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It’s 100% not for me but I totally respect anyone else who wants to do it as long as it was mutual, respectful, and honest.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 08:32 PM
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He knows you like him. You’ve made that clear. It’s up to him to pursue. If he’s not coming around to lock you down then I would just let it be.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 05:55 PM
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I would not. If you lived together or were married/engaged maybe. He works from home and is more than capable of grocery shopping. Some people just like to eat out more. Let him lead the way with this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 02:05 AM
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There are so many options. I have several family members and friends in tech and they all work from home now.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 01:13 PM
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How old is baby? Breastfed or bottle fed?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 03:24 PM
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My husband told me 99% of the men on there are looking to get laid with as many women as possible. But to clarify more specifically men on dating sites. I’m all for twitter, IG, FB or other social connections.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 11:58 PM
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I personally love this conversation and believe it’s not talked about enough. As women, our wombs are our centers of creation, balance, life, and energy. Womb wellness is so important for us to be aware of. Definitely recommend the book “Sacred Woman” by Queen Afua. I don’t resonate with her beliefs on everything, but I think she’s spot on when it comes to healing our wombs and taking care of our body temples.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 05:55 AM
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Men look. Women are attractive. Like, 90% of them honestly. Looking or thinking someone is attractive is harmless. If he’s with you, committed to you, and focused on you and you only (except for a quick glance) you’re definitely his favorite girl and there’s nothing to worry about.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 05:36 AM
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Communication definitely makes you stand out, too. It can create a real connection and that is so underrated and extremely valuable today.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 05:33 AM
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This is a classic in the playbook. Here’s the play: he is trying to do the most in the littlest amount of time to sleep with you as quickly as possible. Pace the relationship. Also, the best guy in the world will try this play. It’s up to you to show that you’re a HVW and won’t fall for it. Let him be consistent for a longer period of time. This will be a better indicator of his level of interest and commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 05:25 AM
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I progress more when I am reassured. If I feel fat for example, I would rather someone say that I am beautiful. It is more motivating to me than saying you’re fat. Saying I’m beautiful makes me want to do more things that make me more beautiful like go to the gym, put on makeup, dress nice. Having encouragement and positivity around me makes me want to be better especially if I’m feeling low, so I don’t actually agree with your post.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 05:17 AM
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You sound like a normal woman to me. I saw a lot of myself in this post. It sounds like you like being chased, which is why you do the little shit tests and want him to pursue you as a wife and not just a title. On a good day, talk to him about these things. Tell him how you feel. He may have some solutions, will probably understand you better, and you can get some clarity on some of the feelings your gut is trying to figure out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 10:54 PM
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My man is the only person I’ve been with that doesn’t and after 7 years we still have sex all the time. I doubt if he did we would. There is some truth in this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 08:53 PM
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My best advice is to find your own way. It took me a long time to find a happy place in my life and relationships. There is no one size fits all approach, this is just one way. I am here because these principles resonate with me and bring joy to my life. At the end of the day, do what makes you happy and makes you feel complete. We have free will to make our own choices and adopt ideologies that fit with how we want to define ourselves. Also, your mom and dads mistakes are not yours. You cannot …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 04:37 AM
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Lol 😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 06:05 AM
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You can meet men anywhere. Try to do things that put you physically out there to meet them. Dress nice, pretty, but not too overdone. Dress feminine. Do your hair so it looks clean. When you go out, be happy. Smile, not in a cheesy way but in a life is great way. Go to places like the bookstore, out at a shopping mall, classes at the gym (especially like cross fit gyms but you can also do a boot camp which is less intense). It may take some time but men approach women they like. Don’t ask them o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/22 02:56 AM
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LISTEN TO HIM. Men don’t usually lie about wanting to be friends especially after they have sex with you. Next time I would advise a commitment before you sleep with someone. Also, don’t be jaded. There are so many men out there who are looking for a commitment with someone, who are capable of being faithful, and are looking to settle down. That is why it’s so important to vet a man before you commit yourself to him or sleep with him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 07:58 PM
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It’s a personal choice. I’m more of a believer in being “equally yoked,” meaning having similar value and belief systems. Sharing similar life goals and dreams. Sometimes outsiders perceive woman to be “dating down,” but that may not actually be the case. I think character is more valuable but also for either sex, it’s not good to date a bum who doesn’t take care of themselves. If a woman feels she has to date down to find a mate she is dating for the wrong reasons anyways. Bragging about your a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 07:43 PM
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Honestly the clean up alone is just if not more important than the actual meal. You’re doing enough. Enjoy the blessing of a good cook. Also, many manly men can cook and are great at it- some of the very best cooks in the world are men. Why argue when you can actually use praise to boost his ego about how great of a cook he is? I wouldn’t try to compete, just be his cheerleader who gets to personally enjoy his success and wins right along with him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 09:34 PM
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Here’s my best advice. I have 2 under 3. Breastfed both. Let go of expectations Be specific about what you need. (ie; I need an hour nap alone when you come home. I need you to make dinner 3x a week. I need you to do bath time. I need you to do the laundry.) this will look different for every family but the more specific, the better. Bed share especially if breastfeeding. I did with my second and got so much more sleep. Read la leches safe sleep 7 to do this safely. And baby wear! Put it in your…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/21 11:47 PM
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Don’t be so hard on yourself to look sexy and perfect. Do it because it gets you in the mood, but also realize sex is a way to connect and that’s really important after having a baby. Sometimes I’m not in the mood but go along with it and when I do I feel 100x better and happier. Postpartum does a number on you. You’re doing a great job and regardless of how you feel about how your body has changed in a negative way, you have just grown a human being and created a new life. As time goes on, your…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 01:43 AM
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It depends. I divorced my first husband and this was one of the reasons. I wouldn’t wish divorce on anyone though because it’s extremely devastating. How bad is it affecting you? That would be my first question. If he is truly considerate and kind as you say, but has a difficult time coping though his triggers maybe you guys can talk about those triggers more so he can do some inner healing. So instead of criticizing his reaction, you can help him get to the root and in turn it can help him beco…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/21 09:04 PM
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Love yourself. Be the best you that you can be. There will always be someone prettier, smarter, richer than you. Work on the things you want to work on to make yourself a better person. Do it for you and a good man will appreciate that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 02:34 AM
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Can you meet these men in a specific group for people who are into this? That way this wouldn’t be such a lingering question and you can focus on getting to know the person first.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 08:45 PM
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He’s not interested. Texting is fast and cheap and a great way to keep you on the hook. He could be not interested for so many reasons, but if he is not sharing why then you can’t worry yourself over it. Stop texting him. That will give him the impression that in order to contact you he will need to do more. If he does, maybe things will develop. If he doesn’t, then you have your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 04:12 PM
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Exactly. Be careful who you’re talking to about your marriage. Most people are low key jealous.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 10:18 PM
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Did he break up with you? If so, be glad it’s over. Now you are free to be available for someone who does want to be with you. That is a blessing in disguise. Take him off the pedestal and put yourself up there for awhile. It will get easier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 10:14 PM
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Obviously my husband finds other girls attractive because they probably are but I don’t want to know about it. He can keep it to himself or with his boys. As long as he is faithful the less I know the better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 10:10 PM
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I don’t necessarily agree with this. Most people who are unattractive do have way more options being young, but usually they are the ones who don’t care for themselves well. So as they age, years of “letting themselves go” really catch up with them. For the rest of us women, when we care for ourselves in body, mind, and spirit we have a lot to offer and our looks can even carry us a lot farther. When you’re in your 20s also a lot of guys do not want to settle yet. They essentially have more opti…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 02:41 PM
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Classy? What is your budget?
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 12:18 AM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 03:44 AM
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It’s not the age difference so much as it is her being admittedly insecure and then sharing that so early with him. Sometimes men take advantage of insecure women and then become controlling and/or abusive. The age difference could work great, or not. I just think she should get to know him more to figure out if he is a good person and if they would be a good match. At the end of the day, to attract a HVM you should be a HVW and that starts with self-love and coming into a relationship as a whol…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/21 07:14 AM
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Go slooooooooww. The fact that he’s understanding of your “insecurities” and so attentive at 20 years older screams red flags to me. Slow down and get to know him, his past. Why is he single?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 07:55 PM
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Be direct with what you need. A nap maybe? Time a couple of times a week to go out alone to relax? Help with bath or bedtime routine? Also, you can’t expect him to be able to help you. He’s not a professional even though he’s trying to help it may not be the solution you need. Make it your responsibility and your priority to take care of your mental and physical health. Acupuncture also helped me a lot when I had ppd and ppa after my first child. It is safe during breastfeeding also.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 09:32 PM
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This helped a lot with my second. I followed the safe sleep 7.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 09:30 PM
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I really feel your pain OP. It must be so difficult to deal with that. I think there could be an underlying issue; maybe porn, maybe low testosterone, maybe he’s gay. I really don’t know and it may take some investigating to find out. Besides that though, I think because he “promised” things would get better, he should do his best to make good on that promise. Some relationships fall in to a sexless one, but it’s really hard for the other partner if they really desire to have it. You must be goi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 09:16 PM
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I like this and how you both stayed together through it all. Congratulations on your babies!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 06:53 PM
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It varies. Sometimes everyday. Sometimes twice a day. Sometimes a few times a week. Married 4 years. Two kids under 3. Both in early 30s. Currently pregnant so my hormones make me less in the mood which sucks, but on the regular usually once a day.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 06:51 PM
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Based on your other responses, he may like you, be attracted to you, admire the way you look, but he doesn’t see you as his wife. Don’t be offended, he’s not the one, and waiting for him to “be ready” is only going to hurt you. Find someone who sees you that way. In my experience, men are pretty clear when they are interested. Since little boys they have been told to go after what they want. Sometimes they can be shy if they aren’t sure you are interested, but if you’ve already had that talk, an…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 09:18 AM
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When does he want to get married? Has he said. I couldn’t imagine it being too long?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 01:09 AM
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I wouldn’t say then “until” part. Some guys will make it “official” faster. Just say you’re not ready yet, and when you’re ready you will let him know. There shouldn’t be a time frame.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 12:44 PM
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I am the same! I like to analyze things and look at both sides of things. I think it can be good and bad though. Is your will so strong that you have to overpower others to get your way? That could be a negative. My will is strong in things I believe in and stand for. For example, I won’t tolerate cheating or lying (of myself or others). I also won’t tolerate discrimination or harm towards myself and others, and will stick up for anyone being harmed. I also know who I am. I know what makes me ha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 09:30 PM
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He likes to go out to eat. You like to do other things. Go to dinner with him and find time to do these other things with girlfriends. I honestly could not imagine my man doing any of the things on your list. I truly don’t mean to offend you, but I could imagine myself doing these things with my kids. My man would probably say “cool” if I made rice krispy treats, possibly eat one, and be on his merry way. But I totally understand you want companionship. I would try to make some new girlfriends w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 04:10 AM
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What do you want OP? I see his point. Being a SAHM has a lot of benefits for your children and your family. But also it’s also very demanding work and without help can cause depression, feelings of isolation, and burnout. Do you have any help, like family, who can help you a couple of days a week? If not, you have to weigh the pros and cons and communicate them to him. In the past, women had whole villages and communities to help them raise children, in today’s society it’s completely different …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 09:53 PM
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On Snapchat, yes. If it was my number I would text and say hi just this is _____. And see if he would ask me out, I would give a week tops. Then I would delete his number if he didn’t. With social media, your best bet would be to ignore. He can see you, he knows where to reach you. Watching your story isn’t showing interest either, so don’t get that confused. He needs to message you and actually ask you out. He’s known you for a year, he knows what to do. If you’re working together, make sure yo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 08:38 PM
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It seems like he has a mix of positive and negative qualities. When I met my guy he wasn’t making much money but had an amazing work ethic and already had a degree. I kind of had to push him a bit to move forward (meaning I encouraged him and told him I believed in him) as he tends to sometimes stay in his comfort zone, but he pretty much did it all on his own hard work and initiative. Now he makes more money than me and I can appreciate his vision. I think a man with a plan is very important. I…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 02:10 PM
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It makes you look easy. Men won’t respect you. Yeah, a relationship might work out but most likely not. Do you know how a lot of men talk about women with their friends? It’s pretty bad. My man is not a “Prince Charming” but he’s a little rough around the edges. He has a backbone I can respect. He can be rough with his hands. He can change his own oil. I waited to sleep with him about 8 months. Trust me, it was hard. The sexual tension was strong. We kissed, flirted, and our love grew stronger. …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 12:33 AM
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It’s really hard. I’ve been there and it broke my heart. Just know that there is someone out there for you. It took me awhile to find my guy. He was really super into me and still is. But I dealt with so much of what you’re going through. I remember there was one guy who acted just like that and then blew me off and it hurt so bad for so long. It can really hurt your self-esteem. Just know that you’re great and always will be. The right one could be just around the corner but if you’re focusing …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 02:31 AM
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It’s not Instagram. Some men are sport fishing others are fishing for keeps. Most men will always try to sleep with you quickly. Even the best ones. You did the right thing by sticking to your principles. This is called vetting and you passed the test. Let him go, he’s not the one.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 02:01 AM
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I totally sympathize with you and do not want to come off as harsh but Tom is not into you. If he was, you would know. Don’t invite him on dates, definitely don’t confront him, but try to move on. He hasn’t made it official so you have no obligation to him. Keep your options open.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 01:56 AM
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Look at the pictures! That’s what helped me. I don’t know why I got down voted, I was just trying to help. You’re probably beautiful. Sorry if I offended anyone!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 03:06 AM
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Are you sure you’re a soft gamine? I am and I am very short, my features are very doll-like and feminine, and I’m curvy. It doesn’t sound like you from your description up top.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 01:45 AM
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First: don’t be so hard on yourself! How could you ever expect a man to love you if you you don’t love yourself? That doesn’t start with the physical, it’s first and always a mental game. You’re so young- literally 23 is a baby and your experience has taught you what you don’t want in a partner and in your life and you’re so lucky because you now have the opportunity to fix it. A size 12 isn’t a hippo. You’ve gained a little weight so take your health back and make better choices. You ended up i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 01:25 AM
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You can’t and won’t please everyone. I know being this age is so hard, but I guarantee in 10 years you will know the names of only the amount of people who went your high school that you can count on your hands. If you remain friends with any of them, you will be able to count them on only one hand. So take what they say with a grain of salt, try to find your people and your way, and do your best not to care what others think. They do not define your value or worth. I just want to add though tho…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/21 02:33 AM
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At this age, you can almost expect it. You are doing the right thing by keeping your distance and focusing on your happiness. The right people won’t hurt you like that. Try not to take it personal as it’s not a reflection on your character, it’s about them and how unhappy they are.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 11:42 PM
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Just be honest with him. This girl is crazy. I haven’t spoken to her for a long time so I have no idea why she messaged you this. Say you’re not going to go into any more details, you don’t need to prove anything, and you’re not going to give this crazy girl any more of your energy. My guess though is she is trying to make you look bad because she wants to get with him. So I would also say like he should steer clear and it would really hurt you if he gave this girl any attention.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 11:37 PM
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That’s game 101. Remember consistency is key. Actions > Words. I’m going to PM you the names of a couple of books that may help you. These authors can put you on the game. These guys today are a whole new breed. It’s up to you to value yourself, not them. You set the standard, vet him, and decide if he’s worth it. Respect yourself because no one will if you don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 01:43 AM
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Being scared is not a foundation for a healthy relationship. I would take it slow and really think things through. Could it be also that you feel rejected by the new guy you let in and need to feel comforted?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:48 PM
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That’s ok. I think if you’re meant to be, you can get past this stuff. But the abuse? How do you plan on getting past that?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:43 PM
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Do you honestly think he was faithful during this time?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:35 PM
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Don’t look back. In my prior marriage (I was in my mid-twenties) there was so much verbal abuse. It took me going back several times, but I know I made the best decision to finally leave. It’s not only about the only fans girl. For me, it’s the abuse. That doesn’t get better, ever. You’re 21, in your prime. Look for a HVM and respect yourself, and your body, going forward. Also don’t feel guilty about your past. Learn from it and be a better person and a better woman for someone who really deser…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:31 PM
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Well. I got pregnant before all this happened at my new job. I’m super happy to have another baby. My kids are the best thing in my life and wouldn’t trade even a second with them for the world. We’re a great team when it comes to parenting. Our kids are smart, beautiful, and healthy and we both love them very much. I worked a lot too during my first two pregnancies so that’s not really the issue. Trust me when I say that my hands are always full. But not in a bad way. More like in a wow, I’m a …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 03:07 AM
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I can understand where people are coming from. And I wanted to post in this group because I wanted to be able to understand both sides. At first I was defending myself, but tonight I’m really trying to understand. I’m not going back on my decision. I could have definitely been more understanding to how he felt and his ideas. But I didn’t, and that’s a learning experience for me. I have about 4 more weeks left at my job and decided to look for something else in the meantime. I can definitely unde…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 03:01 AM
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It would be completely, completely temporary! That’s the thing. It’s not a long term plan and I get it. I’m in the last semester of my Master’s degree and switching careers completely. That would be until I find something else as I could accommodate our childcare needs (for example, I had to leave my job two hours early just today because he had to go to work- no family was available to help) and finish school on a good note. Also, what benefits? As someone with a teacher, you should probably un…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 08:44 PM
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Can you say something like, I just noticed this xyz about the problem, what do you think about it?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 05:03 PM
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Thank you. It’s been so, so hard. My sleep cycles have been disturbed for the past few years between being pregnant, having a newborn, breastfeeding all night, teething, and having to care for my kids when they wake up in the middle of the night. Last night my son woke up crying at 4 am. It’s hard for me to go back to sleep, so I woke up, did laundry and tried to relax. I went back to bed at 5 am and had to be up by 6 am. I’m struggling, but don’t want to complain. I just wish I had some better …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 04:36 PM
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That makes sense. I think either way there will be consequences. Me being perpetually unhappy, overworked, and unable to care for myself, husband, or home will also have consequences.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 04:21 PM
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To be fair, I ended my maternity leave during the pandemic and paid all my household bills while my husband was out of work for a whole year. I work my butt off, have paid bills in my house for years, and have a 3.9 gpa with two toddlers all while I breastfed two kids for 2+ years. I would hardly call myself “entitled.” He makes double the money than me now. Also, I didn’t say I’m not going to work. I said I’m going to adjust my work schedule to better fit our childcare needs and take a slight p…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 04:10 PM
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I did talk to him first, several times, over the course of a month. I tried to involve him. So that’s not really the issue. He offered me no solution when I approached him with my problem except to stick it out and keep working there. He told me to look for another job also but with so much on my plate I don’t have time to job search on top of everything else. I really just needed to slow down.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 08:51 AM
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Thank you for that! Sometimes I feel like those things aren’t valued in our society as much. I just wish they were valued more in my own relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 03:52 AM
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It’s a really tough situation. Yes, he wanted to have more kids. It’s just not consistent. He will often wait until the last minute to make arrangements. I know my kids are safe and cared for with his family members, but if I had a choice, bar none they wouldn’t be there. You just never know these days, family or not, and I just prefer them to be with me. Plus, he pays them. So it’s like, why give them money when he could use it for household bills and let me work less? That is my logic anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 03:51 AM
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He just told me to keep working and stick it out. I kept saying I can’t do this anymore, I’m very unhappy and tired. He just said to keep working and doesn’t believe me that I quit. That’s why he said it was selfish today. The past pregnancies I worked through also. The first one (didn’t mind), second one (kind of bothered me but I did it), and now on #3 I’m just burned out and tired. Sometimes I feel like a walking, talking paycheck. I don’t know if that makes sense or it’s my hormones, but tha…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 03:30 AM
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Thank you! That made me feel better and I appreciate the support! I’m sensitive to the fact that it is a lot of pressure when one person is the sole breadwinner, and I did ask him if that’s why he was worried and I understood, but he was quick to say that wasn’t it. Sometimes I feel like he puts too much pressure on me to provide. I’m not against working, but I’m also pregnant and having his children. I think that should count for something. I sometimes wonder if he saw that growing up.. his mom…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:57 AM
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That’s not true. Men can get just attached and women can detach. Sex with other people outside of a relationship, unless both parties are ok with it, is cheating. I personally would not be ok with it and would rather be alone. But I am into giving him it when he wants. I am into looking my best to make him happy. And doing what he likes in bed, even if it’s not my favorite thing. Sex with others outside of the relationship would never be ok with me though, from either party.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 06:22 PM
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Sorry, what? You haven’t spoken to your parents? How old are you? This post is a little weird but based on what you gave me, here’s my perspective: Parents should be respected, speak to them and check in with them. Otherwise, glad your family is doing well. You’re drinking. That is not such a healthy habit. Again, chasing tail, how old are you ? Lol. You may benefit from working on your spirituality and getting some direction in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/21 08:24 PM
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Nope not mad at that. I have no problems supporting my family through this difficult time. I do not think he is any less of a man for this. The problem is that I shouldn’t be doing all the work, housework and other things should be taken care of reasonably (I come home to a dirty house daily) and he is capable of working, at least part time to contribute, especially if he has excessive time to play. He can use some of that time to work, even if it’s from home. No? Especially when he wants to use…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/21 08:07 PM
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