unlikelyred Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	12 Tips for Single Mothers		unlikelyred	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 07:39 PM

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3	What percent of women in their 20s are living the glamorous lives of debauchery that the manosphere attributes to modern women? Isn't that what all this is about? An N count of 20 is not high? The CDC released a statistic a couple of years ago that the average person has 8 sexual partners in their lifetime. By CDC numbers, my 12 at age 32 is above average. But it seems by internet standards it is on the more conservative side? I don't think people are whoring it up quite as much or for as long as people think based on the CDC data. But maybe the average number will come back as higher in five years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/19 10:46 PM
44	Meeting a married man? Don't spend your time fraternizing with married men you are attracted to...this will do bad things for your reputation and definitely get you slated as a perpetual plate. Married men who are financially successful typically are not looking to deal with the mess of a divorce even if they are on the hunt for a side piece. Don't put yourself in the position to be his side piece.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/19 11:55 AM
7	To those who lost their virginity recklessly before getting red pilled, how do you feel about it? I lost my virginity recklessly when I was 16. I had sex with the guy one time. I think it was stupid and if going back in time was a thing, I would do things differently. I met my husband when I was 28 and he was 25. We both had a similar N-count, neither of us being close to virgins at that point. I also totally lost my senses with him, slept with him on the third date, and let him plate me for a while. There is no undoing the past; all you can do is resolve to be faithful and make each other y…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/19 01:49 PM
2	How important was your husband's income or financial stability in the relationship? Initially, my husband's income and earning potential freaked me out while simultaneously being very attractive. I was not used to encountering truly ambitious men in my dating experiences and I felt like a guy who had it so together could do better than me. It intimidated me to date a guy who made so much more than me and I was terrified of ever financially relying on him. He does work a lot with frequent on-call rotations and sometimes crazy work schedules. He hasn't had many committed girlfrie…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/19 12:02 PM
4	Picking out rings! Would love suggestions! My best advice is make sure you stay under budget. My husband gave me a budget of $12k for a ring but it made him feel so happy when I chose a ring that was $7k. I could have gotten a bigger diamond or a more perfect stone, but the upcharge didn't seen worth it when other people would never even see the minor imperfections in the stone. We went together to a locally owned jewelry store and picked it out together. I wanted it to be a ring we both liked. I got a platinum Martin Flyer band that has…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/19 06:51 PM
17	Should I interfere with my sister's future marriage to "save" her fiancé? It almost sounds like you are low key attracted to your future brother in law and kind of jealous she has this guy and you don't. The whole being pushy about the number thing and creating excuses to have private interactions with her future husband is weird to me. I probably would not have even given you the phone number if I were her and it sounds like there is a long history here of competition between you two. I think you need to back off and minimize contact with this man.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/19 06:30 PM
15	Dealing with Male Attention in Public One of the books reviewed here once upon a time really delved into how men are visual. They may stare before they even realize they are staring. The visual cues will attract them before the prefrontal cortex keeps up and tells them to look away. I get looked at by men too. It scared me a lot when I was younger but part of maturing for me was shaking off the blue pill idea that all men are predators. Most men will take a look and carry on with their day. It is a minority of men who would engage i…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/19 03:53 PM
10	How do you learn how to flirt? (Starting from square 1....) What is the goal with flirting? To get asked out? To have men approach you? All you really need to do is put effort into your appearance, make eye contact, and flash a bright smile before coyly looking down (almost like the eye contact is making you sort of bashful). Maybe do it a couple of times. A man who is attracted to you will see at that point you are sending signals of being warm, open, potentially interested, and are not so haughty that you are intimidating. Chances are he will approach …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/19 07:28 AM
6	Potential prospect seems too comfortable letting me pay. Bad sign? I typically tell women that a man with a lot of resources to provide for a family doesn't get them and keep them by showering free food and gifts on random women. Expecting a man who is not committed to you to always pay is not reasonable, it is entitled. I read his response as a light hearted way of communicating that he wanted to see you more. The red flags I see here are coming more from you: 1. You offered to pay him but were covertly hoping he would say no and are now holding it against him…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/07/19 06:01 PM
10	Do short girls have higher SMV? It depends on the guy. My husband is really tall and typically had no interest in dating someone shorter than 5'7". He really prefers those supermodel height girls and if he is being honest would say he thinks women under 5'10" are too short for a guy his height, but he said he had to be realistic about his standards. He teases me about being short even though I am tall for a woman.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/19 05:35 PM
3	Feminine Nail Colors This shade is one of my favorites too!	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/19 11:46 AM
1	How can you love and admire men after taking the red pill? Looks get your foot in the door but only a truly foolish man gives a ring based off of looks alone. My appearance is a huge part of what initially attracted my husband to me. I know that is truth and he knows that his ambition was part of what attracted me to him. We are very open and honest with each other about the fact there are transactional elements to the relationship. Part of why we are open about it is the reality that being in love can be a fleeting feeling. However, no stable person ch…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 09:48 AM
1	Women say that one of the most attractive traits of a man, is his motivation to achieve stuff in life. But what if a mans source of motivation and inspiration to achieve stuff in life is a woman? I think there are plenty of real men who aren't on a pursuit of some higher calling for the greater good. I know I am far more prone to that kind of abstract do good kind of mentality for my husband because he is a very grounded person. He purposely chose to place himself in a position where he wouldn't need to sacrifice everything to achieve his goals. He thinks people who would sacrifice security, comfort, mental health, or physical health in pursuit of some abstract greater cause are foolish …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 08:37 AM
1	Women say that one of the most attractive traits of a man, is his motivation to achieve stuff in life. But what if a mans source of motivation and inspiration to achieve stuff in life is a woman? I think the reality is that most women do not enjoy being a man's sole purpose in life and the center of his world. They often think that is what they want but can't actually respect a guy who does that. It is one thing for a man to know part of his mission in life is to find a good woman and maybe have a family with her, but that is not the same as elevating that woman to the place of his primary purpose in life.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 08:32 AM
1	Which are the typical features any Red Pilled Woman could agree, that man of high value possess? (Advise for a 28M) When I met my husband, there were a few things during our first date that created this sense that I was on a date with a man who was a valuable catch. He was funny, educated, easy to keep conversation going with, and had a well developed career. He was the kind of guy who was on the varsity football team in high school, was popular in college and held leadership positions, and who was in a surprisingly great position in his career for someone so young with plenty of opportunity for growth. He di…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 05:01 AM
4	I need advice. He wants to know what I spend my money on etc. When I was still dating my husband he wanted to see my credit report. He showed me his too. He questioned my spending habits and told me he needed to see me making progress in this area of life to be able to consider marrying me one day because finances can be a big factor in marital disagreements and divorce. He even drafted a budget to help me better manage money. It didn't feel controlling as much as it was him making sure I was viable wife material and would not end up financially dragging h…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/19 07:13 PM
28	Guy I’m hooking up with keeps telling me about other girls he’s sleeping with, what could this mean? He is telling you how he sees you. You are not someone he needs to be worried about expecting monogamy from him. He also wants you to know your place in the pecking order of his life and it isn't a good one. He also has no respect for you beyond what minimal attention he needs to show you to get you to spread your legs. You are basically his sex doll and not a person he sees serious potential with. Even when my husband was still seeing other women he was respectful enough to keep it to himself. …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/19 02:54 AM
8	How to subtly suggest I want to do the 36 questions? This seems like something that just isn't socially graceful with someone you've only gone out with twice. Just ask them questions to get to know them. Proposing something like this so soon could make you seem very desperate for love. The whole point of these exercises is about learning more about a person and gaining empathy for their experience of the world. A socially skilled person should be able to do this through the course of unscripted conversation. If you come across as someone who doesn…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 08:41 PM
4	Orange men preaching to the choir I legit thought based on the title this may have been about Trump. I laughed when I realized it meant Oompa Loompas.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 05:23 PM
2	Orange men preaching to the choir I was not allowed to chew gum as a child. I was told it makes you look trashy and ditzy. My theater and public speaking teacher later reinforced that speaking while chewing gum makes you instantly lose 15 IQ points in the eyes of your audience. I chew gum sometimes now but not often and never when impressions matter. My husband has forbidden the kids from gum chewing in the house so they don't chew it often either. Today in the world of confusing things on the internet, I was poking around the #…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 05:21 PM
0	How can I encourage his sexual dominance? Then it seems you would have to go off of his actions and not the secret desires you hope he has...if he doesn't want to talk about it and his actions show a preference for a certain kind of sex maybe you need to either work on accepting the man you have or figure out if this kind of sexual incompatibility is a long term dealbreaker. For me, a man not being willing to have an open and comfortable dialogue about sex was a dealbreaker for me. I didn't go seeking a man who read TRP playbook though.…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 02:58 PM
1	How can I encourage his sexual dominance? And I want to specify, it was not just me telling him what I want but getting him to talk to me too. He had to tell me his darkest fantasies and the sexual things he had wanted to try but was too uncomfortable seeking out with previous partners. We had to explore the stuff he hadn't really acknowledged within himself before so that the experience was not just about making me happy but also about him being able to get what he really wanted out sex as well.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 02:46 PM
2	How can I encourage his sexual dominance? If it seems like he enjoys it in certain contexts but is hesitant while actually having sex, my guess would be that maybe he feels nervous or intimidated by tuning into that side of himself. Most men are brought up these days inundated about the importance of respecting women and making them sexually comfortable. Sexually aggressive actions go directly against that and for some guys stepping outside of that mold feels risky and uncomfortable even if they want it. And then there is the concern ab…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 02:39 PM
3	Marrying a younger man (32F & 23M). Advices? So, you've been together for three years and are engaged. You seem happy with your relationship. I am presuming you are already living together and have made the choice to marry him. The age difference is pretty big but I would bet that you are likely a bit less mature than a lot of women your age if this age difference feels comfortable to you and you don't feel like you are running the show in the relationship. You will have to try a lot harder to continue demonstrating your worth as he ages i…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 02:21 PM
3	How can I encourage his sexual dominance? Some men don't like to be sexually aggressive cavemen. They aren't comfortable with it. They don't enjoy it. It is entierely possible this is the case with your guy. I screened for this in dating because I know it is important to me to be with a man who isn't afraid to get rough in the bedroom. My husband had never been with a partner before who wanted it but I communicated to him very bluntly how much I crave it and it turns me on. He confessed he had always wanted to try it but he was nervous …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/19 02:07 PM
1	Time to STFU? My husband and I have had this disagreement before. The best solution was that I took a long term hiatus from the social media platform he uses. I deactivated my account and focused on living my life. It also allowed me to focus on our actual relationship and not just what I wanted other people in our lives to think about the relationship. You need a social media detox badly if you are entertaining breaking up with a guy because he doesn't utilize social media in a way that best strokes your ego…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/19 04:36 PM
6	Marriage advice I think you made the right choice planning a wedding your husband wanted. You feel like it was a waste but he felt it was justified and didn't make you pay for it. Going along with the bigger wedding and trying to find the positives in it would fall under the category of embracing his leadership and values.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/19 03:37 PM
–	Own Your Stuff You might want to get checked for sleep apnea if the quality of your sleep is so poor. It's not just a problem that old people and fat people have. Sometimes thinner or younger people can have it too. It leaves you exhausted either way no matter how much you try to sleep.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/19 12:28 PM
4	Marriage advice The not going bridezilla thing is important. Some women can screw their marriage up before the wedding day because of how they act during wedding planning. We didn't have guests at our wedding because my husband didn't want a big wedding. Taking the guy's desires into consideration during wedding planning is important. It gives an opportunity to show you can be a good partner. It is so common for women these days to look at the wedding as this event that has to be their vision of perfect and the…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/19 11:24 AM
5	Marriage advice Pretty sure this comment is in violation of at least one rule of this subreddit and will soon be removed. There are a lot of people here married to wonderful, well-adjusted men. Of course marriage carries risk, but a lot of things in life do. Having no strings attached sex with a woman carries risk for a guy's wallet and lifestyle too. Avoiding risk is not every man's top priority in life. This is not the right place for you to be promoting the MGTOW agenda and your comment is not helpful to the…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/19 11:15 AM
4	Regretting having sex with boyfriend before engagement... Advice? I've been sleeping with my guy for over three years and our sexual chemistry is still awesome. We have sex nearly daily and can barely keep our hands off each other. Losing chemistry and an active sex life doesn't just happen. There are controllable factors to keeping it alive and healthy. Whatever sources you claim to have won't mean anything to any of the ladies here in long term relationships with men they still love having sex with.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/19 10:04 PM
4	Where to go from here? The only experience I have had with mama's boys are my husbands three brothers. Both of the parents keep the sons in this controlling death grip...or at least they used to. My husband was the only one of the four who was not having it and set boundaries. Two of his brother's wives came to me exasperated while pregnant with the level of intrusion from the mother-in-law and so upset their husband's would not set boundaries with her. She was engaging in some over the top toxic behavior that blew me…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/19 12:32 PM
4	Seeking advice: new beta tendencies When I first found RPW last year people were less likely to give advice to ditch a relationship unless actual abuse or other serious red flag behavior was involved. This was especially the case for women nearing the wall and they would be more likely to call out hypergamy when they saw it. I used to really like that about the community. Now that mentality only applies to people already married and even that may be a 50/50 split. There was a shift somewhere along the way though that if a guy you …	/r/RedPillWives	16/04/19 08:59 PM
3	Seeking advice: new beta tendencies I am three years older than my husband. We met well before I ever heard of the red pill. I never dated a man younger than me before and was generally opposed to it but he was just so much better than anyone I had ever dated with sky high potential. At first he played the alpha role pretty well but then he fell in love. He had never entertained marriage with anyone or been in love so feeling that way created in him a fear of losing me he had never felt with other women he dated. This fear lead hi…	/r/RedPillWives	16/04/19 12:21 PM
13	22F Am I honestly worth any of this? Feel like I need serious help. WARNING: dark subject matter Drug and sex addiction are common for people with sexual abuse in their past. So is an inability to set healthy boundaries. The harsh truth is that as you are right now in this moment, no man who will make a good captain will have you. Any guy who is okay with your recent drug issues and mental health struggles will be carrying a lot of toxic baggage of his own that will make for a dangerous and miserable relationship all around. It is not "too late" but you need to have realistic expectations o…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/04/19 02:56 PM
2	Finances in marriage Our approach may not work for every relationship but it works well for us. My husband is way better with money and financial planning. He makes the budget and fills me in on what it is. It includes all expenses and recurring bills. I have a set grocery and gas budget. I am given a budget to add to my wardrobe when necessary. I don't get a specific allowance and so have to ask before making additional purchases. I know he has a certain amount he puts in savings every month on top of paying things…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/19 11:23 AM
14	Thank you for existing RPW. It is apparent you are triggered by this post but I think you are misinterpreting what she meant. Taking precautions doesn't gurantee bad things won't happen or that bad men don't exist. However, you can make choices that get you in bad situations multiple times like girls who choose to go to frat parties on repeat and get super trashed while wearing outfits a stripper would wear. Or women who want to walk around with their cleavage pouring out of their tops but feel offended when an unattractiv…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/19 01:10 PM
0	Question About TRP and RPW! https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bb1hof/i_think_unicorns_do_exist_what_are_your_thoughts/ I suppose I just don't understand why anyone should get a free pass to act like jerks because they are emotional. If women do it we are crazy bitches. The supposedly more rational gender should not get a free pass. I guess I also struggle to understand why it is such a shock to people that the world is harsh and people approach relationships in a transactional way. Being hateful because the truth is…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/19 03:46 AM
28	Question About TRP and RPW! There was recently a thread on TRP where unicorn was defined as a woman who does not care if her man is smelly, unemployed, and generally low value. It signals to me that the bitterness comes from the sense of entitlement that men should just be handed a hot, loyal woman instead of having to put in effort to be their best selves. I think it is the aftermath of the participation trophy generation. And this mentality is also where you can see the incels who migrated to TRP. Part of why they despis…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/19 02:00 PM
10	Question About TRP and RPW! I would also think that since most of the men at TRP are not the top tier guys the women here are seeking because they still have so much self improvement to do, it makes sense they would be bitter and hateful towards the women here since they rarely meet such women in real life and most of the women here don't actually want to date men on that reddit. Human nature makes it easy to hate what you can't have and convince yourself and everyone it was trash in the first place because that makes the …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/19 01:11 PM
7	Question About TRP and RPW! Keep in mind that since the incels had their reddits shut down many of them migrated to TRP. You can often tell who is who by the style of their comments. It is why even though my husband does not disagree with the tenants in TRP and read some of the recommended books in the last few months, he has no interest in participating on the reddit.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/19 01:03 PM
1	RPW as a toolbox and `Does biolgy define our character?` If it doesn't work for you, no reason to force yourself. I am here because I want this style of relationship and find it enjoyable to challenge myself to be more than the good, empowered worker bee who calls the shots that I have been required to be. I want a relationship where I can feel soft and vulnerable and turn off my boss bitch demeanor. My dynamic with my husband gives that to me and that brings me some added peace in my life. I actually enjoy the post you linked and don't get bothered b…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 09:32 PM
–	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & Questions BBQ Pulled Chicken. It is the easiest thing ever to make. Put in some chicken breast and BBQ sauce and cook for four hours on low. If you want to get fancy you can add extra garlic, brown sugar, or other spices but using the premade BBQ sauce works fine too. Shred it with a fork when finished and serve on whatever vessel you like. My daughter eats it straight but the rest of us put it on buns. You can also make ribs in the crock pot and they are fall off the bone tender. Those take 8 to 12 hours…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 03:48 AM
–	Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & Questions I found a baby ant and what looked like a winged carpenter ant. They were in my bedroom of all places, where we don't even eat food. We live in a warm climate so there are so many bugs. My husband told me to get an exterminator out to spray the perimeter of the house as a preventative measure. We had it done in early fall (when it still feels like summer here) and we didn't have any bug issues for the remainder of the hot season so I am guessing it worked. It's not too pricey where we live eithe…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/04/19 03:45 AM
3	[Self-improvement] Recovering from trauma using feminine energy The trauma I am working through currently is relating to my relationship with my father. He was military and frequently stationed abroad in remote places doing dangerous missions. I saw him as my hero and strong. I knew he would never hurt me and would always protect me when I was near him. But I also missed him a lot and spent a lot of time fearing that he would die. My husband is the only man I have dated that has ever inspired similar feelings of awe and admiration in me. I love him and trust…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 09:26 PM
22	Update: Situation Tense Holy crap...I just realized you are not even married yet and these are the definitions of "wifely duties" being put before you. You aren't his wife and allowing him to plagiarize your work is what he deems a wifely duty. You are supposed to be vetting a man up until the day you marry. It is unfortunate there is already a baby on the way but I would bet a lot of money that following through on the wedding is going to end up being miserable for you and your child. What other outlandish things is h…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 04:24 PM
26	Update: Situation Tense I mentioned your last post to my husband because I was trying to figure out what would make a guy do something like that when it clearly reflected badly on him in the eyes of his colleagues. My husband said that he probably feels like you don't deserve credit in his dissertation for fulfilling what he sees to be your wifely duties. It sounded outrageous that a guy would think like that and I quietly wanted to give your husband the benefit of the doubt. I was clearly mistaken...it seems that his …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 04:19 PM
17	Should I talk through my jealousy with my boyfriend, or work through it on my own? The only time I set a hard line with messaging women is when the woman is blatantly trying to be sexual or attempting to harm the relationship. We have only had it be a serious problem with one ex and when I brought it up, he blocked her. My husband has some female friends that he knew long before me and talks to them sometimes. I don't feel threatened because I know he is committed to me and does not see them as people he is trying to sleep with. I think that you run the risk of coming across a…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 02:06 AM
-1	Recommendation Share! If that is the case why is it so loved by the women I know who are so vocally feminist and clearly anti-men? I feel like the brand of femininity it markets can't possibly be aligning with the kind I strive to embody in my own life. I know quite a few women who really love and highly recommend this book. Every single one of them is loudly feminist and disrespectful towards the men in their life and the gender as a whole. And most of them are also pretty loose with sex and anti-monogamy. They also…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 12:42 AM
30	Should I (18f) leave him? (19m) Get out and then spend at least the next year not dating anyone. You have some work to do to learn how to properly vet a guy and to work through some of your remaining baggage. You sound like you may need some more therapy too but you also need to step away from this relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/04/19 12:36 AM
1	Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types? Nice to meet you! For a while there it looked like I was the only one here. :)	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/19 06:12 PM
5	Recommendation Share! I felt like The Red Tent had too much of the women are the real strength of society and men don't actually deserve to lead type of underpinnings to it. I was not impressed. I originally read it because I was involved in birth work and women's reproductive cycles are a big theme in the book. It had too much of the girl power vibe for me though. I have not read the Women Who Run With Wolves but every female friend I have who read it treats it as some true feminist manifesto and ultimate girl power…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/19 05:39 PM
3	Something to get off my chest I understand what you are saying. I am not a submissive woman by nature with most people. My father did not have a son until after I was an adult and I was his oldest child so he put me under the pressure to be an alpha male type like him. (It creates a terribly dissonant inner world because he would have never in a million years married a woman like the one he was trying to raise me to be.) If a man is not impressive enough to inspire submission then I won't submit to him. I can't. My own inner…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/19 05:31 PM
12	Would stating that you only preserve sex for relationships/marriage count as 'asking for commitment'? My understanding of this is that as a woman you need to communicate that but also understand that until you get commitment that he is free to date other people. It could take months of dating to vet someone enough to feel they are commitment worthy and for a high value guy with options, that's a lot of time to go without sex. So, presenting that is your boundary while understanding that if he isn't committed to you that he is free to have sex with others seems to be the only way to present that …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/04/19 02:16 AM
5	Let’s talk about the reality of being a stay at home wife and mother. So, when I was a nanny and household manager for millionaires I got respect and admiration from people for my position. When I switched to doing the exact same demanding job for my own husband, all of the respect I got from people for being a productive member of society vanished. The idea was that my husband was undeserving of that kind of support person in his life and I was throwing away my freedom even though I was doing exactly the same stuff in both positions. And I will tell you, being a …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/19 11:17 PM
2	Article: "A Wife Who 'Surrendered' to Her Husband" They were awful yet wholly predictable. :lol:	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/19 01:52 AM
1	Advice needed - Resenting Imbalance I would be devastated but I can also tell you that are not alone in experiencing something like this. I have a friend whose husband is a rising star in his field. He is leading multiple studies, published multiple books, and done some amazing things with his life. His wife is an incredible support, staying home and schooling their son, managing the home and even editing some of his books for him. It is obvious he would not have the freedom to do all that he does if his wife was not so competent …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/04/19 04:13 PM
–	Simple Questions If you don't mind me asking, what does your testosterone level normally run? Mine was at 51 last time it was checked and I was told it should be under 50. My estrogen and progesterone were in the mid-normal range. I have wondered though if having higher testosterone for a woman is why my sex drive is insatiable and most psychometric measures peg me as having a pretty aggressive and masculine personality for a woman...or if it is just conditioning.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/19 03:44 AM
3	Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types? I read this comparison of 3 and 8 and I guess if I had to pick one, 8 is more applicable. I naturally tend to find myself in leadership positions and enjoy them immensely, which seems more consistent with 8 than 3. https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/misidentifying-3-and-8	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/19 11:49 AM
6	Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types? My Meyers-Briggs is most consistently ENFP (the campaigner). Occasionally I have tested as ESFP but really the score on the variable trait is so close to the middle either way that it is kind of a coin toss. I feel like the ENFP description fits me most. The ennegram test was inconclusive. I got the same scores on 3 (the acheiver) and 8 (the challenger). It said that I might be 8w7 but it was not sure and encouraged me to read about 3 and 8 to figure out which fits more. I read about them both a…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/19 11:41 AM
–	Simple Questions I have been a SAHM for the last year and a half. I've always been passionate about many things and that has not changed. I did not give up my hobbies or personality because I stopped working for pay. I still volunteer, pursue my interests, and when the kids are further into their teens I plan to attend law school. RPW encourages women to develop hobbies and interests outside of their man because if your guy is the entire center of your world that puts a lot of pressure on him and the relationshi…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/19 12:15 AM
13	Chances of being a traditional wife out the window if enlisted? You will not have the family structure you did as a child if you join the military. You will have to choose another vision. Or, you could just marry someone in the air force instead like your mom did. I am certain your family background and your passion for the service would make you desirable for a career military guy because everyone knows most people can not handle being married to someone in the military. I am from a military family and my aunt is a colonel. Both her and her husband are in t…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/19 12:11 PM
2	How to overcome perfectionism as a homemaker & mother? I am a perfectionist who married a perfectionist. The biggest thing to overcome is the notion that if you can't do something perfectly it's not worth doing. That's the part that can really hold people back. I have such a busy mind, notice little details in my environment so much and am generally an overachiever so I feel like my internal drive to get as close to perfection as I am capable of is not going to be leaving me any time soon...plus I am in my 30s. A thing that has helped me as I have g…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/19 11:46 AM
21	Is it normal for a 24 male's mom to do everything for him. Perhaps this can put things in perspective for you: I have an almost 12 year old son. He cleans his own room. He is responsible for his own laundry. If he wakes up before me, he is capable of making his own food (and actually knows how to make eggs and pancakes and the like). He and my daughter have their own bathroom and the two of them are responsible for keeping it clean. My son does all of these things because I want to raise a man who can run his own ship and won't need another woman to mot…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/19 11:33 AM
3	[help] How do you beautify your living space? I started watching her show and at first thought it was super weird. I decided to try out some of her tips using the boxes and the house got so much tidier. We didn't really have much clutter in the house and yet it still managed to get way more organized. I will have to check out her book!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/19 05:46 AM
8	[help] How do you beautify your living space? I used to feel wholly incompetent at decorating too. I started out looking at photos on Pinterest. I also joined a decorating group on FB where people post pictures of all their various decor styles. Some of them are really good! But the thing that I think helped me most was playing this game on my tablet where you have to decorate rooms and you win points if your design gets voted well by other players. I think it is called Home Design. I played it for a few months last year until I could consi…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/19 05:43 AM
3	How to have inner strength to withstand hardships I think this is a good point about anxiety making you certain the house will literally crumble. If the house truly is structurally unsafe and could be condemned, OP may need to stay with family temporarily. I am pretty sure that Fascinating Womanhood advises separating from but not divorcing a man who refuses to work or provide. If you had to temporarily shelter elsewhere for the actual safety of your children and he gets mad, that is part of giving him the space to fail. The person he would be …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 07:57 PM
9	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King This will work beautifully for any woman looking to attract a man who keeps her on a pedestal and is desperate. It will work for any woman seeking men significantly below her in SMV or RMV. The problem is that the woman will never actually respect the man she catches this way because she will always know she was better than him and in control the whole time. It works, but not for women seeking a strong captain type for wherever they happen to fall on the ratings scales.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 06:47 PM
1	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King Thanks for putting this as top comment to keep things clear for newcomers wandering through!	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 06:39 PM
4	How to have inner strength to withstand hardships P.S. Stop fixing his mistakes. It is exhausting you. We are conditioned to fear letting people fail but sometimes the best lessons are learned when we are given the space to fail. Stop playing mother and cleaning up all of his metaphorical messes. If you want him to grow up you need to treat him like an adult. Part of that is leaving him to clean up his own messes and allow him to experience the weight of failure. He can't do that if he knows you will swoop in behind him like a mother hen trying…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 06:31 PM
3	Is 3rd date too soon for cooking date? From reading your other comments it sounds like he is inviting you over to his place to cook for you because he is hoping to get you into bed. Sex is the goal for most guys in dating and by modern standards a lot of guys expect a girl to put out by date three. It does not sound like you are feeling much chemistry so it does not make sense to be alone in his apartment near his bedroom. Those things send the signal you are really into him and potentially open to sex. I had sex with my husband on o…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 06:15 PM
11	How to have inner strength to withstand hardships The root of your resentment seems to hinge on disappointment that you did not marry someone more ambitious and good with money. There is always risk of disappointment when you fall in love with what someone wants to be instead of who they actually are, and it sounds like in your youth you did just that. You want to make this work and he is not abusing you, so that makes sense. The first step you need to take is to divorce yourself from the fantasy of a cushy upper middle class life. Your bittern…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 06:02 PM
2	His brother disslikes me, what should i do? It was mostly uncomfortable. I also felt bad for him because that day I knew part of what was provoking his bitter emotional state was the behavior of his girlfriend at the event. I don't know if it was hatred or jealousy or what exactly but I could not remember ever feeling so uncomfortable in the presence of a man before. And this guy was the brother my husband admired most! It is practice though for determining what is on your page and keeping to it. If I had done something to this brother to…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 05:33 PM
4	His brother disslikes me, what should i do? Be civil and polite and let it go. Most of my husband's family loved me when they met me. One brother did not. He had been burned badly in divorce court and was unhappy in his current relationship because his girlfriend would not prioritize him appropriately. The first time I met him he spent a chunk of the evening glaring at me with pure hatred in his eyes and it sent chills down my spine. I acted as if I was not unnerved, was sweet and friendly towards him even though he was cold, and just foc…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 04:52 PM
3	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King I am not insinuating one or the other but I do think that you do not truly understand what qualifies as a high quality man. RPW strategy is about attracting those men specifically, not just any man who is desperate for sexual attention.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 04:40 PM
5	Sewing I am not capable of using a sewing machine but I can do hand repairs, embroidery, and pin alterations. My husband thinks it is some sort of wizardry and loves that I have these skills. I am pretty sure it is becoming a lost art to be able to sew but being able to do simple repairs by hand is a useful life skill on top of being impressive to a lot of people. Almost everyone is blown away when they see my embroidary work because it is pretty but also quite uncommon for someone relatively young to …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 04:36 PM
2	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King Also, I was never a stripper but I have also been offered a similar dollar amount for sex. I turned it down and the guy himself because that is not a high value man, just a beta with a bunch of money. The kind of men I see worthy of commitment don't need to act desperate and throw away large quantities of money to convince a girl to sleep with them. My husband has only been to strip clubs a couple of times because he thinks it is pathetic how guys will blow through their resources for women who …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 01:05 PM
14	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King This just sounds like the typical blue pill strategy most hot young girls employ. Lots of beta orbiters, toying with as many men as possible. And if TRP is right, before the age of 35 it will hit you hard how your sexual power is decreasing and fewer men are willing to grovel for a chance at your pussy. It is almost textbook what the TRP is always complaining about. AWALT, I guess?	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 12:56 PM
2	How to lower my sex drive? Holy moly! Please tell me you are not seriously considering a hysterectomy at age 26 because you like having sex a few times a week and your partner doesn't! (I can see why you feel like you need to attend CODA meetings!) So, I clicked this topic because I sometimes find myself wondering if it would be good if there was some way to decrease my sex drive because it feels over the top towards my husband. We have sex nearly everyday and there are so many times where I still want him even though we …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 12:45 PM
3	Finding a therapist as a RPW? I studied psychology in school, met lots of therapists, and even been through some therapy myself. A good therapist is non-judgmental even if they would make different choices for their own life. I recently moved and started seeing a new therapist in a new town. Neither therapist raised any eyebrows over my red pill style relationship because my husband is a genuinely good catch that treats me well. One of those therapists was a Buddhist (I saw her for years before I learned that) and I don't kn…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 12:16 PM
18	The Power of the Pussy by Kara King This sounds close to the men's TRP strategy of spinning plates minus the sex. For this to work and a man to be desperate for sex he needs to not have many other options. My husband had multiple women who wanted him at once because he is considered high value and would have been able to get sex elsewhere. I think this strategy probably works fabulously for getting a beta male to trip all over themselves for a shot at sex with you. An alpha won't be desperate enough for this to work well. The whol…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/19 11:59 AM
6	How do you ask men questions and vet men during a date without it coming across as an interview Ever been to a job interview with such a charming interviewer you felt like you were having a conversation? Everyone knows a big part of dating is getting to know someone and asking questions is part of that. Someone with social skill can easily ask someone about themselves and endear themselves to the person at the same time. People often love talking about themselves more than they like listening to others talk about themselves. I second the comment about Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/19 06:28 PM
–	Gratitude: What are you thankful for? I am grateful that my husband is in love with me and tells me frequently how glad he is that he married me. I am grateful to have a loving husband that I can't keep my hands off. I am glad I am making friends in our new town and am hosting our first big party in our new home. I am also glad for the lovely stretch of warm, sunny days we had recently. Also, my daughter is turning 13 this weekend and I am so grateful that she is becoming such a sensible, mature, thoughtful young lady.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/03/19 05:32 PM