer asap
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/19 03:26 AM
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I would maybe send them a long form, written out letter and mail it. It appears that your children have made their choice. Not much you can do. Definitely try and get some therapy to work on this.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 08:44 PM
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I don't know what to do regarding the $ that you've been spending above and beyond the court settlement. But - you should have a talk with them at 18 and make it clear that they are adults, and that relationships cut both ways. Reinforce that you care about them and would want to continue having a relationship with them, but you no longer can force them to do anything. It's on them to determine the level of involvement that they will want to have with you. If you go a couple of months without th…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 07:48 PM
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Your wife burnt all her family bridges. Would her family want to be involved with her kids, even if she isn't involved?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/19 04:50 PM
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If you have a history of being a high achiever at your job, it may be worth coming clean with them on what has been happening. Don't go into the specifics too deeply, but feel free to point out the police reports and court stuff. Any person with any reasonable amount of empathy will understand that such a thing can be an *incredibly* stressful process to go through - particularly when it appears that the law has been siding with you. This is get empathy you since your character is being reaffirm…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/19 04:47 PM
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If all the paperwork says otherwise, and your lawyer is saying something else - I would double check with another lawyer. Definitely feels like you might be shopping for another lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/19 08:44 PM
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This is healthcare, so make sure to carefully evaluate the deductibles, copays, max out of pocket etc. But generally speaking, I don't see how she could force you to change insurance short of going to court. She has little to gain here for the money spent. The only angle I see is that the existing physicians are an easy commute/drive and she doesn't want to deal with the hastle of going somewhere new.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/19 07:05 AM
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The mistake here was taking on the equity of the house when you weren't in a position to do so. If you want to keep the house, your best option is renting rooms or the whole house out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/19 10:56 PM
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By the time she asked for a divorce, she already processed her emotions, moved on, found someone else, and then decided to to get a divorce. You need to first get a handle on your emotions, whether that is through art, exercise, seeing a psychologist, whatever. Next - exercise, diet, and socializing. Engage in something that you find engaging that also draws in other people. For many, that's rec sports. Then start looking back.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 03:59 AM
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If you touched the assets or comingled them during the course of the marriage, usually they'll become joint property. As always, consult a lawyer instead of Reddit. Best of luck . Hopefully your states laws play out in your favor.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 01:58 AM
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If she filed already, she's done. She likely moved on a long time ago and has already finished processing her emotions. Stop seeing her, rip the band-aid off. Adhere to the custody arrangements, and have no contact with her outside of the absolute minimum. Go get a psychologist. Go take a trip for yourself. Be social and get out and do things. I highly recommend social sports leagues.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/19 02:25 PM
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At least in CO, the custody, spousal support, and child support is pretty well defined. There are calculators for this sort of stuff. Look that stuff over for your state. Look over what she submitted. If it's off by like 5% in her favor, it may not make sense to fight it. If it's skewed hugely in her favor, tell her that you want to follow the state defined formulas. if she doesn't agree to that, it's lawyer time. Lawyers are going to cost you 5-10+grand for each of you. If you don't have lots o…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/19 04:18 PM
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He has really no motivation for an uncontested divorce. It's very likely you will end up paying him alimony since you were married for so long.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/19 02:09 AM
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And don't lose that focus on yourself. It always has to be there, or any future relationship you have (with your wife or otherwise) can very likely go the same way.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/19 04:29 PM
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I heartedly agree. As men we must recognize our agency in our decisions. No bemoaning the evil courts. We have to recognize that - if women stay home for 20 years they will have a hard time finding work. It sucks, but it is what it is. ​ There are good posts and bad posts on this sub. The best are the ones telling people to pause, to self-reflect, and to evaluate where things are coming from - and their own feelings regarding that. Look at your own feelings and why things lead to that. But - bla…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/19 08:54 AM
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**“I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinion of himself than on the opinion of others. If then a god or a wise teacher should present himself to a man and bid him to think of nothing and to design nothing which he would not express as soon as he conceived it, he could not endure it even for a single day. So much more respect have we to what our neighbors shall think of us than to what we shall think of o…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/19 06:00 AM
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I just want some power back. I want to feel like the “man” of the house. I want to be able to flex a little muscle. Instead I have to sit meekly and do the dishes, feed the kids and put them to bed while she goes to her Boyfriends house. (10 min up the road) You need to respect yourself and find value in yourself before she will respect you. You can't ask for the relationship dynamic to magically repair itself. You can't just "ask" for respect. That is earned. And you don't earn it by making mon…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/19 03:07 PM
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I would upvote this. Pull back on the over time. A judge can't expect you to work 60+ hours a week indefinitely and use that as the basis of your alimony and cs payments. Pull back to more reasonable hours. If possible move to a state with reduced alimony guidelines. No mention though OP on length of marriage or age of kids involved.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/19 02:55 PM
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You have no guarantee your wife will not change her mind. Things could get nasty, even if it doesn't appear so right now. If everything goes well, you get your divorce and move out. If it doesn't, you don't want to give her ammo to use against you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/19 08:11 PM
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Stay. You don't want to give a judge the impression that you are handing your wife extra custody.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/19 08:03 PM
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Kids?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/19 07:54 PM
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Your husband from the description sounds like he has pretty textbook case of depression. Has he gone to a psychiatrist to be evaluated? ​ Secondly, your descriptions of your relationship abounds with red flags. Describing a long distance relationship for 10 yers as "Our love story is the stuff books are made of. " is frankly really strange. Combine that with what you describe as infidelity during that time period - it's just....weird. It doesn't seem like a particularly healthy way to look at yo…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 08:41 PM
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This is completely wrong. In fact, the wealthier you are the more likely in my opinion to get divorced. Why truck through the hard times, when you can just leave and get half? ​ OP, you need to address your depression. Depression is a terrible disease - it makes you lash out at those closest to you, it makes you seem cold and hostile to those closest to you. It saps your energy and will to do anything. Go see a psychologist at a minimum, and if it is really bad a psychiatrist. Cut out alcohol, w…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 02:23 AM
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Will the trip actively enhance your children's perspective on the world, enhance their world view, and develop them as a person? Then I'd say yes. Examples: visiting a foreign country, going to a natural park or gem that may not be present in its current form in 40 years. Going to Disney world with Daddy? I'd probably not get into a fight over that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/19 01:38 AM
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Have you spoken to your lawyer about her kidnapping your son?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/19 05:56 PM
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Have you gotten a lawyer? Seriously, file like yesterday. Accuse her of kidnapping your son and removing him from the marital home. Judges tend not to look kindly on one parent refusing to allow the other parent to visit the child. Document anything and everything.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/19 05:48 PM
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1) Separate accounts. Literally go today, open a checking account, and get your payroll to deposit there. Have no idea how that works in the military, but you can usually do this online. 2) Try and move back into the marital home. You are setting precedent for her to get 100% custody. Your kid can't stay with you in the barracks, so a judge will like award her full. 3) Get a lawyer like, yesterday. ​ Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/19 05:13 PM
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Yup, if you end up with sole custody you'll likely pay a ton less in child support then you would otherwise. Depending on how long you are married, you likely will still owe spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/19 01:35 PM
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Right now - exercise, not drinking, avoiding drugs, and staying in the house. Have you secured all the important documents you'll need (passports, private identifying documents, tax return information, paystubs)? Have you gotten everything you want out of the house? You are going to need all that information in order to successfully conclude your divorce without looking incompetent. If you have stuff in the house that you like, she can start selling it off. ​ If you move out, and relinquish any …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/19 04:33 AM
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Dude, your wife just told you she's about to make you homeless. ​ Is there anything that you have done that she could legitimately accuse of? You don't need to answer if that is the case, but you need to be honest with yourself, and then gauge if there is a sufficient body of evidence to build even a half decent case against you. If there is and it is well documented (DUI for instance, illegal drug use in the home around children), you are probably better off going along rather than fighting it.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/19 11:26 PM
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Yea pretty much this. If it had been him hitting you, the comments would be universally "divorce him right away". The fact he is still talking to you and agreed to separation/therapy is incredible.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/19 08:11 AM
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Go to therapy and figure out if this is what you really want to do first. Being married for two years, and then instantly jumping ship and thinking about starting a family with another woman, who you aren't even dating - is not normal.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/19 05:04 PM
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You didn't mention your age. The only way I could see this work if you are both over 50. With your ex-wife is cohabitating I don't see how you are going to move on. You aren't going to be able to date, meet someone else, or really forget about your ex-wife since you will be cohabitating. Are you going it be ok with your ex-wife bringing other men over? Personally, I'd never do it. I think you are going to have to face the fact that you aren't going to be able to keep the life and standard of liv…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/19 04:33 PM
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OP made it sound like he filed. At that point you just wait for the process to draw itself out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/19 06:08 PM
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Because he decided that it was over, made the necessary steps to accomplish that, and then peaced out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/19 04:55 PM
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Yea, ignore that red pill bullshit. You are starting over, without your partner who you had thought you would spend forever with. That's depressing. There's simply no way around that. The only way is forward though. Exercise, read, self improve. In the mean time, let yourself feel what you are. Remember, it's perfectly fine to feel these things.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/19 09:01 PM
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And shit American movies are what creates these narcissistic drama queens.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/19 01:50 AM
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72k a year, after taxes is something like 100k/year taxed. That's substantially better than what most joint income families make in the United States. Most people can live and buy a place on that sort of income.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/19 08:39 AM
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I have a box where I put small objects of sentimental value. The day I separated from my wife, I put my ring in there. I don't think I could throw it out. Being married to her was part of my life, and I don't think I ought to forget it. I'll occasionally take it out and look at it to remind myself of mistakes I've made.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 04:58 AM
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The vast majority of states don't care about infidelity. All they care about is proper division of assets, savings, and determining the correct spousal support and child support amounts.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/19 08:45 PM
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How you handle adversity, with honor and mental fortitude - defines you going forward, not her. “It’s not what they do that bothers us: that’s a problem for their minds, not ours. It’s our own misperceptions. Discard them. Be willing to give up thinking of this as a catastrophe . . . and your anger is gone.” - Marcus Aurelius
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/19 06:04 PM
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The big considerations are who gets the child tax credit if applicable, and any deductions she may have. She could need money for lawyers, and she gets her own tax rebate check - she can use that to pay them down. She could also use that hide the sales of assets, jewelry, or property from you, if they are large enough to require paying taxes on. Student loans in an income based repayment plan are also based off of your previous year's tax filings. If she knows you two are going to divorce in the…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/19 06:39 PM
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Provide your income with 2-3 weeks of vacation. That's a reasonable benefit to give yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/19 05:00 PM
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First your need a roof over a head, if cash is tight - roomates. Then food. Then transit. Figure out the cost of the first two. Then, depending on how much is left over determine if you can afford a car. If you can't, maybe bike? Move closer to work?
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/19 03:49 AM
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Can you get a lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/19 03:07 AM
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Her reactions are pretty much textbook depression. Miscarriages are incredibly difficult to deal with. She needs to go see a therapist, psychiatrist, and a physician. This 100% isn't on you. Depression can be incredibly difficult to deal with and it can sabotage relationships entirely. Particularly if it's a sudden change from what came before. Nothing she has done so far in what you said says that the marriage is 100% over. Urge her to get counseling and therapy, but leave it at that. Self care…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/19 09:47 PM
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The whole red pill/MGTOW thing makes you feel good and direct blame away from yourself at first. But it's not really healthy figuring shit out long term, and finding another partner. Go find a therapist, work through your issues regarding your marriage. Then work through the issues you talked about from your upbringing. That will be fare more beneficial long term than of the red pill stuff will give you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/19 08:24 PM
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You can't have your cake and eat it too. At some point, someone is going to move on with their life. They are going to start dating, find another partner. If I met a woman who still lived with her ex-husband, I'd run for the hills. I would expect women to feel the same about a man living with his ex-wife. When you got divorced, it was part of the deal that individuals will do worse financially than staying together. There is a reason that divorces include custody schedules. Rip the band-aid off,…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 04:46 PM
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She should straight up get half of assets, savings, income gathered during the time married. Spousal support on top of that, and child support if applicable. You know how expensive an exclusive boarding prep school is? Just because they are rich shouldn't change how the laws are applied.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 02:11 AM
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Yup! She can't split student loans. Get a lawyer and file ASAP. If you can prove that the withdrawals were made in bad faith, that money may not be sunk into her loans yet.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/19 11:45 PM
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I'm in the minority here. I printed out the paper work from the CO website, filled everything out, and sent it to her to sign. The only thing she didn't want to do was fill out the financial disclosures. Told her if we get lawyers and if she makes it difficult, she'll have to do the disclosures and pay 15 grand. Cooler heads prevailed and it cost us less than 200$ and some time to get divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/19 08:15 AM
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Would there be a benefit to battery charges if they were actually filed? Yes. But they haven't been filed. Either file them, or not. Doing so this late without corrabating evidence is going to be tough, imo. Can't speak to the yes/no question regarding divorce since you seem unwilling to address that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/18 05:45 AM
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5k honestly is about as good as it's going to get. If you show up without a lawyer the hearing will not go well.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/18 04:16 PM
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What incentive does she have to pursue divorce? She gets to date, gets to have an entire house to herself, gets all the custody - while you get to rebuild your life. You are being taking for a ride - everything is for her benefit and you get to pay all the costs. It's fucking blows, but it is what it is. If your name is on the house - move back in and pursue divorce. If it is not on the house, start gathering all your financial documents. It's been civil so far because she hasn't had to do anyth…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/18 10:55 PM
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Which side was claiming the income from the rent? It seems like you were taking control of that money, since you were paying all the associated costs. Remove that profit from your papers, and recalculate what you each owe each other. But yea, just sell it and split the money 50/50 (or to whoever brought the house into the marriage).
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/18 03:58 AM
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If it is in your name only, then it should be considered a martial asset. Your wife would be entitled to half of the contributions deposited during the marriage, plus half the gain. ​ If it is in your father's name - then that might change things. As always - go get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/18 07:57 PM
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Are you seriously asking how to keep your ex-wife's family out of her kid's life? I'd pick a better windmill to tilt at.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/18 07:04 PM
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Your best options unfortunately will involve lawyers, and court fees. Ideally you sell the house, get the cash, and then using the cash to relitigate a better deal for yourself. Basically - until you get enough cash to get a lawyer - you need save, dig deep, and eliminate all unnecessary expenses. 20k a year is alot, but you haven't said how much you are making over all - either reduce spending or get rid of the house. Either way, this sucks. Figure out how much longer you need to pay child supp…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/18 03:19 AM
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It's not the drinking in high school - it's the fact he lied through his teeth and perjured himself several times throughout the hearings. If some one asks you - did you drink in high school, and like any normal person you reply - "yea so what" - that's perfectly fine. It's the hiding and lying that disqualifies him. Women don't talk to therapists for decades about an event in order to set up ruining a guy 30 years down the road. Look at all the death threats and shit she's had to deal with - wh…
/r/MensRights12/10/18 09:25 PM
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Get a lawyer, then get counseling, and then work with the lawyer to file for divorce. Personally, I wouldn't say much to your wife in order to make sure she doesn't/can't move money out of bank accounts, etc. In the meantime, just go fishing, hiking, hunting -whatever and do whatever you want.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/18 02:55 PM
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Go talk to a lawyer. That's it. They will advise you if you can protect any assets, if at all. Judges don't like when people try game the system by sheltering/stealing assets in an attempt to short the other partner, so be careful. Do not prolong the separation period. You will still be married during that time period, so that will be brought into consideration when determining alimony. Many states have a formula that judges tend to follow pretty closely. Going into her phone, which has an expec…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/18 09:11 PM
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Your wife does not get to dictate the visitation schedule. Go talk to a lawyer. Your oldest is old enough to have a say in how she spends her time, but the youngest one should not. Unless there is alcohol abuse, drug abuse, violence, etc going on, you will likely be able to get 50/50 with the youngest one at least.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/18 04:42 PM
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I'm going to say - if she is willing to make an effort and do marriage counseling that you give her one last chance. Re-evaluate in 3 months whether she is really trying. You'll have closure this way since you'll know whether or not she wanted to make it work or not. Three months in the grand scheme of things is simply not that much time. Just be super careful with any of your investments, cash savings, etc so she can't just abscond with more that 50% of the money. I'd start documenting that now…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/18 04:18 PM
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In the end, you are both adults and both need to look after your own personal health. It's cold, but in the end she'll have to look after herself. She can do it while receiving support from you in a respectful and measured way - or she'll be doing it on her own. Very often the sick partner will be so consumed and wrapped up in their own personal health problems that they won't take seriously problems their partner has in the relationship, or sometimes won't even notice. This is probably even mor…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/18 07:31 PM
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Honestly probably better than when we were together. During separation I paid for all the bills, so she had more time and less stressed to just deal with her stuff. Post divorce, I simply don't know since she won't want to share.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/18 06:02 PM
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Having been married to someone who had an auto-immune disorder, you are in for a tough road ahead of you. You are going to be the one giving far far more in proportion than what you will get back out of the relationship. You are going to be doing all the work earning money, you are going to be the one taking care of more chore. If you have no children but want them, that's unlikely to occur at this point. If you had a 50-50 split of responsibilities before, it's now going to be something like 90…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/18 05:09 PM
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