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FDS ANTHEM 🎶ucompost/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:19 AM
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Let me know when an entire capitalistic ideology is centered around making a profit off of a mans insecurity on dick size. I’ll wait. Meanwhile we have decades worth of marketing campaigns to prey upon women’s insecurity of every inch of her body but also her sole purpose as a wlman (being a bad mom bad wife etc) Women make 75% of the home purchasing decisions. Most of every product in a store is marketed towards women. And all of them are in some way or another pervasively convincing female buy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 10:39 PM
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Shut the F up I’m there. I love downton and would freak if there was an FDS English countryside ladies only vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:31 PM
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Definitely have interest and as much as I love and frequent this sub I do have to take breaks to refill my cup as I work on my own “I’m worth it” journey. I know there’s a FDS level up subreddit and they offer positive post tags and all that. But Im totally down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:37 PM
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The only men I’ve known to hate FDS are also horrible partners. Would be different if they DID remember their wife’s birthday/wedding ring/anniversary/anything about them. Again usually the men who are so critical of FDS and others relationships (using misogynistically charged words like ‘toxic’ ‘clingy’ ‘abusive) are just projecting. They don’t want their partners to get a clue by witnessing other men treat their partners the way their wives secretly not to secretly want to be treated. So many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:45 PM
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Wow 3 months?? So glad he’s an EX! Can you imagine living such a sheltered life to where exerting any sort of effort is so foreign to you?! What an easy quiet life to live. This is why IMO most of these men have usually stayed in the same town they grew up in, dating their high school “sweet heart” (they broken up a few times for cheating 🤔) and live down the street from family members and can never see themselves anywhere else. Bonus if an only child. The whole “no relationship should require w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:15 PM
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And they looooooove criticizing their friends and family members about their relationships meanwhile they’re either perpetually single, in and out or relationships or are begrudgingly married. (Like it took them 15 years to propose to the same woman they’ve been dating) Same men and family members called me “picky” and the classic “high maintenance” and it’s like…uncle bud you’re on your 4th marriage and forgot your new wife’s name/birthday/kids names don’t be coming @me! 😂 just because aunt Tri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:11 PM
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We broke up and he moved BACK into his parents basement first time he even left the basement to live on his own was with me. Pretty sure he’s still in his parents basement even though they moved (so he followed them) he’s also on Reddit and stalked my accounts so…😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:46 PM
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Why is laundry like THE stickler for grown men?? I’ve had exes and even friends whose mother still did their laundry (and they were married) I’m so particular about my clothes that I prefer doing my laundry. Men spend $$$ on clothes why not learn to take care of them? I just do not get it!! I’m so glad to read you’re out of that mess. And that you’re here to get what you want! I hope the best for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:43 PM
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Still gotta move your hand, use brain cells to find some video to jerk it to etc etc. it requires SOME effort albeit low effort. He didn’t wanna have to talk about disagreements or have any sort of conflict. He’d avoid conflict at all costs. He was such a scared child of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:19 PM
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Unfortunately they seem to be very popular partners. I’ve met more married men like my ex with wives who are so insistent they are feminists or “don’t take no shit” one even being my own mother! I just don’t get how women put up with it while screaming to the world they’re some #bossbitch picking up after your husband and then secretly complaining about it on Facebook. That doesn’t make you a boss bitch it makes you a very cranky door mat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:30 PM
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In moments of contentment sure effortless to talk, banter, etc sure. But in disagreements communication errors etc that can’t feel effortless (that’s where the work comes in) the reward like you said feels worth it. But relationships are work. But rewarding work. (Which is why if you see men who are lazy in their life like not working out dressing well hygiene etc, they don’t do work in relationships because ANY effort no matter the outcome isn’t worth exerting themselves over) My ex insisted ef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:25 PM
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Here’s another: same ex that said hugs were unrealistic also said that: “If a relationship requires work then it’s bad unhealthy and toxic. Relationships should be easy and require no effort” Name one thing on this planet that requires no work or effort but has results? He just thought he’d Harry Potter himself into an amazing relationship (while still remaining mediocre like Harry Potter) And this ISNT the first time I’ve heard a man say this to me or their partners (in mixed company like whaaa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:41 PM
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Lol ironically enough he had gained a lot of weight and I was losing weight working out which caused some fights as I tried to motivate him to eat better and exercise. We were having sex on a regular basis as well but outside the bedroom no touching. I haaaaated it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:03 PM
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Told my ex I wish we hugged and touched more as I was feeling more like a roommate than a girlfriend (physical touch is my love language along with words of affirmation…) and he told me that expecting him to reach out and hold my hand or put a hand on my back or even a random hug was “unrealistic expectations” Hugs are unrealistic guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:29 PM
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Interesting about men right outta college waiting for their dream job. I didn’t know this was common even tho I experienced it first hand. My Ex graduated with a degree in IT at 28. At the time he lives with his parents in their basement and works at GameStop that’s how we met. (Yes red flags I know but I was young and desperate to find someone to love me and watch Star Trek with) ANYWAY he graduates and immediately quits his job as a manager at GameStop. No job lined up nothing. Was surprised h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:57 PM
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So when I was a teenager I was trying to prepare myself for having sex and how to be good at it (because that’s a thing teenage girls should be concerned about and focusing their energies on yay society) One tip I found in cosmo was a recommendation to fondle a mans balls while wearing velvet gloves. I thankfully did not follow their advice. Even at age 17 I realized cosmo was full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:03 PM
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Ahh the same publication that said velvet gloves to fondle balls was a way to a mans heart. What garbage. And yet still so similar to VICE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:46 AM
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Shouldn’t react harshly? Hmm suffragettes didn’t get the vote for asking nicely. This wreaks of “Protest the correct way” Saying that we are still controlled by men because we return centuries of abuse and violence with “harsh words” is contradictory. Because if we are knee capping our words and behaviors to compel mens humanity isn’t that Also control? You can’t start change by placating To your oppressor. Women asked nicely to be able to do things like read or do maths or be a community healer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:26 PM
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I love reading responses like this. I am so happy for you!! Like Cher said Men are like dessert. You like dessert but you don’t always need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:00 AM
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I request to be dismissed from this simulation please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:55 PM
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Hold on ladies now don’t kink shame! /s Last time someone said I sounded “kink shamey” I laughed because they had no idea I (along with my partner they Were criticizing) used to be heavily into BDSM. Funny how when you’re into the kink life people make fun of you or talk about it behind your back. but then as soon as you start pointing out how the kink life is violent towards women and has roots in misogyny they start saying that you’re kink shaming and a prude etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:16 PM
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What is with men measuring their partners wallets??Ive witnessed so many comments from men Complaining about their partners spending “so much money” on “stupid things” (like skincare, a new car) and saying she’s bad with money while he’s sitting in their house SHE bought (and usually they spend $$$ on video games computer tech nerdy replicas etc) Like she’s buying moisturizer and you’re buying A 300th set of gaming dice. She’s buying a new car to get to her job that’s a commute and you’ve bought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:37 AM
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It’s possible! Requires work and being so so comfortable (hell I would even say excited) with the idea of being alone. As soon as I stopped treating my relationship as my only reason for living did I find my Fiancé. And I think that attitude along with me always communicating and improving on myself (in and outside the relationship) did he smart up and realize I am THE destination. It’s rustled some jimmies of some friends and family members but tbh those aren’t individuals I look at for relatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:06 PM
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So I thought y’know maybe there was context To this so I just now read the article and uhhhh nope it gets worse. He says he can’t pursue women as much as he’d like because “then you might go to jail”?!? This is from 2018 how why what? Why didn’t this get “slammed” in the media?? Ugggghhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:24 AM
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Wendy’s fast food Twitter handle said it best: Reddit-finally a safe space online for men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:56 AM
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Shhh don’t tell them those “top guys” who have “a wide selection of women” are talking to mostly bots… Wasn’t it like 80% of users on OLD were men??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:53 AM
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Want to get paid equal to men. Cool that doesn’t exist yet but you’re gonna pretend it does everywhere else? 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:47 AM
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Watched the trailer laughed my ass off and noped for all the reasons you listed. I’m living off this “I make my kingdom exactly the way I want” energy right now and something as simple as an arbitrary Netflix show like this doesn’t serve me. Nah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:21 PM
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Fuck! I love this saying!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:10 PM
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Thank you. Establishing and maintaining boundaries has been HARD especially when your family and society in general are very anti women having boundaries it seems. Your affirmation means so much to me. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:33 PM
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So rare to find a man stand up in the face of his own tribe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:09 PM
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Also why I stick around FDS. No judgment no man saying “ugh you’re a miserable person no wonder your family doesn’t talk to you” none of that. Keep telling your story unabashedly, without hesitation or second guess. It helps me and other women keep telling ours. I’m so sorry for what has happened to you, but I am so glad you are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:08 PM
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Thank you. Oddly enough I get told by men that I really should be close with my family and am a miserable person for not doing so cough Something something “but she’s your MOTHER”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:24 PM
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Hmmm the Oedipus complex makes sense especially from pick me women who become mothers… TW: reminds me of a time my father asked to see a bug bite on my butt (I was 9) and I lifted up my shorts and showed him and he began to stroke my ass cheek. I jumped and screamed “Ewww your being gross!!” My mom guffawed and said “Shut the hell up GET OVER YOURSELF your father isn’t looking at you like that. YOU WISH” Said my mother. Saying I must’ve been full of myself to think my f a t h e r was feeling me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:32 PM
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Brought this up with my kid sister as we were reflecting on the Brittany spears testimonial. Her psych 101 class actually Skipped Freud entirely her professor stating that a lot of his theories etc are being thrown out and is considered a “joke” Where as my college insisted we learn it even if it wasn’t widely held in the professional field… 🤮 History doesn’t repeat but it sure as hell rhymes. Unless you’re a woman then history is a record stuck repeating on the needle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:27 PM
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😝 Yes but when I see wrinkly khaki and lumpy baggy pockets I just cannot control my urges!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:40 AM
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Hmmm so dressing approximately? So if he wears a tank top I have every right to harass him whistle berate him for his number. Where is that tik tok of that woman who cat calls men like they do us? So let’s just all start acting like fools when we see a pair of cargo shorts ladies (cuz let’s be honest all these trolls wear cargo shorts and freak when they see anything above their knee in a screech of homophobia) Satirical Point being: if men say summer clothes isn’t appropriate then men’s summer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:38 AM
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Hmm not sure I remember My father used to do this and had precheck included in all his own tickets due to some credit card Reward membership or some status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:54 PM
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I love this and would love more FDS success stories! Either friends or relationships. I’m so happy for you sis! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:08 PM
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It’s the same type of men that comb through our comment threads and then screen shot accounts and send them to friends in outrage. Like don’t they have jobs? Wives? Kids? Just to put that all aside to get mad at women speaking anonymously on a women’s only space on the internet. All it proves is how terribly inexperienced some men are with living in world that doesn’t cater to their every thought and emotion. Where as women get rape death threats sexual harassment online on public profiles by me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:57 AM
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Perfect example of women internalizing: women have a higher rate of risk for ATTEMPTED suicide then men. Men have a higher risk of COMPLETED suicide. Why? Because women even when they want to end their own lives they are still too worried about their children and their husbands who can’t take care of themselves. so they decide not to kill themselves knowing that their family can’t live on without them. Even in our darkest Times we are still worried about others over ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:04 PM
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If anything we are constantly asking men to leave us alone. Which according to some men means we are miserable and will end up...ALONE 😝 just proof they don’t listen to women unless it’s what they wanna hear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:02 PM
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Cept one group is responsible for another groups 97.9% sexual assaults and harassment’s. You can say we sound the same but let me know when a woman commits a mass shooting at a chipendales because some IG model didn’t respond to her DM’s. Women being unattractive and rejected by men doesn’t lead women to act out violence against men. Men being unattractive and being rejected by women DOES lead men to act out violence AGAINST women. Women using porn doesn’t lead to more violence against men. Men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:44 PM
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About tone policing: YES And the pejorative narrative that comes along with that. I think the worst is “you’re so aggressive and mean” “you’re so obsessive” “it’s living in your head rent free” like yea duh! Because my brain is keeping track of all the times I’ve been harassed or assaulted and trying to create short cuts to protect me hence why I am on the look out for red flags! Like men don’t seem to get that radicalized feminism is born from women’s desire for self preservation. We are litera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:37 PM
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Yup and usually more unhinged and hyper focused on hunting you down to tell you how wrong you are. The energies of “male feminists” is feverish posturing to maintain some superior moral high ground. Not To gain favor with women but their fellow man for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:59 PM
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In my experience people like this are just mad you’re happy. I cannot tell you how many times I got comments about my fiancé for his HV behavior and how he’s such a real gem etc etc but as soon as I say “I know” i have gotten comments of being high maintenance etc etc. Keep your sunshine. Sucks for her. I mean you’re happy right? So just let it roll off your shoulders and think “man she must be reconciling somethings on her end” and let it be that. It’s her problem not yours and also not your bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:23 PM
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Love this!! Breaks my heart that she tried committing suicide and was abused. Ugh hard thing to hear when you see a woman so powerful and in her own present glory, and turns out she felt just the same as the rest of us at one point in her life. Thank you I’m going to look her up right now and spend my day in laughter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:16 PM
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Funny cuz all I’ve heard men say to women (when women call them out on their horrible behavior) is “you’re crazy you need help go to therapy” or “glad she’s getting the help SHE needs” no bruv you’re the one that needs help! We are in therapy because we can’t talk in public or online to our friends or family About what we go through without y’all bumping in (when no one asked) so instead we have to hire and pay literal professionals to guide us on how to deal with your crooked ass selves. Men th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:51 PM
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The investment part is so true. The absolute energy and time spent silencing women is too much. Which is why when men see women commenting on here it makes them so upset. They can’t control what we say hence the feverish focus to silence us. Through insults, doxxing or whatever else. When all the energy could’ve been done improving their own communities and behaviors. The NEED to control seems so much greater in narc men, and when that need isn’t met all hell breaks loose. Which is weird women h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:47 PM
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Literally just talked about this with my therapist as I struggle with OVER sharing: You get to choose who knows your information. Not everyone is entitled to know all of you, know all your thoughts all your opinions (even about them) People EARN that. Because it’s worth having. If you never want to talk it out with a romantic partner that’s perfectly ok. Just establish that with them and if they push back then you know they’re not ok with that boundary (and probably not a good romantic fit) Set …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:24 PM
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As a ex stripper thank you for saying this. Please never stop speaking, I just recently became comfortable talking about my experiences and it’s because I see comments like this. Thank you I feel less alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:17 AM
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That is why I love this place. It’s the only place I’ve got that doesn’t judge me looks past all the cringe and shame and actually WANTS me to get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:46 AM
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Never? Hmm I don’t think that’s possible But it is Substantially less thanks to therapy. Basically my therapist taught me to just be more mindful and to realize those thoughts are popping up because I don’t think to highly of myself. So now when it happens I take a big breath and go “nope those thoughts are bullshit” and I remind myself of all my current accomplishments and tell myself “those moments do not define me” It’s possible and it takes a LOT of work and the healing is ugly. But it IS PO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:39 AM
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YUP Calls themselves feminists then get angry when women on the internet say things about them they don’t like like. The kicker is when they demand these women stop talking like... 👀 feminism doesn’t cater to fragile male sensibilities. Want us to stop pointing out shitty behavior? Stop doing said shitty behaviors!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:50 PM
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It’s always a red flag to me when a man says his friends girlfriend is a bitch. I’ll play columbo and ask them what happened etc and it’ll be some bullshit of “she didn’t talk to me at dinner!” And I’ll feign shock “oh my! Was she sitting next to you?” “No-b-but still that’s rude she could’ve said bye to me!” Like my dude she ain’t dating you! maybe she’s shy or maybe you’re just boring as hell or maybe....gasp! It isn’t about you at all (women have lives outside men’s attention) Most of the tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:35 AM
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Literally knew a group of men who KNEW a friend in the group was a rapist and they would all defend him (even though one of their wives was a rape survivor as well) and any guy who spoke out against this? Wasn’t invited to group gatherings and made fun of. Even when asked if they confronted said rapist friend they’d all avoid it. Men don’t care about rape just as long as it’s far away from their sexual pleasure (ie the women they are having sex with wives girlfriends doesn’t matter) Edit: these …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:58 PM
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Yup yup yup Here’s my rule with compliments or conversations of praise with your partner: count how many times they talk about themselves (you supported ME you were patient with ME) versus things uniquely focused on you and usually you can figure out if he loves YOU or what you do FOR HIM. I told my fiancé this years ago when we first started dating and we role played a bit to drive my point home and he totally got it. Since then he’s been terribly focused on me as a woman and less on my ability…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:35 PM
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Those black eyed peas!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:44 PM
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clears throat cuz Earl had to die!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:25 PM
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What’s weird is that they so staunchly believe their SO progressive! Yes they have universal healthcare parental leave childcare etc but also the epicenter to human trafficking in Europe. Literally had a German man say he’s a Marxist and only fans is ok and porn isn’t bad (because his wife said it’s fine and he cares what she thinks instead of y’know facts) and that capitalism is the culprit not the patriarchy. While ignoring data that more women and CHILDREN have been trafficked and abused due …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:40 PM
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Yes and all adults are equal in this society /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:36 PM
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Equal rights? Where?? Oh Germany lol yea maternity leave and free education and healthcare. But also a spike in human trafficking and one of the epicenters of human trafficking but hmmk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:34 PM
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Reminds me of a lupe fiasco song “bitch bad woman good” that perfectly describes how women and men are on polar opposites when being brought up in this society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:32 PM
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I mean it’s Reddit...they have literal subreddits dedicated to pouring piss and shit on women but it’s “porn” so it’s protected for some reason 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:05 PM
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I would reply “A princess? Nah I’m a queen of a kingdom. MY kingdom that you don’t have the be a part of.” Blocked delete byeeeee. I hate princess anything a princess WAITS to be queen. I’m not waiting for shit. I’ll take my crown thank you very much! Hell I prefer GODDESS (cue Galadriel “all will love me and despair!”)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:13 PM
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So here’s my perspective: I’ve seen more liberal feminist women shit on Instagram soft core porn models than anyone here on FDS. I’ve had a man insist him buying only fans is empowering (and is fine cuz his wife approves) and said my fiancé was a SWERF even tho he himself Said my fiancé dating an ex stripper sucks and SAID HE WAS SORRY FOR HIM. (The stripper was me y’all) I’ve had men make jokes about women being raped at prom, befriend and continue to be friends with a man who declared himself …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:32 PM
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Ok just started this show now and holy hell it’s making me realize some deep seeded “pick meisha” behaviors my mother had! I’m relating so hard to Veronica right now! (Still on episode 1)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:46 AM
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I’m very new to gaming but am totally in for a remote campaign!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:26 AM
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What the F? Does she not think we can have BOTH? Sure teach young men not to rape by defining consent and rape clearly at a young age. However this isn’t women’s responsibility (we literally can’t raise the entire planet ffs) it’s MENS responsibility to keep their side of the street clean. So again you can have both why wouldn’t she want both???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:47 PM
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Hmmm I hear you. And honestly this feels like an exception to the rule. But I can tell you from my own experience that no strippers talked about having sex for money with one another let alone at the club itself. It’s “looked down upon” as much as a “don’t talk about it and get caught cuz then we all get caught” it isn’t a minority it’s a very well kept secret. Because again- manager will want a cut and some women are closer to managers than others and will tell managers what’s going on for pref…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:17 PM
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You probably know this but it’s gotta be said: strippers didn’t choose him he kept giving them money. It’s the hustle. You don’t sit down with a man for more than 5 Minutes unless he’s bought you a drink and tipped you within the first 5. Then if he keeps paying you you keep paying attention. If he doesn’t you make some excuse and leave him. It’s so funny men who freak at FDS for being gold diggers are also ones to insist strip clubs are empowering for women where the women LITERALLY ARE ONLY TH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:00 PM
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See that’s why I love it here: we can be different in our own personal expectations while still honoring and respecting other women’s expectations. Like didn’t the rest of the world learn this in kindergarten?? Why is this such a hard concept for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:22 AM
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Look for me PERSONALLY a 20-30K ring is a lot and I wouldn’t expect that from my fiancé who makes 70K a year. HOWEVER I don’t shit or judge a woman (or even a man) who wants that. Why shouldn’t people get what they want?? Especially women?? I was thinking “ok seems they are at a crossroads have different expectations and should break up” but then I read the edit... Is he seriously saying he’s sticking around and wanting to marry her because her 140K income will be his money with shared finances.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:19 AM
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That makes me so sad. When couples would come in id always pull the woman aside and ask her what she truly was and wasn’t cool with. And I’d tell her to say a code word or some hand signal for when she had had enough regardless of what her husband or boyfriend was saying. I’d make some excuse and leave them alone for the rest of the night. I remember a wife paying me to leave her husband alone. Which was great but also awful. Edit: great as in being paid to avoid men. It obviously wasn’t worth t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:40 PM
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You are correct. Clubs will say they have policies on no sex for money and also have cameras in private rooms. But usually they’re broken or turned off and if you DO sleep with a customer for money you better pay off the bouncer and the manager or they’ll Come find you and take more of what you made while threatening to call the police. Also if you make the club a lot of money with bottle sales or private dance rooms they’ll turn a blind eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:40 PM
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That’s usually when they start: college girls freshmen year looking to burn out all the wild rage they held inside during HS I was a former stripper at 18-19 abs aaaaa lot of women at the club I worked started right out of HS and this was in a big east coast city as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:38 PM
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If it’s so empowering I wouldn’t feel the need to hide it. Or have all my female friends get mad at me when their boyfriends found out. Or have my fiancé ex friend apologize when he found out I was a stripper like our relationship was diagnosed with cancer. If it was empowering it would be widely accepted OUTSIDE the conversation of sex work or hitting on women. It could be discussed at job interviews HR or at family gatherings. Men who say they’re cool with it do so behind closed doors and only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:34 PM
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Performative for sure. I used to. God I used to. And then after four years, entering into therapy and hitting the gym (seeing my body as a source of power and strength not a meat sock for men to get in) I started not giving a fuck. If I’m feeling cute I’ll dress cute. Crop top and leggings. Not feeling it? Gonna get comfy. T shirt and joggers. And none of this (even when I was performative) stopped my fiancé from desiring me. Shaved legs, hairy legs, period bloat, fresh from the gym didn’t matte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:20 PM
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Wow texting someone you’re beautiful everyday is a chore to them?! Reminds me of my fiancé’s old friend who asked him why he called me every night when he was away at a convention. Literally said “do you have to call her every night?” The dudes GF (at the time) said to my fiancé “ignore him he doesn’t know how to be a good boyfriend” like dude your GF (she’s now his wife...) literally burned you to your face but you’re insisting my fiancé is the one doing something exhausting? Oh and I DO get a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:08 PM
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It’s the hardest thing seeing this and due my personal experience as well, not think or fear that secretly all men are like this. I’ve seen so many posts of men wanting to have sex with their daughter step daughter etc it’s just .... I just sometimes have this intense fear. Sometimes I think How in the hell am I supposed to be in a relationship with a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:49 AM
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They turned on her with words but not with their wallets. there’s a flagship HP store opening in NYC and posted a lot on tik tok. The comments are all about how they wanna go there and it’s amazing. I see maybe two comments about Jo being canceled but the rest are willing to spend money at the store ASAP Moral of the story is: she’s got “fuck you money” and no amount of “canceling” is gonna stop people from spending it on HP. People wanna lip service all the time but will still wait in line at C…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:12 AM
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Ugh that’s awful sorry I came off so ignorant!! I make a point to isolate away from male circles and luckily my professional life is 99% women. I feel like such an ignoramus now! Thank you for your perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:10 AM
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Ooof I hate comments like that. I see it all the time on you.look.like.a.man Instagram. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom of consequence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:37 PM
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I understand where you’re coming from and I agree that abortion is a big issue in real life. But I also think Reddit is a space for very particular group of men to congregate while also insisting their hive mind is widely accepted in real life. Which anecdotally in my experience it isn’t. Most of the “drama” of subreddits with this and another male moderator are looked at as insanity. Reddit just fortifies itself on male group think that their thoughts are the right thoughts and anything else is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:07 PM
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See I have to remind myself Reddit isn’t real life. That anyone man or wlman when approached with “do you think a space to talk about abortions and ask for information on abortions should include men more? And be run by a Man” would most likely stutter pause or think NAH. I’ve had two abortions (first time I’m saying this online ugh) and each time the offices were super strict on who to let in through double doors etc etc and were super wary of letting men in without a patient escort or permissi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:37 PM
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1) free meal? Men acting like we can’t and don’t wanna pay for our own meals. We happily do all the time but that’s not a couple date that’s a me date with a man tagging along. 2) can’t be an incel when it’s VOLUNTARY. Men need to seriously stop acting like not having a dick to jackhammer my cervix for thirty seconds is me MISSING OUT. I got me my bank account and some double A’s. I’m all good Bruv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:17 PM
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Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely 👸🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:12 PM
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Same man that probably just magically expects you to be flawless not understanding the time and money it takes to get that way it’s like they want us to be fucking unicorns while they’re just LARPing as Aragorn. I’ve listen to men bitch about their wives saying how expensive all their make up and skin care is while they’re surrounded in their own private game room with thousands upon thousands of dollars of board games and video games and porn. I guarantee you if their wife suddenly showed up wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:06 PM
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There’s a literal joke on Bojack horseman where the female main character advocates for women to own guns and SUDDENLY gun laws are reformed and firearms are banned because all the men are worried now that women have guns....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:01 AM
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Right? I had to be the point of contact at tables for all my exes. They were always looking down to order or my biggest pet peeve is my date noticing something I need pointing it out to me and badgering me to get the waiter!! Even in my family I was the one to make sure everyone’s drinks were filled or my moms food was right while my dad just complained but was silent as the dead when the waiter came over. It’s just nice to be looked after for once y’know? I think that’s all women want on this s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:56 PM
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Wasn’t it teacher female and she also comforted the girl shooter until authorities came? Like you said interesting the outcome is very different when it involves women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:07 PM
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I’ve heard the audacity is stored in the balls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:05 PM
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I don’t get why men on Reddit freak out over this point of first dates being dinner out. There’s subreddits dedicated to people treating wait staff poorly wouldn’t you want to know if your potential partner is one of those people? Also table manners! It’s a chance for men to vet as well is it not? For me treatment of service workers is a big big big deal to me (as a former hospitality career woman) along with how my partner “runs” the table. Being the point of contact for the wait staff. (Where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:44 PM
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Lol the governor of California cracks me up “when is America gonna wake up against gun violence” it isn’t gun violence it’s male violence. I used to work for a company that was in the firearms industry. The largest and fastest growing demographic was women’s firearms and accessories like 45% in the last two years. I’m talking like yoga pants that have a space for your firearm to take WHILE RUNNING IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Sports Bras for your pistol again all the marketing shows women utilizing this d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:39 PM
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True story: I worked at GameStop and an assistant manager did this. To SEVERAL women. Store manager didn’t know (none of us did) until the fiancé of a woman he was texting came in with the texts asking what the hell. He was promptly fired but I am shocked this is apparently a common problem at GameStop! Also I was stalked by a few customers like calling the store and storming in asking why I didn’t talk to them - like a line out the door busy and a grown man in a naruto headband comes into the c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:23 AM
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addiction and eating disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:18 AM
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Thank you for asking. Yes and no. I’m in therapy and have been just working through it all. I just want to say thank you for realizing this random paragraph of words on a screen is written by a human being living through this insane situation. I really really appreciate it. Most places on Reddit people ignore my story or insist it never happened. FDS is the only place I’ve felt SEEN as a woman on the internet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:28 PM
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Not sure he was out of state living with her by the time we found the Photos. We contacted the cops handed over the evidence and that’s all we officially heard. Then we got a FB message from her ranting about how her kids were taken. But they were sent to live with a family member who lives in the same town. My father then slept with her 24 year old niece (he’s 52) and guess what? She forgave him and they’re still together as born again Christians....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:01 PM
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Nah my father cheated on my mom. With a woman that looked EXACTLY like her. It was creepy. Down to weight and hair style. What she DID have that my mom didn’t was 3 underage girls and a grand daughter living with her and a willingness to send my father nude photos of her children. During the affair my father kept pressing my mom to have another baby. Now we know he wanted the baby to consume not to love. Edit: so yea guess my mom did have something that the mistress didnt. Dignity. Self-respect.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:39 PM
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Nah even before my fiancé met me he felt disheartened by his own sex. He works with sexual assault victims so I mean he got that messaging early and in a professional setting so I’m good. Not once has he shamed me or disagreed with FDS he’s in full support. Again: men that are against FDS are usually the ones trying to preserve their shitty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:20 AM
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I found it cross posted from a subreddit that literally calls women bitches. And yet women commented saying how they pay for dates and FDS is anti feminism...while supporting or browsing on a subreddit calling women bitches...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:45 PM
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Older Lisa kurdrow is dream goals. All of her “signs of aging” are charming and add even more to her personality. I hope to be even close to her looks and style when I get that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:39 PM
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One gym that offers a women’s only section is getting sued by two men that say it’s unfair they have to wait For machines when the women’s only section machines are open. The ACLU is also supporting the case of it being discrimination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:55 PM
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I’ve literally had a man in a friend group that I’ve spoken to three times. I’m not a fan of him and keep it civil but every time he gets black out drunk he cries to my fiancé asking why I don’t like him. Seems weird I’m first thing on his drunken mind. It drives men BONKERS if they find out or even think you GASP don’t like them. They don’t ask WHY you don’t like them (y’know their violent racist sexist behavior..) they are stuck in the first fact that a woman on this planet doesn’t think they’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:35 PM
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Check out “forever” by sa roc! There’s an awesome section where she talks about male rappers saying she’s too aggressive too masculine “And they would rather see them thots than popularize a thinker While them lyin' archetypes is chasing cat, I'm tryin' to Sphinx her” Love! That idea that as women we need to be building or “sphinxing” each other up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:03 PM
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Did they use Korra and Mako from avatar legend of Korra? Hmm k
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:38 PM
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YUP my fiancé wanted to propose in 2018, and I wasn’t ready. Told him I wanted a house instead. So he saved for a down payment. And we planned to get a house but pandemic happened. I got laid off but got my dream job and after seeing all his support and various other things (him getting into therapy was a big one) I finally told him I was ready for the question. He went out for a custom ring consultation a few weeks later. Turns out he had also been putting aside for a custom heirloom style ring…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:10 PM
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Here ya go! https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeqSDoGw/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:14 PM
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Jesus fuck! Is there’s a women’s only military I can join whose job is to protect and defend women? I’m so enraged and feel so powerless when I see videos Ike this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:13 PM
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I was waiting for her to call security there’s a few security guards in the background at a gate desk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:10 PM
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I’ve had my father take photos of me, my father in law take photos of me all without my consent or my knowledge of it even happening. These videos are super triggering and is it becoming MORE popular to do this or are we just seeing is be exposed. How can I protect myself? Ugh guys the worlds getting scarier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:07 PM
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Yup according to a follow up of the woman in the video he’s in jail on multiple charges pertaining to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:03 PM
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Thank god he’s in jail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:46 PM
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Side note: So glad to see this report being used!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:00 AM
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My father also watched these type of porn categories. Turns out he was taking photos of me and my kid sister sleeping and various angles and passing them around to men at his work while also getting his mistress to send him naked photos of her toddlers. Fantasies soon grow so hungry that they scratch and sniff to become reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:53 PM
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Eww who brings up the topic of Surrogacy just to get indignant about during a child safety course!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:47 PM
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I need support! I’m going through some shit! I’m surrounded by men and no women cept for coworkers and I can’t be ranting about feminism in a professional workspace. I need some like minded strong ass women in my life as friends that’ll challenge me laugh with me and shine with me. I’m anxious sick to my stomach and just dealing with a whole lot of drama (started by a man of course!) and over all desperate to feel heard outside of my therapists office.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:23 PM
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Oof good catch I’m really bad at catching auto correct errors and what you said makes sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:14 PM
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The Billie thing yea kinda hurt. I’m older than her but her baggy clothes reminded me of myself at that age and I found it validating that she ruled the world with her music in clothes I used to hide in. Not only that but big labels made clothes to suite her style showing that the clothes don’t matter but the fame does. So to see her do this at 19 just reaffirms my experience I had of “now you’re legal take your clothes off for money or no one will pay attention to you” when I stupidly decided t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:46 AM
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Cant wait for all the men I’ve heard call her weird and gross to suddenly be big fans of hers. They slut shamed her about lyrics of sleeping with dads but they’re happy to ogle her body openly now. (Working on getting these men out of my life for my own well being...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:41 AM
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“Perpetuates sex acts in your sleep” rape you mean rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:33 AM
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I haven’t seen this but here’s my thoughts on what you’ve described: Ok so it’s a series or movie about making a movie right? Maybe the “point” is to show these boss ass women work on making this movie and the movie is no where close to representing the truth of women at all? That in the end the story is always changed to some bullshit because thats the lie Hollywood makes the most money off of and it’s about making money? Just stabbing in the dark here I haven’t watched it. But anything somewha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:29 PM
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Please DM it to me as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:52 AM
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Do it! I love the IDEA of Star Wars they (writers) don’t explore it the way I’d find interesting. I’m more of a Trekkie myself (Captain Janeway all the way baby!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:53 PM
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I’ve been insanely worried about this report coming out knowing the backlash and push back it’ll receive from men who just refuse to believe this is happening (because they’d have to realize they’ve contributed to it) Gut wrenching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:34 PM
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Ugh when I was a stripper I had couples come in and I felt AWFUL. So I would always take the wife aside and ask her what she was and wasn’t comfortable with and any time she wasn’t into watching anymore to ask for a bud light as code and I’d stop. They were always so grateful (ugh I hate saying that) and oddly would pay me MORE not to take my clothes off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:07 PM
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I wouldn’t say bullied but definitely gave my opinion about skincare in general. But the fiancé listened to my skincare knowledge valued it and decided to take care of his skin. He came to me asking for help. and look at that no more redness less breakouts! Smaller pores. I know it’s a pick me behavior to “build up” your man, but for me the fact that he listened to my skincare rants (about my skin and other knowledge I found out) and then ASKED me to help him really showed me he not only values …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:07 PM
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It’s on YouTube too! Here ya go: https://youtu.be/HncGtWcqyV0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:47 PM
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So someone on tik tok did the song “kiss the girl” in a minor key and it drove home my point that that song is c r e e p y
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:33 PM
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I seriously always always wanted a female beast. Like a werewolf woman whose been isolated and ostracized so she hides in her castle and eventually wages war against some enemy (in my mind she defends her surrounding forest of mythical beasties) Ok nerd fantasy rant over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:32 PM
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That’s what angers me - they’ve never considered rape or harm to women until you bring it up. Not once does the male put their pleasure on hold to recognize women as human beings when it comes to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:56 PM
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There’s a reason why Belle Daphnes first porn video was rape porn and also her wardrobe being literal children’s clothes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:59 PM
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