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Not even about if the sex is good... It's about how pornified the sex is. Limp dick scrotes wouldn't know good sex if it hit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:37 PM
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It's also the ratio that would be getting paid if they theoretically pulled all money into a joint account and only spent from that. It's really not that ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:34 AM
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AI generated images ala thisperson doesnotexist sounds like a good candidate for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:00 AM
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I know you thought you should say no to him, but silence also conveys a "no" without you having to justify or explain anything. It forces him to think "HMMM WHY DIDN'T SHE REPLY?" Don't do the work for him! And if he never tries messaging again after the silence, you know he's so low effort that he won't try to fix a small mistake with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:08 AM
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The worst part is it enables some of THE most infuriating behavior from LVM -- the idea that attractive men are all awful assholes and that when a woman gets abused it's because of that and it's her fault for picking him. Because they're fucking delusional and think movies = reality. Then they're like I told you so! Should've picked me! And expect you to now pick them. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:46 PM
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I'll be real with y'all -- I don't think this is a post (key word here is post) that should be on FDS. If you have to add 30,000 qualifiers as to why something is okay, aka "FWB is okay IF you only use him for sex, don't see him as a potential date, don't get attached, make sure he does xyzlmnop..." I just don't see how this fits as a post on this sub. Just the title in and of itself shocked me. Looks like some libfem pickme rationalizing bullshit. We're AGAINST fuckboys right?? Maybe this strat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:14 PM
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How do you even know he's going to be back in town? Ignorance is bliss. Cut off that line of information and you won't even have to deal with it next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:50 PM
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Girl why'd you neg yourself 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:09 AM
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Honestly I wouldn't even be surprised if their sperm went to shit earlier than women have fertility issues soon. Men don't take care of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:49 AM
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A bit of an aside but I find it recent years I no longer assume any positive things about men. Being skeptical towards men and open minded towards women seems to lead me to the right answer more often. Eg the my ex gf was CrAzY! claims... After she snapped from his abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:40 AM
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These are the same men who say "if I were a girl I'd sell my body and pix omg every single feeeeemale has an easy way out!!1!1!1!1"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:02 PM
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She holding onto him like her ring finger is holding onto that nail 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:20 AM
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It's almost always a WORSE deal than before it's actually hilarious. "My life has sucked without you, see? Won't you feel bad for meeee 😭😭😭"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:24 PM
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Lowkey I wonder how those studies determined "more intelligent". I wonder if it was determined by what each partner thought, and any men whose egos didn't get instantly shattered by putting their partner as the smarter one had better relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:55 AM
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He went back on a VERY big promise. Holy crap. How are you supposed to trust ANYTHING else he says anymore? If you want to get married, how can you trust that he isn't gonna "jk i don't want to get married"?? Your living situation is leaving you vulnerable and isolated and he just goes back on his word and the plan the both of you agreed on. This wasn't the fucking deal you guys agreed on, dump! Edit: Thinking about it a little more I wonder if he never intended to move with you in the first pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:48 PM
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Just reply with, "Well what about you? I guess you can't really fix that jawline or nose without major surgery though. Maybe you could use that facial tattoo to help hide it!" 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:59 PM
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I would've just said "are you jumping to conclusions because it happens to you a lot?" about the friendzoning thing. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:04 PM
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I had the worse acne in my life when with my abusive ex. I was also jumpy and easy to frighten. I had a lot of nightmares about him. Finally broke it off when i kept getting headaches before seeing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 09:00 PM
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Let me guess, he has a shitty job and blames women for him not being higher on the totem pole? With these types, even if women couldn't have a job anymore DOUBT any women would have interest in him. Even in that hypothetical fucked up world, there'd probably so many better options than him. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:38 PM
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LMAO he had the nerve to basically complain your compliment wasn't good enough. The audacity 😂 Now if only you could go back in time and save yourself a few texts by replying to his first question with "Nope!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:21 AM
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It's abuse. In fact, he doesn't even need to physically touch you to be abusive. Even being destructive towards objects around you or displaying other violent and dangerous behavior is abusive. (Punching walls, knocking over things, driving dangerously when "angry".) These things are all designed to make you feel scared, feel small, and submit to what he wants. Hell, even "non-harmful" touch such as tickling can be abusive. This often manifests as tickling you until you are crying or get upset. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:16 AM
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"You're not worth it" 🙃🙃🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:47 PM
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Nah it's different for men vs women. Men very commonly externalize blame in violent ways when they feel disadvantaged, whereas women are more commonly internalizing it and have low self esteem/self destructive behaviors. I see this piece of advice like "don't date cops" -- not every cop is going to be abusive and such but they come with a higher risk of DV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:35 AM
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An hour plus of driving means nothing. There are men out there who book time off, a hotel, and a flight to see their woman. To put it into perspective: Time means more to a person the higher value they are, but what about this guy? Is he employed/how much does he make an hour? (Would he have pissed away the weekend playing video games or what have you anyway?) Now how much was gas to get to you? How much effort did he put into wooing you? Add that up. Did it cost him very much in terms of time, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:06 AM
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The fact that he brought it up only during an argument tells you all you need to know. He used it as a guilt tripping WEAPON against you. If he were ashamed, embarrassed, or worried about your reaction he would NOT have done that. You don't even want him to touch him anymore and you are angry. This is GOOD -- your body is also telling you to dump him. Take advantage now... Dumping is not often as easy as this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:12 PM
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Great advice, but also to add to this BE CAREFUL if he starts saying stuff like "I guess I shouldn't buy you gifts then!" and otherwise twisting things around to punish you for setting boundaries. DUMP HIS ASS if he does any of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:20 PM
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FDS is primarily for before you get into a long term relationship, but I have no doubt it has improved things for existing relationships as well. What it CANNOT do is turn a shitty relationship 180, which is why you don't see posts about existing relationships as much. The actions and effects are much more subtle. Additionally, the content here is focused on dodging shitty men because IME it's extremely common to be stuck with a crappy guy whereas an actual fixable relationship that doesn't have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:50 PM
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Definitely don't answer -- you'll be reinforcing that being rude can get a response out of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:35 AM
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Other comment to this covered most of what I wanted to say except: Between him being a cop and bringing up polyamory so early, I would next this one. The idea of getting serious with a cop gives me the same uneasy feeling as a woman throwing away her career and becoming a SAHM completely dependent on her husband (throwing away the safety lines)... It can totally work BUT if it ever backfires oh man, you will regret it. Additionally I'm pretty sure polyamory is generally incompatible with FDS. Me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:01 AM
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Yes, but the reason why I dislike your comment in general is that each woman will have different definitions of "respect" hammered into them by society. When someone is hurting you, I don't think you even owe them respect. Obviously, don't go out of your way to disrespect or hurt them, but dropping them and removing them from your life is what should be encouraged. Additionally, "respectfully" saying no is also a bad thing imo. It's rarely ever worth it. It's better to drop and ghost. Saying no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 12:25 AM
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This post is obviously about men who treat you poorly. Even if they're close friends or family or you've had such a great past if they begin to treat you poorly it's time to cut the cord, period. There is nothing "nasty" about cutting toxic people out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:24 PM
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Obviously this post is talking about men you are vetting or dating who treat you poorly... Respect is earned. High value women should NOT treat rando men nicely by default, especially not men who have demonstrated that not only do they not bring value into said woman's life, they will probably actively bring it down. There just isn't enough time and energy in life to deal with that bullshit... This post is countering the social conditioning that women have to "be nice" and "give him a chance". Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:20 PM
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I think it's early to invite a man over, just on the basis of he's going to know where you live and realistically you don't know him that well yet. If you do decide to try this though, a good way of going about it would be making lunch instead and making sure something is scheduled for after. This way, the date doesn't wind down at your place and there's a time limit for how long he will be present there. Also, lunch is definitely a less "suggestive" time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:32 PM
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A little late to the party and surprised nobody mentioned but PIV involves the release of bonding sex hormones. BJs don't for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 06:05 AM
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How many women even have dating apps? You'd take that number and then that percentage applies. That data alone literally doesn't mean much. And again, having the app =/= active user looking for casual sex blah blah all the stuff in my previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 09:02 PM
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You're right, should probably ignore those sources. Just skimming, at least one of those only references registered users. It's well known many dating apps have bots that pretend to be women on the app to keep men hooked and encourage them to pay for premium versions. The last graphic is percentages of each dating app used and doesnt even compare amounts/percentages between men and women directly. I CBA to look at the others because there's already blatantly bad/irrelevant sources. Don't forget …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 08:44 PM
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It doesn't make her actions any better... only more transparent when she is honest. I think honesty is a good character trait in a person but when you are judging singular actions you shouldn't really give points for honesty, because it is only something that has value with consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 05:52 PM
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One thing I've noticed that may explain the phenomenon is that these outgoing masculine "jerks" are almost never jerks towards women (on a basic social level) but the way they act can be perceived as jerky towards other men. I've dated one guy who was rather disliked by my more quiet/nerdy male friends. However, from my pov he was fun and always tried to make sure everyone had a good time. The break in communications always seemed to be when he teased and joked at a guy who was a little too soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 10:42 AM
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If you notice, all the negative hypothetical responses you wrote have the woman assuming he only wants her for sex. Why is the woman here assuming that the man wants a casual fling if he says #2, even though every relationship started in a similar manner started with the man appreciating her looks? The answer is because this is what he has communicated to her, not directly, but indirectly. A good analogy to look at this through would be someone trying to sell you something. If that person walks …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 04:16 AM
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If the woman saying that wasn't hot enough for them, they'd freak.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/19 03:19 AM
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I'll be honest, I don't really understand why you hold the views you do. It seems like you see this as a zero sum game where because women benefit more from abortion (and even though men also I would say overall benefit from it as well, it's not on the same level) it's unfair and you want it to be perfectly fair. But in that case, I don't get it, why isn't your view then that abortion should require both the man and woman to agree to it otherwise it's a no? Then they both have a say but it can s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 04:12 AM
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http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.2466/pms.1984.58.3.929 When shown beautiful women, men will rate their current partner lower. http://thedadshow.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/marriage-attractivenessstudy.pdf Study about men behaving better in their marriages the more attractive their wife is. Also I remember studies about mens brains reacting as if they're actually having sex with the porn actress on screen. CBA to go find a link. But with these studies in mind it makes sense that a more …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 10:26 PM
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I don't think it devalues sex (thirst), but I do think it devalues relationships that may have been initially entered in order to access steady sex. I see plenty of posts of (presumably not super attractive) women lamenting that their men are porn addicted and don't value them as much as they'd hope. Men will still get together with these women cuz yeah, thirst and getting laid, but they clearly don't value them much. It would probably be less bad if porn and other media of attractive women were…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:33 PM
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This is true. Before feminism declared women sexualizing themselves as "empowering", women kept other women in check. (It sure wasn't men doing it!) Instinctively, women know sex is devalued when anyone goes too slooty (too slooty being anything out of that time period's norm). Today it almost feels like a rat race to trying to be the most sexy - new levels of degenerate behavior are invented and eventually accepted all the time. Like the bath water thing where plenty of people are actually appl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 02:31 AM
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That’s not that bad. You got kicked out, big deal. The focus of that story wasn't the outcome where the guy got them both kicked out. It was that the guy lost enough emotional control that he got them both kicked out in a public place. This is significant because getting overly emotional is basically the precursor to men getting violent. And just imagine if she didn't break up with him in public? What if what she saw was the guy holding back because he was in public? In private he could have bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 11:42 PM
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I think it's a few different things that influence how men are seem when doing feminine things - confidence, competence, and just how attractive they are besides their non-typical choice. Confidence - not acting weird around their choice and just owning it. If you drink a girly drink, just leave it at "because it fucking tastes good" instead of insecurely trying to justify it. Competence - Certain things require a certain level of competence or else you lose some respect. For example, if you wea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:22 AM
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Sooo if you were at a house party, got drunk, and woke up to your ass being reamed by another guy it's your own fault? Wouldn't it suck if you don't normally get that drunk but you did that day by accident or you were emotionally devastated by something or other circumstances, assuming people around you are decent human beings and that happened? You'd call that your own fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:38 AM
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I would be okay for a good amount of time (probably okay with up to 6 months, more if true medical reason) if it were medical, stress, etc related. However, I have absolutely no patience for not having sex because the guy is lazy and turns to porn. Hard deal breaker, if I find out he's started to consistently view porn and jerk off over having sex with me we'll be done within a month. I refuse to be with someone who would consistently chooses his hand over me, when I'm a pretty nondemanding part…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:17 AM
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You realize that people delusionally pushing for obesity to be sexy is a symptom of a culture that is very sexualized? Because being sexy is so valued that they try to push their way into also being considered sexy. They wouldn't be pushing for it unless being sexy is highly valued.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:00 AM
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False. Very false. In highly sexualized cultures women also are highly sexual. You don't see the prevalence of sexualized social media photos, increase in casual sex, and increase in women literally selling their sex appeal on patreon (and other platforms) as women being highly sexual? The very fact you see it as oversexualized, shows the culture is not highly sexualized. Yes, one person's perception determines if the culture is highly sexualized or not. Lol. Also the logic doesn't even fucking …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 02:56 AM
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Oh gosh, I've had that happen to me too. Girls seeming to pair off against me. No clue why that occurs. Yeah, the only friend groups i can hold have been male where they treat me as one of the bros. I'm not sure how much of it is influenced from how it's centered around a hobby and I'm just as good (if not better than most) as the group though. The hierarchy and standing in those types of groups are easier to understand (be good at hobby + slight "being a girl" points).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 11:25 PM
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Does being extra nice feel "fake" to you? In what ways are you extra nice towards other women? I understand this is a way to approach things, but I've always been awful at feigning enthusiasm so I'm worried I'll come off as fake or even sarcastic. Also for some reason if it's like being nice through compliments, I feel like it's being "beta", but maybe that's due to mostly having male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 07:06 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Most of my friendships have been one-on-one friendships because group dynamics are complicated and I suck at navigating them. I read that link and just laughed the whole time because I definitely do what it's describing, but it's really hard not to project how I am to other people ("if they were interested, why didn't they just say so straightforwardly?" type of thing). The biggest hurdle to me is always determining if someone even wants to interact with me, and since I myself hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 06:58 PM
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Why do you think INTP women are bullied and ostracized by other women? What are INTP women doing wrong? I'm INTP and have always struggled to make friends with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 05:45 PM
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Idk about others but for me I actively try not to think badly of my SO because I believe in the "how you think is eventually how you act" thing, so thinking truly negative thoughts to me is bad for the relationship. Not sure how common this is but I notice when another girl starts seriously shit talking her man (especially to another man) it coincides with her losing respect and love. Purposely maintaining a good view of my SO helps keep the relationship strong and helps keep my motivation to te…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 11:00 AM
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I think what is happening here is that women who don't actually know you too well (acquaintances) and/or are in a vetting type of phase (pre-relationship) will typically not empathize with your deeper problems/issues. Unless a woman is just kind of a doormat, she's not going to sit around and play therapist for you if she's not actually very close to you. I find that men will often consider their friendship to a woman closer than it really is, because even when she's holding him at an acquaintan…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 05:28 PM
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Like I said, I'm just saying this shows men aren't disadvantaged in women dominated fields. If they were they wouldn't be making leadership positions at the rate they found. I say that because I don't think you can safely conclude men are advantaged as that old study claims because besides what you said women also take more time off work for family etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:04 PM
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It's kind of like how many people will feel dodgy about taking an IQ test. If they do take it out of curiosity and they're not super happy with it they wish they didn't know the result OR they start discrediting the test itself... ("That test was dumb", etc) So numerical ratings are like this except more extreme, because for women looks define where they sit socially (in general but especially with men). The more beautiful the woman the more society tells her she's valuable and worthy. In relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:18 PM
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I'm like you, I'm awful at flirting and honestly a lot of aspects about it make me uncomfortable. I'm relatively asocial and don't do well in group situations while doing very well in one on one conversations. So my "strategy" usually involves talking to guys one on one to quickly vet them, and then I either really obviously show I like them or ask them out myself. I'm awful at flirting and also usually go for nerdy guys so most of the time I do ask first. Being rejected is almost never painful …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 11:48 AM
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I just don't believe this is a benefit where men must "perform" masculinity to receive it. It's passive and based on what sex the other person thinks you are. Of course you think transmen must "perform" masculinity to get this benefit because trans people don't pass without effort (behaviorally and/or physically). While I think there are some cases where masculinity is performative, this isn't one of them. This depends on which sex the other person perceives you as. If it were based on masculini…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 11:24 AM
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If only. Ironically, it's men who forgive and through forgiveness encourage this incompetence in women. I suspect they (very subconsciously!) do this to hot women, because there would be very little to offer a both competent and attractive woman. It's good for men if they can win over a hot but incompetent woman with money, and while I don't like it I can understand why hot women can end up useless outside of her looks. Humans are lazy, a large percentage of people would just be "useless" and ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:19 AM
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? You didn't disprove the point. Transmen - no penis - have to prove their competence. I'd guess they feel they have to "perform" because they have to unlearn all their female socialization. Men typically can claim they're competent at something and people will take them for their word. They are trusted until they disprove their own claim by failing (the guy who tries to put something together without a manual, the guy who claims he knows the directions to somewhere (this task isn't "masculine-c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 12:08 AM
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The additional income can be worth it but it's very rare at this point, because this situation is assuming they are going to live together. Living together is a hefty commitment in and of itself, but also allowing a man to come into her life has an opportunity cost. This means the woman is giving up the opportunity of finding someone better whether it's money-wise, personality-wise (if there are children, a more nurturing man is better. Some men are literally so incompetent in this area they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 12:02 AM
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