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Well, I'm not, so, not all men are
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:54 PM
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It's often assumed "if he's hard, he wants it". Which is stupid. Just because your dick wants it doesn't mean you actually want to go through with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 03:50 PM
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Lol if you think buying twitter on a whim will make you happier, think again
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:19 PM
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there is still stuff you can't do stuff you can't do, like buying 21 iphones instead of 20? When you reach upper-middle class, more money won't make you happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:18 PM
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Im not a man. no bro, she a ho
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 01:10 PM
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People idealize teen love, but for most people it's just fumbling through trying to figure out relationships. "Fumbling through" might be a necessary step though. In the same way that rough-and-tumble play is necessary in terms of developing a sense of ethics and social cues. If a kid doesn't get a sense of that by age 3 or 4, he's lost
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 01:07 PM
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Millionaires can get practically everything that billionaires can in terms of what grants you life satisfaction, except that being a billionaire comes with more responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:04 AM
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> And she obeys that happily She's not a dog bro
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:57 PM
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> And she obeys that happily She's not a dog bro
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:57 PM
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:O are you shitting me?!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 03:10 PM
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Shining woman... more like shitting woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:27 PM
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Infidelity is quite even across genders, so, no, thats not it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 08:49 AM
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By writing dumbass shit on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 05:27 PM
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I think you're only calling him a saint in an attempt to rid yourself of the guilt you feel when he does all those things for you, things that chumps tend to do
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:40 PM
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I am enjoying a very comfortable alpha fuxx situation that i will ride a couple of years more. How big is he? Congrats, btw
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:35 PM
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You just can't end a sentence without an insult. Check yourself and good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:19 PM
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Not if you're willing to sacrifice today's humanity and kids for the hypothetical future of "the environment"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:38 AM
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Societies with less religion like? Soviet Union in the past? Atheism/secularism is just belief in the non-existence of god
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:37 AM
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at last you've resorted to sarcasm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:35 AM
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I would like to think there's a middle ground
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:33 AM
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I bet you're the kind of person who, when given a space on a lifeboat filled with 95% of women and children, would complain about the fact that a man is steering it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:53 PM
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Women had no agency until recently NOBODY HAD ANY AGENCY UNTIL RECENTLY SMH FOR CHRIST SAKE
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:34 PM
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relationships should be a compliment to your life, not the main course. youre asking people to put the relationship over their own self and for what? Wow, I hadn't ever heard this before, so original, so enlightening! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:33 PM
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it's happening because religion is dying the belief in that we are rational creatures that have transcended "superstitious fairies" such as religion is the most dangerous religion there is. And it's alive as never before
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:31 PM
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If I’m working harder in an industry that wreaks environmental destruction, is that a good outcome of me having kids? This is the most shitty, twisted sentence I had come across in... quite a while. Just say it, you fucking hate kids and humanity as a whole and the only thing that keeps you hanging onto this shitty life you've been dealt is putting on a mask of faux compassion for "the environment" in order to feel like it's somehow justified
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:22 PM
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Yeah, case in point "you should be happy by yourself before you get into a relationship". While there's truth to this, it's just as stupid and one-sided as "being in a relationship will make you happy". They're just two sides of the same coin except that one (the former) is a really popular platitude these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:56 PM
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Taller women, fair enough. Some men are "bothered" (or simply not into) that for various reasons that don't necessarily have anything to do with feeling like less of a man... is my point
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 03:46 PM
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No...? you said low status men basically "take themselves out of the game" due to being intimidated and jealous of women's success, sometimes to the point of lashing out I'm saying not wanting to date a lawyer who earns more and works more is a valid preference that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with status or lack thereof
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 03:40 PM
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So is not being into women who work in a male dominated, competitive field and think somehow thriving there indicates "female" accomplishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:59 PM
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Here's my story: I used to have a lot of insecurities about the shape of my dick, I used to think I would never be able to have sex. Once I had sex (having overcame my insecurity by some miracle of humility), I knew it was possible. But since it was shitty sex, it wasn't enough. So next time, I had shitty sex with a girl who I liked more than the previous one. It was a little better. The third time, I had very good sex with a girl who I didn't like at all. And that was that. The conclusion I cam…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:48 PM
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I feel like this post is just one step away from "the reason you don't like fat women is because they're bigger than you and it makes you feel intimidated"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:23 PM
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of course it is a women's problem, women are people and men constitute half of people. I didn't read your post though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:49 AM
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What would happen then if there were another woman who had the same exact personality as your wife, but more pretty? The prettier one would probably be more high-maintenance and the sex would be just as good with the not-so-pretty one, at least with lights off. If you accuse me of being cynical, buddy, it was you who framed your question in such terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:07 AM
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Ya, maybe there needs to be a push for men valuing themselves like there’s been a push for women to do so Na, "self esteem movement" is a sham, especially for guys. Men need to get shit done. Being useful and thus integrated in the social fabric is what makes his life valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:02 AM
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Good men are powerful, competent and resourceful men, not harmless men. Unfortunately for harmless men (and women who want a good man), while harmless men may be better than bad men, they constitute a large portion of society, they are seen as neutral and thus pretty worthless
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 02:01 PM
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It's both. But you're replying to a literal hooker, so there's that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:43 PM
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I've had women wanting to get engaged, marry me, have kids with me. There was a period in my life I couldn't keep them off of me. You're an exception. Like an old timer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:41 PM
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*slays
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:13 PM
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When I see the couples that are married, they spent a long time dating, living together yeah, funny thing is people who cohabit before marriage are substantially more likely to divorce. I assume the reason being you don't get to try out a person like you would a pair of boots
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 05:03 PM
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trust me No thanks, LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:21 PM
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I haven't tried lying in order to get laid, so I wouldn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 03:29 PM
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The first time I got laid it was because I told the truth (about not having gotten laid yet). If I had decided to just keep that to myself, the girl wouldn't feel comfortable enough with me to move forward, but because I chose to be vulnerable with her, I got some poosay. Mind you, it was a specific situation and the girl had issues, as it turned out. But I also told "the truth" to the 2nd and the 3rd girl I slept with, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:18 PM
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There also aren't any benefits to being alive, little girl, and yet here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:37 AM
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The reason I swipe left on like 90% of women on Tinder is not because I don't find them attractive (I do - if I went off looks alone I'd literally swipe right 95% of the time) but because they all give the same vibe that does not suit my outlook I'm glad I'm from Europe (central) because there's tons of hella good looking women around. Despite the fact that all I can do with that is look, it's still better that what I'm looking at actually looks... well, good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:12 PM
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As a 28m, if I don't find a partner or at least form some sort of a meaningful social network, I think the rest of my life won't last very long anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:57 PM
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a graceful exit whats that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:24 PM
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Well one thing we CAN say about future is, if there's no babies now, there won't be a future. The future being uncertain has never prevented us from making babies. What prevents us from having babies is having (relative) control over our reproduction and choosing to, well, not reproduce. But the reasons for not reproducing can't solely be blamed on "future being uncertain". Future has always been uncertain and while the threats that potentially face us in the future NOW might be different than e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:43 AM
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200 years ago an average person lived on less than a dollar a day by today's standards and the population was booming. We live in the most prosperous of times. Subsaharan africa has a birthrate of like 5.0. So whatever the declining birth rate is about, it's not about the lack of economic security, at least not primarily
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:26 AM
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You know evolution is not necessarily a linear progress, right? And that there are maladaptive strategies? You know there's a species of deer (or used to be) that, because of female natural selection, grew antlers so large that it couldn't walk anymore and died out? What makes you think humans are any better at deciphering and going with what's best for our species over the long haul? How can you be so confident in that men who find it harder to reproduce in this particular climate are just doom…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:11 AM
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I thought green pill meant pretending to care for "the environment" in order to get some liberal p*ssy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:57 AM
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they were living as single people in their own homes doing their own thing and that's a thing of beauty. That's not a thing of beauty, that's just a thing of convenience. It takes courage to shackle yourself to somebody. But it's understandable not everybody has that courage
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:13 PM
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> once we hook a woman Aye, you sure 'bout that, captain?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:08 AM
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I'm not sure but then again I'm also not sure how any of this is related to the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:25 PM
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You're just leading your argument to a point where the distinction between "valuing humans for the sake of it" and "valuing humans because of their utility" is practically irrelevant unless you're arguing semantics, which is what I also pointed out to original commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:51 AM
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And your point is? It sounds like you just want to win the debate by resorting to semantics
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:44 AM
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No, that's not the point. The point is whether there's any condition in which I would value a human being in and of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:34 AM
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rather they said that it never happens as an end in itself I'm not sure about that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:45 AM
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I don't need to let someone into my personal life to value them. I value certain random individuals more than others for reasons unknown to me. They aren't giving me anything other than being themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:44 AM
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Right but there's a high probability you might devalue a woman when she "does" something that you do really not like. You do not value her unconditionally
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:34 AM
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"letting someone into your life" and "valuing them" are two different things. We may not be on a desert island but many people lead isolated lives and it applies. I get your point but you're being dense. But maybe I am too so whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:32 AM
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I’ve never cared about how much money my man has made Most women do though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:01 AM
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Until she deadbedrooms you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:58 AM
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​ Every single relationship you are in you are in because you enjoy something that the other person is giving Ever heard of "a baby"? Those things are useless as fuck and yet are loved like nothing else Also if you were alone on a stranded island, you would appreciate human contact just for the sake of it. You could say "in that case, they were GIVING you their physical contact" or "they are providing you with the release of chemicals that comes with physical contact", which would be a weird fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:55 AM
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I think women only value loyalty in a man when he has options and chooses not to excercise them, in a sense that the value of loyalty is proportionate to the willingness/ability to resist temptations that threaten it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 12:32 PM
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According to Census Bureau, around 11% of people between ages 18-24 in America lived together (not married) last year
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:53 PM
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ChadGPT write me a cheating/infidelity story of an average r/relationship_advice user
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:28 PM
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Well, sex is about procreation. Otherwise whatever us humans have made it into - a sheer pleasurable/bonding activity - does resemble mutual masturbation. Whether a man sees you as an angel or just good enough; whether you prefer one or the other; if that makes him jizz inside you, it gets the job done
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:30 PM
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Yeah thanks for clearing that up. Wouldn't it be more correct to say masturbate "into" though? English isn't my first language
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:48 AM
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I mean, considering the fact that a man who masturbates could literally pick any woman (or entity for that matter) to masturbate to in his imagination, you'd have to be pretty fucking attractive to him in order for him to choose you as his "jackoff material". So while "attractive enough to masturbate to" might sound like a bottom barrel standard, that might not be the case. But to your point, there probably aren't that many men who masturbate to an image of their wife in mind. One of the reasons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:34 AM
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You too!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:33 PM
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Jesus you're dense and twisted
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:57 PM
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"focusing on meeting those beauty standards Focusing on meeting those beauty standards would help if that meant losing weight. Yes, beauty and health are correlated; whether you strive for health or beauty, if the end result is you having lost weight, that's beneficial. Why are you trying to complicate this uneccessarily?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:01 PM
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No, I meant that a person who's fat, who's trying to meet beauty standards by losing weight would actually benefit from "focusing on meeting those beauty standards"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:15 PM
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Did you downvote me because you're fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 01:24 PM
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women who have anxiety and depression about beauty standards would benefit from not focusing so much on trying to meet those beauty standards. Except if they're fat? And you could say "they should want to improve because of health" but health is very much correlated with beauty
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 01:16 PM
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To me a difference between a 7/10 girl and a 10/10 girl in terms of physical attractiveness is sort of like a difference between a great chocolate cake and a great chocolate cake with a cherry on top The cherry does not add to my life in any way, in fact it might just remind me that there's probably some douche who's going to try to steal it because it's all red and shiny
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:32 AM
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Jordan Peterson Also, OP, you're a pathetic weasel
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 08:01 AM
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Fucking "stoics" and "rational men" gtfo
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:46 AM
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I just listened to Chris Williamson podcast with Sarah Hill on the birth control pill and I think it's very interesting and related to this
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:03 AM
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Oh please. When I said "she's gone" everyone here took it as she lost attraction and ran away. It was me who broke it off. She wanted to fuck me still, I didn't Please stop quoting pick up artist and red pill platitudes. Even if it has some truth to it, it's cringy bro
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:31 AM
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I agree a lot of women are like that but I don't think that was the case in my scenario. And I sure as hell didn't come to a conclusion that I should never commit to a woman again like you did. I think me asking for commitment indicated to her that I actually do have standards and goals, and for some reason that made her defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:27 AM
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I think she had borderline traits. Someone who wants to cuddle and do all the relationship stuff except, you know, actually have a relationship... that someone's got some problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:16 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:00 AM
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Ah, young padawan... You've got an answer to everything. If only it applied
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:01 PM
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What about a woman that fucks you on the first date, and the second, and she texts you non stop in between, and then when you say you're looking for something serious, she's gone? How is that for ambiguous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 06:29 PM
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That would make sense except that it's not true
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 07:14 AM
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Yes? That's what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 07:07 AM
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Yeh, it sucks for everyone, especially in the long run
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 06:50 PM
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I've heard "dad bods" are a result of a lowered testosterone; When men have to take care of a baby, they sleep less, they "bond" in a loving way and have to storage fat so that they can be there for the baby "when the cold comes"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 06:48 PM
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I do find interesting how women who have children in their 20s are more likely to have another. I mean, if it is so bad to have children, why do people keep having children after the first? Because after you've had one child, it could be said "what harm would it be to have another. we are already screwed". Also, kids start taking care of each other as they grow Birthrate plummeted drastically in 1973 for the first time, in countries such as Japan, Italy, France... not for any clear reasons. Inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 06:39 PM
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I mean, I wouldn't want to eat a rotten hot dog and that's because I don't want to die. And I also wouldn't enjoy it that much, probably Whether that's hedonistic or whether I might also be contributing something beneficial (and therefore morally good) to society by, well, not dying right now; I don't know. What was your point again?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:03 PM
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That's not most. Half is not most. It's a lot but not most. Be precise with words and math And there's a difference between illegitimate kids kind of divorce and a common type of divorce, which is probably not amicable but still nowhere near the extreme presented in the comment you quoted
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:23 PM
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That's not most. Half is not most. It's a lot but not most. Be precise with words and math And there's a difference between illegitimate kids kind of divorce and a common type of divorce, which is probably not amicable but still nowhere near the extreme presented in the comment you quoted
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:22 PM
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That's why I said "or neutral". Divorces happen for all sorts of reasons and illegitemate kids are quite an (negative) extreme The problem with comments such as that is that BECAUSE they're out of the ordinary and outrageous they attract attention
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 06:37 AM
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"most" is a bit of a stretch and the rest of your comment is also stupid and evil
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 06:31 AM
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Well, coverages about lonely men draw the attention of lonely men. So, it's no wonder you'd find a comment like that there The problem with these comments are, for every negative marriage story like that, there are probably 10 positive stories (or at least neutral). So you've got a bunch of young dudes reading these bitter comments and giving up before they've even dipped their toes into the dating game
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:19 PM
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What a pointless remark
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:20 AM
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because they genuinely don't want to or because they think it is wrong in some undefined way (societal programming) I disagree that it's societal programming. There's something about FWB arrangements and such that just irks me the wrong way personally, not necessarily in terms of morality even, just... aesthetically
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 06:23 PM
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except for lgbt, they have their own MONTH. why not make it a fucking year while we're at it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:37 PM
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A lot of people who realise they're running out of time aren't even in a couple yet And you can't just say "fertility, hold on a minute, please, while I finish my masters so we'll all be more comfortable" Someone wise once said "children are supposed to be an accident (that hopefully you will be glad to have)" or something
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 12:39 PM
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"Waiting until 30" seems to be getting less common nowadays too. What does seem common is people hitting 30, suddenly figuring out "wait, I am a little bit late to the show, aren't I?"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:24 AM
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This is the most average post I've ever seen
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:03 AM
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What's that got to do with my comment? The fact that most women giving birth are in their 30s doesn't dispute the fact that there might only be 50% of women giving birth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:02 AM
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I assume you were born in the 80s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:51 AM
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Many men and women are waiting until they’re in their 30s to start a family and that seems to work out just fine for most If a woman hasn't had a child at 30, there's only a 50% chance (a little less than 50% actually) that she will ever have a child
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:36 AM
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Thing about strategy we have to keep in mind, especially as far as relationships are concerned; sometimes the best strategy might be to let strategies aside and let things revolve as they may. It's about balance
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 12:17 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of it is about compromise. Will you go for a woman you find absolutely gorgeous knowing that you will always have to hold yourself back from letting her know how wonderful you find her at every moment? Or will you go for someone not so attractive and even though you might compliment her regularly and honestly, you will never be able to tell her "I just love the whole of you" sincerely? In the former case, you are feeling your emotions on full blast with a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 12:08 PM
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I honestly believe every man who receives sex is an asshole in some way Original sin
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 11:39 AM
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As someone I find to be very wise once said, always hate her… just a little bit To push this to the next level, I would replace the word hate with disgust. If you hate her you might already be putting in too much. Hating someone is tiresome. Whereas if you feel a bit of disgust towards her (not to the point that you are literally repulsed by her and don't want to have sex with her; but just a little bit of disgust); when you see her as the silly creature she is, the distance that's supposedly re…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 11:18 AM
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Man this does not encourage me to get into a relationship in the least
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 10:58 AM
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What are you helping men with in regards to this, what is your advice in situations such as this? Because if you want a commited relationship with someone and do not state it upfront out of fear of pusihng them away, that might work out fine in the short term but ultimately I don't see how that could work long term. Because you would always have to keep some things that are , in your view, fundamental to the given relationship (or the lack thereof) to yourself and not let them be known; and you …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 10:56 AM
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It is what it is, life lesson What did you learn? Not to tell a girl you like her ever again or not to date girls like her ever again? Btw was your remark "I like you" a roundabout way of asking her to agree to make things "official" with you, or was it more like a spontaneous remark shared in the heat of the moment? Not that it matters really, because if she felt the same way and wanted the same thing as you, that remark coming from you would've obviously been a positive. I'm just sharing my pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 10:44 AM
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I think most people have sorted it out, best to their ability, and then half of them still get divorced
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:05 PM
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I don't think so. If it takes the heartache and paperwork of a divorce to find out, then so be it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:55 PM
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Right? It's like people who say "sex is just for validation" or "why don't you just jerk off"... they don't realise that sex is only really as valuable as it is because of all the things that come along with it. Otherwise I could just hire a hooker or hug a buddy and that would be that; but some things are only really worthwile in tandem - I can't fuck my buddy even though I love him and I can't love a hooker even though I can fuck her - and to say that this desire, to have both in one, is just …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:32 AM
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Ideally you can find all of that out in a marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:15 AM
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That sounds snarky and sarcastic - I assume something I've said triggered something in you that in turn compelled you to use language in that manner reactively. Curious, do you know what that something might be, if you don't mind sharing?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 07:21 PM
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My point was moreso the fact that if you don't have a masterplan, you have a macro plan (at least); whether you want/know it or not Or on another note, if you don't have a plan, a plan has you; just not the one you might want probably
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 07:00 PM
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The meaning is in the very structure of language itself. For instance, you say "I am still glad I ate that steak" which could mean, literally, that you still get enjoyment from that steak TODAY. But since I know what you "mean" - because I'm aware that your limited perception causes you to see the word "meaning" exclusively in terms of "value" rather than sheer "reference" in this context - I know what you mean and am able to converse with you in a relatively meaningful way. People aren't wired …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:53 PM
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Title aside, if you don't think you are dating (or doing anything for that matter) with a certain future-outlook in mind; I wouldn't say that implies meaninglessness (since what do I know about "meaning" and all) but what I would say is to think that way in the first place is delusional. Unlike animals, humans have evolved to attempt to control our impulses based on the percieved outcome of the future. That's a blessing as much as it can be a curse. But the fact is, we are always choosing our ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:26 PM
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The "meaning" can just be sex If someone told you you can never have another orgasm or if you watched yourself having sex while having it, it would all seem ridiculous all of a sudden, wouldn't it? Not so meaningful any more, is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:55 PM
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Why would "finding out what you want in a mate" be of any value at all if all you do is fumble around casually without an end goal in sight? PRESSURE of marriage, what a grim way of looking at it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:03 PM
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I just gagged reading your comment, and even my gag has had more meaning than whatever you are making of your life, judging by your petty thought process. And I didn't even decide for that to be the case, it just happens to be so. So, no
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:56 PM
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That's not very deep. Once you consider the likelyhood that enjoyment might be in direct proportion to the percieved meaning in your life, you can't play the "ignorance is bliss" game anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:50 PM
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Sounds like strawman. And I thought you were the sane one on this sub, oh well It's not about a master plan and as we all know, plans often go to hell. But sharing a vision is key and you can't take future out of that equation
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:40 PM
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Being in love doesn’t always have to end successfully for it to have meaning. That's irrelevant. Obviously some love stories don't turn out as planned. OP is questioning whether a love story can be successful with no plans at all
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:35 PM
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What qualities do you need to have? You need to be fucking pathetic, not overly autistic probably and have a functioning dick. That's pretty much it. FWB is basically masturbating in someone else's company in an attempt not to feel so alone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 10:12 AM
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what's a scooter?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:03 AM
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That's odd, since I just "broke up" with a girl who I had sex with on the first date, who I wanted a committed relationship with but who only wanted FWB type situation with me I know it might be an exception and exceptions don't prove the rule, but it can be confusing when you're that exception, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:00 AM
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People don't choose what they're attracted to, maybe, but what we are attracted to changes and with the choice of (aiming towards) changing ourselves we may change what we are attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:26 PM
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As a person (28m) who has gotten laid a week ago (and will get laid tomorrow again, yay) and the last time before that was like 5 years ago... I've been feeling a lot better and healthier this past week - and while maybe it's not solely the fact that I have gotten laid, but rather the fact that I have gotten laid with a person whom I also seem to be getting along with - it feels like I've been missing a big chunk of my life and that shows in my overall well being, physically as much as mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:09 PM
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I would most definitely pick hoping for the best as a way of coping over hoping for the worst
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:01 PM
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I meant that babies can be annoying as fuck and the fact that we have "biological urges" - to avoid things that annoy us, for instance - is a very poor explanation or justification. We could explain away any behaviour with "biological urges", it means very little and does not tell us anything about the underlying mechanisms at play The fact that men have a strong biological urge to spread their seed (have sex) does not correlate with men being more "baby crazy" than women. A baby is an "after ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:33 AM
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hoping for the worse is a valid way of coping? what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:02 AM
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Actually, I take back what I said. I don't necessarily think that viewpoints such as "the buyer sets the price (men being the buyer, women being the seller)" or "men are desperate enough so that if one doesn't pay, someone else will" or "men are paying me for being their company" implies entitlement. I would say expecting a healthy, long term romantic relationship to come from that point of view is delusional though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:49 AM
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I'm not sure whether you're trolling here but to give devil its due, I don't think being entitled is necessarily wrong even, heck I'd probably do it myself if I was in that position
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:14 AM
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It's not contradictory, just entitled
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:11 AM
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Bonobos might be more closely related than chimps. Haven't looked at any study myself but I've heard Jordan Peterson talk about it a lot and also this short video seems quite legit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXxKBiidbeo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:00 AM
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LOL philosophers wearing sandals made of goat skin, speaking Latin, spreading "propaganda". Or some Siberian guy offing himself in the middle of eternal winter and a bunch of dudes talking about it for a month after - "propaganda". You're silly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:54 AM
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You've succeeded at being snarky, bravo, but that's not a very smart comeback
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:45 AM
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Being on reddit is probably not a very well adjusted thing to be doing. I'm allright mate how bout you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:40 AM
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The fact that you can't afford or take care of the child doesn't mean the world is to blame. For fuck sake, do you ever think anything through or do you just say whatever happens to come to your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:39 AM
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you feel you should be the arbiter of what people do with their own lives? Huh, I don't think of myself this way
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:37 AM
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Well I know that they're blaming "the world", so yes I'm gonna talk shit about them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:40 PM
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You can always go live off grid if you want it enough. And, you know, stop blaming "the world"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:37 PM
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I don't think of prayer nor suicide from the lens of "making sense"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:35 PM
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Well "the world" certainly didn't, at least I'm not gonna whine about it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:34 PM
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there's also a form of propaganda probably never seen before: "human race is a cancer on the planet" But again, I don't think you're capable of distinguishing between viewpoints "human race is a cancer on the planet - abstaining is good" and "sometimes abstaining isn't necessarily a bad thing"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:33 PM
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because you know you would do wrong by them you don't know shit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:19 PM
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Abstaining is never "doing the right thing", at best it's not doing the wrong thing. But I don't think you are capable of distinguishing between those two viewpoints
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:11 PM
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Yep, dominant men (high in social-dominance hierarchy and serotonin levels) are actually less likely to (have the means to) be aggressive, which is evident in monkeys even It's strange, even monkeys have been figuring out that beating ones chest isn't going to get a man laid, but women... they find a way to prove them monkeys wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:30 PM
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Wow you really thought it through didn't you. Again, praying for your children. And I'm not even religious, it's just all I've got, you know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:02 PM
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And those who choose to abstain are doing the right thing What a shitty, effortless, baseless and worthless generalisation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:52 PM
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No they're the prick for blaming "the world". Grow the fuck up, you're the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:43 PM
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no longer nearly as inclined to cave to familial pressure to hit certain milestones like getting married by 25 or babies by 28 The reason people have kids at 40 these days is not a lack of "familial pressure" but medical advancement and other privileges of prosperity that enable us to screw around and pretend we're adolescent until late adulthood. You people have some seriously twisted view of history
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:39 PM
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If people think the world isn't good for a child (unless they're in Yemen or some shithole) they are sick people. If you can't provide a healthy environment for a child just say so. Don't blame the fucking "world". Gloomy pricks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:33 PM
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Take a walk in the forest sometime it can be quite quiet there, maybe your genocidal instincts will chill down a bit then Or, you know, you could just take one for the team and go ahead yourself? Or maybe your children? You have children, right? God, I pray for your fucking children, I really do
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:29 PM
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popping kids out This phrase makes me want to murder people who state it. I don't know why but there's something extremely derogatory about it and it sounds especially hypocritical and backwards when followed by stating your "concern" and "empathy" for those popped-out things in the next words
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:22 PM
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streamlined What's a streamlined dick like?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:55 PM
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greek life lol, chill down Dionysus
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:36 PM
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Yeah, good luck with that evil mirror thing though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:44 PM
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Not only am I very young, I remind you of your autistic husband, as you've once stated. So how could I have the answers, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:13 PM
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But abusive people are very insecure That doesn't make sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:19 PM
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Wow big man words
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:10 PM
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all abusive people are insecure. That doesn't make sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:03 PM
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Don't ever live together What a fucking loser, you're going to rent with some other dudes and share a bathroom, bedroom and kitchen just so that some chick can tolerate you enough to suck your dick once in a while?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:00 PM
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When a man beats his wife to death because she cheated, it's not the fact that he's insecure that causes her to be dead so much as the fact that he's a SHITTY human being. He could have been insecure and just killed himself instead, which is probably a more likely scenario. Why are you trying to make a correlation between a man's insecurities and his likelihood of murdering.... when men are generally more likely to murder?? Where the hell does "insecurity" come to play here? I think you don't ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 11:24 AM
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Men are more physically violent in general, to others and themselves; that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with "insecurities" or lack thereof. For fuck sake, please don't turn this into women are wonderful debate. "WoMEn ArEn'T PuRrFecT But iF ThEy AcT bAd It'S bEcAUsE SomE GuY in THe PaST TreaTEd tHeM BaD"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:46 AM
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Insecure women just need their partners more and need reassurance Often by fucking random dudes which doesn't really help and hurts some men in the process too. Don't fucking pretend "insecure women" are some sort of a different breed and angelic compared to "insecure men"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:57 AM
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I just read the other day, women with anxious attachment style are likely to have had above-average N count (because they are willing to let their boundaries be crossed in order not to be abandoned) while for men it's the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:47 AM
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If you think you can casually boil down certain reprehensible actions of malevolent individuals to "insecurity"... You are just naive and haven't encountered evil. And it will shatter you once you see its face, perhaps in the mirror too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:44 AM
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​ the one that cannot is the power to leave and be yourself separate from the union. Then it wasn't really a union, just an arrangement
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:19 PM
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Even though you say you don't want to depend on a partner for anything, you are depending on your ability to flee anytime the relationship doesn't go as expected. All this talk about laughter, pleasure, sweetness; you are forgetting another key aspect of a relationship, which is building a foundation that gets you through tough times together. The way you describe your "relationships" - although to me it sounds like it's only you and yourself in those relationships - the power dynamic is inevita…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:57 PM
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thus why I said some or many I didn't notice that. I saw you said "PPD Men" in your title and then went on to talk about "men" in general What do you think they would reflect about me? Maybe your own desire for control and power. Which really stem from a lack of percieved control and power (insecurity). Maybe, I'm not claiming that's the case. I think a lot of women say things like "men are intimidated by women who earn more" because they don't want to think of themselves as shallow for preferin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:11 PM
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You don’t want a gf who has had guys treat her the way guys treat women? depends on how many guys and how she let them treat her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:46 PM
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If a woman gives a date a hand job she’s not a virgin? she's a slutty virgin. Goes by the name "Handy"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:45 PM
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No sane man wants somebody who bends to their will. It would be like having a plastic, robot doll; what's the fun in that? You'd get bored sooner than later and wish you were dead Everyone does want someone predictable enough so as to not feel insecure though. A balance between adventure/play and stability I think these beliefs about power, domination, control and MeN are moreso a reflection of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:31 PM
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Right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:26 PM
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Because it's a shitty response. Are you going to ask "why" again?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:55 AM
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Any validity you might've otherwise had in your first comment just went poof
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:31 AM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:24 PM
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as well as being mature for his age Mature in terms of?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:51 PM
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Like not even 5 feet tall. So if he's not my height or taller, he almost literally has to have some sort of major medical condition Lol fair enough! Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:41 PM
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There are objective markers in terms of conventional beauty. Are you being deliberately dense?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:36 PM
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Oh lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:35 PM
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"Objective beauty" doesn't really exist Of course it fucking does, people literally make "objective wealth" because of it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:31 PM
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Just because you are young does not mean you are beautiful. And while age is a liability, just because you are older does not mean you are not beautiful. Generally men are attracted to women with neotenous features though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:29 PM
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Same!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:11 PM
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If I may ask personally, does a guy have to be bigger or at least the same size as you (mass, height) for you to not find him unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:11 PM
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how old are you, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:03 PM
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No actually more women need to raise their standards and realise that they don’t need to accept men as they are Human evolution in a sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 06:41 PM
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Appreciate you sharing your experience
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:43 PM
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jordan peterson is bluepilled asf. anyone who claims that it's up to men to "work on themselves" is bluepilled. He also said something like "when a woman rejects you, it means you might be okay as a friend, but your genes shouldn't be propagating into the next generation" I know it's easy to put someone or something in a conceptual-box conveniently for the sake of oversimplification, but it makes you look stupid or intellectualy lazy, probably more stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:04 AM
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You sound like the female version of a guy who goes on a first date, doesn't get laid and then curses all women. "I iNveSTeD a whole car ride, an expensive dinner and 3 goddamn hours for that bitch not even to be able to give me the only thing she's worth for... Don't do it men, it's not worth it!" Maybe, just maybe, contemplate on your priorities in life a bit, will you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:54 AM
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unfortunately, Lilith is a Hydra with 1000 heads
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:48 AM
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Cheers!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:38 AM
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I was being ironic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:16 AM
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getting a tall daughter who hates herself never seems to come in to play Damn I never thought of it this way But it does make sense tall women still want tall guys... Even tall girls want to feel... girly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:02 AM
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But it sounds so enlightened, doesn't it? "that lump of cancer that happens to be inside you, causing you agony at this moment including every other part of your body shall turn into a blob of lifeless matter through decay in no time flat, just as the stones in the river will turn to dust and the desert shall be blown away by the wind... Just go with the flow, man!"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:58 AM
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​ I have indifference to the town bicycle as a human being I don't think you do. Town bicycle is quite a derogatory term
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:20 AM
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I have eyelids Lol, but you also have visual memory. I couldn't "overlook" a beast by closing my eyes and pretending it isn't there personally, I don't think so
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:07 AM
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Fair enough. Thinking back, I wouldn't count masturbation as having or wanting to have sex with oneself though, sex requires two
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:00 AM
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Why is "I felt apathy" not an answer you were expecting? It's not about me expecting or not expecting it. It's about the fact that you typing down words to describe your indifference does not imply your indifference
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:24 AM
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Huh, then that's your presumption I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:21 AM
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I don't think you can be a proud sinner for long, but you do you bro
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:20 AM
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Well, I masturbate on a semi-regular basis; I'm not sure if that counts as "wanting to have sex with myself" though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:18 AM
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You gave me an answer but I'm wondering what's behind it. If you didn't feel shit you obviously also wouldn't have felt the need to state your indifference about it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:14 AM
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What's the big deal being in public with an obese girl? So what? People will judge me? People judging you is not really an issue. God knows when you're fucking an ugly girl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:12 AM
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The only thing that would slow me down from a gf that wanted to be kissed would be halitosis. What about an ugly face, or rather a face that you don't find attractive personally? (I assume in that case she wouldn't be your gf, but you can also kiss people who aren't your gf)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:05 AM
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I'm kind of a late bloomer. When I was about to get it on with my first one... I was feeling kind of icky about the whole "exchanging saliva" thing with her, and also I deemed her a bit cringey to be seen out in public with... but I went along with it anyway and, well, got laid. I'm not exactly proud of it but it was quite an essential experience for me. The second one was much better. That's all I can say though. I have gotten laid twice in my 28 years of living on this planet and the only thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:57 PM
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I DIDN'T FEEL SHIT Well you felt the need to write this comment
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:41 PM
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I took too much mushrooms once and got 10,000 hours worth of therapy in three hours
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:37 PM
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We also have a strong biological urge to flee the fucking baby
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:53 PM
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Have you been collecting these for the past half year, for the purge?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:07 PM
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And citing the psychology today "study" is illustrating what point exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 07:46 PM
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"for all that study knows" so why not go with the WORST, most cynical case scenario possible, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:27 PM
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However humorous your reply might be, it's quite terrifying how many people actually seem to think and live that way. "Enjoy the decline" is literally a catchphrase. Whatever the future holds, that outlook doesn't make it better, that's for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:57 PM
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Well aren't you just a source of explanation for absolutely everything that fits your sad agenda
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:42 PM
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Well I can't speak for older women, but most guys who aren't having sex and are single usually aren't so by choice, I'd say. I have no idea what will happen on a societal level. But whatever it is, it is probably going to be very gradual (and insignificant to those who are awaiting some sort of a "boom" to happen in their lifetime)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:37 PM
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> Will they keep enjoying their sexual lives with no commitment up to their 60s and 70s? Who are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 05:14 PM
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This post: Man: "you're about to hit the wall, woman" Woman: "no, you" The end
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:10 PM
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IME as a guy, if I make it clear that I COULD make a move; if I'm not afraid of showing or communicating sexual interest; if I can keep eye contact while thinking "I would so kiss you right now"; if there's no insecurity holding me back; it might be even hotter if I don't make a move immediately, for me as much as her (I'm assuming). I believe building anticipation is a real thing and delaying pleasure makes it potentially all the more enjoyable when it does happen. Although in the bounds of nor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:49 AM
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okay
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:19 PM
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If that's a fairytale, I don't think it's that nice even
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:10 AM
0

Yah, keep chasing that boy!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:04 AM
2

And your kids, already grown up or nowhere in sight?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:55 AM
2

Or she just likes some validation from afar while she goes about her day. Every man passing her on the street wanting to fuck her immediately, but she knows that "someone out there is truly there for her and makes her feel loved... someone at a safe distance"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:53 AM
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It sounds like even if you marry in your 30s you'll probably do this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:50 AM
2

Ok, so what are we discussing here exactly? Just another brand of a relationship between people who don't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:47 AM
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This would explain why a lot of men get "emotionally distant"... Bitch you told me to get close to you but now I need water cuz you're dried than Sahara Also maybe one solution would be... pull out more than you push in? You know, if that were possible, somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:42 AM
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"I love him soo much now... when we are apart and as distant as can be. I can feel his love shining on me... from the other side of the planet, as I go about my day without him happily"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:29 AM
0

*crickets*
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:25 AM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:40 AM
3

Just go live in a prison, mate
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:36 AM
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Having safe, consensual sex for physical pleasure won't cause any damage Your soul has left the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:28 AM
1

For a woman to date you out of pity, I imagine your personality has to be pretty impeccable. If you pity yourself, she won't pity you. She might date you and pity herself then
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:40 PM
1

How long did it take you to settle for him? Thanks for sharing anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:00 PM
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28m here. The problem I see with dating a 30 year old woman who wants a family is that it probably takes AT LEAST a year or two to see whether the relationship has a potential to work long term... So, she has maybe 2-3 more "attempts" at forming a relationship that has a potential to lead to a family. And I don't want to be one of those "attempts" and end up wasting her time, and I also don't want to feel pressured to form something that I need TIME to be sure of.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:50 PM
3

Makes sense. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:21 AM
1

My (disclaimer: completely unscientific and biased) opinion is that it’s harder for a woman to maintain a relationship with limited free time than it is for men due to what each party is likely to tolerate from the other You mean because guys want physical intimacy more and are less likely to tolerate her being absent?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:56 AM
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try to understand where they’re coming from first. You don’t know what someone could be going through It's not your job to understand what someone else might be going through. Your job is to find out whether both of yours' priorities are compatible, as soon as possible, and whether they're being/likely to be true to their word.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:50 AM
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I think being too busy for a relationship is totally realistic and doesn't necessarily have to do with someones' interest in a particular person. It's about priorities. Fir instance you might want financial security over the kind of security that a relationship could provide. I think there are a lot of people who are "too busy for relationships" all throughout their 20s and even into their 30s though, who haven't got their priorities figured out yet, so one day they think to themselves "wait, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:43 AM
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Do you want children some day if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:33 AM
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> A lot of people take it personally, meaning that the person they want is too busy to be with them I agree, you shouldn't take it too personally when someone you like doesn't want what you are looking for. That's why you should probably move on from such an relationship (or lack thereof) as soon as possible, in the most impersonal way possible and look for someone who does want the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:29 AM
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If I had grown old together with her, I imagine my love for her wouldn't have declined That's why if I'm not in a relationship by 40 or something, I will probably quit that hope all together
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:24 AM
1

You sound like someone who would even call the blooming of a flower as a manifestation of the will to power
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:01 AM
1

Why don't you just name a bunch of chemicals to make your point more succint? "I'll give you a rush of oxytocin but only if you flood me with some dopamine and serotonin. Here, connect your bodily-wires to my flesh-screen and we'll make a trade" What a sad, cold, mechanical fucking world you must live in
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:35 PM
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Here's your present: you're not even fucking average and don't deserve shit to be wrapped inside of. Ho ho ho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:17 PM
1

I didn't read the post. The title sounds like an insult (and not very subtle one) and not something that someone who is open to having their minds changed would say
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:15 PM
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the lack of vagina walls on their penises determines that is a lie The structure of this sentence... It's really... It doesn't sound like something a real person would say, to put it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:08 PM
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Astounding
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 09:30 AM
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how the hell are you going to make a woman happy? I don't think you can make a woman happy, not for long anyway. Or anyone for that matter. And I don't necessarily think you should. I think happiness is cheap and shallow and while it has its place, there's more to life than happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 12:14 AM
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I appreciate your thorough response. I don't resonate with it at all though, at least not to the degree that replying to it all would make me feel as if I've contributed something valuable, as I would have to dissect and interpret every part of it to come to at least some semblance of a concensus
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 12:08 AM
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I was moreso focusing on the "you should be happy" part of that god awful phrase even though we're talking about it specifically in a romantic-relationship context
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:28 PM
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"Biologically incompatible"... big words. Some people are clearly fulfilled in their lifelong marriages. Do they need to make compromises and negotiations for that? Of course, that doesn't make it biologically incompatible. It just seems better than the alternative. That said, Aldous Huxleys' Brave New World dystopia is quite a terrifying prophecy, in a sense of how realistic it might be; "Everyone belongs to everyone else", children are produced in glass jars,... The only thing Aldous might hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:24 PM
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You should be happy with your life all alone Bull fucking shit. You know what kind of a pressure that assertion puts on a man? "you should be happy"? That's the surest way to make anyone miserable under any circumstance, especially if the whole goddamn culture is yelling that and shoving it down your throat. People getting married thinking "I should be happy", people staying single thinking "I should be happy"... what about when you're not happy, which you're doomed to (not) be at some point? Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:54 PM
1

Your comment is about as useful as me sneezing through the screen right now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:19 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 08:51 PM
1

I'm the same way and it hasn't worked for me yet. Honestly I would like the idea of two people like me and yourself getting together, since we want the same thing at least theoretically. but maybe that would be to good to be true, like the universe saying "nah, that's too easy, doesn't work that way" lol. It would be refreshing for me to go on a date and be absolutely sure that she wants to take things further as much as I do, as fast as I do. But instead I have to wait and guess and shit, and u…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:38 PM
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I think you might be projecting. I am for marriage actually, would love to get married myself one day if i wasnt such a loser and actually had options. It would be quite arrogant of me though, to assume that if i had the options, i would have choosen the noble path and had the same opinions and values. If anyhing has been preventing me from excercising my options so far it was probably fear
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:34 PM
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> So in terms of getting someone to get laid with you, I really don’t think it makes a difference. In terms of getting someone to consistently get laid with you, it definitely makes a huge difference. But this doesn't exactly indicate that men are 10x more obsessed with penis size than women, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 08:26 AM
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It's about relationships. Whether they start casually or not is besides the point. How old are you if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:12 AM
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I totally disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:08 AM
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No you're right. I guess when you say "a man comitting to her" it implies "both of them comitting to each other" which I wouldn't think of as self evident. English not being my first language might have something to do with it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:16 PM
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Re: all the silly "privilege talk" y'all really need to realize "I'm a mostly dateless loser, therefore you need to give me special treatment if you're one of the people willing to date me" is an amazing argument for only bothering with Chads. What do you mean? I don't get this lingo sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:04 PM
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There has never ever been a time where a woman was expected to cut off potential suitors before a man had committed to her Right, but now she might not cut off potential suitors even after a man had committed to her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:47 PM
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when the seriousness ramps up such a weird way to put it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:41 PM
2

What if you met someone who you liked as much or more, has that ever happened to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:33 PM
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The goal was to find my ideal compatible partner—and it worked. One I found him when you found him, was there anything that crossed your mind as "could compromise" or was it all hard yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:12 PM
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Never really needed a conversation. We had like 3 dates before we had the is this exclusive now discussion. Yeah that doesn't make much sense. "we didn't need the discussion... until we had it anyways"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:07 PM
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when I like someone, other options are the furthest thing from my mind. so you always see it as "the one that stands out from the others"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:05 PM
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I'm from Central Europe. And as I've said, I'm talking moreso about online dating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:24 PM
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you're not giving your heart to every stranger you pass in the street I wouldn't go on a date with every stranger I pass on the street, so being romantic with them wouldn't feel natural. I give strangers common courtesy though and I like to give them more than that, if the situation allows. I also wouldn't equate that with "giving away" something since the interaction is enjoyable for me and I'm spending my time in a way that I want to
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:30 PM
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I don't think with that mindset you're ever going to find a woman "worthy" of your romance, because if you view it as something to be "given" - as if you lose a part of yourself by sharing that with someone - you're always going to sabotage in order to prove to yourself that no woman is in fact worthy of that I think being romantic is more like an optimistic mindset in that if you put your best foot forward, which sometimes requires being honest about your vulnerabilities; despite your weird per…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:57 AM
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Because I'm romantic af
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 07:31 AM
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OP it sounds like you need a break A break from what? Not fucking dating? If you decide you feel happier being single he has no point of reference to be able to compare
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:46 PM
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No, there isn't, but your comment gave me an impression of someone that I wouldn't take any serious advice from, because it's like one sad cliche after another and I've heard it all before, from others whom I also wouldn't take any serious advice from I'm glad you have what you want though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 10:50 AM
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Even if moral character doesn't matter in terms of attracting a partner (I believe it does, it's just that a lot of people view morality as something completely arbitrary, artificial) as a guy, what else can I really do but strive to be as good of a person as possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 10:42 AM
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​ Life and evolution isn't fair, never has been, never will be Your resting bitch face on your profile pic tells me that's a projection. in order to tackle this reality Your polished up resting bitch face tells me that you are indeed tackling this reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:36 PM
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Your thought process sounds like that of a 16 year old. And yet I read on your profile that you have a son. I don't know what to make of that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:21 AM
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Hope yours turn out allright, despite the odds
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:26 AM
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Hopefully mine will be ok then, there’s not very many good men in the world I hope he has a close relationship with his father, or a father figure, who is an encouragement to him. Because you sound like you might not be doing the best job at that, no offence
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:19 PM
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I don't know which one is better, but it still makes me sad, a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:58 PM
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I think you are the only one stereotyping here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:57 PM
1

I won't do either of those things
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:55 PM
1

I wouldn't call my world an overly romantic one, just romantic. And I think it's sad that while these ideals are being transformed, some people view devolving into some form of debauchery as inevitable. Ideals will always exist and as long as they're somewhat grounded in what is real and healthy, I don't think it's realistic nor healthy trying to get rid of them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:42 PM
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Weak
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:01 AM
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As a guy, I want both with one person Having only an emotional vulnerable connection with a woman is okay, but not that interesting. Having only sex with a woman is interesting, but not that okay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:55 AM
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You just described me, minus the status and sex-having part. And I also smell like an animal sometimes rather than heaven on earth... But that's me, for sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:49 AM
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This is pure insanity. Imagine someone going down an alley they know to be dangerous and getting robbed. You think anyone in their right mind would go search for the robbers and preach "you know guys, what you did to that person was really a bad thing"? No, they would tell the person who got robbed "you are fucking stupid for walking down that alley"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:42 AM
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So why don't y'all grow a backbone and tell other men to stop teaching the women in their lives that that's what men want? "Men, please, stop wanting just sex because the women who let themselves get jaded by some of you might get to think badly of ME then and I might not be able to get those women myself" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:31 AM
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I don't think it's possible to be 100% transparent, not even to ourselves, and that's probably a good thing. But yeah, personally, on Tinder when describing myself in conversation, I always start with what I would consider my red flags (living in my parents house at 28, "officially" unemployed,..) and women seem quite welcoming and forgiving of this, oddly enough. And I'm quite average looking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:35 PM
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OP I think you might be projecting, thinking "everyone is in relationship because of fear" in the same way a crow thinks everyone is a thief. Our Western culture promotes individualistic values and while that is good in a lot of ways, it also makes us forget or dismiss the fact that there is such a thing as healthy interdependence, and that it's preferrable to radical individualism. Maybe humans aren't meant to be happy or content, neither alone nor in a relationship - not for long anyway. Maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:08 PM
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Men and women would just fuck all day long and get their bellies full and be happy That sounds like a naive view of happiness. I imagine lots of genital pain and fat people sweating Haven't you heard that Stones' song "I can't get no satisfaction, and I try, and I try,..." - coming from a guy who basically had it all? And Dionysus, the Greek god of overindulgence, wasn't in an orgiastic state of intoxication for all eternity; he died too young in a ditch somewhere, probably And Huxley's Brave Ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:30 AM
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he is not trying to have sex with his looksmatch What are you talking about? Who are you talking about when you say "he"? Guys are shooting down radically, especially in regards to "just sex"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:38 AM
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I find it sad to view relationships instrumentally and people opportunistically in that the first thing that comes to your mind is the utility of someone else according to your current needs and wants. "Me, me, me" I want to fulfill someone and hope, and have faith in that through succeeding at that, they would also want to fulfill me I do not claim to be a sant or any less selfish, ultimately, but I guess my approach is the opposite of yours
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:20 AM
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It has to do with your post in that I don't take anything you say about relationships to heart, pardon my prejudices
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:12 PM
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Okay, ascribing value to people like dolls on a shelf store aside, you seemed to have glossed over the second point completely, which, again, I find sad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:59 PM
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I'm not socially anxious. And I wasn't really agreeing with the title so much as disagreeing with some points in your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:21 PM
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the more comfy you get with being around people the better dating becomes. the more you think the world is a bad and horrible place the less comfy you are around people. Sure, but it's really a chicken or an egg thing. It's obviously not easy for some people
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:05 PM
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For women you're not being sold off as property Why be sold off as property when you can be sold a fantasy instead, am I right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:43 PM
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best point in time to find our special fitting partner in the gigantic pool of possible partners But in a gigantic pool of possible partners there's always someone who could fit us - and whom we could fit - more; at least in our imagination, which is not always rooted in reality. best point in time to just have any kind of relationship that suits our needs or circumstances I find it sad to view relationships this way
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:37 PM
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I tend not to blame others for my percieved failures and still haven't been particularly successful in dating. You do have a point but it's more complex than that The only thing that keeps me going is the hope that it only really has to click once
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:20 PM
2

fair enough, rattle on brother
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:58 PM
1

When you're a loser, acknowledging/accepting the fact that you're a loser might be a prerequisite for moving forward and improving, but in and of itself, acceptance only goes so far Now, you might say a loser is only an arbitrary label put on you by a judgemental society. I wouldn't though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:53 PM
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It's part of it. But come on dude, this is the second comment of yours that makes me think that I know exactly what type of a loser you are. I hope I don't see the third one scrolling down. Don't put yourself in the loser box so easily
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:29 AM
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Well the first guy who she wanted to fck instantly didn't seem to be
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:26 AM
1

I think the dude is quite disagreeable, possibly a bit on the sociopathic side. But other than that, what's wrong with planning strategically in that way? I don't see it as some form of maleficent manipulation or conforming to some sick, shameful notions. The reason I dress up, for instance, is, yes, partially indeed "just for myself" but partially it's to make a certain impression on others (based on my expectation of how my dressing up will impress them) or rather, it's not "partially", but mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 08:43 PM
1

You think people individually create their own values out of nothing. So naive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:51 PM
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Who's idea is that? sounds like a silly idea
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:43 PM
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If we didn’t force marriage and kids so much on people Nobody pushes kids on people, people push kids out of themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:23 PM
5

Family is a micro tribe
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:22 PM
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They weren’t friends in the first place if you can lose them because they got a partner They were, it's just that their priorities shifted. That doesn't make them non-friendly, it just makes them human
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:14 PM
1

I mean, yes, that was my point? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:14 PM
1

Umm, so we agree, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:13 PM
1

Because the topic is about being left for another option?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:11 AM
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you don't think companionship in a context of a romantic relationship has any value for a guy? That's really sad, whether you're a guy or not
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:09 AM
1

Happier single than in an abusive relationship, but happier single than in a relationship? we can't really claim so
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:04 AM
1

Right so why base any other conclusions on a stupid study?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:01 AM
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It's not like you have a toggle button when it comes to dating and you can just turn off the abusive mode Right but with experience, hopefully one can learn to recognise those signs earlier. Abusive people don't become abusive out of thin air
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:58 AM
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You have to put up with various abusive behaviour - That just the reality of dating men of life among people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:59 PM
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It's the reality of many people. Women as a whole are just as abusive, just in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:56 PM
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My point was, to come from a statistic that says more men die after breakup than women do, to a conclusion about how women are somehow worse at relationships, is just odd to me. and funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:55 PM
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For example they've been in an abusiv relationship, or were handling all the weight of the marriage anyway. So being single seems like less work. Why "done with relationships" as opposed to "done with abusive relationships"? Thats just living on survival mode, kind of sad really
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:32 PM
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LOL to come to this conclusion... No shade, just find it funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:29 PM
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I find myself way more in touch with a broader social circle than when I was in a relationship That sounds like a complacency problem rather than a relationship problem
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:27 PM
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Well, yes, some people abuse their power and some people who are equally as shitty look up to them. It usually doesn't last very long though. And it doesn't have much to do with gender, I'd say
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:24 PM
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He got the pussy he wanted. He is ecstatic For reminiscing about something so good that he once had but doesn't have anymore? You must have some weird definition of ecstatic
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:14 PM
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most men are desperate for relationships They are because for most men, relationship is the only way to the sex land (or so they'd believe) and romantic intimacy Men who don’t want relationships WITHOUT LEARNING IT FROM REDPILL are the guys I want But you do know that even the most virile, attractive guys, so called naturals get saggy and old (and know it) and want to settle eventually, and most of them "wise up" before actually getting saggy and old?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:05 PM
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everyone I know Everyone that every woman on PPD knows always gets laid and dates, therefore everyone gets laid or dates
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:15 AM
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Don't listen to that guy. The point of going to work and making friends is... going to work and making friends. That's it. It just sucks that a lot of people don't seem to have the type of work and friends that makes them fulfilled in a way that would make questions such as "what's the point of life" seem irrelevant. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for those things because, really, what else have we got. And at the end of the day it is striving itself that gives you purpose, not the at…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:55 AM
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I like people who specifically like me Well, when a guy goes on a date with you (say you met on a dating app), he's going on the (off) chance that he might specifically like you, but he doesn't really know you all that well yet and the reason he's going is because you happened to be one of those people with vagina who responded to him. Do you see my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:47 AM
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goes straight to making babies. It’s very unlikely that she’ll develop her own personality. So strange to me, to think that having had many bypassers enter and exit your vagina and your heart makes you develop some sort of a "character" that creating and raising children doesn't
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:12 AM
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how much sex would you want to have with someone when, more often than not, the sex wasn’t good I'm wondering how much relationship would you want to have with someone when, more often than not, the sex wasn't good? And I'm pretty sure you're gonna say something like "relationships aren't all about sex", which I would agree with, but, man, I would feel sorry for both people in such a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:26 AM
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I didn't read your post and don't care about it And if I am victim blaming anyone here, I am victim blaming everyone. Women aren't a special kind of victim, get over yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:30 PM
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women withholding sex is not a better deal for the man, its a better deal for the woman (thats why she does it) What about it being a better deal for the both? The way you look at is just sounds like a recipe for disaster
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:34 PM
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No, it is, it is their fault. They should learn better. And hold themselves accountable. I feel bad for anyone being taken advantage of but if they cannot see their own role in how they've come to a position of being taken advantage of, they're never gonna change their behaviour in a way that's necessary to prevent that from happening again
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:30 PM
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Even if they aren’t smart, how is it their fault they aren't smart, that is how it's their fault
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:11 PM
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if I am really infatuated with a man I’ll slow down, enjoy the build up, establish a genuine emotional connection As a guy I never thought of it this way, my logic would be the more infatuated you are, the more likely it is to just get to sex straight away I just had a first date with some girl. Was very attracted to her and she also seemed to be attracted to me, so I made my move and... got shot down. told me that she needs a long time for that. I felt rejected (and friendzoned, and thought "I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:56 PM
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There are no guarantees and if your looking for that you’ll always be disappointed Not guarantees, just probabilities
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:29 PM
1

It's been a bit hard I hear you bro
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:11 PM
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You're welcome, appreciate the feedback
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:16 AM
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What you're describing sounds like the Madonna/whore complex (which is sort of like a male version of AFBB) I don't think most people view other people in such absolutist, dual terms, even though there might be a tendency in everyone to view others that way. Other than that, I don't know what to tell you. You want to be treated more like a sexual object? Welcome to the club, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:02 PM
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You're a tough cookie
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 12:03 PM
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Male commitment is not a libido killer for women if a male has other commitments that are just as (or more) important than the woman to him
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:59 AM
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If men could accept that women can be both The issue is women want to be one or the other depending on when it suits them. Also, a lot of what constitutes great sex for women is whatever plays out in your heads, so coupled with the fact that it's hard for a guy to compete with an ideal-fantasy that you've created in your head; when you actually get down to that primal, monkey-like deed, let's face it, a lot of men just don't feel capable of acting like wild apes while still retaining a certain l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:46 AM
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Damn, that's painfully honest Do you have faith in that one day you might be able to lock down one of those "out of your league" people that you're fucking?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 09:00 AM
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It would be great if people who play games stick to each other, but they often hurt the ones who aren’t into this kind of games Well unless you want to see dating as a business transaction only, dating is a game and inherently entails the risk of being played
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:37 AM
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because there's no talk about wanting to strip your clothes off for "the other guy"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:28 AM
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I would rather spend my life with the other one. Even if it means you don't want to fuck him as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:07 PM
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Just recently I went on a date with a woman whom I didn't consider that attractive. I made a compromise, the way I saw it and I believe she could sense that I saw it as compromise. And even though I wanted to continue dating her, because I believed my attraction towards her could grow; I guess she herself did not want to make her own compromise, that is, to risk dating someone who might not feel sufficient attraction. So what started as "just looks" ultimately boiled down to communication and ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:57 PM
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Addiction. I would say the majority of people, whether they're having sex or not, are addicted to the point of it being unhealthy. Notice I say "addicted" as something general; you can be addicted to different things, but that craving underneath is essentially the same, whether you're having sex on a regular basis or not at all A lot of people who consider themselves as Invol.celibate seem to be addicted to arguing online, which I would say is a surface manifestation of the need for adventure; I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:47 AM
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Well sex very much entails "getting comfortable" with one another, so if you're willing to do that quickly, I assume you'd attract the type of men who, well, tend to "get comfortable" fast. I know it seems like I'm twisting my words here, and I might be, but I feel there's a truth to it I also find it hard to believe that people who are selfish in bed can generally be wonderful "otherwise", it's not like "the sex world" between two people is like an island and totally distinct from the other are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:36 AM
2

I think looks are just as important as personality, potential friendship and other what-have-you factors
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:04 PM
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No it isn't
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:50 PM
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Oh please
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:37 AM
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She’s married to an alpha that is her best friend is there a reason for that specific sequence; first the partner is an alpha and only secondly he's the best friend? Or does it just so happen that you've ordered your sentence in that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:30 AM
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StrawmanTM
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:03 AM
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Huh, I wouldn't call that sexual incompatibility, it's just that those guys sound like douchebags. Sexual incompatibility for me would be, for instance, that the way they move just isn't in tune with the way you move, or their body scent just isn't your cup of tea... And I believe that the douchebaggery of those guys would have came out sooner or later, even outside sex, maybe even sooner without sex. So, at least in your case, I don't see how having sex would have been necessary to gauge compat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 07:55 AM
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I don't see how it's related
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:38 PM
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Is that a trick question?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:31 PM
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> Married to a 10/10 Alpha Chad TiNy, tInIest LiTtLe BiT oF dETaiLs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:13 PM
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the love of your life The love of this season. The convenient love. The love of your life... after all the others
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:56 PM
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People are less likely to divorce for religious reasons Not necessarily religious, but principles. How did you come to a conclusion that you weren't compatible with some of those men sexually, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:14 AM
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Well, if that's all you got to offer and someone points it out to you, honestly, you will be offended even if they say "but I want it, I like it"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:57 PM
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I was on a date a while ago. I told her I follow JP... I had probably never seen such disappointment in another's face I was sad about it but I think I may have dodged a bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:36 PM
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Well divorce rates of after-marriage people are much lower. And you could say those people only stay together because of the "if this fails then I'm a failure" mindset, which fair enough. But I don't think that explains all of it a person who has "tried on" a lot of people could be like "oh this guy's dick has a curve of 12 degrees to the left whereas my 103th parther's dick only curved 9 degrees; which means we're incompatible". of course I'm exaggerating but I think it's a fair point
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 08:04 AM
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You mean I'm the woman and she's the ugly guy in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:50 AM
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I get that but I didn't mention we're also acquaintances so the repercussions would be potentially more significant. Maybe most women would be like "to hell with repercussions, if you want it enough you would go for it" but I don't see it that way as I don't see kissing as something casual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:48 AM
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I went out with a-not-the-prettiest woman a while ago (who used to be overweight but is a lot less so now) She seemed open to my advances, and even though I think I've made it clear that I'd have no problem making a move when I felt the time was right, as I am pretty confident; I prefer to take it slowly, see how our personalities mesh together etc... I had a feeling that at the end of the date she felt rejected by my lack of advances and intimidated by my outcome independence. It was as if me b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:59 PM
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You mean body count? (sample size sounds a bit more distasteful honestly) It's small enough for you to disregard my experience competely, you're right
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:11 AM
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English isn't my first language so no, I don't talk like that in real life. I think plenty of people whom I talk to on the internet here would just be pushed away from me without having their face punched beforehand, it would be a win win
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:05 AM
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Hasn't happened to me although I've only had a few
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:03 AM
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True, I haven't had much sex because with the options I did have, I rarely felt the compatibility beforehand. Maybe I was wrong about some of them, maybe I would have had amazing sex with someone whom I deemed incompatible. It just wouldn't come to that in the first place or at least hasn't so far
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:02 AM
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Fair enough. Appreciate your thoughtful response. Personally, in my limited experience, I've never been turned off enough by something that it would make me dismiss a person whom I otherwise liked. But I guess people value different things. And I won't say it can't ever happen to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:01 AM
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Mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:56 AM
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So to cut through the bullshit of analogies here, you've actually stopped during the first time having sex with someone and said: "this isn't working, I'm leaving" That sounds like a really shitty thing to do or to have happen to you. There are shitty things in the bounds of acceptable, this just seems too shitty to me personally
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:55 AM
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If a woman wants sex once a month and I want it thrice a week, there's no point pursuing the relationship further. But you don't need to have sex in order to find that out, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:50 AM
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What was the second one if you remember?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:49 AM
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Oh, I wasn't denying my own potential pathologies
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:48 AM
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Average Adam is an NPC /thread
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:43 AM
1

you mean stats or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:53 PM
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Fair enough, I can't disregard yours and other people's experience whatever it may be
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:26 PM
1

I think tats also might be somewhat pathological tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:25 PM
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No, I don't have sex in order to see whether I'm compatible with someone. I have sex when I already feel I would be compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:17 PM
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No, I only have my own experience to relate to, that's why I might be incorrect. Not neccessarily because my experience is limited as it is, but because it's mine, from my own makeup and I don't know yours even though I'm trying to understand. Other than that, you don't know shit bro
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:13 PM
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Actually I haven't thought about kinks specifically and you're the first person to mention that here. Personally I haven't met anyone with a kink that would make someone look like a demon whereas before they were an angel... But I won't claim it can't happen to me, can't claim that I have a special eye for that sort of thing, can't claim it wouldn't have changed the outcome I would be hoping for with a certain person in the future In some sense I view kinks as a sort of an outlier, like somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:01 PM
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Oh I do have experience, just not a lot. You feel like I was claiming some superior knowledge? I don't think I was I will still state my opinion about people who do have a lot of experience in these things though, as I have plenty of experience with those, just not in what they do
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:43 PM
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There's just so many psychological tie-ins and meanings with sex for some people, and then for others there isn't. You can't get at all of those things non-verbally. Fair point, maybe I'm just neurotic and reading more into things than a lot of other folks who might merely want to get their dicks wet essentially And maybe my proclivity to label those people as pathological is also just a result of my neurosis, although I stand by it (and maybe not stand by it due to some moral principles, but be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:37 PM
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In terms of having new bodies in my bed on a regular basis? For sure, I don't. In that case I don't see "having much experience" as something that isn't pathological though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:26 PM
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agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:21 PM
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I don't know why anyone would "try a small portion of the meal" without the intention of eating the whole thing, when they've got a whole thing in front of them. I also don't see how it applies. Are you saying sex is only a small part of the whole package? I would disagree completely
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:17 PM
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Agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:16 PM
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Fair enough. Appreciate your willingness to engage in civil discourse
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:15 PM
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Acting like a civilised adult in public and an animal within certain bounds in bed is kind of expected, yes. But as to how much of an animal and what kind of an animal someone will be in certain domains, I believe there are always signs for those who will look for them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:12 PM
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but pleasant and unpleasant surprises abound. I feel like if you're not totally blind or if your dick isn't in your own way too much, those shouldn't come as too much of a surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:10 PM
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Fair enough. Kissing then - if you don't relate to that then we just don't see eye to eye, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:56 PM
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Appreciate your reply. I think kissing tells pretty much everything, at least in my (I admit limited) experience
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:54 PM
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And you think you need to have sex in order to see whether that boner comes from a random bus or a girl in front of you? come on man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:53 PM
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That doesn't make sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:51 PM
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Change virgin with american and it's right back at ya
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:49 PM
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Like how she eats a banana? Damn thats subtle. I know what to bring with me on my next first date Although I agree it's not normal, I'd say in an ideal scenario we could and maybe would talk about sex before doing it and it wouldn't take the romance out of it. Because if you're in it for the long run, at some point you probably will have to talk about it and there's always going to be something awkward about it, probably. But yeah I wasn't even talking about conversation but something non verbal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:45 PM
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eating something to find out if you like it Also (going by this shitty analogy) when do you decide whether you like it? After the first bite? Or do you eat the whole meal and say "oh, no, wait I realised I was just hungry but actually it sucked, but thanks anyway"? Maybe even the next day when your stomach hurts?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:22 PM
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Why are you like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:18 PM
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That's why two people that get together to have sex are consenting to getting to know these sides of the other Which side is that? the one that magically shows itself when you rub a dick and ass together? If you are not completely insensitive I'm sure you can see many "sides" of a person just by holding their hand and looking them in the eyes for a prolonged period of time. Which may be one of the reasons random strangers don't usually do that and why I agree with you in that nobody, or rarely a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 05:03 PM
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I'm still here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:53 PM
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Yeah I guess we don't se eye to eye at all. The way someone laughs with me and what they laugh at certainly indicates a form of compatibility that encompasses a lot more than just a sense of humour, toput it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:46 PM
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I might have lost the analogy-thought-train here But following along, if you don't want to put out early and someone assumes it must be because you suck at sex, then I guess that's the other person's problem
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:43 PM
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I believe it shows itself as it's not divorced from other parts of life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:39 PM
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Sorry I don't see how any of this is remotely related to my OP and why you'd chosen me as this prime example of "angry young men who fell victim to TRP"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:33 PM
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You choose a chef for the rest of your life,you are obviously need to know if you like the food But if you see him cooking and you know the ingredients are relatively fresh (and you know some things about cooking) you don't actually need to try the food to know it will be good. (delving head on into the analogy-mode here)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:28 PM
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Why do you love that? What does your comment got to do with my op?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:17 PM
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Okay lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:14 PM
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Sorry I don't understand your point. You assumed someone was insane and needed to have sex in order to confirm they were insane? And this proves how it's not neccessarily a pathological thing to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:11 PM
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Why would you show that to everyone? Because it shows whether you want it or not and if you repress it, it has a life of its own
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:05 PM
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Either you've never had sex, or you've never had sex with someone bad I never had to because I knew it would probably be bad at the level of kissing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:04 PM
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I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:55 PM
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I'm assuming I have intuition enough to tell who would likely "be a star" BEFORE getting to a point of them "being a star" When I'm kissing with someone and it doesn't exactly feel... alive, I'm not going further. And why anyone would "in order to find out, really", is beyond me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 02:04 PM
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I tried to choose as positive words as possible, except, I'll admit, that last "who am I kidding" Okay, my mind hasn't been changed and I would like to say I appreciate your willingness to debate, but, man, you seem oddly reactive and possibly passive aggressive to the point that this doesn't strike me as a debate anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:57 PM
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Oh, I might be ready to talk about aspects of life that you think I'm not ready to, do you mind elaborating on what you mean by "my point exactly"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:39 PM
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No offence but this sounds like something a virgin would say That's an odd thing to say. I know people often have this weird stereotype or a concept of a "virgin" in their heads (maybe in america especially) but really, the sole fact that someone is a virgin doesn't necessarily make them say certain things that others could tell makes them a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:36 PM
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Would you buy a house you’ve never set foot in? This is the same analogy as "eating food to see whether you like it". there's a reason I choose my analogy which I feel, even though it's stupid, is still a bit more sophisticated
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:31 PM
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sorry, certain characters drive me nuts sometimes. Pathological, as far as I know there's a definition and there's only one definition. I'm an armchair psychologist at best though, so maybe I'll just keep it at that (it being my opinion and nothing else)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:28 PM
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Why are you responsing with vague remarks that seem to have nothing to do with the topic at hand?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:25 PM
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Oh now you're a "we". Doubly crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:25 PM
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You've just described a fucking doll. You can't tell between a doll and a person before you stick your things in there?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:24 PM
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I don't know what this post has to do with TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:22 PM
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then you basically asked me whether I think I can assess whether I enjoy having sex with someone I have things I sexually like, and I'll be looking for those in a partner You WILL be looking for those things but the only way that you can determine those things, as you're implying, is by having sex with them IN THE PRESENT or AFTER. See, the timeline alone doesn't add up there. To add to that, how would you know what you're NOT looking for if you didn't try it a couple times before? And fair enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:18 PM
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Fair enough! Makes sense. Appreciate your response
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:50 PM
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“sex is like eating a new food to see if you like it” You're like the 5th person who said this here (first female I believe) - ironically THIS would be equating sex to something as casual as "trying out new food". Craazy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:48 PM
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Can you fuck? That’s compatibility That doesn't sound like a very high standard. As I've said, pathological
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:33 PM
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My sexual self is very different from my everyday self. Thanks for your reply, post wall ghost. Yeah, that's a shame, I guess. I think people should wear their inner animal on a sleeve, so to speak, as long as it's not inappropriate. Many people seem to be so out of touch with their base desires to a point that it seems like they lead two completely different lives
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:32 PM
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You already know you're hungry, you're just not sure if you'll enjoy eating the food in front of you. Okay, so how low do you stoop there? Do you try shit at some point, maybe it won't be so bad after all huh? Honestly, have you even had sex? oh my god, the burn!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:29 PM
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Maybe you have some 6th sense that tells you how good people are in bed from just looking at them So you think of yourself as some sort of a judge assesing others how good they are at sex, rather than seeing it as two people relating to eachother with their peculiar quirks and all. I see where you're coming from and I think you're exactly proving my point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:26 PM
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A person's laugh and face have essentially nothing to do with libido or sexual compatibility. It's a shame so many people like yourself live their everyday lives so out of touch with what drives them and makes them laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:25 PM
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trying a food to see if you like that food or not. what a bunch of bollocks. The fact that you get a boner indicates that there is SOME compatibility. And while that compatibility might not be ENOUGH.... Well, that exactly proves my point. You fucked a girl whom you were "meh" about "in order to see whether you were compatible" Congratulations, you are fucking pathological
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:20 PM
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they're getting on with their lives without men You mean with men, but men at a distance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:09 PM
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I’m an actor and can cry on cue Lol, does that... prove your point, or something? "just because I can cry whenever I want to and use it to my advantage doesn't mean that when I do cry for real it's acceptable for anyone to dismiss my feelings" yeah, good luck with that, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 09:22 AM
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More and more women might be giving up on putting any effort into forming potential relationships, but they're clearly not giving up that tiny sliver of faith in that someday a prince will sweep them off their feet unexpectedly and it will all "just happen"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 09:15 AM
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Depends on how overweight you are. I'd say it's more about health overall. But at least in my case, I'd agree with OP. I've been fit my entire life. My optimal condition is 130 pounds at 5'8. My wrists are delicate like fucking chicken legs. And no amount of muscle I put on is going to change that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:58 AM
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You're probably not trying to deflect intentionally, but I still don't know why you're focusing so much on education or even socioeconomic class (even though, yes, it was me who brought that up in my first comment). There are different parameters for a person in terms of "sexual market value" and "romantic status". Women clearly aim UP generally speaking and if you attribute this observation to insane PPD men, I don't know what to tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:46 AM
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Then why even begin to try generalising and forming conclusions on how an NPC "type of person" would form relationships with very particular and distinct human beings? And I wouldn't be triggered if OP claimed that a relationship with a neutral person would generally be NEUTRAL however they are clearly very much looking down on it Get yourself straight before you try to "gotcha" me with your snarky ass
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:35 AM
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Humans are master imitators. And we love to imitate our role models. That's why it's such a shame father figures are often lacking or absent. The way your father has behaved is literally the reason, or one among reasons why you're here now. So why not try imitating him and suceed as he did and keep this human-chain going?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:18 PM
1

Well, don't worry, it won't be for long
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:08 PM
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continuously being put down all their life so they are convinced they can’t make it on their own Sounds like Adam
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:03 PM
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Men really pressure women to accept any old man who comes along I just imagined a scene; an ugly man, holding a woman by her shoulders, violently shaking her, pointing at his even uglier man and screaming at her: "take him, TAKE HIM!!" but really, how do guys do that? you mean a bunch of losers whining on the internet? get your head out of there
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:02 PM
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Adam-inspired prose, based
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:55 PM
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But why would a relationship with an Average Adam equal a bad one? It all just seems so anti-human to me. Since most humans are average it can only mean you think badly of relationships or humans, which is basically the same
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:51 PM
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You will realise soon enough that the man of your dreams is just Adam but when he's away. When you realise this, the prophecy of your title will turn on itself
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:50 PM
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Whenever my boyfriend does the dishes he automatically looks 100x more attractive in the moment and makes me want to tear his clothes off hahahahahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:38 PM
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Women marry up status hierarchies, whether education is becoming more and more redundant in terms of determining someone's status is besides the point I was making
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:21 PM
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I did not find it but then again I'm not sure what the point that I was hoping to find was
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:14 PM
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You're missing the point, it's about where the emergence of the need for a social contract such as marriage sprung from... and where does it potentially lead us in terms of furthering our behaviour and evolution. > Just because something occurs across societies over time doesn't make it a part of biology Well, if you take a drivers licence as an example it might sound a bit absurd. If you take "licence", as a concept in general, as an example, which marriage in a sense is; then it's not so absur…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:08 PM
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I don’t see that happening irl irl... as opposed to.. nirl? Degrees are becoming sort of meaningless today Well, women still "date up" as much as ever (or more?), so whatever status category you base "up" on is anything but meaningless And "lots of women you know" are just not convincing me otherwise, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:41 PM
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I didn't read your whole comment sorry (and what I did read, I'm not sure what it has to do with my remark about the inconsistency and contradiction between the part of your previous comment and your flair)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:28 PM
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emotional labor Jeez I wonder why marriage is going to hell To invent and utter a concept such as "emotional labor".... you must either be a narcissist or be with a narcissist (probably the former since it's the perfect term to make yourself devoid of any accountability). Either way, good fucking luck
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:21 PM
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Fair enough. That's not my reasoning though, you are just being silly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:14 PM
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Right, so why not wish them the best, so that they might possibly stop wishing the worst onto others? "Good vibes" ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:10 PM
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The definition of a stereotype involves "oversimplification" and even if there's SOME truth to it (some disguised form of truth beneath), a stereotype is probably closer to whatever the opposite of truth is rather than the truth But yeah other than that I don't necessarily disagree on what you've said previously
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:00 PM
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I was in a dead bedroom marriage and it was hell. As a single man I have sex essentially whenever I decide to Honestly I would hope people find something else that is just as (or possibly more) valuable than sex in a marriage. Not trying to be a dick about it, I know (or imagine) having someone you're attracted to and not being able to fulfill those desires with them must be WAY harder, in a sense, than just being alone. But "being single and having sex whenever", as if that's some sort of peak …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:54 PM
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Luckily, society doesn't require you to be with someone your equal anymore to survive Survive... for how long? The paradise that we seemed to have created might very well be "too good to be true" for it to be something stable and permanent
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:44 PM
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I think being alone (and unhappy) is better than being in an unhappy relationship That's silly. Silly and naive. If you're unhappy either way, you'd rather have someone to share that lack of happiness with, trust me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:37 PM
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If a social construct is social construct for long enough, it becomes part of biology. Or rather the fact that it's lasted for so long potentially indicates that it's deeply rooted in biology
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:29 PM
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Well, let’s just say people should learn to love themselves get very comfortable in their own skin (Instead of basing their entire self-esteem on their relationship status) What does that even mean? People eventually rot from inside out and they want someone whom they love, who loves them; either in their presence or their memory; so that it's not any more absolutely horrific than it has to be. It has nothing to do with "self esteem" and "loving oneself"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:21 PM
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hope they everyone here finds what they're looking for (other than the proper degenerates Why wouldn't you wish the best for degenerates also, or perhaps especially them? This is the issue with people who love to signal about how empathetic they are... They really aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 05:13 PM
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black pill hatefilled shit they’ve been indoctrinated to repeat But your flair is "Willing to tell you its your face not your personality" ? Are you trying to be ironic, I don't get it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:57 PM
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Modern relationships are far less based on practicality and far more based on companionship than they used to be Then why won't women "date down" still and only go for men with equal or higher education? (Which is going to get really interesting soon since the ratio in colleges is 60% women to 40% men). Or are you going to say educated people make some sort of a niche that allows them to effortlessly connect over their holy possession of knowledge gained through education that regular, uneducate…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:53 PM
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I swear these people think humans are made and programmed in digital vacuum chambers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:44 PM
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You created some sort of SIMS neutral npc character, without any real human quirks, negative or positive. That's hardly applicable to... life. Even someone as flawless (literally) as Adam and you're trying to challenge us on finding motives for why he should even try to procreate and contribute to the human existence? Man, you must live in some sad universe
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:50 PM
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Well, I was circumcised as a kid and due to insensitivity of my forehead that the circumcision had caused, mastrubating felt very dull, so one day when I was a stupid, impulsive adolescent, I broke my dick trying to fuck my own asshole and now it's curved quite significantly. So yeah, you could say my masculinity has been wounded allright. The first time I tried having sex at 18 I was too insecure about it, failed, and didn't have the guts to try again, and then spiraled into a pit of self isola…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:05 PM
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Fair enough, I guess I'd gotten a lot of mixed signals from women in my past and still occasionally feel that instinct to try to decipher them. Which is obviously my fault. But it also seemed to have been my fault when I risked taking people at face value sometimes and had been proven wrong. I guess trust is still my only choice since I don't want to walk around second guessing everything whatever amount of time I have left, and if that trust turns out to have been mere naivete and leads to my d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:47 PM
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Nothing I do is emasculating Maybe that's because your man doesn't percieve anything you do as emasculating. Maybe he doesn't see whatever masculinity he "has" as something that can be taken away from him; whether that's "a lot" of masuclinity or "none"; the result is the same, it cannot be taken away from him. While maybe some other guy feels emasculated just by having a taller woman stand in front of him, even though she didn't "do" anything, you see my point? I think when a guy feels emascula…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:07 PM
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also your comment didn't have anything to do with what I said previously
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:42 PM
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You get to feel hurt though And stop your complaining about complaining. Try debating for once
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:15 PM
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Oh, I've got plenty of red flags myself so no worries there, thanks for your concern
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:08 PM
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I mean there are similarities between how you treat your partner and someone who isn't, but whom you might wish to be, your partner. It's not like there's a strict "stranger" vs. "familiar lover" category that you have to rigidly abide by. To some degree you have to assume the best and act as if what you're feeling is being reciprocated to some degree, otherwise why do anything? I don't see what you mean exactly. Are you saying you shouldn't put so much effort or faith into a developing relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:01 AM
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I've put an edit in the OP in case you're curious. Thanks again!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:21 PM
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I know what you mean but... I don't know, for me it never felt like "it just happened"; for the girl it might have felt that way, but she probably didn't know that I had to make all those plans and tricks in the deep, shameful caverns of my mind beforehand, in order to carry out those actions, strategically and clumsily
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:10 PM
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That's smart, you're smart! Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:48 PM
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Also, you just need to know what it is, not actually do it, to know you don’t want one Honestly, I find this hard to believe sometimes (feeling like an erect walking penis trying to penetrate everything that moves sometimes) but I'm willing to take your word for it, truly, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:46 PM
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appreciate your response!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:44 PM
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I don't resonate with what you're saying, it's like with each new sentence you make a whole bunch of new assumptions and generalisations that have no real connection to the previous one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:42 PM
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fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:37 PM
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no YOU sound extremely butthurt
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:37 PM
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look at the comments. if they're true (I don't know whether they are) it is not such a rare thing after all
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:35 PM
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I mean even going in for a kiss is crossing a boundary, so it's hard to generalise whatever you're trying to convey with your sarcasm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:34 PM
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“looking for a relationship” WOULD scare the right men off You mean men with healthy communication skills? I guess it depends about how you go about sharing the fact that you're looking for a relationship, yeah, but I don't see anything desperate about that statement alone, at all
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:32 PM
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Well too bad, that's the price you pay for online dating men. By trying to eliminate the risks, she gains some but also loses some, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:26 PM
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fair enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:20 PM
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Why did you feel the need to tell me this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:20 PM
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Man, you guys seem to make a helluva lot of presumptions. I'm not looking for casual sex. I just want to make sure that when I'm attracted to someone, I make it as clear as possible as soon as possible (in an appropriate context, ofcourse) independent of the outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:11 PM
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Fair enough! Thanks for your input
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:27 PM
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Well humans are complicated, but I try not to make it any more complicated than it has to be. I'm not looking for ONS and see someone who has "no ONS" written in their bio; that strikes me as weird, so I swipe left. And then I write a post asking if anyone resonates with that, and quite some people do
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:24 PM
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Fair enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:18 PM
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I don't know where you got that from
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:17 PM
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But wouldn't a guy who is "too thirsty" go for someone who says "no ONS" anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:16 PM
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All we have here are anecdotes. If someone says no and then says yes (and possibly then says no and then, again, yes) I say run If it's LARPing to assume that all anecdotes that conflict with your viewpoint are based on lies... Try again?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:15 PM
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Why not say FWB then? Is there any other "arrangement" that I'm missing out here? in any case I find it to be an oddly specific thing to put in your bio
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:12 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:07 PM
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I guess it's not for you then, I think I've explained myself quite succintly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:07 PM
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appreciate your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:06 PM
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If a guy says "no fat chicks" in his bio, it's safe to assume he just cant help himself around plus size women? It's also safe to assume he won't get any date ever, probably
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:02 PM
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So why do you act like you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:00 PM
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If I saw that I would think the woman is dumb. Because you can just stop talking to someone if you feel their intentions are different than yours Exactly And to all those who think that "putting your intentions out there in the open saves both of you the time", that may be true, unless the way your intentions are being put out in the open is weird as fuck; then it might scare off some of the prospects that might otherwise be a good fit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:59 PM
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80% of the time she’s just trying to weed out guys who are not experienced what do you mean? that it's just a test?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:53 PM
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That's not a fruitful thing to say in a debate, or pretty much anywhere as far as I'm concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:51 PM
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Not neccessarily because I am also not looking for ONS
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:50 PM
-2

There's so much cognitive dissonance in your comment that I can hardly begin to unravel it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:47 PM
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Yeah it might filter me out even tho I'm not looking for ONS
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:43 PM
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Well if it happens it happens lol. fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:42 PM
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Of course, but I'm not looking for advice here, just a debate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:41 PM
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How do you know my goals don't align? I'm not looking for ONS, I find it a weird thing for someone to put "no ONS" in their bio; what's so hard to grasp here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:39 PM
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And I hope that's working out for her
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:28 PM
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I don't want a ONS and I might still swipe left on them because I find it an odd thing to put in one's bio
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:27 PM
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she’s eliminating time spent with people who aren’t compatible with her. I'm not so sure about that, that's one of the reasons I wrote this post Look at how many guys are saying "those women are the easiest to sleep on the first day with". Are they lying? They might be. They might also not be
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:43 AM
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My point was, if there's many exceptions to the rule, then it's a pattern and not exceptions to the rule (again I don't know how many of these exceptions there are, that's one of the things I was wondering writing this post)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:41 AM
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(and that's a good thing) get it, the flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:39 AM
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what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:38 AM
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Fair enough! Even though I imagine saying "no ONS" would make some guys see it even more as a worthwile challenge.... Maybe it still decreases the odds overall
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:38 AM
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I don't think I know the answer that's why I'm asking the questions
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:34 AM
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No, I don't think her attempts at pre-empting my advances are bad, I'm just wondering whether it works like that Other than that you didn't offer much to the discussion with your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:30 AM
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So why not say "looking for something casual"?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:27 AM
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Most people using them are not just looking for a ONS. Quite a few people here have said the contrary I'm not choosing to ignore them, that's one of the reasons why I wrote this post, I'm actually considering whether saying "no ONS" is a red flag (and I'm not looking for ONS myself)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:24 AM
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It's not a good answer then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:18 AM
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Am I? I'm not so sure
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:16 AM
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You don't seem to know what I'm interested in, keep your assumptions at bay
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:16 AM
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I hope anyone who does this meets someone who fits their desires. I hope so too! Even if they end up having a ONS despite saying "no ONS", I hope everyone meets someone who fulfills their deepest desires
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:14 AM
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I'm all about clear messages, I just don't get why some people focus on disqualifications (negatives) rather than the opposite In the same way, when you go on a date, the first question usually isn't "hey, what AREN'T you looking for in a parther?"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:07 AM
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But don't 40% of relationships (or something, I might be off) start through OLD these days? Now I'm not saying that makes it LIKELY for you to get a relationship through OLD, but many relationships do start that way, or at least I've heard so
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:03 AM
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Oh, I think you've misunderstood, I'm not looking for advice here, just looking to clear things up
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:01 AM
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No, she said "no ONS" which does not mean "no guys who are forward about sex"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:59 AM
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I think she’s just making a clear sign that she won’t do a one night stand What if she ends up doing so though, and a lot of other women who state similar preferences also end up doing so? Would you say "she was just confused... and so were 10000s of other girls who stated the same preference"?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:52 AM
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But assuming some of those "Chad" stories are real (I'm not saying they are, nor that they aren't) that would beat your argument to a pulp, wouldn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:43 AM
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It obviously means she wants commitment and doesn't want to sleep around casually No it doesn't, it might mean she wants a FWB situation, which is not really commitment (and which is also something that I personally am not looking for; so it would just be easier for the both of us, probably, if she was able to communicate like an adult and say what she wants right off the bat as opposed to saying "this is not what I want and it's up to you to guess what it is that I want")
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:35 AM
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No, she's being clear about what she doesn't want, which is not the same For some reason, I'm not convinced about you being a legitimate judge about whether this is overthinking or "just thinking" on my part
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:32 AM
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Because it would scare away a shit ton of men right off the bat Honestly, it might scare me away too even though I'm not looking for ONS which brings us to the main point, does writing "no ONS" in your bio really "scare off" men who might in fact be looking for ONS?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:29 AM
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If the person said 'looking for a relationship' that's a normal way of stating what you're looking for. That's exactly my point One caveat though... She might be looking for a FWB type situation, in which case she's neither looking for ONS nor "relationship"; and since she might be embarassed saying "I want a FWB type situation".... Well, that's the only reason I can think of that would make this, erm, non-pathological, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:21 AM
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That's a non answer
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:20 AM
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just trying to filter them out My question is does writing "no ONS" in your bio work in filtering them out?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:19 AM
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My question is does detering skeezy men work by putting "no ONS" in your bio?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:18 AM
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​ "looking for a relationship" because that is literally the point of a dating app No it's not lol? "Relationship" can mean a hell of a lot of things, but usually we all know what is meant by "relationship" and if you're looking for that, or whatever you might be looking for... why state that which you're NOT looking for instead? Why focus on disqualifications (negatives)? This is not a gotcha btw, I'm really curious Also, most of your reasons for putting "no ONS" in your bio, I find either weir…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:15 AM
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I'm not your buddy and that's a non answer
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:13 AM
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Okay? how is what you've just said not redundant?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:42 AM
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"probably" and my title is more specific than your answer calls for
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:38 AM
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Then why not just say "looking for commitment early on"? no ONS sounds very self defensive. and there might be good reasons for her being self defensive. it just doesn't scream "very healthy" IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:37 AM
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Yeah, that's a no brainer. And by no brainer I don't mean "you're obviously right" but that you obviously have no brain if you think people always mean what they say in the realms of dating and romance
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:30 AM
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I don't get your analogy (?)... you're looking for ONS?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:28 AM
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Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:26 AM
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not wanting someone to be forward about sex before a couple of dates? what do you mean "being forward about sex"? If I feel attraction to a woman I'm dating, I'm sure as hell going to be forward about it or at least hint at it, that doesn't mean I will (want to) escalate things physically immediately, but it does mean she will know where it stands (oops)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:24 AM
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so whatever happens feels like a little more your responsibility as the guy… ie you are absorbing some of the shame if it doesn’t work out because “she isn’t into that”. could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:20 AM
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Why assume the worst in people? I could easily reverse that, why say "no ons" (which sounds very self defensive) rather than, say, "looking for a relationship" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:13 AM
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> Looking at my past all my relationships Yeah, how did that work out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:04 PM
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Early human-farming attempts suck You should make that a t shirt
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:06 AM
1

once you get to know them vomit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:58 AM
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then again, some women also say "if I really like him I won't sleep with him right away" maybe crazy women but women nevertheless
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:39 AM
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This post is somewhere along the lines of an argument between two people, where one of them says: "take some responsibility" and the other one replies with "no, you take some responsibility" ...except that this argument is going on inside OP's head. like a snake eating its own tail Fascinating, the human mind is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:34 AM
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most of the language about “SMV” reduces women it doesn't only reduce women (to whatever you happen to be offended by at the moment) it also reduces men to provision machines, for instance. Generalisations do that, you know, doesn't mean they can't be useful
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 07:09 AM
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such a useless statement
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:56 PM
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"biologically" not monogamous doesnt sound like a very credible, well thought out take on things
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:44 PM
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Humans are social animals like birds
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:39 PM
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Humans are not bonobos either, dude, get it straight
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:38 PM
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But the fact that birds are still relying on their mate indicates that the instinct to pair bond is not something completely cultural but primal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:37 PM
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Its both
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:42 AM
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It doesn't mean they can't, just that they don't. Also some birds pair for life. And birds are much more fucking "primal" than we are. And they don't exactly have a "culture". So, no, the proclivity for monogamy is not just a "cultural trait", even the fucking birds know it, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:14 PM
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monogamy itself is just a social construct do you think in birds that pair for life monogamy is also a social construct?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:07 PM
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if you can't get a woman to be your friend, you'll never be able to hold a woman down in a relationship So you're saying if I GaIn SoMe hUmILitY and aim lower, and go for a fatty.. Oh, yeah, I can see your point now. I won't have a problem with holding down a fatty in a relationship, because she will hold herself down. because of her weight. because she is fat. lol, get it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:02 PM
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What a worthless reply. Almost as worthless as mine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:46 PM
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It's not about "men having learned social skills or not", almost every idiot knows how to act like a decent citizen. Yet being a decent citizen is not enough to attract a mate It's about (having the potential of) acquiring resources and being selectively generous. Both of which men need MOTIVATION for
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:16 PM
1

soooo funnaaaaaaay guurl like ohmygawdd
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:25 AM
1

if you believe the way to a healthy relationship inherently entails risking being a "cum bucket" to someone (and the fact that you're using terminology like "cum bucket" so casually)... yeah, I don't know, maybe you do need to stay away from certain internet corners, at the very least. But that alone probably won't solve the issues, which you seem to have plenty of
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:23 AM
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technically you don't need money for rent and bills, you could just eat out of trash. see, it's mostly semantics; point is you do want a relationship, just not enough. because it comes with its own compromises. And because plenty of people think this way is the reason birthrates are at a below replacement level
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:15 PM
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> And then I gradually mentally talked myself out of it because of the stupid shit I read here I think this just shows how little a lot of women need or want a relationship Imagine PPD, fucking PPD influencing you so much that you would discard a potential good relationship because of it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:06 PM
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"Chill it's just the meaning of the fucking words", gtfo. It's not "It's only reddit, I don't care how I use my words", it's "I can't even get my words right on reddit" you fucking deceiver
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:19 AM
1

What's NT? ​ They aren't not getting laid because women are all out here sharing a man. Most men are getting laid and getting relationships also this doesn't really add up does it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:11 AM
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You started your comment with "too many men being available" and stretched it to "they just aren't likable" in a matter of few sentences This is exactly what OP is saying. you really can't make this shit up
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:34 AM
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you mean "enforced"? For christ sake learn the words correctly if you're gonna use them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:25 AM
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also what I meant by "you don't have it, it has you" is that really you're not in control of human drive so deep as sexuality. In a sense that you can't compare it to riding a horse; or maybe you can, but the horse is really choosing where it takes you; and all you can "choose" to do is let go and enjoy. Or not. Sso in the same way that i wasnt in control of what happened to me that caused my repression of sexuality, i wasnt in control of how i got healed from that. Sexuality is really quite sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:31 AM
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What did it for me was, I fell in love with this girl (not a healthy kind of love) and was miserable because of it, and then once I decided to take a lot of psychedelic mushrooms, sort of as a last resort, not knowing what to do anymore. And it was horrible. Shame, guilt, disgust. I saw how I've got this very childish, naive view of love and sex, and saw how it was affecting me and the people around me. And by some miracle, I got out of that experience healed, able to fully relax for the first t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:20 AM
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you don't "have" it, it has you, is what I mean. yeah, I've been there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:49 PM
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how do you 'have' repression?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:58 PM
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fish also can't lie, women can
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 06:47 AM
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In order to use your "social intelligence" constructively and productively, you need to have the motivation neccessary to do so I don't see THAT many socially awkward men (then again I'm not american) but I see a lot of men who look like they had sort of given up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:23 PM
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Well as I've said, something along the lines of "just be attractive" and she will feel special for you just being around her
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:32 AM
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share the forbidden knowledge with us, enlightened one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 08:30 AM
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I don't know what you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 06:17 AM
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we?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:19 PM
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okay, thanks for letting me know
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:15 PM
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I fail to see how that challenges my view, again
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:12 PM
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Hot people always make people feel special, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:11 PM
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what does LSD have to do with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:10 PM
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Sure, some people are like that. Your point being? how does that challenge my view?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:27 PM
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It's not only "does he care about me" but "does he care about me in a way that makes me feel as if everyone would care about me"... if that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:16 PM
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That's not a counterpoint. I've said lying isn't the only way to make a woman feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 04:12 PM
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I guess you'll never know
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:30 PM
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I would say most of the times. There are always outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:28 PM
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Women on vacation also like to feel special, yes, they are in "the travelling, exploring" stage of their life, and sometimes wouldn't mind sharing that with a guy who also makes them feel special, if only for a moment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:06 PM
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“I’m going to chase you til the ends of the earth” Yes, I think "no means no" is sometimes just a shit test. But the line between being consistent/determined in a good way, versus being creepy/stalky, is in how attractive you already are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:37 PM
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I appreciate you sharing your views and being considerate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:33 PM
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I'm somewhere around 173, 174cm, which is not THAT bad; but this coupled with the fact that I'm also 60kg, although fit, limits my dating options quite a lot, I feel
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:29 PM
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I could be in love with almost anyone I vibe with
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:25 PM
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Right, I did though, it's in the title
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:24 PM
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Yeah, I would hardly call that success
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:11 PM
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I don't think that's the point. A lot of women seem to be disgusted by how low threshold for attraction men have. When I say I see half the female population as special, I mean special enough to be willing to get to know them more. And let's say if I get to know that half of the female population... maybe a half, or third of those, I would see as special. Now, that's maybe 1/5 of female population. That's still not a high threshold, don't you think? And that's not something women would want to k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:08 PM
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Good for you for sticking up to yours. I would say it's not the fact that she didn't make you feel special that made you break up with her though... in a sense that it wasn't just a lack of you feeling special. It was the opposite of that, she actually made you feel disgusted. I can imagine most women would break it off long, long before it came to that point. that's what I mean by threshold being different. But this is just semantics, I think we agree anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 12:42 PM
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Fair enough, you have a point. But the threshold for what makes a guy feel special, versus the woman, is very different
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 12:27 PM
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huh, I guess I'm clueless then. Still, no views had been changed here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 12:24 PM
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again, how you feel about the fact that women want to feel special and sometimes end up not feeling so, is not relevant to the discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 12:05 PM
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Basically impossible I think we're on the same page. Tell me if you ever reach this impossible though
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:51 AM
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> If you're an unattractive guy your only hope is to interact with a girl long enough that she stops being consciously aware of how unattractive you are So you're saying there is hope after all?! I just have to trick her into not wanting to run away from me ASAP? Thank God!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:39 AM
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Lol so you're kind of playing "the enemy's friend" game
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:36 AM
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I don't think we're disagreeing here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:34 AM
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Um, right... so you agree? A woman doesn't even have to WANT to see a guy naked for him to be turned on
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:32 AM
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that's on her Okay, but that's not relevant to the discussion. The point is she wants to feel special even if she ends up feeling the opposite of that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:30 AM
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Time to learn to validate myself what does this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:26 AM
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I tell women whatever they wish to hear Blue pill man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:25 AM
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I think if you said MDMA or alcohol, you might have a point. Also depends on the dose and the person, I guess... but LSD hardly removes your inhibitions in a way that would make you want to take your clothes off and go jump a stranger (it may make you want to roll around naked in the mud though)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:21 AM
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Did you read the post? I'm not talking about the "strategy" of making a woman feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:15 AM
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That they can't just be driven by lust? Not as much as guys that's for sure. But even if they are aometimes, it's very situational; even if it's not primarily the guy that makes her feel special and hot, it's the situation, context or "phase" she's in. For instance hot girl summer (and now one year later it's "feral girl summer" for whatever god-awful reason).. it's about her going out and feeling sexy and maybe hooking up if she finds someone worth his salt and the moment is right. Men don't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:11 AM
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the alpha would have picked another chick so she's not really special Right. "The alpha". She thinks she is special though, that's the point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:01 AM
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Oh i do think women "sometimes just want to fuck", just not with someone who doesnt make them feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:26 AM
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I agree but another aspect to that is, what if you find half of the female population "special"?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:21 AM
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They might "hit the town for some dick" yeah... the dick that makes them feel special
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:20 AM
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That doesnt disprove my point. "Findig dick" does not imply just any dick
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:17 AM
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I think just being naked in front of a man or telling him "i want to see you naked" kinda does the trick. While reverse not so much
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:13 AM
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His flair is "Marxist psychology major"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:39 AM
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I always deemed myself a victim of circumstances (which in a sense i really was, had a sort of ptsd) so i was only able to focus on how people hurt ME. This trip confronted me with all the incidents that I hurt OTHERS even though not neccessarily intentionally. and that gave me a sense of power, the fact that even though the world can be a dangerous place, i may actually have some accountability in it and possibly make it a bit less dangerous a fucking downvote lol, really? How did I deserve thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 08:27 AM
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If you do though, youll get what you need, not neccessarily what you want. I didnt plan on this to happen and if i did, somethig else would have happened probably
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:57 PM
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I took too much psychedelic mushrooms once and in those few hours went through years-worth of therapy (it wasn't pleasant)... and when I came back, I wasn't such a neurotic little bitch anymore. and women seem to like me more for it Still, no woman has ever jumped into my lap though, so I'm not sure whether that would really constitute success
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:51 PM
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You know im sort of a nanny currently "au pair" its called. Im living with a married couple who have two children 1,5 years old and 1 month old. Even two people are not neccessarily enough to raise kids, what the fuck is wrog wih you thinking one person can do it all by themselves? Paying a babysitter to raise the child half of the day every day... first of all its too expensive for the amount of population that is fucking relevant to this discussion. Second, congratulations, the babysitter is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:09 PM
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Women can successfully raise children on their own... like school shooters? Yes im being extreme, but you are being insane, so theres that. Or youre just being american, thats a probability too ...they can block me but they cant silence me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:03 PM
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Thats perception of others, the commenter said "perception of themselves" but maybe he meant "of oneself"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:33 AM
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Thats not what your arument was about. You said it like women can have "the baby experience" on their own, simply when and if they want to. Thats delusional Either youre clearly delusional or you do have a dog in the fight. Or maybe a cat
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:59 PM
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You think women other than top percentile earners can afford to have a baby on their own (not including the trailer-raised ones)? And you're comparing babysitting to having a baby? Really? What's next, kittens? Videos of babies laughing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:29 PM
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Well everyone isnt a red piller, just as every lady here isnt a self righteous prick
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:18 PM
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Who is "they"? Speak for yourself, maybe you're the one bitter and jaded
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:29 PM
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umm no, a lot of men claim they'd take an average looking women, just under this op alone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:04 PM
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Don't listen to that weasel. Do what you want, hope and work for what you want, your standards sound reasonable, I think it's quite possible for you to find something like that (although I haven't been able to myself, so, yeah, I don't really know)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:37 PM
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when men come into money they leave their loyal ride or die wife Which men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:32 PM
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But you said men (or mysogynists by your own words) can't ever really desire a woman who is not model tier? Just in another comment up here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:31 PM
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umm okay
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:14 PM
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nothing bad about... single and with child My god. When you think "the incels" are the insane ones on this sub, and hope to see another, less insane of a perspective, coming from another side of the discussion... and then you see this 0.o everyone is fucking nuts here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:09 PM
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People get super locked into their perception of you when they first know you and take a long time to change their perception of themselves. what do you mean by this, changing the perception of themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:05 PM
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Would you take them back if they were say 23 Lol they would never come back at 23
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:02 PM
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"more often than you'd think" is not really a good answer
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:00 PM
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How many people do actually have something like that happen to them? It sounds more like a revenge fantasy (that sometimes, I admit, have been guilty of myself)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:58 AM
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I was 22 when I lost it, and if I didn't tell the girl about not having done it before, it probably wouldn't have happened. First, because she was insecure and when I told her, I guess she knew I was being vulnerable with her and that made her trust me more. And second, because I was insecure and thought "she has to know going in to the experience that I might be really bad at it, and if she can't accept me for it, I'd rather not do it in the first place" It only happened once with this girl tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:26 AM
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Yeah, I was the innocent guy who's first time was with a slut with abandonment, control issues. She wasn't really attracted to me, I think at most what she felt towards me was a lack of repulsion, because I wasn't a danger to her (or so she thought) And since she wasn't the prettiest (hurts to say it but its true), I also didn't feel much beyond the "bodily desires". And when that happened, it wasn't THAT interesting And then she sensed me pulling away because in the morning I was a bit disguste…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 12:29 PM
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how many of these experienced guys have you been in relationship with, and how many have you slept with if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 12:09 PM
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Here's some advice men dont owe you anything As a man, yeah I know men don't owe me anything, neither do women; everyone fends for themselves, an eye for an eye, nobody is entitled to anything,.. etc etc. we've heard it all before. Do you actually have something of value to say? Btw do you know what the word advice even means? ​ Edit: I guess someone here has blocked me and I can't reply to the new comments... and Reddit tells me "Something went wrong, try again later". Fuck you reddit, you shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:34 AM
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how it’s so hard not to treat people like a number
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 07:29 AM
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The trick is to play the numbers game while still not making the women you talk to feel like numbers That's as sociopathic as it gets edit: u/todo_pasa_ no it's still sociopathic. the phrasing, the motive. getting yours and "making" someone "feel" as if you're not getting yours, is sociopathic u/GrandBurdensomeCount yeah, I don't see that as relatable. I don't relate to "men think with their dicks". I don't know what that means. And I'm a pretty horny dude And I guess deliberately trying to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 07:22 AM
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There are also a lot of workaholics who believe waiting for the next half-day off to get wasted is living the dream
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:43 AM
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The only opinions you should care about are the opinions of people you admire Well sometimes I admire random strangers. Or rather I admire some random strangers more than others. And I give courtesy to all unless they give me a reason not to. It's because I care about them, their values, their opinions; of me, of themselves,.. I think I'd have to be a total sociopath not to care
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:22 AM
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Oh, it's not that I don't like it, I just don't see it as a fact, anymore than, say, "love is conditional" or, on the other hand, "loving relationships are unconditional". Two opposing facts, both true in certain aspects. (please don't say "facts don't care about your feelings" lol, not because it's untrue, but because it's so... cliche) I believe the concept of love is as big as the universe, or god, or nature, or whatever you want to call it. I think "love for another person" is what people mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:07 AM
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Oh yeah theres the corporate metaphore again. Sounds like an american dream
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:24 PM
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As opposed to.. not a complete stranger? I dont know, you seem to be weirdly obsessed with this "approval" or "self esteem" thing; whatever that might indicate; some sort of an ego trip?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 08:20 PM
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basic logic of relationships as they are conditional It's not basic logic though, it's a perspective, one of a-many. That's my whole point
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:30 PM
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Is this a parody or something? It sounds like every shallow platitude I've ever heard condensed into one
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:28 PM
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Make it so you are more fun than the last three dates she’s been on or the most interesting person she’s talked to at the bar (or the dudes all her friends have been taking about) and see how replaceable you are You are as replacable as the next (and the previous) guy who thought the same
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:22 PM
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I think self pity is dreadful, but I don't think at all that your "others will value you as much as you value yourself" spiel indicates any more self awareness or awareness in general
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:13 PM
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I believe a committed long term romantic relationship can reach depths that no other type of relationship can, or rather it has its own unique depth that no other type of relationship has. Although that's a bit of a segway from my post which is about financial aspects of these relationships primarily, but anyway I don't think we disagree either, it's just that you seem to view relationships as transactional FIRST and only then all else. I don't look at it that way; Even though it may be a valid …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 06:36 PM
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I do think there's truth in "all relationships are transactional", I just don't think it's the whole truth
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:22 PM
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Why should I actually even treat men like people? Well that's sad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:17 PM
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Life is love and loss and this doesn't diminish the value of "till death do us part" aspirations, at least the way I see it I also don't see how "all relationships being transactional" is relevant to this/discourages one from forming long term committed romantic relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:01 PM
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Life is love and loss and this doesn't make "till death do us part" some sort of a god-awful aspiration, at least the way I see it I also don't see how "all relationships being transactional" is relevant to this/discourages one from forming long term romantic relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:49 PM
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Life is love and loss and that doesn't make "till death do us part" some sort of a god-awful aspiration. At least the way I see it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:30 PM
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white Christian heaven of course you mean white because of the clouds, or race?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:16 PM
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you can get experience by putting yourself in uncomfortable situations until you become comfortable and then confident in them I guess it's different for every individual (since we're generalising) I have put myself in uncomfortable situations (that I never thought I would be able to handle) and I thought that would cause me to get rid of my fears... turns out it's not really so. I guess I would have to keep putting myself in uncomfortable situations, day after day, minute after minote and not s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:00 PM
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Perhaps this place just consists of older, more mature women, who have found immense pleasure in true connection And they seem to get that true connection on reddit, I guess. (just kidding)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 12:30 PM
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Lmao most guys here: "that slut whom I hooked up with once" ALL women: "well my husband ofcourse"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 12:02 PM
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I don't think in terms of "average", but based on looks alone, I would probably be willing to date 1/2 or 1/3 of women my age (Im 27). I guess I'm quite picky as a guy...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:33 PM
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right but it's still plural... you're saying "start looking for quality" as if most men can point their finger and say "that please, thank you". most guys just seem to take what they can get
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:26 PM
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A no-value neutral man, will be a man who does 50/50... There is no difference in the life of the person that he's dating whether he is there or not. His physical presence is the only thing that he brings. This is interesting. I think many men would be content with mere physical presence of a woman, sharing life - time and space with her for the sake of it. For women, it might be a burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:16 PM
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Get to know women as people n find out who’s single who’s not, who’s got stuff in common with you? How else are you going to "know women as people" if you don't approach in numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 08:08 PM
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Yes, even some older ladies I cross on a street (and a lot of them seem to like me for some reason) I find them interesting the first second I see them. Not sexually attracted to them, but yeah, even among grannies, I guess, I find "potentially my type would-be" and "not". So yeah I guess people do mean something to me, even when they're old and disgusting, decaying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:11 PM
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You mean me or yourself? If you mean yourself i am sorry you feel that way. If you mean me, congratulations, i guess you e transcended the inability to be un-sarcastic for a moment. Although i am not angry, no, i am quite glad to be doing this. Giving people a chance to improve at their communication skills
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:39 PM
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Youre being sarcastic again. Why? Why cant you communicate like an adult or just shut the fuck up?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:18 PM
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Fair enough. I still think what people mean by cultivating a personality is mostly a fad though. Personality cultivates itself when you go through certain experiences, but you cant really choose those experiences that change your personality, you can only aim at them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:53 AM
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I wasnt disagreeing with you even but yeah be sarcastic im sure it will help you in some way that im unsure of Also if it wasnt considered uncivil, what i would say to someone making comments in style such as yours is fuck off bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:42 AM
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Right, so whether you put on a rag or golden fucking silk sheets it doesn't really matter because people will want to see you naked regardless. Not everyone has that privilege (and it is a privilege in this context). And the fact that somebody has to buy someone else's tolerance for merely being seen naked... Well, you might call that pathetic. I would call it unfortunate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:06 AM
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"personality" means being an actor of some other personality or conglomerate of personalities You can't invent a new/original personality, you can only act it out in a new/original way (most of this happening subconsciously of course) And whether people will like you acting that out or not, will largely depend on your already-existing, innate characteristics I think "cultivating personality" is a fad People often think "personality" means being the loudest one in the room. Or sometimes being "th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:43 AM
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Everyone has a personality, his is just not so attractive or entertaining Maybe a good advice would be (for men at least) if you're ugly, at least try to stand out. Most people will still be repulsed by you (most even more repulsed, probably) but some of them might find you "unique" then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:34 AM
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Having to buy someone's attraction is pathetic in all scenarios, tbh. I mean you do have to pay for your clothes/style though, right? Even though that "someone" might not be a specific person, you dress up to be more attractive... to someone Or are you gonna say "I do it for me"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:03 AM
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there's a shadow of sadness over him which might be an obstacle. Can you imagine a 6'4 dark kendoll type man with a chiseled face and freezing blue eyes? That "shadow of sadness" would be so sexy on him wouldn't it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:53 AM
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his unmasculine jawline makes him look especially unhygienic right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:38 AM
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Lots of dead dry skin built up on the face? What are the markers of that, how do you see it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:35 AM
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Weightstretch maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:30 AM
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I weigh 60kg (130lbs) and am 173cm (5'8-9). I have a petite frame. I climb regularly and am fit (and can open a jar easily) I feel like this is my optimal body condition. I do not believe in putting on muscle for the sake of mass If being 70kg instead of 60 would mean that I would have had a 3% more chance with women romantically, or even if it was 30%, I still do not see it being a worthwile endeavour
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 08:27 AM
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Sounds very adolescent
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:00 AM
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Women are half of society by that logic. Thats not a small margin Btw I think men should focus more on "a woman" rather than "women". but it just so happens that the way to a woman is through, well, women, in a sense
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 07:40 AM
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I did not find this useful
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:13 PM
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The sort of man who shoots people out of sexual frustration A man who is sexually frustrated enough will have a wet dream or jack off Sexual frustration may be the scapegoat here, but it's really that these guys hadn't experienced love or healthy boundaries their entire lives
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 05:34 PM
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Yeah but not for the reason you think
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 03:57 PM
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The fact that comments such as this are the popular ones here concerns me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:29 AM
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I'm confident but I've got a curved dick and view sex a bit differently, in terms of simple logistics
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:13 AM
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I do not know, why do i care? Can anyone tell me please
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:22 PM
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I dont think those men are all neccessarily so ill intended as you make them out to be. But otherwise fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:19 PM
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I do, I care. Not for her as an individual, or you, because i have no clue who you fucking are, but as a principle... i do care
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:03 PM
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I openly admit it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:54 PM
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I guess youd be concerned if i also told you im currently a nanny then. A male nanny. Hang out with a 2 year old boy, a feew weeks year old-one, and a 16 year old, cute girl, quite regularly Have a nice day. And remember, you can only see in others what is already inside yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:52 PM
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Im glad you think good of your daddy, although im surprised tbh. Girls in puberty (or maybe prolonged puberty in your case?) often want to rebel against the man even though they can hardly do without him
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:42 PM
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Well you wrote an essay describing how american men are trashy when i wanted to point out that the american dynamics between the genders overall seem to be fucked up, rather than one gender being to blame. And do you lack readig comprehension skills or something, do you know what comparative is? Just as trashy - AS relates to something - two things, both trashy. Relatively speaking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:34 PM
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Im not the one generalising here, except that i said i think its partly an american thing No, i dont agree that american men are any trashier than american women are
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:20 PM
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Maybe because you ascribed something to what I said that I didnt actually mean Dont you like your daddy girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:16 PM
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No, i think women are just as trashy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:14 PM
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except if the un-comedic reason is beauty, the beauty in my face. That's also a good reason to make people cry, I guess. Although it has never happened to me... It just might; Maybe if I meet you someday in real life and you happen not to be a lesbian then, or the beauty in my face turns you un-lesbian. maybe that could really happen even, maybe then you would cry not because of sadness, not because of comedy but because of both at the same time. because beauty is unbearable like that and it is …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 11:01 AM
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Well I'm glad to hear that, the last thing I want is to make people cry for un-comedic reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:49 AM
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because your comments annoy me and i would get even more annoyed if i just left it alone LOL. Fair enough. I think we're on the same page moreso than not. Have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:46 AM
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by the way are you crying because of happiness or sadness now? with your new emojis I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:42 AM
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Oh I didn't see it was laughing. Now it makes sense, I can go to sleep in peace now thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:42 AM
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Yeah im not your dude, just wanted to clarify that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:33 AM
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Emojis are supposed to be relevant to context too, no? I dont see how a cat is relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:32 AM
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And im not yours btw
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:24 AM
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A cat? Huh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:24 AM
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It bothers me because you seem to think one day you can just decide to "find" a relationship out of thin air. and that doesnt sound like a recipy for happiness, for yourself or anyone potentially involved. Relationships are a result of long term nourishment. But yeah i dont know, there are also all sorts of relationships, some ppl find happiness in being or having a servant for instance, and im not in a "relationship" myself so ultimately, im talking out of my ass. Why do you bother respondig th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:22 AM
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Only babies get away with i want/dont want "right now", youre not a baby
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:13 AM
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Just say im not looking for a relationship period. "Right now" makes it sound like you think its all about you and as if anyone (besides those whom youre already in some sort of a relationship in) cares which stage of life youre in
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:12 AM
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Relationships are always a priority, whether you mean career relationships, platonic, familial or romantic. I dont think you can juggle between those just when its convenient for you to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:05 AM
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You sound like you're 16. 16 year old girls still need their daddy usually
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:50 AM
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That's why so many guys have issues in dating. You aren't willing to compete? you might lose and don't get to love. Competition is all you do? you might win and don't get to love
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:40 AM
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The majority of the people on this sub (I'm sorry but especially the men) are bitter as fuck I believe it's partly an american thing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:35 AM
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"rn" probably means that you will probably start looking for a relationship when it's probably too late
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:29 AM
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what do you mean by appearing feminine; 1) being overly concerned about how one comes across (being very trendy and fashionable - for instance, even a guy who dresses moreso conventionally masculine - like a guy with a tight suit, colorful pants, sunglasses and a perfectly trimmed lumberjack beard - can look like a pussy, to put it bluntly) or 2) just lacking certain masculine traits? As a guy who is not overly concerned about appearing a certain way... I don't "feel feminine", it's just that I …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:13 AM
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I think it's magnesium, used for climbing also
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:33 AM
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Yeah I don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 06:06 AM
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Yeah those men are pieces of shit too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 05:14 AM
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Strange, you don't seem to value the things that men are to you, yet you can't seem to do without them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 08:04 PM
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You still aren't getting laid unless we feel like it I don't know why, but I imagined some demonic entity with thousands of woman heads saying this
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:33 AM
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Yeah that sounds very awakened, yet it's not how most mere-humans dare to operate
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:33 AM
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Yes it's selfish, of course, there needs to be a balance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:51 PM
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Meh, I think lust is just a "human all too human" thing, nothing wrong with it. The problem is when that lust doesn't have a healthy outlet, either on a personal level, or collectively, in a repressed culture; when it's mixed with shame, feelings of guilt and pervasive ideologies, it can really become toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:04 PM
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Fair enough. I'm not from America and don't date dudes though, so I guess I'll have to take your word for it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:47 PM
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I just gave a bit extreme of an example but I think the point still stands. People are offended by many things today, things that aren't neccessarily meant to be offensive at all
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:18 PM
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You mean courtesy?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:28 PM
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You've responded to the guy who literally claims in his flair that he's a failed fuckboy, and you've said he's exactly the type of guy she needs to protect herself from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:34 AM
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But if an guy like that who is willing to wait, learns that you used to give it in easy to others before him, that will make him completely change his views about you thus making the whole waiting useless. But I'm sure she would say something like "well the guy who changes his views about me because of my past is just insecure and I won't like him anyways". Which I guess is not a bad aspiration - wanting a guy who has his jealousy and all his animal instincts totally under control - It's just th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:22 AM
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Man I guess I must be living on some other planet that I don't see 3 months of going out for ice cream, talking about life and teasing each other with eye-fucks implying an emotional connection that one sweaty, hot night doesn't. I think pretty much everyone (including myself) who is looking for a way to minimise the risk is doomed to fail, spiraling ever more into a self defensive isolation; If you're lucky, you get that safe and unexciting option, and if you're extremely lucky you get a sort o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:08 AM
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She's trying to protect herself from "a failed fuckboy"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:48 AM
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More men have cock- or relationship-blocked themselves with me by opening their mouths and letting selfish, insensitive or bigoted words fall out than anything else "I like you and can imagine our future together" - would you consider this statement selfish, insensitive or bigoted? Because it possibly implies the guy is trying to lock her down, limit her freedom, oppress her, possibly even marry her and in this way support the patriarchy - at least that's how a lot of folks see it these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:04 AM
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Well with marriage you do sort of put your all into someone else. And even if you don't put in your all, but "just" a lot; which just makes it a matter of semantics; life can still happen and with it, not neccessarily betrayal, but death, for instance... of course you're going to be sad. Why shouldn't you cry, what's wrong with you? The alternative is not really committing to any other person. Which seems to be a popular option today. People saying vows just for the sentiment of it. Wanting that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:21 AM
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Im actually a nanny currently, a male nanny. I offer much more than childcare. And im not arguing, not putting so much energy into this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:21 PM
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Also I think the first sentence gives you away. It's not her kids, it's ours
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:40 PM
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Don't hun me, you're not my babe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:35 PM
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Speaking from my experience, anger is a poor substitute for motivation. It's too compulsive, costing and unconscious Also it depends on what you mean by "work" (in manual labour it probably doesn't matter as much) but generally quality beats quantity every time. It can be shocking to realise how much you can do with so little, if your body and mind are in tune; and I believe anger indicates that that's probably not the case
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:10 PM
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Well I don't go around taking in breaths and thanking god for it every second of the day, but if I'd met a person with some horrible lung disease, sure, I'd have to be ungrateful and spoiled beyond belief not to deem it as a privilege in that context Also, trying to have a debate only on your terms doesn't make you very likeable you know
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:25 PM
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Women would like to fuck and raise kids with someone they like a lot Yeah but the problem for women (and a lot of men) is that the person who she would like to fuck and the person that would be good for raising kids with often do not come in the same package
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:54 AM
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But yeah I need a person people I feel safe with, can count on and who I deeply enjoy spending time with Since you don't want monogamy, a person isn't enough I would assume?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:47 AM
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The person you’re in a relationship with is your team member like no one else, the two of you against the world. You have each other’s backs more than anyone. Are you still in the honeymoon period? Just half-joking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:43 AM
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Does she have a restraining order on you, does she own the park or something? Otherwise you sound a bit pathetic tbh, no offence, I get it, but like, you're gonna avoid the places she might go to for all your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:36 AM
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And complaining, that's a choice too. In fact it's a privliege
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:34 AM
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"just don't be born"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:34 AM
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How about we stop raising men to think sleeping with woman is success and raise them to chase some other purpose in life?? What makes you assume the purpose of life isn't life itself? Unfortuntely for life, if some of ya'll don't like sex, or the other gender as a whole; the way for life to produce more life still happens to be by putting a penis into a vagina. You think men want to do that because "society tells them to"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 02:18 PM
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Too many missed chances and she will give up Yeah I am probably risk averse in some areas of life more (possibly too much), and others less so. I guess I'm trying to gauge what her - each individual woman's - threshold of giving up is, so to speak. The problem is, you can only realise that when she had already given up And what does she do when she had already "given up"? Does she still leave the door open for me, if I show her that I'm willing to make up for it? Even people in marriages "give u…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 08:19 AM
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By being bad at grooming Yeah men should definitely learn to groom women better. Jokes aside... I agree with you more than not, but I don't think it's so much about "putting effort into conversation". A lot of men, and people in general for that matter, are just not that interested in other people as individuals, but just see them as a means to an end, so the only aspect they could improve their conversational skills in, is in some machiavellian, manipulative way You are either interested in a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 07:05 AM
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Not only do men have to believe they are skilled actors, they have to be to some degree. Because yes, even as you make a decision in less than a milisecond, it is still "planned" and "not spontaneous" As for women having supernatural perception abilities, that has not been my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:52 AM
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I do get that feeling with some people (i think some of it has to do with the fact that i genuienly like people, especially those who also like people) but it is never followed by "wanna meet sometimes". Because each of us assumes that the other already has things to do and just appreciate the fleetig interaction for what it is, when it is. I guess ill try to take the initiative next time when i get that feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 06:34 AM
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Are you a friendly, introspective person who has trouble crossing the threshold from acquaintance to friend? bingo. Thanks friend, swimming does sound fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:19 PM
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But that's "people's feelings", don't you see lady?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:12 PM
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Nope, I don't really have friends. I get along with people quite well and I used to have close friends, but they're kind of gone now Group meetings - there's like literally a website where random people suggest doing random activities together. I haven't gotten to it yet, but maybe someday
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:11 PM
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Lady, that's a shitty medical system, not "repression of women's emotions starting in childhood"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:05 PM
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I’m fortunate that I have a great family and an attractive not an overly repulsive personality I would say for myself. your inner thinking (feelings/sensations) vs. your relationships with friends and family and engagement in activities - that's xactly what I mean by balance between inner and outer life. And yes I would guess you are content doing things by yourself - like myself mostly - because you have had a great family backing you up. So that's definitely a component of this balance, a priv…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:56 PM
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Nah, I'm pretty sure most women like the approach to be somewhat spontaneous (by the right guy of course) so unless you jump into her toilet or something, there are hardly any places that are out-of-place (if you're the right guy of course) and of course it depends on the context
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:45 PM
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Most of the men don't get success while dating(by their own doing) what do you mean by their own doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:41 PM
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In fact, stranger still I noticed the more interested a woman in conversation, the less she would have looked at me beforehand That's an interesting point. The best "relationship" I've had with a girl was when she didn't even know about me beforehand and I just took my shot. Also she didn't really seem impressed when she first saw me but seemed to have warmed up quite quickly. Maybe she respected my courage and my intentionallity, as in "he must really like me AND have the courage enough to appr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:35 PM
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I mean I've had a few female classmates I could name, who started crying in the middle of the class and got a better grade because of it, directly because of it. Whether it was manipulation or not is irrelevant to this issue Also "are you on your period" in this context sounds like a stupid adolescent insult (and I'm sure in a certain context it could be a perfectly reasonable, although personal, question) Do you have an example how this "repressing of female emotions" as you say starts in child…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:28 PM
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That "way of life" you describe resonates with mine. But in order to view life that way I believe you have to be somewhat balanced to begin with. Have some sort of a balance between richness of outer and inner life Let's say you don't have many things going on for you in "outer life"; you may want to actively pursue some of those things. Or if you prefer, you have to passively stumble into them; actively put yourself into situations where you might stumble into them... Like "casually joining a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 01:16 PM
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Furthermore, as some guys are “yellow lights”, it makes things more complicated because he might be the kind of guy she could be interested in, but she’s not going to outwardly display it because even she doesn’t know if she is interested in him yet. Damn, this is like The average guy manual 101 And then they get married and she's still figuring out whether she's really interested or not
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:54 PM
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By being passive I mean exactly what you said "it can hurt, but would the pain of not knowing be worse?" And I don't neccessarily mean the pain of not knowing about some particular girl, but the pain of not knowing whether you've missed out on 1000s of chances. Let's say you get old, still single and bitter about it; that pain is probably a lot worse than the pain of having approched a girl when you were 25 and being rejected So yes I think we see eye to eye here
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:47 PM
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calling me beautiful and sweet for giving them water and gloves Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:41 PM
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Huh, that's a strangely encouraging comment bro
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:37 PM
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I think it doesn’t hurt to try It absolutely does hurt to try, as in it may induce actual physical pain But the question is is there a way to deal with that pain? Because being passive often just makes it worse in the long run
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:36 PM
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> They treat you the way you treat yourself Yeah... no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:33 PM
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You would consider yourself to be in the latter group?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:24 PM
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Lol wut. You've ever heard "woman up" or "stop crying you little bitch" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:19 PM
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Yeah, I guess I've been waiting for some girl to "go out of her way" to show interest in me, but everytime it happenes, on the rare occasion that it does, I think there must be something wrong with her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:14 PM
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And try to avoid hitting on women where there's no basis to justify your idea she's attracted to you, like in the case of somebody "looking" at you I mean, depends on the context but considering that the visual field is quite a wide thing; if someone chooses to look into your eyes and linger there, assuming that it's a sign of some sort of interest isn't such a wild guess, is it? That's the point, there's never enough basis to justify your idea that she's attracted to you. So why not just take a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:08 PM
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I wouldn't say it's so much about losing status (let's face it most men don't really have much to lose there)... it's about not feeling the literal physical pain in your chest that comes with rejection. While a lot of people like to spew platitudes such as "it's just your ego bro, get over it" it's way deeper than that do I think we should try to overcome that and navigate through that inevitable discomfort that comes with risking rejection? Yes absolutely. Do I think we can generalise and say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:18 AM
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Guys need to learn, unless she's sitting on your lap, or some other form of blatantly showing that she wants you, it's a no But if you want a girl, isn't it better to assume "it's a maybe" rather than "no"? Even if that maybe turns out to be (and probably does) no-way-in-hell
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:02 AM
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I mean I'm an average guy and still get some hints (although few and far in between) and it's not like I can stop flirting on cue, it's a deep instinct And it's not like I think every girl who looks at me is in love with me, but more like she sees a potential in me and would maybe like to see if there's anything actual behind that (even if that's friendship; women are obviously not nearly as averse to random interactions turning out to be "just friendships" as guys are) Most of us guys are avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:59 AM
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Your edit from "stubborn" to "thickheaded" probably does make sense lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:31 AM
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I think you're asking the wrong question in the title, but also... > I feel incomplete and, after long enough without any sexual attention, worthless. And that's after 6 months. I do have diagnosed depression and anxiety ... you have sort of answered it yourself. The question isn't neccessarily how can some people go so long without sex; it's why do some people feel like shit regardless of whether they are having sex or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 08:40 AM
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A woman that slept with other men in her twenties should be condemned if you meet her in her thirstier Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:42 AM
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Fair enough, thanks for your reply
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:43 PM
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huh, I spent like 20 minutes trying to articulate myself well, while for some other posts I spent maybe 10? While it also doesn't seem to be any more general/un-particular than my other posts? Maybe the subject that's essentially about free speech is a touchy one here, I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:10 AM
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I didn't know that. I think individuals who wrote those manifestos and those who openly support them should be regulated
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:58 AM
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I'm not arrogant enough to presume a general intent of one individual, let alone a whole group of individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:55 AM
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I think we should put responsibility on each individual whether belonging to a group or not
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:54 AM
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Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:49 AM
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No you kind of stated it as a general rule. And now you kind of tried to inslut me so bye
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:45 AM
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Those communities let people validate completely unhinged ideas But you're aware that Hitler could have easily said something along this line about Jews? It's dangerous to blame groups - even if perhaps sometims they are to be blamed - for something that individuals in said groups do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:43 AM
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Lol, you go ahead and read it bro no one's stopping you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:35 AM
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I don't see how conversations can help Lol why reply then?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:28 AM
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You don't get there by blaming women; you get there by taking a good, honest look at yourself. I'm also all for constructive (self)criticism and strategic planning. I still don't see how banning TRP (and FDS for that matter) is better than allowing/regulating it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:21 AM
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We're all interdependent and some people want some things more than others do, so I don't neccessarily agree. Also, I find "forming" a relationship to be a better term than "scoring"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:11 AM
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I'm all for 1) to whatever degree that is possible for each individual as for 2) isn't that exactly what inc*ls like to spew? How is bringing women down "helping men help themselves"? That doesn't sound very motivating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:07 AM
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Well not everyone has friends Or they think that "community is their only friend", which is probably not so Also not everyone knows or admits to themselves they need therapy, nor do they have anyone to encourage them to get therapy I still don't see how allowing/regulating these communities does any more harm than banning them does
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:02 AM
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No one cares I stopped reading here, even though you might have a point
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:55 AM
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They're not neccessarily delusional (any more than anyone else) just miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:26 AM
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No it’s not, if men really wanted to increase their chances of getting a gf/wife they would go to university. Instead they are increasingly becoming less educated than women. While education might bring you a wife, it probably won't make her panties wet
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:27 PM
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Great comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:18 PM
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If you date someone crazy you'd maybe want some stability in your life Oh, the first one was crazy. It's a miracle I found the strength to even pursue the second one... But yeah, I never got the impression that women would be the thing that brought stability to my life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:11 PM
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I guess this post also feeds into the point why a lot of women dislike the fact that attractive men often see individual women as just another of their options
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 09:05 AM
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Male sex drive is highlighted because its stronger. I also grew up in the balkans, sort of
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:49 PM
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I still regret it and would really like to help guys struggling with this shit because I know the feeling. What do you regret about the relationship? I've had a fling like that too, I guess. And I would like to think I've grown since then - I've had one fling since then, which was better, healthier - but really I've just kind of let it all go. The idea of relationships, dating, "getting sex"... Which I feel is not really an improvement. Although I must say I do notice some patterns (basically I …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:18 PM
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Guys should strive for being sexually satisfied Oh, they do, we do. The whole bloody existence revolves around that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:09 PM
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so how do you know that the aversion to other dicks being involved in sex is not just your sexual represion and shame? because I was never averse to pussy, even when I was sexually repressed. I was never even apathetic about pussy; it was (or would have been) just my coping mechanism, so to speak, to call myself apathetic or asexual in that scenario As for porn, yeah that's an interesting question. Why do most straight guys that watch porn watch the one that also involves balls? I don't know. Ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:06 PM
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most men need to have some period of time where they realize that they actually are interesting to women on a sexual level Question is, are most men interesting to women on a sexual level, or how interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:25 PM
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The guy in the first paragraph doesn’t exist I think it's a quite real phenomena, case in point ugly old white dudes spending their "retirement" with 16 year old brown girls in 3rd world countries; Plenty of those. Although I agree, they probably don't "fuck like pornstars" The guy in the third scenario has become enlightened... perhaps; he fucked before he got enlightened though. So what are you saying guys should strive for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:23 PM
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Surprisingly most people know what they like and don't like without having to try it. That's a very broad and unquantifiable generalisation I used to be sexually repressed and ashamed about my sexuality, and I'm sure the ashamed-part-of-myself could have come up with a rationalisation such as "I'm asexual" in order not to deal with my fears and disgust; Taking on a sexual identity that would help me cope with the discord between what I should(n't) desire and what I do desire Now, most people who…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:59 AM
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None, because I am averse to dicks, other than mine, being involved in sex that I'm (not) having. If I was merely apathetic about other dicks, your comment might actually be relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:15 AM
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Can you really know you're apathetic about something until you've tried it? I don't think the label asexual is unnecessary since it's probably an outlier thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 10:58 AM
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Well if there's any Alabama readers here... best to make it clear
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 10:21 AM
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"Increase the likelihood" yes, now, that's more realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 03:10 PM
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Basically you said you feel inadequate and lacking as a man and that's why you would find it difficult to have a relationship I didn't say that, nor imply it. We have very differing views obviously. You keep talking about sex but haven't once mentioned anything about a family. Family, you know? a precondition for which is both sex and work, although where hopefully sex doesn't equal work. You make a jump from "no relationship" to "sex deprivation" as if the act of sex is the pinnacle of this lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:55 PM
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Your comment seems so backwards I can't even. Maybe I need to visit NY one day to be able to relate to your reasoning processes or the lack thereof
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 01:13 PM
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Yeah, no, im not talking about finding a way to fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:59 AM
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You sound like a teenager in rebellion phase. Should is not the enemy of happiness, in fact doing the right thing is the only way to be happy, even though were all discovering what the right thing is in the first place. So i disagree with your premise Also you dont have sex potentially lol, its quite an actual thing. so i dont think i am the one... overthinking here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:57 AM
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"The woman will come somewhere along the way"... youre a woman, no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 05:55 AM
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I think the fact that theres literally a meme called "just shower bro" indicates that it might be a bit of an oversimplification
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 04:24 PM
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No, I have no problem with someone disagreeing with me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 03:27 PM
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Huh. Different strokes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:43 PM
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If youve got a solution to percieving concepts in ways other than boxing them in so to speak, im all ears As for your "unlikely to work very well?" Fuck your discouraging lame ass. I hope you keep that shit on reddit because its unlikely to work very well in person
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:41 PM
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Shower lol, of all the analogies that you could find
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:28 PM
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Maybe that's why there's a thing called tragicomedy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:27 PM
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fair enough bro, have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:26 PM
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Oh, no, I wasn't talking about anything magical (like having a partner support you while you put your life on track) I was questioning how ridiculous it is to even think about getting a partner in the first place, when your life is, relatively, out of order
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:23 PM
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Well then the question is, are two unstable people better than one? I guess it depends on particular individuals in particular situations
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:16 PM
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Wow, a sympathetic point of view. A rare gem indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:14 PM
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Yeah, I actually wrote "i hope this doesn't turn into a AFBB debate" and then deleted it because, geez, what are the odds ey?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:12 PM
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It's just a date... what if there's thousands of "just-a-dates"? Then it's just a half of a lifetime?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:10 PM
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Interesting, I'm an introvert myself, and I guess the reason I'm hoping to "merge my life" with someone else is so that I don't have to merge it too much with more than one... we're interdependent anyhow. But yeah, as I look at some old couples isolated from pretty much everything but each other, they don't look too happy, especially when one of them passes away; maybe I've been sold a fairytale ending that doesn't exist, or very rarely does
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:36 PM
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joke's on you, I don't have a car
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:30 PM
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huh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:25 PM
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Thats a nice, practical contribution, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:00 PM
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Well if i wanted to screw around with someone, i could probably do it now, without getting my life together first So i guess you and i have different goals in mind Nor do i want someone to solve my problems in particular. Women cause me problems from afar - you think Im looking for a woman to solve my problems when shes up close and in front of me? No, its just that relationships, families are somehing people do and have always done. An issue that makes life worth solving, at least i see it that…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:54 AM
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Im not sure thats the most consoling answer, but definitely a refreshening perspective. Nice to hear that dude, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:17 AM
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I mean, ideas are often expressed in binaries, even though not absolutes, because its just more convenient to express them that way, especially on reddit where you dont have he means to put in the work neccessary to elaborate every detail and perspective of your point. Your reply sounds like that of someone with Asperger's who had just discovered the meanig of the word NUaNcE and feels all proud to actually be able to use it in grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:11 AM
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What if you think "damn she's hot, I want to touch her whole body" do you think there's something wrong with that? You think Jesus would have thought there's something wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:57 PM
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"I just think about this when I jack off, I don't really even have any desire to do it" How is that even possible? You think jacking off is okay but seeing a woman and thinking to yourself "damn she's hot" is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:02 PM
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Huh i didnt know it had nothing to do with the english word. A coincidence i guess. Grasping at straws, im not sure about that. Full of shit, yeah probably right
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:34 PM
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I happen to be in Switzerland right now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:48 PM
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Well, I'm from Slovenia (the word slovenly literally means untidy, filthy) A tiny country where - although we do not consider ourselves savages, like for instance our southern Balkan countries - a lot of people here live their life by finding "holes in the system" (pun intended). I guess that's why we're so fucked (pun intended again). Educated criminals if you will So, yes, the culture runs deep, I guess... I'm trying to poke the holes in the question of morality here, so far it hasn't worked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:18 PM
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I won't be the guy who laughs and jokes with a man to his face and fucks his wife behind his back Yeah, that's got to be awkward, especially if the wife is also there BTW am I far off in saying that you sound a bit machiavellian?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:53 AM
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Do you think sin starts at the level of fantasizing? (whether you're religious or not, I think the word sin, even though archaic, still applies) Perhaps fantasizing is not wrong in itself, but a sign that something isn't right, especially on the potentially-cheating spouse's part?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:48 AM
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Fair enough. How wrong do you think it is? Depending on the context, there are clearly degrees to "wrong", right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:19 AM
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You sure about that? You sure he isn't a "if I'm going down, you're all going down with me" type of a a maniac? Besides he could probably move to the moon, watch people die through telescope and laugh until he passes of old age
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 11:09 AM
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Yeah... I'm not claiming any moral high ground though The war in the world is a constant, and only when it starts happening closer to my home does it start to concern me apparently Although we have to admit, this situation is really... different
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:06 PM
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I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but maybe you Americans need a war on your own continent for once to set your priorities straight Maybe then you'll see war as something else than an opportunity to take a stance against your political opponents or something to watch through screens during lunch because you're a bit bored
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:15 AM
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By the end of the century, it's predicted that Niger will have more people than China. Just a fun fact
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:02 PM
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"You can't fire me, i quit" maybe that's how the concept of free will was invented
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:27 AM
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"Why does society" is not that good of a question IMO, but "why does the individual"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 10:57 AM
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Sure, an overconfident minority do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:53 AM
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I think that there are very attractive women out there that have men constantly throwing themselves at them That's not what I've seen (outside of social media). Men believe that extremely attractive women must get approached all the time, so most don't bother to even try.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 08:55 AM
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I think I'll just get off PPD... a bunch of nasty fuckers ya'll are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:57 AM
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I didn't mean to post this on ppd rofl
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:54 AM
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sorry bro
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:53 AM
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OMG this is PPD AHAHAHAHAH
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:53 AM
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Yeah, that's what I do. Stumble around like a disoriented maniac with an occasional feeling of unfounded superiority, collecting my artefacts of pride and then having them be demolished... over and over again. Cheers!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:36 AM
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Oh I don't need to wait for that lol. Btw are you on PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:30 AM
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the wrong way Maybe I am. What do you think is the right way? Not for me, for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:28 AM
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To believe one half of the population has had the power to brainwash another half, you must think very lowly of humans in general It's really sad to me how some view power as dominance, viewing history as this battle between the oppressor and the oppressed. How do you think we would have gotten here if that was the case? We are each suited for different, complementary roles. Nobody can do everything. Not everyone can be a mother for instance... And people who look down on motherhood are just los…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 07:58 PM
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PPD is the closest thing to a dating life for me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 07:18 PM
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What good is "committment" when it's due to not having options?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:55 PM
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Maybe if I keep ignoring women I will not only convince them, but myself, that I really don't care?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:18 AM
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"You can put a man in jail, but not his ideas". IDK who the fuck said that but it wasn't fucking Socrates. Maybe Diogenes, the guy who decided to live in a barrel because of, erm, philosophy...reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:10 AM
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Don't be surprised if some women get into dolls after seeing me be into dolls. No, I would still be surprised. You don't strike me as someone whom women would collectively look up to, no offence But I guess I get what you're saying here, women are more agreeable than men, which is true; but the same "milestones for success" you noted are in fact applied to men as well, if not more so. It's just that men don't conform to "society" as much as women do; where you do get it very, very wrong however,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:45 AM
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Lol I have no idea what you're on about but I got to say you surprise me with your answers sometimes. Not because they make sense but because they're surprising
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:59 AM
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Personally, I don't think I am missing out much by not having sex, as any loser can have sex if they stoop down low enough It's the romance/intimacy part that gets to me though, or at least my fantasy-idea of romance/intimacy I rarely even have dreams of fucking women (in fact I wish I had them more often lol) but quite often have dreams of being friends with a woman who I'm also flirtatious, and romantic, and playful with; physical but not in a PIV way So I guess I'm in the same boat regarding …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:29 AM
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You're a girl who looks like a boy, who fucks a girl doll, whose idea of advocating for loser men is encouraging them to be content with scraps while discouraging them from becoming stronger, on a subreddit Purple Pill Debate, right? Just checking in as to how much you believe your opinions really amount to here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:06 AM
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That’s called hierarchical polyamory and it’s what my girlfriend and I have practiced for nearly three years now with literally zero drama You're not planning to have children are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:43 AM
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enjoy sharing their wives Like a spare tire
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:42 AM
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vibrator is an "impersonation" of a dick, robot is an impersonation of a person with a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:12 AM
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Plus he's a robot That's even worse, do you even know how much frame and dread game robots have bro? I'm sure you would be the one that ends up doing dishes for him... You'd get cucked by a robot
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:10 AM
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that are very good looking and don’t have much of a personality because they never needed to develop one to get laid lol That's game, not personality lol Your comment reminds me of a 5'5 guy who feels like he needs to compensate by growing his beard to appear more masculine, and calls his beard a "personality"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:57 AM
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I broke my dick trying to fuck my own asshole Pause. yes you've read that correctly I was circumcised as a kid. And when I started masturbating it felt like there wasn't enough sensitivity, so I experimented in all sorts of ways. Once I came upon this video where a man was half flaccid or something, pushing his dick in to his own asshole and I guess I wanted to have what he was having... So out of frustration and childish impulsivity, I tried imitating him and... snap Now I have a dick that curv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 02:07 PM
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I'm a 27m - getting into the zone where finding a partner my own age "looking for something more serious" is a bit sketchy Also I'm not the traditional-type-of-attractive, so the type of women I seem to attract are the type of women that... are not my type edit: not my type in a sense of they will usually have piercings or some shit which is not what I'm into
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:33 AM
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At least 5 times. 2 out of those happened when I was like 12 years old Girls can really be vicious man
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:20 AM
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ouside a mosque
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:08 AM
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Okay. You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 01:06 PM
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But do you want it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:07 AM
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I can send you my dickpic, would that be proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:25 AM
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Many women pretend to be offended, and when they're 40 and noone yells profanities at them anymore, then they're REALLY offended
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 07:48 AM
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maybe to you. you're not women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 06:27 AM
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It's a very comfy arrangement for the women. Until they get herpes. Or rabies - the baby ones
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:11 PM
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conversion rate fuckin genie
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 06:55 PM
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why are you like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 06:46 PM
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ok
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 06:40 PM
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U gay bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 02:46 PM
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The emotional consequences of that incident for me were so bad that it took me YEARS to "get over it". Why? If you don't mind elaborating. That doesn't sound like some sort of a traumatic experience to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:54 AM
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It's not an argument But fair enough. As a 5'7 guy myself I've had plenty of bad experiences, but also some good ones. I could easily, easily have ended up bitter and jaded by now, and sometimes I am feeling that way. But other times I'm not - And I guess that's just my luck. So I don't really know a solution to this But one thing I'm certain of, it's definitely not "mastery of emotion" or a lack of emotions that makes me not feel bitter and jaded. I would rather say it's acting out and having a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:55 PM
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fair enough. you too!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:27 PM
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Intimidation definitely plays a role in sexual attraction You don't see how someone with a disadvantage could consider not having that disadvantage, ie being normal, a privilege?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 09:42 AM
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It's not about having a right or a justification for being bitter and jaded. It's about whether being bitter and jaded is gonna help you - probably not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:32 AM
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The fact that 5'5 men exist are proof of no god That's not true. What if god is a sadomasochist?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:30 AM
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that's like a rich person telling a hobo "money isn't everything"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:26 AM
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thanks bro, hvala bre... sjeverni susjed ovdje ;) mali svijet Eurogirlsescort... sliši se bolja opcija nego Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:05 PM
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Where from Eu are you if you don't mind me asking? I saw your comment about how you had a little "affair with a hooker" and was wondering where in Eu that might have been, or was it perhaps abroad? asking for a friend of course
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:06 PM
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what's a warm approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:01 PM
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I resonate with your message but I dont think making it a "just ego" thing helps Approval of a woman (and men) reaches deep into the bone and it can't be brushed off as something wholly superficial... ego is an important aspect of personality that we cant simply overcome. So I do get men who have faced continual rejection stop trying. Or maybe some never tried at all Saying that cold approaching can lead to legal charges however... man i don't know, i'm from Europe where we sort of follow your t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 12:46 PM
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Having a childless person admit they regret not having kids is probably even harder than having a person with children admit they regret having them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:34 PM
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elbow deep in shit and puke If this is what you think of when you think of having children... Man, I can only imagine the highlights of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:19 PM
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My first one was like that, she was "experienced" and enthused about how she could teach me things Considering how I didn't get a second time with her, even though it was obviously enjoyable for both of us... I don't think dynamics like that tend to work, at least the way I see it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:15 PM
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the difference between a virgin and a one-timer is only slight Yeah, I had sex two times in my life with two different girls... I may have "ticked the box" but I don't feel any more sexually competent or desirable than before I didn't even come with those girls because I guess the senses are over stimulated or I felt too self conscious to completely relax... Sort of like yawning with mouth wide open in public So the next point on my bucket list is, fill a girl's hole with cum? God, the ever-expa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:32 AM
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The problem with such generic statements is that you could conclude from it that Auschwitz was also nature's way of weeding out the weak/undesirables Bullying is nature's way of reminding us how we're still monkeys, monkeys with very sophisticated cruelty
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:22 AM
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If you are a manipulative sociopath you have it easy; regardless of gender. If you have morals, you suffer No that's just your excuse to be a shitty human being I had never met a manipulative sociopath who would be content and satisfied for more than a split second
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 08:49 AM
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For all I know, the more outlandish and stupid takes here are posted to trigger people And now that Reddit, along with Youtube, have decided that the ratio of likes/dislike doesn't matter - yet voter count still being the deciding factor - OUTRAGE IS THE FUTURE
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:51 PM
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You're as useful as you can be in given circumstance. Sure maybe none of us is damaged and there isn't any improvement to be done on either part... I just highly doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:12 PM
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Well sexual passion definitely involves an element of selfishness You dont kiss someone like you would give out a donation, well, hopefully... You do it because you want to and, ideally, the other person does too I get your struggle though, I had been in what I feel is a very similar situation as yourself, and while it got better with time (away from that person), I haven't really got it sorted out. I still dont know whether she is the damaged one, or me, or we both are. Also I am single and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:03 PM
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Things can get complicated when you want to fuck somebody but also help them, am I right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:26 PM
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guys wanting a quick fuck. Through reddit? Are you being serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:27 AM
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A guy I know, from Europe, went to the USA and said that it's the only place he ever saw people carrying around their own BUCKET of hamburgers on a football game
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:14 PM
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fair enough. I felt personally offended and actually hurt by your comment because not only I found it stupid, but evil; but in the same way you can't fight fire with fire, I shouldn't have reacted the way I did
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 12:48 PM
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Why is it weird? The fact that I'm even replying to comments like yours proves that not the brigtest of minds gather around here, wouldn't you say? So if nothing else, we're in the same boat regarding that - the boat of stupidity. Enjoy your stay!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 11:05 AM
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I think my IQ just dropped for like 3 points
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:24 AM
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Meh, I cope
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:05 PM
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I had learned that the best, or the only way, to get attention from women is appearing as if I was deeply involved in something, having my own mission, a sort of a tunnel vision. As soon as I focused on the girl, I lost. So in the same way, stopping in the middle of the street, going out of my own way to meet a stranger, indicates that I can easily be swayed from my own direction, purpose, intent... Even if I don't have one I only cold approached, and was successful, once. I don't regret it. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 07:08 AM
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Women have pubs, clubs and tinder. Just like McDrive. A dream come true
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:32 AM
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oh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:26 AM
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huh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 06:35 AM
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Penis and vagina? You're asking me that, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:09 PM
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Me, Me, Me, happiness, happiness, happiness, more, more, more...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:07 PM
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i also invite men to decenter the importance of sex and "getting women" Lol, it's not like our very existence depends on that or something, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:44 PM
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she needs to disclose every detail of her sexual past "So, what was his penis like, honey?"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 08:32 PM
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he says getting handjobs by someone else feels much better than doing it solo When I was a teenager, during mastrubation I would sometimes close one of my eyes so that I could only see my dick being stroked, and I liked to imagine someone else was doing it. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:08 PM
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good strong corn fed women that can throw down like a man and like a bowl in a china shop you mean a bull in the china shop? still, that's one golden sentence you've put together there. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 06:11 AM
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Seduction (the game) is fun. There is no game to be played with a proud uninhibited slut this guy knows
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 06:08 AM
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as they should
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 03:46 PM
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Hope I happen to cross their paths someday soon. They might have just the type of girl issues I'm starving for right now
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 03:38 PM
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that's interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 03:26 PM
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Dont you have a daughter?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 10:58 AM
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I dont know what that means but i doubt it works that way
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 10:34 AM
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right but you're different
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:08 AM
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you mean a handful win on this decay
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:02 AM
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In India many people, women included, prefer arranged marriages. And they're definitely not any more miserable on a societal scale than we are One factor might be "there's no escape", sure, but while you may see it as "they CAN'T choose" they may see it as "we DON'T HAVE TO choose" and trust their parents judgement more They also might have a much less naive view of "love" as a culture. Which may be hard to come to terms with, since we see ourselves as the "evolved" ones
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 01:35 PM
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I think Jordan Peterson summed it up pretty well; the problem with treating somebody as a casual partner is that you're treating yourself as a casual partner
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 06:54 AM
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It's about what's being implied, or said implicitly When a girl rejects you and says "eventually you will find someone who loves you for who you are" she might be thinking of a dog. And she is techincally not lying. But in that scenario that's disingenious, like this OP I'm not blaming girls for this though, it is just human nature to try to manouver through life with little lies to make our day a bit easier
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 06:26 PM
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I don't know, I don't think Freud was the epitome of a brightest mind either (Source: Jung). He had some interesting ideas though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 08:28 AM
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Forrest Gump was also not particularly intelligent but he had some remarkable insights. I'm not saying this is a remarkable insight, it's just an interesting observation
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 08:16 AM
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No doubt, but he seemed to have liked em in all sizes, from all angles
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 08:14 AM
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Jordan Peterson said that the Crumb movie is probably the best representation of the Freudian-Oedipal nightmare and called Robert Crumb "a hero albeit a very warped one" Robert's two brothers didn't get through so leisurely though, unfortunately. That's what the blurred personal boundaries caused by a smothering, overprotective mother and an overbearing, emotionally distant father can do The most interesting thing from that movie to me is probably when they interviewed a female prostitute; she s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 03:20 PM
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I don't think it's neccessarily worse, just more discrete, and therefore quantifiable It seems there are a handful of men who are emotionally and physically abusive to an extreme degree. And those few men may actually skew the statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 09:04 PM
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It seems we're debating semantics at this point. My point was, I don't think the chances of a woman meeting a man who will ruin her life, is any greater than a man meeting a woman who will ruin his
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 08:36 PM
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Of course, as you should feel entitled to mine. Otherwise we wouldn't be able to walk the streets without bumping into each other due to not willing to step out of our own ways
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:52 PM
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ignoring requires a certain effort
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:10 PM
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I think indifference can be just as much of a monstrosity as malignancy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:07 PM
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There are different types of monsters. One may beat you to death and eat your remains, or other such phenomena that can be quantified by statistics; another may torture you to death without you even knowing it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:01 PM
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pray you don't get it wrong that one time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 11:54 AM
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most women aren't monsters either
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:44 AM
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cucumba?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:42 AM
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It's just a phase
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 07:41 AM
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good for y'alls
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 07:49 AM
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And he's very lucky to have me. Are you lucky to have him?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 07:31 AM
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That's a giant step you've made there
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 07:49 AM
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universal healthcare that sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 07:42 AM
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glory glory holelujah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 07:48 AM
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Was the guy she met more conventionally attractive than yourself? You also said your looks are what initially attracted her to you. And you said "she fell out of love" (which I would assume means she stopped being physically attractied to you).. Makes me wonder how much the "emotional bond" actually counts, considering she changed her mind in two weeks or so Considering you've also said you would take her back instantly, and you've also said that you don't hate women, but dislike them... Do you …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 08:13 AM
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That wasn't my point. And I'm in the attic actually
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 06:24 PM
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I also said I became "the perfect girlfriend", that might have had something to do with you thinking that :p
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 06:20 PM
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And clavicles, too, yes I've heard plenty of women say how a certain body part (that may otherwise be considered totally absurd) is "soo cute" and gives them an ASMR feeling in the groin of their brain, or something... when it's attached to a guy they already like for some reason other than that body part How about men? As long as it somewhat reminds them of a female foo foo or boo boo - female as in general - whether it be a tree hollow, an extinguish pipe, a donkey, an old homeless lady that s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:30 PM
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Wait.. I'm a dude though. lol (I seem to have overlooked a few remarks that you responded with) which doesn't change the crux of the issue I guess. but still.. Fair enough. I agree with you more than disagree actually
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 03:05 PM
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Being turned on by watching someone jack off and being turned on by an anatomical part (which could possibly be cut off from the actual body and would still arouse a decent chunk of men) are two different things Also, those sound like an exception, which could hardly prove a rule
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 01:39 PM
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Right, that's exactly what I'm saying; bothering with what women find attractive does not make a guy masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 08:56 AM
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Well, one indication that it's different is, most guys when they recieve a nude pic; no matter the context, in fact the more unsolicited the better; they are fucking ecstatic, their day (or month) is fulfilled Coupled with the fact that any given man could probably find a way to jerk off to one tenth of a picture of a boob alone Women.. not so much, from what I can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 08:53 AM
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not in the same way men are attracted to women's, that's for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 07:51 AM
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the biggest problems come from the fact that a lot of people weren't educated on what the opposite gender is attracted to I've heard this plenty of times here but don't think it's the issue I grew up with two sisters and was always bombarded with "you should do that, you should be like that" but the issue is, I listened too much and observed too little; this way I was molded into a perfect girlfriend So I don't think men should bother too much about what women find attractive. Because women are …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 07:38 AM
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bobs n vagene
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 07:17 AM
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Yes that's the privilege of being a woman... You can give sex as a present AND you can screw out of sheer joy. All depends on how you feel at the moment Of course I'm kidding a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 08:32 PM
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I don't think a conversation needs to always be interesting, to everyone, in order for it to lead somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 06:40 PM
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If men understood female libido, you wouldn't be that interesting Also, for someone who "just wants to shag too", ya'll sure complain a bunch about getting pumped&dumped.. I mean what did you expect? A reward? Or just a payment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 06:28 PM
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> Men with an aversion to sluts always talk about not wanting to be compared to the men in her past Umm no? Men don't say this, because even if this was true (it might be), they wouldn't admit it to themselves This is what women say when they try to sell the "you just don't want a slut like me because you're insecure" > boring sex is extremely forgettable. That's one of the issues. In a LTR, sex is not always going to be passionate and adventurous. But sometimes your partner wants it, and you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 08:13 AM
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Both, I'm questioning the motivation behind what you wrote. Which is complicated, because you might not know any more about it than I do.. and even if you did, it's far from a given that you would tell me I get that it's confusing though, I appreciate your willingness to participate in what may seem, and what may actually turn out to be a totally redundant dialogue
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 02:28 PM
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How would I know if a man was kind if he was angry at me for rejecting him while I didn’t know him? Wait you seem to be mixing up the timeline here? Or just thinking of a different person? Just because someone once smiled at you and then stole your purse, doesn't mean everyone who smiles at you smiles because they want your purse. It would be a sad thing to go through life assuming everything like that You may not like someone's smile, but then just admit it instead of trying to sugar coat it wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 07:47 AM
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I don't see what women can do about it. There? It's one thing to tell someone to "watch their manners" (which I don't think applies here). It's another thing to tell them to change the way they've been "programmed" - It doesn't work. At least not in the short term Men will always go to war for women. Maybe not for women but for pussy, if you will. And even if you, or some guy said "we shouldn't go to war for women!"... Yes, sure, who said you should? You still do though...And then act all defens…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 07:27 AM
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It's interesting to me you used the word "should". I would assume someone who was looking for a consensus rather than disagreement, would say "what CAN be done about it?", even if yourself have no interest in doing something about it, or don't see it as something that needs a solution in the first place You see, when you say "should", you are implying that OP was insinuating that it's somehow "ya'll's" fault and therefore your responsibility to do something about it? To me it seems to be a simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 08:42 PM
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Right, so you skip whatever the info at hand may be only to come to your conclusion anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 06:05 PM
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But then you think studies are useless? Because when you don't give the benefit of the doubt necessary to even agree on basic semantics... well, your argument will be akin to, like in this scenario; "they should just try harder and if they haven't got anything yet, I don't believe they tried hard enough"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:30 PM
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If the sole reason for a man suddenly becoming confident and ambitious in terms of romantic endeavours, is his success in career... Perhaps it's best, for his own sake, that he ended up alone.. y'know?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 12:53 PM
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I think most of us would just prefer a no-ho
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 07:53 AM
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this is an americo-centric sub the queen bee here has literally said at some point that people from UK (whose language we speak btw) are 'foreigners' here, and made remarks such as "nuke india", which is not even Americo-centric I guess, just pathological
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 07:49 AM
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Many decades ago.... how many decades ago? You have to be a bit specific when you're trying to (re)create a historic narrative women have been in the workforce for like 50 years now, unless they married rich men and for money specifically, they haven't been looking for "meal tickets", as if their life depended on it, for at least quite some time now And even before that... What exactly do you mean by job opportunities... you mean working in the field or shaving the goats? I don't think women mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 07:42 AM
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I prefer other religious texts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:38 PM
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I don't believe you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 03:44 PM
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you never pretended to be able to prove that there was a god or not, you just said there is no god... doesn't make sense, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 12:59 PM
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People need some conflict in their lives, and prosperity brings a whole set of different issues that we mostly haven't had to face since just recently When we are all alone in our comfy rooms with all the "temporarily-sufficent distractions", we get bored and start turning against ourselves; when we don't have to fight for our lives, we just fight, because it's fun; we start inventing all these ghosts to make our life more exciting - and there we have it - EvIl MeNn (and hAteFul WamEn for that m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 07:37 AM
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a degree in biology does not grant you the convictions neccessary to answer the fundemental questions such as whether there is such a thing as god or not it's ironic because by criticizing folks like these, OP is sort of making fun of himself but without knowing it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 05:27 PM
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which is kinda funny because women will pretty much always be the ones to indicate the attraction first, in subtle cues. so you're always dancing to their tune in a way makes me wonder, would the best possible scenario be to surprise her somewhere on a dark alley totally unepectedly? would that be enough to sweep her off her feet?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 03:16 PM
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if you think burping makes you a cool girl, you're not a cool girl
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 03:05 PM
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oh, I thought you were gonna talk about how any woman can open up a new tab, anytime, and look at Chris Hemsworth all day long.... you know, "internet tunnel vision"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 08:18 PM
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you've been in a relationship since 14... you mean a relationship with a series of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 07:50 PM
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I jack off to girls I wouldn't look twice at out on the street So, I don't know what to make of this, in relation to your post I guess I ain't that picky, just don't want to go through all the trouble... having to put my dick inside, and out, and in, and out, and... exhausting. and, god forbid, having to face the consequences in the morning
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 08:20 AM
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In high school we used to say "just put a bag on her head"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 08:06 AM
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sorry friend, only Freud could have oversimplified everything this much without turning out to be a giant douche
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 06:59 PM
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what are you talking about? he just touched the turkey yesterday! I mean the bird
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 06:38 PM
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they compare you to other more successful people - is the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 02:48 PM
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men also don't want to always be expected to compete
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 07:51 AM
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I feel for every hot chick I meet immediately, I'm in a relationship with her ass the moment I see it Catching feelings is normal, it's human. It doesn't have to do with "human decency" or anything relating to morals, as original commenter implied, though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 03:45 PM
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no, because you or the original commenter equated being a decent human being with “catching feelz”. catching feelz doesn’t neccessarily even mean caring about others feelings. and caring about others feelings in and of itself is not a viable strategy to what i aspire to, which is to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 11:17 AM
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it’s not human decency in their eyes, it’s being pathetic. catching feelz is another word for obsessiveness. most people don’t like someone who is too obsessed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 11:12 AM
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no that's a strawman, it's just that "catching feels" does not equal being a decent human being and it is not at all conducive to what I aspire to, which is to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 08:40 AM
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I don't know that much about him personally, but I'm pretty sure many young guys today aspire to be the guy whom lady form resembling creatures see as a potential to be taken advantage of
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 08:34 AM
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