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TRIGGER WARNINGwitchingsauce/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:19 PM
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Story time ☕witchingsauce/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:37 PM
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FDS HUMORwitchingsauce/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:02 PM
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Who says we’re not asking to be taken out to a fancy gourmet restaurant? I mean I’m not asking (tehee) but I’m not going out otherwise. Why else go to a restaurant with a potentially disappointing scrote when I can cook a better meal at home or order my favorite takeout? I want an experience if I do go out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:01 PM
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Block at wyd ladies lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:31 PM
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The level of mass delusion. Howwww. Even homeless people can get free meals and not suffer from a stingy scrote’s company. Let alone women who earn their own money. They just want to believe that if they say free meal enough they magically stop being broke garbage not worthy of a date. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:28 PM
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Aside from rare flashbacks it gets sooo much better after 6 months (freedom). 3 months is also a big improvement imo. But everyone’s time is different. Hang in there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:08 PM
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Oh nonono! The vulnerability cluelessness play is just a hallmark of a covert narcissist (have you read up on that?). Don’t doubt yourself. Our bodies are perfectly tuned to protect ourselves and pick up on signals, especially after prior abuse. Hyper-vigilance can be stressful but because it’s fine-tuned it works even better. If it didn’t feel right it wasn’t’!!! Keep healing, treating yourself and you will forgive yourself fully in time as you heal. For now just know it’s not your fault, just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:04 PM
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Lol edit: didn’t get the /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:47 PM
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A must!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:32 PM
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🤣 Spot. On.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:37 PM
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If you have to say it… you ain’t it Strong enough to withstand constant abuse duh. Open-minded aka naive enough to let him pull it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:35 PM
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Burping or blowing their nose in front of me would earn an immediate block and delete. I stated my boundaries with the last one and he didn’t give a shit. Next time I won’t say anything. Just block. It shows the man doesn’t care at all what you think of him (because he doesn’t care about you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:30 PM
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Word salad alert 🚨🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:21 PM
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Bumble bff is as depressing as OLD 😒 We definitely need a fds app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:03 PM
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Inverted triangle 😍 but thick muscular booty and legs are also a must, good hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:43 PM
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The fish smell is typical male bullshit: Untrue and malicious. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:10 PM
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Communicating boundaries only works for things that are not obvious. Example: I’m allergic to your cologne. Please don’t wear it when around me. Not being a ghosting piece of shit is so obvious you don’t need to communicate anything. If someone ghosts you they don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:33 PM
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Men (who actually have power) will always empower (give power to do something) what suits them. Nuff said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:29 PM
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Always infuriated me, this one. Even if we consider orgasm a need (because of the health benefits) then masturbation is perfectly there to cover it. Those same men say having kids is a need not a want, I’ve noticed. They’re dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:09 PM
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I actually do like talking about sex compatibility but I’ve noticed a pattern with lvm. They can’t handle talking about sex without seeing it as an invitation to fuck. So emotional 🙄 Can’t have a rational discussion about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:56 PM
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Truth. Scrotes have reality so twisted thinking they’re the prize smh 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:02 PM
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More proof walk “dates” never lead to anything good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:06 PM
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Wholesome 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:55 AM
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She came for copium and she got it 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:07 PM
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How did he know he has it? I heard men don’t normally get tested for HPV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:44 PM
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The update confirms he wanted the bully. He’s probs really attractive with a career and she wanted his genes. I see no other explanation to think he’s the one for her and debase herself that way. I know some women who did the same. Just got soo tired of uglies and decided to settle for a nice-looking guy who treats them less than but at least he’s not repulsive and pays bills and doesn’t hit them. But they usually realize the guy settled for them too. In this case it’s hardly a surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:49 PM
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Surprised he has emotional intelligence enough to know something’s wrong. Note how he cares not to ask or comfort her. Worth the wait this one. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:03 PM
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Ask if he got tested? Nah, demand to see his test results just like with covid vaccination card! If he doesn’t get tested for you, boy bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:13 PM
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Current partner should always be put first but not being friendly with exes is a huge red flag for me. People usually cut ties with abusers so it’s not a good sign at all, especially if they’re in the same group. I’m not saying being besties ofc but friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:26 PM
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Came here to say this. It’s dangerous because they may chase hard to get access and then exact “revenge.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:00 PM
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The hatred comes from raging mommy issues, fear of losing control, delusions of grandeur propped up by patriarchal brainwashing. For babies and young children survival, proper development and well-being entirely depends on the mother. She holds all the power to give or reject. She’s a source of love and pleasure (and males internalize it sexually). Growing up detesting deep fears of rejection or being damaged by mothers in so many ways (codependent mothers creating enmeshment and entitlement iss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:23 PM
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They’re the same men 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:56 AM
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Sometimes they try to put their best foot forward, feel inspired to upgrade themselves. But LVM can never keep it up and once they slide back because it’s too hard they start hating you for your expectations. Source: lucky personal experience 🤪🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:29 PM
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they’re often meek and forgiving with men yet have no trouble picking on women whenever some minor transgression (in their eyes) occurs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:20 PM
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What an absolute trip to go through such dissonance. Been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:15 PM
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She needs that dildo. To see that scrote doesn’t compare and has no purpose in her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:30 AM
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This is the definition of empowerment. Completely disconnect the message from the messenger, cherry pick whatever good’s given for your own enjoyment and if this enjoyment involves free lap dances for scumbags then who cares
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:40 AM
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Tbf for the intellectual leftist it would just be 50/50 on all bills & regular sex fetish catering, which doesn’t change from gf responsibilities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:52 PM
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She’s so funny. Like. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:03 AM
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He sounds like the sociopathic type. You know the one who’s not really into women but simps for male approval 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:47 AM
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Lmao they love lying to themselves that if they just replied they could have all those women whereas in reality locking someone down is so far from just chatting online or getting a like. Probs collected those likes over the pathetic years on old 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:41 AM
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I disagree. Posts like this are needed because they expose scrote strategies. I believe it was posted to expose what men are capable of? And it turned out that it’s a common thing they do to young women with a possibility of bright future. Receipts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:13 PM
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Correction: they would probably rather settle for all that in the absence of a man that has both. Where’s the nuance, scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:01 PM
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Female socialization at its finest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:50 PM
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🏃‍♀️🚴‍♀️🚙✈️🚀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:01 AM
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Can confirm. I didn’t shave my legs to the pool and a nvm threateningly stared me down when noticed (sociopathic stare I remember to this day).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:42 AM
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Taking up space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:07 AM
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Please write the post still! I’d love to read and discuss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:00 AM
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Sir, I must reject your assisted masturbation offer 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:32 AM
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Precisely. I just read an article about cruelty. opressors/haters/abusers don’t dehumanize you in their mind. They hate and use people with full awareness it’s a fellow human. That’s why they’re so aware how to manipulate and use their humanity against the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:42 AM
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The term fuckzoned is out there. It’s been said on here before that compared to being sexually rejected being rejected as a friend is so much more painful and personal. Imagine someone rejects you not based on superficial attraction and sexual preference but as a person worthy of emotional investment, respect, and pretty much says you’re not enjoyable to be around in any other way than being used for sex. Men are so full of shit with their skewed priorities. Being friends is much more valuable t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:43 PM
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I’ll just listen. They’ll tell on themselves speaking about what’s important to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:29 PM
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At this point honest nudity showing imperfections would be much more empowering. Instead we get this heavily-photoshopped barely-recognizable image (I thought it was Scarlett Jo). Why doesn’t she feel empowered and great about herself without all the makeup and editing? When we reach that level of loving our bodies and skin (and especially knowing how many men are turned off by sagging, cellulite and pores) then we can argue baring it and being proud is empowerment and defiance. As it is, this i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:30 PM
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Men know exactly what they’re doing. They feign ignorance about porn, but with prostitution it’s all too clear they don’t care about trafficking and coercion even if it slapped them in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:27 PM
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Ughh, they feel absolutely entitled to ask for sex right off the bat (Dude, I don’t even know you) and noone slut shames them for that 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:08 AM
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It’s annoying to see gold digger shaming has gotten women desperate to prove themselves at the expense of any standards 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:06 AM
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They literally say crazy pussy is the best pussy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:41 PM
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Scrotes externalize everything! They throw at you responsibility for their emotions, choices, issues, improvement & failure. Women are conditioned to absorb and internalize everything. But no fucking more. 🙅‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:21 PM
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Schrödinger scrote’s logic 🤌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:43 PM
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The rational sex strikes again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:42 PM
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As that hindsight kicks in consider this training for any future shitchuations. Never pay or do anything you don’t like. Never tolerate something you absolutely don’t have to. Cause for what? I believe you won’t make the same mistake again. And it’s been normalized for men. They never lift a finger if it inconveniences them. Why should women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:54 AM
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I’m really glad someone said it. We don’t need to be asking men out but those who “lose” respect for women based on that never had respect for women to begin with. And the selfish gain + power dynamic description is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:05 PM
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I was also thinking: performance issues? plot twist he’s just porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:13 PM
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Gee, he just wants a free emotional nurse. She shouldn’t even be so invested after 2.5 months and nothing in return 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:22 PM
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Crack of Dawn (In da showrrr) Give em crumbs ft. LilNasty, MiA Wipes Chore murder ft. A$AP BlowMe, prod. by OG MommaMaid Fancy Fields by Knowledge ft. Kid Nappin’ Keep up w me (like there’s no oppression) by Transcendent T & Godz of Logick reworked by Pat Riarchy Love the way ya move, instrumental, ft. HawtSammich You’re the one by Expired Pete & The Dead Swimmers Orchestra Pick up by the truckload, Smooth Neggas edit I wanna cook for you (First Date mix) by NoGoodDoodeFood Fine Wine by Male Pat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:19 PM
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Oops! I hit the wall🥇😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:32 PM
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Funny thing is they can have their spy boners lurking on here but they always tell on themselves. If you’ve read enough fds you know how to listen 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:48 PM
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Maintain cool and logic long enough and watch them crack and throw a mantrum tho 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:48 PM
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Ew that scrote must be such garbage if he can’t even make his profile acceptable on his own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:36 PM
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Those are straight up dangerous (secretly believe women are inferior and deserve their abuse)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:28 AM
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🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:25 AM
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Ooft in general, goatee is an asshole’s speacialtee lmao NVMs just looove to have one 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:59 PM
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Empath is such a dirty word now cause of all the “sensitive” abusers. Scrotes are actually attracted to women who are easy to manipulate or children. Sapiosexuals think they’re special for not being like that. Good for you, Jonathan, you ain’t special tho lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:54 PM
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I absolutely think you should either a) ditch her b) don’t talk to her about dating/men. If she helps out in other areas just continue with that because finding a new one can be stressful and so many are not worth their salt anyway. Your position is absolutely valid. Don’t feel guilty about disagreeing with her pickme programming. You deserve a therapist who understands and has your back! Do ditch her if talking about dating/men/relationships is important to you cause she won’t be of much help a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:16 PM
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Tolstoi was a massive scrote btw. He was so terrible to his wife it’s heartbreaking. Nothing new or complex there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:09 AM
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“Complex ... multifaceted” Some potent substances that sir is on 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:06 AM
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That’s rape right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:06 PM
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Peens disrupt it too btw! Honestly is sex even worth it? Why is there danger to our health at every turn? 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:46 PM
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✨🥇✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:40 PM
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He the type of guy who washes dishes in the shower (real thing they do 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:40 PM
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Guess who he subconsciously devalued and used for sex as she “deserved” all those years ago. Now that he’s mad his above average looks alone don’t make him a suitable partner the romanticization kicked in. Classic scrote behavior. Let’s keep raising the bar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:17 PM
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World’s tiniest violin goes to... that scrote over there! 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:04 PM
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Local man can’t keep up with the effort going into tricking women to have sex and washes out of the gene dating pool, tragically missing the glimmer of self-awareness that the problem is not his sex but his own lack of fitness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:41 PM
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All.the.time. If someone wants that community dick they can have it. Not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:52 AM
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Why would they do the decent thing if it kills their predatory boners? With men, never attribute to stupidity what can be attributed to malice lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:22 AM
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Just curious, do they hold themselves to some male standards as well? What do they preach they should offer to the woman aside from a stick and a sack between their legs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:17 PM
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🧠💭🤸‍♀️🤸🏻‍♂️🤸‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:12 PM
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They get off on getting away with it. It’s limbo or limpbeau lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:06 PM
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They never miss you when life’s good, only when they’re suffering they need someone to suck energy off of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:39 AM
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Another Peter Pan wannabe. Also, doesn’t tinder exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:00 AM
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That 35year sperm expiration date is looming lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:58 AM
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My opinion is yeah it’s a bad sign. You said it yourself that you ask. When someone cares they do ask imo. Dealbreakers start small like little signs of indifference but then they just baloon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:33 PM
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💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:26 AM
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The mother-child relationship is the most significant relationship on which self-love, respect for boundaries, responsibility, and attachment style hinge. All scrotes have mommy issues. That’s the first thing that we should look out for while vetting indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:31 PM
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They do always tell on themselves. But it’s patriarchy babey! so they can get away with positioning themselves as the transcendent logical gender and dirty animals that don’t know better and have no self control simultaneously. Whichever benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:03 AM
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This is exactly why I think this term and mindset behind it are toxic. Women delude themselves into thinking that they’re special to him and even though the guy treated others less than (or even like garbage) he magically values them because they’re the dream girl (basically not like other girls). So men like you described love to keep using the term. A caring guy who likes you will always treat you and others he likes and cares about amazingly. There shouldn’t be really that much of a differenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:09 AM
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I think the answer to her question about why boys choose and there’s a demand for violent porn is predatory instincts. Why else choose to keep watching?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:34 AM
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Idk let’s see... what kinda person compares dating to hunting in the first place? Might it be... predators? Not seeing women as human? Any chance of that? No? Mkay 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:01 AM
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Yup. When they fetishize your looks and romanticize you as the dream girl they’re more likely to try to control you instead of breaking up, through violence as well. I’m sick of this toxic af term. It’s either a healthy, loving relationship or not. He either treats everyone he likes well or puts in a lot of effort because he wants to possess you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:19 PM
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The elusive dream girl is elusive because she doesn’t exist. He’s either fetishizing your looks and/or romanticizing you (narcs put you on a pedestal to then discard and devalue) or treats all women he chooses to be in a relationship with amazingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:50 PM
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This is why block and delete is a thing. Dump and ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:13 PM
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And when you CoMmUnicatE you most likely become a bitch, nag, prude, etc. Double bind as usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:32 PM
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What was the red flag? How did you deal with the date being awful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:41 PM
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Actually, there are many abusers who say that it’s the way to be a real woman, hence all the comments here. They try to make it widespread instead of recognizing it as a very specific kink of a limited number of people. Also I already explained why bdsm is not love so if you practice it with a romantic partner it’s kind of erasing love cause you form a completely different dynamic and just like with porn your neurons become rewired. Therefore it erases love by changing its meaning and significan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:15 PM
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I understand that you and bdsm ppl try to make a point that it’s consensual. But this goes deeper than that. Is it really loving to control and physically harm someone you love and is it really empowering? The answer will always be no. Whatever pleasure the participants get from it, whatever traumas it helps resolve, whatever bonding it helps experience is their business and theirs to consent to. What’s important is let’s not sell it as love. It’s an insult to the true, healthy meaning of love: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:51 PM
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Absolutely, devious and manipulative (typical narcs). You see it once you realize they’re all the same basic narcissistic scrote in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:26 PM
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After reading a lot of non-dating related posts on here (more regarding relationships and how men really think. not sure those insights are in the handbook tbh) plus my own experience, I’ve concluded that setting the bar is not effective (and quite frankly beneath us because they’re capable of figuring it out on their own). So for me the next stage is no benefit of the doubt. There’s really no excuse to not ask for a real date. If they’re afraid of catfishing they can video call and talk for a f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:02 PM
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This is so true. I met one of these “submissive” guys. At first I was excited that finally someone’s all about pleasuring the woman, but he turned out to be an entitled narcissist who only cared about his own fetish. He didn’t even see me as a person, as I’ve come to realize, though he was really good at mirroring and playing the caring, sweet part at first. They’re typical wolves in sheep’s clothing imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:35 PM
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Congrats! You took the first step standing your ground this time by stating you don’t deserve less. 👏 Next step though is realizing that we’re not supposed to negotiate. If someone asks you for just coffee not an actual date they know what they’re doing. You don’t need to say anything. Just block and delete because their mindset and lack of effort are already incompatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:49 AM
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Bingo! Cats require consent. Scrote can’t take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:48 PM
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Yes Queen! Also, nice enough, really? Nice enough for what? I’ll be nice enough if someone asks me out to dinner. Otherwise I’m indifferent. Sorry not sorry, scrotes! Also, video calls are imperative. We don’t wanna be catfished either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:18 PM
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Two rules of FDS: 1. if he wanted to he would, and 2. they know what they’re doing. I believe it should answer your questions. Men know what they’re doing cause it works for THEM and WE don’t ask for proper treatment. Do you want someone to treat you amazingly or do you want to keep asking them to? Sets the tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:01 PM
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Oof, his content is dangerously popular on youtube. I didn’t know he was so terrible. decided to check it out and he was actually giving some sound advice (like to let go of guys stringing you along and instead of thinking how to get them back or like you more focus on how you don’t want someone who doesn’t want you or is right for you instead). Probably stole it from FDS or something. Idk, nothing grinds my gears more than when men repeat the same thing women have been saying all along and get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:36 AM
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Btw sometimes they even dump you just to come back. That’s how they want to gain power over you (giving you time to miss them) then they resurface and hope you’ll adjust your behavior/standards. It’s a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:21 AM
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There’s that winner shrug emoji 😂 (Always know men with that shrug emoji attitude are no good.) He will soon be farting in your face cause it’s unhealthy to suppress farts when around a partner. You gotta always be comfortable around each other, never wanna walk on eggshells ™️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:12 PM
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Incoherent wordsalad is always a sign of an abusive scrote‼️ And here there’s so much of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:50 PM
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This!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:08 AM
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“are perfectly positioned in front of the treadmills...” as if a scrote designed it 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:51 PM
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My anger helps me stay vigilant and never trust a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:31 PM
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It’s sad but so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:29 PM
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What a mess tbh. Women don’t just passively get pursued. The woman “chooses” the man by indicating she’s open to being pursued. Like, in person women indicate to men they like that it’s ok to approach. Men don’t just choose and start pursuing. Those who do are idiots (or creeps) and end up whining about rejection. Now if the man likes the woman who showed interest he should start pursuing and working for it. The choosing is reciprocal but man does the work. The pickme paying for dinners played h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:22 PM
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Exactly, why even start if there’s no point keeping it up. I think it’s still playing their games, and I refuse to play. I prefer to be myself and show as much interest as I want instead. What’s more important is to bounce at the first signs of disrespect and disinterest, not entertaining stupid scrote games of cat and mouse and artificially inflating our value in their eyes by being disinterested. I want a partner not a manchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:05 PM
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First of all, not lol because he was scary. Second, he can’t; women’s bodily autonomy has always been a problem for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:42 AM
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Omg, spot on! I fell into that trap once before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:44 PM
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Covid 😱 So sorry this disgusting scrote happened. I usually take walks without a mask but when see someone approaching I put mine on (for everyone’s safety) and the other day a disgusting scrote got “triggered” by it (heaven forbid someone doesn’t have a death wish) and started fake coughing and screaming at me “yeah yeah we’re all gonna die. Fuck you!” He was aggressive af. They’re all better off dead imo.💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:10 PM
49

🏅 I had to keep reminding myself people who want to treat you like shit will. It’s not supposed to be a grappling match or constant exhausting vigilance to protect yourself. We’re supposed to have fun. But that’s not what dating these days is. Predators are simply out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:05 PM
5

But you must CoMmUnIcAtE, he’s not a MinDrEaDeR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:13 PM
20

I’ve never met a man who genuinely complied (unless temporarily while trying to get sex) with any of my small requests. I used to think it shows they don’t care about me but now I understand it speaks more about them as people. I still don’t get the mindset of making people uncomfortable when it takes so little to go out of your way. Why are men, amirite? It’s good when they reveal it early on, though. Me 🏃‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:22 PM
59

Honestly, none of it means anything anymore (even I love you can be manipulative love bombing). Only actions and behavior 2021!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:18 AM
125

The perpetually single bottom of the barrel dudes. I don’t trust a man in his 40s not having been able to find a woman to commit to. With so many amazing women out there, something is wrong with the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:52 PM
161

For real. Instead of appreciating women who give him attention he takes it and completely devalues it. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:03 AM
17

You have to be odd to be number 1 💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:59 AM
74

There’re men who really enjoy projecting a moral image. The image is very important to them, it’s all they have since they KNOW they’re empty inside. With people they hold at a distance they appear the virtuous type but a lot of this peels off when in a relationship. That’s where the depth of their emotions and core convictions are exposed. They get an ego boost from being kind to strangers (because those people don’t know them deep down yet still give them brownie points for good deeds).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:50 AM
9

My hand curled into a fist on its own lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:02 AM
23

Yep, it’s their inherent sexuality. As humans, we’re a more advanced, meaning-making species. Socialization should technically override male animal instincts, but it doesn’t mean they’re not inherently there and wouldn’t run unchecked if not for it. So all men. More psychologically advanced ones just conceptualize women better due to socialization (hence they’re rare cause patriarchy is disrespectful toward women). And have object constancy (realize she’s still the same human worthy of respect e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:38 PM
17

We don’t ask them to plan something... if he suggests a walk block and delete. He knows what he’s doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:37 PM
12

Too much word salad too little substance 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:18 AM
100

*Equity. We don’t want their crusty 50/50
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:44 PM
68

I wish. Had no luck on bumble bff. And at work women were all pickmes 😭 I really need fds-minded friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:33 AM
96

Post nut “clarity” actually isn’t real. They just manipulate/rape women out of lust and it’s a way to distance themselves from responsibility. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:59 PM
13

My one and only 99 percent match on there was a stingy lvmanlet with a baby fever. He was educated, high earning and sensitive™️ tho lol I don’t trust their algorithms too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:25 PM
28

That’s right. We need rape laws defining rape as lack of informed consent everywhere! You heard it here: scrotes will be less likely to engage with women. They should think twice before coercing and manipulating. Go Denmark!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:23 PM
13

I bet if men were at a higher risk of dying from hpv there would already be a way to test!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:11 AM
26

Just go home and warm up your fleshlight then, amirite? But no, they get off on coercion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:25 PM
34

Based take. The coercion and conquest is another way they’re in an interaction/relationship with themselves instead of another human being. Women are just warm hole props. Istg narcissistic spectrum. All of those scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:23 PM
44

Most importantly they try to normalize this. Saying you have no right to spend time with a man if you don’t respect his sex drive in one of these screens. W T F. They’re all rapists by nature then. Some are just socialized out of it and have a conscience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:09 PM
12

Of course. A woman who loves herself is a threat. Has to be knocked down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:03 PM
109

“Sleep with these guys and hope they’ll like you enough” this is a lie men came up with and keep spreading to confuse women into sleeping with them. This is so dumb Idek why some women believe that 🤦‍♀️ Also lies: if a man wants to sleep with you but not date you have no personality. If a man wants to pump and dump/situationship he will go for it. And he won’t care if you have a big personality or not. He won’t even bother to understand you or care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:40 PM
4

Obsessed with the anywhere Mediterranean idea! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:25 PM
81

Sure he has feelings. Lust is a feeling...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:38 AM
277

Where do I sign up? This is the dream! Edit: anyone who wants to rent or buy a house together and make this a reality can message me. Let’s chat! I’m thinking of moving so anyone from Cali or up for the move, get in touch! Let’s make it happen! Europe sounds good too! Not a retirement home but for right now. It would be amazing to have a community of supportive and creative women! I don’t wanna wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:01 AM
2

Perfect example of you can trust no man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:38 AM
20

You know, the fact he’s so out of touch with reality//understanding of women (most would be concerned about safety) shows he probably hasn’t been with a woman in a very long time lol You kinda have to be pretty toxic for that and what’s more proof than even attempting this tactic. All the more reason to block and delete. They’ve gotten pretty bold on old since the pandemic hit too. Coming over or taking a walk became the norm to propose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:08 AM
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Nope. It’s not about doing better than you. He just wants to test if your self-esteem is low enough and you allow this treatment. Then he can extract sex from you and emotional labor if he needs it. It’s a known tactic. Easy to take it personally but it’s not. He’s doing it to all women cause that’s how he operates. Checks who falls for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:09 AM
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No, I commented he’s negging you on purpose. This is not a reflection on you but on them and what they want and can give. They want attention and sex for minimum effort. They’ll shoot their shot with anyone and see who bites. Trust me! It’s not you. It’s the low quality of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:06 AM
33

Yes, he’s negging you on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:03 AM
194

The shrug emoji is always a red flag. Lol A man should want to try to impress you. Instead positioning himself as the prize joke is telling. Screams he doesn’t give a damn//not interested in you but he’ll take your attention and sex cause why not. What a slap in the face. Block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:01 AM
8

Him = 🤯 bet it hurt haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:34 PM
20

It was bad for my mental health istg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:16 PM
28

These damn pseudointellectuals. Once I was chatting with a guy and told him I read encyclopedia entries on philosophers. He said you have to read the original works to really understand them. I said, you can learn a lot, and even more from interpretations. He immediately said I have to go, my family member is at the ER and I need to get there. Lol that was such a lame move. I wouldn’t have been offended if he’d just left tbh. This intellectual purism is so silly. Same thing with never watching r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:10 PM
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👏This is what we should teach all women. Patriarchy is confusing because of the gaslighting and reversals. But it’s all out of fear and envy. Stop giving them access and stop reproducing with lvms and nvms. Spring clean has long been overdue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:57 PM
2

I just want women to collectively put them in their place. I can easily live without sex with men. Overall they’re less pretty compared to women, their skin is not as soft (even if moisturized). Just objectively having sex with them is not as pleasant for us as for them to have sex with us. They should work harder to get sex and to pleasure the woman during because of it. 50/50 is a lie. I wish more women valued themselves more even when it comes to casual sex. Like, most men are just ugly tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:32 PM
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So true. They’re so basic 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:37 AM
13

Omg manipulation and sugarcoated disrespect make me so angry. When a person is being a douche openly I never get mad but when this whole fake niceness happens I find it hard to not be mean. But reacting only makes them double down and make you out the crazy hateful one. Manipulation is the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:50 PM
19

And too anxious to pick gifts! Wherever the anxiety and shyness went
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:42 PM
23

All balanced, peaceful, nature-loving cultures that have respect for women got decimated. What a coincidence 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:34 PM
33

Picking up, unwanted touching, getting too close too soon is how they teach them to push our boundaries, see how much they can get away with (and they teach it’s charming and women are dropping panties cause he’s so masculine/assertive/dominant) 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:28 PM
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Here we go again... gaslighting 101. Also, I really hope to save you the heartache of repeating a mistake. ldr’s should not be taken seriously. People can hide so much more. It’s not real until you actually know them, their family and circle of friends in person for some time. Edit: Unless you knew each other irl for a while and then went ldr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:44 AM
8

Sperm is just like male attention. Worthless and plentiful lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:46 AM
49

They don’t discriminate lol But for real, patriarchy = gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:43 AM
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I’m tall and I walk at a normal pace but that wouldn’t stop NVMs from walking ahead and excuses lol 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:11 AM
18

“Quick, let’s create patriarchy before they figure out we’re disposable aside from egg fertilization purposes. Sincerely, men.” I’m craughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:58 PM
20

Just because he understands it doesn’t mean he can or will do anything about it. I’ve known many men like that. Who understood everything and still used women and acted with zero empathy. Women need to stop hoping they can grow out of lack of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:29 PM
32

Who’s gonna tell him he’s a sociopath?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:27 PM
56

It’s the y chromosome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:24 PM
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Two things we can do. First, stop procreating and stay celibate. Let NVM and LVM die out without access to our bodies and psyches. The second thing is support and educate ourselves and other women. Things won’t change in our lifetime enough but that way change is under way. This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:56 PM
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A healthy person should be able to care and see you for who you are and long-term bond, so unless the relationship falls apart because of mistreatment (which so rarely happens from women) or separate goals (like moving for work) the dream girl search is BS. Unless they search for a very specific look (EW) on top of interpersonal compatibility. They won’t shut up about it cause that’s their perpetual excuse for breakups and relationship hopping or a way to lovebomb. Let’s not fall for this dream …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:28 AM
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This is the experience. When I finally realized I felt like a host in Westworld finally awakening. It’s damn surreal. I trust none of them now. This post should be pinned imo. They have agency. And they’re choosing to either participate or close their eyes to degrading women. It is men. Always have been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:33 AM
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I think we need to stop perpetuating the dream girl trope. There’s a variety of compatible people we can bond with. If someone talks dream girls I say he’s either fetishizing the dream girl in terms of looks, wants her genes, or he’s incapable of commitment and long-term bonding nitpicking his relationships until hopping to the next one in search of his dream girl that doesn’t really exist. I’ve seen countless cases of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:18 AM
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Tfw you’re waking up 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:38 PM
12

It’s disgusting how she’s not even allowed to be angry lest labeled a bitch. She’s always been the manic pixie type for the men she’s dated. Wonder what went down with Pattinson too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:09 PM
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I support that too. I still don’t think it should be 50/50 though. I think they owe us for centuries of oppression. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:33 AM
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That doesn’t explain it to the scrotes who don’t want children, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:22 AM
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You’d think they’d use this logic to make the sexual “transaction” valuable and appealing to both parties by pleasuring the woman. Perilously close to being rational but no cigar lol I never see this logic applied to sex smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:49 PM
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Yep. The takeaway is they know they’re incapable of love and they enter relationships anyway. They know they only want sex and attention and they lie their asses off. It is fraud and rape like I was saying in my post. And this is proof they don’t just change their mind when they dump you the way they want you to believe. This is the proof!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:33 AM
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It’s always the women who’re obsessed with self-objectification who can’t conceive what could be possibly wrong with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:43 AM
2

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:40 PM
9

“So tell me about yourself” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:44 AM
18

Them mentioning psychology concepts and terms. Whenever a man tried to show off his knowledge like that and I thought omg he’s so committed to learning and self-improvement he ended up an abuser who learned the right words. Not knowing their own dealbreakers and non-negotiables right off the bat. Too wishy-washy or waiting for the right person excuse mean they’re sure to waste your time. They’re both red flags for me but they’re not immediately obvious. Also if someone speaks about benefit of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:50 AM
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Buh buh but she was given the gift of muh penis, I mean good sex. Why should she get anything extra? /s Scrote logic is whenever a woman consents to sex she only consents to the isolated encounter, removed from the context of expectations. I don’t know what impression he gave her during that day that she got upset he didn’t care about her uber. This is to be expected with scrotes. That’s why the rule is to vet for longer periods of time (before sex but vetting never stops).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:00 AM
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Oh yes. Keep women down, obscure our achievements but then scream where are all female geniuses? Never heard about women can’t love as deeply. 😂Whoever was stoned off his rocker to come up with that. Lol I know about friendships, though, cause ancient Greece was all about male homosocial privilege so this stereotype persisted. Men literally talk to hear themselves speak in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:06 AM
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Them being physically stronger and apes together strong is what they have on us at this point. Women need to also stick together and prioritize each other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:04 PM
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Everything patriarchy stands for is a reversal. Men are the ones who hit the wall. Playing cool means he’s desperate for your attention. Being overly affectionate and lovebombing means he doesn’t care and is trying to use and abuse you down the line. Putting the burden on women subjecting themselves to birth control with potentially harmful side-effects when it’s much easier for men. Even giving birth lying down assisted by men instead of being assisted by gravity. If a man says I’m a nice guy i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:56 PM
23

The cognitive load of constant decision making is real. This falls under tactical stupidity. They always bungle it until the wife takes over deciding lest everything goes to shits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:16 PM
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🎯! It’s all about performative values not internalized. Most of the time they have a healthy lifestyle just to keep their work performance high and attract women not because they believe their body is a temple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:12 PM
26

Sounds like he’s mad he didn’t get laid for doing the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:17 PM
36

So disturbing. Made me physically uncomfortable. Instant block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:00 AM
6

Go for a run instead. In the opposite direction 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:57 PM
19

Scrotespeak translation: “She doesn’t fight with him for no reason” for I despise women (think they’re irrational and fight for no reason). Also, she keeps her mouth shut while he does whatever self-serving stuff he wants. She doesn’t react to mistreatment and neglect. “She doesn’t test him or disrespect him” for She blindly trusts whatever he says to her own detriment sometimes. She naively gambles with her trust by allowing men access and accumulating damage by not vetting. “She doesn’t talk d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:01 PM
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Exactly. Wonder who breaks women in patriarchy 🤔 That’s why I said good for him he’s privileged. But it’s rare for women to not be at all damaged. And fuck this not so subtle blaming the victim vibe tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:41 PM
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I’ve learned that sentences like “Not broken” is scrotespeak for lack of compassion for women and less privileged ppl in general. He thinks he’s showing he has standards and is HV but it just shows his arrogance tbh. Good for you, dude, you’re a male in a patriarchy. We get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:01 PM
5

Need me more friends like that 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:05 AM
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It’s a neg. Textbook scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:58 AM
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“Anger is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its essence whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:21 AM
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I’ve never known anger until I started dating scrotes. I’d sometimes react by insulting or cursing when they’d upset or disappoint me. Took some time to learn to keep calm before walking away. But knowing how insidiously oppressed women are and how men hate us doesn’t exactly help my zen. I believe talking about it with other women is vital for processing. I also feel isolated from any meaningful feminism in my area. Wish I had more friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:11 AM
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I sincerely wanna thank this man for not wasting anyone’s time 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:53 AM
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Re edit: exactly! The logic doesn’t hold. We have degrees of assault, why not types of rape? I also hope nobody is kidding themselves. Words getting obscured and twisted is pushback. Why let the bully win by not speaking the truth? That’s what they’re counting on. Ugh I just wanna give you 🥇✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:09 AM
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I agree that feelings and their change make it murky in court. I commented about this in more detail above. We can know we were deceived (they can even admit it to us) but proving it is another story. Yet there are cases where it’s possible to get proof (like when they cheat since the beginning of what’s supposed to be an exclusive relationship). I agree that we should be careful about word definitions and usage. I believe rape is any sexual situation where consent is intentionally compromised b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:10 PM
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This and ...drumroll... He knows! They know they don’t wanna (even if it’s somewhere in the lizard brain being threatened by the truth) hence the mental gymnastics of blaming it all on impossible standards, women in general and so on. These should be pinned as 2 first rules of FDS. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:45 PM
42

“Every man can achieve this” Um... Have you met men? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:47 PM
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No, they know the standard is too high: being a good man who RESPECTS their partner. They just deflect by fabricating lies about the 6ft tall money standards. It’s called ego protection through strawman creation and attack plus self-validation through echo chambers. Respecting women is an impossible standard in patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:46 PM
11

Yes, feeling violated is what rape feels like. Cause it is. The fact that it’s also repeated and with someone you trusted is even more terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:50 AM
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This is absolutely RAPE. https://www.scottishlegal.com/article/a-sleeping-person-is-not-capable-of-consenting-to-sex-appeal-court-rules-in-rape-case One judge got it right. Even in a relationship. Even with consent given sometime before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:31 AM
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You said it perfectly. It needs to be recognized as criminal en masse and women can push for recognition. The trauma is real, the mind is guilty, and there’s plenty of motive. But I’ll be happier if at least on relationship advice posts we speak the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:24 AM
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If someone is not sure about wanting to be in a relationship with a person who’s sure they only want to have sex when mutual feelings are involved and within the context of a relationship (and many women set those boundaries), just don’t get into it. It’s like with sex. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no. Yet those men use the maybe to get away with it while telling lies. What infuriates me is that when they finally “change their mind” they’re gonna think of themselves as a hero doing th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:07 AM
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This is what I desribe in the first paragraph! It can be one last time or much longer. They know and they vile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:37 PM
5

They always know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:27 PM
21

Absolutely. I’m with you. This post is a forever reminder: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ldm098/what_are_some_of_the_most_difficult_realizations/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf When you learn all that and that it applies to all, trust evaporates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:52 PM
7

I’m so excited for you! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:15 AM
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Maybe he wasn’t specifically testing you but this lazy ass approach is deliberate. Any actively dating adult knows how to do a proper date and what signals to send to show a woman he’s interested. All LV guys I went out with would take women on nice dates they paid for cause they understood women would not bother otherwise. This dude is just a NVM fishing for someone silly enough to put up with his low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:32 PM
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Wow the whole story reads like he was just building up to the final piece. Nonchalantly testing you if you put up with splitting the bill (and how much you’d put up with). Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:05 PM
5

Blocking him is a power move. You’re choosing yourself. You choose that you don’t need his apology or excuse. You simply won’t tolerate such treatment anymore. I feel like this is the ultimate closure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:33 PM
11

Surprise! They can fake that stuff! It’s not about not vetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:21 AM
8

Of course, they do this after they lock you in. In the beginning they lovebomb and be on their best behavior. Also I was sarcastic about them saying they have love for you. It’s always a lie. They have love for what they can get out of being with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:15 AM
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“Have feelings and have love for me” Gee I wonder if it is at all possible they could’ve been lying? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:09 AM
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Yep, it’s a piece of fiction written by a woman. Why do people write fiction? Because real world is not enough. For once I will agree with incels: Romance fiction does give women unrealistic expectations. Not about men’s inability to put in effort and romantic gestures, though, but about their incapability of selfless love and devotion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:28 AM
5

I can see you’re struggling with feeling guilt about your reactive anger. Read about reactive abuse and forgive yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:16 AM
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We’re supposed to love them for who they’re but they love us for what we can give them. And it’s actually coded in those movies. All the women bring to the table gorgeous looks, personality, kindness and sacrifice. In a way those movies are actually instructive about what they love us for. Like you said Channing Tatum won’t fall in love with an Ursula but Beauty with a Beast smh. Case closed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:52 AM
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More on how to spot a narc at 11...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:40 AM
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I don’t understand why they always insist sex is a need. Sex with a partner is a want, a desire to please the partner because it’s an interaction. Each party should make it worthwhile for the other in an interaction, therefore it hinges on pleasing the partner. Instead they redefined sex as desire to pleasure themselves and push it as a need. If it’s not about the partner, then pleasure yourself with the hand, and if it’s not enough there’re sex toys. Even if we assume genital stimulation is a n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:06 PM
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Yes, sis! “The finest souls are those who gulped pain and avoided making others taste it.” And sadly I was the same way, naive. We often project our best on them. And they always project their worst on us. But we learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:47 AM
26

Yes, I couldn’t stress enough that for many nothing is sacred but the pursuit of selfish gain. For all, their benefits are always prioritized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:28 AM
83

I believe most are narcissists. Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:25 AM
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What they call RaTioNaLity is just a user mentality. They approach relationships from it. They don’t love the person, they love the value the person brings. And they will always prioritize the overall best or more desirable, accessible deal they can get. You can give him your everything but if he wants something else he will pursue it no matter how amazing you are or your value. Shallower men can chase attraction or money, deeper ones will chase relationship benefits and the right kind of person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:07 AM
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This needs gold! 🥇 Hanlon’s razor is bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:08 AM
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You nailed it about sincere and loving. Best guys (and it’s sad) I’ve met were generous and would be considered better than LVMs on the surface. But then I would find out they cared to treat me well while dating because they were courting me to be the mother of THEIR children and to have a functional family. Very calculated about their goals, never just about prioritizing feelings (if they even have any?!). That’s why the dream girl narrative is the biggest bs. They will always prioritize whoeve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:49 AM
6

Truthest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:03 PM
20

I used to not be able to conceive of the miserable level of existence of these ego boosters. Now I’m wide awake to it. Barf. And good post, sis 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:35 AM
5

Same sich. After FDS I’m sure there’s no such thing as FWB. It’s just a series of hookups with zero emotional investment from them. Friendship is most likely bs too. They wait for years to make a move pretending to just be friends then drop you ice cold if you decline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:08 AM
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They’re for sure miserable on the inside, but make no mistake they do target women. Many narcissistic men I met treated other men with utmost respect whereas it didn’t apply to women. So yeah, their misery is irrelevant. Choices. It’s nothing to do with the victim but everything to do with abusers choices. If they can control their rage outbreaks to get what they want they sure as hell can control their other actions and who they target.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:51 AM
9

He also hinted that non-monogamy would work cause he doesn’t have much time to spend with SO. He’s working on PrOjEctS. That way she can get the intimacy from others when he’s not available. But it’s not ideal. My addition: and you just reap the sex without much investment. Perfectly RaTionAl lad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:22 AM
10

One scrote explained to me this one: for the right girl™️ he’ll be either mono or poly depending on her preference. True love is being poly FOR HER, see. Totally not to reap the dickwetting benefits. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:12 AM
32

Love is a lie. They only toil to procreate 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:50 AM
107

I have yet to meet that mythical HVM type. The only ones I’ve met are fake wholesome guys aka I don’t really respect women but I try to not treat them poorly cause that’d cut me off the benefit supply. Or some who want to think of themselves as moral so they themselves don’t treat women poorly in order to be able to pat themselves on the back. Both these varieties of nice guys are always aware they benefit from the contrast with complete dbags. Both eventually reveal their true colors. In order …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:45 AM
17

After I ghosted a scrote on OLD who had both open to monogamy and non-monogamy on his profile (He said he was open to non-monogamy cause it’s more important to find the right person than the lifestyle. Right, it’s always about the right person and seeing how it goes, isn’t it? 🙄) he changed to only open to monogamy. I feel bad for other women he’s gonna attempt to trick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:35 PM
23

I view this kind of CoMmUniCaTion as downright narcissistic abuse. The only thing ever comes out of it is being gaslighted, dismissed, or the “bitch” aka disagreeable, difficult label. Always one-sided. It feels more and more like a personality disorder than a cultural misogyny stance in those men’s cases. Heck, I’m sure it’s both. They’re just seeking out views they naturally gravitate towards because they already are narcissistic scum. Also doesn’t help that women are socialized into submissio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:53 PM
3

Correct. Let’s not confuse sex with being fucked. “Attention to the meaning of the central male slang term for sexual intercourse—"fuck"— is instructive. To fuck a woman is to have sex with her. To fuck someone in another context… means to hurt or cheat a person. And when hurled as a simple insult (“fuck you”) the intent is denigration and the remark is often a prelude to violence or the threat of violence. Sex in patriarchy is fucking. That we live in a world in which people continue to use the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:36 AM
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The first one is triggering. He said he likes her and probably told her that as well. They always twist I like you so that we think they’re into us but meanwhile it really doesn’t mean anything to them. Been there :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:22 AM
14

I AM legitimately terrified! Human decency? Doesn’t apply to demon spawn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:49 PM
41

He looks like a demon when he looks back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:26 PM
5

In computer security honeypot is a trap! Yet again bumble tells on itself 🍯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:12 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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