valorchata Archive

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1	What books methods programs youtube channels helped you most in terms of results ? girlschase.com + <<Models>> they go hand in hand. GC goes a ton in technical stuff like art of deepdiving and becoming conversationalist. Mindset stuff too. <<Models>> mostly Lifestyle & Happiness which is equally if not more important. One book that is sales related <<The Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes>> Helped me tremendously in lifestyle, business and dating. Think about it, the person who is in the position to say NO actually is the person in power, ya? Not by doi…	/r/seduction	17/03/17 05:34 PM
1	Is it possible to cold read EVERYONE? Read from body language, facial expression. I don't usually use cold reading off the bat, I use it after sometime into interation so i have enough data to make an educated guess. Sometimes I made a total bad guess, they'll argue/defend themselves from my misguess, then i get to find out more about them, so it's a positive spin either i made a good read or bad read.	/r/seduction	01/03/17 06:15 PM
1	How do i talk about myself when girl says you are not talking much? if it's passion, then tell it. if girl thinks you're crazy, it's totally fine. you're the one who is doing the filtering here. you want to have a girl who embrace your passion. you don't want to be in the position later down the road telling others "happy wife happy life" that's bullshit. find a girl(s) who loves your 'craziness.'	/r/seduction	23/02/17 08:19 PM
1	I'm doing something very wrong with my body language when I greet girls. Need tips. not pickup related, sometimes i extend my hand for a handshake and the girl be like "cmon i'll give you a hug." vice versa. also occasionally i extend my hand for a handshake, they had their hands out too and then i changed my mind super last minute and changed my handshake posture into a hug posture and tell em i'll give em a hug instead. don't think there's right or wrong. just be comfortabe	/r/seduction	23/02/17 08:11 PM
2	Is seduction game sustainable throught most of our life (while having GF, family, etc.)? Seduction/Gaming for women allowed me choose and filter for women who is compatible with my values. Ultimately it is only a tool to get from point A to point B. Example Point A: I want to find a family oriented woman who'd like to have kids, respect elders, and share common hobbies with me OR I want to have a woman who allow me to regularly invite another woman in for threesome/open relationship, etc. Setting your goal is point A. Then the seduction begins, you date/sleep/reject a bunch of women…	/r/seduction	09/09/16 09:23 PM
3	How can I work on my fear of kino? partner dancing, it makes you super comfortable on touching women smoothly.	/r/seduction	23/04/16 12:35 AM
2	fear of women stopping me from approaching and seducing side bar #20 Mark Manson 2nd AMA one of his comment has relevant answer to your inquiry also this particular comment and its subsequence replies Goes into 2 main psychological approaches, and within that AMA post, he did mention about going to Psychiartric therapy about it. No specific mention of what department, but that is more of a professional/scholar level of diagnosis. Personally I've been to the boot camps, it flooded me and I approached like 100 sets in 3 days, however that experience ne…	/r/seduction	26/03/16 09:27 PM
2	Vulnerability is bullshit I have no issue applying vulnerability. Yes, that pushes some beautiful women away because they don't dig my traits, but also polarizes other beautiful women who dig me, then I just pick among them the one who are most compatible and I am happiest to spend time with. It's so effortless and I don't need to stress about gaming and being manipulative. leads to blowouts and the woman thinking you're too open too fast I never talk more than the women, show your vulnerability strategically to build st…	/r/seduction	26/03/16 09:17 PM
1	[FR] M/21 and F/21 fourth date, everything went well... until a possible text shit test failure? she seems to be a very straight forward person, she likes you, gives you her tn#. there's no gaming involved. you two made out already (if i understood correctly). then all you need is make out at the right place aka her bedroom, then it'd be hard to not end up sleeping together. it's a very normal thing to do, just like going toilet, everyone does it, everyone needs it, but they don't advertise it. just don't over think it.	/r/seduction	21/03/16 08:30 PM
1	[FR] M/21 and F/21 fourth date, everything went well... until a possible text shit test failure? From the sound of it, you did the right thing. You don't need to be apologize for it. School exam is serious shit, just like when you start working, if you have a project due and you need to get it done to not get fired, you gotta do it and the woman you dating needs to respect and understand that. If not you may question yourself is she even worth your time. but now but now you're in college and girls you see are not necessarily mature enough yet. Btw you two should arrange a getting drunk, eat…	/r/seduction	21/03/16 03:59 AM
8	HONESTY and how you're FRIENDZONING YOURSELF and your own SEXUALITY. it's all about setting the expectation up front - take a sales page for example: a dating site promises you that for a whopping $19, it's going to teach you everything about attract the love your life. However after it gets you all pump up and takes you to the checkout page, that sneaky site jacked the price up to $49!!! How dare this site lie to you about the real price it's gonna charge you after you've spent 10 minutes watching its sales video! you feel cheated and shuts off this site. Compar…	/r/seduction	21/03/16 03:31 AM
1	Getting girls to chase me? Since you mentioned you're Muslim, basing on your religion and how you're being raised, I'm gonna go ahead and assume your thoughts are more "collective", you want to eventually settle down, get married and have kids. You may be going thru a phrase of wanting a tons of hookups and that's perfectly fine but once you're back on track, and the ideal girl you look for are going to share similar value as you do (not neccessarily have to be Muslim but shares and understands your value). Since you're l…	/r/seduction	20/03/16 09:56 PM
1	Charismatic traits you observe? Charismatic traits are different depending on what crowd you try to attract, here's my top 3 votes, 1. Knows exactly what you want and take actions. 2. Un-faltered when shit hits the fan 3. Being completely comfortable of demonstrating your strength as well as admitting your weakness - people will relate more if they see you as a real human being who makes mistakes but grows because of them.	/r/seduction	20/03/16 09:27 PM
2	Share Great post, the idea is very solid. I do a similar thing but it's a bit unhealthy - I smoke Shisha (aka Hooka, see wiki) I go on a little date or hangout with a girl. We just order one and we share the Shisha (indirect kissing), and we sit side by side and while we're getting to know each other more, I'll wrap my arm around her neck/shoulder and pull her closer while we take turns feeding each other the pipe. Great for both getting to know each other with a built in kino at the same time. PS: if…	/r/seduction	20/03/16 09:12 PM
1	Bros I need serious help Sometimes seeing professional help can really help your negative mindsets. Afterall, we're a bunch of average guys discussing how to get laid, and when it comes to extreme circumstances professional help may be involved. Maybe you're not as serious as we thought, but we don't really know that that much if previous advice aren't really solving your mindset issue. Personally, my mind had its cynical and optimistic thoughts, but over the years I've gradually trained my mind with tons of self help b…	/r/seduction	20/03/16 08:58 PM
1	how to tell a girl your house is a cock block? I don't see being honest if a bad thing, you can say your house isn't very convenient to chillout at and let's go over to hers. Logistics for living at home is always difficult.	/r/seduction	20/03/16 04:33 PM
3	Speaking as a newbie, learning abundance and to shrug off faltered approaches is such a good feeling to cultivate! May be irrelevant, usually I go with apologetic "hey sorry, I'm bad with names, what's your name again." // "I know this sounds a bit awkward what's your name again?" // "Didn't catch your name last time, I'm xxx btw, what's your name?" // "oh by the way, I don't think we introduced each other formally yet, Hi I am xxx -extends for hand shake" they usually laugh/smile and tell me their names again. And I sometimes do it to the same girls like 2-3x lol...	/r/seduction	20/03/16 04:26 PM
2	How do I have move from the casual talking to a more romantic one? Well then, keeping in contact isn't a bad thing. Personal experience has been flirting is best done in person because I'm kino very comfortable of kino with girls. And I'm not much of a text guy lol.	/r/seduction	20/03/16 04:18 PM
6	Is this a shit test or should I back off? She doesn't seem to be that interested in you. With the circumstances described, I'll treat her as an acquaintance. If she comes around being more available, we may become friends. PS: I have a gf and I still flirts with most girls I come in contact with, so I'm usually the one who friend zones girls. PS2: I remember in one of the first lesson in negotiation was the one who can walk away has the power. Just head out there and meet more people and develop yourself.	/r/seduction	20/03/16 03:51 PM
1	Got dumped by my first real gf last night. Feeling pretty lost, any advice? Mentality - you don't own her and she doesn't own you. Both of you lived on your own perfectly fine before you started dating, why should you be any less now? Debriefing - think about what was good about you that kept the relationship going, and what was things that needed improvement, then work on to develop better habits. Personally I believe a healthy relationship is base on 2 self-reliant individuals working together to have an even better life. This way neither of you are needy because you …	/r/seduction	20/03/16 03:41 PM
3	How do I have move from the casual talking to a more romantic one? school break< Ask her to hang out! Ask her to come over to watch TV/Movie, chillout at your place, your room/her place, her room. Or study or anything really. Maybe a walk in a park, shopping, see cherryblossom/flowers. or Toss frisbee or read together. And only after flirting (testing boundaries, not just you testing her, she's also testing your boundaries and your feelings), that you can be more certain of how she feels.	/r/seduction	20/03/16 03:21 PM
3	How do I have move from the casual talking to a more romantic one? My experience is, always in person. Text doesn't convey the tone well and is easily misunderstood. like mentioned, flirt and test your water when you two are having a good time. If she flirts back, then you're solid. You have to be comfortable with her (which you are), a little bit of nervousness is okay too since that's what gives your stomache butterfly (and she probably feels the same.)	/r/seduction	20/03/16 02:02 PM
8	How do I have move from the casual talking to a more romantic one? There's no best way. It comes with experience telling if a girl likes you romantically. - if she laughs at everything you say, if she goes out of way to please you, she definitely likes you. Other more subtle would be, if you hold eye contact with her without saying a word, she will giggle or look away and asks what you want in a girly-shy way. Another strategy would be testing water, next time you two are having a good time together, just pause for a moment and tell her "hey, (gets eye contact)…	/r/seduction	19/03/16 03:33 AM