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I'm surprised at the amount of hate FDS is getting over at Vindicta in the thread you made. Just for some perspective, OP - there are people saying FDS doesn't work, because the mods are single (??). Well, maybe they are, but listen:When I found FDS a year ago, I was fresh out of a forever-girlfriend situation with a guy 11 years older than me, who was uneducated and broke. I had been treated terribly by dusties for all my life. I thought I was a 4/10 and that meant I didn't deserve a man who'd …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:05 AM
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Not irrepairably, but yes there is a chance they'll damage your real lashes and regrowth could take months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:03 PM
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Not sure what you mean, I think she explained it herself though. She wasn't being serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:04 AM
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Sis I think she was joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:00 PM
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I did the same when I was on OLD and I suppose I do it IRL as well. I'm not slow - just not obligated to answer your nosy questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:26 AM
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Radio broadcaster like voice; Voice is so important. There's this guy I know who's like... not really a catch but damn... his voice is like plunging a spoon into a delicious velvety creamy dessert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:07 PM
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Oooh, well I'm excited to read what ya'll like once I finish typing this up. From top to bottom: Hair: I love long hair 💖 but only if it's nice and taken care of. A good shampoo is enough for straight hair, but if you have texture you need that conditioner so it doesn't look dry damaged and tangled. I also like when guys with long hair braid it or put it in a bun.Other hairstyles I like are shaved sides with long or medium length hair, and completely shaven, but only if there is a good beard to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:56 PM
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Unrelated, but what does sex with a small dick guy feel like? My ex had a larger dick, and tbh it was occassionaly uncomfortable, esp. before period, so now I suppose I might like an average one or even slightly smaller one a lot better. At what point is a small dick practically unusable? I'm planning to feel dudes up when making out lol, just don't want to play myself by accidentaly choosing a too small one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:21 PM
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ultimate FDS relationship goalz - a man that washes his own ass 💖👌 / s very much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:11 PM
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Lol. I guess I'm definitely visual. My cathegories are more like 1.HELL no 2. no 3. attractive but not my type 4. my type but there's something wrong with him 5. my type, attractive... damn dude. Hell no is ... hell no. Poor hygiene, ugly, weird mannerism and all physically repulsive men. No is all the guys who I guess are clean but just meh. Attractive but not my type is exactly what it says - technically a good looking guy but I'm not particularly attracted to him. My type - but ... I encounte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:16 AM
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Yes. From the text I infer he is trying to control her so that she doesn't gain weight - the other side of this behaviour is men who pull down their gfs when they decide to get healthy. It has nothing to do with porn. It has to do with control and male insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:39 AM
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and pickmes it's surprisingly common amongst pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:22 PM
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He used to force himself on her every morning but he doesn't want to pressure her into having sex ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:22 PM
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I am trying to remember back to the pick me days and imagine myself in their shoes... I think for me it was feeling of alienation from other women and need to appease men in order to make myself feel loved/wanted/admired. It was basically a very twisted way of seeking what you would normally seek from healthy relationships with friends, family or even a HV partner. And deep self hatred. Yeah... Looking back, I've really done a great deal of work to level up to where I'm now. I wish I could just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:07 PM
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Let me summarise: some women are simply beyond help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 05:59 PM
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Sisters, I just deleted Tinder (the only OLD app with a reasonable user base in my country). Technically, OLD should be useful for busy and/or introverted women, but I figured out I'd rather put myself out there than deal with the shitshow. The men are ugly and boring and out of those I matched with, only the less desirable messaged first. On top of that I hate putting my pics out there for ugly scrotes to swipe like a catalogue. So yeah. Anyone had a similar experience?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:37 AM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:21 PM
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I don't get why some guys don't give more attention to their hair. It can easily transform your entire look. There's this guy I would be mildly crushing on if he pursued me - long, clean shiny hair with shaved sides in a nice french braid... dayum. Flattering styles for various stages of balding exist, too. No excuse for filthy, dandruffy, wonky scraggly, smelly hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:48 AM
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Because they were talking specifically about fitness? idk, I'm simply not dealing with a guy who is not able to keep up with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:15 PM
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No, thanks. I take care of my health and I'm not ashamed of it... heck why am I minimising myself, I'm damn proud of my body and the hard work that went into it. ​ Other people are free to do as they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:07 PM
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It's unreasonable for anyone who is lazy and out of shape to expect a partner that has six pack abs. Regardless of gender. This is something people seem to have trouble grasping: a fit person's lifestyle will simply not be compatible with yours if you're a morbidly obese couch creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:58 AM
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I think the reason why your post didn't get the replies you expected is because it isn't really suited for this sub. You seem to be asking for ways on how to achieve a certain fashion look and conflating it with being high value. Meanwhile FDS is not focused on beauty (there's a good summary on why is that on the FDS website), and the concept of HVW is more about internal mindset than appearance. Have you considered posting in Vindicta or some of the other beauty subs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:35 AM
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Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:03 AM
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I think you have a bit of confusion going on with regards to FDS terminology. A pick me is a woman who caters her life to men, in hopes of being loved by them (picked), regardless of how he is. She has weak sense of self, she minimises her own needs (low maintenance) and focuses all her energy on pleasing her man (or men in general) instead of levelling up for herself.A pick me will usually not be particularly low effort when it comes to looks, but she might neglect things like taking care of he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:42 AM
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Especially now that it's hot outside and all their grossness comes out in plain sight. Dear male lurkers please for the love of god at the very least BATHE from time to time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:12 PM
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This is why we need FDS. We need to prioritise ourselves, build confidence and boundaries, deprioritise men and ONLY consider those that benefit our lives. This is awful to read, but tbh he just said out loud what I'm sure many, many of our LVM exes did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:56 AM
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Welcome to FDS, picky is a good thing. You can experiment and let some things slide, but I suppose you'll learn very quickly that they're indicative of precisely what you thought they are - that is that the dude in question is indeed a LVM douche. What I like to do is note down the red flags in a guy (usually only those I'm actually interested in). He gets 1 big red flag or 2-3 smaller pinkish flags - those are for fuck ups which might not neccessarily be an indicator of LV. What you decide is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:43 PM
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You know, sometimes I'm kinda weirded out that so many women have the exact same experience... My LVM wouldn't eat vegetables & drank a ton of soda and energy drinks. Is this some sort of conspiracy among them??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:24 PM
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Girl, WHY? Why you're open to spending so much time and energy on a guy who likely doesn't even have the mental capacity to comprehend your words. Why? Just block and go on with your day. What did you get out of this exchange?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:58 AM
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We are actually just as savage towards women who demonstrate low value behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:46 AM
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Just like how guys don’t understand how much we groom ourselves, other girls have no idea the work and maintenance that goes into looking next level and just say “she probably got surgery and wears too much makeup.” To avoid putting any effort to elevate themselves. This is a huge pet peeve of mine and a bright red flag for insecurity issues. (I'd even call it a subtle form of negging). I've met women who would fawn over my appearance while complaining about their looks, but when I point out tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:57 AM
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Exactly. They're stuck in the fantasy of dating a woman who is a 10/10 hairless model, while matching his effort of barely showering once a day (and they'd still have the audacity to neg her about it I guess). Natural looking =/= efortless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:49 AM
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Yes I agree and that's basically what I wanted to say, and I guess I just misunderstood - the title rubbed me the wrong way cos I initially read it as "all men like the baddie look, and those who say they don't are liars".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:53 PM
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Idk about the OP title - do we really want men like that? My prefered look is definitely more on the natural/subtle side and I'm happy with it. I don't really want to morph into an instagram baddie or whatever. I don't care what men like, they're absolutely free to not be attracted to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:55 PM
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Also rubber gloves. From wiki: In 1894, William Stewart Halsted, the first chief of surgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital, invented rubber gloves for his wife as he noticed her hands were affected on the daily surgeries she had performed and in order to prevent medical staff from developing dermatitis from surgical chemicals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:15 PM
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I don't know if I want to laugh or puke right now tbh 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:50 PM
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Yes, agreed. And I 100% believe that if you listen to yourself, you can separate "anxiety" from "intuitive alarm bells".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:23 PM
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Seriously, the bar for men is very low. He can look like Shrek in the face, if he's clean and well dressed, he's golden. Oddly enough, even through the bar is in hell and lower when it comes to male appearance, most men fail to reach it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:21 PM
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Oh god. I once talked about a guy I've met non-romantically with a pickme. I told her he's nice, but his hygiene is awful... She was like "oh that can be changed! and so can his dirty nails! and his morbid obesity!" ... I just looked her dead in the eyes and asked her: yeah but WHY would *I* do it? She had no answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:18 PM
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Yup. I am an anxious person - I do tend to imagine worst case scenarios. I know I do this, and I try to take myself with a grain of salt. But I've rarely been wrong with my gut feelings about people. If an interaction or a relationship feels wrong or off, but you can't quite put your finger on what it is... (or maybe you know what it is but try to convince yourself it's NBD...) There's absolutely something wrong with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:14 PM
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Scalding but I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:44 PM
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Ugh. I really feel your post since I'm into metal myself ... they all look like this & act like this or WORSE. Yours was probably one of the better ones. Idk where you're at but for some reason I'm guessing a beer date might not be US? I'm in a country where metalheads form a small community of sorts, like you'd run into the same people at gigs and what not, and the women tend to be awful pickmeishas. Worshiping even the most mediocre guys as gods, because the rest is an absolute shitshow. That'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:17 PM
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Same. I definitely have a type. Unfortunately it means that most men simply do nothing for me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:47 PM
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Yeah I agree that it's easier to be lax when it comes to friendships. I have a friend who I would consider HV as a friend, even though she hasn't realised her worth yet when it comes to relationships. Thank you for the advice and the examples especially - I'm still new to caring for myself and sometimes question if I'm perhaps being unreasonable, but I see that I'm not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:51 PM
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I didn't consider that, thank you. It could indeed be the case... how do I learn to see who deserves it vs. who doesn't though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:46 PM
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I scrolled to find Palahniuk. Didn't expect it to be top comment, but here we go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:59 AM
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there's so much truth to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:26 PM
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At the end of the day, i'm grateful because I don't want women like that in my life long-term, but it does just make it way harder to get along with people because pickmeishas are truly everywhere. I totally feel you on this. Having to vet both men AND female friends gets so tiring... at least for dating we have all the resources on this sub. How do you vet women, dear FDSers? I have just gotten out of another toxic 'friendship' with a huge pick me - very low self esteem and completely obsessed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 06:19 PM
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Lately, I've been just dropping toxic & pick me friends, same as scrotes. I thought friendships were somewhat exempt from FDS... turns out they are not. A low value friend will drag you down into low value behaviour, dump on you emotionally, guilt trip you, attempt to break your boundaries, etc.... just like a low value romantic partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:01 PM
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Can I just say I'm glad we are part of this amazing community? I'm learning so much from you levelled up queens, there are literally no good female role models around me IRL or in the media ... ya'll are my role models💖I'm feeling very grateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:53 PM
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Doesn't eat pussy is a dealbreaker. Should've stopped at that and cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:58 PM
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This is how I weed out subtly negging men, the type where you're not sure if it is a neg or not.... I always ask myself - is that what a woman would say say in this particular context?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 03:49 PM
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That would make two of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:40 PM
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You dropped this 👑👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:55 PM
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Yeah why would you hide how much you read. It's not like LVM care, they think you stupid regardless of how many degrees you have or how much you read. The point of dumb fox is maintaining THAT illusion until they show their true colours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:51 PM
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I'm nobody's 'life hack'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:09 AM
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Yes, here's to levelling up!🍹💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:15 AM
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I have a preference in that I like men who are on the slimmer side. Othe than that, he bar is so low for men I literally can't think of a single thing tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:32 PM
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He doesn’t bring me around his friends, and that’s okay, I’m kind of an introvert. OMG, this. I made the mistake of being with a much older man. I have never, ever, seen his friends. We're talking a years-long relationship. Yes I was a huge pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:15 PM
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'maybe if I squint' 🤣feel you 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:46 AM
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Nevermore, haha. I'll enjoy a beer with my female friends though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:52 PM
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do we even call that a date? it's like.... the ultimate low value/not-interested/ taken/ all of these - date. You can basically always make a beer date into not a date - "I just took her out for a beer so it's not a date it's friendly meeting!".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:46 PM
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European here as well, and I agree about your last point BUT also agree with the idea that a man has to pay adequately on the first date. I try to do coffee + cakes or lunch if I can. Never beer dates lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:30 PM
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Their ultimate fantasy is a woman who will beg them to disrespect and hurt her. It sounds so absurd until you realise there are plenty of willing pick-kinkmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:33 AM
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OMG is that really true??? That explains a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:21 AM
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Is it caused by jealousy or ignorance? They're just majorly fucked up in the head. There's no logic or reason to anything they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:47 PM
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Idk, I see people saying this a lot, but my social network has expanded greatly since finishing. I guess schools back in my home country are a bit different, but I don't want to go into greater detail so I don't doxx myself lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:17 AM
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I think I might be from the same cultural background as you ( but don't live there anymore) and I can absolutely agree that it'd be seen as slutty in the conservative parts, and at least questionable in other parts. The type of dating where you meet multiple guys off some OLD dating website would definitely not fly there. HOWEVER I think it can be adapted, and this is how I did it back in college. You need to build a bigger social network (sucks for us introverts right) and have some actual male…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:08 PM
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I know next to nothing about Sailor Moon but I love your analysis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:07 PM
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Is negging imo. The compliment part is him matching with her. ETA: desired reaction is her trying to prove to him that she is attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:31 AM
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Could you DM it to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:32 AM
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I always felt guilty over having plants die but this thread is making me feel much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:04 PM
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Yes I agree. Also - you know how men like to compete against one another? Well, if you have a typically masculine interest, they start doing this to you, except it gets spiteful because, unlike for their peers, the competetiveness is mixed with attraction, wanting to show off, and insecurity/desire to be dominant. They'll belittle you or try to test you to prove you're faking it or they have the upper hand. ETA: I think they want a woman who does the whole feminine act, YET has typically male ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:09 AM
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Once you're aware of negging & the psychology behind it, a bio like this sounds so, so lame...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:15 PM
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I sure as hell am not sacrificing my comfortable homewear for a man. Switching into cotton leggings and a comfy tee is my favourite little joy of the day. So are fuzzy winter socks and cat ear headbands for skincare and messy clawclip buns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:57 AM
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It literally doesn't matter what you like. I have a few mostly male interests and men are just as big of a condescending ass about it as they are about my feminine interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:30 PM
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some men would use the cover of interacting with her to try to hit on me Lol I actually find it hillarious when men do that, because my dog HATES when strange men talk to him or make noises at him. He will sit and stare, and if they continue, he'll growl and lunge at them. Except most guys mistake the "sit and stare" phase for interest & start being so full of themselves that my dog loves them... until they hear the growling ... then they get embarassed and I love it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:28 PM
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Do get the dog if you can, even if it's just fostering from a shelter. I feel much safer with my dog, even though he's medium sized. A dog = noise and possible bites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:08 PM
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Actual medical definitions aside, I think how you perceive overweight vs. not overweight depends a lot on the environment you're in. I'm in a country with quite low obesity levels and she'd be considered on the higher end of chubby. ETA: But that doesn't matter, she looks bomb AF and the dude in the pic is morbidly obese himself so...hypocritical scrote audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:53 PM
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No, not at all, if he's actually any good in bed. In fact I've read that using a vibrator can make sex feel better, due to making you more sensitive & regular orgasms activating pathways in your brain that make it easier to orgasm next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:22 AM
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I agree with you. Now, it's text, making it difficult to judge. But from OP's post I get the feeling that she's apologising for him/ trying to show him the best possible light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:22 PM
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This is the attitude! Accept his gifts/love but keep an eye out for sketchiness and always, always be able to walk away. You go girl, it sounds great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:00 PM
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Or worse, in case of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:52 PM
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Oh. I just went by your post history and judged you're still dating. Sorry. Anyway, I think point still stands, this is very sweet but also don't become blind to potential red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:07 PM
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Good list, all of these are --> trashcan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:39 PM
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What did they say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:37 PM
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Why are you downvoted sister. OP, I know this is very sweet and all (and it is, I'm happy for you), but please don't be blinded by gestures and overlook potential red flags. Don't give men sensitive information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:35 PM
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.... aaaaand here's to the rest of us who read this advice & are over there crying bitter tretinoin tears! 👌🍹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:04 AM
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any other longhairs/low maintenance-hairs here be like ? I trim my hair and freshen up my layers from time to time and that's it lol. I pay my tax in conditioner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:37 PM
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I'm legit allergic to pickmeishas who join them when they do this (and there's ALWAYS one)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:33 PM
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There's also a fake sub called ex female dating strategy or something... Except it's all a bunch of the same guys posting shit no one cares about lol, not actual women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:24 PM
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Thank you for sharing, very useful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:09 PM
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Idk. I agree that ugly guys will treat you badly, I really don't like this incelish terminology or the part where you claim that appearance determines character traits. Since the appearance standards for guys are so low, if a guy is ugly it usually means he neglects basic grooming and fitness and has a chip on the shoulder about it. Low effort, low self discipline, low value. Possibly OT, but I highly doubt that a guy who eats healthy, works out, dresses well, doesn't stink and generally puts ef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:07 PM
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"I feel I can do better than him" is a death sentence to any relationship. So yeah, go ahead and break up. But it does seem like you have a lot of work to do on yourself afterwards... including the health, but also really making sure you KNOW your standards and KNOW what you want from a potential future partner. And not being afraid of being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:47 PM
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Look. The rule of this sub is that we are against BDSM/kink. We've heard all your arguments a million times before. You don't need to waste your time because no one here is really up to discussing it. Sorry. Just like any sub whose content you don't like - you're free to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:55 PM
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Please start with reading the handbook. You just click on the flair and it'll show posts tagged by this flair. ETA means edited to add. I edited my post to add some more text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:44 PM
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Here we go again... I suppose you could start with searching the male depravity flair and the pornsick limp dick flair. Look around the sub, read posts, etc. There have been many, MANY posts that answer your question perfectly. ETA: And I'm sorry for going through your post history (was looking how long you've been on the sub), but girl DON'T ask him out and DON'T post nudes online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:35 PM
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A very, very NVM I've been with told me that, I, in fact, am not pretty, it just seems like it because everyone wants to fuck me since I have a great body, but I'm actually not pretty. It has stuck with me tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:26 PM
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I love Mulan ❤ Thanks for the smile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:31 PM
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Men in the body positivity movement? Lol. There are men with body issues. BUT the reason why men in general don't need a body positivity movement of any kind is because MEN BEING ACCEPTED IN THEIR NATURAL STATE IS DEFAULT. Whereas for women, the default expectation is what you arrive at after pouring tons of time, money and effort into makeup, hair, hair removal, fashion, maybe surgery AND diet and exercise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:04 PM
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What is this even about OP, they're right, most men see it as free prostitution app and treat women on it accordingly. So yes, they see you as easy prey or free sex. If you're on Tinder looking for a relationship with a HVM, you're in for a tough time. Not saying it doesn't happen, it might, but it's unlikely. That's why many women use Tinder as training wheels/free meals/ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:45 PM
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lol I once saw a tinder bio - roughly translated to English: I like hiking but I guess I have to, since I'm 195cm tall 🤣dude what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:53 PM
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I don't even notice height tbh... unless they are A LOT taller (I have to tilt my neck to look them in the face) or shorter than me (and I'm pretty short so it's not many guys).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:59 PM
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Tbh I don't think it's a good idea to put up stuff like this, at this time...or ever. It's just kids playing dogs... leave them out of adult shit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:03 PM
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I think the downvotes are because people assume I like the fact that it's see through. Which is true lol, but in a "wow cute bralette" way, not in a pervy way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:40 AM
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I love the bralette
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:45 AM
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I find either applying right before bed or on damp skin before towelling yourself helps a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:38 AM
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"like a demented frog" I'm rolling 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:31 AM
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Same, OP or whoever knows DM me pls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:47 AM
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Same, you put it into words perfectly. Love ya'll!💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:01 AM
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I contacted the OP via chat as i couldnt find the PM option on phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:28 AM
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You need to build your self esteem and really cement the fact that YOU. ARE. THE. PRIZE. There are two possible scenarios. Either he has sniffed out your insecurities and has indeed settled for a non-threatening placeholder GF. In that case the thrash will take itself out the second your confidence improves. 2nd scenario: he's really into you and will enjoy and support you leveling up your mental health (which in the end will improve the relationship for both)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:11 PM
89

Yeah, it's tough. Tbh I don't really look at men anymore, I just wait and see who's attracted to me, takes initiative and I intend to pick the best out of that. Saves me a lot of stress because I don't even consider guys who don't show interest in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:03 AM
187

Don't we all? Let's face it - the reason why we find most men unattractive is because most of them do nothing to appear attractive. Pot bellies, obviously uncared for skin, obviously uncared for hair and facial hair. Hairy. Smelly. No fashion sense, no interest in looking good. For lukers: if she spends hours just on makeup, skin, nails and haircare, you have no excuse to not be spending an hour in the gym. If she has soft, vibrant, well cared for hair, you have no excuse to have a filthy, dandr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:50 AM
63

Anyone else started getting angry while reading "My partner got a mammoplasty and I...", then was like - oh.... ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:10 AM
895

WHO WAS ACTUALLY HOME WITH THE CHILDREN while a group of dads sat around the campfire & whined about not wanting to go home? I swear their entire life is based around avoiding responsibilities as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:30 PM
1

I'd rather PM you if possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:38 PM
2

Yeah, and if you feel like it's all extremely confusing and makes no sense, don't worry...it's deliberate. As I said, there have been some very sketchy going on with Kibbe in the recent years. I would not recommend anyone listens to his current advice, much less pay for in person consults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:35 PM
115

Am I reading it right? In the title she says the boyfriend KEEPS using her stuffed animals as jizz rag. That means... this is not the first time and she's pissed he just used her favourite toy to do it this time? Damn....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:51 PM
2

On a side note; if you're interested in Kibbe, stick to the books. The books are your best resource. He is on FB, but there's been some very very VERY sketchy behaviour from him, up to the point of some people speculating he didn't actually write the book, just put his name on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:35 PM
3

For nude beaches where I live, pubic hair removal it's just a thing in general, most men are trimmed, shaven or even waxed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:23 PM
10

Yes. My ex was well-endowed and it was uncomfortable, especially close to my period when the cervix is lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:13 PM
3

Possibly a bit weird question but what is a good position to hit the g-spot? I can have a vaginal orgasm when masturbating but during PIV sex I don't really feel anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:10 PM
0

IUD has a 1% chance of getting pregnant IF safely in place. But the possibility of it migrating can actually be quite high, which is why, for example in the country I come from, they are not used in women who haven't given birth yet. FAM actually works extremely well if your period is regular. You use a back-up birth control up until ovulation. Post ovulation you're free to have sex. Birth control pill works the same way, btw - it prevents ovulation using synthetic hormones, and the placebo week…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:47 PM
3

Can you explain on how social media is wiring women to be pickmes? Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:28 PM
2

I've recently linked to an article written by a supposedly "hot chick dying of cancer" who "admitted" (= ie. incel scrote made up shit) that women have sex with male dogs. Other random shit I've seen online: women keep dogs because unlike men, they don't have any opinions and can't disagree with them. Women keep dogs as replacement for children. Women who rescue shelter dogs are damaged ( I don't remember the exact reasoning, but had to do with filling some emotional hole). TLDR they basically c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:16 PM
0

They say even worse things about women who like dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:36 PM
39

Is it odd that I feel turned on by the thought of being with a man who has never watched (or doesn't watch) porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:12 PM
4

What I'm saying that a guy having 7,5 hours to sink into texting is quite likely not a HVM. Same for you - no man deserves 7,5 hours of your time unless proven worthy of it. Cut it off after an hour or so and get busy with something else. Prolonged texting makes you invest feelings and emotions into a person you don't know, creating a sense of false intimacy. Scrotes who have little to offer will text you for ages before/if ever going on an irl date, in order to make you emotionally attached to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:51 PM
2

Girl don't waste 7,5 hours on LVM's. That alone is a glaring red flag, who the heck has time for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:39 PM
63

Yeah lol... dude's thinking matches must be rare for us because they're rare for him. Meanwhile if he matches but doesn't message I just assume he's mass swiping on everyone, lol. Or is a coward who expects me to message first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:52 PM
41

Freddy was my friend's high school crush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:31 PM
136

After spending an hour in the bathroom and in front of the mirror, I'm def not down for dating an ugly, oily, stinky, balding LVM 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:15 AM
2

I'm not sure how old you are but going from dark brown to a nice shade of blonde can be pretty high maintenance. Make sure you're willing and able to put in the time/effort if you decide to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:23 AM
2

Most days yes, sometimes even if I'm not really going anywhere. Partly because, enhances my appearance and helps me achieve the style I like, but also it's like... an extension of my grooming routine (I'll apply sunblock, powder, chapstick and set my brows anyway so... it's not such a stretch to add a coat of mascara or something).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:19 AM
7

I'll be honest, I chuckled once I realised he's trolling (hopefully), but... 37? And THIS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 08:01 PM
1

I feel like you are assuming your particular point of view is the only possible interpretation there is. I'm somewhat of a recovering kinkmeisha myself, so I'm very glad you have such a clear idea of what would be best thing to do for me! In case you are willing to listen to other opinions beside your own: outside FDS, kinks such as this one are normalised,presented as harmless, even encouraged. Women who are reluctant to participate are viewed as prudes or kinkshamers. Calling out these acts as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:40 PM
7

I think posts like these might be helpful for recovering kinkmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 05:41 PM
134

A guy on OLD mentioned reading as a hobby, so I was like - cool what did you read last? He said Asimov and Lovecraft. I told him I know both but only read Lovecraft. Dude didn't expect that so he was like, WELL in WHAT LANGUAGE did you read them cause THERE'S A HUGE DIFFERENCE AS TO HOW DIFFICULT THEY ARE IN (my language) VS ORIGINAL I fucking work as a translator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:17 PM
3

I think you might want to check the fatlogic sub. It can be brutal at first, but it really helped me with weight loss and longterm maintenance. I didn't say you'll be super beautiful. I said most women can be good-looking. 4 is still a good foundation imo. I'm about a 4 too, with some effort probably 5-6, but I put in the effort regularly and I think people react positively to that. Everything takes time, so you might as well start now. I highly advise you to stop the mindset that it's going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:41 AM
10

Having good social skills is a huge benefit! Get out there and make new connections! I'm really envious because being social doesn't come naturally to me. Assess why you aren't good looking. Are you objectively lacking in some department or is it more of a self esteem issue? At minimum, you need to be eating healthy, exercising, taking care of your skin and teeth. With makeup and nice clothing, most women can be good-looking. For exercise, I'd suggest doing whatever you enjoy the most, even if i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 05:07 PM
23

That's like.... literally the bare minimum. I mean at least where I live, it's basically expected that women meet these standards: she has to be hot, outgoing, educated (and if not educated be extra hot and outgoing), smart, have a job or at least kids (but remember to stay fit and hot meanwhile) and be a perfect domestic goddess on top of that. Oh and fuck like a pornstar. The majority of women have no problem reaching ...most of these. Men on the other hand look like apes, their social skills …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:58 PM
43

It does seem FDS-like at first glance, but it seems to be missing the key concept of MAXIMISING YOUR OWN BENEFIT and HIGHLY VALUING YOUR TIME AND EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING. Attempting to train LVMs is a waste of time, energy, and could be potentially dangerous. I have better goals in life than putting all of this effort into men who haven't proven they deserve it. Block and delete is my go-to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:10 PM
64

I just throw out pencils when they're no longer pleasant to use and get a new one! 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:44 PM
64

I'd say trolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:30 PM
22

Idk to me this sounds sketchy, it doesn't sound like a last minute plan and I feel like he should've asked you if you wanted to join (even if you didn't).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:06 AM
32

This is abuse. I feel like I need a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:32 AM
246

Dude is a balding, overweight loser LVM. Dude wants a hot, smart, succesful girl, who is also nice, kind, overlooks all his mistakes & fucks like a porn stars. Dude gets a girl who ticks many if not all of the boxes* Dude starts thinking there's something wrong with HER for dating him (on top of being jealous of whatever she accomplishes.) Dude starts treating her like trash. Girl tries to reason, cOmUNiCate first. Eventually turns to arguing and conflicts. She is at her wits end and acting like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:16 PM
42

I always thought it referred to something like dandys? Or maybe fuckboys, but back then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:43 AM
59

I avoid: fat men (nothing against that, but I'm active and they tend to be sedentary), ugly men (nothing against that again, but I prefer to be attracted to my partner), men who have pictures with fish, cars or motorbikes (time and money consuming hobbies), men who have stupid looking pictures (weird filters, those FB frames). That's basically it. ETA forgot topless gym mirror selfies and tattoos in weird places (face, neck).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:47 AM
3

Everything you said about romance is true. I'm working on that too, don't worry! Esp when it comes to guys I find attractive or a "catch", I have to actively remind myself that I'M THE PRIZE.To practice, you could maybe make a tinder profile and swipe on a bunch of guys (even if you don't find them super attractive), then as the messages roll in, weed them out. This cements the abundance mentality you need to have. It's something I learned from another FDSer. ETA: Maybe I can link the comment, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:25 AM
6

I think what you're asking is how to be more attractive. Attractiveness, although related to physical beauty, is not entirely the same thing. Attractiveness in the sense of attracting lots of people to your person, has a to do with: conventionality, averageness, pleasantness, and the perceived ease of access (friendly, relatable, non-threatening, easy to understand, for men (or in the heterosexual romantic sense) this also usually means easy to impress, non-judgemental, maybe some boyish interes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:28 AM
10

Damn girl no. The men who are 30+ and going for girls ten or more years younger ARE LEFTOVERS. WOMEN THEIR OWN AGE DON'T WANT THEM FOR A REASON. Now, this advice might be only working in my country, but: try joining some FB dating group. A lot of activity is public, so you can do your little experiment. Look at profiles of men who show interest in much younger girls. What do they look like? Are they educated? Do they have a good job? Interests? Do their posts indicate they are a decent person? L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:36 PM
20

Over text: So... (the website) is your way of connecting with the world? Fuck you dude, blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:21 PM
28

Yes, they're basically looking for a HVM except they want to attract him with being the LVM dream Mommy McBangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:16 PM
1

I PMd you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:29 PM
1

Well - women on this sub can't tell what you look like. When I post something about appearance, I always get at least 1 comment about how to improve my grooming and it's usually very basic stuff most women already do, so I just shrug and assume they didn't mean wrong. Tbh valuing yourself on appearance and male attention is very unhealthy. We all grow old. Some of us grow ugly. There's so, so much more to you than looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:56 AM
2

Love, please don't take any of this in the wrong way. It seems to me however, that you believe beauty and getting attention from men at least partially determines your worth as a woman, and thinking there's something wrong with YOU for attracting crappy men on OLD. I don't know why, I just get this gut feeling from your posts. I think people are picking up on that and that's why they're downvoting you. The reality is, most of us get guys below our leagues hitting on us, but the problem is their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:42 AM
3

Yeah, don't take OLD too personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:14 AM
4

Oh okay. From your posts you didn't seem so, but I'm glad you're not insecure. That's the first step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:09 AM
14

TBH I think a good first step would be to stop dehumanising attractive women ( "Stacies"). Second, male attention has little to do with what you actually look like. The pictures where I've been rated very high have actually generated little male attention on dating websites. Most guys will respond to stuff like cleavage, bright makeup, long hair, well-fitting clothes. Thirdly, from your post I get slight pick-me vibes possibly stemming from insecurity about your appearance. I'd seriously work on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:55 AM
7

And of course he looks like a foot, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:14 PM
20

You can absolutely tell when they see you as a mere decoration... and the majority of them will try to belittle when you show that you actually have stuff going on for yourself, beside your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:55 PM
4

I think a lot of it is that they pick up on how YOU feel towards the person, even subconsciously. My dog liked my ex, we got him when we were together. My ex wasn't a bad guy though, LVM for sure but not a bad person overall. I have a female ex-friend whom he just despises though (the dog I mean), he even lunged at her and grabbed her by the edge of her dress when they first met, and I came to the conclusion that he was probably anxious because right before she came, I was stressing over her com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:50 PM
2

Thank you, tbh online dating is going to be first to go in my case I guess. Even with swiping just for 20 minutes a day, having unread message is stressful to me and I dread getting back and having to reply to guys I don't even fancy that much. Vetting & actually going on dates is just more planning and effort. I like the attention, but ultimately, it's distracting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:42 PM
15

Well, that's an unhealthy dynamic, but this + your comments tells me something about you - and it's that you are not very happy with your current boyfriend. Letting go seems like a fair thing to do, for both of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 05:28 PM
20

I have a male dog but he's neutered. What does that mean??? 🤔🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:35 PM
20

Girl no get out. This is the definition of low value. A low value guy is a guy who adds little value to your life. The stuff you mention is the little value he's adding. Which is nice, but - do you value a painted webcam and a PC or spending time together, going on dates, planning a future?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:29 PM
25

https://www.returnofkings.com/78898/9-secrets-about-female-nature-told-by-a-hot-girl-dying-of-cancer under no 4 I'm sorry for subjecting you all to the trauma of reading this, but I figure most of you have enough supplies stocked up to desinfect your eyes & brain afterward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:12 PM
42

Anything from dyed hair to having a male dog as a pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:57 PM
2

Yes this is what I'm meant though I might have phrased it poorly. I'm not opposed to scheduling in a meeting with a guy, but I don't want to be like... actively dating, and tbh I'm not really looking for a serious relationship either because my last one held me down in many ways and I'm terrified of it happening again. Right now I just have too much stuff going on for me, and deep down I know I don't want to put any more energy into men.I think I just needed to hear it from someone that I'm not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:10 PM
8

Obviously you don't call or text him. It seems like a LVM move. With decent guys, I like to keep track of any red or potential red flags - write them down if you have to, lol. Then if (or should I say once?) they start piling up, drop him like a hot potato. Remembering all the red flags he showed also helps if you tend to feel guilty about cutting men off. Depending on severity, maximum red flags for me is 5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:08 PM
12

Dudes using any sort of easily recognisable psychological trick when interacting with you is a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:08 AM
12

I think I've read somewhere that saying the other persons name when talking to them makes the person subconsciously like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:23 AM
11

Friends could you please talk some sense into my inner Pickme? Thing is, I just realised that if I want to put in all the time and effort I want into levelling up (hobbies + career + health), I'm fucking booked, lol. I genuinely have zero time for dating. Part of me thinks this is good, but my little pickmeisha heart is screaming with FOMO - I figure most of you ladies are putting yourself out there for dating in some way, and I worry that if I dedicate so much time into levelling up, I'll miss …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:09 AM
2

Oh, then you're engaged and he's your fiance? There's a huge difference between a guy future faking and dangling commitment carrots and actually being married. You get very defensive about this, judging by your posts, but I don't believe any of the women who replied to you is wishing you ill. They're not telling you to be cautious because it's wrong to not be married, but because you seem to be putting a lot of hope into eventually getting married and doing the married thing without actually bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:40 AM
5

> He tells me "if wanting to be with you forever is the defining criteria of us being married, then consider us married already" Girl....Sorry for the tough love but they all say that. My "forever" ended up on him bailing on moving in with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:42 PM
22

It's true if you're a pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:31 PM
25

Don't worry about the messages, it's just dudes confirming that everything we say about them is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:20 PM
36

I was shocked to see jUsT cOmUniCaTe on FDS, thank you for modding it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:26 PM
9

In addition to the amazing advice others have given, I'd also say that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. Idk about others on this sub, but to me a LVM is a LVM not because he is not levelled up, but because he is a leech: emotionally, financially, and in many other ways. LVM means a man who is ADDING LITTLE VALUE to a woman's life. It just so happens that they share some common traits and habits. You are bringing to the table: your career, your personality, your ability to reflect on your mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:56 PM
7

Predatory men is an useful idea for a flair imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:04 PM
2

Damn, could you please tone it down with the facts?! ☠👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 03:48 PM
10

No it's not you. I literally don't know a single man who would fit my standards and preferences. And it's not that I'm unreasonable or super picky, because 1. I meet all those standards I seek in a man 2. There's tons of WOMEN who would meet my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:44 AM
24

This is insane. ... I'm a former significant mother so I strongly relate to women desperately trying to get their LVM to start being an adult.... even reading posts like this one is incredibly draining,since I can just feel the frustration from her writing and it gives me flashbacks to my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:23 PM
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To be perfectly honest I remember a poster who could fit this description....the gist of her posts was that she was levelling up but her BF wasn't trying as hard as she is to better herself, they were both gamers and she had some personal issues going on as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:58 AM
13

Shh don't tell them fellow female!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:43 AM
8

The "Should I be annoyed" just kills me. Sis... you should be livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:11 PM
3

Re read your own post since you basically answered yourself. We don't NEED men. A man should PROVE that he should be a part of your life by adding value. He does this by continually investing time, effort and yes, money into you. For those wanting to have children, this is even more important. ETA: But oh my sweet summer child... you're living in a world where " the average Joe isn’t trying to stomp women to the ground & use them as doormats". You're absolutely right, I agree: the average Joe is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:39 AM
2

Same. I also think there are big differences location to location. OLD is relatively new in my country, so there is a lot less fuckboys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:20 AM
3

I started using OLD as a sort of training wheels, just to practice. But, I'm not excluding the possibility of using them in the future. I'm an introverted person living in a small town with very specific tastes in men. I have a job where it doesn't really pay off for me to move to a bigger city. Should I ever decide to move in with a man or marry, I'd be expecting him to move to my location.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:17 AM
7

"Spinster appropriate ages of 29" 😂 Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:08 PM
3

Yes! It's also a quick way to weed out those who aren't interested, are insecure, or super low-effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 01:24 PM
20

Oh they did, there you go! https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/intuition/vol13/iss2/2/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:16 PM
4

How can I upvote you more than once?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:20 PM
3

Yes, you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:53 AM
56

"To treat the same person in one context like a sex toy to be used, but like a queen to be cherished in other" "To treat a pet like a thing to be used and abused in one context, but like a family member to be loved in other" See how ridiculous it sounds? There's no striking a balance...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:36 AM
13

Yes, but I can understand some of it. I look very young and have acne-prone skin, so many people assume I'm a teenager when I'm barefaced. To be honest though, I consider it a great filter. If a person doesn't treat me the same when I'm barefaced and not dolled up, then they're not worth being let into my life, because due to my hobbies, I spend quite a lot of time barefaced, sweaty and dirty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:21 AM
61

Dumb as a brick and full of shit, just like his own asscrack. In other words, your garden variety LVM clownery 🎪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:12 AM
2

Something like this has been available in Europe for years though, and you can get it at much cheaper. From what I gather it's pretty effective (meaning some women are able to use it as their only form of BC), but the side effects are pretty bad (it stings and generally causes discomfort).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:09 AM
12

Unfortunately, many women fall for this. Just look at the Vindicta sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:53 PM
73

9 times out of ten 10, if they're #imafatty, they don't actually do any exercise. They just like the image & want an active or fit partner. At 40, most men who are actually into exercise scale back on junk food etc. because the excess weight starts affecting joints.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:44 PM
8

Projecting big time. Getting a boyfriend is not a problem, it's quality that's lacking not quantity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:58 AM
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Strawman. No one is putting pressure on men to provide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:22 PM
11

Sis I had a comment typed out but... old connection + a goofy adorable puppy type + likes video games and old disney movies + the therapy thing you mentioned... to me these are at least pinkish flags. Not serious enough to discard him yet imo, but I'd put all of this into his red flag count. Old connections/friends suddenly showing interest tend to be guys who are settling for the "best they can get". Puppy adorable goofy type? Er... This is cute ages 1-12, but not in a grown man. Video games an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:32 PM
53

Yes, it never works out, because men disrespect women who do what men say they want them to do. It makes no sense, but neither do men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:41 AM
81

A cool girl is a type of pick me. It's a girl who puts on the act of not being like the other girls, (she'll claim she's easygoing, low maintenance, watches porn, you get the idea, stuff men do or stuff she thinks men want in a gf), except she does it in hopes of getting picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:12 AM
8

I don't want to sound like a cool girltm, but I've gotten a lot of the bad treatment people describe in this thread from other women, not from men. Like in a group, other women would speak over me or not speak to me at all. Men would be mostly nice to me. I'm not sure why was it. But, it did lead me to holding some views that I'd call misogynist. Since I've discovered FDS, I've been trying to better myself and be supportive of all women. ETA: I think the difference is, women would be hostile to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:46 PM
9

I wouldn't take any negs to heart. A fat dude tried to neg me by indirectly calling me fat... making himself sound really dumb because I literally had a full body picture of me with a BMI of 19. I think he was hoping I had body issues. Dipshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 04:09 PM
14

Men who neg are 100% abusers. Absolutely. I've established a zero tolerance policy to negs because I've fallen for them HARD in the past. In the earliest stages of a relationship, he should be trying to impress you. If he knows he can't do that, he can either improve, bail, or turn to negs. And it always escalates over time if he turns to negs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:03 PM
13

I'm dying 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:38 PM
9

I tried with 3 friends. 1 was a success, 2 was ... semi succesful, 3 was a complete fail. What the successes had in come was that they were on the conservative side (in a general sense, not politically).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:31 PM
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If you have to ask us if what you're feeling is valid or you're being overly sensitive, then it's not "flirtatious teasing". ETA: Anyway the examples you posted are 1. a neg 2. trying to put you into a pick me position/ in a position where you have to prove yourself to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:19 PM
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Mayo is fairly low protein + the protein is too large to penetrate hair, but it's very conditioning due to the oil and egg content! In fact you could whip up a DYI hair mayo if using storebrought feels icky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:49 AM
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No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:40 PM
2

What the hell is Mihail going on about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:21 PM
40

Not the asshole, u/dianaczag, the reason he brought up your mom is because he WANTED it to hurt you, on top of gaslighting you by saying he can't trust your judgement, - what you did and a fuck you is the appropriate response to manipulation on his part! This is not how you treat a heavily pregnant woman you're about to buy a house with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:18 PM
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This is cringe, both the dude and the replies. Don't reply to negs. Block immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 03:07 PM
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That's true, and on top of that, girls from an early age are basically taught that shit behaviour in boys (men) is normal and natural, BUT girls have to be great at everything or they're worthless. It's very hard to shift this mindset as an adult when it's all you've been told since childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:33 PM
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There's so many men who are practically undateable that it's enough for a LVM to act decentish for a few days and he'll get a pickmeisha or two to string along. Women raising their standards is the only way to go from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 02:25 PM
9

I'm actually really proud of you OP for how you dealt with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:56 AM
6

Number 1 is a strategy, block them the second they don't respond to obvious ask-me-out cues and/or drag conversations forever without asking you out. What is happening is that he is somehow inadequate IRL - ugly, has issues, poor self esteem, maybe poor social skills or has a girlfriend. By dragging out the conversation with you, he is creating a false sense of friendship/ affection so that you'll be more likely to overlook his shortcomings (because you've already invested so much time chatting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:50 AM
9

Agreed, this should be high up. I firmly believe that improving your appearance should come from a place of love towards your own self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:26 AM
11

My guess would be acids or other actives (30 minute wait time) and mask (wait time obvious)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:07 AM
8

Same. I don't care as much for the resources as I don't want to lose this amazing community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:18 PM
4

Facebook is a huge pick-me haven so I'm not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:15 PM
45

In my experience male "friends" are sort of fuckboys-in-waiting; they would if the circumstances were right. Idk if it's just me but I typically get 2 scenarios with male friends: 1. either they mistake friendly behaviour for romantic interest, then get offended 2. or the interaction is based on banter and semi-negs, which gets very tiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:13 PM
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He's good in other ways!! 🤡 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:56 PM
14

Yes, they might make offhand jokes about it, automatically assuming you are okay with it because drinking is so normalised. In case you are not, they can easily play it off as just a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:47 PM
8

Fertility Awareness Method
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:53 PM
3

I cannot say the exact name (only available in my country), but you could search for Diane 35 and then go from there? Diane 35 is the one that's been banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:52 PM
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Ladies can I just say that this sub is truly amazing? In other women's subs, when you say something negative about the pill you get downvoted to death. I feel so validated RN that I'm not the only one with a negative experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:18 PM
6

Same, I use FAM + backup and hate how it's looked down upon as some religious/esoteric BS when it's actually THE way your body works. The downside is that it likely works best for women with regular periods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:16 PM
12

Yes. When I was searching for other people's experiences with the pill and clotting, I stumbled upon the information that the birth control I was given was actually banned in several countries due to deaths from clotting, AND they have submitted false information on tests which are supposed to show how high the risk of clots is with a particular pill (it tested higher than they claimed). It was the type of pill that's used to treat hormonal acne btw, and the problem is not just that the particul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:13 PM
10

I don't have a predisposition to blood clots, and I wasn't overweight nor a smoker...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:06 PM
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Didn't read the article but I can have vaginal orgasms without touching the clitoris. But not from PIV sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:49 AM
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Exactly :/ The ob-gyn I went to said the only possible risk of the pill is blood clots, but that it's EXTREMELY RARE. Guess what the doctors at the ER said when I was admitted with a blood clot in my leg? It's pretty common, in fact it's the most common reason why blood clots even develop in younger women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:32 AM
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Well, I have a picture of a snarling wolf on Tinder, so... ETA: Basically I joined to see what it's about but grew tired of it very quickly. Didn't notice that you could stop your profile from showing up when swiping, so I changed my picture instead. I guess this dude is randomly swiping on women, hoping to match with some, then post something pervy. That's why he'd use an aging filter. You know what, maybe I was wrong about this post not belonging in FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:47 PM
2

Yeah it's obviously the aging filter... I don't really think this post belongs here😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:45 PM
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I had fishing specifically in my mind when I was typing the post lol, but it's basically almost all sports. It sucks if you want an active partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 10:26 AM
1

Yeah, except that's not what you're saying. I'm not going to quote your own posts to you, but it was you who turned to arguing whether raping or beating children is acceptable (which again no one who replied to you implied in any way).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:26 AM
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At this point, being too invested in "hobbies" and "interests" is a red flag to me, especially time-consuming ones. If he has hours to spend on hobbies, then either there's someone managing his life for him (mom, gf), or his life sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:12 PM
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I don't quite get how you concluded that it's acceptable, but it's definitely common and people are usually not brave enough to call it out or do anything about it, even if they know, or give benefit of doubt to the abuser. Source: I work with children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:59 PM
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I can't upvote you enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:55 PM
9

How vague are we talking? I noticed some people on this sub saying that a hot photo is all you need, but tbh I've noticed that guys who I'd consider interesting tend to show interest in women who put in their hobbies or at least some description of themselves (I'm using a local site where you can chat publicly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:57 AM
7

Perfectly put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:59 PM
40

IF according to them vaginas get looser the more sex you have, then shouldn't women be even MORE selective about who and how often they have sex with (ie def no sex for this small dick "Chad" and his likes)? Dumbasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:53 PM
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I mean wow, I sure was dumb at 20 but not THIS dumb, hope he's lying about his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:43 PM
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Exactly. I do a lot of the standard beauty things like skincare, wear makeup, nailpolish, take care of my hair etc. Overall, I'd say my routine takes up a good hour of my day (not including exercise) YET IT'S STILL CONSIDERED LOW MAINTENANCE FOR A WOMAN. Show me a man who spends an hour a day on their appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:32 AM
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You're right. It's not like stuff has changed over the years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:46 AM
1

Thanks! I tried to do what you suggest, but she doesn't seem to get the message. She reaches out to me anyway, and eventually I run out of excuses...I suppose I'll have to be more direct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:45 AM
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Oh damn I found that bracelet on Wish for 2 bucks I'm dying 😂 just typed in rose bracelet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:38 PM
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You should have set the flair to QUEEN SHIT 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 04:32 PM
6

I try to treat myself like I would treat someone I love. It's easy to say that you love yourself , but it's hard to genuinely feel it, and I strongly suspect that the cognitive dissonance of saying you love yourself yet treating yourself badly is to blame. For example, if I love someone, I like to cook a good meal for them. I learned to meal prep for me and be mindful when eating. If I love someone, I want them to live in a nice environment, so I cleaned up and decorated my space in a way I like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:24 AM
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Is there a link to it? I've been looking for a bracelet like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:18 AM
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Agreed, FDS is so much more than dating strategy! I'm not a huge fan of Marie Kondo, although I've read the book and like the idea of letting go of things that don't spark joy - I think the concept of HV vs LV is similar. I have been distancing myself for years, actually, because this is not new behaviour, it's just that before I've been blaming myself for it. Right now I'm torn between cutting her off and trying to help her out of the funk, partly because I feel guilty for distancing myself, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:31 AM
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Hey ladies, I need your advice. I think I might have to FDS a female friend out of my life. We're childhood friends, that's why it's hard to just cut her off, otherwise I'd have already done it. The problem is, she treats me like a piece of shit. At first I thought the problem was me, and I'm being insecure over harmless comments. But right now I've levelled up a lot thanks to FDS, and can recognise that what she says is downright malicious and intended to knock me down a notch. (adding an examp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:44 AM
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And they also look more threatening to a small animal. I actually read that out of all people, animals are most commonly fear-aggressive towards men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:51 AM
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OMG I thought I was the only one!!! My ex was totally like this: enjoyed my luxurious massages with oils, but when *I* wanted a massage in return, he'd just half heartedly rub my back for 5 minutes before I started feeling guilty and told him to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:41 AM
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Not wanting to be involved with your own child is, imo, dump immediately situation. He knows that, that's why he's so open about it, and might also be twisting the story in his favour. Poor child... their father will pay and help with stuff, but otherwise "doesn't want to be involved with" them. What a fucking jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:17 PM
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Well, in addition to that she's wearing contacts and lashes and overall going for a much sexier look. She's pretty in both but the makeup in 2nd pic does look a bit tacky/unflattering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:40 PM
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I asked some guy claiming FDS is literally people asking for ways to abuse other people if he could point to some examples, please, thank you. Well, hE's cUrRenTLy sUpeR bUsy sO cAnT chEck ThE fRonT pAge, bUt tHerE oNce wAs tHis oNe tHrEaD tHat gOt deLeTed.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:37 PM
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Oh my god yes. The negging. I used to fall for it so hard, because I stupidly gave the benefit of doubt, and thought they were just teasing me and it hurts because maybe there's a grain of truth in it and *I'm* insecure about it. Haha, nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:25 PM
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When you're learning how to pronounce certain sounds in a foreign language, the advice is sometimes to consciously exaggerate the sound you're making to ridiculous levels, because most learners are timid and their "ridiculous" is actually normal. I feel like a lot of FDS advice is building on this concept; for so many women having confidence and boundaries is such a foreign concept that they need to exaggerate a bit in the beginning to make it to normal. This and the reactions to your previous p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:09 PM
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wonder how big his porn collection is?... Straight to the point 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 04:30 PM
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Men are absolutely delusional. For those who are still convinced it's because they're not pretty enough: The supposedly average looking woman is usually clean, well-dressed and cute. The average looking man looks like potato. The man putting in as much effort as a supposedly average looking woman is considered HOT, because men are taught it's fine to do sweet fuck all about their appearance. Constantly struggling to look hotter because you believe you're not enough despite spending a significant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 08:59 AM
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Your thinking is: Men below my league are attracted to me - what should *I* change? That doesn't make sense.Besides, LVM don't think like we do. When women (and esp. those who's inner pickme is still alive, like me) encounter a man who they perceive as "out of their league", hell even a man who is their EQUAL, they begin questioning themselves and wondering if they're good enough. LVM don't think like that. They see an attractive woman. They go for it, even if they're a toad and she's a 10/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:15 PM
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Yes. I once commented something sarcastic to a guy spewing that nonsense online, and he was messaging me in a flirty way about three minutes later. Leaving him on read felt good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:16 PM
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That's infuriating, considering how much more effort goes into long hair if it's curly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:29 PM
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Truly a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:06 PM
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This. I couldn't put it into words but I feel this. If you know your SO cares a lot about something, shouldn't you acknowledge it? This is actually very emotionally confusing for me, because for the longest time I thought he wasn't manipulative ... at all. I felt he was too goody two-shoes to even consider it, much less actively participate in it and even be quite cunning with it. I legit thought the gaslighting he did (unrelated to hair), although I managed to see it, was unintentional... Looki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:00 PM
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Yes! That's what I was thinking of, thankfully most women are quite sensitive to creep/fetish vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:37 AM
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Don't worry, I struggle with the same thing. It's hard to go from "I'm doing this so that I look presentable to others" to "I'm doing this because I feel good afterwards".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:18 AM
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Thanks for the perspective!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:03 AM
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This is a troll, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:25 PM
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​ 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:18 AM
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Do you blow dry before bed ? I'm assuming you wash your hair daily? Have you seen any damage from that? (Just asking cause my hair takes forever to dry too, and I've been trying to find the perfect washing schedule for years now)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:15 AM
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They get mad about dating preferences in general. I'm fit and thin, so by their logic it should be reasonable for me to expect the same from a guy. But nah. Either they pick any other flaw I might have and use it to reason why I don't get to choose, or call me shallow/stupid. They'd find something wrong even with a perfect 10/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:16 PM
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So... none of you check on your trash? Because I kinda do, I mean not regular food trash but here you can put things next to to the trash for other people to take and I do like to check if someone's taken mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:45 PM
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Sorry to piggyback on this, but what about messaging other people on FB when you're in a relationship? And I don't mean like your friends, I mean strangers. Personally, I wouldn't do it and wouldn't like my partner doing it, but I'm in an FB dating/friendship group for a relatively niche interest and there's not only lots of men in a relationship messaging women, but also women in relationships messaging men. Or women inviting men in relationships for beer. Am I crazy or are they crazy? Is this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:40 PM
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Noo why spoil this beautiful picture, NO It's a HWV choosing the best out of her roster and FDS nodding in agreement. There, fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:49 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:40 AM
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Seriously. Don't fall into this line of thinking. Men are just as capable as women when it comes to housework OR cooking. They know full well that they are; they are just pretending not to because it benefits them. Let me give you an example. Consider: how much free time do you have on a regular weekend? And by free time I mean time to spend entirely on yourself and your hobbies. Well guess what. I'm in a few mountain biking /hiking groups and they are full of men going on several hour long hike…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:51 AM
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You know what... I had a long post written. But as I kept scrolling through the trufemcel sub, I realised that although it is pretty toxic, it has it's place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:58 PM
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I take no issue with telling women not to do chores for men, but the rest of the post rubs me the wrong way.What you're saying is: if you don't like what your man is doing, be slightly passive aggressive about it because he cannot handle being told openly. Coddle him, because else he might not find you attractive or accuse you of being a nag.(Anyway, funny how it's almost always "bitch woman nagging at an innocent man", like maybe there's a reason and maybe the problem is not her?) I don't know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 04:04 PM
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Why not get yourself a man who can reach "the common standards of civilisation" by himself? This sounds suspiciously like RP-ish bullshit "don't nag and learn to STFU so he can figure it out himself". A somewhat clean home and a somewhat healthy diet is bare minimum, not something to celebrate or "train" men to do. And if there's something bothering you - why not just ask him not to do it or do it better? If my partner asked me to change the way I cook or clean, I'd have no problem with it, so w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:10 PM
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Right?Looking at the femcel subs, I feel like I should feel sorry for them, but I can't. I apologise if I sound harsh, but if it was a man telling me some of the stuff they say in that sub, I'd call him a lazy, whiny, envious little bitch. Now obviously for women it's different because we all know how we are brainwashed with regards to beauty and relationships, but still. Believing you're worthless because you're ugly only perpetuates the notion that women are nothing beyond their looks. Please …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:54 AM
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FDS is an extremely positive place, but it's through tough love. Any form of self reflection takes effort and hurts (in a good way) - possibly some women are scared off by it it and instead resort to ridiculing us or calling us toxic. and obviously we're toxic to lvm scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:46 PM
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Facts. I feel like this is somewhat difficult for many women to grasp, since we don't assess men based on whether we'd fuck them or not. We usually screen men as potential romantic partners. Men on the other hand see a woman and think " would I (can I) fuck her?" and if the answer is even remotely resembling a yes, they act accordingly. They see women as fucktoys first, a human being .... I'd say second but sometimes not even that. That's why FDS teaches women to look for signs that a man actual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:48 PM
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Ladies, was about to make a post asking about "subtle red flags", based on an offhand comment I got from an otherwise decent looking guy online. Then before I posted, it occured to me to go through his profile to see if it's the only possible red flag..... aaaaaand it's full of soft fetish porn. a subtle red flag = indicator of a bunch of HUGE. BRIGHT. RED. FLAGS. Trust your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:12 AM
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Personally, my standards and preferences overlap a lot, because my interests significantly influence my lifestyle. A man who is not visually attractive to me likely doesn't share these interests, and would thus feel pretty lost in a relationship with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:22 AM
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For lurking scrotes struggling to meet these horrendous standards, here's a beginner program to get you started: Eat a vegetable & lift a weight. Don't neglect hygiene. Don't neglect hygiene PLEASE and occassionally try to dress in something decent. Don't think that just because you're now doing the barest minimum, any woman is required to have sex with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:40 PM
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There's also the issue of compatibility - if a man has a huge belly and no muscle tone then he's likely pretty sedentary and/or doesn't care as much about nutrition. What is he going to do with a fit woman? Tbh I do feel offended when couch potatoes think they have a chance with me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:34 PM
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Yes, skinny with high percentage body fat and low lean mass. It's basically when you're skinny in clothes, but flabby naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:28 PM
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Wow. Are you for real trying to convince me that PEOPLE AREN'T CAPABLE OF LONGTERM WEIGHT LOSS by saying BASICALLY EVERYONE IS CAPABLE OF LONG TERM WEIGHT LOSS? Girl, you should take a break. Obviously for morbidly obese people the situation is more difficult, as there's more to lose and damaging eating habits in place which tae longer to unlearn. But whether you are losing 20lbs or 200lbs, it's always due to CI-fucking-CO. And if you believe that there's a different mechanism responsible for sm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:30 PM
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First, breathe. You sound anxious and distressed even from writing. Second - block everyone and everything that had to do with your past behaviour. Block/ghost your ex. That is over for you, you're not going back. Delete the sexual things too. You can't be a pick me if you stop engaging with males, right? And you don't want to engage with men until you get yourself sorted out. YOU ARE THE PRIORITY, not men or anyone else, stop wasting time on them. Third - I'd suggest getting off the internet fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:21 PM
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When people talk about whether or not you can lose weight permanently they are not talking about a mere stone and a half, which almost every woman has gained and lost at some point So can you lose weight permanently or nah? If you don't count/track you're not doing CICO either. I'm doing CICO. CICO is not a diet. Read my post one more time. I learned about my TDEE and how many calories is in what, then adjusted accordingly. Yes, that is CICO. I just happen to eat at maintenance without having to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 10:08 AM
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I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for gentle language and intuitive eating to be a small part of the larger conversation. I can get behind that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 08:04 AM
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I think living in a bubble might be beneficial in your case, but not everyone is in ED recovery. Some people just want to lose weight. Being lied to is not helping them. You never once provided a study to support your claims, and conveniently overlooked the one I gave you, and conveniently used only the first part of the sentence about being an unicorn, so ... continue to be open-minded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:00 AM
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I'll put it this way. I'm here maintaining over 20lb weight loss, while having a genetic disorder which reduces my daily needs by 200-300kcal AND lowers my overall TDEE due to having slightly less lean mass than average person. I eat intuitively as maintenance, after learning basic information about how many calories are in what foods. CICO works for me, despite not actually counting or tracking. You do you. But just the fact that I'm here pretty much disproves your original claim. If I'm an uni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:25 AM
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Oh, it's definitely not simple, I agree. The study I posted documented quite a few examples of long term weightloss. As someone who has gone through a period of disordered eating habits, learning that my weight is almost entirely within my control has been very beneficial (but I'm sure you've been given your own guidelines as to how to cope post ED, so yeah). I just don't think it's fair to spread misinformation - many people who would love to lose weight are presented with this weird mix of fak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:04 AM
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Data on what? On people being capable of longterm weightloss? Here you go, but I won't be pulled into further discussion since it's very OT for this sub. > At 5 y, the success rates for maintaining a 5% reduction in body weight were as follows: 57.9% for men, 47.8% for women [...] We reported that 25% of our patients were maintaining a 10% reduction in body weight at 7 y. > Five years after completing structured weight-loss programs, the average individual maintained a weight loss of >3 kg and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:34 AM
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Oh, the "you'll gain it all back after 5 years"? It was based on a study from the 1930's or so, with no tracking as to whether the people adhered to the eating habits that caused the weight loss. If you're capable of weight GAIN, then surely you must be capable of weight LOSS. Long term weight loss is definitely possible. I did it (maintaining 3 years), an acquaintance lost enough weight to get in the healthy weight range after years of being morbidly obese (maintaining for over 5 years). I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:54 AM
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Dude. All women dating subreddit. Get out. / Here so you don't have to go through post history https://www.reddit.com/r/Needafriend/comments/2ahvu2/17m_looking_for_gaming_buddies_on_steam/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 04:34 AM
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Bare minimum: He gives you what you would give to a good friend. example: remembers your birthday and gets you something nice, offers to share housework. Might offer you a sandwich if you're hungry. HVM: He gives what you would give to a romantic partner. example: not only remembers your birthdays, but gets you a gift that he picked based on what he knows you'll love. Does housework so that you can get some rest or do something you enjoy. Cooks because he wants you to enjoy the meal he made. As …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:21 AM
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I think a LVM can fall in love or pursue a girl with genuine interest. However, unless he works on himself, his lvmishness will always peek through - for example maybe he treats her well and takes care of her needs, but she has to do all the chores because he "can't cook" etc. I'm sure you've seen that before... basically what I'm trying to say that a LVM's love is also low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 11:01 AM
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This is equally disgusting and odd - what's up with the mess in the background? Did he... contour his cheeks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:48 AM
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But like. The rest of the time. Why don't you want to? Just like I don't always want cake, I don't always crave sex or an orgasm. When I don't crave cake, I don't eat cake, and when I don't crave sex, I don't have sex. Doesn't mean it's because they are shit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:01 PM
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Feel free to turn to this sub in moments of weakness! From the sound of it, he must have been a real catch - glad you got rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:53 PM
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posted to Redpillwomen... breaks my heart - she probably bends over backwards to appease her Captain, and here he is, being a stupid piece of shit ... if sis ever finds her way to this sub: I hope you figure out a way to take your kids and move out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:18 PM
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I wanted to reply but the OP deleted their comment, so I'm replying to yours since you're replying to them. ___ I get what you're trying to say, but honestly there's something a little bit off about the post - texts back and forth with his dad? goes out every 2 minutes to ask his wife for something? over banana bread? I mean banana bread is pretty much flour, baking powder, bananas, oil and sugar. Some put in cinnamon or other spices. It's a recipe children learn to make and if he ever cooks, he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:13 PM
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I learned to spoil myself, to do things for ME. I got back to old hobbies, and discovered new interests because there's no one who would judge me for it. I had a glow up, lol. Really. Turns out being constantly stressed/depressed/anxious really affects your appearance. I am free! Free to travel, free to do anything I want without any dead weight! ​ Idk what I was so afraid of, this is amazing and I literally do not want to get in a relationship anytime soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 10:50 AM
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The link you posted is literally why we need FDS and should be stickied somewhere. A fine example of how having low self worth, pick me mentality and no standards leave you vulnerable to these kinds of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:09 AM
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Gosh, so sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:01 AM
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I say yes, lose the weight by all means, especially if it puts you in the health risk cathegory. I think it's also reasonable to bring up weight gain to your partner, especially if both of you started as somewhat fit. However in this case, the fiancé seems to be a jerk about it, so highly likely he is also a jerk outside of the weight issue. She should drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:59 AM
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I think learning to do things for yourself is huge. If you're one of those people who gives and gives in a relationship, imagine what you'd do for a partner ... and then do the same for you, without guilt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 02:26 PM
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showers before dates and doesn't ask for nudes? come on now, I said standards but don't be unreasonable /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:02 AM
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> These toxic female subreddits lay out their whole battle plan and the things they’ll do, things y’all can then watch out for and notice before you become a victim. Lol fine here's my battle plan: I work on myself and reject men who don't meet my standards. That's it. Hate fucking speech, right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:50 AM
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Oh no they wouldn't. That's why there's even such a thing as a dating strategy for women - most of it is learning to weed out men that don't measure up to you & seeing through the manipulative tactics they use to get you to bring down your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:28 AM
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Used to work with children, it's absolutely true, boys aren't raised with the same expectations, they are mommied until later age and them being lazy is overlooked / ascribed to being boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:15 PM
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I understand what OP thinks is pickmeish about the post and I would agree, if it wasn't so obvious that they kinda fall into the not-like-the-other-girls trap themselves... And if your comment was re: my comment - I agree it can come across that way, but it's just how it is for me. ETA: You're not special for being low maintenance, but you're not special for being high maintenance either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:00 AM
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Not gonna lie and say I never dyed my hair or got my nails done, etc., but now that I realised the environmental impact all of this has, I am extremely cautious about adding anything into my beauty routine that might cause excessive waste or support companies I'm not willing to support or promote cruel behaviour to animals (mink). If that makes me a pickmeisha then so be it. I do wonder about some of the women in the comments thinking that not doing the things in OP means that you don't care abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:34 AM
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Ehm, does anyone have any ideas on how I can wash my boyfriends feet and butt crack in like, a sexy way? I find that he just refuses to clean himself but he will let me do it. I feel like it’s not idiotic to have to bathe my stray dog of a boyfriend. I don't have a boyfriend, but I guess instructions on how I wash my dogs butt should suffice! plop him into bathtub set water temperature to just right rinse feet first, then bottom squirt some shampoo & lather on feet (for boyfriend you can use boy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 06:15 PM
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This is something I wonder about - a lot of the beauty advice is geared towards the mainstream look, and I'm really not into the mainstream look (not even the stereotype alternative girl look). If I stick to what I think looks beautiful, what makes ME happy, I find myself diverting further from the norm, and when I try to judge my appearance objectively, I'm definitely falling into "someone's type" rather than "conventionally attractive". Is this good or bad? FYI I don't really have a looks base…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:26 PM
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whether she should cut her hair when really that's all she wants to do i feel personally attacked rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:40 PM
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...we shower together... hey, at least she can supervise that he's cleaning himself properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:25 PM
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To each their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:01 AM
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Seriously though, this sub taught me to discern so many subtle red flags (and those red flags have proven to be true!) it's almost scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 05:55 PM
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bUt WoMen POsTinG sExy piCz onLinE Is tHe REAL pRoBleM tHats NoT taLkeD aBout!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 12:29 PM
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Yeah I read your other comments where you explain what you meant... I'd hate to find myself in the kind of relationship where the man is basically a pedo so he gets himself a young looking girlfriend to fill his desires in a socially acceptable way...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:52 AM
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Ugh - I just looked her up and don't see what you're talking about. I'm astounded that this is what is considered young-looking...to me she looks like a 30yo doing the lolita/cute young girl style. Really makes me wonder about the kind of men that might be attracted to me though, I have the same body type (minus boobs) + a baby face + dress kinda cute because it makes sense with my body...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:35 AM
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and you're obviously predatory and pedo because you just CAN'T WAIT for all these 13-14 yos to chase you! ladies we should just shut down this sub cus that's where's the real party at
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:39 PM
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Translation: women are hot, none of them want me, let's shut them down so I don't have to feel bad about myself anymore... oh and something something teenage boys as a convenient scapegoat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 04:08 PM
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Now thinking of the times I tried to reach out/confront I almost cringe, damn. Levelling up! 🎉 🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 12:08 PM
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A little bit. I think for next time, you should stick to only reciprocating. Don't initiate or try to stir the conversation back up if you feel it dying. That's his job. If he doesn't seem to try, next him. Basically you could've saved yourself a lot of trouble if you just cut contact the second he started disappearing. Don't give men the benefit of the doubt. You know why he sent you an essay after your confrontation but didn't follow through with his actions? Because he's keeping you as a back…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 11:42 AM
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Sis he doesn't want you, if he did he'd make time. I'd compare it to having a dog, you might be busy AF but you still find time to walk it everyday because you want your pet to be happy. Similarly, if he wanted to make you happy, he'd find the time. And if you really, really don't have any time to spare, you wouldn't get a dog (or a relationship) in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:12 AM
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he's not replying again! 😭 ​ ❗❗❗FDS my soon-to-be husBand is sending mixedd signals, should fuck / cook / clean more to make him love meeee? 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:43 PM
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Thanks! frankly I can relate because when I read, what you wrote is pretty much how I read, but I often skip a day and then not get back to the book until some time. I think I will start by making a habit out of reading for a set amount of time before bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:28 PM
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tHeY WiLL nEveR gEt a LuV LiKe oUrS! so u picked mee? 💖 💖 💖 knew u would 💖 👰 🤵 🎂 🏠 👶👶👶💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:11 PM
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yessssss I did but as an ActualStraightMan I can't just switch now and be your pickmeisha, don't wanna confuse the spinsters (plus no homo ofc!) (please read this for context before you downvote, thanks )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:58 PM
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Please lol bro stop simping 🍆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:45 PM
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Hey, I should be vacuuming if I wanna level up my home, thanks for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:01 PM
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Apparently she exists, but I'm still not 100% convinced the account etc. is actually run by a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:12 AM
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I don't think Katie is a woman. / Ok sorry I just googled the person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:44 AM
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I'm sorry honey but I think further down the line, you are going to resent him for it. If it bothers you now, it's not going to get better, and it might actually transfer into irresponsible or stupid behaviour on his part, like poor financial decisions etc. For me, I want to be able to rely on my partner, not resignate to do everything myself because I worry they might be too stupid to do adult stuff properly. That's the most important thing and something I'm not going to compromise in the futur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:23 AM
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Just out of curiosity - is your book reading habit something you had to purposefully train yourself to do or it just came naturally/was something you managed to preserve since childhood?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:14 AM
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Is it it possible he is messaging multiple women and confused your with some other girl? I don't know dating apps but if your pic minimizes to a thumbnail after you start messaging, it's possible. I had this happen with 2 guys on FB lol, they had similar names and pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:04 PM
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Maybe she found FDS in the meantime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:24 PM
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I think there's a difference between practicing and playing around, and actual emotional investment. You aren't burning a man who has already burned you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:50 PM
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I'm not convinced. My ex was less intelligent and less educated than me. We got along well. Except when we broke up, it was such a relief when I could finally surround myself with things that I enjoy and find intellectually stimulating. I realised that all this time, I've been subconsciously dumbing myself down around him, just so that we're on the same level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:12 PM
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On a side note, he was really cute as a kid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:10 AM
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What a kind and considerate woman, it makes me sad. They'd be much better off putting that energy elsewhere, not wasting it on trying to salvage a rapist ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:01 AM
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The recent posts with conversation screenshots are ridiculous. For some reason the OP's always convinced that they just executed an impressively savage burn, when in reality they just sound... pathetic. I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:57 AM
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I think LVM but I also think this post is a little bit of a train wreck and that you should really take some time to work on yourself, instead of trying to date during the pandemic and stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:03 PM
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We do help pickmes - most of us were pickmes at some point. I don't think being shamed for something that is genuinely not good for you is bad (but then again I'm the kind of person who is more motivated by fear of negative consequences than positive reinforcement lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:18 PM
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Exactly, delusional - I wanted to put it euphemistically and say that love really is blind, but delusional is the better word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:36 PM
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Okay. But still - we don't know whose "fault" it is. You seem to automatically assume it's her fault. It could be, but it might as well not. The way most relationships work, the woman is left to do almost all of the childcare + housework, whereas the man's life... is basically the same he would have if he were childfree. The solution is not for her to give more, to try harder. And I do suspect that this is the case here too, but again - we don't have any other info about this case. I'd say if he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:32 PM
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Yeah... that post + the one where they mention how tiny they are... the combination is really, really creepy and I don't even want to think about it and HOPE it's not how I think it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 04:08 PM
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Do you have children? ETA: I don't think you can "relate by comparison" unless you also happen to have a 2 year old. We don't know anything about this couple, besides muh dick. Maybe he is actually reasonable. Maybe he's a total parasite and still expects her to have sex with him after spending her day with chores and childcare. Maybe she's a pickme and they only had so much sex because she felt she had to it so that he doesn't leave her. But tbh I try to follow your line of thinking and I'm hon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:32 PM
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They like the attention and ego boost of getting a woman to have sex with them, not necessarily the sex itself. Sex means having to put in effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:58 PM
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Everything's possible with LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:03 PM
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Hey I just noticed ....how is his 2 month old son gonna walk in on them having sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:28 AM
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Jesus fucking christ, this is not only a little ridiculous, this is straight up male depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:23 AM
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Others already gave you good advice, but I also learned a lot about my ex's type by discussing something along the lines of which actress/musician he thinks is hot (but I was young and pickmeisha so ...proceed with caution). Found out they're all pretty similar to me physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 05:08 AM
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Don't settle for a force degrader, but don't let a man become your force multiplier (or at least not the sole force multiplier). Am I doing it right OP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:23 PM
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Bye? You're off to fuck him I suppose, don't want to lose this catch forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:02 PM
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Negging. Disrespectful behaviour towards you. It's not normal that your SO insults you. You do know. DUMP HIS SORRY ASS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:57 PM
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😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:45 PM
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Thank you, and no I'm not, although I would like to. I try to think of a reason why I'm not (mostly having to do with lack of availability in my country and previous experience with a psychologist who treated me very badly as a child), but I supposed it's mostly excuses and I might eventually bite the bullet and try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:30 PM
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I take these with a grain of salt - I also have an incurable disorder, so I will never be "healthy", but I can be my healthiest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:40 PM
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I relate. I can forgive ugly. Like okay maybe your features are wonky or you are a balding a little bit or have some acne. I am not perfect either. I don't forgive lack of effort. A guy should match me with the amount of effort put into his appearance. If I'm fit, he better be as well. If I put effort in my personal grooming, so should he. If I pick my clothes carefully, so should he.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:09 PM
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This is amazing, thank you so much OP! Any tips or good resources for working on self-worth? I feel like most of the things I read online only feel like a plaster to a huge wound, and I'm definitely guilty of feeling the false sense of security you mention in your post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:22 AM
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Oh, sorry then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:38 PM
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The one about never having to pay for dinner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:13 PM
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I think I'd send flowers maybe to grandpa, or dad or maybe even brother. Sending flowers to male romantic partners is just... weird. I feel like it should fine if the man was worth it, but there's this strong association of men giving flowers to women as a romantic gesture that sending flowers to even a HVM would come across as a bit pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:11 PM
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Oh no, that's not like it at all. Our lives don't center all around men, and talking about men is usually only a small % of our interaction. Sorry can't relate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:59 PM
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I want to ask about your flair - are you the author of that post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:48 PM
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Oh OP... never write stuff like the 90% part... that's so pick me, like thank you random dude for actually being somewhat decent, it makes you sooo special and I acknowledge that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:33 PM
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Guy's message is so infuriating I swear I almost downvoted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:53 PM
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I'm absolutely appalled that this man is a TEACHER. I'm not saying that every teacher needs to be an absolute saint outside of work, but having this little emotional intelligence, being this immature ... and teaching? seriously? Hope he at least teaches adults or older teens, not kids. Btw holidays are absolutely not "vacation" time, more like catch up on work time, but I guess the whole life is a vacation to his LVM ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:54 AM
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Yup, makes sense, just like it would in any negative environment. Not gonna lie, I still sometimes feel anxious or low, but nowhere near the extent I was with him. And bipolar? Nah lol. Just the cognitive dissonance of being with someone who says one thing with words and another thing with acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:27 PM
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With my ex, I thought I had depression, I though I was bipolar, I thought I had bad anxiety and that I'm a manipulative narcissist. Funny how decluttering him out of my life practically cured my laundry list of disorders. It's almost as if ...HE has been the one driving me crazy 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:59 PM
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It's allright. I forgive you 😭 heydatingadviceiwasthesidechick but i foRgave the oTher womAn fellowpickmeishasupvotepllssssssssssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:59 PM
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back off bitch he's mine 😡 ​ ​ ... I mean it's ok, im poly lol 🙂🙂 🙂 ​ 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:44 PM
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(see you bunch of spinsters, told you, he was just busy FDS is toxic manhating bullshit! 👏 ) ❤️ aaaw you're lik a little sleeping baby beAr, so cute! I'm just looking for a guy like you honestly, someone who thinks im beautiful & cares about my insecurities & wipes my tears away 😍 glad you like it hahaha, here's a few more 😉 pic pic <3 btw, do you wanna maybe hang out sometime? get food, or maybe just watch netflix & chill ... i can come to your place & cook you a nice dinner❤️❤️ a good woman sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:34 PM
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There's #KickHimOut2020 and then there's #fortheloveofgodsisKICKhimOUTbeforehesucksthelifeouttayou2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:15 AM
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he didn't reply 😢 maybe he's just busy RN 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:57 AM
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Hi pick ME pick Me pick ME PICK ME PICK ME PICK ME PICK ME!!! 👏PICK 👏ME👏 ...PlEaSE!!!! PS: I love anal & porn 😉 ❤️ 💦💦 here's a pic for you seXy (haha hope you like it even tho im uglly lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:16 AM
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I need a huge poster of this. This needs to be before my eyes every. single. day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:57 PM
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I second block and delete. All of them. You are NOT wrong or insulting for doing that - do they give a shit about you? Like, do they come back even when not horny, without expecting sexual favours? Likely not, then don't give a shit about them either ( because now you clearly kinda do!) You weren't the female equivalent of a fuckboy, you were a pick me. They used you for sex just as much as you claim you used them, except you were the one carrying the bigger risk. What they have to work for with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 10:12 AM
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I agree with you in that we shouldn't stoop so low and roast people just because they're ugly. I think OP made this post because they have pics in which they look good & clearly put in effort in their appearance, while this guy obviously didn't. That's the context we're missing. ​ I don't know about you, but I do get insulted when a guy who's not really that much of a catch thinks I'd be interested. Especially if I'm nicely groomed, educated, etc. and they're not. They simply cannot NOT see it..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 10:01 AM
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Girl dump him and RUN (and read the handbook ffs, you're worth SO much more than this) I don't believe this is the only case of disrespectful / low value behaviour he's exhibited. Why do you have to throw pens for him to have your attention WHILE he's Skyping his friends and two girls WHILE drunk AND rating random girls when you've only been together for 4 months? It won't get better sis, this should be the time where he's 100% into chasing you, not skyping and rating girls while you lounge arou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 08:09 AM
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Petty but awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 07:50 AM
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I mean this is such a non issue, were he capable of common courtesy & respect for his GF - Honey thanks, it was delicious, next time would you mind starting to cook a bit closer to when I get home so I can enjoy the meal fresh off the stove? gf: Yeah sure / nah cuz (insert reason), ok boom done! Instead here we have this Hamlet manchild writing dramatic paragraphs and "nOt MaKinG a BiG dEaL oF" having to re-heat his dinner. It's pathetic and embarassing even if he does it on purpose to bring her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:41 AM
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I don't think it's bad to be confident when you're overweight 👑 Edit: deleted a part of my post as I felt it was not relevant to this subreddit/OP's post. As far as why LVM complain about women, fat or not - they always have to find something to use against you, if it wasn't weight it would be hair or age or anything else, they're creative. Better not to pay them any attention and focus on levelling yourself up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:10 AM
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nah, it's #justLVMthings in general
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:59 AM
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I dated a man 11 years older than me and my friend was briefly in a relationship with 20+ years age gap. Let me put it this way - when you really don't want to be alone and the men your own age are not worth it, then dating older men seems like an obvious choice. They usually treat women better, at least outwards, and might have some security like a job, own place... What the woman doesn't realise is that the older man in an age gap relationship is always the one that's better off. He gets a hot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:06 AM
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> I would wear makeup and lingerie to bed > I would get acne and then he’d comment on that as well! What a jerk. Hope you think of him fondly as you climb into bed in comfy pajamas after doing a luxurious skincare routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:29 PM
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Jesus girl, we know everything about you from your profile... Reddit in general is definitely not safe to share so much personal info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:55 PM
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👑 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:33 PM
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I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:31 PM
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Okay. This is all advice I've seen on RPW subs for the few years that I frequented some of them before I learned the hard way that it's bullshit. But if you feel like my post and the OP is not at all representative of it, and you like the advice they offer, then more power to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:13 PM
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Definitely not typed out like this. But the RP advice for women does point to this kind of lifestyle. Perfect appearance for your Captain? Check. Including wearing uncomfortable stuff at home and maintaining an over-the-top beauty routine just to please him. Have a muffin top? Well no wonder he's eyeing this hot 18year old, you should consider cooking your meals separately & going to the gym more! Cooking, homemaking and other "feminine hobbies"? Check. You cook and clean and take care of the ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 03:50 PM
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Bullying women to get them to lower their standards is easier than changing yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:59 AM
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I always lol at the assumption that we're manipulating men. Exactly how if the options are: either you are willing to invest (time, money, emotion) in me or you aren't, in which case k bye. If this is manipulation to them then so is grocery shopping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:54 AM
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I'm currently focused on developing my hobbies and interests. Basically I'm doing whatever the fuck I please: listen to whatever I like, watch whatever I like, read whatever I like, draw and play with my dog. I maintain my environment in a way that makes me feel happy to spend time in it. I also want to travel more once we're free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:42 PM
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Thanks sis, but I do put a fair bit of effort into my appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:24 PM
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Yeah. I agree with the point of this post - don't date ugly men - but I feel a bit conflicted about the reasoning OP gave. The "average" woman (= ie. a 5 on the scale, so not the actual average woman) is cute, clean, well-dressed and has a decent body. The average man is... well we all know how the average man is. Most of them don't match the 5 woman. They know this - that's why they try to pull her down, to lower her self esteem so she dates below her level (you're only a 5 you don't get to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 07:45 AM
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Replying to myself lol, but wanted to add as a side note - I think stuff like rating yourself on a 1-10 scale or comparing yourself to celebs who you only see online or on TV or spending a significant amount of time thinking about what "number" would men assign to you is gonna kill your confidence even if you were a 10/10. Women consistently rate themselves lower than they really are and are made to feel uglier than they are, and men love to exploit this. Don't do this to yourself. You're a quee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 04:17 PM
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Wait so what you're saying that any man who dates me as an average looking woman is only dating me because he was forced to lower his standards and will always be on the lookout for someone prettier, therefore I'm basically out of the dating pool unless I'm willing to date someone who settled for me? That's really bleak. /// ETA: I think I'm just going to pretend I'm a gorgeous queen instead 👑 :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:36 PM
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Hey, I know this was for the OP, but you basically answered my question as to what exactly are the potential LVM red flags here, so thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:20 PM
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So... I'm still learning, please bear with me. But as a newbie with the handbook freshly in memory, I can kinda see where OP is coming from, the situation they describe is the similar to the Becky vs. Dreamgirl post in handbook - a man acting poorly when a girl allows it. Here's a link to it for convenience's sake https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dsksyc/fds_faqs_answered_becky_vs_dreamgirl/ How exactly is OP's case different and what makes the guys behaviour a red flag? Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:16 PM
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Aside from the general depravity - thanks for the reminder that they know exactly what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:45 PM
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Oh, honey... You might think of him as your friend (and this would be a perfectly normal thing to ask from a female friend), but clearly, you are not a friend to him, you are an object of interest. Men and women aren't friends. Besides, what do you want the answer to be? Either he says you are not pretty (he likely wouldn't even be talking to you if you were hideous, and even if yes, he would still want to fuck you/use you), or you learn that your "friend" finds you attractive = wants to fuck yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:57 PM
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What she thinks: "well I'll do whatever he want so that I can get whatever I want (although what I want MIGHT sound like I just want a healthy level of attention&affection that should be a given in any relationship, BUT he's going through a difficult time RN and has difficulty showing emotions and it doesn't come to him naturally so he ACTUALLY has to put in more effort than me) ...so it's fair right? 50 : 50? riiight?!?!" What he thinks: "lol she's willing to do whatever sick shit I saw in porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:01 PM
57

Total lack of reading comprehension. How is the woman a beggar if she manages to get a date for pretty much everyday? And I'm also completely baffled as to how they concluded that "men are useless if they don't have money" from that post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:59 PM
45

Ex RPW reader, yes most of the users are male, the female users have created their own subs. The RPW sub is disgusting, it's basically a bunch of men manipulating the newbie women, who have no idea what's going on yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:49 PM
4

Technically yes, but I guess once you put it in FDS context, it's not that much of a problem. Your time and attention is precious. From what you're saying you're genuinely busy, so it's not like you're playing games. But even if you were ignoring him on purpose - you are the prize, he should be willing to win your attention back. If he's not trying, next. If he's being whiny about it, next. If he's ignoring you back, NEXT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:37 PM
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