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That'll probably be something we are told to switch to, but for the time being, we are allowed to text or email "regarding the minor child." But hey I'll take what I can get for now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 11:46 PM
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Thankfully since there was no DV, it is only until Feb 2027. The sooner you start journaling the better. I did it every day for the first month or so after the bullshit was finalized and then about once a month after. Ex has started coming around a bit so I get to facetime with my girl almost every Friday, but it's been such a headache getting to that point.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 11:17 PM
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I went through the same thing man. She took one out claiming I was stalking her because I confronted her about something, changed my direct deposit info, and she didn't like it. The thing I tell myself that helps me is to keep things stable on my side, document document document. So when that day comes and my daughter asks me, I can show her I never stopped trying, I never stopped missing, and I never stopped loving. Hell I've even gone to the extent of keeping journals that she can read later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 09:13 PM
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It's been about the same for me too. First day of pre k in August, strawberry picking in March, pre k graduation in May and dance recital in June is all I've been allowed to see her. Not Christmas, not my birthday, new years, valentines, nothing. So I get the struggle. Stay strong man. We will get through it someday.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 08:56 PM
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Thanks a lot and happy father's day to you too
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 08:53 PM
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Thanks a lot man I appreciate you saying that. It's definitely a weird feeling and the girl I'm seeing now tells me pretty regularly not to feel bad if I can't buy all the groceries or stuff like that because it's not all my responsibility. I'm doing the best I can and any time I see my daughter, even on facetime, she hollers daddy and is so excited to see me and talk. Thanks for the digital hug too lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:57 PM
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Well I'm really sorry to hear about the struggles of you and your oldest. Hopefully you guys are able to reconcile sometime soon. Happy father's day to you though!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:54 PM
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Thanks a lot man I appreciate hearing that. Thankfully she has told me, though words are just words, that she will never push for my daughter to call another man dad, so there's that lol thankfully the snowballs seem like they're getting smaller and less frequent, but it's just harder around holidays, as I'm sure everyone can attest to. Already been through the big ones, Christmas, new years, Thanksgiving, but it doesn't make the smaller ones feel any less. Thanks again though and I'm doing my b…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:51 PM
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I know that I have been blessed woth certain things - money, school, jobs, etc. So that definitely does make things a little easier compared to some of the horror stories I've read, but something that makes up for it is she slandered me when I first left and convinced the courts I was a stalker and got a restraining order against me, adding another layer of difficulty to the already impossible-seeming situation. I do appreciate you reiterating the fact that they are just days on a calendar and I…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:47 PM
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I'm definitely guilty of comparing my life to other's as well, specifically my ex's. I pay for everything. House, car, phones, utilities, etc because she's just too damn lazy to get a job and I don't want her to skew the truth to my kid and say I was the reason they ended up there. I just sit here and look at how easy her life is (from the outside of course) and i get jealous as fuck. She gets to work a piddly ass part time job at one of her friend's stores, has another dude living in the house …
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 02:43 PM
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Glad I know I could help you feel less alone bro. Stay strong. Not sure how or when, but things have to get easier from her right? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 07:16 AM
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My view on it is if she hooked up before she served you with papers, get an attorney and look into adultery. I'm not a lawyer so I don't know statutes or anything, but even if she made her intentions clear verbally, that's still grounds for adultery and could only help you. Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 03:16 PM
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It wasn't too bad. We had about 12 guys in the room I was staying in, and 14 women in a different room, but we all had chores (sweep, mop, dishes, disinfecting, etc) to help keep the place as clean as possible, so yeah it was comfortable. Not the Ritz or anything, but it beat sleeping on the streets!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 01:01 PM
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I do empathize with your medical situation. Lord knows I've had my fair share of surgeries too lol but if you wait until you can afford the divorce, you'll never leave. It'll suck ass, your credit will be shit for a while, I'm still in the thick of it with a really low score, but I know that I'll be able to recover over time. The happiness I got out of being the one in control of me leaving is more valuable than any bit of money I've had to spend! Take this all for what it's worth as you're the …
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 03:49 AM
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Bro... I was in the same position. Sleeping in our guest room every night for 4 years, walking on eggshells in my own house, being verbally and emotionally abused, the whole nine. The only way you're going to be able to make any headway is to just GTFO. I slept in my car for 6 nights, using a base gym to workout and shower everyday (I am a veteran so I have military base access), before getting a bed at a homeless shelter. Stayed there until I was able to get back on my feet a few months later. …
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 01:30 AM
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You too man. One day at a time. One of my vet buddies told me about 7 months ago that the rearview is smaller than the windshield. Let's keep that in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 02:34 AM
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Unfortunately there was other contributing factors why she wasn't able to push harder before. Ex made allegations that I was stalking her and dragged out a 6mo no contact order to prolong divorce stuff so my attorney and I are basically having to play catchup. Excuses I know, it is what it is at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 02:20 PM
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I feel the same but my girlfriend and I are going to wait until I get a more stable visitation schedule with my daughter before I introduce them.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 02:14 PM
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Yeah it really sucks man. I appreciate the words. Honestly, I feel bad for the dude because I know the storm he's sailing into but it ain't my storm anymore lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 12:14 PM
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Hopefully all this shit gets easier after that last signature lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 11:51 AM
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I'm trying. Only shed tears in front of her once or twice. Other than that I stay smiling to enjoy our time together and break when I get home. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 11:50 AM
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She hasn't introduced us and the guy didn't approach me after the pre k graduation so I don't even know the guy's name. If you want to read more about it, I made a post before, but she has a no-contact order against me from false allegations before. I'm sure that's her justification for not introducing us. I agree about the other guy too. I want to fight for full custody and I think I have a pretty good damn leg to stand on with me paying all the bills, her not willing to get a job, etc. Going t…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 06:49 AM
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After post edit: main reason I pay for everything is that everything is in my name. Just wanted to make that part clear lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 04:46 AM
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Honestly, I wish I could see my daughter even for a day. I separated from my wife back in July 2025 and have only seen her 6 times. It's been the hardest thing I've ever had to do, even topping a deployment while in the Marines.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 04:51 PM
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Same page as you! Pay for the kids you chose to have.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 02:34 PM
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Sorry for the delay, just been trying to stay on top of school, divorce, and the dvpo shit. I totally agree with you though. Even though this has fuckdd me up beyond belief, I fight against her lawyer every hearing, school 5 days a week, gym 6 days a week, I work at the school, and therapy every Tuesday. My defense attorney charges flat 400 for dvpo, and I have made sure to use the shit out of every penny. Double edge sword, my daughter is so young so I'm hoping 2 things. First, she doesn't reme…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 09:05 PM
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I completely empathize with your stance on it, mainly because I'm dealing with this shit right now. 4 months into a 12 month mandatory separation and when I changed direct deposit for my VA disability checks, she went to the courts and filed a DVPO saying I was stalking and financially strangling her, even though I still pay all the bills until asset division, alimony, child support, etc. Haven't seen my daughter in almost 3 months because the court system is dragging its feet on this. Both my d…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 01:15 PM
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I realized mine was a narcissist. She always told me that I was the one on crazy pills (ptsd), I was the one with all the problems, and she literally told me she has no faults. 15 years, 4 yr old daughter, 4 months into 12 month state required separation and it's been an uphill battle every day. Taking it one day at a time, working out 6x a week and getting back to my deployment body (USMC vet)
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 09:03 PM
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Just got out of the homeless shelter in my town and into my own apartment, 3 months separated. Befriended a couple of the attendants there (1 guy and 1 girl around my age) and we got some fun times planned in the near future lol been going to the gym 6x/wk, lost 25lbs in 3 months, and feeling better and better every day. It's weird, but even though my STBXW is dating someone and I've had relations with a woman myself, I still feel guilty going out or talking to other women. Anybody else struggle…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 04:45 PM
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I'm right there with you bro. 3 months in and it's still hard. My therapist tell me "don't think a year from now. Don't think a month from now. Don't think a week from now. For now, simply focus on the next right decision." It's been helping me a lot. You're not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 04:01 AM
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Thanks a lot for your kind words it really means a lot. Going to send you a dm now because while I'm in therapy and have friends, any other resources are only going to help me work through what I can't or won't share with those people.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 04:24 PM
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Thanks for your kind words. It has been extremely difficult and I've had days where I just sit in my car and break down. Being a vet in a military community, thankfully, theres many resources where I'm at. On top of therapy every week, I also attend a vets only group on Thursdays. I found this group a couple years back and it has been extremely helpful hearing how similar other's stories are to my own, and in some cases, even harder. I know in NC, while a "separation document" isn't necessarily …
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 03:36 PM
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All it takes is a single text yall. I overdosed on depression meds on July 20. Since I left the house and my abusive wife and feel better than I have in 10 years. I felt I didn't have anybody so I was in the same boat. Hopeless, lost, at the end of my rope.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 01:28 AM
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I appreciate that a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 02:56 PM
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Appreciate the advice man. Trying to always find the silver linings in things, its just especially hard when the whole area is grayed out ya know.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 04:28 AM
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Without reading through all of the comments, I would inform your lawyer of your suspicions and id imagine they could occasionally subpoena pay stubs and tax forms to verify income and if the income has changed, you should be able to request an adjustment of support. I'm only a week into 12 12-month required separation before my divorce, so take it for what it's worth. That's my opinion on your matter. I'll be praying for the best for you though.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 09:29 PM
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Thanks for your comment. It has been a rather difficult journey, but I got a different diagnosis and new meds and I feel better than I have in about 10 years. That's ultimately how I came to decide to leave. Seeing things from a fresher, clearer perspective led me to realize how toxic the environment was that we were subjecting our daughter to. Well... that plus when I was in the ward my wife told me when I get out I'm to pack my bags and get the fuck out lol. I fully agree car is a short-term s…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 09:26 PM
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Wishing the same back to you bro. Wish you luck whichever route you decide to go!
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/25 12:34 PM
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Not even thinking about that right now but I'll keep my fingers crossed for you lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 05:28 PM
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I can tell you from personal experience and you can look at some of my previous posts. My wife and I have had the same kind of situation but instead of her locking herself away, we were always at each other's throats... for about 5 years. I recently attempted suicide and that's where I drew the line. I have been the primary income provider since our marriage 15 years ago, house in my name, cars in my name, phones, credit cards, utilities, everything in my name. If it's already to this point, tak…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 01:53 PM
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8 may be exaggerating a bit lol but I was shredded man
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 03:32 AM
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Much appreciated. Man hug back to ya!
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 03:08 AM
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Hey I totally get it. Thankfully, there's a military base around here and being a veteran, I have free access to the gym, showers, and even a personal trainer if I choose. I was a recruiter for a few years and that's where things started rolling downhill. 6k miles a month, 5 hrs drive time every day, and when I wasn't driving I was behind a desk so I can seriously empathize with you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 03:08 AM
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Appreciate it man. Been a struggle and a half so far but I'm just trying to focus on the next phone call ya know? One day at a time no matter how hard shit gets.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 02:07 AM
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FTB is what I'd say at that point lol.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 03:14 PM
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Im curious to see how this goes because im not even the slightest bit familiar with custodial issues. My "me go nom nom" brain would assume not. She hasn't been there and im assuming has made no contributions towards the children's development, financial or otherwise. Id also say that she may be able to submit an addendum to the courts, but anyone in their right mind wouldn't subject the kid(s) to whatever drama mama bringing back.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 02:21 AM
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Appreciate the words of encouragement. They really help. Trying to take things one step at a time and trying to work on slowly recovering from it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 10:52 PM
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How long have you been gone if you dont mind me asking? Coz right now it just feels impossible.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 08:13 PM
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I totally agree. Now, I do want to clarify in case you read past where id said it before, I totally understand that ive contributed to a lot of our issues, but im not the only active party. I dont want to make it seem one sided and like im pointing fingers and passing blame. That being said, you can only take so much before you just fuckin snap and leave. Thats the point im at. Just a bit lost at the moment is all. Ill be thinking about you and praying for you man. Stay strong. We can get throug…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 01:03 AM
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Yeah im really sorry to hear about the thing with your son as well. Dad and I were estranged for almost 20 years until I found out my mom was feeding us some bullshit most of my childhood so stay optimistic about it. I definitely do know what to look out for. Obviously, im no angel but I also know im not the sole contributor too. Hopefully things turn out better with you and your younger son. Ill be praying for you brother. Thanks for your support and hope you have a safe flight.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 11:04 PM
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Thanks for your advice and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. 35 now, 12-year Marine Corps veteran, full-time engineering student. It has distracted from the shit storm that's become my life, it's just a garbage ass feeling having nowhere to lay your head ya know? I do a lot of 3d printing, CAD, and also am a work study at the college so I've got a good bit of distractions to lean into. I know this is only the first day and I had to leave behind my 4-year-old daughter and 9-year-old husky s…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 10:47 PM
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Wow thank you for these words of enlightenment and encouragement.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 01:55 AM
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I totally agree with you. We have taken ourselves down this path by stopping attending church, stopped listening to the Christian music we so loved at one point and that's when things started rolling. I'm afraid I'm in the same boat as you. Our relationship is beyond repair and inconsolable, it's going to be a nasty divorce, but I'm just trying to keep God in front, and my daughters well being in mind. Thank you for your input though.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 08:55 PM
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Well I'm actually glad you brought that up... so when I was heavy in the church, I did learn that divorce is looked down upon. I know there's certain situations, but honestly that's something else that's been keeping me here... I don't want to compromise my religion by divorcing my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 07:20 PM
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I agree and that's why I'm having such a struggle. OEF 212, lost friends overseas, grandpa died while I was over. Thankfully I've come to terms with a lot of those issues, but starting to struggle more with the failure feeling and having those thoughts again. It's just frustrating and disappointing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 03:32 PM
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I appreciate your advice and will definitely look into it more. I've started listening to Christian music more when I'm just chilling, and I have a 45 min drive to classes, so I'll look into Christian podcasts too. Didn't even think about that, so again, thank you very much.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 05:16 AM
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Jesus I'm sorry you've had to see that. As long as my daughter isn't subjected to it and she doesn't flaunt it I don't really care lol. I say that now, so idk if my opinion will change or not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 03:44 AM
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Completely agree and understand what you're saying. I'm doing my best to hold true to myself and stick to the timeliness I've set in place. We are taking our daughter to Disneyland for her 4th birthday mid July. I've told her that by Aug 1 I'm going to be out, so hopefully I figure it all tf out by then lol. I appreciate your advice though.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:35 AM
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Thankfully, to the best of my knowledge anyway, she hasn't been unfaithful. Let me rephrase that, I haven't caught her being unfaithful yet. I've got an ex fiance that cheated on me with my roommate though so I do understand the pain and suffering that causes.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:32 AM
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I agree and this is the main cause of my struggles and confusion. I'll be thinking of and praying for you nonetheless.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:30 AM
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I completely agree with you and we know our transgressions, well at least I do. It is definitely our choice because of the free will he gave us, but it's just a struggle to stay positive, optimistic, and loyal during times like this.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:30 AM
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Thank you for your input
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:28 AM
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I appreciate that thank you
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:27 AM
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I have tried but I've just found it difficult to really absorb it again because of what I'm going through. I want to get back into a church and I know I need to find time somewhere, but between being a dad, helping my wife run our business, trying to get a business up and running myself, full time engineering student, and going through what I'm going through1, it just feels impossible ya know? Excuses, I understand that, it's just hard to balance everything.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:27 AM
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well i'll tell you what man. even though you feel like you have noone to talk to, just shoot me a message and ill be here to listen. vet to vet or just man to man. ive learned since having my daughter that it isnt weak for men to cry... occasionally lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 03:04 AM
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Both of these really help me. If you need help getting started with either one let me know and I'll help with what I can. Don't let this temporary pain take you down a permanent path man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 10:40 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm in the predivorce stage, where everything is just fuckin screaming and anger because I can't afford to leave... anyways, something that I've found helps is either golfing or doing 3d printing. I suffer from ptsd from the military as well, so the repetitive movements really give me something to focus on while allowing me to calm down. Golfing helps because it gets me out the house and in the sun so it helps me relax as well. Far as books are concerned, I d…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 10:16 PM
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Thanks a lot. Praying things work out for you in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 04:12 AM
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Thank you for posting this and I wish you the best. This is exactly what I'm feeling and going through, I just haven't convinced myself to just say fuck it and leave. My daughter and finances are what's keeping me here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 12:03 AM
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Trust me I understand where you're coming from with them not being put on the streets. I remember how my parents divorce went and I've seen some horror stories having been in the military for 12 years. That's something else I fuckin despise about the court system it seems to be, trying to think of a way to not get this post deleted or get banned from the page, but in all honesty it seems to me like the system is rigged for women. For example, my buddy and his wife filed for divorce after she aba…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 11:50 PM
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She has sole proprietorship of a small business we operate together. It brings in approx 1k-15 a month. I'm 100% disabled vet and getting gi benefits, so sitting right around 7k a month. I know that she can't pay all the bills herself, and that's what's kept me hear. I know how my conscience is and I'd feel guilty as fuck if they ended up on the streets because I need to pay rent on a place for me. That's the main reason I cam back a little over a year ago. Left and moved back in with my dad (em…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 01:33 PM
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Sending pm
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