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| 18 | Sex and Relationship “Expert” who writes for GQ, Refinery29, The Cut, and Allure, reveals her “qualifications”.She is says “hunk” because this tweet is meant to be satirical. She’s a Twitter comedian if you read the rest of her tweets, she’s not being serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:48 AM |
| 49 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationFUCKING THIS. WHY do so many men INSIST women love their 30+ minutes of jackhammer-PIV-missionary sex?!?! “Well the girls I’ve been with did” No they didn’t!!!! They just didn’t want to be the one to tell you that you are bad and boring at sex!! I don’t know a single woman who likes that. Used to have so much trouble getting and staying wet with my ex. Thought there was something wrong with my hormones, but really he just sucked! Started sleeping with someone who will switch things up and stop p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:26 AM |
| 12 | 27F who deleted all of my dating apps and social mediaThat’s more or less what I’ve been doing. Leaning into platonic relationships, hobbies, and work. For the most part, I am very satisfied. Though I think for as strong and independent one can be, I think there can still exist a longing for romantic affection and companionship. I don’t think that makes me particularly weak or lacking in self love and respect. I think it’s just part of being human and an emotion that I grapple with from time to time. I definitely agree though, dating is not a top p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 15 | 27F who deleted all of my dating apps and social mediaI think you are honing into the wrong sentiment of this post as I pose the question after, “is that really bad?” And the truth is, no, being alone is not inherently bad or negative, but I am human. I do get lonely. Ideally, I would like the opportunity to meet someone worthy of carving a space into my life. My question is more so, have I completely shut myself off from that happening? How have people proceeded without these applications? Furthermore, this is a dating strategy sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Ladies who struggle with imposter syndrome, how do you cope?I just don’t know how long this healing is supposed to take. I mean...it’s been a year. I’ve taken all of the steps. I feel mostly happy with my life. I have a good job and solid friendships. It’s just in dating that I get SO afraid someone is going to put me on some pedestal that I will inevitably fall from. Am I really supposed to hide away from men forever? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Ladies who struggle with imposter syndrome, how do you cope?I hope I don’t sound defensive, but I do vet men before I go out with them and make my boundaries fairly clear up front. I’m not here to get jerked around. Thankfully, it was just dinner (not comfortable eating in a restaurant with the pandemic) and am now finishing the night alone in my own bed. I think I just struggle with feeling like they are going to find someone better? Or they’re going to find out I’m not as great as they think I am? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:00 AM |
| 10 | Whenever a man says something inappropriate and tries to pass it off as a “joke,” I like to ask him to explain the joke to me :)It’s so frustrating and present on virtually all of them! I’ve been trying to use the more limited matching apps because it eliminates more of the men who blindly swipe on everyone like on Tinder and now, Hinge. I’m on the League, which is supposedly “exclusive” and requires some actual vetting via LinkedIn and Facebook to be accepted. You get just 3 curated potential matches daily...first message yesterday, “hey DTF?” And it’s just infuriating! Why go through the the waitlist and vetting proces… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 05:07 PM |
| 138 | Whenever a man says something inappropriate and tries to pass it off as a “joke,” I like to ask him to explain the joke to me :)This is a gem from Coffee Meets Bagel, supposedly an app for “meaningful connections”! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 07:59 AM |
| 61 | Please alert your fellow woman!I WISH this worked. Ugh my ex boyfriend FROM HIGH SCHOOL’s baby mama messaged me asking who I was and why he had tried to add me on social media. Little did she know that I wanted NOTHING to do with him and he had been the one harassing me for years. He’d cheated on me and literally had me drive him unknowingly to another girl’s house. When I dumped him, I blocked his number. He’d call me from random numbers threatening me and try to reach out every few months for YEARS after to get my attention… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:24 PM |
| 32 | Sorry for all of the DM posts, but the AUDACITY is getting more and more outrageousIKR... Like if he’s such a family man, how would he feel about a man talking to his future daughter like this? And I hate that it has to be a relative— daughter, sister, mother to elicit empathy. Why can’t we be recognized as humans worthy of respect as standalone entities? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 01:08 AM |
| 65 | Sorry for all of the DM posts, but the AUDACITY is getting more and more outrageousI thought about it, but felt like I might be providing this man an opportunity to try to brag about his junk which I could very happily live my life never hearing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 11:55 PM |
| 72 | Sorry for all of the DM posts, but the AUDACITY is getting more and more outrageousCompletely delusional! His last message to me was “Just FYI I’m looking for a woman to raise a family with if that makes it any better” 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 11:26 PM |
| 55 | Sorry for all of the DM posts, but the AUDACITY is getting more and more outrageousFor anyone wondering, this is the fantastic opener to this dialogue link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 11:19 PM |
| 8 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleNot big 4, but one the top 10 national firms. I hadn’t done more than 65 before, but TCJA hit us HARD, especially for the 10/15 deadline. Hoping this year is a little smoother! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 12:57 AM |
| 8 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleI’d honestly love to date another accountant, but they also never leave the house for 6 months a year! Haha I’ve met men in other demanding careers though who are super respectful of my time because they just get it. They know I’m not being rude or aloof, I’m just busy and they don’t want to ever add to that stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 09:42 PM |
| 13 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleHe wasn’t in public and had zero empathy for others so he couldn’t understand how detrimental the timing always was lol! But yes! Feel blessed to finally be happy and relaxed enough to focus on what’s important! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 09:26 PM |
| 23 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleHaha yes! First year tax staff, found out he cheated during lunch on 4/10! He broke up with me on Valentine’s Day last year only to get back a week later! We broke up for good in August, then on 10/13 while I was working 80+ hours a week, texted me to tell me he was sorry, he missed me, and OH! And that he has a new girlfriend. Its been a great time! 🙂🙂🙂🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 09:13 PM |
| 71 | I’m slowly learning that I’d rather be singleIt was a really rough transition, but holy cow, I am headed into my work’s busy season right now and wow, it is SO nice not having constant anxiety over someone who could give a fuck about my feelings. I can just exist peacefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 08:55 PM |
| 23 | Shut this guy down via Instagram. Why is it the bad eggs are always the loudest?Complete stranger! Totally bizarre and unwarranted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 03:48 AM |
| 17 | Shut this guy down via Instagram. Why is it the bad eggs are always the loudest?My thoughts exactly! If I was so psycho looking and “fat”, they wouldn’t waste their breath on me. I wounded his ego by not being interesting and so he lashed out to try to hurt me back. I almost feel sorry for men like this. Maybe they wouldn’t have such a great hatred of women if they actually took the time to understand us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 03:48 AM |
| 24 | Shut this guy down via Instagram. Why is it the bad eggs are always the loudest?Lmao I ignored his DMs and then he told me I looked like a psycho in my photos? So I asked him if that made him feel good about himself to say that to me lol then he went OFF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 03:20 AM |
| 90 | If You Are Not A MAJOR Feature On His Social Media, It’s a GIANT Red Flag 🚩. HVM Always Posts Pictures of His Woman MORE Often Than She Does of Him. He Proudly Shows Her Off to the World and Wants Everyone to Know He’s TAKEN. If He Never Posts Any Pictures of You, You’re Unknowingly Single. Sorry.The need to have a fucking conversation over snapchat drives me NUTS. Guys will text me to say, “Snap me” and then try to continue to have a conversation there while refusing to just text. HUGE red flag. It is literally just a scheme to try and cheat on their girlfriends or “not girlfriends” without leaving any evidence behind. It’s funny too bc you can opt to save all their messages, they’ll be like “why r u saving my messages?!” Lmao fuckin idiots. I’ve deleted the app. That behavior is repuls… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Dating app suggestions? Overwhelmed by the amount of LVM men on Tinder.I’ve heard really good things about coffee meets bagel. I have one married and two engaged coworkers who used it. I also like the league because they require a Facebook and LinkedIn account and vet candidates before they’re allowed to join. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 10:45 PM |
| 127 | When you have an incredibly high sex drive, but are refusing to sleep with just anyone anymore.I hate to sound like a lame health nut, but honestly exercise. I can’t get off by myself and I refuse to have sex outside a monogamous relationship. I just run and lift, tire myself out that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 05:27 PM |
| 2 | I saw this on Facebook, and it makes me upset. These dudes are literally relying on a woman being broken to even stand a chance with her.Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 10:49 PM |
| 16 | Reminder: if nobody knows you’re together, you’re single, sis.It always bothered me that I would be the photographer for most of my exes pictures or present at the events he shared on social media, but NEVER included in photos. I was obviously there with all of his family and friends, but it always made me feel like he was trying to hide me so he could still get validation from other women online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 02:05 AM |
| 15 | Random guy in my DMs inquires about my plan to go to a concert tonight. Why do I get the sense he’s trying to insert himself in my plans? What does it matter if it’s date?So it goes like: Him: It doesn’t matter lol Me: haha then why did you ask? Him: I’m just curious...I’m a curious person YA OKAY DUDE. I didn’t tell him the venue, but he could probably google it. I would love to see his face if he showed up when he saw my giant dude friend with me lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 01:00 AM |
| 14 | Random guy in my DMs inquires about my plan to go to a concert tonight. Why do I get the sense he’s trying to insert himself in my plans? What does it matter if it’s date?Omg I didn’t even catch that hahaha Not the band I’m seeing tonight and also not even CLOSE to the same kind of music | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 12:55 AM |
| 13 | Random guy in my DMs inquires about my plan to go to a concert tonight. Why do I get the sense he’s trying to insert himself in my plans? What does it matter if it’s date?Thank god I won’t be! Bringing my 6’4 male friend, good luck to anyone trying to fuck with me lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 12:28 AM |
| 15 | OLD Men and Lies About HeightI’m 5’1 so men ALWAYS think I won’t notice. My exes have been 6’3, 5’11, and 6’2. My best male friend is 6’2. I’m not going to lie, I’m primarily attracted guys who are 6 feet and above. I can’t help it. It probably makes dating more difficult, but it’s what I like! I live in a metropolitan area though so there’s no shortage of tall men. Dudes in the 5’8-5’11 range ALWAYS LIE. I’ve gone out with a guy who’s profile says 6 feet. I noticed immediately that he was more like 5’10. I asked him casual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:41 PM |
| 15 | I'm ok with being rude for a minute. I'm not ok with being dead.Pepper spray first! Apologize later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandMy most recent ex and I knew of each other for a year, but never really exchanged more than a sentence with one another. The first time I had an in-depth conversation with him, he told me that I would be probably be engaged in a year. Little did I know I would spend the next two years with him being one-foot-in, one-foot-out the door with me always. I don’t want to say it was a total waste of time because I did really love him and we had some fun times, but I know it absolutely delayed me from f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:32 PM |
| 8 | When to add each other on social media?I tend to like adding them when I’m doing OLD just because I tend to want to get a better idea of who this person is. You can usually get a sense of what their interests are. It’s silly, but a big red flag to me? If I see a guy with like 20 followers who follows like 1000+ people. It gives me the impression that they might be creepy and not able to establish mutual relationships with other people. Also highly suspicious to me if they have no tagged photos or photos with other people, makes me wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 09:16 PM |
| 13 | The 666 Rule: 6 Feet, 6 Inches, 6 Figures4th date!!! That’s what is so wild!! It’s not to say that I don’t love a staying in with some Chinese food and good movie when I’m in a relationship, in fact, that’s one of my favorite things! However, I don’t think these men that want to call us princesses realize how physically vulnerable it makes us as women to be in that position—alone in a man’s apartment on a couch in the dark. I don’t want to even put myself in position where a man in going to try to initiate sex that early. Quite frankly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 04:13 PM |
| 60 | The 666 Rule: 6 Feet, 6 Inches, 6 FiguresI feel this hard! I got a private message telling me that I should be considerate of the fact a man might “work long hours in the city and be tired” if he suggests “Netflix” for a date night. It’s wild to me that it is just assumed I’m not also working long hours? It is typically the lower value men who want to make me feel guilty for having high standards, but all of the things I expect from a man are the same things that I offer in return. It’s difficult at times for me to not take it personal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 08:23 PM |
| 11 | "Women don't like to be approached in Public"I disagree with this. The key is to remember that attention is only creepy when it is neither wanted nor desired. That’s the difference. You bet if Chris Hemsworth approached me, I would be flattered. Hell, if any man that’s cleaned up and decently dressed up approached me, I would be flattered. I’m not talking full suit, but wrinkle free, unstained, well-fitting, and age/situation appropriate clothes. It signals a well adjusted individual. Attention turns creepy or unwanted when it’s a dude in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 06:36 AM |
| 14 | Something a little different - Teaching our young girls how to protect themselvesAs someone who was trapped in an abusive relationship for years during high school, I think it is REALLY important to emphasize that as a teenager, you DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND. Boys will always be there. It is SO romanticized to have a boyfriend when you’re 16, but it is more often than not just a distraction from a young woman’s goals. Not to say you shouldn’t allow them to date, but that it just should never be a priority in their lives so young. My parents were not very involved in my life as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Is this supposed to entice me? In what way did you get the impression that I was a sex worker?Also for the record, and I understand this might go against the sub, I have no problem with sex workers and I respect the hustle. However, that is not my profession and I find it insulting when a man makes the implication that he can purchase my affections and attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 11:41 PM |
| 9 | Is this supposed to entice me? In what way did you get the impression that I was a sex worker?It’s really upsetting because it’s not something I have ever been particularly enticed by or interested in, especially when they get flashy like this. My affections cannot be bought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 11:39 PM |
| 47 | Don’t settle, they’ll still do you the sameThis is so true, my least conventionally attractive boyfriends have been the absolute worst to me. Both gaslit me, cheated on me, hid our relationship, instigated fights constantly, negged me. They absolutely THRIVED on attention from other people and could never be satisfied by themselves. I really do believe that the more attractive, educated, high value men are typically more secure in the themselves. They’re used to getting women and turning them down, they are confident in what they bring t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 09:01 PM |
| 13 | Is this supposed to entice me? In what way did you get the impression that I was a sex worker?Totally agree. There’s no reason to keep that much cash on hand and not in a bank, it’s just irresponsible. I used to keep a lot cash on hand when I was bartending and not claiming all of my tips, but I’m an adult with a real career now. If you’re not in the service industry, there is virtually no practical reason to carry more than hundred or two unless you’re hiding something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 08:40 PM |
| 67 | Backstory in comments. I’ve encountered my first low-effort man-child.He looks like he’s 12 hahahaha wtf. I swear it’s always the guys that you mistakenly match with too that are the most demanding and entitled. Has he just never looked at himself in a mirror? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 07:18 PM |
| 13 | i can't believe that i put up with this...THIS EXACTLY. I don’t even have words, just WOW. I hope you dropped him immediately! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:36 PM |
| 28 | I was an insecure pick me and he cheated on me constantly. If I confronted him this is what I got. As if it were my fault! It took me another 8 months after this before I broke up with him.Yikes. He sounds terribly manipulative and emotionally abusive. Proud of you for leaving, no matter how long it took! It is SO hard to walk away from relationships like this, you are so strong!!! There are such better things coming your way, I promise! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:34 PM |
| 6 | Gotta be 100% hetero ladiesHonestly, I got stuck on him using “then” instead of “than” and the complete lack of punctuation. I can’t deal. I can barely make out what he’s trying to say. What a mess. GOODBYE! 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Guy trying to take me on date swimming, what is a good response?Yesssss girl 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 05:23 PM |
| 30 | Guy trying to take me on date swimming, what is a good response?Tell him you’re going to slip into something more comfortable and you’ll be right over, then don’t go. Text him in the morning and tell him that you fell asleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 01:32 AM |
| 34 | Guy trying to take me on date swimming, what is a good response?Unless it’s a pool party (but it’s winter in the northern hemisphere??? Lol), 9/10 times it’s to get you out of your clothes to hook up. I hate when guys think they’re being cute or clever by inviting you hot tubbing. Ew to the max. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, would you ever give an ex a chance again?I think that’s something I have to feel out of a bit, especially as I am still hurting from the break up with my most recent ex. I think sometimes male attention after a break up can be more confusing than it is nice? It’s supposed to feel good, but the pick me-patty inside of me is like, why didn’t most recent ex see these things inside of me??? As far as amicability, it’s been enough time that I don’t feel any bitterness, jealousy or resentment towards him. Just neutral. For conflict, I have k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, would you ever give an ex a chance again?I think I might have mentioned it earlier in my post, but maybe I should clarify. He’s made it clear that he wants to be my boyfriend and not just my friend, but I’m the one hesitant to commit or resume that conversation with him. The last time he opened the discussion, I left it at needing to figure out my life and take things really slow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 09:20 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, would you ever give an ex a chance again?That’s the biggest thing, I think is my gut. He’s mentioned a few times that he feels like he isn’t enough for me anymore or that I’m going to drop him when I find someone better. I just try to change the subject to make it clear I still have things to figure out about myself and my life. I dated the antithesis of him most recently for two years (extroverted, party guy, no college degree, Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan enthusiast, VERY outwardly charismatic and charming, self-admitted narcissist)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Man can't remember the last time his GF bought him dinner, she says it's her Dad's money. Here's dead weight, dragging her down.I’ll probably get some hate for this, but I feel like this is fairly reasonable for someone to get upset over. Not that she needs to buy him things, but it’s SO important to invest in yourself and your future responsibly. Part of being a high value woman to me is building up your career, working hard for yourself, staying healthy, and being both financially and emotionally independent. Sitting on social media at home, having your parents pay your bills and getting wasted into your 30’s isn’t the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/19 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Why are most men so fucking boring?Do we have the same ex boyfriend? Jesus that is him to CAPITAL T. I dropped 400+ on tickets for us to see JP back when I was a pick me Patty. Sometimes I miss him, but Jesus Christ I’m so glad I never have to hear him talk about Elon Musk or Ben Shapiro again in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 07:48 PM |
| 26 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”Apparently not enough to not ask... 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 08:45 PM |
| 35 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”Definitely wasn’t going to sleep with him no matter how much I drink, so he was barking up the wrong tree. I don’t sleep with anyone outside of a monogamous relationship because no dick is worth risking my health over. Taking notes on all of this. Love all of this! Thank youuuu! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:01 PM |
| 30 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”I like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:27 PM |
| 41 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”Girl agreed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Friendly reminderA boyfriend I had for a short time in college essentially confessed to previously having an addiction to it. He was only 24 and already having ED problems. When he was able to get it up, it was the worst sex of my life. He bragged about his skills, but it literally felt like he was acting out a porno and had never been with a real woman long enough to learn what to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 05:46 PM |
| 22 | Another example of why being a sweet, loving woman who caters to her man will get you nothing in the end. This poor woman. Men are SO selfish.My ex would always talk about how I needed to be “redpilled” and I never really knew what he meant by that. I want to vomit. I was the perfect girlfriend— maintained my tiny body, made more money, paid for most things, filled his refrigerator with groceries, took him on trips, did his laundry, took care of him when he was sick, and generally just doted on him. It was all in an effort to please him as he became progressively more resentful, cold, and callous towards me in the two years we were to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 03:50 PM |
| 9 | Pick me, I ABSOLUTELY hate females!r/notliketheothergirls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 12:14 AM |
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