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| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundaries | vidfamne | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 01:48 PM |
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| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundariesI see this being partly the case aswell, but her insecurity is a fact and not entirely something shes trying to push as an argument to defend her actions. Its pretty clear at this point. I will try to stay as calm as possible as the relationship continues. I myself wouldnt handle the situation they way she did, but as the relationship is pretty good except for these drama episodes I wouldnt end it now. | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundariesThe bottom line seems to be that me acting calm and nonaffected by her shittests doesnt make her think/act the way RP says she should. If we say that I handled the shittest correctly according to RP theory, then the result shouldnt be that her hamster starts spinning more and she being more insecure about my interest in her? The whole point of handling the shittests proper is to avoid more shit. But in this situation her insecurity seems to go crazy as a consequence of my RP-reaction to her shit… | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundariesShe is pretty insecure in general. I know alot more about shittests than comfort tests, but I see the danger in misreading them. | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundariesIt did seem like nonsense when I wrote it too, as I know the theory on this. But one part of me thinks that being clear on the subject, even if it means anger, would work better in this situation than just deflicting the situation. And with this I do not mean getting angry over the shittests when they happen, but rather about the whole situation. | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Holding frame while setting boundariesI understand the concept of showing/being instead of saying or getting involved emotionally. Me and the girl have spoken about this orbiter and what shes says (I know that I should take her words with caution) is that me being aloof and unconcerned with her shittests about him makes her unsure about my interest in her. "I get insecure about your interest in me when you dont get angry and set clear boundaries" is what she said when I laughed off the shittests. Me having read alot of RP, this reac… | /r/askTRP | 01/02/18 04:20 PM |
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