vacantvivacity Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
117	Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!! Men like this violate every one of your boundaries and then praise you for allowing it. Disgusting	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/05/21 08:10 PM
2	There is no implied social contract. Don’t do things you don’t want to do, and don’t expect anything in return. It’s a matter of supply and demand. If you’re attracted to a woman, other men probably are too. She has the option to choose meet a man who is generous and or adds value to her life in whatever way works for them. It’s called courting and it just makes sense. If you don’t see it valuable to be courteous or generous to a woman you’re interested in, that’s fine. You have the right not to pay for dinner and she has the right to go out with someone who will. You don’t get to expect someone to give y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/21 07:15 PM
4	There is no implied social contract. Don’t do things you don’t want to do, and don’t expect anything in return. I was specifically referring to the part in the original comment that states women wouldn’t agree to trade a sexual act in exchange for dinner because dinner is not something they can’t get. My best guess of why they DO agree to go to dinner is to date and see if there is potential for a good connection	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/21 09:12 AM
6	There is no implied social contract. Don’t do things you don’t want to do, and don’t expect anything in return. Most women wouldn’t agree to that because they can buy their own dinner	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/21 08:46 AM
10	A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare. Vulnerability being permission is animalistic logic. Not harming another person is what makes us human	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/03/21 10:51 PM
34	Another reminder that hits close to home. This is so important I’ve pushed away really good men for reasons that were more self sabotage than real intuition. I find myself unsure about my own relationship for reasons I might be making up in my head	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/03/21 09:50 PM
89	He was not amused and blocked me My brother calls me a feminist to try and make me feel bad lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/21 08:34 PM
57	It's not kink shaming; it's refusing to buy into the bullshit. It's calling out depravity that serves men while destroying the lives of women. It's rising up against a system of oppression every woman on earth is laboring under, due to no fault of our own. I’ve had a “open relationship” with a man who claimed to be only attracted to women who were financially and emotionally independent. His kink was fucking them raw, and he GRILLED me about any possibility of stds, even tho factually it’s WOMEN who experience the symptoms	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/21 03:55 AM
1	Proud of myself It is huge to us too, not small! I call that a great win. Keep your head up high and continue to practice that self worth! Loving and respecting yourself first won’t steer you wrong	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/01/21 07:47 PM
49	This shit just wreaks of self hatred. Holy shit you hit the nail on the head	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/21 02:52 AM
176	boy BYE Pathetic lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/21 12:40 AM
8	I raise you Over 30s Midwestern LVM starterpack. This made me throw up a little in my mouth. I remember actually being attracted to this, and knowing there are women who would date this takes me out, but moving on, that’s no longer my business.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/01/21 01:28 AM
150	I just realized beauty is power. It is why men have wanted to possess us, as if I'm an object. I might not be as big or strong as men, but I'm powerful through my femininity. Beauty is highly valued! And not a lot of us really learn how to tap into our true beauty by achieving the highest expression of ourselves for ourselves and those who love and respect us the most. We’re taught that it’s in makeup, certain clothing, style, conventional sexual appeal, but it really is inside of us, when we glow up as individuals and are more outwardly genuine. I love your ideas. :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/01/21 01:25 AM
11	Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work. She’s right. He’s looking for people who can tell him he’s right, and not only that, but to provide him with points and arguments that he can use to convince her of something that is wrong. Millions of people work and a lot of them don’t WANT to. They do it to provide for themselves and their loved ones, regardless of how imperfect the system is. He doesn’t want to acknowledge that. He can get a part time and also work on the garden, fishing etc in his free time, like a lot of people do. He’s ju…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/12/20 11:08 PM
19	Scrote is absolutely mad as his ex gf is highly successful, and (probably) earns more than him. Tries to console himself Translation: “this is the story of a woman in my past who’s standards were too high for me, and I never got over it”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/12/20 12:57 AM
50	Documentary on what happens to moms on Christmas I’m not a mother. From what I have seen it can be so thankless. I try to make sure my mom and sister feel appreciated, because I know the men in their lives for the most part don’t.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/12/20 11:14 PM
115	Telling on themselves again. So many things wrong with all of this. 2 types of guys to avoid. And this is why I don’t pay for any mans way.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/12/20 09:13 PM
282	The teen boys at r/ memes want us to know FDS is THE WORST and should be sHuT DoWn. They cry out to god Reddit for help 😭🙏 Except we don’t hate men? This is the same logic of a short sighted child, “you criticize me and make me do things, therefore you must hate me”. I care about everyone’s well being, and creating a safe place for women to discuss and advise on our experiences with men make everyone’s experience better in the long run. Dating a woman with low self esteem or standards shouldn’t be desirable and isn’t good for society. So we have to do the work of changing our mindsets. For the short sighted male all…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 11:04 PM
4	Being gaslit and manipulated so much that your SO talking about murdering you doesn’t look like a 🚩 It’s clearly on his mind. And he’s trying to make her comfortable with the idea that it’s just a joke so that she doesn’t see it coming	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 05:16 PM
21	Why I Hate the Push toward Older Men I am grateful not to have gone through so much at such a young age. I also come from a Hispanic family and in South America.. I guess at the time it wasn’t outrageous for a grown man to impregnate a 14 yr old girl. When I visited my country at 16 an older man who looked to be on his 50s was looking at me at the beach and sent his little 12 yr old niece to ask me my name. I was very clearly not 18. I’m so sad for young women who don’t see how predatory men are and go along with their disgusting b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/20 08:10 AM
7	Have you seen this YT channel? I'm in awe I love her!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/20 05:05 AM
83	Why I Hate the Push toward Older Men My grandmother started having children at 14 and has been an angry woman ever since, my grandfather ruined her	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/20 04:40 AM
4	WHAT?! This is such BS. Best comment here	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/12/20 04:38 AM
81	Mom's 'nagging' text about baby's car seat saved his life in car wreck. She leaves the baby with him for one day to go back to work from maternity leave and he almost kills the baby. Calls herself a ‘nagging wife’ She is a hero and a leader. Women take leadership where there is none	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/20 10:24 PM
12	Things a predator & future wife-beater would say... Below no value, predatory!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/20 01:45 AM
25	Why do I fight for relationships I don’t want These are chemicals in our brain that keep us in the cycle of unreciprocated relationships with people we like. If you can do the hard work of overcoming them and cutting him off, you will thank yourself in time 💕	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/20 01:38 AM
2	why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouth Honestly he was! It was very clear to me that he was actually projecting his own negative qualities onto me in order to diminish his own responsibility for his behavior	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/20 12:13 AM
2	why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouth It is absolute bullshit! Anyone who says that is giving you the glaring signal that they are trash and they want to treat you like trash without you knowing better than to walk away	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/12/20 09:29 PM
138	They're truly monsters Because so many men will fuck anything and anyone who lets them, they can’t imagine not wanting/needing sex, or preserving their bodies as a form of care and self respect	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/12/20 05:40 PM
11	They say polyamory but they just mean cheating This makes me really sad	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/12/20 04:59 AM
150	why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouth So true. Was hooking up with a guy and he would do things like look into my eyes and ask if I was falling in love with him. The moment he said that, it didn’t feel sweet, it felt egotistical and it wasn’t about me at all. He got off on the emotional manipulation and knowing that he had the upper hand when it came to my feelings. Yet when I brought up a relationship, his explanation was always “I can’t have a girlfriend right now”. After I stopped coming over and replying, his attention died out.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/20 06:07 PM
3	He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd date Honestly, a free meal? Is everyone assuming we can’t feed ourselves just because we said yes to dinner?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/11/20 03:10 AM
2	Adult Toddler Wants "Chocwit Ice Cream." I Can't with This. Where’s the original post?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/20 09:07 PM
6	#YesAllWomen Yes! And to add to that, people need to stop taking women’s defensive measures as an offense, we are not harming men by protecting ourselves from harmful men, and keeping our guard up until we are comfortable. Prioritization of your well being as a woman should be expected and anyone who tries to make you feel bad about it is to be avoided.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/11/20 03:22 AM
18	I really think they are losing there minds. THE F***ING AUDACITY. Oh god	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/11/20 03:36 AM
3	They really tell on themselves! We've to be vigilant and not make excuses for their words. Does anyone know what book this is?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/11/20 03:12 AM
1	Ladies he wants to split the bills and might even make you a HARD BOILED EGG 🥺🤗🥚😮 Dipshit is right	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/11/20 01:09 AM
9	How it feels talking to pickmes I agree that this seems harsh towards women who don't share the FDS mindset, yet. These women are the ones we are trying to empower, some of us have been them in our pasts. It just seems to shame and alienate them. Yes, its a joke, but when jokes land, it's usually because there is some weight behind the message it sends, and I think it's ok to call each other out sometimes if that message can be interpreted in a way that doesn't empower women who need it, and have come here for support and lear…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 10:09 PM
25	How it feels talking to pickmes I know this may not be a popular opinion, and that this was made for a laugh, but underneath that, I think we should also not alienate/harshly mock women who have been or put themselves through these things in life... degraded themselves under the guise of liberation, or attempted to go dutch in previous relationships. People have an amazing ability to change, and in order to do so, we need to unlearn behaviors, understand why they were wrong while mitigating shame. Shame isn't productive, it ca…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 09:35 PM
7	Just my story. I think this is something easy to forget, especially when you're dating someone nice. I am currently dating a guy who I have told a lot to, without thinking about whether or not that was a wise choice. I am looking for a trauma therapist instead and not bringing it up anymore. I get the feeling that he thinks because of my trauma I am more likely to stay, putting me in weaker position that can allow him to invest less effort and value. Going forward I will find safer connections to deal with my …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/10/20 01:13 AM
6	Just my story. This made me cry. Thank you for sharing your story. Reading it made me look back on all the times I contorted and twisted my emotional and physical being in order to try and fulfill the depraved whims of men who offered nothing to add value to my life. They were manipulators, users, and takers. Never again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/10/20 01:04 AM
9	It’s the colorism, misogyny, ageism,and blatant disrespect for me. Black men are taking a full on L for this one. Well that's disgusting. He did us all the favor of showing us his mindset so women can steer clear.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/10/20 12:09 AM
1	Be balanced ladies 😂 Shamefully it worked on me too and I cringe when I think of it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/10/20 12:16 AM