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12

You go on and live your life. Your life isn't over, it's just different. Stop thinking about the sunset last night so you can enjoy the sunrise today. Good luck, live your best life that you can.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 02:23 AM
3

She was drunk and horny. It could have been a nightmare. I think you dodged a bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 03:19 PM
9

Take yourself out for a nice meal. You can't control the actions of others. Your kids are adults, they are making their own choices, good or bad. I've been there too. My adult daughter didn't want much to do with me after my divorce 8 years ago, but time has mellowed her. And now we communicate again. You'll always be their dad. Good luck to you, cheers to a better day for you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 07:22 PM
3

I did not. And I’m pretty sure our joint adult daughter is not speaking to her mom right now. Or her grandmother. 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 10:13 PM
3

It's her money, her life, she can do whatever she wants. The goal is to not let it bother you, either good or bad.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:53 PM
4

Best of luck moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 09:47 PM
2

It happens that way for a lot of us. When my ex left, she didn't do a thing to help sell the house. Nothing. But still got her half. It it what it is. Good luck, sounds like you're already on the road to progress. And I agree about your son, he's an adult, and can make up his own choices about how he interacts with his mom.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 01:37 PM
2

My ex did the same thing when we divorced. She was supposed to take the two dogs. But she didn’t, and she ended up getting three new dogs. I kept the dogs until they passed away.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 09:51 PM
5

There's a chance she may already know.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 01:53 AM
1

I lost about 30 lbs after my ex filed for divorce 8 years ago. Seems to be a common thread for a lot of us.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 10:22 PM
3

And why does he feel the right to claim that money that came from your children? Even if he is your husband, that's downright wrong. What did he say when confronted about this? I would demand half of that money back. It sounds like he's already looking given the new job application (no guarantee that he gets it). But it shows where his thought process is. Your relationship with your husband sounds like it has run its course. I wish you luck.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 08:28 PM
1

I got the bed set in the divorce. It was a king. Honestly, it’s too big for me. I would prefer it was a queen.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 02:48 PM
3

The day it was signed by the judge, I went to the bar and had a couple of tall beers and a couple of shots. By that point, I was just ready for everything to be finalized so I could get on with my life. That was 8 years ago. I'm living my best life that I can now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 05:05 PM
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When I got divorced, we added up the growth of our various accounts during the length of the marriage, and then split that down the middle. Because I had more in my accounts, I ended up making a payment to my ex to even it out. We sold the marital home, and split the proceeds. I also had to come up with a value of my pension for the duration of the marriage, and she got 50% of that value when I retired. Bottom line, you want it to be equitable and fair and something that you both agree to. Every…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 01:06 AM
1

Good reminder to be thankful you're out of that situation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 03:56 PM
9

Divorce was a blessing in disguise for me.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 03:49 PM
20

You should have no reaction to her reaction. Don't let her control how you live your life any further. Don't give her the satisfaction.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 04:29 PM
12

To clarify, she doesn't need sex, from you. Sorry, but it sounds like your relationship had run its course.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 03:32 AM
10

When I met my ex's new guy, I shook his hand, and introduced myself. That was it. There weren't any other pleasantries on either side. I didn't say, "Nice to meet you,", etc. Now, on to the text message, I don't think I would reply either. You've both moved on, and as you mentioned, it's inevitable that you might run into one another again.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 01:40 AM
1

Do you have anywhere to go? I mean, do you have a place lined up, or will you stay with a friend? What's the plan when you do leave? I wish you luck.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 09:50 PM
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I know this might come off as harsh, but I'd say you might have lucked out getting out of this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 08:39 PM
3

Does your wife know that you know about the affairs? Or is that just something you've held close? Does she know about your plans to wait until February? Or will this be a surprise for her? I know you've waited a long time, but I also wonder if making the announcement in February could jeopardize/traumatize the remainder of your youngest's time in high school? You are correct, you will be giving up half of everything, including half of any pensions you might be entitled to. And because she doesn'…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 01:34 AM
7

Just go grey rock on her until it's finished. And then when it is, never speak to her again.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 04:31 PM
8

You are still at a young age that you can completely start over with no baggage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 10:47 PM
3

Probably not the answer you want to hear, but kids are very adaptable, especially very young ones. Your three year old will adapt to whatever living arrangement you come up with.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 02:03 PM
8

Not a lawyer, but inheritances are yours to keep, but only if you don't mix the money. Anything put into a joint account becomes that, joint. Any inheritance put into an account solely with your name remains yours.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 07:13 PM
3

I got divorced at 48, and am 55 now. I have a friend who tried to get me into meditation, but I just couldn't stick with it. I'd like to give it a try again. I'm far enough removed from my divorce though now, and I'm well into the next phase of my life. But as I understand it, in general, meditation can be very helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 04:16 AM
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We were married for 25 years. And she's the mother of my daughter. So yes there is still some "care" there. I don't want bad things to happen to her, and she deserves to be happy just like anyone else. But beyond that, I don't really care what she does, who she sees, what choices she makes, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 01:11 PM
4

No, like you said she has checked out. Don’t make it worse.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 03:29 PM
4

I was going to throw mine in the river. But at the last second, I stopped and put it in my jewelry box. It doesn’t mean anything. It’s not worth anything.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:48 PM
4

When I got divorced seven years ago, we split the liquid assets almost immediately. It was all documented. And then the house was settled later.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:46 PM
3

Might as well be priceless considering the unforgettable experience. Display that painting proudly.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 04:28 PM
7

How much was the painting?
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 01:41 PM
9

Nothing wrong with that at all. Plus, it's less you have to move.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:35 AM
11

She doesn't want to fix anything. The marriage was over for her a long time ago. I wish you luck. And I hope you can build a stable life for your child.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 04:50 PM
3

The longer they draw this out, the more money they get from you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 03:51 AM
1

Hopefully it still works when your masturbate.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/25 01:43 AM
6

No. I was married for 25 years, but the marriage had ended long before that. She filed 7 years ago. And I have no regrets. No one deserves to be trapped, as we both weren't happy anymore. I hope she has found what she's looking for. But I'm living the best life that I can. I'm happy and content with what I have and where I'm at in life.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 02:48 AM
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I wouldn’t want my name on that mortgage. Yes you got a cheap rate during Covid, but she needs to refinance in her own name. Whatever rate she can get.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:04 AM
18

Your ex hit and abused your 7 yo son. Your kids are not safe with that woman.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:14 PM
3

Single people get to enjoy life too!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 06:19 PM
3

It’s been seven years, honestly, I couldn’t care less.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 01:05 PM
3

There’s a reason she doesn’t want you to get a lawyer. Because she’s screwing you. You are entitled to half of things that increase in value during the duration of the marriage. So the 401(k), for example, you would take the value at the beginning of the marriage and at the end of the marriage, for each of you, and then come up with a total value of what was increased during the marriage and each would be entitled to half of that. The one with more would have to pay the other one a payment to eq…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 05:53 PM
2

The good thing, you're getting out early, and still have your whole life in front of you. Better to know now, than in 5, 10, or 15 years from now. If you're religious, there's is a program called DivorceCare that helps people through divorce. It's a program where you meet once a week, for about 16 weeks. It's usually sponsored by local churches. It helped me through my divorce a few years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 03:42 PM
7

Yes, it was like that for me when I divorced 7 years ago, very similar situation, married for 25, divorced at 48, with an adult daughter out of college. Most of my friends were in my ex wife's circle, so they naturally went with her. I found myself with no outside close friends other than work colleagues. So I made new ones. I still don't have "close" friends, but I have a very large circle of acquaintances through my various hobbies. Life goes on, it's just different.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 06:32 PM
5

In addition to the gym, maybe just get outdoors for exercise in the sun.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 09:46 PM
3

My ex took all the wedding photos. I'm not sure what she did with them. Maybe she destroyed them, I don't really know. I wanted the pics of me and brother and my mom, but I never got them. The other sentimental stuff, I'd stash in a box and never look at them again. And at some point, you'll probably toss them out.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 02:04 AM
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My ex was the one that filed for divorce 6 1/2 years ago, and she left the house the night I was served the papers. It caught me off guard, but not altogether unexpected in retrospect given how our relationship had deteriorated so much. In reality, she had checked out of the marriage years before, and she was just waiting for the right moment I think, which was our daughter graduating from college. It was the worst thing I've ever gone through in my life, but today, I'm living my best life that …
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 06:33 PM
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Life goes on. I'm 6 1/2 years post divorce, and I have to say I'm living my best life that I can. And I'm happy. Sounds like you're in a similar boat.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 07:28 AM
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If you’re religious, there’s a group out there called Divorce Care. It helped me when I went through my divorce 7 years ago. But I was bit turned off by the religious heavy content. It’s a multi week program, like 15 weeks. Lots of good material if you can get past the religious component. Search to see if there are any groups in your area.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:08 AM
1

I think you should be able to live your authentic life.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 05:02 AM
2

Yes, you can still proceed with a divorce by notice process. Basically, they have to put a notice in the newspaper or on the court’s website to notify your ex of the proceedings. And if she doesn’t show up in court, then you typically get some sort of a default judgment.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 06:31 PM
4

Does your ex know that you know all of the details? Honestly, I don’t think it would be a relationship I would want to stay in.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 02:28 PM
1

If she would have used any of that money in a joint asset like the house, then you might have a case for whatever she invested in the central cooling. But she didn't, so you probably don't.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 10:39 PM
10

You won. Live your life how you choose now.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 10:06 PM
7

You put the sweat and equity into the house. It’s yours. She shouldn’t get any of it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 02:16 AM
4

I am much better off being divorced. For many reasons. As you state, sometimes you can't see it when you're going through it. But many of us go on to better things.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 12:20 AM
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I think they’re fine. We have an adult daughter. Our interaction through text message is only when things impact her. I don’t hate my ex and I don’t wish her ill will at all. I hope she’s happy with her new life. But it’s not my circus anymore. 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 10:28 AM
9

Enjoy your free life!
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 07:15 PM
16

Masturbation is cheaper.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 02:30 PM
9

I had dinner with my daughter at a Mexican restaurant on Monday evening, otherwise, it's just me and my cat over the holiday, and it's been glorious.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 02:22 PM
5

If it’s just pictures of her, I would try to get those back to her. Mail them to her if you don’t want to see her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 09:54 PM
2

Go somewhere you’ve never been. Go to Gatlinburg. Do some hiking. Sounds like you need a break.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 12:05 AM
15

She will be entitled to half of everything. So yes, there will be a financial hit. And if she hasn’t been working, then yes, you will probably be required to pay alimony. I’ve been divorced for six years. It definitely gets a lot better. I’m living my best life now. But it takes a while to get there. I wish you luck.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 09:28 PM
1

Life indeed does go on. I got divorced 6 years ago after a 25 year marriage. But now life is pretty OK for me. I have ne regrets. My only advice to you, cut ties with the ex FIL. He sounds like a good man, but let's be honest here, he's going to pick a side and that's probably going to be his daughter. I know some people can separate that and still maintain a relationship though despite the divorce. I wish you luck in your new chapter of life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 11:15 PM
21

I’ve been divorced for six, and I can say I’m honestly living my best life alone.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 11:44 PM
8

You have to walk away and not look back. Every time you do look back, you're setting yourself back from moving forward. It's absolutely hard. But it's the best way forward.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 03:32 AM
12

She's not your property. If she wants a divorce, she can get one with or without you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 11:15 AM
3

I have a death binder that has everything about my life documented. So that if I die unexpectedly, my daughter can piece together my life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 03:13 PM
2

It sounds like there isn't anything to save on her part. She cheated and lied to you for years. I understand that you may want to salvage for your children's sake, but honestly, it looks like it's over. Fight for your rights.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 02:40 AM
6

You do recover, but there are a lot of factors that control that. Like do you have to pay child support, pay alimony, how much debt you have, etc. In my case, I'm 6 years post divorce, and I'm doing well. I'm frugal by nature, and I'm a saver. It does get better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 04:01 PM
6

Unfortunately, sometimes we just don’t get the closure we need.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 04:31 AM
3

You're human!
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 08:00 PM
7

Do not use the old band for the new wedding.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 01:43 AM
5

Usually the first relationship doesn’t go well, especially if you’re still married. There’s no rush.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 04:10 PM
2

In my case, I think it was the culmination of continually growing apart over a course of years. In hindsight, it absolutely could have been prevented. I could/would have changed many behaviors over the years to keep from getting to that point. But it really felt like the frog in the pot of steadily increasing water temperature. I didn't realize I was being burned until it was too late.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 12:44 PM
6

I travel all the time by myself. And I have the best time. I don’t let being single stop me from doing anything.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 07:47 PM
3

Alimony can definitely be waived if they agree to it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:48 PM
8

Life will be OK, eventually. It does get better. Much better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 02:41 PM
2

I usually buy towels at Costco.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:33 PM
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