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1	Wife is worth more than I am but I make more salary than she does For child support, income will be imputed to her based on what she should be earning (considering her education, experience, and earnings history). Unfortunately, the house is all hers. It was inherited so it is separate property. If you’ve paid the mortgage (if any) or helped to improve it any way that may be a factor to give you some credit, but otherwise you should consider the house as her own separate property. Alimony depends on the length of your marriage and the financial history of the …	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/24 07:36 PM
2	Chance of marriage ending in divorce 50/50. With odds like these why play the game? Yeah I was gonna say the divorce rate may be down but that’s because the marriage rate is down. And yeah, divorce is not 50% of all marriages but more like 40% and declining as the rate of marriage declines. This will plateau and I imagine that in the future about 1/3 of marriages will end in divorce. And for each subsequent marriage the odds of divorce increase. This is a global trend. Some governments are paying their citizens to get married and start a family (I don’t think the government cov…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/23 03:10 PM
1	Taxes You should do whatever you did in prior years while married. Your attorney should be on this issue, and if they aren’t then you ought to email them abt it.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/23 12:20 AM
3	Did anyone here had settlement conference with Judge? It’s not with the judge but yes the judge orders you to do it. If it’s just a settlement conference it’s usually both parties and their attorneys in a conference room at the court house. Possibly an in-court mediator is involved (these are people trained to mediate family law issues, they aren’t lawyers). You will then be ordered to participate in ESP or M-ESP, Matrimonial Early Settlement Panel. This is where cases make moves. You are assigned a panel of 2-3 practicing family law attorneys. You…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/23 12:31 AM
3	Can’t afford a lawyer.. All joint credit cards should be effectively frozen upon the filing of the complaint for divorce. (The credit card company doesn’t freeze the account but a court order is entered that restrains the parties from using or dissipating marital assets.) If the court permitted the spouse to use a marital credit card for $15k legal fees but assigned the debt solely to the other party it is for a reason: other party is primary wage earner, the cost of legal fees will be offset in the final allocation of…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/23 02:34 PM
3	Can’t afford a lawyer.. There are absolutely pro bono divorce attorneys available. As a family law attorney I am assigned 1-2 pro bono divorces per year by the local bar association/legal aid. Clients have to meet financial requirements to be eligible, but there is both pro bono (no cost to client) and reduced fee pro bono (client makes too much to qualify for pro bono representation but doesn’t make enough to afford private counsel). Contact local (county) bar association, state bar association, legal services/legal a…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/23 02:24 PM
6	NJ family Court - how to remove current attorney and go pro se? Fire your attorney. Your attorney will prepare a substitution of attorney document. You will sign it and then the attorney will sign and file it with the court. It will be filed electronically and is effective upon the court’s receipt and stamped “filed” by the clerk. Usually instantaneous but can take a day. This assumes you don’t have a trial date scheduled within 90 days. If you do your attorney will have to file a motion. Edit: email your attorney to “discharge” them. Tell them you will be g…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/23 08:46 PM
2	(NJ) currently we have 50/50 joint and physical and of course my ex will try to move at some point in short distance. How do I ensure I can still keep 50/50? My kid is very young and I have been part of her life since she was born. Idk if you mean “soon” when you say “at some point in short distance” or if you mean an actual short distance away from you. If the latter then there is no issue. If the former, it still doesn’t present an issue unless the distance is significant or out-of-state. Regardless, the law requires her to get permission from the court to relocate out-of-state and also in-state if her move will have a substantial effect on the status quo and/or if moving would not be in the best interest of the child. Y…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/23 11:50 PM
3	Wife wants a divorce; once the paper work is filed, I know everything will go to hell. How do you survive the process with nowhere else to go? He can record whatever he wants in his house. It’s his property and he has the right to set up cameras and voice recorders if he chooses. The wife can do the same.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/23 10:36 PM
1	Divorce lawyer Attorneys perform “conflict checks” prior to taking on new clients. You will not be told what the conflict is, but you will be told if there is one. If they represent your wife they will not even meet with you due to the conflict.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/23 01:10 AM
1	Wife filed TRO, judged denied the request to evict me from the house, but still have to do supervised visits.... in my own house. Oh OK, good.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/23 07:44 PM
1	Wife filed TRO, judged denied the request to evict me from the house, but still have to do supervised visits.... in my own house. Are you currently representing yourself? I strongly advise that you get an attorney. You have 7 weeks before your next hearing. That’s plenty of time to find and retain an attorney. (Hire lawyer in the next week or so so they have time to prepare and take any necessary actions prior to the hearing.) I would want to know what can be done to terminate the supervision. Depending on the facts, a lawyer may want to file a motion and intercede to get the judge to terminate the supervision prior to 7 w…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/03/23 07:41 PM
2	Working it out or divorcing? Is it worth trying or just to simply let go? I wish you included your age but I’m guessing you’re younger (20s-30s). The fact that you are here in this subreddit asking the question is all the answer you need. Get divorced. You’re married to someone who is not your partner. She sounds like she will leave you if a better opportunity arises. You have no children and you have limited risk regarding alimony (2 year marriage). I would file for divorce as soon as possible, bc the longer you wait the more entrenched you get in the marriage. Who k…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/23 04:21 PM
2	I want to shed some light on something related to the divorce process that I really believe men should know. I mean you were only married for 2.5 years. Annualizing that $30k wage difference gets to a total gap of $75k over the marriage. I’d be shocked if alimony were ordered, but if it was I’d think a year is reasonable but at like $1,000/month. Either way, best thing is to just move on. Otherwise alimony payments keep you tied to a person you despise.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/23 02:06 PM
2	Collaborative divorce? If you’re unwilling to compromise on your positions then it’s a waste of time. But realize that you will not get everything you want if you go to trial or make the judge decide any issue. Collaborative divorce can be good for high earners. A forensic accountant will be involved to ensure your financials are split correctly. You can’t have the mindset of getting one over on the ex if you want collaborative divorce to work. Realize that you’re getting divorced one way or another. Collaborative div…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/22 11:57 PM
2	When to change attorney? It’s time to get a new attorney. Send an email to your current attorney right now. Tell her to close your file and that she may not bill any further to it. Tell her your new attorney will be in touch with a Substitution of Attorney, and that your file will need to be transferred so request that she prepare your file (it may be ready to go, it may be 100% electronic, or she may require it to be copied before transferring it to the new attorney. As a lawyer, there is no excuse for not getting back…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/22 11:26 PM
1	Wife is trying to get me out of the house Don’t kid yourself about what a family court can do. For example, your spouse obtains a domestic violence restraining order against you. You’re out of the house and prohibited from entering, but since you paid the mortgage and utilities and all other household expenses you continue to be responsible for maintaining those expenses. On top of those “family” expenses you are now responsible for an apartment you had to rent for yourself. You can only visit with your kids one day a week for a few hou…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/22 04:12 AM
1	Wife is trying to get me out of the house I think your lawyer means to deescalate by removing yourself from the home briefly. It gives you some space and time to try to relax, and it gives her the same. I’m talking like a half hour, not days. There’s no benefit to filing first. Once your answer is filed if you really feel it necessary tell your attorney to file a motion to address the disparaging comments and the interference with your time with your kids. A letter should be sent to her attorney first to try and avoid the need for a mot…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/22 08:12 PM
2	How do I tell my wife I’m leaving? What did you see in this woman when you married her? And why does she have so much animosity towards your mother? Do you own property together? Do you want to keep the house or sell it? Advice will be a little different depending on various factors, but generally just do it!! End it. Be explicit. You’re done. She’s made your life suck, so ruin her day by serving her with divorce papers. And the next time she’s physical with you get a restraining order. That’s what they’re there for.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/22 12:53 AM
4	Mediation finished Your attorney can communicate all of these deficiencies to her attorney. Do NOT get divorced without ensuring these issues are resolved. If you still have concerns on 9/26 you MUST tell the judge on the record (orally in court). If you allow the divorce to proceed on 9/26 but there are outstanding issues you will have a much harder time resolving them, if at all. With the car, make an explicit provision in your agreement (or execute another agreement if you’ve already executed the MSA). State th…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/22 09:44 PM
3	So my ex requested to take my 8yo son on my weekend… Well that’s clearly your bad. Nothing should be shared anymore… you’re divorced… cut the ties and let go. This was a favor, now you have to rebuild your music collection ON YOUR OWN.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/22 10:21 PM
1	[NJ] How was your experience in the custody mediation ? You’re talking about economic mediation. Custody/parenting time mediation is in-courthouse with judiciary staff trained to mediate custody issues. There’s no time restrictions and it’s free for the litigants.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/22 04:47 AM
1	[NJ] Is it possible to get equal custody of 2 yr old without trial? Did your custody evaluator meet with stbxw? What about collateral witnesses? Your stbxw is entitled to rebut your expert with her own custody evaluator. If you don’t reach an agreement then the issue of custody will be scheduled for a plenary hearing. If the complaint for divorce includes a request to establish custody then you can get a plenary hearing scheduled during a case management conference. Otherwise, a motion to establish custody is needed and the court will hear the motion, and then c…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/22 04:43 PM
6	[NJ] How was your experience in the custody mediation ? You are required to resolve issues of custody and parenting time before almost anything else happens in your divorce. The Court should order you to custody/parenting time mediation, which is a court program with mediators right in the courthouse. Only if mediation fails will a judge decide custody issues. And there is a lot of pressure on the litigants and their attorneys to bring back a signed consent order resolving issues of custody/parenting time. The judge may send you back to mediation and…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/22 11:45 AM
2	Self Employed, How do I/court determine my annual income? You have to determine what you believe your income is and prove it to the court (or be prepared to prove it). You’re self-employed and you had a weird year last year. So that $11k is an anomaly, and your spouse would surely argue against its use in averaging income over 3 years. The court would likely impute income to you in the amount of what you could have earned. The court could also take the average of the other 2 years and impute that number to you for year 3. If one of these calculations i…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/22 03:39 AM
1	Divorce without support It sounds like you’re amicable. Have you had a conversation with her about this? Now would be the time. You’re going to have to keep contributing to the martial residence for a while. You’ve got 4 kids, it’s not so simple to just up and move. She needs to find a full time job. And depending on her education level and skills her potential income would be imputed to her. The financial burden of the house has to slowly shift her way. If you can avoid an alimony obligation by settling amicably, by y…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/08/22 10:05 PM
1	My friend thinks he is being abused. Can he move out while he is seeking a divorce or legal separation? Not if he wants to retain the marital residence. Once he leaves he’ll never get back in. If he does decide to leave he better take all of his own personal property. If it’s marital and he takes it he will likely have to compensate his souse for her share of the value of the item. Anything he leaves in the house can “disappear” or never existed or he took it when he left idk what he’s talking abt.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/22 03:14 AM
1	Contacting EX while having a TRO Violating the TRO, which prohibits you from contacting her in any way, is a crime and you will be prosecuted for it, whether she wants that or not. It is also an aggravating factor which may be considered at the FRO hearing. If you want to communicate with her you can only do so through your lawyer. If you think you’re dealing with a clusterfuck now, go ahead and contact her and see how things really go to hell after that. The unchecked no contact section either doesn’t need to be checked or was…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/22 03:17 AM
2	It’s going on two years and very little has been decided in my divorce. My lawyer is telling me that we can’t go to trial and everything needs to be done little by little. Is he lying? You can’t pay for the result. It’s that simple. The courts have broad discretion in application of the law, in assessing your credibility, and in making findings of fact. There is no attorney in the world who can guarantee a specific outcome in any case, especially divorce (and to do so would be unethical). So what you’re paying for is the attorney’s knowledge, expertise, and experience as a divorce lawyer. Whether you hire an incompetent attorney is on you, but no attorney can guarantee you the…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/22 06:16 AM
1	It’s going on two years and very little has been decided in my divorce. My lawyer is telling me that we can’t go to trial and everything needs to be done little by little. Is he lying? Yeah but it’s true, you didn’t go to law school or pass the bar. And you chose to hire an attorney. Divorce is complicated and without a lawyer you would be worse off. Divorce lawyers charge the fees they charge because people like you are willing to pay them. An attorney who practices in the same courts regularly, knows the judges, knows the law clerks, knows the court staff, and has a professional relationship with opposing counsel is worth their weight in gold. You’re paying for the lawyer’s …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/22 05:09 AM
1	What do you think of circumcision? Where are you from?	/r/MensRights	01/03/22 08:29 PM
0	What do you think of circumcision? Lol! Oh ok, my bad! I didn’t know dick scent was this discernible scent that can be smelled in public. I’ve only smelled dick when my face is in someone’s crotch. But really, this must be a joke. The scent of dick is not wafting around a room.	/r/MensRights	28/02/22 07:30 AM
2	What do you think of circumcision? How old were you when this happened?	/r/MensRights	28/02/22 07:19 AM
12	What do you think of circumcision? I guess my question is HOW would she know that it was your DICK as opposed to any other body part? And how did she say this to you? “Hey son, your dick is smelly.” I just can’t imagine hearing that from my mom…	/r/MensRights	27/02/22 05:50 PM
11	What do you think of circumcision? Still doesn’t really give enough context. How would your mother know it was your dick that stanks? I’m confused.	/r/MensRights	27/02/22 05:11 PM
1	“women are usually the primary caretakers of children so of course they would get custody. also 91% of fathers don’t even file for custody of their kids and when they do they win shared custody 60% of the time” 3-4-4-3 allows more regular access to the kids for each parent. Some don’t want to have a week without them. It also comes down to what is practical and what works best for each parent.	/r/MensRights	24/02/22 02:02 PM
5	Ex just asked me to split monthly child tax credit payments with her (USA residents). Don't know how I feel about it, and wondering if any of y'all have had this discussion? Unless your settlement agreement / judgment of divorce specifically address child tax credits (which it should, but you know better than me) you do not have to give her any of the child tax credit. If she doesn’t like that answer you should advise her to speak with her divorce attorney and if s/he feels she is entitled to half the credit than s/he can send you a letter so stating. Ultimately it’s not enough money to litigate over. I’d tell you to basically ignore her message and don’t give her a…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/22 10:09 PM
1	Wife went for "holiday" with our 3 years old daughter and didn't come back Any source on that claim?	/r/MensRights	22/02/22 01:25 PM
6	Wife went for "holiday" with our 3 years old daughter and didn't come back This is not correct information. “Russia acceded to the 1980 Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (Hague Abduction Convention) on October 1, 2011.” https://www.hcch.net/en/states/hcch-members/details1/?sid=64 Turkey ratified The Hague Convention in 2000. https://www.hcch.net/en/instruments/conventions/status-table/?cid=24	/r/MensRights	22/02/22 04:44 AM
6	“women are usually the primary caretakers of children so of course they would get custody. also 91% of fathers don’t even file for custody of their kids and when they do they win shared custody 60% of the time” Then that is your friend’s doing, or he doesn’t have 50/50. Actual 50/50 custody is a real thing and is slowly moving towards the default custody provision across jurisdictions. One schedule is the 3-4-4-3 schedule. Week 1: parent 1 has kids Sunday afternoon - Wednesday morning school drop off; parent 2 has kids Wednesday afternoon school pick up - Sunday morning. Week 2: parent 1 has kids Sunday afternoon - Thursday morning school drop off; parent 2 has kids Thursday afternoon school pick up - …	/r/MensRights	22/02/22 03:25 AM
4	Wife went for "holiday" with our 3 years old daughter and didn't come back Both Turkey and Russia are parties to The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. You need to contact the equivalent of the “State Department” in Turkey and ask for assistance in the procedure. You can also go onto The Hague Convention website (Google it) and search for your country. Contact information is listed on that website. Turkey has jurisdiction to order the child be returned to Turkey immediately. (Applications under The Hague convention are “summary proc…	/r/MensRights	22/02/22 02:03 AM
1	How effed is my friend who married a sugar baby? If he financially supported the child and stood in loco parentis, which it sounds like he did, he is very much on the hook for child support. Also, depending on the depth of the relationship with the child, he may have a right to reasonable parenting time with the child.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/22 07:19 PM
1	NJ Divorce - no lawyer insight requested No one should get divorced pro se. But if the other party hire’s counsel that is your sign to hire counsel as well. Your 10+ years of separation may exclude certain assets from equitable distribution, but you’re still married for purposes of alimony until the date the complaint for divorce is filed (the “cut-off” date). If she hired an attorney the attorney isn’t going to allow her to waive alimony for no good reason. Obviously I don’t know all the facts of your case, but divorce is much more co…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/22 11:07 PM
9	Anyone successful in proving cohabitation? Does your MSA define “cohabitation”? My guess is that it does not, and that’s your divorce lawyer’s fault,so have fun litigating the meaning of “cohabitation”. There is likely caselaw in your state that addresses “cohabitation” and you will need to meet that standard. I can tell you that where I practice law your attempt to terminate alimony based on “cohabitation” would be denied. The paramour stays elsewhere half the week? That’s a loser. But get a private investigator to mount a static camera…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/22 01:43 AM
2	How do you divide the assets in a business if one of the spouse has successful business which was established during the length of marriage? Like any other marital asset. Legitimate businesses tend to be complex in a financial sense, and a business also provides ample opportunity for the owner to hide money within the business entity structure. Sometimes people will pay personal expenses out of business accounts (this is illegal but commonly done). This makes them look less wealthy than they are, by not putting the money into their personal account. A forensic accountant is critical to perform an evaluation of the business and provid…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/22 05:45 AM
1	I’m (29M) considering divorcing my wife (28F) due to her failure to contribute anything to our marriage financially. Yes, I can support her and I make a pretty good living. My problem is that I should not need to support her at the level that I am, due to the context of our marriage currently. 4 isn’t 5, correct. Idk what you’re talking about 5 or 10 years but this is an alimony case. The marriage doesn’t need to hit some threshold of 5 years to be eligible for alimony.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/22 07:55 PM
3	I’m (29M) considering divorcing my wife (28F) due to her failure to contribute anything to our marriage financially. Yes, I can support her and I make a pretty good living. My problem is that I should not need to support her at the level that I am, due to the context of our marriage currently. The fact that you’re in a divorce subreddit seeking advice means divorce is the correct option for you. You are over this marriage. It will not get better. File for divorce. The sooner you file for divorce the sooner you can finish paying her alimony. Depending on your State, you may be kinda fucked in the alimony dept. 4 year marriage, you earn “6 figures”, she works part time at minimum wage (what is the min wage for her?), you’ve covered all her bills and expenses… if y’all been living this w…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/22 03:00 PM
1	Soon to be Ex wife wants help? I imagine there is not a custody order in place yet. But yes, OP needs to ensure that the drinking issue is addressed in court. The court will monitor mom if OP makes credible allegations and/or mom cannot rebut same. If the court finds that mom has a drinking problem she will not be given custody. It’s unfortunate because this is often devastating to a mother. Many are drinking because of their circumstances—not that that is an excuse for being a habitual drunk. Taking the kids away can cause m…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/22 03:01 AM
17	Soon to be Ex wife wants help? It means she’s fucking crazy. Continue on with getting divorced. She can Google how to “fix” the music from Apple TV. It also means she’s testing you—can I take advantage of him and to what extent? She may be unsure of her rash decision to end your marriage. Maybe the boyfriend is not as great as she thought. Regardless, if you help her clean or fix the Apple TV you are showing her that she can take advantage of you. She will continue to test this, each time taking it a little bit farther than t…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 08:21 AM
2	[deleted by user] Parental alienation is an issue, and to the extent possible it should be addressed in Court so that dad can enforce an Order which holds mom in contempt and/or monetary sanctions. Where is the data to back up the claim about new partners? Children are extremely adaptable to a variety of situations. They have more resilience than adults think. I can’t agree that a new partner would not be beneficial—it depends on the circumstances. What if dad died instead of divorce? That somehow makes the same …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/22 07:22 PM
-2	[deleted by user] I am genuinely wondering what you think a better alternative would be? Should your ex not be able to start a new relationship? Should your children stay with your ex Sunday pm-Wednesday am and switch to you for Wednesday pm-Sunday am? This type of split 50/50 parenting is the legal trend. But there is something to be said about stability during the school week. Switching houses mid-week may become second nature to a child but it can also be a huge bump in their week.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/22 05:28 AM
4	Should I divorce before or after vowel renewal? Well this question went from 0-60 real quick. If you want a divorce then tell her it’s not working and hand her a copy of the filed Complaint for Divorce. It’s not like she hasn’t been on notice that you want a divorce—you told her in July. To renew your vows knowing that you intend to get divorced soon after is a fucked up thing to do. You can’t be serious with that question. You need to put your money into a separate bank account that she doesn’t have access to (and preferably doesn’t even kno…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/22 10:34 PM
1	Since I've been divorced I've had to contact law enforcement around a dozen times regarding enforcing my custody time with my children. I've had my ex attack a process server with her car and take the kids out of state violating two separate court orders and dealt with neglect of their healthcare. Are your kids happy with mom? Do you think you should file for custody? Your situation is not the norm but it is not unusual either. Think of a bell curve. Most people fall into the middle. Totally sane, compliant, perfect parent on the one end and psychotic, manipulative, selfish parent on the other end. Most in between both, canceling some of their bad tendencies out with their good ones.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/21 05:53 AM
1	She Waited 6 Weeks I understand your visceral reaction. It’s understandable. You should consider seeing a therapist to work through this specific life event. The bottom line is you need to come around to the fact that she did not cause this. You both are the reason your marriage is over. You weren’t happy in the marriage (whether you were cognizant of that or not). She’s taking steps to be happy. You need to follow her lead on that, but without her. And why are you Facebook friends with her? Delete her.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/10/21 08:53 PM
3	If she ask for a divorce but don't Psychologically she won’t have the guilt of initiating the divorce. You are the asshole husband that filed for divorce from your loving wife. Not having to pay the filing fee to the Court is not a reason. She will have to pay a filing fee to file an Answer to the Complaint. If she is not the breadwinner, she has no incentive to file for divorce and she has every incentive to remain in the marriage as it slowly dies. The breadwinner’s financial liability to her increases over time, and even 1 add…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/21 06:58 AM
1	Do i still need to help pay mortgage even though my name is not on the deed? If you paid the mortgage during the marriage you should continue to pay the mortgage during your divorce. If you paid a percentage you should continue contributing that percentage. Maintaining the status quo is the goal during the divorce process, while the status of the mortgage once you’re divorced is negotiated (along with all other assets and liabilities). If you choose to stop contributing towards the mortgage or any other expense you can be ordered to reimburse your spouse for that expense…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/21 03:15 AM
1	Not sure what to do here. Need advice. Retain an attorney and begin the divorce process. She has no incentive (it sounds like) to initiate the divorce. Prolonging your marriage will potentially harm you in the divorce (exposure to greater alimony, exposure to liability on additional debts, exposure to increased equitable distribution with respect to your assets and retirement accounts, etc.). Your STBX’s extra marital relationship is not worth any of your energy. It will not give you a leg up in your divorce. It cannot be inferred th…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/21 10:27 PM
1	Is marriage worth it? A temporary restraining order would remove him from the marital residence until the court decides whether it should be dismissed or converted into a final restraining order. In the former, he can re-enter the marital residence and remain there. In the latter, he will be permanently barred from entering the marital home. If he owned the marital residence on his own prior to the marriage it is, on its face, separate property not subject to property distribution in divorce. Separate property, or pr…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/09/21 03:37 PM
1	Is marriage worth it? Is that a fact? Same-sex couples might not agree with that.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/09/21 03:19 PM
1	Is marriage worth it? This is a well-written critique of marriage. While the male-female gender dynamic is generally true, I would remove that aspect from the discussion. There are men who marry women for their money. There are same-sex couples that experience the same thing. Marriage itself has changed so drastically, as OP explains, that it’s irrelevant who is participating in the marriage. All that matters is 1 person is in it for their benefit and the other is in it to their detriment (whether knowingly or not).	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/21 11:02 PM
2	Unresponsive Attorney I am a divorce attorney and I deal with the balancing act of more pressing cases needing attention vs clients wanting to speak with me or meet with me. It’s a difficult thing to manage sometimes, and the attorney knows what needs to be prioritized. Attorneys get busy and fail to return phone calls. I emphasize to clients that emailing me will get them a response in 24 hours. A phone call may never get returned. But if a client has called me 5 times they are getting a call back. In fact, if a cli…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/03/21 02:21 AM
-1	Is this verbal abuse? I don’t know if it’s verbal abuse. “Abuse” itself is a subjective idea. In a legal sense, “abuse” is both subjective and objective. Something might seem verbally abusive but whether it rises to the level of abuse such that society deems to be unacceptable and, thus, legally abusive is the general inquiry. I’m a lawyer and I would suggest that none of this is relevant to your divorce, aside from being one of the events that lead to the divorce itself. The only other aspect of this that seems rele…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/21 07:36 PM
2	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? 7 years together does not create a marriage. That is a myth that has no basis in the law. “Common law marriage” is a real thing in limited jurisdictions. These marriages are lawful in Colorado, D.C., Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Rhode Island, Texas, and Utah. There is no time requirement, like 7 years, but rather that a couple holds themself out to the community as a married couple, acts as a married couple, does everything an otherwise married couple would do, etc. It is fact-specific.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/21 09:27 PM
2	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? Yes, lawyers can and do craft aspects of agreements that leave the opposing party with nothing. (How do you think we have jobs?) But to really get a windfall is not the typical result. The typical result is that each party can live with the terms of the agreement. Neither party is particularly happy, but no one is totally outraged either. In other words, it’s fair. With respect to your hypothetical, yes divorce is a complicated thing. You ever hear someone say they cannot afford to get divorced?…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/21 02:43 PM
1	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? Unlike child support, alimony or spousal support is not based on a standard calculation or mathematical formula. Rather, alimony is based on the relative financial circumstances of the parties. There are factors that are considered but no single factor is more important than any other. And anything can be considered so long as the court believes it’s fair to do so. I don’t mean that a court can hold adultery against a cheating spouse and order that spouse to pay more support because of it. Thing…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/21 02:05 PM
1	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? Well, first, I am not a GA attorney so this should not be understood as legal advice. But I am certain a GA court would engage in a similar analysis of all relevant factors. One factor is the ability to pay. If the non-custodial party doesn’t have an income it’s hard to require them to pay a support order. Notwithstanding a lack of income, another factor is whether the non-custodial party is voluntarily unemployed or underemployed with consideration to their education level, job training, and ot…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/21 07:15 PM
5	can a judge really force you to pay child support if you both agreed none is needed? Child support is a legal right belonging to the child. Parents cannot contractually agree to limit or terminate a child’s right to financial support. For starters, public policy favors placing the financial burden of raising a child on the parents instead of the taxpayers. Moreover, 2 people cannot contractually agree to limit or terminate a 3rd person’s rights. Thus, parents cannot enter into an agreement to terminate their responsibility to financially support their child. I am a family law at…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/21 08:05 AM
1	Wife got served What was her reaction? Was she aware you were filing for divorce or was it a surprise?	/r/Divorce_Men	20/11/20 05:25 AM
1	Supervised visits and my ex You got bamboozled.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/19 11:48 PM
3	Supervised visits and my ex What circumstances gave rise to your ex having sole custody of your 4 children? Why is your parenting time supervised? And what conditions are attached to it? So you know, you do not have “standard” parenting time. You have supervised parenting time. The court made findings of fact (or, as you said, you agreed to this) and determined your parenting time must be supervised as that is in the best interest of your children. This legal standard may vary slightly in wording but all jurisdictions have…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/19 11:39 PM
3	Supervised visits and my ex Supervised parenting time does not mean there’s a GaL. And based on OP’s post he does not seem to insinuate there’s a GaL. Plus, they’ve got a presumably mutually agreed upon 3rd party supervising his parenting time. Likely no GaL.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/19 11:25 PM
2	Do wives pay alimony? The purpose of alimony/spousal support is to ensure that both spouses are able to maintain the standard of living to which they were accustomed during the marriage upon their divorce. There are different types of support but generally support is based on the historical income of the parties during the marriage. In this case, it sounds like the husband had no historical income during the marriage and did not even earn an income until the end of the marriage. Thus, to what extent did the wife rely…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/19 11:55 PM