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vitrael3/r/RPChristians08/12/24 04:33 AM
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vitrael3/r/RPChristians28/07/25 08:57 PM
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vitrael3/r/RPChristians13/07/26 03:33 PM
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vitrael3/r/RPChristians27/03/26 03:23 PM
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/r/rpchristians
/r/askMRP29/07/26 03:33 PM
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You should get on a progressive program. Doing this daily is not going to do anything after a week or two at most.
/r/RPChristians22/06/26 05:42 PM
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Essentially she doesnt want to be a more sexual person ... with you. Don't have absolute lifting stats How can you be training with barbells for 6 months and not know how much you can lift?
/r/RPChristians22/06/26 03:08 PM
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do the things that drive attraction This works educate her and try to open her mind up the idea that should and could be more sexual This does not work So we are on different pages, and i need help. Why does that even matter? You say elsewhere in the post that you initiate often and learned not to be hurt by rejection. She's just still saying no more than you like. Fine, whatever--you're not going to "educate" her out of this condition. You didn't mention anything about your physical condition. …
/r/RPChristians22/06/26 01:57 PM
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There is no book that will teach you to understand your own fear. Do you think the answer is "out there somewhere?" It's not. I'm assuming you read the sidebar. You have everything you need already. The answer is inside. Stop thinking and being a pussy. Tell her to put the heels on. Or, you know, just accept being a pussy. That is the other congruent choice. Most suffering comes from being incongruent, being unwilling to do what it takes to have what you really want.
/r/askMRP18/04/26 07:47 PM
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Does "not being a complete fucking pussy" count as a resource?
/r/askMRP18/04/26 04:34 PM
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Scripture does not forbid women from working; rather, it affirms work under proper order: “She worketh willingly with her hands” (Proverbs 31:13), while still recognizing headship: “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her” (Proverbs 31:11). Yes, there were women working outside the household in Solomon’s time but those examples do not reflect the Proverbs 31 woman specifically. Distinction without a difference. These are exceptional cases within God’s providence, not the stated norm. I…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 07:48 PM
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And it is limited to the home; she isn’t going to work outside the home like modern women do. What part of considering, buying, and planting a field is "limited to the home?" What does "the home" even mean in this context? Can a woman not work even if her husband approves of it, as Lemuel apparently does? Moreover, if God's pattern for women's work is "limited to the home," what do you do with Deborah, Esther, and Lydia? This reflects godly instruction in the home and influence within her circle…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 06:33 PM
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Complementarianism, by contrast, teaches that men and women are equal in worth before God but have distinct, complementary roles Is fully compatible with your definition of Biblical patriarchy. typically Which means "not definitionally" limiting male headship to the home and church while affirming broader participation of women in education, work, and many areas of society These are strange inclusions to me. If your view of "Biblical patriarchy" does not include "broader participation of women i…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 05:01 PM
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I can't even respond to your comment in the thread without getting an error 500. But I did want to expand on our different positions on "complimentarianism." You wrote: The church, in response, has redefined the roles in marriage under Complementarianism, a less distasteful term for the society at large. Complementarianism, while reflecting much of what God has ordained in marriage, falls short of the Patriarchal structure that was the standard for thousands of years. It is essentially the churc…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 04:27 PM
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Oh. I didn't know blocking was a thing on reddit.
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 04:20 PM
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lol just clicked the profile. of course it's polygamy. of course.
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 11:51 AM
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Pretty bold ad hominem, there You called every Christian I have ever met IRL a heretic. "heresy" is probably the wrong word considering there are those that hold those positions that are legitimate brothers I'm glad you are willing to walk it back. I hold to my point that when a guy says, "all churches are heretical unless they teach this thing I believe," it's typically because they are angry that the church won't approve of their sin. Since this is RP, we can assume it's not the usual (LGBTQ).…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 11:49 AM
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Complementarianism and feminism in the church aren't just theological errors on a spectrum. They are heresies... I'm sympathetic to the "feminized church bad" argument, and also to the "Genesis 3 ordinance for marriage is core orthodoxy" argument, but I think this is a rather careless way to state it. Not every complementarian view is heretical. At its core, the complementarian view is simply, "men and women are different, their roles are different, and in a complementary way." "Complementary ro…
/r/RPChristians27/03/26 01:19 AM
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An important principle to remember is that everything is your fault. If you go blaming the woman/women, you will just see problems that you can't do anything about. There's something wrong with you. I don't know what it is, since you haven't been forthcoming about it. Whatever it is, it led you to date a divorced woman despite obvious red flags, and to take advantage of her sexually. It's probably the same thing keeping you from finding a high quality woman right now. You need to be real with yo…
/r/RPChristians13/03/26 03:57 PM
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Can anyone offer some guidance or perspective on this? Not without knowing more about you. Stats? (Height, weight, BF %, lifts) What makes you a good, or bad, long term choice for a woman who has options? What is your spiritual life like? As a chief area of concern, why did you fornicate with this last girlfriend, and is that your intention for the next one?
/r/RPChristians11/03/26 05:28 PM
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Agree with the above; at age 24, you don't have ED.
/r/RPChristians05/03/26 10:39 PM
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What does this have to do with RP?
/r/RPChristians23/02/26 07:48 PM
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OYS 62. Physical: 6'2" / 195lbs, 18% BF. Stroke recovery: Not yet 100%. I'm can do everything without symptoms except work. I have three more weeks off work with the baby. Training: lifting or cardio 6x/week consistently. Benching 285, deadlift 405, zercher squat ~225 (new exercise for me). Diet: been overeating and need to return to maintenance. Sex: very little, it's the baby's fault. He won't sleep without being held right now. Mental/Emotional: Newborn phase is hard, but I'm happier and more…
/r/RPChristians17/02/26 06:34 PM
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Stop catastrophizing. God can break your addiction and heal your heart. I was addicted to porn for 25 years. Now I haven't looked at porn since 2024. My sexual sin did hurt my marriage, but it healed. He did it for me, and He can do it for you. Set your mind to this.
/r/RPChristians13/02/26 03:46 PM
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You're supposed to insert tab A into slot B my guy.
/r/RPChristians05/02/26 09:00 PM
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It's not bizarre. It's a very old problem. But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people. 1 Corinthians 5
/r/RPChristians03/02/26 07:03 PM
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The sidebar material has the answers
/r/RPChristians03/02/26 07:01 PM
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I mean obvious to people with access to sidebar material
/r/RPChristians03/02/26 07:01 PM
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Be awesome. Believe that you are great and attractive. Live your life accordingly. If you live for validation from dating apps or even from women, you are gonna have a bad time.
/r/RPChristians02/02/26 08:23 PM
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Unfortunately there are no Christian creators that are correctly diagnosing the trials of our current reality & offering a solution. Even though the diagnosis is already there. If you have correctly diagnosed the problem, why do you need someone else to offer a solution? You know what does not work--don't do that. Part of the reason there is so little content out there is this stuff is so obvious. As Prax said, "be cool, love people, have boundaries" -- this stuff will not sell books or go viral…
/r/RPChristians02/02/26 06:43 PM
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Listening to absolutely degenerate fools and having fun doing it is not recommended. The reason they have big audiences is they are worldly.
/r/RPChristians02/02/26 05:21 PM
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Paul commended both celibacy and marriage in 1 Cor 7:7-9 depending on the individual. It's not accurate to simply say "Paul recommended singleness" because it neglects Paul's extensive teaching on marriage in multiple letters. The same can be said for Jesus.
/r/RPChristians26/01/26 06:20 PM
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OYS 61. Physical: 6'2" / 193lbs / 18% BF. Post stroke: was feeling 100% but regressed when my son was born. I'm still >90% back most days. I'm in the gym 6-7 days/week. Strength is 70% of baseline. Cardio 3x week. Physique is doughy but improving. Elbow injury improved. Sex: wife is about 2 weeks post partum. I can still get a BJ. That was unthinkable in past pregnancies. Frequency is poor but I'm not scoreboarding. Mental/Emotional: I'm done being anxious about my stroke recovery. I know what h…
/r/RPChristians26/01/26 06:16 PM
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I am not afraid of leading, I am afraid of leading Summary of your perspective
/r/RPChristians17/01/26 09:54 PM
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Issue: she is extremely passive and anxious. Low initiative, avoids confrontation, waits for me to lead everything, rarely asks clarifying questions about status or direction, regulates herself by deferring rather than engaging. Very agreeable, very soft. In other words, the ideal woman. I can lead - but I’m not sure I consent to a dynamic where I am permanently the initiator, regulator, and driver. I don’t want a father-child dynamic or a relationship sustained by my constant output. Options: b…
/r/RPChristians17/01/26 03:50 PM
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Reddit is gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/26 01:21 AM
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OYS 60. Physical 6'2" / 191lbs / 18% BF. Stroke recovery: about 1 month post, nearly back to 100%. Went to the gym 5 times/week. Steadily adding more time at high heart rate and adding weights to build back up. Also working on injury rehab every day with good results. Diet: maintenance. Sex: variety is in the toilet, need to fix post-partum. Mental / Emotional Two weeks ago I quit thinking so much about my medical problems. It was the right choice. The stroke and recovery research was occupying …
/r/RPChristians07/01/26 02:17 PM
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The stroke adds a greater sense of urgency. I hadn't seriously considered that I may not live to see 40, or that I may spend much of my life disabled. The mission itself hasn't changed. My personal obedience to God, and making wise disciples of my family, are foremost.
/r/RPChristians25/12/25 06:12 PM
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OYS 59. Physical 6'2" / 192lbs / 18% BF. Long story short, I seemingly had a small stroke two weeks ago. (For the long story, see my post in /r/stroke) My main goal right now is to rehab so I can work and enjoy life normally again. I'm not medically cleared to lift heavy right now; my training goal is to maintain as best I can with my restrictions until I am cleared for all exercise. My diet is focused on recovery as well. Mental / Emotional The stroke disrupted my routines, at first because I w…
/r/RPChristians23/12/25 05:55 PM
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Thanks /u/rocknrollchuck for fixing the automod. It's been a few months since I posted an OYS here and not on discord. OYS 58 or so Physical Still 193lbs and circa ~18% BF. Basically same as 4 months ago. Training is about the same. Living pain free is one of my primary goals in this area. My sciatica and hamstring injury is totally healed up, but I have not been taking care of the elbow tendonitis. I will be adjusting training and rehab so that can heal again. Sex: Is just fine Diet: maintenanc…
/r/RPChristians01/12/25 11:10 AM
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It's really simple, you say "no."
/r/RPChristians29/11/25 05:19 PM
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You should stop using porn
/r/RPChristians17/11/25 07:16 PM
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You should not make extrapolations from scripture that are contrary to what the scriptures teach. Sanctification is not a human work. Of course a husband must lead his wife, but he cannot "sanctify" her any more than he can make atonement, justify, or save. The moment that you say any of these things, you no longer have Christianity, but self-worship.
/r/RPChristians11/11/25 03:06 PM
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Ephesians 5 doesn't mention sanctification. Sanctification is a unique work of God through the Holy Spirit. See Romans 1:4, 2 Thessalonians 2:13, and 1 Peter 1:2. Whenever the word "sanctification" is used, it's always described as a work of God alone. I don't care what Deepstrength or other random bloggers think. I read the scriptures.
/r/RPChristians11/11/25 02:47 PM
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He described his predatory fornication right in the post. The problem with your perspective that you are is downplaying fornication as not "monstrous," and in doing so, you agree with the world rather than the scripture. But in Biblical times, OP would have been legally required to marry his first victim, pay the bride price to her father, and would be stuck married to her forever. Our broken culture instead permits him to carry on his predatory ways and do this with as many women as he wants. S…
/r/RPChristians11/11/25 02:37 PM
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I am aware I can either destroy her or sanctify her into a greater woman and I desire to do the latter. No, you don't. Only the Spirit can sanctify. Work on yourself. Nothing about your post or responses sound like they were written by a Christian.
/r/RPChristians11/11/25 02:32 PM
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Impossible to tell from your post
/r/RPChristians11/11/25 02:28 PM
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Are you following Jesus?
/r/RPChristians10/11/25 01:54 PM
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When it comes to discerning, "is that behavior RP or BP?" it's not the man's external behavior that matters, but his internal psychology. Is he his own mental point of origin? If no, then asking this question will lead to forming covert contracts. The guy living in his wife's frame cannot truly serve her. He shouldn't ask this question. If yes, then he lives in his own frame, and asking this question is perfectly fine.
/r/RPChristians29/09/25 04:16 PM
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Going to church is not optional. See Hebrews 10:24-25 and Acts 2:42-47. You are a member in the body of Christ. Find a church with good theology (any church that professes biblical inerrancy will work) and go. The side bar has lots of good information, but it's not a substitute for communing with the body of Christ. The enemy wants you to be cut off from the church, lonely, ineffective, without meaning, not accountable to anyone else, etc. Do not concede that ground to him. "I don't feel like I …
/r/RPChristians29/09/25 03:54 PM
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Yes, that's exactly what I mean. I'm not an expert in evangelism or anything though.
/r/RPChristians19/08/25 08:24 PM
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I tried the most basic evangelism possible: that my faith is reasonable because it's falsifiable. 99% of philosophical arguments are ineffective. People don't believe for emotional and spiritual reasons. The most basic kind of evangelism is witnessing, not apologetics.
/r/RPChristians19/08/25 02:15 PM
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It sounds like you are criticizing the sacramental eucharist as a means of grace, which I completely agree with (I'm not Catholic ofc). I'm Calvinist until someone can convince me otherwise. I actually don't think John 6 really has much to do with the sacrament of eucharist. It sounds like it does, but Jesus was addressing a crowd of unbelievers in the synagogue. It would be an entire year afterwards that he taught the eleven about communion at the last supper (as it's near passover in Ch6). If …
/r/RPChristians06/08/25 08:36 PM
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What do you mean by "destroys the eucharist?"
/r/RPChristians06/08/25 06:17 PM
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Working hard at understanding John 6 and eucharist. Currently believe that lord's supper is representative only and not literal manifestation of Christ. I'm working on memorizing that chapter right now. My opinion: similar to His teaching in parables at other times, Jesus speaking of "eating flesh" and "drinking blood" was intentionally veiling His meaning so that "hearing, they would not hear" when He addressed unbelieving crowds in the synagogue. In v63, He clarifies His true meaning, and stil…
/r/RPChristians04/08/25 07:54 PM
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"How to pick a study Bible?" If you can't solve this problem on your own, think about how that reflects on your masculinity.
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 07:56 PM
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Saying "he's deferential" is just another way of saying "he's avoiding conflict." You haven't gone any deeper. Why is he deferential and conflict avoidant? That's what this post is about.
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 06:30 PM
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Why do you think he is avoiding conflict with his wife?
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 02:33 PM
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Any resources I can look into for Bible study + in depth commentary, especially with a foundation in Hebrew / Greek? Low end: Logos bible app, study Bibles High end: Bible college Mid would be online study of Greek, devotional books, etc. Lots of free courses and self-study options. Marriage: I haven’t had sex in a month, deliberately. 3 weeks ago I had a pretty ugly outburst when my desires were unmet (thankfully I was alone when it happened, I didn’t blow up at my wife). I have removed sex to …
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 02:32 PM
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Doesn't this mean that some problems truly are external to my own issues? If you define a problem as being outside your control, e.g. "my wife's psychology," you are automatically not in frame. You are just playing the victim. My best-guess answer is akin to Horns' series on anxious and depressed wives, where he points out that even if the origin of the problem is external... Remember how the title of the first post was, "HOW IT IS ALL YOUR FAULT?" All of your problems are 100% your problems. Th…
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 02:20 PM
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Honest question: is it negotiating desire when you're simply trying to encourage your wife to conceptualize of sex in an emotionally desirous way? Yes. That's EXACTLY what negotiated desire is. My idea was to use emotionally charged language around sex to start fostering positive connections I don't know what that means. It sounds like a bunch of BS. For example, I bought a better vibrator for her, but she refuses to use it because she's used to the old one that's bulky and noisy. Covert contrac…
/r/RPChristians29/07/25 02:48 PM
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is it truly inhabiting my wife's frame if I am frank on my OYS that marriage is the only part of my life that is unfulfilling? If you dwell upon your marriage, and write about it every week, whose frame is it? I want to see a positive vision for your life that is not defined by who your wife is.
/r/RPChristians29/07/25 02:13 PM
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All behavior has a reason behind it. Yes, he is trying to avoid conflict with his wife. But why? He's miserable, shouldn't he just have the conflict? Trace the thread of reasoning and you will find the ego at the bottom.
/r/RPChristians29/07/25 02:04 PM
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Faith: Literally the same scores and descriptions as last week, with exception of Fellowship which was more like an 8/10 instead of a 4. Three different days I was having good fellowship with a brother in Christ, made my goal of being more social this week. It's not a good sign that this is consistently the shortest section. The Frame, family, and career section are often just more time to talk about your wife, whose frame you still perpetually inhabit.
/r/RPChristians28/07/25 09:17 PM
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I initiated every time I genuinely felt desire, something like 6 initiations this week and all rejected. Good I ended talk by briefly sharing my vision for our sexuality being a form of worship, being a way to enjoy and pursue each other, etc., and she said she would think about that and go to bed. Negotiated desire but I know that I need to try bold things if I'm going to re-orient my wife's mindset about intimacy. What do these rejections actually look like? How much do you push on her resista…
/r/RPChristians28/07/25 09:16 PM
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Very smart and articulate people have been socialists. Does that make socialism a sound economic system for producing wealth? In the same way, total morons and even predators have publicly professed Christ. If we follow your syllogism: All of this makes me 2/10 wonder if the entire Bible is just psychobabble made up by comparable kinds of people What then do you say about your faith in Christ? It's acceptable to have doubts and ask questions. I am just trying to shine a light on the condition of…
/r/RPChristians28/07/25 09:10 PM
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Why are you not fully confident in your own salvation?
/r/RPChristians21/07/25 08:58 PM
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Confident no BS initiations with no covert contracts are attractive. They work. I honestly think that even if your wife hates your guts, and does her best to emasculate you with each rejection, she can't help but get attracted when you genuinely DNGAF anymore. then wife initiated hard once. Which is why this follows rejection.
/r/RPChristians21/07/25 08:55 PM
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OYS 56 Physical 6'2" / 193lbs / 15-18% BF Lifted 3x, not running due to sciatica Injuries: elbow tendonitis fixed, working on sciatica Sex: Pregnancy. Sex varies day by day. Can be awesome, or not even worth the effort. Diet: Mini cut to prepare for long winter bulk Mental/Emotional Reading: Butterfield, Tozer, looking at starting "Eve in Exile" next as I think through raising daughters. Work: I can typically do my job in 20 hrs/week. My problem is filling the remaining time with low value tasks…
/r/RPChristians21/07/25 08:50 PM
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Spiritual: Similar story to last week: good things happening, God's presence is growing, and I'm more focused on my own repentance. What does this look like? We have a basic seven list, which might be a good place to start
/r/RPChristians14/07/25 11:35 PM
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OYS 55 Physical 6'2" / 192lbs / 15-18% BF Lifted 3x, ran 2x including an 8 mile trail. I hit a 225x7 pause bench which I think is a PR. Diet has been sloppy but still maintaining weight. Injuries: Found a stretch that fixed my elbow tendonitis in like 15 minutes. Amazing. I still have something that feels like a mild sciatica but haven't solved it yet. Sex: Not great. Pregnancy is a drag. I'm providing duty/comfort sex, the quality is bad, and I'm not very attracted. The plan is to wait it out. …
/r/RPChristians14/07/25 01:27 PM
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Do calf raises one leg at a time so you can use less weight. Do them some way that isn't axially loading the spine, like seated calf raise or pressing on leg press. I just do them on a stair, holding one dumbbell for resistance. You definitely have a breathing & bracing problem to fix, but you can also make it easier on yourself by just not putting your spine under heavy weight to train calves. Save heavy axial loading for big compound movements like squats and deadlifts. You can only take so mu…
/r/RPChristians09/07/25 04:32 PM
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OYS 54 Physical 6'2" / 192lbs / 15-18% BF Lifted 2x, ran 2x, a few rest days over the holiday weekend Adjusting training for a bit due to two minor injuries Diet was sloppy for 2 weeks and I crept up 2lbs while I was aiming to maintain. Will fix. Sex: Mixed. Frequency is still good, quality varies. Wife is pregnant and suddenly touch-averse, a new challenge for me. I have had success with a high-emotion approach to sex, where I verbally affirm her. I can tell she is anxious about "not performing…
/r/RPChristians07/07/25 04:48 PM
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she just isn’t into sex With you. Remember that. I feel like a dancing monkey... It feels like manipulation Accurate. need to lose about 20 pounds... I’ve read all the books and attempted to internalize... Don't be fat. The weight loss should be done in 90 days. Internalize the content. Do all the things you already know you need to do. You need frame. Guys who know they need to do X, Y, Z, but don't do it--how can they ever build a frame? They can't even begin to believe in themselves. Don't be…
/r/RPChristians01/07/25 02:41 PM
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Spiritual: I am beginning to pray for my wife again during individual prayer, which my heart has been hardened against for years. This is great news, and it's evidence of the Spirit's fruitfulness in your life. Got signed consent for the two most important ones, MMR and Tdap, when just a month ago there wasn’t a prayer of this happening. You are beginning to be someone who she can feel safe with. Remember that down deep, that's all she really needs right now. The stronger you are, the better you…
/r/RPChristians30/06/25 02:54 PM
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OYS 53 Physical 6'2" / 190lbs / 15-18% BF Lifted 4x, ran 2x Getting some biceps tendonitis from too much training; working around it Been focusing on training delts and forearms more and it's paying some great physique dividends. Would highly recommend hitting forearms directly 2-3x week if you've never done it before and don't do manual labor. Sex: Pregnancy is weird. Had a week or so of depressed wife and starfish. Then overnight she returned to normal, no difference on my end. Mental/Emotiona…
/r/RPChristians30/06/25 02:50 PM
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OYS 52 Physical 6'2" / 190lbs / 15-18% BF Lifted 4x, ran 2x (2 and 4 miles) Back tweak is all better Training quality is improving, reflected on this more below. Diet: Paused mass, back to 3,100kcal/day. Over 2 months, I gained some muscle size but lost a lot of torso definition from excess fat gain. I gained too fast and training wasn't hard enough to support it. I have made this stupid mistake every time I intentionally massed. I think I really learned my lesson this time. Sex: Several days th…
/r/RPChristians23/06/25 03:00 PM
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What you are raising about stoning is off-topic to OP, but you raise another issue that needs to be dealt with so no one is mislead. You are quoting from the Mosaic law, specifically a set of civil laws. At the council of Jerusalem (recorded in Acts 15), Jesus' followers agreed that within the church, people are generally not obligated to follow the Mosaic civil laws, and neither are they obligated to observe certain ceremonial laws, such as kosher laws. They also concluded that Christians are s…
/r/RPChristians22/06/25 07:27 PM
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Proverbs 5
/r/RPChristians21/06/25 02:06 PM
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OYS 51 Physical 6'2" / 189lbs / 12-15% BF Lifted 4x, ran 2x (2 and 5 miles) Tweaked my back on hack squats and had to miss deadlifting this week. Changing some exercises out to continue focusing on hypertrophy and injury prevention. Just being honest with myself, my effort on accessory lifts has been lacking and I need to do better at keeping intensity high and pushing the envelope. Arms and legs are not going to grow anymore without hurting a lot. Diet: 3,300kcal/day. Gaining weight steadily. S…
/r/RPChristians16/06/25 03:16 PM
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Now that you have seen the pattern, you won't be able to un-see it. I had this exact same interaction happen in my own marriage. It's one thing to read a bunch of RP content about fitness testing; it's a very different thing to actually pass, see the the results, and realize your old mental models were completely bunk.
/r/RPChristians12/06/25 06:27 PM
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LOL. I knew when she said that she wants nothing to do with you ever again, that you were definitely getting some within 24 hrs. You are still on the right path.
/r/RPChristians12/06/25 03:21 PM
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OYS 50 Physical 6'2" / 188lbs / 12-15% BF Lifted 4x, ran 2x (7 miles). Progressed multiple lifts. Diet: 3,300kcal/day, massing to 195 Took measurements: Waist 35", Biceps 15", Quads 35". Compared with 1 year ago (when I was 6-7lbs heavier): Waist down 1.5", Biceps up .5", Quads down .5". All good. But I clearly need to go harder on legs, or pick better exercises. Sex is good. Pregnant sex is always a mixed bag, but I like how things are going. I got a big raise. Huge answered prayer. Mental/Emot…
/r/RPChristians09/06/25 01:40 PM
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I read this today. It describes a childhood. What have you done as an adult? How is your spiritual life, your physical fitness, your career, your relationships, etc.? Are any of those things in a shape that people would want to emulate? What is your vision for life, and what have you done to realize it? Why should anybody listen to you about anything? I don't mean this in a critical way, but I'm just telling you how it is. You are trying to be a nonfiction prose writer. Readers for that kind of …
/r/RPChristians07/06/25 02:08 PM
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Why would my opinion, or anyone's opinion matter? It's up to you to decide when and how you will tell her about this, and up to her to decide what she does with it. You are showing symptoms of oneitis.
/r/RPChristians06/06/25 05:55 PM
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What's wrong with saying, "I have sexual sin my past, but I have repented and am restored by grace?" Is that so hard? Also, you have been on one date. Chill out, my dude.
/r/RPChristians06/06/25 04:40 PM
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I haven't read any more classics lately. I have read a few Christian books on recommendations, but mostly my reading time is going to memorization atm. I am working on memorizing the entire Gospel of John.
/r/RPChristians05/06/25 03:08 PM
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Hey, good to see you are still alive. We are still reading the same books apparently. For back pain, I recommend a daily routine of dead bugs and push-up position shoulder taps. You can find demonstrations of these exercises on youtube, and if done correctly they will teach you to brace properly so that you don't strain lower back muscles anymore. Nice work reading the Bible cover to cover. I would encourage you to consider studying a single book in depth next. Wide surveys of reading are great,…
/r/RPChristians03/06/25 09:20 PM
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ty
/r/RPChristians03/06/25 02:02 PM
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OYS 49 Physical 6'2" / 188lbs / 12-15% BF - massing up to 195 Lifted 4x (SBS Hypertrophy week 2) - ran 2x (7 miles) Diet: 500kcal surplus Kept joints in good shape Sex: it's OK, but I was pretty lazy about it. Mental/Emotional Reading: Moving Mountains (John Eldridge) Marriage: Mostly good. There was one evening my wife's behavior toward me was really bad. I handled it well, STFU, and she was blowing me 20 minutes later. I got her pregnant again. Just found out on Saturday. Feeling/Thinking: Try…
/r/RPChristians02/06/25 01:31 PM
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It all comes down to your definition of respect. If we define "respect" as admiration of a person for their good qualities, there is nothing unloving about respecting your wife. If we define "respect" as treating someone as your equal (or worse, your superior), then respecting your wife is sin. See the reason God gave for Adam's curse in Genesis 3:17. Any attempt at reciprocity in a marriage is a covert contract That is correct.
/r/RPChristians31/05/25 01:46 PM
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I have read all of your posts here. Whenever you add a narrative element, it comes in the same form: unnamed guy has a problem, mysterious alpha bunny dispenses wisdom. It still lacks credibility for the same reasons I already explained. Nobody knows who you are. You are at best an enigma, and at worst just an attention seeking nobody. Therefore we have no reason to listen to you. This video explains your problem in more detail: link
/r/RPChristians31/05/25 01:30 PM
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I think I like what you are trying to do, so I will generously share honest feedback: your writing is boring. You don't share anything personal. You have no story, and therefore no credibility. There is nothing to separate this post from 10,000 other dime store Stoics. That is why you are often accused of "AI generated" posts. But it's also clear your posts are not AI generated; you make basic rhetorical errors like titling the post "on growth," without ever mentioning the topic. You clearly hav…
/r/RPChristians30/05/25 02:21 PM
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Some guys own their whole story, including the mistakes, and swap notes so that others might learn the "easy way." Others pretend that their lives are perfect to seek approval from internet strangers. Which would you rather read, anonymous brother?
/r/RPChristians29/05/25 10:01 PM
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Rule 10
/r/RPChristians28/05/25 01:25 PM
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This place is supposed to be for building each other up. I don't know why you are speaking lies over my wife, but to me you read as very insecure, needing to exaggerate everything about yourself ("she prays all day, every day!") to feel like you are enough, while tearing others down. And your wife is way up on a pedestal in your life.
/r/RPChristians28/05/25 01:23 PM
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I wonder what you are doing ranting against redpill in a redpill sub where women are not allowed?
/r/RPChristians28/05/25 12:54 AM
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lol that's some copypasta worthy RPC content if I've ever seen it
/r/RPChristians28/05/25 12:53 AM
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I'm married thank you
/r/RPChristians28/05/25 12:52 AM
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Rule 10
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 10:05 PM
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You are in the wrong sub lady
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 08:41 PM
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You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. Is a silly, cynical, and irrelevant secular RP slogan, nothing more. My wife was raised by agnostic feminists. I was an atheist an predatory male feminist when I met her. Life changes people. God changes people. It happens all the time. Who are you anyway? Are you an expert on finding God-fearing women? Have you married one?
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 08:39 PM
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If you were for real this time, why would she ask you "are you for real this time?"
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 04:07 PM
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Personally I would have had a rage boner
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 01:30 PM
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I processed these things, and the next day, tried being vulnerable. I apologized for my history of weak leadership (arguing/reasoning) and playing the victim (butthurt/pleading) I also affirmed that these issues were raised in the past, but I was too blind to recognize them and make the needed changes. Long pause and I was then asked: “How do I know it’s finally real now?” I said back: “By my fruits you will know. Have I stopped initiating arguments that go nowhere? Do I have thicker skin now wh…
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 01:29 PM
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Made by our Father, led by me.
/r/RPChristians27/05/25 01:11 PM
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This kind of woman is made, not found. You lead her where you want her to go. She follows, or she screens herself out.
/r/RPChristians26/05/25 10:18 PM
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OYS 48 Physical 6'2" / 187lbs / 12-15% BF - massing up to 190 Lifted 4x (SBS Hypertrophy week 1) - ran 1x (8 miles on trails) Diet: pulled back from 3,600kcal to 3,200 per day. Was gaining too fast. Health: Still pain free, but my cold from last week got worse, probably due to too much training. Sex: Meh. I didn't put in much effort this week. Mental/Emotional Reading: Moving Mountains (John Eldridge) - great recommendation on reading about prayer Feeling: All across the board. Tired from traini…
/r/RPChristians26/05/25 02:03 PM
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A woman looking for empathy is not necessarily a comfort test. In this case she pretty much told you exactly what she was looking for, and it was empathy, not comfort. In RP terms, "comfort" is reassurance of the soundness of the relationship. It is different than just empathy. Comfort testing happens when she is feeling insecure about whether the wife goggles are still firmly in place. You providing comfort shows her that they are. You failing to provide comfort is frightening, not aggravating,…
/r/RPChristians23/05/25 02:02 PM
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There is a lot of talk here about tactics, but why are you here? What are your goals?
/r/RPChristians21/05/25 06:29 PM
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What is your working definition of a "comfort test?" What do you think the purpose of a comfort test is?
/r/RPChristians21/05/25 05:26 PM
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How do you personally understand the gospel of Jesus Christ?
/r/RPChristians15/05/25 10:00 PM
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Virtue is a means to an end, not the end itself The first sentence, extra large, bold text. This is called instrumentalism. Prosperity theology boils down to "use God to get healthy and wealthy," i.e. making faith your instrument to get "money, muscles, and game." Jesus taught the exact opposite; virtue, which is obedience to God, is the end itself. Worldly blessings may come, but should not be sought after (Matthew 6:33). Worldly blessing may not come at all (John 16:33), and if it does come, i…
/r/RPChristians15/05/25 02:37 PM
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"Use God to get what you want" is Prosperity theology, which is heresy. And you still have not offered better alternatives for men struggling with modernity. Matthew 6:33
/r/RPChristians13/05/25 04:11 PM
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Rather than take offense at the pragmatic view of scripture give an alternative to the issues men face today. Matthew 6:33 And my overall argument still stands, if you want to acquire good things in life, it requires effort. Your conclusion is correct, obviously. But your argument, "God's wisdom is a means to an end," is dangerous heresy.
/r/RPChristians13/05/25 03:22 PM
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I don't know if I have any wisdom, I'm just 200 mistakes ahead of you ;) I like to touch the hot stove and don't mind showing the scars
/r/RPChristians13/05/25 02:30 PM
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What does any of this have to do with Jesus? Virtue is a means to an end, not the end itself... The commandments and admonitions are pragmatic... When it comes to the redpill, our focus on money, muscles, and game is not haphazard. This is not what Jesus taught. Matthew 6:19-21 is the exact antithesis of this idea, and there are many more examples. I'm not saying it's bad to make money, get jacked, or be attractive. But I am saying that making those things into the "ends," and reducing godly vir…
/r/RPChristians13/05/25 01:36 PM
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Arguing is the biggest mistake to avoid. I don't think there's one right answer, but there are many wrong ones. IMO fewer total words and sentences from you, and more of those sentences being real questions (e.g. "what are you afraid of?") will be key to leading her hamster out of this maze. Your wife also has many worries to surrender to God, and she needs to see somebody doing the same to be her model.
/r/RPChristians13/05/25 01:17 PM
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Main takeaways: better to lose frame with a trusted friend than in front of family; I need to get better at showing vulnerability in an attractive and masculine way (mostly with God and friends) 2 Corinthians has a lot to say about the importance of weakness. This is not MRP. Nobody is teaching stoicism. It's blessing you to cry out to God and in community. Just don't do it in front of your wife and kids and expect respect. This is of course why male friendships are so necessary.
/r/RPChristians12/05/25 03:18 PM
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I am pretty sure that the e-mail is a cry for help, this is first time in 7 years that the sources were revealed to me instead of being kept secret. How are you going to lead her through this?
/r/RPChristians12/05/25 03:15 PM
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OYS 47 Physical 6'2" / 187lbs / 12-15% BF - massing up to 190, diet's on point Squat 245x7, Bench 225x7, Deadlift 315x6 Physique check-in: https://imgur.com/HB1QFE8 Not much sex due to period. I have been unattracted so didn't initiate for oral either. Mental/Emotional Reading: Renovation of the Heart (still) Feeling checked out and tired lately. It's not good. I think it's mostly because of circumstances that will pass soon: knowing whether I will get a new job offer not. Taking a break from th…
/r/RPChristians12/05/25 02:01 PM
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Feels like we are getting somewhere. Every time I have ever argued with my wife, it was 100% a mistake. There was always a better way I could have handled it. STFU is the stopgap measure. It avoids the error, and sometimes even solves the problem. When it doesn't solve the problem (e.g. your vaccine situation), you should still STFU until you are confident of the smart guy way to handle the problem.
/r/RPChristians06/05/25 06:50 PM
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I feel like saying nothing would validate accusation that I’m punishing This doesn't matter. It's OK to punish bad behavior. Lashing out because you said "no" is bad behavior. Say nothing. If she doesn't let it drop, say "I'm not going to talk about this." Broken record. Personally, I really like negative inquiry, but I wouldn't use it here.
/r/RPChristians05/05/25 09:24 PM
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I would advise robotic levels of STFU. If you wrote everything you said to her in 1 day, and it didn't fit on 1 page, you failed at STFU that day. If your marriage isn't getting radically better after 4 weeks, cut it down to a notecard. You just talk too much, and most of it is probably unattractive. Like this: “No I’m not punishing you, I would just rather connect with you than watch TV tonight.” This is DEER.
/r/RPChristians05/05/25 08:17 PM
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I'm having a hard time progressing beyond 185 x 5 on the bench, any tips for how to get up to 205 or even 225 in the future? Volume, food are the big two. Also do bench variations that are harder than regular bench. Keep in mind that I have previously benched 285 so my "progress" is really just coming back from not trying. I'm trying to dabble in more toys/accessories for intimacy but currently this is always turned down. Do I need a main-event sign of respect and submission before I can expect …
/r/RPChristians05/05/25 08:06 PM
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OYS 46 Physical 6'2" / 186lbs / 12-15% BF - currently massing up to 190 Solid training week. Squat 245x6, Bench 225x6, Deadlift 315x6 no problem. Compare with 1 yr ago Squat 265x6, Bench 225x8, Deadlift 315x12 while at 195lbs BW, I'm pretty close to "back." Sex FR: I had lousy sex one day. This doesn't happen very often anymore. I had laid out toys and accessories in the bedroom, initiated, got rebuffed, then tried again 15 minutes later. We had sex, but it was bad, she kept complaining that it …
/r/RPChristians05/05/25 02:55 PM
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I mean the seven basics in the spiritual section for the OYS template
/r/RPChristians03/05/25 01:17 PM
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Example: after being told "I don't know" after one rejection, I spontaneously and very playfully took off my shirt and said "What about now?" This resulted in lots of laughter and an admission that I was looking jacked, but keeping the rejection. At this point I back off with genuine amusement and no butthurt. The very next day, got a text message asking for sex that night (this never happens). This is a big improvement from just a few months ago. I think the text message is evidence of good dre…
/r/RPChristians29/04/25 03:27 PM
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OYS 45 Physical 6'2" / 185lbs / 12-15% BF Lost most of the training week to being sick. Started again today. I finished my 3-month transformation challenge. I think I gained about 2lbs of muscle and lost 1-2 lbs of fat. It's a meh outcome. I am phoning it in somewhere, probably intensity/proximity to failure. For the next 3 months of the training cycle I will focus on pushing closer to failure, and do 1 week of training to absolute failure on every exercise per training cycle (5 weeks) Not reall…
/r/RPChristians28/04/25 02:36 PM
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Do you have a particular scripture in mind to help me internalize this truth better? There are some that come to mind, but I'm trying to encourage you to seek the answer in the scriptures. For me, I personally spent so long sucking so much at believing, refusing to repent, and white-knuckling through sinning despite conviction by the Spirit, that I already know the answer. I've lived it. The scriptures attest to why this happens. I think anyone can and everyone should discover it for themselves.…
/r/RPChristians21/04/25 02:33 PM
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why do so many believers I know suck so much and refuse to repent or care if the power of God is working directly in them? What do the scriptures say about this? I “feel” like I’m encouraging by gently offering logical solutions to shame/anger/intimacy I would suggest you memorize an "empathy script" and use that instead. It's much faster and more effective. Remember that the goal is to fix her feelz, not the thing that is obviously causing the feelz. "it's not about the nail" still haven’t deci…
/r/RPChristians21/04/25 01:21 PM
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Yes. Genesis 2:24 Hebrews 13:4 1 Corinthians 7:2
/r/RPChristians18/04/25 01:37 PM
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you're not enough You are not, but He is, and you have Him.
/r/RPChristians16/04/25 07:02 PM
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You are an image bearer of God [Genesis 1:27]. You are intimately known by Him and loved by Him [Psalm 139]. This is not contingent on you "making it as a man." You should pray for God to move His truth from your head into your heart.
/r/RPChristians14/04/25 10:48 PM
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In which area do you lack confidence?
/r/RPChristians14/04/25 09:37 PM
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As of recently I'm really struggling with confidence and If I'll make it as a man. What does it mean to "make it as a man?"
/r/RPChristians14/04/25 07:57 PM
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OYS 43 Physical 6'2" / 183lbs / 12-15% BF, new week of training starts today Still pain-free Down 4lbs due to fasting. Keeping diet on maintenance. Sex is on tap Mental/Emotional Reading: Forgotten God Thinking about: career next steps Praying about: starting a men's group Emotionally doing great Edit: One thing I need to think and pray about more is how much time I devote to work that needs to get done for my job vs. work I do because I want to do it, and because it helps me learn skills that a…
/r/RPChristians14/04/25 01:43 PM
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Enforcing a boundary is not sin Getting angry is not a sin Your wife's emotional hurt is caused by her, not you In the same way, your butthurt is caused by you, not her Don't confuse action with reaction Apologizing is fine when you did something that was wrong, but first make sure you actually did something that was wrong.
/r/RPChristians07/04/25 02:33 PM
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What is wrong about getting angry?
/r/RPChristians07/04/25 01:57 PM
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OYS 42 Physical 6'2" / 187lbs / 12-15% BF, deloading this week after 5 weeks of training Diet has been an absolute mess, routinely at 3,500kcal/day, gaining weight. I need to sort this out as I intend to stay around 185 and not gain. I have a problem where, when I resolve to get stronger, I excuse my overeating as gainz. But I don't need to eat cake and icecream to get stronger. Sex is ridiculous Mental/Emotional Got the bad woman to leave my gym so I have peace being there again Learning lots f…
/r/RPChristians07/04/25 01:56 PM
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perhaps I should have calmly apologized for my tone that's a no, apologizing for getting angry is on the stupid/supplicating list.
/r/RPChristians07/04/25 01:47 PM
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Never apologize for enforcing a boundary. The confidence to initiate is step 1, the confidence to pass the resulting tests is next. I recommend you plan your next initiation, including what you'll do in response to tests. Just make sure none of your plans involve DEER, supplication, and other stupidity. Then you just run the playbook without stopping to think. This is the best stepping stone before you internalize making the right choices.
/r/RPChristians07/04/25 01:37 PM
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OYS 41 Physical Goal checkin: "1,200 powerlifting total, <7 minute mile run tempo and sub-15% BF. Stay pain free" S/B/D is currently 300/265/385. Probably I'm about 16-24 weeks of solid training from 1,200 total. 8 minute mile would kill me right now, but I think also within 12 weeks I can get to 7 minutes again. Basically pain free Sex is amazing. It had dipped a little bit in quality during pregnancy and then miscarriage, but it's all back. Mental/Emotional Likely I will have to see my adulter…
/r/RPChristians01/04/25 01:17 AM
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(1) initiate game/sex whenever I feel like it with no reservations or overthinking whatsoever, this is the way
/r/RPChristians31/03/25 09:52 PM
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we only are intimate once a month if not fewer. Solve that problem at the root cause, and the performance anxiety will go away. Sidebar.
/r/RPChristians26/03/25 04:41 PM
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OYS 40 Physical Training is good. Getting stronger and bigger. Cardio capacity is improving a little too. Diet has been a mess. I switched to maintenance as my heart is not in it to cut right now. Maintaining at 185lbs with visible abs. Sex is great. Mental/Emotional I was feeling ambivalent about trying to get my wife pregnant again after losing the last one. I realized I still have a desire to control this part of my life. I am trying to let go. I ran into the woman who I almost lost my marria…
/r/RPChristians25/03/25 06:35 PM
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Agree with the first paragraph I am also agreeing he should not marry her, but the reason is that she is an unbeliever, not because of her specific sin past or her attitude towards it today.
/r/RPChristians25/03/25 05:35 PM
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She's not dismissive of my beliefs If she doesn't share your faith, this is a non-starter. Do not marry. 2 Corinthians 6:14.
/r/RPChristians25/03/25 03:26 PM
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Sure, but you are at risk of forgetting that women are covert, sub-communicators. A woman saying "I don't regret it" can mean "I tell myself I don't regret it so that I can avoid feeling regret." Or it can mean "I tell other people I don't regret because I want to be seen a particular way." Or it can mean she really doesn't regret it (overt). But if that were really true, she wouldn't say "I would never do anything like that again." It would also be a non-standard communication style for a woman…
/r/RPChristians25/03/25 03:25 PM
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she's adamant about how she's thankful for all her life experiences and that she feels no shame or regret. This should be nuanced. You shouldn't expect her to feel shame or regret. Romans 8:1--if she is in Christ, she is not condemned by her past sin. We are not called to carry around shame or guilt about our sin past. she asserts that she would never do anything like that again Which is more or less the definition of repentance. Conviction leads to repentance, and repentance leads to freedom. W…
/r/RPChristians25/03/25 02:38 PM
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Mental: Accepting that virtually all of the disciplines and skills I have cultivated in my life were motivated by getting validation from others. Good insight. That is an important step on the way to having your own frame. In a weird way, the validation seeking was an important stepping stone for my life development Everyone is like that. We're supposed to figure out how to stop during our adolescence, but we nice guys get stuck doing what "worked" before. Now that you can see this in yourself, …
/r/RPChristians14/03/25 11:32 AM
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You say you have a mission, you are discipling someone, and you understand your Bible, and your church is going well... but assurance of salvation is a 5/10. What's going on there?
/r/RPChristians14/03/25 11:23 AM
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OYS 39 Physical Week 1 training, trained 5 days. Cut diet: lost 1lb, at 185lbs, right on track. Sex is about as good as it can be for immediately post miscarriage. Mental/Emotional Learning a lot for my work from reading and projects. Emotionally doing very, very well. Still grieved by the miscarriage but not discouraged. Spiritual Assurance of Salvation: 10/10 Quiet Time/Devotional: 8/10 Bible Study: 6/10 Scripture Memory: 7/10 started using Versify app. I recommend it. Prayer: 8/10 Evangelism:…
/r/RPChristians10/03/25 10:36 AM
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Current challenge mentally is simply not knowing whether marriage will survive or not Worrying is useless. Your worry is extra counterproductive because you are worrying about something you can't control and doesn't really matter. just focus on what I can Yes, and on what you really want. Stop thinking about the marriage surviving, and instead envision who you want to be, and then determine what you can DO to be that person, now. get over my fear of a possible divorce in the near future This kee…
/r/RPChristians04/03/25 02:39 PM
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This isn't the first time for us; it'll be fine, it was just a scheisse week.
/r/RPChristians03/03/25 07:50 PM
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ESV is a beautiful translation, and better than the widely used NIV, but it's still corrupted. See my comment above for explanation.
/r/RPChristians03/03/25 02:31 PM
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Enjoy. Read the notes, my print NASB1995 has an asterisk * wherever the source text's tense is changed (which is often, we don't use the present tense in the same way as was conventional in Greek at the time), and italics for inserted words. It's a very nice high transparency bonus feature.
/r/RPChristians03/03/25 02:30 PM
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Yes
/r/RPChristians03/03/25 02:29 PM
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OYS 38 Physical Got sick again, needed antibiotics, and didn't train. Just started again today, feels good to be back. My wife had a miscarriage. Sex was far from my mind all week. Ate like s--- at restaurants all weekend. Resuming cutting diet today. Mental/Emotional I grieved the miscarriage for a few days. We buried the baby together, prayed together, and got started with moving on. I actually felt a lot of gratitude this week, especially for my living children. I feel fully secure that God's…
/r/RPChristians03/03/25 02:29 PM
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I recommend you read this: What's the best Bible translation? And more importantly, why? I have read extensively in ESV, and also NIV, NLT, KJV, but lately have been using only NASB1995. It's not as poetically brilliant as the ESV (compare John 1:3 for example), but it gets the facts right more often. ESV takes some quite inappropriate liberties, especially inserting words that just aren't there in the source text to offer a clearer "interpretation." Romans 12:2 is one of the offenders from my l…
/r/RPChristians02/03/25 01:20 PM
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OYS 37 Physical Deload week. Got sick and only trained twice Got better and resumed training today Starting 8-week cut diet; seeing if I can win $ in a transformation challenge Sex is still good. "Past me" would not understand how little I think about sex now Mental/Emotional All the good habits are on track, feeling great I had set goal to be whole, feel loved by God, and find stillness and peace. I get to experience that at least some of every day now. I still want to push further, noticing wh…
/r/RPChristians24/02/25 03:07 PM
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Yes it's prescribed for ADHD
/r/RPChristians18/02/25 04:23 PM
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It's posted automatically every week. The point is to respond to the questions. Try it
/r/RPChristians18/02/25 02:12 PM
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OYS 36 Physical: Completed 5-week training cycle. Great strength and size progress rebounding from my 2 month layoff. One week deload starts this week, which is good, since one of my shoulders needs a break. Bodyweight slightly up to 186 average. Need to maintain for this week. Strict pause benched 225x4. Subscribed to WHOOP. It's improving my sleep a lot. Sex is good, but I've been pretty boring and routine about it lately. Honestly I am just not that focused on it. Mental/Emotional: Daily quie…
/r/RPChristians18/02/25 02:09 PM
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I understand re: English. Your writing is more excusable if this is not your mother tongue ;) You are 20. You have literally your entire adult life ahead of you. So what if you have not found the right woman yet? Focus on you. Get jacked. Get educated. Start making money. Develop a bold vision for your life. Get spiritually grounded and stay there. The hustle culture of the west destroys the quality of life. There is nothing wrong with hustle. The problem is hustling for the wrong things.
/r/RPChristians18/02/25 02:00 PM
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Is English your first language? Not trying to just dump on you here. I can barely understand the stuff you write.
/r/RPChristians16/02/25 11:06 PM
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You assume and project too much. You don't know me in person to say these stuff. Bitter judgmental victim drips off what you write, brother. You can't attract a quality woman. OK. We get it. What have you done? How old are you? How much do you lift? Are you fat? What is your financial situation like? Are you fun to be around? What makes you interesting?
/r/RPChristians16/02/25 03:08 PM
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That there are so so few people aged 16-24 that attend church and at least try to live like humans and not like wild animals Bitter and judgmental they don't make good friends because they're either cowards or bigots or straight up boring and hypocrites. Which shatters my heart... Bitter and judgmental these two will be either straight up unattractive and fat or deformed or they'll be retarded/neurodivergent Bitter and judgmental most of them are in their 30s and taken/used up and the younger on…
/r/RPChristians16/02/25 02:25 PM
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This is a bitter victim mindset post. Find a younger church.
/r/RPChristians16/02/25 01:23 PM
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All it takes is one person to change the vibe of a gym. One person willing to invest in others, to build instead of just take, to push people forward instead of holding them down. You don’t have to be a coach or a black belt to influence the culture—just someone who gives a damn. This all applies to a strength/conditioning gym as well. Maybe this does not apply if you train at a Planet Fitness or other globo-gym, but anywhere else it does. Say hello to people, introduce yourself to them, get to …
/r/RPChristians14/02/25 07:55 PM
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Solid
/r/RPChristians14/02/25 07:49 PM
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It's a good question. A few weeks ago I said "to be happy," and that's still true. You pushed back that people who focus on "being happy" often fail, and quoted Matthew 6:33, which was a good call-out. I am saying "to be happy" because I want to avoid the trap of living with happiness contingent on external circumstances. I have set up a lot of goals in life that I thought would bring me happiness. I attained all of them now, but I was still often unhappy. That clued me in that the problem was m…
/r/RPChristians10/02/25 02:39 PM
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OYS 34 36M, married 11 years, 3 kids, expecting kid #4. 6'2" 184lbs. Mission: To know God and walk with Him wherever He calls me. Vision: A man of peace and wholeness, with the courage to face the tasks of life. Physical goals: This year, get back to 1,200 powerlifting total while maintaining <7 minute mile run tempo and sub-15% BF. Eventually: Squat 500. Stay pain free. Trained every day, strength coming back fast Back pain returned, so I'm doing exercises for it every day now Gained weight, lo…
/r/RPChristians03/02/25 06:18 PM
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Have you lifted? Dieted? Done anything since you last posted? Isn’t it unfair that women judge men for being fat? How dare those women have standards that you can't meet, right? Dude. Get a hold of yourself. God made women that way so that men would have to be better. Stop being a fat, bitter, whiney porn addict. Start training and dieting. Now.
/r/RPChristians02/02/25 07:25 PM
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OYS 33 36M, married 11 years, 3 kids, expecting kid #4. 6'2" 183lbs. Mission: To know God and walk with Him wherever He calls me. Vision: A man of peace and wholeness, with the courage to face the tasks of life. Physical goals: This year, start by getting back to 1,200 powerlifting total (probably around 385 squat / 315 bench / 500 DL), and maintain my ~15% BF. Stay pain free. This will take months. Trained every day this week. Felt great. No pain. Still very weak but coming back quickly from my…
/r/RPChristians28/01/25 02:01 PM
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Abundance
/r/RPChristians25/01/25 11:24 AM
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To stay sharp on RP in my own life, and somewhat to help other Christians. When I started it was about "have a better sex life" but that chapter is over.
/r/RPChristians20/01/25 11:07 PM
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I am not here for accountability, thanks. I'm not going to write about a mission I don't have. OYS means OYS. I don't write about S I don't have to O. My marriage is fine. My career is fine. My social life is fine. I'm mostly working on parenting rn.
/r/RPChristians20/01/25 09:05 PM
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It's OYS 32 Physical: 6'2" / 184lbs / ~18% BF. Back to heavy lifting after 6 week layoff for surgery. Lifted and/or did cardio every day. Feeling weak, looking mediocre, but should be a lot better in 2-3 months with muscle memory. Diet is maintenance for now. Mental/Emotional: All very good. Regular physical training helps a lot. The pregnancy brings me greater vision and clarity for this year. I know what the new baby time will be like, so I'm ordering everything I can to be prepared, and front…
/r/RPChristians20/01/25 03:31 PM
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Good OYS. Before bulking I recommend maintaining your weight for at least 3 weeks, or half the length of your cut, when you finish cutting.
/r/RPChristians17/01/25 02:06 PM
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Stop trying to dance for a Main Event. I mostly succeeded Main events cannot be forced. Trying just means you have an unidentified covert contract. When I showed the handcuff ropes I bought, immediate disinterest and was told to put them away which is not surprising. So you presented the handcuffs to her for her approval, expecting she was going to reject them. "Tell me you have no frame without saying you have no frame." willing starfish but I learned at MRP to accept this when wife is initiati…
/r/RPChristians13/01/25 07:36 PM
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This is self therapy that I referred myself to. The only toxic critic in my life is me.
/r/RPChristians13/01/25 07:22 PM
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OYS 31 - 36 / Married 11 years / 3 kids / 6'2" 181lbs 15% BF Physical: Impregnated my wife successfully. I'm returning to heavy barbell training this week. If I rip my sutered vas deferens in half squatting, that's OK at this point. Emotional: Good week. Using cognitive therapy to defuse my worst emotions. Accepting parts of myself I used to criticize is helping a lot. Spiritual: Mixed week of feeling connected and grateful, then lonely and doubtful, and then back to awe and gratitude. I prayed …
/r/RPChristians13/01/25 12:57 PM
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The point I am trying to make is this: understanding doesn't get you anywhere. "Being redpilled" is not about seeing the world a particular way. It's about how you act in the world. That's why we say red pill is a praxeology, not a philosophy. If you are semi autistic and just love to quantify everything, your spreadsheets should be about your own actions: your diet, your training, your emotions, your finances, your spiritual life, etc. Not your wife.
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 04:03 PM
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It wasn't even a fitness test, she talked to me about it after I wrote this and it's just some stuff she is anxious about.
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 03:55 PM
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If you're serious about diet, just throw all the junk food in the trash. You don't need it. Only you are accountable to you. perceived Christian mandate of pleasing wife Critical insight and first real step of your journey. I do want to continue to learn theory, but it was time for a mental break. I put down the “spreadsheet” and tried living out this stuff in a more intuitive way for this week. It felt good. Nobody has ever read or analyzed their way out of a low sex marriage. This is the time …
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 01:02 AM
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OYS 30 Physical Gym 5 days this week for light cardio and very light lifting. Still recovering from surgery. Entered a fitness transformation challenge - having a project like this always helps me dial in. Got sick, took good care of myself. Mostly better now. Mental/emotional Got psychiatry referral. Prioritizing mental this year. Installed and setup a website/desktop app blocker so I stop distracting myself from my work. Started using Pomodoro technique at work for the first time. Not bad resu…
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 12:51 AM
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put down my spreadsheet wow, this
/r/RPChristians01/01/25 09:33 PM
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Are you perhaps on the autism spectrum? (Sincere question, not insult) Either way, you badly need to un-RedPill Professor yourself. You should write an OYS next week without using any of the following terms: Oak Covert contract Fitness/Comfort Test Amused mastery Ego Validation OI frame dancing monkey alpha/beta and of course, her, she, wife, etc. Instead write about what you want and what you did. Stop analyzing everything in terms of "RP Wisdom." None of that matters.
/r/RPChristians01/01/25 06:16 PM
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In what ways specifically am I being miopic? I mean that focusing narrowly on the secular MAP (MRP) and not on the spiritual life is myopic, not that your post is myopic. I'm struggling with reconciling the dichotomy of God taking care of all my problems while at the same time taking deliberate action in my life so that life does not happen to me by default. There's no dichotomy there. Prayer should move you to courageous action. Look at the life of every single person in the entire Bible. Their…
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 09:29 PM
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I pushed enough early on in MRP that one time she basically gave a phony assault charge to our church mentors, which almost caused me to divorce her. I would just divorce this monster if I were you. You just straight up told me you are afraid to really initiate (in a not playing around sense) because she might run to the church and claim you are sexually assaulting her. That's false witness, bordering on criminal, and way beyond grounds for divorce as a Christian IMO.
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 09:16 PM
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I would call it being bitchy, which is not a test at all.
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 09:13 PM
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This is just semantics I think. No You define them as the default and desirable sort, where there is a playful attack on the man as a flirty test of frame for earning access to sex. Yes I'm referring more broadly to a woman having an unconscious "sonar" that pings out a pissy fitness test to her man when there is any sort of perceived insecurity in the woman herself or in her man No Because my wife was raised in a personality cult where everything being clean and perfect was everything, her fitn…
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 06:34 PM
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This might tie into your current feeling of spiritual dryness. Not really. Nearly all those changes happened between January and June. I'm just emotionally volatile week to week.
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 06:30 PM
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Nevermind what I said earlier, you should probably just give up.
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 04:03 PM
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The S/B/D he posted are straight up terrible. For a 6'3" 225lb guy who has literally never lifted before, those lifts should be achievable in three months.
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 03:51 PM
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6' 3", 225 lbs, 18% body fat (guess based on photos from Internet) That would calculate to an FFMI of 22+. Based on your lifts, there is no way. At 18% you would have visible (but not highly defined) six pack abs nearly 24/7. Consider yourself 25-30% BF, a fat lard, until otherwise proven. Your MAP says you are going to do everything. You should focus on one or two key behavior changes at a time instead. It's probably lift and STFU, but you calibrate for you. Trying to do everything is not calib…
/r/RPChristians31/12/24 03:42 PM
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Mission: My mission is to reach my fullest potential in life by destroying my validation-seeking ego and reclaiming my true masculine identity as an adventurous and highly creative leader. This will involve recontextualizing my Christian faith to accommodate core MRP truths, asserting myself in bold and effective ways as a professor, parent, and friend, and confidently reaching a baseline go/no-go decision on my marriage by OYS #52 at the latest. When you strip all of the MRP jargon out of this,…
/r/RPChristians30/12/24 11:06 PM
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Training: Three weeks into lifting restrictions. Resumed light cardio. Goal is to get re-habituated to a morning workout. I was sick this week, lost 7lbs, only gained 3-4 back so far. Diet was mostly on point. After Christmas I threw away all the sweets I got as gifts or that were leftovers that my wife baked. Sex is every day and really good. Household leadership: I aced my handling of my wife losing her temper with the kids. I've been failing by enabling really bad picky eating behavior with t…
/r/RPChristians30/12/24 10:40 PM
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You can't. The solution is to become someone you love.
/r/RPChristians24/12/24 12:33 AM
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OYS 28 Background: 36M, married 11 years, 3 kids, 1 year in Physical: Still recovering from surgery. Two weeks into no lifting or any training at all, six weeks to go for heavy lifting. I hate this, but I am still controlling what I can: diet and attitude. I did a clothing purge this week. I haven't been willing to spend much on clothes for myself in the past. I am amending my budget to spend more on myself in this category. Sex is good. Mental/Emotional: Mostly all is really good right now. I'm…
/r/RPChristians23/12/24 07:22 PM
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Based on his reddit history his current mission is to jerk off to cartoons.
/r/RPChristians19/12/24 05:35 PM
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You don't know what frame is. Go here, get widsom: Sidebar PDF
/r/RPChristians16/12/24 10:30 PM
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Whose frame is this?
/r/RPChristians16/12/24 05:59 PM
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She is in grave sin by denying you marital obligations. Nothing much you can do to be honest... Do not engage any sexual acts. If she tries to engage, I suggest you do not proceed. Be celibate... This is beyond idiotic.
/r/RPChristians12/12/24 04:48 PM
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It's time to focus on what you can do, and let go of how your wife responds. She is beyond your control. Trying to control other people is manipulative, prideful, and just plain ineffective. Start by reading the sidebar PDF a little bit at a time. That will introduce you to the concepts you need to know to be successful. Post in the weekly OYS thread. That will keep you accountable to having a plan, executing on your plan, and also get you feedback from guys who have been on this journey already…
/r/RPChristians12/12/24 02:43 PM
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