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As someone who is also dating a very attractive man (congrats to YOU by the way!!) I finally realize that I never had a low sex drive. Everyone before him was just NOT IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:17 AM
137

Oh you mean getting paid for all the emotional and domestic labor I’m expected to give for free? I mean.. we do live in a capitalist society right? Why shouldn’t I expect to be paid for my labor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:31 AM
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Yeah there is something you can do to not feel like second place. DONT MARRY A MAN WHO THINKS OF YOU AS SECOND PLACE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:52 PM
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sounds like you dodged a clown sis lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:17 PM
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Most men weren’t taught these things so I try not to hold it against them. But I DO hold it against them for not listening when someone gives good advice. THATS inexcusable. Good on your fiancé for valuing your knowledge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:16 PM
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Who here has ever bullied a man into starting a skincare regimen? 🙋🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:45 PM
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I have never understood this. Dry skin with enlarged pores? Such a turn off. It’s not even that hard to maintain a routine. So that nixes 98% of dateable men right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:45 PM
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All I can say is my divorce ranks among one of my crowning achievements in life and I have never once regretted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:29 PM
14

So what? They can talk to whoever they want. You don’t have to talk to anyone. You’re too busy with work today. You don’t feel well. You’re on a trip. Seriously don’t stress about this too much. Focus on making money and doing fun things. Let your parents be who they are, deal with it when you need to, and go live your life. They literally can’t get a court order to make you do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:24 PM
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He thinks you’re crazy sis and he is correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:21 PM
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Not having to date in a city like Los Angeles makes sticking to one guy very appealing for me, but not appealing enough to settle for just anyone. And then when money and property get involved, marriage is a legal tool for protecting your assets and investments. Honestly it comes down to protecting your money and not having to talk to men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:17 PM
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Say you’ll do it and then just don’t. I’ve been in this boat. I’m 30 now and very successful and very glad I’m not married. If you can’t ignore them, just lie and say you’re trying. And then don’t try :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:14 PM
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Came here to say these girls will be un-hireable to many industries in the future. And for what? A few hundred bucks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:12 PM
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This happened to me all the time growing up. Had to clean my room because nobody wants a messy wife. Can’t have boyfriends as a teenager because nobody wants a slutty wife. Was trained to see my childhood friends as future competition for husbands. All of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:04 PM
15

My great aunt became a doctor in Iran in the 70s , moved to the US to practice, and was the first female practitioner at her hospital in Maryland. My other great aunt became a doctor in Iran around the same time. She opened a women’s health clinic in Tehran and kept it open after the Islamic Revolution. The government constantly spied on and harassed her for providing low cost reproductive health care to women. I believe she was even jailed a few times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:54 AM
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Unpopular opinion maybe but I am anti expensive ring and expensive wedding. HOWEVER, this does not mean I will settle for a broke man. I’m not talking about a get-out-of-spending-money card. I want that 30k-50k for a down payment on an investment property IN MY NAME instead. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:52 PM
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To me the most egregious sin is the last thing she mentioned- his debt. Sis could have an extra 40k to, I don’t know, leave his ass, buy a second property, invest in assets, provide for their CHILD?! At some point it’s her own fault for helping him out of a financial hole that he dug himself into instead of looking after herself and her future. I hope she leaves him in it this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:50 PM
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I’d like to know how this husband is going to explain this to his child someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:44 AM
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I NEED THINGS TO LOOK LIKE THIS, MATT. LOTS OF THINGS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:20 AM
1

I agree that injectables are not for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:19 AM
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Just wait until you get to the age where you’ll be expected to get Botox and lasers and injectables. It’ll REALLY infuriate you how little men seem to care about maintaining themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:53 AM
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Absolutely Fucking Not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:25 PM
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You’re so wise for your years :) I just turned 30 a few months ago and I can confirm everything you said. I’m smarter, more successful, and more interesting than I was at 20. I live in a fun city and have cool hobbies. My career is impressive. And I’m still hot as hell because I take great care of myself, men ask me out regularly (not that it matters, but the myth that woman get less desirable after 30 is garbage). Men will say ANYTHING to get us to settle for scraps. DO NOT fall for it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:04 PM
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His exact words were that he expected reimbursement because he wasn’t getting any return on his “investment” as promised. The return being a high earning wife that he could mooch off of forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:51 AM
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Omg imagine having a kid with this man and they want $50 for a field trip. You dodged a bullet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:00 AM
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This is SO TRUE OMG My ex husband did not like that I wanted a (USED) Mini Cooper- my dream car- when I got my first job out of law school. But I got it anyway. Whenever my mom would give me gifts to celebrate my accomplishments, he would make a comment about how my “closet gets a little tighter every time you see your mom.” But guess who made me go 50/50 while I was still in school? AFTER he put a ring on my finger I asked him to help me with my bar exam fees and he paid the living expenses for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:58 AM
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And Michael Scott when he was pretending to be a southern person for the murder mystery game LOL she sounds just like that 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:08 PM
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It’s a bop but the message is 😬 YIKESSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:20 PM
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Omg I just commented that the accent is FAKE and then I scrolled down to see this. SIS ITS A FAKE ACCENT lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:08 AM
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Anyone here from the south? This accent is fake af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:07 AM
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These are the ones that only want women with low self esteem because they are easier to control :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:03 AM
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yknow what I actually came here to say I’d rather date casually and enjoy my six figure income and dogs alone in my 40s as well. This dudes whole post operates on the premise that women need a man but men don’t need women. We all know how false that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:01 AM
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Having a HV father and brother made me take for granted that most men are good to women. I learned the hard way that this is definitely not true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:42 PM
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I aspire to have the type of money where I can say to these men “I’ll give you $1000 to delete your TikTok and never open your stupid mouth against women again.” Because you know his broke ass will take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:38 PM
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And he’s so handsome! Good for her!! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:21 AM
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Very cool take, Davina. I’ll stop “fear-mongering” when I’m no longer afraid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:31 PM
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How many of these men are out here making enough money to support a family, build a home, hire domestic help, cars, vacations, retirement etc.... PROVIDE WHAT exactly?? And these dudes get v defensive when we point out that rich men actually cheat LESS than broke ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:28 PM
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“SURPRISE I wiped my own ass!!” 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:24 PM
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Be ✍🏻 a ✍🏻 real ✍🏻 bitch ✍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:10 PM
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The same f-ed up logic that they use to justify mandatory hijab in my mothers home country: because men are animals and cannot control themselves, women have to sacrifice themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:57 AM
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I bet a lot of 15 year olds also prefer to get blackout drunk and then get behind a wheel but as adults we don’t let them 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:50 AM
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Flashbacks to when my ex husband would argue with me about law and courtroom procedure. I am a trial attorney, he is not an attorney at all. But he watched a lot of law and order..,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:51 AM
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Have empathy for yourself. You didn’t see the red flags that you didn’t know about. If you did know about them, you hadn’t developed the tools to address them. You had this experience and it sounds like you will learn from it. As long as you come out of a situation smarter than you were before, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:59 PM
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He should just buy a sex doll and take himself out of the gene pool. Win-win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:13 PM
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“Have boundaries but be flexible” Please explain what the point of having boundaries is then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:34 AM
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I only struggle where my bills are getting paid. I work hard af at my job and make sure I’m taken care of. Relationships should not be a struggle. If a man expects me to “fight for” the relationship, give me something to fight for. Relieve me of my burdens. Make it worth the fight. But they can’t even do that 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:20 PM
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Okay but once I do these squats, she still gon be broke...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:17 PM
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And they turn around and get butthurt when you expect them to pay for dates and wait a while to have sex. THIS IS WHY, PEA BRAIN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:20 AM
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No, seriously. Listen to them talk about “high value” traits. It’s always looks and money. They never talk about how being kind, respectful, and generous. They also attribute “romantic success” to quantity of women available to sleep with rather than quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:35 AM
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Honestly, I say let them have their sex dolls. The gene pool will only improve and less women will be victimized by bottom-of-the-barrel males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:23 PM
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I remember the first time I heard this song because I scream-clapped the whole way through.. god I love dolly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:51 PM
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I came here to !! emphasize this- THIS is why we don’t go out with them unless they pay. Their time is apparently worthless and they’ll “meet” anything resembling a woman for the hell of it. Don’t think you’re on a date just because you’re on a “date”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:44 PM
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Women have the power to genetically weed LVM out of existence. Funny how the “MuH BiOLoGy” crowd doesn’t keep that same energy when a woman isn’t attracted to short, physically weak men with recessed chins. But go off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:04 PM
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While his daughter is with one of the most handsome men on the planet? Okay, Steve. Glad she doesn’t listen to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:31 AM
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Question: when men disrespect each other for “simping”/seeking female validation, is that because it’s only acceptable for men to seek validation from each other? Why don’t these men just date each other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:16 AM
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Former SEC employee, can confirm investigations are almost exclusively targeted at individuals and almost never at large hedge funds or institutions. Looking at you, GME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:02 AM
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He would be nothing without her. What kind of a man is that? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:54 AM
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She wants to be edgy Carrie Bradshaw so bad but what she needs to be is in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:50 AM
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Saw this tik tok today and GASPED at the sleeping bag 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:47 AM
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It’s the peach fuzz beard and hatfishing for me. Just say you don’t have enough testosterone to stand up to other men and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:36 PM
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Yep I came here to say this. Just like any other man, watch how he treats people and how he talks about other people, especially women. If he is quick to be disrespectful and talk shit on other people, especially women (either individually or as a group) that’s an LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:34 PM
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Omg I love this 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:29 PM
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The next time someone has an issue, simply ask them “What’s wrong with dressing like a woman?” And any answer they give about you doing it for attention, etc.: “What’s wrong with that?” “What made you come to that conclusion?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:33 PM
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One of my favorites: “If you’re shocked at suddenly seeing yourself in profile, noticing that slight droop beneath the chin and those telltale muscles sagging at the jaw and neck, you certainly should attempt to do something about it. That is precisely why Charles of the Ritz created Throat Cream Concentrate in a special “massage-on” container....” And another: “Too pretty for words! Suddenly Slim designed with a pleasing new contour back line, to lift and shape your figure along the natural lin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:37 AM
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I was looking through a playbill from 1965 JUST LAST NIGHT and the marketing of clothes and cosmetics to women Has. Not. Changed. Not surprising that a lot of men haven’t changed much either 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:25 PM
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What if you randomly asked him to describe what his dick looks like? You know, as a joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:25 PM
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Your life must be very boring to have this much time to form such a strong opinion on what some women are doing on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 03:19 PM
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Focus this energy on making your wife cum :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 03:16 PM
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I’m not in the habit of answering questions from men who cannot please their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 06:08 AM
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Tell yourself that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:19 AM
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That’s like saying “you already know how to cook, why would you watch the cooking show?” Because I love helping women. If you spent any time helping people with no expectation of social or material reward, you would understand why married women love being a part of FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:18 AM
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She wishes that you felt the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 04:59 AM
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I’m trolling as karma for you trolling your wife in bed all this time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 12:51 AM
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That’s your best response? You’re still pressed? Go drink some water.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 09:28 PM
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Then those men shouldn’t be married? What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 08:41 PM
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“If you hate women so much go date a man” except in real life 😳😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:51 PM
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Meanwhile his boys are out here with socks and sandals, basketball shorts, t shirt and baseball cap, beer gut, balding... like, THATS who you’re trying to impress, guy? That’s your audience? You want their validation? You want them to be your alpha? Help me understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:43 PM
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Men are allowed to have preferences. Men are not allowed to shame and degrade women that aren’t his type. He wants a “real woman” but he’s out here acting like a boy. Try being a real man first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:32 PM
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Really? Because you seem to care a whole lot. You keep replying 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 05:06 PM
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You’re right. It’s not my fault that men are bad at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 05:00 PM
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Again, you seem to have a very loud opinion about my sex life for someone with a shitty sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:57 PM
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Well if you don’t please your wife in bed because you don’t get anything out of pleasing her no wonder she doesn’t wanna fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:49 PM
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I do give you credit for making men’s sexual failures yet another problem for women to solve. Women: men are bad at sex. Men: then DONT sleep around! Nobody’s telling you to have sex with men! Keep it in your pants! Women: I’m not having sex. Men: you have a dead bedroom and your partner should leave you. Sir, it’s a lot less energy for you to just admit that your wife isn’t attracted to you and to do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:29 PM
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“You don’t get that way from being a virgin” - slut shaming. All this judgement from a man whose wife doesn’t want to fuck him hahaha Smells like projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:03 PM
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What’s mind boggling is how a man who’s wife will only fuck him under threat of divorce is out here slut-shaming strangers on the internet instead of making himself more desirable to his wife. You can’t even see how embarrassing that is, but I love my morning coffee with a side of comedy so keep it up 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:44 PM
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You came here to air your personal baggage when it’s not even relevant to my original comment so maybe you should keep it in your pants? And yes, you are entitled. Entitled is exactly the word I would use to describe you based on the information you provided here. Extremely entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:35 PM
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So you had to threaten her to put out for you? Yikes. And you describe your own WIFE in terms of “sexual baggage from fucking too many guys”? When you could have said “she needs help overcoming past trauma”? THATS how you talk about your own WIFE?! Yikes yikes yikes. No wonder you had to put a metaphorical gun to her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:17 PM
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Sweetie, you need to spend more of this energy on satisfying your wife and less energy interrogating random internet women about their sex lives. If this is your reaction to a woman checks notes demanding respect in a relationship, it’s no surprise why your wife doesn’t want to boof you. Worry about that instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:04 PM
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You can’t seem to understand that if anyone divorces over bad sex, it’ll be me, not him 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:51 PM
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Stay away from broke energy. Even if that man has money, if his energy smells broke, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:49 PM
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Men: she’s gotta have a flat stomach, thick in all the right places, long hair, wears makeup but it has to look natural, clear skin, no attitude, cooks my meals, touches my pp, cool girl that’s into no-effort dates, ignores my skid marks... Women: I prefer men who make good money. Men: YoUrE a GoLdDigGeR 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:47 PM
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Go talk to your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:37 PM
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He always finishes and loves it, whereas I am always giving him an A for effort. Sound familiar? Maybe you should talk to your wife instead of strangers on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:34 PM
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He won’t, because he is the sexual disappointment. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:32 PM
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All of these comments are so unoriginal and boring. If you’re going to get triggered at random women on the internet, at least say something clever. But you’re right. Men cannot keep up with me in the bedroom. I find most, if not all men, to be sexually disappointing. Men are terrible at sex, universally. So I might as well be with a man who is kind and respectful because a man will never satisfy me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:26 PM
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By your own logic, you wouldn’t be on this sub if you were in a happy, healthy relationship either. I’m sorry that women don’t like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:19 PM
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Looks like you woke up today and chose to get triggered by... checks notes ... women demanding respect? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:17 PM
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You’re like the 10th person to say “YoU cAnT eVeN gEt a MaN” so not only are you completely unoriginal and boring, you’re also dead wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 02:16 PM
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Filter posts by the “FDS success” flair and you’ll see plenty of other examples of success stories. That’s beside the fact that cats and chocolate are far better company than selfish, disrespectful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 06:08 AM
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*stop dating toxic men
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 06:04 AM
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You really need help. What do you think marriage is? Two people who are committed to each other. If that’s not what you want, that’s fine, but there are PLENTY of men who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:46 AM
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I can only attest to myself because I’m not conducting a survey of people using FDS principles in their relationships but if you’d like to do that, there’s a flair for “FDS Success” you can look at all the success stories for yourself :) And yes it works for me both getting and keeping men. For the record.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:45 AM
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If I have so many options as a woman WHY would I date someone who doesn’t value my education and career as much as I do?? Does this man think so little of his own gender that he really believes all men are a homogenous unit that have the exact same preferences as him? Why do they hate it when we generalize them but they generalize themselves CONSTANTLY?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:38 AM
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I can only speak for myself but it’s been working GREAT for me, never doing it any other way again. Ladies, if you’re reading this, don’t listen to the naysayers— IT WORKS. 💍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 04:33 AM
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Men ✍🏻 are ✍🏻 allowed ✍🏻 to ✍🏻 have ✍🏻 preferences ✍🏻 but ✍🏻 women ✍🏻 are ✍🏻 not ✍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:28 AM
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I can only speak to my own experience but every man I’ve been in a relationship has expressed the intention to marry me and two of them bought a ring. I don’t know about the others but it works for me just fine. And again of course respect men, I respect anyone who respects me. I also respect myself enough to have high standards for the people in my life because I treat others with high standards myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 10:29 PM
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I commented my experience as it seems no matter what I do, someone will criticize me for it. And here you are, proving my point 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 10:16 PM
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I don’t need to validate my own experience by giving specific examples, all I need to do is to say “this happened to me.” Sorry if that’s not good enough for you but you’re actually making my point for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 10:11 PM
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This man is not looking for a partner, he’s looking for an object to control. This is the behavior you expect from a man who brings zero to the table. If he really got it like that he wouldn’t have to destroy a woman’s “ego” to get her to stay with him. She’d already be there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:52 PM
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I never said that other people aren’t being criticized, I was simply making an observation based on my own lived experience as a woman. Like why go this far out of your way to say “everyone experiences that” when I’m talking about my experiences? Yes, we should all stop enforcing gender norms and just let people live. I agree. But I was talking about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 09:46 PM
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There are some men out there who love that look and reject girls who look like me, what’s your point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:56 PM
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My modeling agency would disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:52 PM
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FDS is all about self improvement, which leads me to believe that you look at the sub just to be judgmental and criticize women and degrade them based on their appearance rather than what the sub actually says. There’s a whole sister sub dedicated to leveling up in looks, career, health, life etc. It’s not conjecture if I am a “conventionally attractive” woman who has been abused by men who masquerade as “a nice guy.” I have a lot of personal experience with that. Women have a space to share the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:44 PM
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Right. And if you don’t wait and have sex right away, you’re a slut. You don’t have to justify your values to anyone because you will be criticized no matter what they are. So you might as well stick to whatever serves you best and find people who share your values. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:36 PM
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I would say that the feedback I receive is at least partly informed by my gender and what their expectations are for someone who is my gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:30 PM
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They really expose themselves. Not only do they value women based on their looks above all else (objectifying), they degrade their own gender by insisting that all men do this. They literally justify their own trash behavior and then get mad when women call it out for being trash. It’s so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:29 PM
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I’m sure you do get comments but I can only comment on my experience as a woman. I’ve already shared the opinions I get from people ^ above.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:24 PM
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The fact that you think every woman on FDS is somehow physically undesirable is what’s laughable and it really exposes who you are as a person and less about the women on that sub. That’s big cope energy and it’s sad to see. Conventionally attractive women are disrespected and abused by men just as much, if not more, than more “average” women are. All women need filtering mechanisms and no woman should have to settle just because she isn’t a Victoria’s Secret model. We would rather stay single. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:22 PM
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As a woman, I receive feedback on my life and my choices regardless of whether I asked for it, regardless of the commenter’s connection to me and how much information they have, and the unsolicited comments usually fall into these “cliches” that come up frequently on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:13 PM
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I was talking about comments I have received in real life from people who know me, just to clarify. As well as the abstract comments from strangers on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:09 PM
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You’re conflating looks with value. FDS teaches the opposite. Women are allowed to have preferences, but our values come first. In other words, “high value” is not “a man who looks like the guy that most women want to have sex with.” High value is a man who shares my values first (compatibility), and sexual attraction follows second. A man is worthless to me if he is incompatible with my values, regardless of what he looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:52 PM
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“High Value” means someone who is compatible with MY values. If a man does not value waiting until commitment to have sex, then he has no value to me as a partner because we do not share the same values.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:48 PM
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I don’t know what you mean by “Chad,” all I can say is that women are allowed to and supposed to be with men who are attractive to them and who are kind to them. It’s much healthier to be single than to be with someone that you aren’t attracted to and who is not kind to you. The fact that you use the words “fat” “black” and “over 30” in a derogatory way suggests that maybe you aren’t a very kind person yourself. And no amount of abs or income is going to make you valuable to someone who values k…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:44 PM
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FDS filters out men who are unkind, disrespectful, and selfish. A man has no value in FDS if he is any of these things, regardless of what he looks like or how much money he makes how how many women “want” him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:29 PM
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Yes, women have preferences just like men do. That’s okay. However, the entire point of FDS is to filter out men who are low value. A man who is disrespectful, racist, unkind, and selfish is low value regardless of whether he meets a woman’s physical standards or attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:21 PM
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You’re the one who sounds bitter and I’m actually really sad about that. And FDS women don’t value tall, handsome men with big dicks if those same men are disrespectful, racist, unkind, and selfish. The fact that you reduce value in both men and women to their physical traits in one short post is really sad to see and I really hope you get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 06:18 PM
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If you’re looking for a post on “how to be the ideal woman for men” you won’t find it. Defining value by subjective criteria such as looks, money, personality, etc. is inherently unhelpful because everyone has their own preferences in each of these categories. Some men love skinny girls. Some men love thick girls. Some men love demure ladies. Some men love piercings and tattoos. Some men want educated, professional women and some men have no preferences on that. FDS isn’t going to waste our time…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:44 PM
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I find that men will always find a way to whine about my personal dating preferences. When I’m with someone who’s got the “bad boy/Chad” vibe, it’s “women won’t give nice guys a chance/lower your standards if you want a man to respect you.” When I date a guy that’s more mellow and average looking but very respectful and kind, it’s “you’re dating a boring doormat/simp” 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:28 PM
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Well I suppose if your ultimate goal is to be “sexually successful” then you’re right, you don’t need to respect women at all. And you’ll get no judgment from me- if that’s your goal, have at it and I hope you are successful. But this conversation is about FDS and the goal in that sub is not sexual success. I am very well aware that many men want to be “sexually successful” with me, which is why I need FDS to help me filter men who are only interested in sexual success vs men who are interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:18 PM
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Interesting how you’ll make a generalization about what “all women” value and in the same breath state that “not all incels disrespect women.” So it’s okay for you to generalize women but it’s not okay for women to generalize men? That’s convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 05:00 PM
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I thought Outlander too. And yeah I fail to see the difference between acting out rape in a TV show and “acting” out rape in porn. Except in porn it’s usually not acting, which makes it worse..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:57 PM
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I think it’s really sad that you define someone’s worth by their looks and whether or not they are working class rather than how they treat people. I have observed several instances where an overweight, working class man is highly valued by his partner because that man is respectful, generous, family oriented, and mature. Of course, he is dating within his socioeconomic class, but that’s nothing at all to be ashamed of.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:49 PM
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Well, since you asked about my personal life: no, I don’t have an issue keeping men either. Literally never in my life have I ever been worried that the man I’m with was going to leave me for someone else because my standards are too high or whatever. Of course, I can only speak to my own personal experience, but every man that I’ve ever been in a relationship with has stated his intention to marry me and a few have actually asked. Like, went and bought a ring. I’ve also only ever been broken up…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:42 PM
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See the thing is, it’s not only men who have a lot of options. I get asked out multiple times a week just for existing. So if I’m looking for someone who is cool with taking things slow sexually, I have that option because I also have options. If a man has a problem with that, that’s fine. We’re not compatible. Next. A LVM is defined in FDS as a man who does not respect his partner and takes away from her happiness. It has very little to do with looks. Rich, handsome men can be LVM (and often ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 04:09 PM
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Women also have many options to choose when it comes to men. Therefore women should choose to date one according to her own standards. Same thing you just said, but for women. That’s FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:41 PM
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FDS doesn’t define HVM as “Chad” i.e. a man who ranks high in the male social caste. Women throw themselves at LVM all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:37 PM
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There’s a handbook with a section titled “what makes a woman high-value” I suggest you go read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:35 PM
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Men confuse this “dating strategy” concept a lot. Men see those words and think it’s “how to get and keep a man” because men think in terms of “how to get women to date me.” Most women rarely need a strategy for attracting men. Most women need strategies for filtering men. FDS is a filtering mechanism. And it works wonderfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:20 PM
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The pigtails triggered me. The last guy I dated pre-FDS wanted me to wear pigtails for him, a school uniform, call him daddy etc. I was 29 🤦🏼‍♀️ what is wrong with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:52 AM
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This is my own personal experience but both of my grandfathers were old school misogynists, except there really wasn’t a concept of that back then. It’s just how things were. Nobody talked about feminism or misogyny when my grandmothers were getting married, at least not in a concrete way. Feminism was still theoretical. Now that we have a word for misogyny and society is doing better at calling it out, the manosphere is getting increasingly more militant and defensive in a dangerous way. It’s r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:54 PM
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My brother asked “why not go 50/50” in a relationship and I said “because I’m making 100% of the baby.” If the man wants a child out of me, the LEAST he can do is pay for things. Gtfo w that 50/50 nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:09 PM
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Oh my GODDD I will never forget the episode of RHOBH where Yolanda APOLOGIZED to him for getting sick and said “I’m sorry, you didn’t sign up for this.” He didn’t sign up to take care of his sick WIFE?! They got divorced right after that. Ugh he is so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:51 AM
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I definitely hear you and I wouldn’t be interested in random men off the street either. Ew. I’m sure we all have acquaintances that would be willing to volunteer (I sure do) but you’re right, now that I think about it this is way more complicated than just getting a toy and calling it a day... 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:11 PM
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You’re so right lol it’s amazing how protective you get over the good energy that you work so hard to cultivate 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:42 PM
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Haven’t been dating or even been talking to men at ALL for a while and honestly it’s been great. I feel rested, at peace, my energy is restored.. I even look healthier. I’m not interested in dating anyone for the foreseeable future. However, I haven’t had sex in over three months and it’s starting to get distracting. I’ve never really had a FWB before... but I’m considering it. Just one good night could keep me satisfied for another three months, honestly. Anyone else been in this situation? Sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:15 PM
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Not me because I’m off men for the time being. My cousin and I are quarantined together. Her bf of eight months is currently long distance as of two months ago. All he did was FaceTime her for 90 minutes. That’s it. No card, no gift, nothing. We’re like sisters so I felt comfortable asking her WHY he didn’t even attempt to make their first v day feel a little special. Apparently they’ve been going through a rough patch lately, therefore he felt that it was unnecessary to do anything special for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:54 PM
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Noooo not the hip dips 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:24 AM
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Men ✍🏻 view ✍🏻 women ✍🏻 as ✍🏻 objects ✍🏻 and ✍🏻 call ✍🏻 it ✍🏻 “preference” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:02 PM
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Jenna, sweetie, your man dresses and speaks like a high school sophomore. Blink twice if you need help 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:00 PM
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I hate how hard I laughed at that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:52 AM
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Yes, I came here to say that maybe the overall volume of men decreases after 30 but it’s because these disgusting child groomers are no longer coming for me AND THATS OKAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:21 PM
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I saw this too. Not a single specific remark about who she is and why she is special. “Your [work/hobby/life] is so interesting [for X reason unrelated to me], I would love to get to know you better when it’s comfortable for you.” They tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:52 PM
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Who’s the common denominator here? Sounds like HE is the distraction 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:44 PM
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Not me in the Wendy’s drive thru for the first time in several years 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:56 PM
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I would love to hear your ideas on standards to set for a long distance situation! My cousin and I are quarantining together at the moment and her boyfriend is several hundred miles away. They have a virtual “date” planned for Sunday night, however I have a gut feeling that this guy is a LVM and I’m having a hard time articulating what she should expect from someone so far away. She seems to have gotten it in her head that the distance is an excuse for him to not pull out all the stops. I’ve nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:52 PM
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Pretty sure his definition of “broken” covers any woman with a past, especially single moms and divorcees. Good luck to him tho 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:21 PM
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“I’m not interested in being your prostitute with none of the financial benefits, bye”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:35 PM
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“I’m not the suffocating type” well maybe if you were, you wouldn’t have wasted ten years of your life with no marriage contract to speak for it? Not hating on her at all, but it’s WILD how women will automatically negatively label themselves for having standards and enforcing them. We have been collectively gaslit to put up and shut up. It’s time to break the cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:02 PM
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I was raised to clean up after myself and to help out if I’m in someone else’s home. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to help out at an intimate dinner party or a family gathering. However I think this meme is directed at the girls who clean the frat house during a party to impress the drunks and coke heads by showing that she’s a WiFeY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:30 PM
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She gets it 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:06 AM
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“Tell me a story about me that doesn’t include you in it” I like to bust this one out after a few months of dating under the guise of a “fun game” just to see how well this man knows the real me. You don’t want to see him struggle with this task and you don’t want to see him play out a pedestaled version of you that isn’t real but clearly exists in his head. Seriously, try it. Tell me how it goes ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:14 PM
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I think about this a lot. As women, we have the means of production to have children. If we are privileged enough to also have the financial means to have children, why not set a firm deadline and have children with or without a partner? I’d like to have children in my late 30s through IVF and/or adoption. It would be awesome to find a HVM to do this with, but ultimately I know I’m capable of having a family with my current support system. I think that if enough women decide to pursue their drea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:02 PM
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Aside from my education, the nose job was the best money I ever spent. It’s not even that I feel “prettier,” but I feel like I can finally see my face without fixating on my nose. I’m all for making these little tweaks if they set your mind at ease. Go for it 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:09 PM
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omg I just realized the eczema on my legs went away after my last breakup 😳 Whether that’s due to the stress or his FILTHY house, we’ll never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:03 PM
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Omg yes. What happened with GME is much more complicated than one can explain in a comment like this and that’s not the point, but you’re so right that the bandwaggoners who gambled their FAMILY MONEY did not have the mental capacity to do their own research or understand how institutional trading controls markets. They were betting 10 to 1 odds thinking it was a sure deal. These men really thought that THEY were smart enough to make a killing on something that they couldn’t even begin to explai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:00 PM
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Oh 100% women get judged HARD for having any type of work done, and judged HARDER for not looking perfectly proportioned and wrinkle free forever. When I got my nose job my male best friend cautioned me that men would somehow be able to tell... ok and? I did it for me. I couldn’t care less what some man’s opinion is unless he paid for it (I paid for it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:33 PM
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My ex husband used to insist that “we’re only having boys!” Yes he went to a strip club on his bachelor party and regularly watched porn. I left him and never had his babies. Don’t procreate with men who don’t want daughters. Even the “jokes” reveal how he really sees women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:23 PM
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Honestly lol I love cosmetic procedures, and I gotta say, this jawline is snatched to the gods. Good for him. Do whatever makes you happy 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:14 PM
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Exactly. I know I don’t want to eat glass. I don’t need to “JuST TrY iT oNcE” to know that I don’t want to eat glass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:18 PM
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“How do you know you won’t like it?” Idk Brad, how do you know you won’t like eating glass? Have you tried it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:13 PM
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I’m glad you told his mother. I wish I had done the same when I left my ex husband who watched anal porn several times a week to the point where he couldn’t finish inside the right way, it had to be anal (which I refused to do). His mother is probably still sitting there wondering why I left her perfect baby boy 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:12 PM
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The last time some man asked me for anal, I said “Absolutely. If you can push a dildo the size of your penis into your asshole for the exact length of time that you expect to be inside mine, I’ll do it for you.” I stood my ground on that and he never asked again (although in hindsight, I should have dumped him sooner. Thanks FDS 🥰)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:03 PM
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So when women have standards and stick to them, that’s “hate” lol these boys wouldn’t last a day as a woman. Pathetic. Anyway, if we’re being targeted by QAnon, that’s a sign we’re doing something right. Thanks for the laugh, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:48 AM
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It’s the men who say that they don’t want to have daughters. Dead giveaway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:36 PM
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please for the love of god de-normalize sleeping with, let alone marrying, these nasty barn animals 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:11 PM
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Like imagine if, as a woman, I gave an interview stating that I couldn’t imagine settling down with one man until I had tasted enough dicks 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:01 PM
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AND she must have a well paying job LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:31 PM
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HELLO I HAVE A BIG COCK 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:27 PM
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Is “eroticized violence” a nice way of saying “a man beats me during sex but I’ve been conditioned to think that it’s not abuse” because...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:26 PM
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This has everything to do with the type of person he is and nothing to do with the person you are. One day you’ll look back on this post and laugh at how you literally never think about his dusty ass anymore Edit to add: “everything was perfect between me and my REAL girlfriend before you told her what I did to you” HAHA the audacity runneth over 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:21 PM
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I came here to ask WHY IS THIS STUFF ALL SO UGLY 🥴 It’s sad to think this girl is transacting on her sexual attention for this ugly cheap ass stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:09 PM
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I’m so tired...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:07 PM
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This needs to be normalized! An accessible place only for women who want to meet each other with no expectation of running into men.. a place that we don’t have to search for online. A place that just ✨exists✨ Imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:36 PM
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“I like independent women because they don’t expect me to spend money on them”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:09 PM
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My ex husband used to leave his pants and socks on the floor. When I asked him to pick them up he’d say “there are dirty dishes in the sink.” Unless I had kept the house spotless at all times, he would refuse to pick up his own pants off the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:05 PM
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Sir, David was stacked. Broke ass. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:59 PM
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Spoiler alert: it’s both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:11 AM
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“It’s not my fault for lying, it’s YOUR FAULT for believing my lies” Tell me that women don’t like you without actually telling me that women don’t like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:36 PM
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NOT CENTERING YOUR LIFE AROUND PLEASING MEN IS PERCEIVED AS HATE 🗣 Although I am a straight woman, this post inspired me to devote more energy to my female friendships. My relationships with men were always prioritized by myself and the culture around me, and as a result I definitely missed out on the experience of strong, enriching sisterhood. And for what? A string of low value relationships and interactions with men that only drain my energy and happiness? I feel robbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:59 PM
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She’s really wasting her time and potential like this. This is a one way ticket to anger and depression. Hate to see it 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:52 PM
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It’s my most toxic trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:59 PM
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This might not be the most PC thing to say but as a straight woman, I wish I were attracted to other women 🥺 men are just not it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:53 PM
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THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Trust yourself! If shit don’t feel right, don’t overthink it - ACT on that feeling! I left my ex husband before I had the capacity or vocabulary to articulate the intense, nagging gut feeling that followed me for so long. It wasn’t until YEARS AFTER I had left, gained clarity, went to therapy, and generally matured as an adult that I understood in hindsight that my ex was addicted to porn, hot-tempered borderline abusive, dishonest, self-centered, and ungenerous. I went thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:32 PM
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Very cool, Jason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:14 AM
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Telling me to “calm down” when I’m not yelling/talking in a normal voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:59 AM
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“Why are you so upset? It’s like you’re being hostile for no reason!” “Why aren’t you more upset? It’s like you don’t care!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:13 AM
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I’m done with the Internet for today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:14 AM
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The fact that I dress well and people are attracted to me makes you feel insecure? Not my fucking problem. The fact that I like to travel alone and chat with the locals wherever I go makes you feel insecure? Not my fucking problem. The fact that you are too cheap to turn up the heat in your home in the dead of winter such that I spend no time at your place anymore? Not my fucking problem. The fact that me being assertive when I communicate my needs and boundaries makes me sound “defensive,” “ang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:36 PM
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Vegan here. Last boyfriend was vegan. You can check out my latest post to see the details on how that relationship panned out. To summarize: Vegan men may have strong and well placed convictions with respect to animals/health/the environment etc. However, this does not mean that his respect for women is equally as evolved. DO NOT assume that just because he has progressive ideas about veganism that he has progressive ideas about relationships. Vet him as hard as you would vet a steak and potatoe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:28 PM
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Lol it’s actually true, this happens, but for a man to say it out loud is just... wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:24 PM
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One of my uncles recently divorced. He’s in his mid-late 50s. His girlfriend is 32. I’m 30. I don’t even know how I’m going to react when I inevitably meet her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:25 AM
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Why do women advertise that their men DEFINITELY settled 💀 Might as well caption it “he finally gave up on meeting someone else”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:20 AM
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The last guy I dated was a refrigerator hoarder. You know the type: a single pickle in the jar in the back of the fridge, 2 month old leftovers, the five half empty bottles of ketchup throughout. I organized his fridge for him. Then I found FDS. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:15 AM
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What year is it? 1867?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:44 PM
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These are the men who complain that they “never get matches” and “women have it so easy on OLD” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:46 PM
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In my last “relationship,” the man tried to explain the stock market to me in the simplest terms as if I had never heard of the concept before: “you should really consider investing/buy low, sell high” etc.. I used to work at the SEC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:47 PM
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I’m not one to pass judgment on women who want to change their names, but I had a deep, negative gut reaction to the thought of changing my name from a young age without the vocabulary to really put my finger on why it made me so uncomfortable. My NV ex husband HATED that I wouldn’t change my name and that I couldn’t give him a “good reason” other than that I simply didn’t want to (my desires are not reason enough lol). Now that I’m older I realize it was my gut telling me that I shouldn’t be ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:24 PM
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omfg my ex used his shower gel for hand and face soap 😳 it’s a thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:31 PM
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Looks like a moldy old thumb sitting next to a Disney princess. The math aint mathin’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:55 AM
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His mortgage payment is around $1400-$1600 a month and he was asking me for $700 for five months, $3500 total. It’s not the amount that bothers me because I definitely can afford it. It’s the principle. Especially when my family is welcoming me home with open arms for free and he knows that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:52 AM
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Yes!! Me too. They know I’m a high earner and they’re waiting to capitalize. This has happened to me in two of my last three serious relationships. Another motivation for committing too soon: when a man is aware of one or many of his flaws, so he gets you to commit to him before you have the chance to figure them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:08 PM
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Beware of the men who commit too early as well as the men who do not commit at all. This very well written post puts it all in perspective with respect to men who do not commit at all. However, ladies, this does not mean the polar opposite- a man who commits WAY too early and expects the same from you- is a “safer” bet. These men are also in danger of using you, but for different reasons and using different tactics. I just realized while typing this comment that all of my relationships with men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:12 PM
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That book should be required reading for all women. I got the audiobook for a road trip and I ended up listening to it twice straight through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:58 AM
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Yeah I agree. I’m not in the habit of allowing misogyny to make decisions for me, in either direction. Society says single woman is bad? I’m a single woman anyway. Society says motherhood is drudgery? I’ll have a kid if I want to, husband not required. Though I definitely agree w OP’s points on how society views mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:11 PM
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I’ve been trained to handle myself in a courtroom over several years. I know how to moderate my emotions, especially in a tense situation. It NEVER FAILS that when I am in an argument with a man, I get called “angry,” “hostile,” “defensive,” when I am just speaking calmly yet assertively. “You must not care about me!” I have literally made men cry because I wasn’t “emotional enough” during an argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:53 PM
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Please see my latest post. This mindset IS A TRAP. Do not fall for it. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:07 PM
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Absolutely. I am so incredibly lucky. If I ever have kids, I know what kind of parent I want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:48 PM
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I came here to ask if this is REAL. It can’t be real....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:11 AM
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My uncle is a total HVM, and he is divorced. His wife left him, but because she is a genuine narcissist and he put up with her for the sake of their child. However, I do think that he falls into a very small minority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:37 AM
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I think what you meant to say was: “if you are investing time and effort into your appearance, it should only bring you joy rather than making you feel like you’re constantly fighting yourself. If you are investing time and effort into your appearance, make sure that your looks are the least interesting thing about you (read: you are a well- rounded person outside of what you look like)” Drawing arbitrary lines around makeup, hair, and cosmetic procedures can make other people feel attacked for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:23 AM
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So I waited until I turned 30 to schedule my nose job. I have invested a quarter of a million dollars (no joke) into my undergrad and grad school education. I have a high powered career and I make great money. I work on myself in therapy. I have interesting hobbies. I don’t have toxic friends or date toxic people. I achieved all of these things with my current nose, so I understand that I don’t need to change it for any reason other than I enjoy investing in myself So now that I’ve invested so m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:13 AM
1

It’s hard not to feel attacked as a “bad feminist” and second guessing myself for getting a nose job, wearing makeup, putting in hair extensions, wearing heels, and showing off my amazing body in clothes that make me feel great. It’s like, yes I read Naomi Wolf. Yes I understand that beauty standards are toxic. I’m also not going to apologize for investing in myself and my appearance. I love myself and this is how I express that love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:01 AM
10

Dumped him and I’m staying with my amazing parents :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 03:40 AM
155

Being with a man is not a bowel movement. It is not a requirement, and there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t have one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:59 PM
11

I commented his reaction somewhere else but yeah, exactly what you’d expect. Gaslighting, excuses, tears, in that order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:55 PM
59

Commenting for every woman who was constantly compared to an ex, especially when the man is attempting to justify his shitty behavior. “My ex did XYZ to me so I’m going to assume you’re just like her.” Or something along those lines. I’ve never once done this and I’ve had some very shitty exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:20 PM
21

There are plenty of YouTube videos out there on how to glow-up/level up as a woman. I usually just take whatever suggestions apply to me. In my last glow up phase, I laminated my eyebrows, tinted my eyelashes, whitened my teeth, began taking better care of my hair, adjusted my skincare routine, learned a few new makeup tricks, and revisited my yoga practice. These few adjustments made a tremendous difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:14 PM
26

He resorted to crying after I shot down all of his arguments and excuses. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:23 PM
34

Every single time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:24 PM
26

I replied to a different comment asking for his reaction, but suffice it to say: exactly how you would expect lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:08 PM
72

Exactly how you would expect. An apology, and “If I knew it would upset you this much, I never would have made the suggestion.” OF COURSE you wouldn’t have made the suggestion if you knew I’d be smart enough to see right through it. How is that an apology? I was calm and measured throughout and had an answer for every stupid excuse he came up with. When he realized the jig was up, he cried his crocodile tears and stammered that I was treating him “like an attorney, wanting to litigate every angl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:09 PM
47

Like the trash on Tuesday morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:55 PM
38

I’m at my parents’ place and I really feel so blessed to have some time off. I know there are so many people suffering these days and I just feel really lucky that I got what I needed in this moment: rest. I’ve been working my ass off far away from my family for a decade. I’m glad you had the same opportunity :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:08 PM
86

Oh, this for sure. In the heat of the argument, he let it slip that he planned on using my rent payments to help buy a new car... 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:01 PM
164

I didn’t even mention how, when I initially refused his offer, he attempted to guilt me into accepting it. “I’m going to be so lonely up here without you,” “I can’t imagine not seeing you for X months,” insinuating that our relationship would take a hit due to the distance... all the while, he has the power and resources to solve these “issues” himself. You’re exactly right. He wanted me to pay for HIM to have the privilege of my time and presence. Laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:58 PM
125

I commented this already, but what I failed to mention in the original post for the sake of brevity is that he hasn’t had his house deep-cleaned since he moved in. There are still unpacked boxes of shit lying around. Effectively, he asked me to pay to either live in filth or clean it myself. There’s “equality” for you. NEVER let your guard down, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:48 PM
131

You’re bang-on. I didn’t even mention how his house hasn’t been deep cleaned since he moved into it... so I’d be paying to live in a dirty house or paying to clean it for him. The “equality” tho 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:44 PM
154

Exactly. My solution: if you’re so concerned that I’m taking advantage of you, how about I just not date you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:41 PM
11

Equating feminism, even radical feminism, with racial supremacy is the hallmark of an intellectually undisciplined mind. Either you don’t understand the difference between “equality” and “supremacy” because you’re intellectually deficient or willfully ignorant. Which is it, sir?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:21 PM
19

As someone who is investing in rhinoplasty and injectables, I definitely understand that I’m doing it to enhance my natural beauty to seem more presentable for the sake of my career. And, I also feel great when I look great. However, the MOMENT a woman decides to change her appearance because her man prefers this or that- CHANGE THE MAN INSTEAD. I can’t imagine that anyone would do something so drastic as a BBL if not solely for the male gaze. But yeah, when it comes to my career, I play all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:11 AM
27

The way Mr Darcy walked across the field at sunrise at the end of the movie, disheveled and stressed because of what his aunt did to Lizzie the night before, and how all he could think about was getting to her as soon as possible. YES. I’ll note that the man was fully dressed and not doing anything sexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:59 PM
236

I never had a man in my family start telling inappropriate jokes just because “I’m an adult now” after turning 18. If anyone had acted that way, my parents would have caused a whole scene. This woman needs to ASSERT HER BOUNDARIES and/or leave. It’s that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:51 PM
8

Some scrote DMed me the other day to say that Kamala wouldn’t have been Vice President but for a MAN nominating her. Like, yes men and women both need to work together to dismantle the patriarchy, what’s your point? You really think you said something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:06 PM
205

Every man I’ve ever dated started off with the “I love how smart and accomplished you are” line. But when it came time for me to protect a boundary or challenge a problematic mindset, I became “defensive,” “aggressive,” “uncompromising,” etc. Most men love the status that an intelligent, accomplished woman brings. They do not love the personal responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:03 PM
28

Let’s think about this logically. Either 10 random girls have the same issue, or he has one issue that affects all 10 girls. Which scenario is more likely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:34 PM
63

Completely unrelated but this young man looks a lot like Hilary Swank from the side :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:04 PM
18

Yeah I came here to say this. A man who is seeing sex workers based on your DA’s decision not to prosecute sex work was going to see sex workers anyway. I wouldn’t worry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:47 PM
97

I said this in another post but it bears repeating: If the most tragic thing to a man is a woman without a man, does it follow that men are narcissists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:14 PM
21

This is exactly right. Intelligence is not sexually transmitted. Would it make a difference if she learned the same information from a book? SHE learned it. Why does it matter WHERE she learned it? Because she had sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:06 PM
13

Show me in the Bible where Jesus said that women should put their bodies on display for their husbands. Because I’m pretty sure that in my own grandmother’s lifetime, the line was “cover up your sinful body and save your purity for your husband in Jesus’ name” rather than “be your husbands personal cam girl.” In conclusion, men have always used religion to subjugate women, and the rationale for doing so changes depending on the culture and context of the time. Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:34 PM
40

This video is a great rebuttal to “not all men” CUZ ITS MOST MEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:14 PM
38

Omg was rewatching season 2 last night and boy, when I tell you I’m so glad I found FDS. Carrie is such a bad influence haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:21 AM
9

I commented this already but I have a nose job coming up in February and I’m getting some conservative filler applied to my under eyes and around my mouth in March. I’m 30 and I’ve never had work done before. Yes, I acknowledge that the patriarchy creates insane beauty ideals that very few people can attain. At the same time, I’m not trying to morph into an IG baddie. In fact, I want to take attention AWAY from my nose by removing the bump and bringing it more in line with my face. I want to tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:56 PM
5

Completely agree. It’s very “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” as a woman in this world. If I do get under eye filler, some people might judge me as a bad feminist or think that I’m vain. If I don’t, I (genetically) look tired all the time no matter how much sleep I get which I hate, other people judge me for looking tired and/or sunken, etc. As long as you’re not getting validation from the male gaze either way just do what makes you feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:41 PM
14

I’m getting my nose job on February 3rd because I’m tired of my nose being a distraction to myself and others and just want a more balanced and proportioned face. In other words, I’m trying to take attention AWAY from the nose. I do not expect others to be more attracted to me because I’ve had my nose done. I just want to not have to think about it anymore. Yes, society peddles an impossible beauty standard that capitalism props up for its own gain. At the same time I think if you are a mentally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:32 PM
51

I have never heard a legitimately intelligent man use the word “alpha” in this manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:10 AM
71

It’s the FULL LEG TATS for me 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:08 AM
22

I wish I could upvote this a THOUSAND times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:59 PM
146

So it’s called “maternal gatekeeping” and not “having high standards for raising our children”? Let’s rebrand this to “paternal slovenliness” and call it a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:23 PM
84

Is he proud of this? He’s proud that he sucks in bed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:07 AM
100

I literally came here to ask why we are still having babies with these men. Let their genes die alone with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:28 AM
24

That’s a lot of words for “I’m bad at sex”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:47 AM
13

I’ve been looking into getting a concealed carry for years but it’s nearly impossible to get a license where I live. As soon as I get my own place I’m getting a firearm for sure. Right now I live with my brother so it’s not necessary. Mace will have to do until then. I also carry a switchblade if I’m hiking and a hatchet in backwoods/wilderness situations. The switchblade lives in my car when I’m not carrying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:43 AM
35

That’s a great one! My go-to response is always “Just lucky I guess”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:52 PM
168

When I turned 30, from a 40 year old man: “Now you’re officially too old to date me!” Me: “Then why are you in my DMs if you’re not interested?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:50 PM
80

Very analogous to how POC are asked to explain how systemic racism impacts their lives rather than doing the work to read, analyze, and internalize independently. The oppressor always demands the emotional labor of the oppressed. “Explain it for me” is a more subtle example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:38 PM
68

People who gotta flex like that aren’t busy enough doing real life things imho. I don’t know a single successful person who does multiple photo shoots with their non-spouse every month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:47 PM
43

I’m so happy for you, he sounds like such a catch!! My ex husband went 50/50 with me on all the household expenses while I was in law school even though he was ten and a half years older, had two graduate degrees, and was making six figures. He did pay for my exam/barbri fees and household expenses while I was studying for the bar. In hindsight, however, I should have asked my parents for the money. He insisted that I pay him back after we divorced. My parents also financed 80% of our wedding bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:06 AM
22

I see your “gift” and I raise you: a box of sour patch kids for Valentine’s Day. No card. After six months of dating. And I had spent $400 on his birthday dinner weeks before. Never again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:39 PM
30

Why are men so weird. My parents have this sculpture in their powder room and I never remember thinking “hehe boobs.” Nor has my brother. Fucking weirdos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:34 PM
39

The tea is strong today and I was not prepared lol GREAT observation ☕️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:26 PM
48

Which is funny because the last time I searched for “beauty” on Reddit (looking for that sub) the results gave me ten or fifteen porn subs. But no, those won’t get banned. Just female-only spaces where women openly share the trauma that feeds into and results from such things as sex work and porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:17 PM
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PAY 👏🏻 ATTENTION 👏🏻 to how he speaks about other women. How he speaks about other women reveals his opinion about women as a whole. You are not the special exception. He thinks about YOU like that too, even if he doesn’t say it out loud (yet).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:13 PM
35

“I only have power when you have none” -> if you have to take someone else’s power in order to have any, then you didn’t have any to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:10 PM
3

Good. Stick to your guns. I caved in and got married exactly a month after taking the bar exam and then I got divorced a year later. But instead of self-reflecting, my mom blames the failed marriage on “lack of shared values” - he’s white and from a different religion. She’s said she’ll refuse to let me marry outside the religion going forward, even though the reasons for divorce have nothing to do with religion or culture 🙄 Oh and my dad, her husband of over 30 years, is white-so nothing makes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:03 PM
7

Yes! It’s so sad that rising above it means isolation but any other course of action would be unhealthy. Nobody is going to therapy because nobody sees the issues with how our culture views women and marriage. And the deep irony is that most of the women in my family are miserable because they are married to LVM... but at least their kids speak Farsi I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:35 PM
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Unfortunately, although vetting a man’s social media use is a fail safe tactic to weed out LVM as described above (excellent post btw), unfortunately there are plenty of LVM who do not use social media. Stay on your guard at all times. However, if a man that you might be interested in is stupid enough to put his IG in his bio, going through his “following” list should be step number one. Before you even talk to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:32 PM
7

The lack of emotional support led to years of therapy and wasted time. My parents have no idea what I’ve been through because if I tell them, the conversation gets stuck at “this is why you should only date within our culture and men that we handpick for you” rather than “let’s figure out how you can do better in the future.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:27 PM
21

Agreed. I’d take the visible discomfort as a glaring sign of toxic masculinity and emotional immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:08 PM
56

So true. As we level up and become more attractive to men, we also become more attractive to hoards of N/LVM. That’s why we put the emphasis on leveling up for yourself, because more male attention never equates to quality male attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:27 PM
55

Women never do shit like this just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:06 PM
20

I wish I could say the same. I had a strict upbringing too (Persian) so I was never allowed to have a boyfriend and was completely unprepared for the “real world.” Lots of trial and error..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:02 PM
260

Why did none of the girls that I grew up with have this mentality? I feel robbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:00 AM
37

This will be my first Valentine’s Day alone in like five years, maybe more. Do something special for yourself with a spirit of gratitude for how strong you are and how far you’ve come. Treat yourself like you would treat someone you love on a day like Valentine’s Day. As for me, I’m getting myself a nose job lol 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:05 PM
55

This reminds me of when my best friend and I were dreaming out loud about who we want to be at 40, 50, etc. and she said “it’s funny how you never brought up a husband and kids.” Well that hit me like a ton of bricks. There are as many ways to live a happy and fulfilling life as there are people in this world. The only thing that is required of you is to figure out what your ideal life is and go for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:01 PM
13

I can’t even begin to fathom. I actually enjoy games, my brother and I grew up playing together and it’s one of our bonding rituals as kids. Now that we are ADULTS, however, we literally never have the time or desire to devote countless hours to a meaningless pursuit. There is SO MUCH to get done in real life. I could never relate to a person who thinks that “gaming” is a personality trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:52 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to go through this but we all come to our senses through bad experiences and uninformed decision making. I discovered FDS at 29- you will be light years ahead of me by the time you’re my age!! Best of luck in law school! And if you can help it- DONT DATE while you’re in law school. Focus entirely on doing your best. I often wonder how much better I could have done if I wasn’t messing around with men who were beneath me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:10 AM
102

Our society has very broad images of what “male success” looks like. A successful man is an individual, is stable, and is good at what he does. Wife and children not necessary but definitely a bonus. Society’s image of “female success” is marriage and motherhood. That’s it. Society does not value a woman who is an individual, who is stable, and who is good at what she does if she is single or if she is married and has no children. so of COURSE you see smart, successful, independent women exhibit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:56 PM
42

Alternative headline: “Sperm bank shortages due to more women deciding to have babies without male involvement”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:59 PM
98

It’s the presumptuousness for me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:56 AM
38

OLD is such a minefield. There are men who travel, and men who ONLY travel. I want to be with someone who is well-traveled, worldly, and appreciative of diverse cultures. I do not want to be with someone who sacrifices other areas of their life in order to cultivate a certain image on social media. That shit is childish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:57 PM
1

Not having weirdos stalk you at work is a uniquely feminine concern I think. Men don’t have the same worry, which is why I don’t understand why they don’t at least say where they went to school (if at all)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:01 PM
4

Any man who tells me that I’m not the best at reason or interpreting what I read is going to get smacked by my fancy top tier private school law degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:15 PM
45

I find it strange how many profiles there are without info about job and education. Like, why are you not telling me who you are? Hard left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:18 AM
3

Hahahaha no but I have the same problem she does 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:10 AM
103

Utilizing his own logic: If ten men were to forcibly jack off onto his face, it would be a net positive for ten men vs. one man who didn’t want to be sexualized. Am I morally superior yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:49 PM
118

annnddd there goes my lunch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:34 PM
69

Just wait until she wants to go on vacation. He’ll be bitching about paying for a room at the Motel 6 and it’ll be clear as day that he cannot afford her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:33 PM
32

I was wondering the exact same thing like.. where do you even live that taking a cab wouldn’t be cheaper than $40?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:31 PM
129

You 👏🏻 can’t 👏🏻 afford 👏🏻 her👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:30 PM
28

Flashier than me, a then 29-year old attorney making six figures in a major city, well-heeled/educated/traveled, great family, interesting hobbies, and physically fit. He was 41, unemployed, still trying to make it as an actor (lol), no assets or properties, slightly overweight, played games online for money, and followed young girls on Instagram. Good luck to him on doing better than me tho 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:53 PM
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Out of 89 million videos that’s actually an extremely low percentage. In other words 99% of the videos feature girls with long hair. In other other words, you proved her point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 06:11 AM
198

There’s a mental condition associated with suddenly not being able to read when you’re shopping for period products. It’s called being a dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:23 AM
122

“If the woman of my dreams walked past while we were out somewhere, I’d definitely not abandon you or walk out on our plans just to try to talk to her. I’d still try to talk to her though.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:18 AM
11

Fuck no, I only help women. As if a man would listen to me anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:54 AM
22

Seriously. Unless you have generational wealth, stop throwing around the word “legacy” you psycho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:16 AM
223

For my 30th birthday I insisted that my then-bf take a photo of me. Because... it was a milestone birthday. Tell me why this man flatly refused because he didn’t want me to put it on my IG “for all the horny creepy men to see.” My social media is private and I never said anything about posting pictures of myself-he reached this conclusion on his own with mental gymnastics and insecurity. Wild times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:33 AM
14

She could have spent this time and energy on a dope hobby, making friends, getting a degree, literally ANYTHING else. My god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:23 AM
6

I come from a very conservative culture. For most of my life, the thought of having a child by myself was unthinkable. I am so grateful that I found FDS and am seeing examples of women who are taking full and complete ownership of their relationships and their lives, especially when it comes to the sacred act of having children. If you have the means to do it alone, why would you tie yourself to a subpar man for the rest of your life instead? Anyway, I’m really proud of you ladies: it’s not easy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:16 AM
5

he can afford an excellent PR firm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:23 PM
9

If a man ever refers to Elon Musk as “Elon,” RUN FASTER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:21 PM
9

Another day, another reason to hate Elon Musk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:20 PM
21

That’s how you know he’s preaching the gospel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:12 PM
24

Exactly. Thanks, warren buffett, I think I can take it from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:03 PM
206

A few weeks ago I tried to reason with my mother about the fact that I’m 30, divorced, and have no desire to have children in the foreseeable future. I also have a very prestigious career that I worked hard for and am super proud of. She suggested that maybe I’m too selfish to have children. Or maybe the system isn’t set up for me to have children without sacrificing the things that give my life meaning and hitching my wagon to some man, praying he will always be there for me and the kids? This …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:38 PM
62

A man tried to explain the stock market to me in the stupidest way. “Buy low sell high.” I literally worked at the SEC. And I had been dating him for six months as of the date of that comment. “Oh really? Is that really how that works?” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:03 PM
38

And Kamala was single until she was 50. You can do anything: with or without a man 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:07 AM
159

The man who posted this drives his moms beat up old ‘97 Corolla.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:51 PM
43

Shame him, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:55 PM
112

Smarter, hotter, richer 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:49 PM
73

It came from a deadbeat who uses motherhood as an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:39 AM
108

And then when you still don’t fall for it, they’re out here yelling “I didn’t want to fuck you anyway” as if that’s supposed to be an insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:41 PM
449

Where does it say that she’s a single mother 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:30 PM
129

And this is why we are not dating during a pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:35 PM
187

My grandmothers sister was forced to marry at 16 to a man 20 years older than her. After following her home from school for a while, she flat out told him she wasn’t interested. The man went to her father and threatened to tell the whole village that she slept with him. Her father gave the girl in marriage to protect her reputation and the reputation of her three younger sisters. When he of course turned out to be abusive, she wasn’t allowed to divorce him because that would have made it much ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:56 PM
107

When are we going to start calling this what it is? A mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:28 AM
13

As long as you’re protecting yourself somehow. Unfortunately, this is not Bumble’s message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:26 PM
50

Absolutely. A friend of mine from college is a forever gf. Been with the man for six years. No ring. No marriage. They have combined bank accounts, two dogs together, and a house. God forbid this man cheats on her, what happens next? She has no legal recourse to recuperate what she invested in their joint property. She would either have to stick around forever or pray that he is decent enough to separate their assets peacefully. Building a life and not getting married is taking a gamble where th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:11 PM
32

It’s more common than not to learn these lessons through experience. You lost an old manipulative scrote and gained infinite wisdom. GOOD FOR YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:54 PM
59

Get your degree and a brilliant job. Buy your mom nice things when you can, and make sure it’s nothing your father can sell/return/use. When your father inevitably asks why he isn’t getting nice things, tell him that as long as he can’t afford to buy his WIFE a nice gift, he doesn’t get to have a nice gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:51 PM
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AN OLD BATH TOWEL noooo stoppp 😭 We live in a world where women have to ask if this is normal and that makes me so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:53 PM
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Yeah I came here to say I’m sorry someone hurt this guys feelings about his dick, but as long as men get to cum just about EVERY TIME while women are left praying that they might get off every once in a while, I don’t wanna hear any whining about dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:43 PM
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Like why is a 50 year old man tweeting the stream of consciousness of a 20 year old dropout? If he could see himself he’d be mortified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:36 PM
4

VCA MATCHING THE BLOUSE girrrl 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:27 PM
3

I need her to drop that hair care routine immediately 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:22 PM
79

He’s right. He doesn’t have to pay for a date. But that woman also doesn’t have to have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:11 PM
73

I came here to say this. Notice how his endgame is sex and only sex? He’s not looking to make these girls a future wife and mother. If you don’t want to be some peach fuzz scrote’s fleshlight, maybe just talk to men who are taking you out on real adult dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:09 PM
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My personal rule is to follow the lead of the women I look up to. Would Ruth Bader Ginsburg feel the need to show a little cleavage to get ahead? Or does she rely on her immense competence and work ethic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:50 PM
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Totally agree! It would be so great to have professional women share their experiences with this. Hope to produce and see more posts about it in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:28 PM
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Every single relationship I have ever had with a man since high school looks completely different to me now. All the gut feelings I had but couldn't put into words make total sense to me now. I could write a book on how I saw things then vs. how I see them now. I try not to beat myself up over it and instead look forward to how much better things will be moving forward :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:26 PM
14

Ugh I am SO sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately, most of the professional women I know have had to deal with LVM behavior at work. My own mother has endless tales to tell. We really need more posts/advice about how to identify and deal with LVM in the workplace. I'm willing to bet that many FDS principles, tweaked slightly, could help us out a lot. I'm going to meditate on this for the next few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:49 PM
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First of all, congratulations on your career choice and for making the commitment to law!! I've said this in other comments but I think it's a great idea to create more posts on the specifics of applying FDS to the workplace, keeping in mind that cultures differ significantly. I hope to create more posts in the future but anyone with experience in this should really chime in!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:45 PM
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There should definitely be another post with more specifics on what behaviors we should emulate and the behaviors we need to modify. We can get into super granular detail in so many different fields and cultures. I’d love to write more about my own experiences but I’m sure plenty of women have the voice to chime in on this. We really need to be putting our heads together and what better space to do it than here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:06 AM
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Femininity has a lot of power in the workplace (and anywhere). Women are naturally nurturing, calm, present, visually and mentally organized, etc. However, as long as you work in a competitive field dominated by men, you need every ounce of energy and confidence you can get. Emulating your professional role models is a fantastic idea! Honestly this is something that I need more of too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:57 AM
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My dad and uncle both turned out to be HVM, but interestingly their dad is a classic LVM. Fortunately, they had an angel of a mother and a father figure in their own HVM uncle, so it all worked out! Isn’t it funny how men are either a blessing or a curse lol there is no in between
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:40 AM
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My uncle is a CEO who makes a modest $1M per year and is an absolute HVM, to the core. Loyal, upstanding, gentlemanly, well read and spoken. All of it. He’s no Bezos money-wise but he makes a great living for where he resides. Men like this DO exist, however rare they may be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:07 AM
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Context: We never dated. He doesn't have a chance in hell with me, and he knows it. We went to the same law school, that's it. We are not friends, we do not communicate or associate for any reason at all. We've never even spoken in person. On my 30th birthday, he went out of his way to let me know that I am "officially too old" to date him (and honestly, thank god). He is 40, fat, a right-wing parrot-mouth, and alone. And yet this man somehow had all of the audacity in God's creation to both com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:59 AM
11

Exactly. Sir, I have a uterus. You don't. You need me to procreate, not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:40 AM
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Any one who refers to himself as a "gangster" non-ironically HAS to look like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:35 AM
13

100% the truth. How fucking mediocre do you have to be to NOT succeed in a world that was literally designed for YOU to succeed!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:54 PM
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In my experience, LVM love to date a "high status" profession because it makes them look great. "Look at me I'm dating a lawyer!" What they fail to realize is that A) success is not sexually transmitted, B) a high status women also deserves to be proud of their partner in equal measure, and C) a high status woman demands and deserves a level of personal independence that most LVM cannot stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:50 PM
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I think it's important to draw a distinction between "behaving like a man" and "behaving like an equal." It is by no means necessary to emulate male behavior or masculine traits to get ahead (behaving like a man). Behaving like an equal requires a little more effort from women because we were not trained to expect the same standard of personal and professional life that men are. You are already doing the work that many women are unable or unwilling to do, and your career will reward you. Keep up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:45 PM
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Definitely will, thank you for the recommendation!! I'd petition for an FDS monthly book club, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:36 AM
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My great aunt became a doctor in Iran in the '70s - imagine how difficult it was to become a doctor in AMERICA in those times, let alone a place like Iran. The woman was brave and brilliant. She opened a women's clinic in Tehran and kept it open after the Islamic Revolution; she was constantly harassed by the government for her work and was even jailed several times. Her husband - who was NOT a doctor - nevertheless expected HER to serve HIM inside the home. Her son unfortunately grew up to emul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:04 AM
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Exactly. My mother's cousin, a male doctor who relegated his wife - ALSO A DOCTOR - to the role of baby incubator/housemaid and refused to allow her to practice medicine while he established his own practice. She eventually got sick of his shit and dumped him after twelve years of marriage and three kids. Her mother vehemently protested the separation and allegedly doesn't speak to her daughter to this day, except to beg her to take her ex husband back. This type of social brainwashing, conditio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:58 AM
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Yes!! A great read for many reasons. Redirecting "caveman" bullshit is the icing on the cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:30 PM
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Same goes for "I'm tidying my house today." Okay, then why did I walk into your house and see several boxes and trash bags full of shit you haven't bothered to unpack since moving into this house a year ago? The fuck kind of tidying is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:47 PM
3

This is the story of the scorpion and the frog but in real life. Never trust a scorpion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:43 PM
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Thank you for letting me know that I definitely shouldn't have sex with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:42 PM
7

"I love that you're so independent." The last guy that said this to me made a HUGE issue about me going on a trip alone. I planned something that I wanted to do for a long time, I invited him along and he couldn't go. When I said I'd just go by myself, days of arguing ensued. Translation: I love the IDEA of dating an independent woman and the STATUS that gives me, until the time comes for her to exert her independence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:41 PM
18

I commented this on another post today but it bears repeating: I am currently reading "Sapiens" and I highly recommend it. Not only is it a fascinating look into the latest science of our pre-historic ancestors, but reading the book will allow you to put the "but caveman" bros in their place with ACTUAL SCIENCE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:34 PM
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Both my father and brother are lifelong porn free and they would be disgusted by the idea of consuming ANY porn/nude pictures. If any man had the gall to tell me that "every man does it" I'd laugh directly into his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:30 PM
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I'm currently reading "Sapiens" (highly recommend) and I'm really looking forward to the moment where I can beat a "but caveman" over the head with ACTUAL SCIENCE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:22 PM
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It took me so long to realize that I can break up with a man just because I want to. I don't need to: write a dissertation about it, create a powerpoint presentation, obtain a PhD in psychotherapy, justify myself to anyone. "This ain't it" is reason enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:34 PM
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You are exactly right. When women have the opportunity to put our very smart heads together instead of being isolated from one another due to patriarchal messaging, women inevitably figure out where all the bullshit is. This is why FDS is seen as a "hate sub" or whatever. It comes from women figuring out that romantic love doesn't need to be put on a pedestal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:28 PM
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"MANTRUM" is the word of the year. Thank you for sharing. Don't beat yourself up for staying in that relationship for longer than you should have - you deserve ALL the praise for getting out when you did. Now you have a bright, shiny, endless future ahead of you and someone else is stuck raising his spawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:22 PM
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I went to college in NYC as well and then stayed in the area for a few years after graduating. Anyone who has a trust fund is going to be fine in NYC. For the rest of us (me) who have no choice but to work hard and make significant financial inroads in a relatively short amount of time, living and dating in NYC is virtually impossible. Nobody is financially stable enough to take on a wife and have children. Those who are stable must devote their lives to work and little else. The Wall Street Bro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:16 PM
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It really should be "as long as the baby is coming out of my body, I get to decide when it happens." You're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:22 PM
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My ex husband did not get along with a female coworker and repeatedly referred to her as a "c u next tuesday". EX husband. I don't care how much you hate her, that language is ALWAYS uncalled for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:36 PM
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Pretty sure most people can eat dessert every day and not get sick of it... analogies are hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:32 PM
10

"The Bullshit" is scrote code for a woman who enforces her boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:31 PM
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An alum from my law school smugly announced that he doesn't date women over thirty and that he is looking for a woman aged 25-29 to HaVe HiS BaBiEs He is 40 and at least 50 pounds overweight, good luck with all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:27 PM
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I'd rather have a cat than sex with a man like that for eternity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:21 PM
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Honey, in 2020 your grandfather's negging tactics will get you a desperate pickmeisha with no self-esteem, or absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:19 PM
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Completely agree, but there is one silver lining to the OnlyFans craze: makes it much easier to filter out a scrote if he expresses any positive inclination towards using it. K BYE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:11 PM
7

Thank you!! Happy holidays :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:14 PM
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I swear a woman's intuition is EVERYTHING, yet there are so many manipulative messages out there designed to trick us into not listening to it. Trust your instincts, ladies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:14 PM
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