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Because he can still leave you anytime or you might want to leave. And at that point re-entering the work force is going to be a pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 08:27 AM
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My only reservation with these sort of stories is that men who are married to you don’t behave any better. They also leave and treat you like dirt. So the problem is much bigger than simply thinking that marrying someone will protect you and your children. Men need to change for marriage to even work, and that why I’m never getting married
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:51 PM
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No. Plain and simple. The ending isn’t that good, and it’s still a pretty misogynistic comic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:57 PM
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In fairness I read the comic and Andrea had to be taught how to use a gun in both. That said she was a far more important and dynamic character in the comic, but there’s plenty of misogyny in there, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:56 PM
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They cry because they have to pay child support that’s literally it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:27 PM
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“Fell out love” probably just implies there’s another woman already. But ofc they’d never say lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:26 PM
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This is bollocks anyway, men don’t even moisturise and their skin looks like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:48 PM
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You’re right different issues, but to make you an example, there’s a comment in this thread saying they want a man to make money so that they can stay at home being a mum and go back to work later on. This is not what fds suggests, which is to foster your independence always because a man could turn on you any time. Plenty of married mums who gave up their jobs only to be abandoned by their rich husbands for younger women. We need to mention this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:21 AM
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I live in London, and I'm telling what's been happening recently has been insane. They should totally change this, women just aren't safe and they should be able to protect themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:01 PM
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I'm very ambivalent about this. Having your shit together doesn't mean being rich. HV doesn't mean rich either, plenty of LV assholes out there making tons of money. Broke or someone who is out of work and doesn't intend to fix it is another matter entirely, and yes those should be avoided. I don't think a person who is happy in their profession, has their shit together and all, but not making big bucks shouldn't date. Like, nurses could totally love their jobs and yet are severely underpaid. Un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:57 PM
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Generally speaking women look better than men as they age, because we simply take better care of ourselves. Our skin looks better, men don’t even do the bare minimum such as moisturise. The problem is that patriarchal society tells us a man’s value is in his status, whereas a woman’s is in her youth. Which is bollocks, no one can avoid ageing no matter how good you look. But that’s what needs to shift
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:06 AM
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Many of us are bi here, so I really don't even know where that came from, and how would it even apply. I honestly think that people read dating in the title and they assume, not really knowing that the scope of things discussed in this sub is way way wider than they'd imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:59 PM
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Money clearly can't buy either of them a good outfit though, apparently eta: left out the word outfit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:14 AM
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She should ask him, but then the tweet should have been about that not about some weird competition for his stupid ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:59 AM
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He's def a creep but I thought the Suki Waterhouse thing was an arranged pap thing for publicity. Like reading Lolita and getting papped while doing it doesn't sound very normal lol He probably cheated on Irina, there were many rumours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:20 PM
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Wait, I haven't watched that movie since childhood, but wasn't some of that Wesley pretending to be someone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:16 PM
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This. I think we've all been negged by some guy at some point. The worst thing if that it works for pickmes, I've had female friends telling me they tried harder when a man acted like he didn't want them/consider them enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:06 PM
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This. I love this sub, but some people put way too much focus on practical things to see whether a man has his shit together. Those aspects are indeed important, but a man’s past counts too. If he treated his ex like dirt, chances are once the “in love” feeling is gone he’ll do it to you, too. You’re not more special than the woman who came before you. Way too many women excuse their partner having behaved terribly in previous relationships, thinking that he did that because he was with the wron…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:43 PM
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What I meant is that it all became one thing, and there isn't much difference between the 2 nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:59 AM
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This. I'm really not in a hurry to find out how much you suck in bed, and if you don't that's the icing on the cake, but still no rush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:47 PM
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hookup culture happened. and individualism gone mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:08 PM
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Usually when someone says they're an old soul they mean stuff life reading a book with a cup of tea, so nothing original really lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:48 PM
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Not really. I really loved my ex and wanted to be with him forever, so what happened was a huge letdown. I think it's more other people who think I should have someone else and telling me all the time lol, but what I see around me for people who are coupled or dating is either a lot of unnecessary drama, cheating, or relationships with at least some degree of weird dynamic going on, and I don't want that stress. Unless I found someone who brings something really positive in my life, I don't real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:09 AM
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I’m in London, and the lockdown has been brutal. I can’t wait to go back to my routine and keeping busy, the only thing I’m enjoying about it is not having to get up at 6 am lol My ltr ended last summer, and I haven’t dated since (it didn’t even well, I was cheated on... a lot) I’ve turned down pretty much everyone who asked me out. Idk if I’m planning to date anytime soon, all my female friends have horror stories about it, so for a while I think I’m fine concentrating on my studies and healing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:51 PM
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iM NoT LikE oTHeR woMEn Proceeds to lists things a lot of women do not do, but also being 100% cheesy by being “an old soul”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:26 PM
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Lmao exactly. If anything by making women financially dependable on them they give themselves even more leeway to treat them like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:14 PM
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You go girl. I’m not being funny but if every woman answered like you these idiots would have no one to turn to, and their wives would hopefully eventually wake up and see how much their husbands suck and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:12 PM
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where he belongs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:34 AM
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Why is it always the money thing?! Is it literally all they have, misinterpreting fds as gOLdiGgERs? eta: also some men's attachment to their money is hilarious, when they die they will be buried with riches around them like Tutankhamun, Good riddance lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:54 AM
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Your mess, ofc clean up after yourself. I always do that, whether I'm over at someone's house or even at the gym during the pandemic, I'd wipe what I used. Other people's mess no way, unless the person hosting the party is your friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:51 AM
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Oh and I also wanted to add, your relationship lasted 8 years which is a very long time. Because you had so much history together he found fertile ground to exploit your trust in him, which is a terrible thing to do to someone. If he didn’t love you anymore that’s fine, but that doesn’t make him entitled to lie and manipulate you. He could have treated you with respect and tell you the truth. I completely understand how you feel, I was cheated on in my ltr, and I’m not going to lie to you it’s h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:16 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Please know that even though the shame you feel is a normal reaction it is not yours to bear. You did nothing wrong, you were just manipulated into it as many women are 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:58 PM
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Just adopt a dog, I promise you it’s far more emotionally fulfilling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:55 PM
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Indeed a humanitarian, you can just tell /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:47 PM
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To say that I'm thankful is the equivalent of me saying I'm grateful a pigeon shat on my face so that now I know to look up for it and maybe dodge it. I suppose it taught me a lot about trust... as in, sleep with one eye open. This is all I have. One thing I wanted to say though, and it's the reason why I'm commenting really. I'm glad you worked on yourself and learnt something from it, but it's also important to distinguish between your problems and other people's burdens. Someone cheating on y…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/21 01:51 PM
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Exactly. Do men have a resting bitch face too? Because I don't see them walking around with a constant smile on their faces either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:52 PM
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Some people do seem money-orientated on here Agreed. But those are comments, not fds ideology in itself. In fact I'm happy when someone makes a post warning others that rich =/= hv, it's a good reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:26 PM
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Like many I found this sub by reading 2 people on another sub arguing whether fds was hateful or not. I checked for myself and yes, it's exactly what you say it is in your last paragraph. There's absolutely no money stealing scheming here, on the contrary women are encouraged to make their own. Furthermore, fds talks about being with men (if they add something to your life only first of all) who are financially stable, not rich. In fact there have been many posts warning women that rich =/= bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:23 PM
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This is fantastic, well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:03 PM
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I know, I meant it in a jokey way. But thanks, so happy to be away from all the drama he brought into my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:56 PM
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Because they have some xenophobic idea of what Eastern European women are like, and also they're not very clever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:54 PM
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Reading these stories make me realise that I sort of got off lightly; my ex cheated on me with so many but when I found out all he did is try to gaslight me, feign ignorance and then blame me. Idk how I would have reacted to such theatrics tbh. Although he did cry a bit, but when he realised he wasn't getting any sympathy from me he suddenly stopped lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:50 PM
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"boosting my ego" lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:02 PM
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They don't mean anything lol. It's just a pity compliment, so that they can feel better about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:37 PM
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Thanks so much for this. This is something I see quite often, both women blaming themselves and other women blaming these women. And it's both wrong and unfair. I remember one conversation with my ex, he had cheated on me with tons of randos, and when I found out he rewrote this narrative that somehow it was our relationship's fault. If he had been with the right person then he wouldn't have acted that way. And I didn't buy that shit, I told him that while he was allowed to be unhappy with me an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:58 PM
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I mean they both sound like they have unresolved issues to me. He expects to be praised for the bare minimum but she's being verbally abusive towards him. I get losing your patience after having had enough, but I would not want to be with anyone who addresses me that way. If they're still struggling with the loss of their child, which is understandable, then they need to address it rather than taking out their anger on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:31 PM
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You make a good point, but this lady explains in another tiktok (yes I went and checked) that this guy was her second husband of 10 years. She got with him after ending an abusive marriage of 20 years, so it sounds to me like the current husband took advantage of how vulnerable she was back then, and now he's gaslighting her. She says she has no hostility towards him, which might be true or might just be the effect of his gaslighting I don't really know. I only hope she's ok. It just goes to sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:51 PM
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couldn't rely more. i even had moments when i said omg out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:46 PM
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It's always a side piece. ALWAYS, please listen to me you lot, if he gives you any other story it's bollocks so go and check his stuff, whether it's credit cards statements, phone, emails, doesn't matter. You will 100% find what you're looking for. These cowards rewrite the narrative that they never loved you or you were never right or whatever tf they can come up with because they don't want to admit they're cheating on you. They want their image to stay intact, they don't want to be labelled a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:30 PM
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Another true crime fan I take it! I unfortunately have examples of what I described from family members, but Betty's story does come to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:23 PM
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i don't really know, i think people are given flairs or something but I can't even see them with my browser?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:21 PM
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"I'm not interested in a woman's career, but I'm also going to bail on you when I get my middle life crisis and you've been out of the work force for like 20 years, while I did well in mine thanks to your support and sacrifices" lmao, no thanks. Things have changed a lot, not that they were ever easy, but nowadays spousal support is merely rehabilitative, and won't last a woman long enough to have a decent life, in spite of sacrificing her career for that of her husband. So the whole idea that a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:15 PM
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That was the first thing I notice, so apparently not even a single dad should date a single mum for... reasons?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:06 PM
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Exactly, lol. I'm rich but I suck in every other way possible is making his value as good as naught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:03 PM
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The infidelity recovery stuff is a huge mindfuck. I also initially looked into it, but it never felt quite right. Especially the way it makes you feel like you’re somewhat to take responsibility for someone cheating on you. And like, bloody hell no. I’m not responsible for another grown person’s behaviour and I refuse to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:57 PM
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Yeah. And this was in the 60s, and still men pat themselves on the back for not being an absolute asshole, as if being an asshole is what's expected and they're breaking the rule or something lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:36 PM
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Did you watch Ayakashi: samurai horror tales? The last 2 or 3 eps are called Bakeneko (can't remember it was a long time ago) have the same character as Mononoke. In all Bakeneko was my fav story, even better than Mononoke which I also loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:05 PM
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You're quoting me out of context. I'm not talking about anything else other than what women do with their appearance. Should we criticise women who go to the gym as well? After all they're getting the hot bod men want, right? There is such things as wanting to look a certain way for you. And I see nothing wrong in that. Your body and your face, you get to live with them everyday. Why shouldn't you be able to make these choices for you or not, make them being equally as valid? It all depends on w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:56 PM
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You make a good point that for many is about unattainable goals that aren't healthy, and because we are expected to look a certain way. Especially for young girls I find this trend worrying, because many of the women on instagram or tiktok don't look like that in real life. However, I'm also all for women doing things that make them feel good, so if a little filler or botox or following a certain skincare routine is what makes them happy then go for it. It is their money to spend however they wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:48 PM
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I blame misguided feminism for that. Once upon a time women would be blamed for being the ones seducing men and the men treated as faultless victim of women's evil charm, which obviously isn't the case. But then it went topsy turvy, and now men are to blame which is indeed fair, but other women dIDn'T oWe yOU AnYTHinG. Which is bollocks. You owe your fellow humans respect and decency, always. It's both individualism and feminism gone mad and I despise it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:49 PM
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This. If he did it to other women eventually he will do it to you. It's always the case. Us women are taught that we can make such men change with the power of our love (or magic vagina lol) but it rarely, if ever, works that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:46 PM
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I will never understand. Like, I will always support women and I understand that for most of us we need to unlearn certain behaviours. We need to unlearn that our value is based on how interested men are in us. It's tough, because society tells us since we're very little that this is the way it should be... BUT. Why go after men who are already taken? If he does it to his gf/wife, what makes you think he won't do it to you? Ah yes, because she makes him unhappy and you won't. But you know what a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:42 PM
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I watch anime and read manga myself, there's a big market for it in some places in europe so I grew up with them. I see them as a medium like everything else. That said, it depends on what they watch because most of it is horrendous. So, let's say his fav anime is fmab (great story, female artist, fantastic female characters etc) he's fine. Fav anime being some shitty isekai, I'm not interested. So yeah, I see nothing wrong in it, it just depends on what they watch. Same goes for tv series for m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:33 PM
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He’s disgusting. And lmao at him pretending he left his latest film for staying with his children, he never cared about them. He used to walk his daughter to the park and then leave her alone while she wAs asleep to fuck his side piece in the bushes. When he separated from his wife he moved to LA and never went back to see his children. His ex wife is fighting him for custody, and for a good reason. Just admit you were fired and go. Sad thing is that he will be ok regardless of his career becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:51 PM
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Yes. My ex of 10 years was like that. The horrible ones who are upfront about their horribleness are so much easier to spot. My ex seemed the sweetest and kindest and most patient. When he started cheating on me he even upped the niceness to the next level, he took me to Japan for one month, we travelled by car so that we could take the dogs to mainland EU from the UK (I'm originally from EU but grew up in the UK) which had been my dream for ages, and a lot of other little things. Especially thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:25 PM
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I remember it as well, he looked so uncomfortable. Maybe she was just exaggerating for effect while telling a story, but I noticed often in their videos they miss each others' cues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:03 PM
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Western manga fans are the worst, and I say this as someone who has read and still reads tons of them. They seem to think they're a shonen/shoujo protagonist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:01 PM
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Yeah, this is a ymmv thing. For instance, I'm an introvert and I'm also very uncomfortable sharing my personal life on social media and that is why I virtually have no social media presence other than the anonymous ones like reddit and tumblr where I feel comfortable talking about things because no one knows who I am, and an instagram where I post pics of day-to-today things but never private matters. As much as I would want to be supportive of a partner discussing something very private openly,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:56 PM
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Yeah, like maybe he should have opened up before cheating?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:02 PM
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She's right. This is something I sometimes see in this sub (might be from younger women like teens or early 20s), that if you vet your man well, then you marry and you're happy and you're done forever. I wish that was the truth, but life taught me it isn't. The person you thought you knew so well can indeed turn into a stranger. Sometimes you missed the red flags and let them slides, sometimes this person changed for the worse, and sometimes they always had a bad side in them but they never show…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:00 PM
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I used to follow their channel, then they stopped making content. I remember the video in question. He always seemed an introvert compared to her, but also might be a cultural thing. He does seem extremely detached about her experience in this video, might be that he doesn't understand what she's going through, or might be he's uncomfortable talking about it openly. We might have to see how he acts in private, maybe then he's very supportive. Either way they should address this, because somethin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:49 PM
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unfortunately i do remember. but also i read all his text exchanges, and dude was walking his little daughter to the park so that he could meet with his side chick in the bushes. imagine this asshole being your dad? this girl will learn this one day, and it's so unfair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:12 AM
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This. He's clearly just tired of her and keeps her around for convenience, eventually she won't even have that function and he will leave anyway. She should run. I hope she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:08 AM
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I mean, it's not the pain olympics, I'm sorry you had to go through this. I was cheated again and again in a 10 year long relationship with a man who was very very good at faking and pretending, so my whole reality came crashing down when I found out. The longer you are with someone the harder it is generally speaking, regardless of marriage. But the other poster makes a good point about empathy, yes this woman is fooling herself. But us women are conditioned to act in a certain way and it takes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:07 AM
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Kink is a choice. It’s not a psychological condition. That's... inaccurate. Not to whip out my credentials as I'm still a student, but psychologists are still divided on whenever a kink crosses the line with disordered behaviour, there's ongoing debate. Obviously we can't diagnose this guy from his texts alone, but all I'd say is that cannibalism isn't the same as sub/dom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:13 PM
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you're not wrong about tastes changing, but in this case they most certainly didn't. he was putting up a front for his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:40 PM
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thing is he didn't respect his wife either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:39 PM
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I think for this asshole was more the case of putting up the front of being the guy who settled and had a family. He probably liked the stability his wife and family provided, while being deranged underneath,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:37 PM
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Yeah. Exactly what I said yesterday, he clearly never changed but sold his wife the lie that he did because he "respected her too much". Honestly, I feel for her. Not only he was clearly gaslighting her and cheated on her repeatedly (and he talks about her in his texts as someone he was playing and a nuisance), but she also has to live with the embarrassment this guy being the father of her children brings. I hope she has a good emotional support with family and the likes, because she's gonna ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:36 PM
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And not to be negative here, but most of the posts I see about hvm are fairly new relationships. Rarely you'd see a post from a woman who's been married for idk, 10 years, saying yes I totally made the right choice after so long he's still fantastic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:59 AM
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because it was all the other woman's fault! now he'll behave perfectly because she's the one /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:38 AM
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and then he twists it until it turns out it was all your fault! the trifecta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:39 PM
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I still believe that many women, or people for that matter, could see signs. I find this notion a tad problematic. I see it so often, the assumption that women had to know, whether cheating or about some men being disgusting or that they missed the red flags, but to me it looks like the just world fallacy. Men who have something to hide are usually top notch both in their gaslighting game and in how false they can be. I'm studying to become a clinical psychologist and I've seen this both in my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:36 PM
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lmao this got from bad to worse, some of his texts had already been posted on tumblr months ago, but this makes him look even worse. with that said, it might be therapeutic for his ex wife to read this stuff, so any remaining lingering love she might have for this dude can be put to rest. he's disgusting. pity she has to coparent with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:41 PM
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idk but they had been together since they were very young, so chances are she actually had an idea of him that didn't correspond to the truth. this is what happens often with people who get together when they're really young. you have all that past, it's hard to let go of the image you have of a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:35 PM
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Men literally can't stand to see neutral faces on a woman. They can't stand anything other than a happy smiley face tbh, not just neutral emotions. I remember at times concentrating while doing something and being told not to look so serious. Like wtf, why not?! Why can't I be serious, angry or neutral and just happy when I am. Does my head in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:32 PM
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“You’re pretty funny... for a girl” (After doing deadlifts of 60 kg) “wow you’re strong! I mean it’s girly weight but well done” eta: wrote the wrong weight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:29 PM
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I couldn't agree more. When I found this sub I lurked for several months before posting, while reading the book. One things that scared me a little was the idea of marriage as a goal, so I didn't know whether I would fit in; ever since I was little I never dreamed of getting married, and after coming out of a 10 year long relationship where I was cheated on, that sentiment only solidified in my mind. But then it started to click, there are many different women in this sub, some have been married…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:57 AM
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Thank you. Somehow for many men ambition goes with the desire for power, and that's never a good trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:41 AM
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trust your gut. I waited to "proof" even though I knew the whole time but I was doubting myself. your gut knows. It really does. Never again I will not trust my instinct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:21 AM
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Yeah same. I suppose it came from a place of privilege, as I didn't experience much lying and cheating before (that I know of). But I used to assume that people who get caught cheating would tell the truth at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:21 AM
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some bits were very good, like her family story (wish there was more of that). i really wanted to like it because of the MC, but couldn't get past that particular aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:59 PM
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I can't watch anything, whether anime/tv series/film whatever, unless it has good female characters in it. I only ever care about them tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:17 PM
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I found Magus Bride quite problematic tbh... Yes the mc is not sexualised but her relationship with the magus is weird. I dropped it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:14 PM
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Same! I love anime and manga, but I select the good stories, which are out there. It just also happens to be a medium with a lot of shit in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:14 PM
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Yeah Ryan, when were you last seen acting lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:50 PM
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Your pup is adorable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:44 PM
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As someone who's studying to become a clinical psychologist I can't say that but... It's true that many come with problems that are unfixable, most of the times one party has cheated or is currently cheating (and they don't tell the therapist either), and therapy just won't fix a couple like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:43 PM
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He was astral projecting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:06 PM
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I agree with everything you wrote, but I also believe that people do change, sometimes for the worse. It could be that something was always there and had the possibility to come out in certain circumstances, but what I’ve observed is that power or money inflate the ego, and in some people that means turning into assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:35 AM
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I was in a serious relationship with a musician as well. I accepted the whole lot, the touring, the long absences etc because I wanted to be supportive of his career, as well as having my own, which I did. I trusted him not to cheat and never kept tabs on him. For the many years we were together he played the part of the hvm. He was never stingy with money. He was committed, I was the one who had no desire to be married (and I still don’t). The past 3 years though were a mess, and his behaviour …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:25 AM
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Yes, very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:49 PM
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Single dads are praised simply for "loving" their child, while the children's mother does all the hard work, such as endless laundries, being there for every meltdown and tantrums, make dinners and all the lot. You can spot a bare minimum dad from a mile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:42 PM
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I think the discussion about not moving in before marriage is to avoid becoming the forever gf treated as a bangmaid, which I completely understand. However, each situation is different. For instance, I didn't marry in my last relationship that lasted 10 years and he cheated on me, and thank goodness I didn't because if I did I would have had to split my home and land I bought with my money when we were already together. Because we never married, I was free to kick him out and lose nothing. I ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:27 PM
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Don't move in with a man until you're married. Imo it's putting too much stock into marriage as if it makes you safe. It doesn't really. Men can still turn on you after marriage, in fact many do right after marriage. Make sure your name is on everything you buy together, married or not. Have your own career so if he divorces you/leave you won't be suddenly broke. Marriage does not protect you the way people think, not anymore nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:50 AM
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I did read it, and it doesn’t change anything. You could get your husband’s salary every month for 30 years, but if he flips on you and dumps you, you’re on your own. You will struggle to get back to work, and spousal support is rehabilitative, so it won’t last you for any significant length of time. That’s why having your own career will benefit you, so that if things don’t work out you’ll have a safe line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:32 PM
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However, some traditional feminist look down on a woman who choose to stay at home. Who wants to focus on taking care of home over a career. Who look down on conventional attractive women as bimbos with nothing to offer. The view is that a woman must be highly educated, with a robust career and completely financially independent These women who stay at home can be still educated and every month when her husband gets paid, he hands her the cheque to make sure that house is run as it should. The r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:42 PM
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If he had been honest, he would have been the one saying we're sexually incompatible so I'm ending this relationship, instead he cheats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:28 PM
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How to ensure he won't cheat on me again You can't. The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. So run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:26 PM
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Ofc positive and negative reinforcement for women as if they were dogs, OMG he is SUCH a catch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:48 PM
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The scariest thing to me, I mean it's all scary, but the amount of people I've seen for example defending Chris Watts both on reddit and everywhere else. It's insane and it makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:44 PM
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AM: - wash face with water - Laneige cream skin refiner - secret key eye treatment cream - either Skinceutical CE Ferulic or Snail Bee Serum - in winter some fairly heavy cream because my skin is dry otherwise madecassoide cream -Missha soft finish sun milk PM: - Kose cleansing oil if I was wearing make up - Cerave - tretinoin on alternate nights + a heavy cream - on the nights I don't use tretinoin I either do a water mask or some routine as am minus the vit C and the sunscreen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:37 PM
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yeah, clever boy he is. my fav emojis 💩🤡🤢🍑💨💋 i hope he gets the message, it's really important to me /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:02 PM
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"A little alarming". Yeah no. It's very alarming. I'm also a true crime fan, and never thought about killing anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:09 PM
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Exactly, thanks so much for this. When I started lurking in this sub and reading the book I was somewhat confused by the marriage thing, but now I get and really like what it implies. Yes, 6 months is far too early for a woman to really know who they are marrying. And I also like the emphasis on working on yourself, make sure you are stable and grounded, have a lot going on in your life, and a partner will add to what you already have, not replace it. There's also a difference between the woman …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:00 PM
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I'm willing to bet that they're the sort of men who give them a crumb every now and then, to keep their women from moving on. And you take it, and tell yourself lies such as he's just bad at expressing his feelings/buying presents/time management etc. Because you do love them, but you're just convenient to them. Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:01 PM
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Maybe instead of pushing women to be more like men we should push men to not be so disgusting and be more like....us? Thank you! I say this all the time. We're not bettering ourselves by acting like the worst men, they'd be better by acting like us. This is what we should strive for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:58 PM
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My son only found out this year it's been like that and he was horrified. He rode his bike to the store and bought me gifts and wrapped them and put them under the tree. That's a great boy you're raising. My ex used to get me presents, then stopped blaming it on me because apparently I didn't appreciate his presents enough. I assumed it was a joke (and when I tried to reply he'd tell me he was joking, he just didn't know what to get...) because in all my memories I remember feeling very happy ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:55 PM
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Many people in the comments yesterday pointed out you really don't make a lot of money from this empowering, so it really isn't empowering in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:01 PM
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You can't undo cheating, once it happened the relationship cannot be saved imo. Love cannot save it, especially when it is as one-sided as it seems to be in this relationship. Ngl, if she leaves she'll feel like absolute shit for quite some time. It's inevitable. But in the long term she'll be better off, finding someone who doesn't cheat on her. As for the "spiel" once a cheater always a cheater... I mean, maybe not always always? But it takes a certain personality to cheat, and you need to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:57 PM
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I ignore it. Because the women I actually consider friends are actually just 2 and they think like I do, the rest are more like acquaintances and I don't bother arguing with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:50 PM
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Funnily enough my cheater ex was always a crappy gift gaver until he started cheating on me. Then his gifts became amazing and exactly what I wanted. I'd like to think he felt guilty, but nope, it was probably part of his gaslighting tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:13 PM
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Yeah. Some times I did think maybe it was me, but then I’m reminded of the amount of lying and gaslighting, the money spent on sex toys and lingeries for other women, the blowjobs from rando men he couldn’t even remember what their name was etc... and I’m like, no. This had nothing to do with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:29 PM
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In fairness AH was treated exactly the same. Even after the whole British court thing some people decided Depp was being abused, even though the court decided all of AH's accusations were real. They had a toxic relationship and some of AH's behaviours were questionable at best, but none of the things she said were lies. And yet people want to paint him as a victim. As for Twigs making better choices in who she dated, we all know LaBeouf is problematic, but the way she explained it is that he bas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:42 PM
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Don't beat yourself up, us women are taught to be nice. I can see it in myself as well, I feel compelled to be accommodating and I apologise way too much for things I have nothing to apologise for. We need to be aware of it and try to unlearn it. Other than that, it was really not your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:52 PM
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Lol so true. My ex gave me about 84 versions of the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:51 AM
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In fairness I was also traumatised by the nasal swab, the nurse shoved it in my nose really far with no warning, I started to cry 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:10 PM
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I never trust a man who calls his ex crazy. I usually ask them what they did they do to make them "crazy" and they're quite taken aback, but 9/10 it turns out they were cheating on the "crazy" ex. No wonder the ex was angry. How do I get it to my head that he doesn’t deserve me? This is what I did; I got really busy. I started a PhD. I figured that I was going to be miserable regardless because I have to get through the grieving process of letting my relationship go as well as dealing with the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:47 PM
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ikr that's what I was thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:16 PM
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Sasuke he would never, in fact I'd rather date Sasuke 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:13 PM
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I didn't do any revenge stuff either, not that it didn't cross my mind but I didn't put it into action. My thing was that nothing I could ever do to him would really make me feel any better, so it's up to him to dig his own grave, something he does perfectly well without my help anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:55 PM
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omg lol. I did think those chunks of meat looked pretty gross, and now I know why. Anyway, it's heartbreaking I've been cheated too in a 10 year relationship. Honestly took all my strength to pull myself up. Now I'm working on me and me only, I don't plan to date at all for quite some time (if ever). I hope after the dog food she kicks him out, it's really hard at first but once you realise the amount of disrespect and hurt they've put you through, it feels like a relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:51 PM
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Agreed, she took what was hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:24 PM
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A lot of men try to empower themselves and disempower you by acting like that need to help the angry, crazy woman with her mental health when you’re rightfully angry over shit they did. Spot on. The amount of men I met who described their ex as mad when they treated them like rubbish and more often than not cheated on them. Yeah, no shit they were mad, and it was because of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:20 PM
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Yeah. This song spoke to me on so many levels, I also have the ex who cheated on me repeatedly but wanted to stay friends, because it looks good and it makes him feel better about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:13 PM
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I think people do change, it would be impossible for all of us to be static. But we also at times ignore the red flags. Thing is, nothing surprises me anymore. I know of men who seemed great guys for such a long time and then at soon as they start to make money think they are now entitled to better things, such as a newer and younger wife. Were they always entitled? Perhaps. But the truth is that we can never truly know. That's why the advice of building a life for yourself where a partner is mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:00 PM
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YES. This is it. My best friend split up from the father of her daughter when she was a baby, and she was like "it's really not harder, I'm doing the same things as I was before but I finally don't have to put up with him". The only problem she had was that he didn't want to pay child support and she had to take him to court for that. Some dads don't even want to do the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:28 PM
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Because they don't mean it. Usually it's the entitled ones who would throw a fit if you didn't give them a chance who say such things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:20 PM
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Yeah. I was with a musician for 10 years. The cheating "because he was on tour" was a thing. I mean I didn't know about it, and I was trying to be cool girl who wouldn't keep tabs on him, but yeah if you get them and they're immature they'll stay that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:15 PM
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