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she's learning, not necessarily someone who's spent ample time thinking on these issues, analysing them critically, debating them or even approaching them from a depth of personal experience. okay and? no one on here is a professional about any of this. at least i wrote a ten page paper on this stuff which i got an A on, thank you very much. A later paragraph seems to mitigate or even counter this paragraph though. nah imo, the article was pretty concise and on point of the subject matters it pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:14 AM
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The current system just isn't workable for a lot of young men, I see it among my buddies all the time. why does society need to be “workable” for young men? where is your concern for young women or people’s daughters? or do they not matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:00 AM
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yes i am sad that many men don’t know how to take accountability and count on women to solve all their problems. you should be sad about that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:58 AM
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are you really trying to argue with me on this when i said i was ranting and why the comment made me upset? imagine trying to debate about something that’s not even debatable. read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:56 AM
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conclusions based primarily/exclusively on your "psych class." happiness is a psychological aspect. studies on these subjects are by psychologists. not sure what you’re getting at here. This is talking about couples (aged ones at that) with children at home, not exactly super relevant or broadly applicable to your argument about what makes women specifically happier throughout all stages of life. i guess you didn’t read the whole argument when it spoke on the happiness of women with children com…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:54 AM
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the gender roles where women doesn’t have rights and have to be in relationships based on survival instead of actually wanting to be with someone? got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:50 AM
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Living longer is likely a proxy due to reduced amount of stress from not having kids. not true because women in relationships with no kids live shorter than single women with no kids. men are the only ones who get an increase in lifespan when in a relationship. it's a distinctly female to view relationships as to what would you get or what benefits would you derive from a relationship that's acceptable. if this were true i wouldn’t be seeing so many men saying there aren’t benefits of monogamous…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:48 AM
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telling men they need to get their shit together and take accountability is “dismissing” men? you’ve got to be kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:37 AM
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here’s some articles we focused on in my psych class: https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-having-children-make-people-happier-in-the-long-run https://www.insider.com/why-women-are-happier-when-theyre-single-than-men-2017-11?r=US&IR=T i do have another link to a study but it’s behind my university’s paywall, and i’m having a hard time trying to pdf it then link it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:33 AM
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i saw a comment blaming the future dystopian life of men on women being happy and not having miserable lives, and it just triggered me so much. i think about women in my family who always went or go 150% for their husband and children while being so drained but never complaining. i saw how the men they were with not be appreciative for all their hard work and basically expect them to do these things and catch attitudes if they were asked to do something besides sit on their asses after working. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:25 AM
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you need an answer for #2 if you answered #3
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:06 AM
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i get what you’re saying but a consistent guaranteed orgasm is 100% better, even if it’s the “fake” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:06 AM
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bro i never thought a ppd comment would make me cry out of frustration and legit anger. there’s a first for everything i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:46 AM
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then men need to get the mental and emotional help they need to transition better
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:42 AM
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okay then i’ll rephrase: “you don’t need to date to have orgasms”. there’s other (and more reliable) outlets these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:39 AM
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and what if a woman is okay with that outcome?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:27 AM
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Unless you're counting on millions of men living like sexless and childless worker ants that wageslave, watch netflix, jerk off to porn, and get fat until they expire and die. why does this even matter? “women shouldn’t or should do xyz because men will end up like…” women aren’t your mothers or babysitters. y’all need to get it together and stop blaming all your failures as a gender on women. it’s infuriating how women always have to save the day and sacrifice because men don’t know how to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:26 AM
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you don’t need a relationship to have orgasms
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:20 AM
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theres also studies saying the exact opposite, that unmarried childless woman are the least happy demographic. feel free to share them. i’m always interested in learning something new or being corrected if need be. the sperm donor argument is stupid. that’s your opinion. there are many women who have and who will, be fine with getting a sperm donor. their opinion is the only one that matters as what they do has nothing to do with you or me. so what you consider “pathetic” is irrelevant here. you…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:17 AM
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of course majority of them are going to say yes. that’s why they always think women are sleeping around with 100s of chads every year. they are projecting what they wish they could do and could have, onto women (who have sex more accessible to them than men) because having casual sex with an unlimited amount of women is their wet dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:47 AM
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i knew what comment it was before i even opened the link
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:33 AM
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i would feel bad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:33 AM
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interesting seeing the responses from the guys in the thread. just an interesting post overall really.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:43 AM
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men already do that lmao. especially on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:32 AM
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i did read it but it didn’t really have anything to do with what i said originally. the truth is, your partner needs to find you attractive in all ways for a healthy relationship to occur. if you just want companionship above all then become a sugar daddy, hire prostitutes, or marry a woman from another country so she can use you for citizenship. there are alternative routes where you can get guaranteed companionship from women who don’t find you attractive but will act a role to boost your ego …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:22 AM
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i never said unattractive people weren’t humans and that they didn’t deserve companionship. they deserve companionship with some who will and does find them attractive. we all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:13 AM
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no, it creates more issues for you and other people who can’t understand that no one wants to be with someone long term that they don’t actually like on all levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:09 AM
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no but the physical aspect is apart of it. especially if you expect to be intimate with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:04 AM
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men have friends. there’s sex toys for men and they could even get a prostitute if they wish. they can hug their friends. is there really a distinct difference that i’m missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:14 AM
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most of your comments seem to come from the pov that women having rights and freedom to choose makes it harder for men to have sex and get relationships. that’s usually the sentiment from most men on here so i’m not shocked or surprised. anyways, i respect your opinion but my stance is still the same on the subject. if a man will not bring any value to my life and isn’t what i want, he is not for me and i’m 100% happy with that. life will still be great for me and the women before me will contin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:11 AM
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if society was so good in the past, why is the world so shitty today? our present situation is the result of past decisions from generations before us. the train is already off the tracks. women choosing to be miserable so men can be happy isn’t going to fix that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:54 PM
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your opinion is based on what you want and what you value. i’m happy you’re happy with the choices you made. let others be happy because life is short.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:50 PM
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i’ll give an anecdote as a young 20yo woman. i refuse to date, marry, or have children just to do it. whoever i’m with must bring some sort of value into my life and it must be value i can’t provide for myself. in current society, women really don’t need to date if they don’t want to because there’s really no huge benefits. like for myself, i have a great social circle of friends. i’m on track to make about $100k a year by myself in about three years. sex will never be a problem no matter how i …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:39 PM
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to a extent, i agree. that’s what happens when you let a group of people have rights and do what they please instead of forcing them to live certain lifestyles and to act certain ways. good thing it did happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:19 PM
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being alone isn’t a bad thing and that’s what guys don’t understand. they project their fear of being content with being lonely and make cat lady jokes, when they’re just scared of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:13 PM
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i’ve talked to men of all races and the sentiment is similar. but i’m also american so maybe that plays a part in it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:55 PM
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then those men have internal issues that need to be sorted out
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:52 PM
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well most magazines are for women not men so... plus there’s plenty of men who find bigger women attractive and plenty of women who find them sexy such as myself. so speak for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:18 PM
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what do magazines have to do with anything said in this convo?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:07 PM
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everyone should have “shallow” requirements
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:02 PM
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agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:02 PM
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the concept of aging and how it affects dating isn’t foreign to POC communities and i never said it wasn’t. but from my knowledge, the wall is going from being attractive to unattractive in a relatively quickly and sudden way (in the scheme of life) and the quick drying up of options. and that’s why i was sure to point out declining in looks drastically with age. i’ve talked to a lot of POC men who date within their race and majority of them admit that the average attractiveness “timeframe” for …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:01 PM
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imagine calling women “shallow” for not wanting to date you or have sex with you because they find you physically unattractive. that’s a new low of pathetic🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:23 PM
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none of them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:22 PM
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no one is attacking you. you’re the one complaining about women wanting attractive partners and i’m just calling out how stupid that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:22 PM
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“zoomer” woman here. i read your post and i’m curious about a few things so i have a few questions i’d love for you (or any fellow zoomer man who feels similar to op) to answer if possible. you say dating is getting “worse” so… how do you know it’s getting worse when you as a 20 year old don’t know what dating was like for past generations? what aspects of the “past” dating world are you romanticizing that you feel are missing in today’s dating world? in your opinion, what was the best time peri…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:20 PM
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no wonder why women aren’t finding guys who complain about women wanting attractive partners attractive. no wonder why women don’t want to deal with “woe is me” men who spend their time complaining and wanting someone to feel bad for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:16 PM
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wanting to have an attractive partner that you actually want to be with isn’t shallow. it’s only shallow to you because no one finds you attractive, and that’s not women’s problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:12 PM
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so it’s shallow that people want to have attractive partners and don’t want to spend the rest of their lives being intimate with someone they find unattractive or repulsive? or is it only shallow because women aren’t picking you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:05 PM
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i think what you mentioned is most important but in order for me to be interested in getting to know those aspects of a guy in hopes of a relationship, i have to find him physically attractive. a guy can have all those things but if i don’t find him attractive, he’ll just be a good friend/acquaintance. but this also means that if said guy is attractive and doesn’t have those important qualities, i wouldn’t be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 06:45 PM
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yeah i definitely think mental health is important to screen for. i feel like i could deal with anxiety and depression moderately well (as long as the person in question is trying to make an effort to get better in these areas) but any history of an addiction is a dealbreaker for sure. i just can’t deal with the potential of relapse and the likeliness of having to monitor someone throughout the relationship. mental health definitely needs to be considered when vetting for a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 06:36 PM
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20 yo here. my current partner was living at home this past year because he had to due to his life situation. it definitely posed some challenges and it was a bit annoying at times but it wasn’t a dealbreaker (especially because my living situation last year also wasn’t the best). i’m okay with it as long as the guy has a plan to move into his own place relatively soon (meaning within the next year hopefully). if he’s planning to stay at home until god knows when, i’ll pass. from this point in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:35 PM
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i don’t have one. i pick and choose my battles.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:57 AM
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never said i had been. that’s just my max because that’s how long it took for my parents to date before they got married. and i feel like four years (max) is enough time to get to know each other and determine if you want to spend the rest of your life someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:56 AM
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it’s a score that helps you make big, important purchases. it shows that you’re a reliable consumer. it is an american thing from my understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:54 AM
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definitely agree with you. thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:24 AM
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thanks for the tldr!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:24 AM
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i bought a car last summer. does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:03 AM
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sir i’m not reading all that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:56 AM
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hate to steal the spotlight but can we celebrate the fact that i’m three months into being 20 years old and have a 700 credit score? yay me🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:54 AM
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you’re right on the age (i just turned 20). but yeah i do make it clear about a month in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:40 AM
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right. so as long as i let that know, i’m doing my part. if they can’t do their part within four years, is it fair to end it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:26 AM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:21 AM
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i do that but that doesn’t mean me and said guy’s timelines would match up. and i don’t mean it in a malicious way either. i’m pretty upfront about needing to get married and refusing to play girlfriend forever or have kids out of wedlock, usually by the first month of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:21 AM
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isn’t a masters two years?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:18 AM
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you’re right, that’s not the case for me. also interesting how you don’t even know me but have a lot to say about my character and how i act as a person. but let me rely this information to my bf and get his opinion on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:16 AM
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i do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:13 AM
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how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:11 AM
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i would definitely bring up marriage throughout the relationship so they’ll know how i feel on it. i don’t mind approaching guys to go out on dates or for relationships but i won’t propose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:10 AM
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AITA for giving any man i’m in a relationship with a time limit of four years max to propose to me before i dump them and find someone else? is that a reasonable standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:04 AM
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i work at a women’s prenatal clinic and that edit is 100% correct. there is actually a preference for sperm from males 18-25 years old as well. sperm from men 39 and older is considered faulty and unstable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 11:16 PM
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literally this. i don’t like men with high n counts and find men who have paid for sex repulsive. everyone is allowed preferences. i could care less about some men wanting virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 11:11 PM
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i believe it’s a minority especially in modern day society. and in that minority is a subset of women who are just using the unattractive old guy for money until a hot young guy they actually want comes along. they’re not settling down with the old unattractive men and starting families with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:32 PM
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not to the women who don’t prioritize a man’s value or money. money and value won’t make me have sex with a man for the rest of my life. attractiveness does. so if a man doesn’t have that, we won’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:28 PM
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thank you for sharing those links <3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:15 PM
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you’re still missing the point of what i said so there’s no point in going back and forth at this point. have a good day <3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 09:06 PM
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incelonsteroids is telling me i need to leave the house… hm the jokes write themselves. unfortunately for you, your opinions aren’t science. sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:15 PM
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again, i never disagreed with you? i’m saying melanin protects again uv rays. doesn’t matter where the person with melanin is in the world, their melaninated skin is going to protect them better than the skin of people with no melanin. we’re in the same book but on different pages.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:14 PM
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swipe on who?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:11 PM
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the traits i find most attractive in men are selflessness, goal driven, hardworking, family oriented, funny, caring, confident, and intellectual. none of those traits are necessarily masculine or feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:11 PM
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science says otherwise. you’re free to research it when you have time :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:04 PM
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that certainly is a factor but minorities don’t age as fast as their white counterparts due to melanin. more melanin contributes to less sun damage meaning more youthful skin for a longer time. so yeah lifestyle factors are a huge part of this, but it’s also genetic as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:50 PM
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10 rating: @brock_jones7 9 rating: @jagger_eaton 8 rating: @colehosman 7: *can’t think of one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:26 PM
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can i give you tiktok @s?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:17 PM
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maybe to some women. i’m not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:00 PM
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so true. let me book this plastic surgery real quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:44 PM
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i guess so
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:43 PM
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small and flat aren’t the same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:43 PM
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does this apply to women with small tits?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:37 PM
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men definitely hit a wall. balding, dad bod, beer belly, declining quality sperm, and wrinkles aren’t attractive qualities and idc who disagrees. i find most men in their 30s unattractive but majority definitely hit the wall by 40. and i’m talking about your average guy, not chris evans. an average old guy does not look better than the guys i go to college with and that’s just facts. argue with your mom. edit: also wanna add that i believe that “the wall” is a concept geared towards rating peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:35 PM
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just checking but i agree with you. they’re the same way about providing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:31 PM
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that’s how i feel about 10/10 men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:30 PM
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define invisible
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:29 PM
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do you mean men for the last dialogue?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:29 PM
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good thing i was giving my opinion meaning no one else’s matters :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:26 PM
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yeah. they can’t be shorter than me but i don’t care how much taller than me they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:13 PM
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that’s what you consider a chad face? lol you guys are funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:45 PM
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wtf is a chad face😭
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:41 PM
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i don’t believe that shit😂 you’re talking to the wrong woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:52 PM
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i’m probably taller than him or we’re about the same height, he’s bald, he’s old, and his tattoos look corny. all dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:50 PM
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one on the left is a 0 obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:48 PM
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i don’t believe men suffer from loneliness the same way and i don’t believe that men and women have the same reactions to being lonely or the same definitions of being lonely. i’ll perform more research on this topic later when i have time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:47 PM
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assuming you’re talking about the guy on the right, 6
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:44 PM
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no i’m not asking about people. i’m asking about men. why are men upset about being lonely not finding a relationship? what causes men to be so angry and bitter about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:27 PM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:17 PM
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but why are they upset about it? what causes them to become so bitter and angry? that’s what i’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:17 PM
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i genuinely don’t care about height as long as they’re taller than me and i’m straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:12 PM
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depends on age. if he’s my age (20), no more than 8 or 9.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:07 PM
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all the guys i’ve had a crush on were 5’10 or under lmao. besides celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:05 PM
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we’re talking about in the realm of dating and relationships. not sure why you’re trying to take digs at mental health. you’re probably the same guy that laughs at women’s mental health issues but says the “one of the main causes of death for men is suicide” stat anytime you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:02 PM
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not necessarily true. i love skater boys (have a strong preference for them) and they’re usually kind of short and skinny. they’re hot asf. i just don’t think muscular guys are attractive like that. too strong is a bit unsightly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:49 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:46 PM
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women have literally said the reason why they’re leaving the dating pool is because men are man children who add nothing of quality to their partner’s life. men think they’re so much better than they actually are. it’s quite laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:43 PM
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skinny guys>muscular guys
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:32 PM
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ooh ageism. nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:31 PM
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are they really social constructs when males are co-signing wanting certain thing in a partner or wanting a partner in general, for an ego boost? not for a genuine connection or bond with another human being, but an ego boost… talk to your gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:31 PM
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exactly. they just make shit up to fit whatever scenario they wanna come up with that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:20 PM
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are you going to give me an example or…?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:18 PM
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nah he was pretty hot
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:17 PM
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yes i’m gen z. yes i am fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:14 PM
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i’ve never met a woman who has used a man as an ego boost. they were actually focused on loving and supporting their partner, like partners should be doing. so you’ll have to give me an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:11 PM
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lol i’m not even a feminist. but if that’s what you want to tell yourself to make my comment more palatable to you, go ahead :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:09 PM
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why would we need to feel better about ourselves? men are the ones constantly bitching and moaning about not getting relationships and sex. (majority of) women aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:07 PM
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i understand but that doesn’t really change anything about the truth of that user’s comment. male entitlement, extremely fragile egos, and the constant need to compete with other men to be seen as some sort of “alpha” and get bragging rights, is not women’s fault. men here blame women for all their issues and constantly tell women to lower their standards and to stop being so picky because you guys have internal issues that you need to work out within yourselves. the problem was never women, it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:05 PM
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his face. i do have a thing for arms though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:53 PM
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yes, the comment was a response to that post but i think it applies to most of men’s issues with women. most of men’s issues are a result of them wanting to use women as an ego boost and then throwing tantrums when they realize women are people too with their own thoughts and emotions that don’t live to put men on pedestals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:52 PM
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u/Slight_Fig5187 made this amazing comment and i just wanted to highlight this here: So, basically, sex and relationships are an ego trip [to men] that have very little to do with connection, bonding or even pleasure? That explains a lot of the lack of satisfaction of men here and of the contentment of women. As women, we're not competing against each other about who takes what, we're just enjoying the company and pleasure of being with the men in our lives. this comment reasoned 95% of men’s is…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:34 PM
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definitely. i wouldn’t glance twice at that man if i saw him on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:42 AM
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i wasn’t talking about you specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:40 AM
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hell no. not paying for anything when there’s a plethora of stuff i can see for free. men are desperate enough to do that. most women are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:35 AM
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they usually do from what i’ve seen and heard
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:34 AM
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not attractive to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:33 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:32 AM
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depends on the guy’s facial features. it works on some men and doesn’t work on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:31 AM
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aw they’re so cute. they look so peaceful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:25 AM
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can’t wait to see the comments on this thread. i always see lots of guys on PPD complain about having to wait for sex because “women always give it up to chads early but make average guys wait because all women sleep around then want to settle down with betas.” i’ll be keeping my eye on this post
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:17 AM
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female here. i chose face because that’s what i notice first. when i find someone attractive, it’s because they have attractive facial features that work for them. other things such as body type, clothing style, hair style/type, etc, matter as well but i notice all that after i examine their face first. i won’t care about the body if the face isn’t pleasing to look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:42 PM
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face 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:36 PM
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27/28
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:36 PM
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lmao guys consider him a chad? this is how i know that most guys overestimate themselves when it comes to labeling their own attractiveness, then go on to complain about the 20/80 rule every chance they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:34 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:09 PM
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they love to hate us <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:06 PM
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ask them out or tell them i think they’re attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 08:51 PM
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i never made an argument nor was this even an argument in the first place lol. that’s where you have it twisted. this was just a simple conversation filled with your overly aggressive comments while i just came here to vent. imagine calling out the very real issues with frats and the differences between sororities and frats, and having it be considered “arguing”. get over yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:16 AM
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agreed. i do know that the frats who were accused of doing that at my school got suspended or had major decreases in party attendance so obviously it made an impact on the girls in sororities at my school.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:08 AM
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frats also pay shitloads of money to cover the costs of all the hazing lawsuits they get, and to give settlements to all the women their members sexually assault and roofie every semester. go greek!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:58 AM
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frat and sororities aren’t the same no matter how much you try to act like they are
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:51 AM
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same here dude
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:46 AM
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benefit off the system of finding a group of friends for support as a first gen college student who went to school in a whole different state? you’re right, i did.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:44 AM
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i don’t drink or do drugs so that’s not a perk to me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 07:33 AM
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my sorority does the absolute most through. last year we had work week from 9 to 5 monday through friday with mandatory sisterhood events afterwards. then the day before pref, they literally made us practice until 1 in the morning when we had to wake up at 5 for charm checks. keep in mind the practice was supposed to end at 8pm. too much talking. too much singing. it’s too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:52 AM
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i beg to differ
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:41 AM
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on the verge of dropping my sorority because recruitment is so stressful and makes me wanna kms🥲 it’s not even august and i’m already overwhelmed with the idea of having to talk to at least 100 girls in a span of four days.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:59 AM
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jackie brown is definitely the best song on the album
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:52 AM
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she’s hot, he’s not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:51 AM
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well i’m hot so…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:57 AM
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i expected a blatant yes or some sign he was interested. i think my friend told him that i had some interest in him but it was about three years ago now so i don’t remember the details.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:42 AM
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i had to go out with a bang
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:36 AM
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felt like it at the time as i didn’t like the flimsy response after i had gotten the courage together to send what i did (i might be bold but i still get nervous especially since i sat behind him in class). i wanted a straight response not fucking emojis. i’ve been rejected two other times outside of this with a blatant no and getting ghosted. so i will say this instance was the nicest “rejection” i’ve faced thus far which is cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:35 AM
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nah i was that bold and he sent me some fucking emojis back? he didn’t deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:29 AM
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the response was just way too bland so i just left it alone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:26 AM
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understandable. it was the last couple months of senior year anyways so i didn’t care what the reaction would be. i knew i would never see him again after we graduated (which actually got cut short because COVID happened).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:24 AM
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he just sent me laughing emojis back he couldn’t be too far out of my looksmatch if majority of the girls i knew didn’t find him attractive and thought i was crazy for thinking he was. he looks even worse today than he did in highschool so dodged a bullet there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:21 AM
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i’m not. im just blunt and don’t really care about what people think about me. i go for what i want :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:15 AM
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ooh “classless”. my feelings are hurt :( i was a virgin when i sent that shit and it was like the last few months of senior year. i wanted to be memorable😎
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:06 AM
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thinking about the time i got rejected after i sent this boy from one of my classes a meme that said “how do i say i wanna swallow your dick in a nice way?” and they say women don’t approach men and don’t get rejected🤧 liessss
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:00 AM
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i think the only dating struggle that i’ve personally had to face a few times was racial fetishization. some men empathize with that issue but ive seen some men say WOC should take it as a compliment. i’ve also seen men say catcalling and groping should be considered compliments too so not too surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:56 PM
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nay
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:45 PM
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it depends on how she looks. big boobs look better on some body types of women than others. if they look good on her body type, i think “damn, she’s hot.” i used to feel a bit of envy but i’m more confident in my body now. if they look odd/overly big i think “i’m so thankful for what i have.” my answer doesn’t change if my bf is staring. i don’t care about stuff like that honestly. i stare at men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:52 PM
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6.5/10
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:46 PM
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6.5
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:45 PM
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bravo. i think this was an extremely well written explanation and i have no opposition to anything you said. i will add though, for some men it genuinely is entitlement. lots of men, especially here, feel that they are entitled to a woman’s body, time, and capabilities simply because they want it. they believe that they are owed these things simply for existing and believe in relationships where they receive full benefits while adding nothing of substance or value to the life of their partner. t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:47 PM
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yes. who does it most out of bitterness and anger because they’re not getting what they feel they’re entitled to? i would argue, men. just my opinion though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:08 PM
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oh yeah they definitely do. lots of men’s assumptions about women are just them projecting what they do and how they feel. that’s why i stopped caring what they think regarding most subjects.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:50 PM
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good question. i’ve never dealt with this personally. i know that the sex and the person is arousing to me by the way they make me feel and their movements (mainly rhythm and pace). you can tell what feels “right” and what feels “awkward”. i’ve honestly never compared sexual experiences though. it’s hard to think about a past partner when i’m with a current parent because all i want to think about is them and the current moment we’re in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:43 PM
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can confirm. i’m 20. single dads are a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:56 PM
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u/lysa_bell explained it perfectly, but yeah… it’s because we hope for a partner who will put equal work, time, and effort into the marriage as we want to. and sadly, there just aren’t too many men like that today. i aspire to be married and would absolutely love to be a wife someday. but, i refuse to be married to a man who makes me feel like a slave in my own home, or who makes me feel like i’m his second mother. that’s not a marriage at that point and i will happily divorce a man over this in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:24 AM
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they’re nostalgic of a time where women didn’t have full rights and had to marry for security rather than actual desire or interest. they’re nostalgic of a time where men got to put in little to no effort when it came to dating and courtship, and still managed to get relationships (and therefore consistent sex). most of the guys on ppd are obsessed with the idea of getting top quality while they’re bare minimum at best or below average men. they act like men today are amazing providers and prote…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:11 AM
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gotta tell my bf this asap
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:40 PM
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saying personality is important doesn’t mean looks don’t matter at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 09:39 PM
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the hell i would. i would rather anyone find a partner that will do their part to maintain the relationship and the home, rather than someone who thinks only doing one thing suffices then they get to sit on their ass for the rest of the day while they expect their partner to go above and beyond. the only people not okay with divorcing for that reason are people okay being slaves for the rest of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 07:26 PM
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best/wildest experiences so far? giving oral during class and having sex on a rooftop during sunset (highly recommend).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:58 PM
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facts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:57 PM
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whatever makes him happy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:46 AM
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there’s plenty of americans who find actual love with foreigners, both men and women, on the show lol. keep the projecting and bitterness to yourself bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:42 AM
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i’m not making fun of him. 90 day fiancé is my favorite show :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:30 AM
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facts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:17 AM
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hope that works out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:14 AM
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nice. cant wait to see you on 90 day fiancé in a couple years <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:10 AM
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are you from the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:03 AM
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that too. i think this is why so many males start having romantic feelings for their female friends sometime throughout the friendship. it seems that men don’t really know how to compartmentalize in this area.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 06:01 AM
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i think there is to an extent. men are less likely to hear compliments or be approached, so when these things do happen to them, it definitely gives them an ego boost and makes them feel desired/wanted.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 05:34 AM
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50 is way too lenient
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:04 AM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:02 AM
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i wish i could gift you. this comment is gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:57 AM
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already took him to do that awhile ago
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:32 AM
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i know what he meant
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:31 AM
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aw i love this idea. i’m not the most creative but i’m going to try it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 06:01 AM
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yeah i’m struggling with thinking of something. he likes to build so maybe i’ll get him a toolbox if i can’t find anything better. thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:19 AM
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hm might have to look into concerts. thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:19 AM
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yeah probably doesn’t for you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:15 AM
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been there, done that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:12 AM
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what are some good anniversary gifts to get my bf? he’s very much a “i’d like whatever you get me” type of guy so i’m struggling with ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:09 AM
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both of those girls are 10s to me. i gave my own ratings based on my opinion and the opinions of those who have given them to me. you don’t even know me and we obviously have different beauty ratings😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:01 AM
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because mentally, i won’t feel comfortable to. if my mind isn’t comfortable with a concept, my body will not follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:29 PM
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with full face makeup? yeah i do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:22 PM
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i’m not overrating myself at all lmao. my ratings are pretty accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:08 PM
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what’s funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 10:57 PM
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9 with full makeup, 8.5 with everyday makeup, 7 without
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 10:39 PM
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that’s fair. i’m just not interested in going out of my sexual comfort zone or exploring sexually with someone i don’t know. the few hookups i did have, i was asked to do some stuff i declined out of lack of comfortability. if my partner asked me to do them today, i would but that’s because i trust him and he allows me to be vulnerable with him. i still had fun with the hookups but there’s certain levels a boyfriend or husband will unlock that a hookup will not, and i’m not ashamed to admit that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 10:12 PM
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damn you got me. my bad sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:59 PM
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you’re assuming they even talk to women in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:51 PM
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because i know for a fact i want to be a mom, and my future kids having a good life is my #1 priority and motivation behind what i do. i never want my kids to struggle or have to worry about anything growing up. so if i have a good life and am secure after 35, that means they’ll be happy and taken care of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:36 PM
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i agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:11 PM
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the second option
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:09 PM
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i actually see women paying for their half more often than the opposite. my partner and i usually take turns paying for the entire date or we’ll pay for the date based on who has the best income at the moment. we’ve never gone half and half before (since the first date which i paid for).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:05 PM
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this! i owe nothing to a hookup so there’s no reason to go all out for them and as a woman, you have to be on guard during casual sex (just in case). a partner? i’m willing to do almost anything and everything because i genuinely have feelings for them and know they have my best interest in mind. i’m sure lots women (though i’d argue most) feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:12 PM
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i’ve never heard of this debate nor have i ever heard a woman say “i want/like guys with a dad bod”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:55 PM
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because i’ve seen enough of your comments to know the basis of your views on things
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 08:02 AM
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no. she’s against it because she doesn’t like the risks associated with it. nothing against you, she just wants to protect herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:40 AM
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i figured you’d say that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:25 AM
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what does nsa mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:12 AM
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Q4M: If your SO wouldn’t send you nudes because she’s uncomfortable with the concept (and she’s never sent any to anyone ever), how would you feel about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:39 AM
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i 100% agree. i have a thing for skater types who typically look scrawny and far from muscular. but i think they’re some of the most attractive guys around. i honestly prefer that look over super muscular. but i prefer both of those looks over overweight/dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:36 AM
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that’s cute
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:39 PM
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respect
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:37 PM
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fortunately i don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:22 PM
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she’s most likely just being nice
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:18 PM
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it’s not the same
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:17 PM
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today marks two months since i last got laid. i don’t know how you men do this for years on end💔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:03 PM
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may
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:02 PM
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But when a woman has kids, the financial burden shifts to the man. This is not always true whatsoever so why you say this like it’s fact is astonishing. Many women work full time jobs after having kids and help financially take care of their home, as well as do most of the child work and domestic care. This is the issue. I agree that marriage is a team sport which is why I support women who divorce their husbands if they are not doing anything else but work and think that’s sufficient while she’…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:36 PM
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More of a feminine role for me. I will have a career and help provide financially (and I expect my future husband to help with domestic and child work) but I want to be a feminine wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:22 AM
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if im a stay at home mom who doesn’t work? no. housework and child rearing would be all on me. if im working full time as well, then yes he is expected to do some housework and child rearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:15 AM
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a. it’s a true statement. if you’re trying to find someone to spend the rest of your life with and grow old with, you can’t realistically expect them to look the same forever. b. i believe looks matter and do play a part in choosing a romantic partner. you should want to be genuinely attracted to your partner and if you’re like me, it’s hard to be intimate with someone you dont find physically enticing. but as you build a connection with someone, the physical attraction should begin to outweighe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 11:01 PM
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my parents influence 90% of what i look for and how i view relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:49 PM
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regarding point one, that’s correct but women are now expected to also work a full time job on top of all that. so if we’re looking at this from a traditional standpoint, women are doing 100% of their traditional role while also doing a percentage of the man’s traditional role. that is totally a viable reason to divorce if everything is on your back and you’re getting little to no help from your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:45 PM
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100% this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:40 PM
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most women? no
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:58 PM
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im sure it is for some demographics
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:52 PM
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i feel like that’s not foolproof though. for example, my parents were pretty similar in looks but my dad’s looks have stayed the same over time while my mom’s have improved. everywhere she goes, she gets attention and approached. even by guys my age. looksmatching only does so much which is why i think it’s a flimsy approach to dating and relationships. people should just date what they find attractive and not settle based on “theories”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:50 PM
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fair. how would you react if a woman left you for a 9 after you staying by her side for six years? you would understand right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:20 PM
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but i never said it was the right time if they wanted something casual. it was the right time when i wanted a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:18 PM
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If all they wanted was something chill and casual then it was the right time. If they wanted something serious then it wasn't haha xD when did i say that? don’t put words in my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:10 PM
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a cup of noodles. salad is a close second.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:56 PM
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not yet. i’m trying to take the “just love yourself and find the good in what you have. wait until you get older.” approach. it’s somewhat working.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:48 PM
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i don’t disagree with that. i’m someone who wanted plastic surgery myself. i just gave my opinion based on why i think people told me not to get it, and why they tell other not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:45 PM
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why
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:41 PM
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i said people don’t consider plastic surgery attractive since it’s not natural. plastic surgery is permanent. makeup is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:38 PM
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because it’s not natural
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:33 PM
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i think so. i feel lots of people don’t consider plastic surgery attractive because it’s not natural beauty, it’s fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 08:23 PM
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Q4M- Imagine this: You’re 21. You’re not in the best financial position and you’re in college trying to achieve a degree. You meet a girl who you really like and start dating her. Physically, she’s a 6/7. But she emotionally supports you and stays by your side through the good and bad. She’s ambitious, outgoing, driven, loyal and a good person. She makes you feel loved and desired (assuming you do the same for her). Fast forward, you’re 27. Still with your girlfriend from college. You’ve graduat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 07:51 PM
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they equally matter. i’m not having sex with a man i don’t find physically attractive and i’m not staying around for a man who can’t emotionally stimulate and support me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 07:19 PM
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for me, i don’t think there’s really a difference attraction wise between the guys i’d have casual sex with and the guy i’d date. the metrics to get me to have casual sex are pretty similar to the metrics a guy has to meet to date me (though dating metrics have more of an emphasis on values, morals, and personality). as someone else in the thread said, it’s purely based on how i’m feeling at the time. when i was having casual sex, i didn’t want a relationship and wasn’t looking for one. the guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 07:16 PM
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majority. it’s a “the grass is always greener” mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:00 PM
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i accepted that truth long ago. i’ve never met a woman who didn’t care about a man’s looks and i certainly care about them a lot. i will say, the ones who openly say they care about a man’s looks and are “shallow” about it, are content being alone and are happy with themselves. i think the people who rely on relationships to be happy and sane are more likely to make exceptions to be with partners they’re not totally into physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 06:55 PM
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while i understand what you’re saying, i disagree to an extent. i think a dating struggle is anything that hinders someone from having a decent amount of dating opportunities, which her height does for her. me saying that she’s dated athletes that are taller than her doesn’t mean she’s just dating athletes left and right and her opportunities are plentiful. doesn’t mean that all of these dates turn into relationships either. she still struggles. guys shorter than her still won’t date her, even i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:03 AM
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i agree that short men 5’0 or shorter have it worse (as previously stated). but both extremely short men and extremely tall women have it bad and do not have much luck in the dating world. i’m pretty firm on that stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 06:30 AM
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sure she has that outlet but what about the tall women who don’t play sports? tall women who play sports and have the opportunities my friend has are few to none. even then, a couple women in the wnba have talked about their dating troubles due to their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:55 AM
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everything you’re saying is just stuff you’re pulling out of thin air that’s not only wrong but insanely ignorant. there’s no point in having a debate with you. there’s no way i’m taking your random made up word over professionals who specialize in conception, pregnancy, and early childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:53 AM
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i agree but her situation isn’t too much better. i think you guys really underestimate how much men discriminate heights for women. notice how i said all the guys who were willing to date her were still taller than her. all the boys she liked who were shorter weren’t interested. if she wasn’t doing sports, she wouldn’t be doing too well in the dating realm and she herself acknowledges that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:44 AM
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understandable. thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:42 AM
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i think the average 6’3 woman and an average 5’2 man have the same struggles. the only reason why my friend is doing okay is because she played sports and excelled in them. for the taller women who don’t play sports, i think they have the same struggles as a really short man. most men are not interested in dating 6’3 woman and the ones who are, are a very small minority. i’m sure the same is true for 5’2 men, just the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:37 AM
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depends on how short we’re talking. what do you consider short?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:28 AM
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why would you “love” it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:14 AM
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cant even see her body…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:10 AM
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Q4PPD: What do you think about dating outside your race?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:08 AM
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this post is definitely one of the weirdest things i’ve read on this sub. your “research” is wrong and isn’t based on anything factual whatsoever. i work at a prenatal clinic and can confidently say everything you’re saying is false. there is a reason why clinics prefer the sperm of men 25 years of age and younger. this is the most desired sperm for women looking for sperm donors. and there’s a reason why the upper limit for donating sperm, at least in the US, is 39 years of age. older sperm is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:03 AM
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it doesn’t sound too bad right now but she spent years in therapy because it made her so depressed and made her feel like she wasn’t feminine enough. i’m sure she still struggles with those insecurities despite dating “elite” guys. those emotions don’t just go away, especially when a small minority of men are interested in dating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:48 AM
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agreed. my experience with my friend definitely showed me tall women don’t have it easy, similar to short men. women don’t tend to like short guys and men don’t tend to like tall women. men aren’t the only victims of height discrimination like they try to make it seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:36 AM
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i have a friend who is 6’3. in high school, she would struggle a lot with dating. she was interested in dating shorter guys but they usually weren’t interested in her back because she was too tall. it really ruined her self esteem and self confidence for a long time. she would cry to me all the time saying how she wished she was shorter and how she felt she would be alone forever since no guy would date her since she’s so tall. today, things are much better for her though. she played sports like…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:34 AM
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lmao guys here are delusional thinking the average guy looks good past 40, and that’s being nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:52 AM
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imo, majority hit it before 40. by then, most of them have balded , gotten wrinkles, dad bods, and beer bellies. let’s not mention the decreasing amount of healthy/decent quality sperm. not attractive whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:43 AM
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if i consider them “below my league”, that means i was trying to be into them and give them the benefit of the doubt though they’re not what i’m usually attracted to. if they were to dump me when i wasn’t even totally into them in the first place, i would feel embarrassed and played. that’s why i don’t date people i’m not 100% into. you’re either what i want or you’re not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:36 AM
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before i answer this, define your definition of “below your league”. are we talking about looks, social status, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:29 AM
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b
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:23 AM
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enjoying the feeling of being desired does not mean sex is an accomplishment. for someone speaking against women allegedly “thinking men think like them”, that’s actually what you’re doing. just the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:44 PM
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20f. i’ll identify as blue pilled though I’m not one for labels. my experiences, the experiences of loved ones, and the topics i’ve researched/engaged in are the main reasons why i would consider myself blue pilled. i find blue pulled ideologies align best with my outlook on the world and gender dynamics/relationships. there are few RP concepts i agree with, but often believe there are different reasons for these things than the reasons the RP tries to present. i honestly don’t remember how i fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 05:57 AM
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depends on the song. most of her songs bring out insecurities though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:00 AM
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you’re supposed to be focused on the dress, not the model
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:58 AM
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Q4M Would you be okay your SO wearing this out to a party with friends? https://imgur.com/a/x8qY8zk
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:27 AM
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over the top? no. but i’ve made a few sly sexual comments about hot actors or actresses. we usually laugh about it or compare our celeb crushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 03:00 AM
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i’m actually going to agree with you here. i think the age gap and whether the person is only looking for a preferred age group is a big factor on whether the guy is a creep or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:23 AM
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my family
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:12 AM
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there’s nothing wrong with having a preference for younger women because of our looks, charisma, lack of baggage, etc. i mean, these are all reasons why i prefer men in my age group and find old guys totally undesirable. so i believe the two main points you capitalized on are probably the main points of an old man’s attraction to younger women. but we can’t act like a lot of these men who are into younger women aren’t also looking for an easy target that will be more likely to be amazed at the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:08 AM
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facts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 05:54 PM
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it’s hilarious how common it is today among men in general. especially with the whole “i don’t wanna pay for dates and get used for a meal. 50/50 only” mantra guys are preaching. most of these same guys expect women to be submissive to them, feminine, non-combative, and traditional while also expecting them to go 50/50 on bills. like how do you want me to do 100% of my role then do 50% of your role on top of that? we all know these types of guys aren’t doing any domestic work or playing a huge r…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 09:49 AM
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so you want traditionalism but don’t want to do the traditional male role of taking care of all of the finances? but then want her to do the traditional female role and do 20% of the traditional male role which is supposed to be your job? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 09:29 AM
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i think we’re saying similar things but in different formats. the bottom line is: men didn’t have to put in an effort to be desirable to women because there was no need to. that we agree on. you say it’s because being desirable wasn’t wanted and it was “genetical reinforcement”. i say it’s because women didn’t have the rights and free will to be able to choose a desirable partner in the first place. we might have different reasons but the basis is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:20 AM
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i agree that many men don’t know how to be desirable to women but this is mainly because they’ve never had to be. despite being in a time where women are having their reproductive rights stolen from them, this is still a time in history where women get to have a say in most important aspects of their life and this includes their relationships. historically, relationships were about survival from the woman’s POV. when you have very few rights and you’re pretty much subjected to being a stay at ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 06:58 AM
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men are allowed to be upset about it. i don’t think many women have a problem with men being frustrated about their dating issues. at least i don’t because i get it and i’ve been there. the problem occurs when men get angry with women and expect us to do something about their issues. there’s this underlying entitled tone like it’s our fault for what happened to them and we’re just supposed to put aside our feelings, lower our standards, use our bodies, and waste our time just to make some guy ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 06:27 AM
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who said it was an accomplishment? casual sex for women is often about having a need met and having a good time. men are the only ones thinking about it being an “accomplishment” and that’s why a lot of men continue to fail in the dating world, then blame their woes on women when they don’t get what they feel they’re entitled to. that’s not our problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:49 AM
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like?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:41 AM
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i think the problem really comes to what one believes “casual sex” is and the frequency at which it happens. i think the guys who are actually average in looks can pick up at least 3 or 4 sexual partners a year if they put in the work to, possibly more. that would be sufficient to some men and not enough to others. but i do think you’re right that too many men are labeling themself “average” when they’re actually “below average”, mainly in the looks and personality department.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:37 AM
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as a fellow 20 year old, i get your sentiments though i have not experienced what you described. i do know that the things you’ve described are common for many women (though i’ve personally only met very few) and there are a lot of shitty people out there in the dating world, both men and women. and sometimes, shitty things just happen to good people. so i hope what i say next does not come off as “victim blaming”… i advise you to sit down one day, turn on your favorite song or album, and just w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:25 AM
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Have you ever made a move on a man? yep multiple times. got rejected some. went on dates with some and it went nowhere. started dating some (ie my current partner). Have you ever paid for a first date? yeah i did with my current partner. What actions have you taken to get a man's attention? fortunately the thing men find desirable is stuff i already do because it makes me happy and i find them as hobbies. that being said, i did work on putting myself out there as i have struggled with dating bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:51 AM
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i will apply the same logic because i’m not a sexist and misogynistic jerk unlike some. if i asked my partner right now what makes the difference between someone relationship worthy and someone casual sex worthy, i know we would have similar answers because it’s not a question exclusive to women only. what you fail to understand are not all men are like you. not all of them are struggling in dating or the casual sex world. i would suggest you stop projecting your insecurities onto others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:07 AM
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no guy i’ve dated hasn’t had at least one casual sex partner before me, so the same questions could be asked to them right? are you suggesting only women have casual sex and men don’t? or is that the only narrative you wanna push?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:39 AM
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if that’s what you wanna think, sure
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:08 AM
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Q4All: What’s something you’ve seen your parent or parents do in relationship(s) that you vow not to repeat? for me, it’s seeing my mom playing the typical “superwoman” role expected of most women. she works a full time job then she cooks (my dad and her share this responsibility though), she does all the cleaning, she makes sure that me and my siblings are taken care of and have everything we need, she makes sure my dad’s life is organized, etc. she does it all without complaining while my dad …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:07 AM
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i feel sad for your mother for producing you. you’re such a failure and i know she hates having you for a son.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:46 AM
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accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:30 AM
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i was joking… you good?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:26 AM
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you’re talking about something else. all i said was everything you mentioned in your previous comment is stuff women do too. you don’t think women look at hot guys and think about being intimate with them? or think that women don’t look at porn stars and feel sexual attraction to them? you don’t think that there are many women that can just have sex and not give a fuck about you afterwards? these aren’t male exclusive things and if you think you are, that’s unfortunate as it’s not reality. do wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:25 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:22 AM
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he was pretty quick texting me back. he thought the whole concept of the post was pretty weird. i view sex and love the same way so it’s definitely not only a male thing. everything you mentioned is stuff (i would argue) most women do too. we’re not blind and have desires as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:17 AM
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definitely. i’ve been to protests before for other issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:05 AM
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after thinking hard about it, no. for one, i have an iud (until age 27 unless the government bans them) so my chances of pregnancy are slim already. two, i talked to my mother about it yesterday and she told me she and my father would help me return home to california and pay for an abortion if i ever needed one (i go to college in a red state 13 hours away). california just signed a bill that says they will not cooperate with any states that try to prosecute women for getting an abortion, so th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:02 AM
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guys i think my bf is broken. i asked him if men are naturally polyamorous (re the post) and he said “I feel like some guys try to use that as a excuse or use it to manipulate girls. If you truly found the one you love that’s all that’s gonna matter. If it’s anything else they haven’t matured enough.” what’s wrong with mine?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:55 AM
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same
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:51 AM
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yeah this post is about to get deleted just like your other post about sleeping with your friends’ spouses got deleted
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:12 AM
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women aren’t a monolith just like men aren’t a monolith. many women have a super high libido so talking in absolutes is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 12:14 AM
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sure and lots of women would fuck other men too if they could. what’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 12:12 AM
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many men are monogamous and want that in a relationship. it’s just not for you. i suggest you make it clear you’re polyamorous and stop cheating on your partners. how do you this? be upfront and honest from the jump. be a big boy, use your big boy words, and communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 12:09 AM
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i’m going to say neither. the dating world is the way it is now because women have a choice to choose partners they actually want. there’s no need to settle anymore or accept any man because he’s going to provide for you and your family. men don’t suck at dating mainly because historically they never really had to date. now they have to learn. social media helps document it but i believe it would of been the same way decades ago if women had a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:53 PM
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for real. this guy is a huge red flag. promiscuous men aren’t long term material.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:48 PM
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not surprised but i’ll try to send it during my break when i’m not working. as previously stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:23 PM
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sounds good. i’ll try to do it during my break.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 05:44 PM
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everyone has their beliefs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 05:18 PM
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imgur link it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:58 PM
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i wouldn’t enter a serious relationship with a man with previous kids in the first place. good luck to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:56 PM
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thot mom
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:53 PM
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i understand that and i’m happy you feel strongly about something you support. good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:46 PM
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most likely. guys who just miss a requirement or preference tend to be the most bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:40 PM
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i don’t disagree. i just don’t like extremists (like you seem to be). i’m pretty moderate/independent and therefore need someone who feels similarly. should of added that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:33 PM
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some guy from this sub just messaged me and said that i’m being a “picky and shallow bitch” for saying i will only date guys taller than me (i’m 5’6) when the average male height in the US is 5’9… really shows that to lots of men, a woman is only “picky and shallow” when she doesn’t consider them an option. time to raise my height requirement to 6’0.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:32 PM
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strongly supports? no.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:23 PM
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depends on how extreme he was
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:19 PM
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yep because those are the basic requirements i need in a partner. my must haves. it’s really easy to meet a guy who has everything i listed because it’s basic shit. there’s thousands, probably millions, of men who can fit those requirements. i don’t need to settle for one who doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:03 PM
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so because your grandma could, most or all other women could? i can tell you without a doubt that mine couldn’t. nice to see you think this is a “man hating” issue instead of being empathetic to the realities of way too many women at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:57 PM
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and? it doesn’t matter what you or anyone else considers stupid. it’s my life and what i want in my romantic partner that i would be spending the rest of my life with. they either meet my requirements or they don’t. that height requirement is already pretty lenient to begin with compared to other women. don’t push it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:50 PM
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what’s that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:47 PM
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that’s taller than me right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:52 AM
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the female nature of having standards and not just pity fucking anyone? thank god we have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:24 AM
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dating like what? finding someone to spend the rest of your life with that you don’t find physically repulsive? guys say this but then end up mad when they’re in a deadbedroom lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:19 AM
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we already do. i just don’t go to college there (where i spend majority of the year).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:35 AM
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definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:19 AM
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Q4M: Is it wrong for women to want a partner they find physically attractive? Why or why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 03:17 AM
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still don’t care. wouldn’t glance twice if i saw that man on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:16 PM
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i’m not either lmao. lame attempt at a diss.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:10 PM
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most people who say that are lying
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:08 PM
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i’ve literally never heard a woman call that guy cute and i can see why
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:06 PM
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they didn’t lie
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:04 PM
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the second guy is definitely not sexy…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:03 PM
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the fake moaning. turned me off so much, i stopped watching the professional stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:25 PM
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short answer: those values and attitudes all connect to family. family means everything to me. if no one else has your back and supports you, your family is supposed to be right there. and that’s the environment i want to give my future husband and children. so i need my partner to have the same mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 10:09 PM
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happy birthday!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:18 PM
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i actually have a very good model of a relationship through my parents that i’m super thankful for. and i think it’s had a positive impact on my life and relationships thus far. that being said, i do see some things in their relationship that i will not allow in any of mine. even us with better models to look at can improve in areas our models lack in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:08 PM
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my bare minimum standards for men: -want marriage and kids, and value these things -value your family -have a hard work ethic/thrive to do well in life -don’t be misogynistic or sexist -be someone i find physically attractive -be taller than me (i’m literally 5’6. not asking for a lot here) treat people with kindness -have a good personality and/or be funny -be christian or catholic -be fit that’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:48 PM
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huh? i just find people who can bounce back after failing attractive because we’ll have more in common and i think they make better material for spouses and fathers. that has nothing to do with giving men emotional support when needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:43 PM
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to me, they usually are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:31 PM
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i’m sure for some women that may be the case but not for me personally. i feel like my must have standards are pretty bare minimum and simple so i have no reason to lower them. if you can’t meet the bare minimum, why would i want to waste my time, body and resources on you? that wouldn’t be smart, regardless of how good the chemistry is. that being said, i’ve accepted some things that maybe weren’t my ideal. but these things weren’t dealbreakers. all the things that i’ve wanted in a partner were…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:28 PM
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something i find attractive in anyone is their ability to push through difficult situations and the way they react after being knocked down. life sucks and isn’t easy but how you keep moving says a lot about you and how you would act as a potential romantic partner. i doubt many women find the “woe is me, no one likes me” attitude attractive. so even faking it until you make it is a good route to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:17 PM
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it’s just their misogyny and entitlement showing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:05 PM
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i believe in not subjecting people to take care of babies they aren’t capable of supporting. if you actually cared about these babies, you would want the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:09 PM
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yeah that’s what i’ve been trying to tell myself. unfortunately, sometimes my anxiety gets the best of me and i start to think of the what if’s which is why i try to think of backup plans just in case they may be needed. and right now, i don’t have any which is why i’m a bit on edge. but i’ll adjust eventually. thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:41 PM
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thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:39 PM
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What a time to be alive. I feel like all my contingency plans are kind of fucked right now so that’s great /s. I’m heading into my third year of college in a red state that is working hard to change their existing abortion rules that allow a woman to get an abortion before the baby is 12 weeks. They’re currently working to reduce that. I pretty much pay for my own education and bills with no help or very little help from my parents and I’m first gen. So though my home state is a blue state, retu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:26 PM
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i feel bad for myself too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:04 PM
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you must have me confused with someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:25 PM
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facts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:25 PM
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we have different definitions of disrespect then and that’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:46 AM
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anything is possible but i doubt she’s seen a hot celebrity in a movie and didn’t think about him with his shirt off or what other aspects of his body would look like unclothed. i doubt that she’s never done that at least once in her relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:46 AM
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no it’s a friend. if my bf had the crush and told his male friends, i wouldn’t care. i feel like it’s a silly thing to be triggered over.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:43 AM
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what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:40 AM
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unless you know what she’s thinking 24/7, you don’t know for sure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:39 AM
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women fantasize about men too ya know😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:36 AM
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you were the one bringing up sexualizing when that wasn’t even what the original question said. you bringing up sleeping with said coworker either shows you’re projecting or that you don’t know how to read. either option is a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:29 AM
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just better when she fantasizes about having sex with other men while sitting next to you? kidding (kind of…) happy things worked out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:23 AM
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if you’re secure in yourself and your relationship, your partner finding someone else attractive and telling a friend that they have a hot coworker shouldn’t be an issue imo. considering someone a “threat” because their SO isn’t blind and can notice when someone is attractive, just signifies insecurity within one’s self or the relationship imo. but everyone has different boundaries. some women find watching porn cheating. some guys find having male friends cheating. and all that is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:13 AM
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that’s why i don’t believe in “taking breaks” and concepts like that. when you’re not together, you’re not together. it’s not anyone’s business what you do as a single person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:09 AM
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that’s fair. i don’t see it as an issue but we all have boundaries. thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:07 AM
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but you broke up…?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:58 AM
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why is it disrespectful if it’s unprompted?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:55 AM
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well at least you’re being honest that it’s a insecurity thing for you. thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:40 AM
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so let’s say she has a celebrity crush and she talked to her friend about the new picture he posted on instagram that he looked hot in. pushing the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 06:22 AM
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i don’t necessarily think it’s something that makes others look bad. i feel like that’s a harsh reaction for your partner telling a friend they find someone besides you attractive. but i respect your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:52 AM
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okay so what if she’s like “omg my coworker is so hot.” and describes him to her friend. is that weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:37 AM
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how?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:36 AM
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so it’s not okay for her to find other guys attractive and chat to a friend about it? like if she saw a hot guy on the street, she can’t turn to her friend and say “damn he’s fine.” and keep walking?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:27 AM
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let’s say the relationship’s great and she definitely loves you but the guy looks different. he’s taller. broader shoulders. sharper jawline. different race. your thoughts? edit: word
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:25 AM
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how does that even correlate to finding someone she works with attractive and wanting to see him at work because she finds him attractive? do you think she’s just doing to go blind to all the hot guys in the world because she’s with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:24 AM
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hm i don’t necessarily agree but i see what you’re saying. thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:20 AM
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guess it depends on the women in question. i personally don’t care and the friends i have wouldn’t care either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:09 AM
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lol i’m getting bitter vibes. i thought we were on the same page? you don’t want some former party girl as a partner and i don’t want some former party guy with a high n count, especially the older ones who are less attractive than their younger counterparts and wasted their youth so now they’re trying to steal mine. there’s no way i’m dating let alone marrying someone that washed up. i can’t be repulsed by this without having someone say any guy my age who’s with me is “lonely”? how the tables …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:07 AM
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so it’s the telling someone that makes you upset? would you be mad if she was with a friend, saw a hot guy on the street, and told her friend “damn he’s hot.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:05 AM
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but who said they want that guy more than they want you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 05:04 AM
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eh i’ll take my hot young bf over them. not a lesbian, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:57 AM
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what if she didn’t tell her friends but she told her mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:56 AM
1

why does it matter what her friends think?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:56 AM
1

here’s your crown queen —> 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:55 AM
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you’ve never thought someone at your job was attractive and looked forward to seeing them because they’re attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:48 AM
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they never mention the multitude of bald old guys with dad bods and beer bellies that most of us see at least a few times a week. they matter too!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:44 AM
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Q4M: How would you react if you found out your SO had a crush on one of her male coworkers? She has no intent to cheat or profess her feelings to said person but she finds him very attractive and has talked to friends about how attractive he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:35 AM
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my bad for not adding /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:32 AM
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the one i got most hate for? old guys aren’t the prize they think they are and very few women are actively seeking them out, besides the ones in their age group. i was kidding about being the most hated 20 year old but i wasn’t kidding about the hate messages.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:29 AM
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you really broke down what my origins statement like i was remotely serious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:25 AM
1

quality time and words of affirmation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:18 AM
1

yeah in a perfect world that would happen. that’s not reality though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:13 AM
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don’t even know who that is
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:11 AM
1

acts of service and words of affirmation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:10 AM
1

entitlement and ego
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:09 AM
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i was only on this sub for like a month before i went on hiatus but i got a ton of hateful messages from some guys on here. mainly from the old washed up ones who didn’t like what i was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:08 AM
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they can’t compete where they don’t compare
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:07 AM
1

nice. i’m currently working on this with my partner so i’m always interested to hear others’ experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:03 AM
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i agree but that’s not good enough for most men and not all men have the ability to have those things through casual dating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:59 AM
1

how long did it take you and your husband to get on board with each other’s love languages?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:58 AM
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the most hated 20 year old to ever participate on this sub edit: this was a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:57 AM
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i agree. the people with high standards have them because they are secure within themselves and are fine being alone. to them, a relationship and companionship are things that add to someone’s life. it doesn’t make their life whole. i truly believe people with low standards or those who complain about someone having high standards, are simply projecting. they subconsciously lower their own standards because they’re desperate for just someone. these people are not okay being alone and seek relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:53 AM
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wow that last sentence was gold
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:40 AM
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nah both my parents were and are about the same level of attractiveness. they both still get approached (though my mom more than my dad) and they’re in their 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:39 AM
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you right
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:38 AM
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there’s nothing wrong with this standard. i feel the same way towards men, especially old washed up ones who remotely even think it’s a possibility that i would waste my youth on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:33 AM
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after a two month break i’ve returned back to this shitshow of a sub. nice to be back😎
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:29 AM
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good thing i don’t give a single fuck what men think at this point in my life. lurk more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:22 AM
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Lol whatever you wanna believe. You underestimate how stupid and desperate men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:05 AM
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you’re 100% right. i probably won’t come back at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 06:04 PM
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you're really just subscribed to the reality of the situation. that’s the problem though. i don’t think most of the people here are subscribed to reality. you’re living in bubbles full of generalizations and anecdotes instead of realizing there’s a huge world with billions of people who all don’t act alike and who all feel differently on the topics presented here. while there are some genuinely good discussions here, that’s not what this sub mainly consists of. it’s just a bunch of bitter people…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:25 PM
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that’s fair. i genuinely like debates and do think there are some good conversations on the sub, but there seems to be more toxicity than genuine fair interactions most of the time. it can be a lot to take in sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:05 PM
2

interesting. why do you frequent this sub then?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:58 PM
2

yeah pretty much. i still have a spark of excitement inside and hope for the future. that died in most of you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:56 PM
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i feel like i need to come back to this sub after i’m at least 25. some of you guys are way too jaded and have too much baggage, and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:54 PM
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why would women need to do that in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:47 PM
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shave pubes and chest hair. leg hair and arm hair are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:45 PM
1

not bragging? i was just genuinely happy i got to be intimate with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 03:33 PM
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me too friend, me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 07:14 AM
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yeah it definitely is, for any gender
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:51 AM
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I GOT LAID TONIGHT. let’s goooo😎
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:35 AM
1

i’ve been told i look like gabby douglas a number of times. i look nothing like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:33 AM
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i pray everyday that i never have to date again. the dating world is shit and the “options” available are too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:38 PM
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what i am now: 5’6 125lbs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:49 PM
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we all know most redditors don’t go outside…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:47 PM
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how her relationships with her friends are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:47 PM
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i’d say so
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 08:16 PM
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some people don’t want to play girlfriend forever so i get the sentiment. what i don’t understand is why they’re still in those relationships when their partner obviously isn’t on the same wavelength as they are. seems like a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 08:14 PM
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we haven’t fought since our relationship started
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 08:10 PM
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they were always attractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:48 PM
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nope. i also never claimed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 05:44 AM
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what magnitude? you can’t even back up your argument to prove there is a “magnitude” to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 05:33 AM
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he doesn’t look like he cared to put effort into his appearance in the first picture
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:43 AM
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what are things 50% of women all around the world do and what verified sources do you have to back what you say? edit: also, lots of men here claim all women do or like the same thing and you use the value 50% which isn’t even a majority of women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:41 AM
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funny how things change when you actually put effort into your appearance instead of looking like you just rolled out of bed everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:37 AM
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i know how to pick and cheese my battles
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:19 AM
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at least you’re self aware
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:14 AM
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sure you are <3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:10 AM
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you are. i suggest you read it a few times so you can fully comprehend what was said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:06 AM
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pretty sure i said some guys
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:03 AM
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you’re still missing the point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:02 AM
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and so do men that’s not the point though. it’s the irony of making blanket statements for one gender but any blanket statements made against your own is all of a sudden unfair and not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 02:59 AM
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not all men bad and not all women bad. in a world of 7 billion people, no single demographic can be just one thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 02:48 AM
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totally missed the point of my comment i see
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 02:34 AM
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it’s funny how some guys on this sub say all women are the exact same and want the exact same thing and act the exact same way. but then try to defend men and say “not all of us are bad or dangerous. there’s lots of good men out there” five minutes later lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 02:21 AM
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i date interracially because of chance, not because i’m purposely seeking it out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 12:36 AM
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not true at all. there’s lots of good in my race.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 12:29 AM
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i don’t generalize my own race as anything. there’s good and bad in all races.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 12:26 AM
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that’s not necessarily a guarantee but i get your point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 12:17 AM
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it’s just what i like based on what i’ve dealt with. i have no trauma or anything related to my POV and would date anyone regardless of color.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 12:06 AM
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agree. sorry for the lack of clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:56 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:51 PM
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guess i’m old fashioned
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:51 PM
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as long as you take care of the kids and the cooking and cleaning. teehee ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:49 PM
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depends on the age demographic. but regardless, men are still the best at working and providing <3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:46 PM
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omg you’re so right! men are the best at working so he can pay all the bills while i cook and clean😎
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:42 PM
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black
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:38 PM
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as long as he washes all the dishes and cleans the kitchen after i’m done, i’m down
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:37 PM
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the guys i’ve met so far that have provided me with the best relationships and have been the best partners have been men outside my race. not saying men like that don’t exist within my race but i haven’t encountered them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:34 PM
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Q4M: think of your preferred n count for a woman and keep it in mind when reading this scenario you’re dating a woman that you like a lot. one day, you guys get on the topic of sex and n counts and you ask for hers. she tells you that her n count is +1 over your preference/limit, but it was because she was sexually assaulted and violated by someone without her consent. what would you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:20 PM
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same broad culture. i tend to date interracially and like the cultural differences between us while still having some things in common (though i have realized most cultures have more similarities than we realize).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:16 PM
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i guess it depends on who you’re around. i know some feminine men (often gay) who are definitely wanting it all while the more masculine women (often lesbian) i know are more content with the things they have and recieve. regardless, there’s always an outlier in any situation so i don’t doubt what you said at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:10 PM
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not true. an average count is okay. a couple is okay. high is bad and no n count is bad and this is something every woman in my life has agreed upon. high n count men are not the type of man to settle down with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:03 PM
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eh somewhat? this user is blaming that behavior as a trait of femininity, which some women identify with more than others. it would be different if the user said “women’s biology made us this way” which is an attempt of defining actions of all women simply based off of their biological state (blaming shitty behavior with a biology justification is bad regardless of what gender uses the excuse.) in terms of the “evolutionary speaking” part, there’s no harm in mentioning that. evolutionary speakin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:01 PM
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i knew at age 8 that i wanted to be a mom and at age 20 that’s still my goal and the motivation behind everything i do. so getting a sperm donor if relationships don’t work out is completely fine for me. honestly, i don’t know why the topic of my life is even being discussed as that wasn’t what my initial comment was about anyways. i have my standards and found someone who fits them. j didn’t adjust or change my standards for him. he fit into what i wanted and luckily i fit into what he wanted. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:26 PM
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i’m a woman who doesn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:18 PM
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men with high n counts and/or who have paid for sex are not boyfriend, husband, or father material imo. i’ll never take a guy with either of these seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:08 PM
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i’m aware. i’m just saying i’m not settling and i don’t think women in general should settle either. you used the caveat of “IF you’re able to get what you want” when it shouldn’t be a caveat at all. some people are perfectly fine being alone and shouldn’t lower their standards so they can have just anybody. if that person isn’t what you want, there’s no need to have them at all especially in a time when men aren’t needed. that’s all i’m saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:03 PM
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i told myself that if i’m not married at 32 i’m doing all that i stated in my original response. and i’m 100% happy and satisfied with my plan. i’m not settling for half ass people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 09:38 PM
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20
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 09:31 PM
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some people would rather not settle and are okay with getting nothing at all if that’s what it comes down to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 08:49 PM
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he can but there’s level of commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:04 PM
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thank you so much!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:48 PM
1

so true bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:44 PM
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thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:42 PM
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i doubt who take that path care what you think. if she wants to be a mother, she can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:31 PM
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taken men are such a turn off. a man with a spouse always makes them less desirable imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:33 PM
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it’s not at all. it seems like you don’t know the definition of an incel. regardless my point is, women need to continue to have high standards. no need to lower them in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:31 PM
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it’s not and there’s always some guy who will lock her down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:25 PM
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women could always find a man if they wanted. if a woman doesn’t have a man she either can’t find one who meets her standards or doesn’t want one to the same extent as other women do she’s content with being alone. incels are involuntarily celibate and single
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:20 PM
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yeah but on average a two parent household is the biggest privilege one can have. sure but most kids don’t have that privilege anyways. i mean would you rather these kids grow up with divorced parents or end up with an absentee father who complains about paying child support every month and doesn’t want to step up and be a father? that’s what lots of kids are dealing with these days. there’s a lot of shitty men out here who don’t care about their kids and taking care of them but want to spread t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:13 PM
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not necessarily. i have cousins who were results of my aunt using a sperm donor and they’re doing just fine. they understand their mom’s situation very well and they have a great relationship with her. their mom is well off so they’re never struggling. and they have lots of family support since we all come from a large family. no need to make blanket statements
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:00 PM
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to me, pretty boring. just weird vibes, lots of drunk people, and horrible music.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:56 PM
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then do what you want and find someone compatible for you :) i hope everything works out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:56 PM
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it’s a commitment that matters a lot to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:54 PM
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depends on the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:53 PM
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i never tried to make someone do anything. i was just saying there’s no full effort from me if there’s no commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:52 PM
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friends dragged me to go
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 08:03 AM
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it’s not sex negative, just my opinion. those guys can do whatever they want. i’m just not taking them seriously as a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:48 AM
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i don’t really drink so there’s no need
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:31 AM
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i’m not hating at all. men who participate in or have any history with paying for sex, are just not ones i’ll take seriously. while i understand what you’re saying, there are still men who wouldn’t pay for sex if worse came to worse and those are the ones i prefer to have. like if i was crazy broke, i wouldn’t stand on a local street corner to try to get paid. there’s just levels of desperation that i prefer not to associate with. we could be friends but that guy would never be my boyfriend or h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:24 AM
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the analogy made me laugh but no i wouldn’t. sex and house making are two different things to me. call it a double standard if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:14 AM
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one more year :(
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 07:12 AM
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frat parties are ass so this is my source of entertainment for the night
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:57 AM
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nothing like scrolling on PPD at frat parties🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:23 AM
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for most people just looking for a quick fix there’s not a huge emphasis on looks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:15 AM
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well when you’re just trying to get laid and get off then go about your day, things like that aren’t a huge deal. you’re a guy. you should get that sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:12 AM
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i have seen older and bigger women with moderately attractive partners both irl and with celebrities. but just like with everything in life, it doesn’t really matter what you think or what i think. if two people find each other attractive, that’s all that matters as beauty is in the eye of the beholder :) if you identify as straight, i’m not too sure why you’re so worried about what chads are doing 24/7 and the type of guys who are into a demographic of women you’re obviously not into. seems cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:55 AM
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i gave you my reason but because you don’t agree with it, it’s not sufficient enough for you. and that’s fine :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:49 AM
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morals definitely are an individual thing. but yeah no problem :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:42 AM
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nope. i’ve always found him unattractive and he’s very overrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:41 AM
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sending unsolicited dick pics should be illegal but alas, that’s not the case. we could go on and on about what should and shouldn’t be but that’s not the reality we live in. you forget that there’s a demographic of men for every woman, kink, and fetish. i know you’re obsessed with chads and the lives they live but not all women are. some women just want quick intimacy and to go on with their lives. go on nsfw reddit and look at all the subs for all type of women and how the subscribers are in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:40 AM
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i gave you my argument of why it’s immoral to me. my whole argument was that my morals and someone who’s paid for sex‘s morals don’t align. my morals aren’t your morals or anyone else’s. they’re mine and if i don’t want to date someone who’s paid money for sex with an escort, that’s what it is. i don’t think it’s a purity thing. it’s a “you’re not boyfriend, husband, or father material for me or my future children” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:34 AM
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Singles shouldn't be allowed to adopt or get sperm donors tbh well that’s not how things work :) Not if she wants any kinda quality sex lol you do know there’s a lot of women in relationships who‘s partner doesn’t make them orgasm or doesn’t know how to please them? being in a relationship doesn’t guarantee quality sex and it’s possible to have good sex with a hookup or fwb. she’ll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:27 AM
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standards don’t have to make sense to anyone but the person who has them. it’s like the men who say they don’t date women with high n counts. i saw someone on the mega thread say he’s sleeping with this girl who has a lower n count than him but he still thinks less of her for her n count. i didn’t complain about it. i let people be. a former pedophile can get therapy for his issues. i’m still not dating him and i’m damn sure not having children with him despite him going to therapy. certain thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:24 AM
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like i previously stated, it just shows a lack of self respect and immense desperation. i don’t want to be exclusive with someone who’s paid for sex. same way i wouldn’t want to date an inmate or someone with a history of SA. it’s just not for me and if i find out about it, it’s an automatic dealbreaker. i’d rather not waste my time or theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:15 AM
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it’s not about purity. if it was, id be on the hunt for virgin men to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:10 AM
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it definitely is possible but that’s just not someone i’d want to settle down with
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:06 AM
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in my opinion, it just shows desperation and a lack of self respect. that’s not the type of person i’d like to be in a serious romantic relationship with or someone i’d want to procreate with personally. but again that’s just my personal opinion and i know there’s tons of women who don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:52 AM
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also sick flair. “all falls down” is one of the best songs ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:25 AM
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with the comment above, i was just joking around and making fun of all the guys who use biology as a justification for everything. i just think the reasoning should be used appropriately and when there’s sufficient scientific research to support the claims made. there’s some guys here who use the biology reasoning for any and everything like it’s a solution to every topic presented on the sub. and a lot of them tend to be the same ones who shun women for their preferences though there’s technica…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 04:24 AM
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agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:27 AM
2

oh yeah like this megathread is “serious”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:25 AM
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there’s been a few users i’ve seen use the biology excuse quite often but all in all, it’s just funny to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:25 AM
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i think women have higher standards today because we don’t need men to the degree that we needed them before. women have rights now and the capability to get by on their own. she can pay her own bills. if she wants kids, she can get a sperm donor or adopt. if she needs emotional support, she can get it from friends. if she wants sex, she could get that easily regardless of how she looks or her age or whatever other factor. there’s so many ways to achieve a substantially good life without a man. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:22 AM
2

i think a lot of people on this sub are funny and it’s a huge reason why i come on here. i don’t take this shit seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:17 AM
1

no i just think using the biology reasoning is funny because many men on this sub (not all) use it as a bandaid or justification for everything. if it was used less or reasonably, it probably wouldn’t be as laughable as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:14 AM
0

there is no backpedaling. you just can’t comprehend words well and that’s okay <3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:13 AM
2

no it doesn’t bother me at all. i don’t think anything a man on reddit can say can bother me honestly. i just think it’s funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:10 AM
1

unprompted as in trying to use biology as an excuse for stupid behavior like lots of men on this. “cheaters suck but biology makes men act like animals with no common sense so it’s better when men cheat than women. because biology ya know.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:07 AM
1

he’s using (unprompted) “biological wiring” and nature as the justification for that behavior. doesn’t matter if it was the main reasoning or not, the excuse was still used regardless and it’s funny. it’s funnier that i see comments like this all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:04 AM
1

haha?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:00 AM
2

lmao triggered? really? my original comment was about lame ass biological justifications for behavior and you’re trying to make this about your standards like that was the point of the comment. nice way to make it about yourself bud. gold star. as i told someone else days ago, i encourage men to have standards. i truly do. it would certainly help decrease a lot of issues in the world and the world needs it to become a better place. so have as many standards as you want. go at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:59 AM
1

user says cheating between men and women is “different”. i ask how so? they respond with “how nature made us” justifications. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/u9oftr/what_are_some_dating_hills_that_you_will_die_on/i5tkskt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:57 AM
-1

that’s not changing the goalposts. i haven’t seen a woman use the biological justification on this (though i’ve only been here for less than a month) which is why i suggested the game and why i originally asked them to tag me in those comments. if they’re seeing all these comments from women like i allegedly say, let’s compare who’s using the biological explanation most. that’s all that was.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:53 AM
1

if you’re talking about the height comment, i was joking around. my original comment was pointing out how stupid many guys on this sub sound trying to use biology to justify every single action they make in their life like wild animals. and as another user pointed out, a lot of these same men are the ones crying about women being picky and height standards. it’s laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:51 AM
0

you act like everytime a guy brings up a biological reasoning it’s to debate with someone. a lot of biological justifications are just used when answering many of the questions posted here. again you’re free to tag me when you see a woman using a biological justification out in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:49 AM
3

how?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:46 AM
1

these men bring it up out of thin air. they don’t just bring it up because a woman is trying to “pushback”. nice excuse though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:45 AM
1

that’s what i’m saying. i don’t really like specific features. i like when people’s features come together for them. my bf is a 5’8, skinny white boy but i’ve found taller guys, guys who are my height, and chubbier guys attractive. if they look good, they look good. edit: i guess the only reason distinct thing i like is someone around my age as they’re way more attractive than their older counterparts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:43 AM
0

i’ve been on this sub for less than a month lol but alright let’s play a game. everytime you see a female user using the biology reasoning, write a tally mark down on a piece of paper. i’ll do the same for males. a week from now, we’ll compare and see who’s using that biology BS excuse the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:40 AM
3

happy grad szn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:35 AM
2

whenever you see a comment like that, @ me. because i would love to see one of these comments for the first time ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:34 AM
2

justifications? have thrive, goals, and a want to protect people you love. physically, his features need to work for his being. I don't care if you feel attracted to tall for rich guys or whatever justification you use. You can say I just find it more attractive. what does this have to do with my original comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:33 AM
2

those aren’t my justifications personally. but if they ever become my justifications, i’m definitely gonna blame it all on evolution and biology and muh urges!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:26 AM
8

nope. high n counts are dealbreakers too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:17 AM
2

then you could move to a place where it’s legal. as an american, it’s pretty easy to find a job in another country (especially as a teacher). so you get the career, a livable lifestyle and all the prostitutes you want for those daily urges :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:13 AM
2

travel to somewhere where it’s legal. problem solved (and you get to go on a trip!)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:07 AM
0

everything in life has advantages and disadvantages
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:05 AM
2

evolution also says that throughout history, taller men have had physical advantages linked to protecting and providing compared to shorter or average height guys. but when a woman says she only likes tall guys she’s scrutinized and she’s asking for too much. right…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:59 AM
6

the way some men on this sub use the “it’s because of biology” justification for every little thing and reasoning they have for majority of their actions is something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:52 AM
9

nah, any man who has seen a sex worker is an automatic dealbreaker for me, regardless of social status. it all comes down to our difference in morals and how they don’t align.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:49 AM
2

if that’s what you think, ok :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:46 AM
4

to an extent. i wanted them to finish but i didn’t put in maximum effort and any “special requests” were declined. that’s girlfriend privileges. hookups get maybe 70% effort, while my bf will get 150% effort from me every single time and an interest to try almost anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:38 AM
17

i’ve even seen a user on here say if a woman was sexually assaulted or has trauma connected to a certain sex act, she should still be willing to do it with him because you shouldn’t bring baggage and trauma from an old relationship to a new one, and it shows you don’t trust him. so he basically said: fuck what happened to you. it’s all about me, what i want to do, and “muh urges!”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:42 PM
1

pay for it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:34 PM
19

regarding #5, how are they different?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:05 PM
11

shows you’ll fuck everything and anything. no woman with morals or a decent n count wants to date someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:54 PM
4

that’s not necessarily disingenuous. a guy can be all those things she said. doesn’t mean she has to want to be with him. what if she isn’t attracted to other aspects of the guy? what if she isn’t in the mental headspace for a relationship, or has no time for one? you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:19 PM
1

face for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:15 PM
0

trying to let them down nicely
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:15 PM
7

personal: the max amount of time to date me is 4-5 years before we move to at least, the engagement level. i’m not interested in being girlfriend forever or into playing house with someone who won’t marry me. also no kids before marriage. if you don’t want marriage or kids, we will not work and i’m not changing that for anyone. general (based on conversations with women i know): men’s sexual past does matter. a nonexistent n count can signify inexperience. a large n count signifies desperation o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:10 PM
3

they were attractive or i just got a good vibe from them (there was two i had interacted a bit with before asking them for their social)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:14 PM
1

lots of those same guys are the ones saying “a man’s purpose is to spread his seed and that’s why we act the way we do. men weren’t biologically made for monogamy. muh biology and evolution and urges!” so being a sperm donor sounds like the perfect option for lots of guys like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:57 PM
7

yeah maybe it’s a demographic thing. where i’m from, you talk on snapchat first before switching over to phone number. giving the phone number later on shows that things are getting more serious and is progressing to an actual relationship. it’s not about looking at their stories or posts. it’s about communicating through the chat section or video chatting. edit: i’ve never noticed guys on social media to be “narcissistic” or “validation seekers” but keep in mind i’m also a straight woman. my ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:42 PM
6

no, it is to set up dates and to communicate with the other person. everything you can do with a phone number, you can do on social media these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:40 PM
6

that’s the point of getting their social media: so you can talk and find out if it’ll go anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:35 PM
1

do it when the kids are in another room or aren’t around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:32 PM
8

i’m 20. people in my age group usually use snapchat to communicate then transfer to phone number when thing are getting super serious. also it’s less invasive then asking for a phone number imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:31 PM
1

i think showing affection in front of kids is great. kisses, long hugs, joking with each other, etc. i’ll never forget a couple years ago when it was my parent’s anniversary. they turned on music and danced with one another in the living room like no one else was there. it was like watching two kids on prom night. it gave me a good example of what i want in a relationship and what love is. getting sexual in front of kids isn’t okay but affection is beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:25 PM
4

i can’t speak for all women but i think it’s definitely possible. i genuinely love my bf for who he is and have stuck besides him despite his life being a total shit show at times. that being said, the thrive to want to do well in society has to be there, and this is mainly in terms of finances. you don’t have to be rich but you can’t be a long term bum either who has no want to do better in life. when i’ve chosen to be in a relationship with someone, it’s because they’ve shown me traits of bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:21 PM
8

like four to five minutes of conversation max. what drew me to them? i thought they were attractive and wanted to get to know them more in hopes of maybe starting a relationship down the line (not to “fuck”. some of us actually want romantic relationships and not a bunch of random hookups, thanks). i’m a pretty outgoing person with low patience so i’m not scared to approach as i’m not the type to sit back and wait for guys to come to me all the time. the worst they can say is no and i’ll probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:57 PM
8

there was of course some dialogue beforehand but it was typically short. it was usually on the lines of “i think you’re really cute… have super short convo then ask for their social media” the guys i asked were always guys i saw in passing or during times i couldn’t talk for too long (ie during work shift, walking to class, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:23 PM
21

i’ve approached guys and asked for their social media. but i don’t give my number out to strangers or ask for theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:52 PM
3

two weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:30 AM
0

lol i love your type
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:28 AM
2

jacob elordi, drew starkey, travis kelce, and chris evans. if we’re living in a world where time travel exists, then young ad-rock (age 18-35) too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:27 AM
4

not necessarily but i see your point. hope that works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:16 AM
5

relationships aren’t free though. financially, mentally, or emotionally. why not just pay financially for the escort and save yourself the mental and emotion cost?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:06 AM
4

because you don’t care about the other things romantic relationships could bring. you just care about sex. so escorts seem like a great solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:48 AM
5

you could pay for it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:39 AM
3

they definitely are. i love skaters and they tend to fit that phenotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:10 AM
1

thanks for answering the question!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:50 AM
2

but it sounds like you want an animated blow up doll anyways. just one who shows “genuine affection”. i don’t see much difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:41 AM
2

that’s why you pay for high class professional escorts. you get all the sex physical affection and company you need. if romantic relationships are too draining and women are too this and that, you’d probably be acting in that relationship too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:25 AM
1

you can pay for that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:12 AM
-2

try r/breedingr4r
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:12 AM
1

you actually can if you choose to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:10 AM
1

you can do that as a sperm donor
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:37 AM
1

you will reproduce when you become a spend donor
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:33 AM
1

hey if you like it, i love it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:35 AM
2

no the girlfriend is still her own person who has limits and boundaries. you’d be better off with a prostitute if all you want is sex :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:31 AM
1

professional escorts do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:27 AM
2

it’s not at all. lots of people prioritize safe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:22 AM
5

have your hookups or the woman you hire get tested beforehand
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:08 AM
9

you can do that without being in a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:06 AM
9

you can do that without a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:06 AM
3

nope just asking a question
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:05 AM
1

why not adopt? edit: or be a sperm donor
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:49 PM
7

dude we don’t care /s but on a real note, the men who prioritize femininity above all need to find women who feel the same. also, doing these things doesn’t necessarily make a woman less feminine, and lots of men like women who can relate to their hobbies which are often more “masculine”.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:43 PM
1

you’re no fun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:48 PM
1

that movement is called a poly relationship. you get to fuck random women and she gets to fuck random men. fair trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:43 PM
0

missionary. i like looking into my bf’s eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:39 PM
1

k.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:31 AM
2

expected response from someone who heard something they didn’t like. not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:18 AM
2

good thing my bf isn’t a chad :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 07:04 AM
2

why would it piss me off? again, i encourage men to have standards instead of being so desperate. it’s doing women a favor, and i don’t like desperate men. that’s why guys with high n counts and who have paid for sex are automatically dropped out of my dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:58 AM
2

yeahhh that’s not how that works. but your first mistake was thinking that what you say as a man about women is going to override what i say as a woman about women, who’s constantly around women and who talks to women every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:55 AM
7

lmao it totally matters. women have n count preferences too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:48 AM
3

it doesn’t what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:46 AM
4

majority of these men sleep around and don’t even know where the clit is or how to make a woman orgasm. this argument that men are just sleeping around to be the best lovers for their future girlfriends and wive(s) is extremely laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:41 AM
2

that’s their problem. don’t complain about OLD and standards when men are desperate to stick their dick in anything they can. let’s flip this weak argument: girl wants sexual experience so she could be “good in bed”. lots of men on PPD would reject her for her n count regardless of her reasoning. the same thing does and will continue to happen to men for their n count as well (whether that be too low or too high). be fair and don’t blame women for issues men put on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:39 AM
2

update for those who helped me a couple days ago with a date idea for my bf: the go-kart date was a total success. he loved it. thanks everyone :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:34 AM
7

men are allowed to have standards when they swipe right on someone. tinder only matches people who mutually swipe right on one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:33 AM
1

most women don’t care. i know this differs from the men who come here and complain about getting rejected and not getting dates with women 24/7.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:21 AM
2

not my worst nightmare at all! i encourage men to have standards instead of being desperate bottom feeders who cry and complain when a women says she only likes guys of a certain height and who can provide. i’m tired of the “women are so privileged, men have it so hard” circle jerk that goes on here which could be decreased if only men had standards and stuck to them. i encourage men to have all the standards they want :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:17 AM
1

so you were a chad? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:04 AM
1

it’s normal to find others attractive while in a relationship so don’t feel bad about that. but that being said, if you really love your boyfriend and want to be with him (which is something i think you should sit down and determine), refocus your attention back onto your boyfriend. remember how great of a person he is and how he treats you. how he’s been there for you at your highest and lowest moments. start “dating” each other again. cut contact with the coworker and stop communicating with h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:37 AM
3

bisexual. i don’t do well with liars.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:51 AM
1

i asked all the girls in my sorority house (50 girls) if they would date an older guy who was 30+ and they all said “ew no” besides one who said “if he has money, i’ll date him.” but you keep on acting like young women are feining for washed up old men with sperm that increases the chance of producing a kid with some disorder. whatever helps you sleep at night. if you’re not gonna believe what i said, why even ask the question? you’re wasting my time. i remove toxic people left and right and hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:04 AM
1

no, they don’t attract women in their 20s “all the time” but you keep telling yourself that to make yourself feel good about getting old. if whoever i’m with leaves me for someone younger than they did me a favor by getting out of my life and allowing me to prosper on my own. as far as “subtle lingering”, it doesn’t exist for me. genetically, i know i’ll be fine and i’ll have a family and priorities to worry about anyways. i can’t be triggered by old guys who are balding and have beer bellies. s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:54 AM
5

nah these guys just fell into the trap of actually believing that after they hit 30, they were going to be in their “prime” and that money was going to make up for the areas they lack in. it’s a mix of them not being self aware and them thinking they miss 100% of the shots they don’t take. that’s what happens when you sell lies to give people hope. vulnerable people embrace them and end up looking stupid in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:58 AM
3

idk. it’s probably similar to the old unattractive guys with tons of baggage and/or a child from a previous woman, thinking they’re going to bag some super attractive woman in her prime years and start a family with her. delusional people are going to be delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 12:27 AM
0

you are such a legend on this sub. i love reading your comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:21 PM
1

yeah maybe in a million years
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:20 PM
1

yeah i would say it is for me anyways. my love language is acts of kindness so when someone does something nice for me or surprises me, that’s how i feel loved and valued. when it comes to first dates, i’m not the type to say “if he doesn’t pay, he’s not dating material.” i paid for my first date with my bf and we’re still dating eight months later. but he knows what my love language is and acts accordingly because he knows those little things make me feel wanted and valued.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:16 PM
6

i don’t think anything about it. i paid for my bf and i’s first date. we go on dates where i pay for both of us, and he does the same on other dates. we’ve never split checks, it’s just one of us paying for both when we go out. if a woman pays for the first date, that’s her prerogative and that’s perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:08 PM
5

shhh don’t tell them the truth. it’ll hurt their already fragile egos :(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:06 PM
2

is a “chad” just a physically attractive man? what’s the definition of a chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:04 PM
0

that was my experience when i first joined this sub too. lots of people are just talking from an anecdotal standpoint, and a lot of people just have some kind of baggage that makes them speak in absolutes about the opposite gender. it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:03 PM
0

woman
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:01 PM
1

of course. even having a movie night at their place that they set up with candy and popcorn is my idea of being courted. it’s about the effort, not the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:58 PM
1

i agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:52 PM
2

it’s not about getting free stuff. it’s about being courted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:52 PM
1

doesn’t bother me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:47 PM
3

exactly why i avoid them like the plague. plus the fact that majority don’t compare to their younger counterparts when it comes to physical attractiveness. i’m not wasting my youth on some old jaded guy who wasted his. rather build with a guy my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:43 PM
1

that wasn’t the post this question was inspired by
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:37 PM
2

yes. the comment was mainly about my mom so that’s why i highlighted her race.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:43 PM
0

ah a man on PPD with common sense. we have to protect you at all costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:43 PM
2

exactly. my mom (black) is 42 and has been mistaken for my sister a number of times. i’ve seen guys ask my dad if my mom was his daughter. if she goes anywhere with a large amount of men, she gets hit on. i feel like the men who make statements about women looking horrible with age are only thinking about white women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:40 PM
3

as someone else previously said, 20s for both gender. i’m a woman attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:32 PM
1

Q4M (inspired by a recent post and comment by u/twinseo09) for the ones who believe “women age faster than men”, what race of women do you imagine when making or thinking about this statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:30 PM
2

facts. my mom is turning 42 this year and everyone thinks she’s my sister. she gets hit on everywhere we go when there’s a large group of people. when a lot of these people talk about women aging fast, they are strictly thinking about white women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:27 PM
6

100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:25 PM
22

these guys on here are on something else. i’m 20 and think it’s weird. my girl friends think it’s weird. my boyfriend (23) and his friends think it’s weird and predatory. it’s not just “jealous, bitter” older women calling out this behavior for what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:25 PM
84

20 year old checking in. this was definitely the post that made me go for older men. now i just magically love dad bods, balding, and wrinkles. guys my age just can’t compete. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 08:14 PM
1

i sure am
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:57 AM
4

respectfully, i don’t care. i don’t like older guys. my friends don’t like older guys. what older guys do is none of my business because i could care less. i said ok as a way to show confirmation of your statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:55 AM
3

lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:51 AM
1

i feel like this is a simple bare minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:23 AM
0

consider what? what i said?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:21 AM
1

true but it’s just a no for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:02 AM
3

sure. my height standard is 5’6 and up. if he had a stable career that was producing a stable income, i’d be fine with him never have a college degree. my parents didn’t even graduate high school and make about $180k together. there are tons of people doing well without college degrees. as long as our incomes allow our children to not live in poverty and we’re not struggling to provide for them, i’m fine with that level of income. i watch porn every other day lmao. as long as he doesn’t have a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:00 AM
2

cool i’ll let you know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:36 AM
6

great, i’ll @ you everytime i see unprompted rude comments about women if you want. i love how you talk about “entitled wanking” cluttering this sub when majority of comments and posts on this sub are made by men. the jokes write themselves. did you not read my story? i rejected him. i have a bf so i have no interest in any man but my bf. but even if i was single, i definitely wouldn’t be wasting my youth and time on some old guy, that’s for damn sure. who the hell says “vagina tingles”? ppd has…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:35 AM
7

who likes men just for their hair alone? being physically attractive is a whole package.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:28 AM
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are you serious? look at this thread alone and see how many comments degrading women have been posted today. look on some of the posts today and see how men say negative things about women without caring about how the women who read it feel. i don’t see you complaining under any of those comments labeling those guys “entitled”. nothing i say deviates from what real life women think. majority of women prefer to be with someone their age. they’re not checking up on washed up old men. ppd loves to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:21 AM
6

what are you talking about? i called the guy an old man in my story because i consider him an old man, as it’s my experience and i wrote my opinions. you’re trying to get philosophical when it’s not needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:12 AM
6

i don’t even go on FDS lol edit: i forgot, i’m actually banned from FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:07 AM
7

as a 20 year old, 30+ is old to me. so yeah a 30+ year old man is old imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:06 AM
3

you’re welcome <3
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:04 AM
9

i was on the train today and was on my phone when some old man sat down next to me. he started a conversation and we chatted for a bit then he asked for my age. i told him my age (20) and then asked for his, and he told me he was 36. we continue the conversation and this man goes on to tell me his life story about how in his 20s he spent a lot of time with undergrad/ grad school and spent a lot of time “having fun”, and how he’s been looking to settle down and start a family but couldn’t find an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:01 AM
1

8.5
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 01:43 AM
1

not my type
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 01:31 AM
1

lmao i went viral on tiktok for a bit for getting into it with her last year
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:42 PM
-2

i’d say no but you didn’t say that. your original answer isn’t even a realistic one that really tries to understand what it would be like to be a woman and get a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:24 PM
4

this response really shows how much men project on topics like this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:04 PM
3

1 for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:03 PM
1

are you talking about sister cindy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:36 PM
2

is porn sickness the same thing as porn addiction?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:44 PM
1

wait i’m 5’6 and 125 pounds. am i considered overweight now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:40 PM
1

don’t worry. my bf’s not getting one either. you’re not alone <3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:38 PM
2

yep. i’ve had a few guys tell me my height standard was “unfair” and “fucked up” when i’m literally just asking for the guy to be 5’6 (my exact height) or taller. i think my height standard is pretty lenient and reasonable if anything, but you can’t please everyone (ie the guys under 5’6)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:36 PM
2

i probably will eventually ngl. i like the debates but i already see how toxic this sub can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:45 PM
2

thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:38 PM
2

just turned 20 a few weeks ago
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:38 PM
3

i wonder what the average age of a PPD user is. i always subconsciously feel like i’m one of the younger ones here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:34 PM
1

woman: got dumped because he couldn’t be the partner i needed and didn’t have his life stable enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:21 PM
1

nobody “gaslighted” you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:50 PM
1

that’s not how that works…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:50 PM
0

you’re speaking from an emotional standpoint not a logical one so therefore, there is no debate to be had
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:49 PM
1

i agree but a lot of men don’t have things they’re good at because they have never had to do them. and this is where the toxic cycle continues. lots of these men grew up with mothers who took on these roles so they expert their partner to take on these roles as well. which imo if it works for them, it works for them. but a good portion of these same men are the same ones saying they want to go 50/50 on bills and/or dates when that’s not a “traditional” male role. my thing is, if you want to go 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:00 AM
2

i think that’s a very good list and some of those things, i hadn’t considered before. my theory essentially encapsulates the inability to accept the changes in social standing, opportunities, and standards between women and men in modern society. my thesis is a lot of men are having a hard time comprehending that just being a man is simply not enough anymore to provide them with a relationship or sexual access. right now we’re dealing with a shift where women are able to provide for themselves o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:43 AM
2

interesting. if i may ask, why do you think a lot of men on this sub behave the way they do? where does all that resentment and anger come from? i have my own theory but i would be curious to hear yours. i like the way you communicate your perspective on topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:00 AM
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the only reason why i mentioned myself was because this user was acting like all women were that way. if you continue to go through that thread, they purposely said all women behave a certain way and have the exact same viewpoints which isn’t true whatsoever. that being said, nothing that you’re saying or that they’re saying is “oppression”. women having standards isn’t oppression. while men may have it harder to find dates, nobody is holding a gun to their head and forcing them to put up with b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:57 AM
3

i 100% agree with you. good for you and congratulations on being with you partner that long. amazing <3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:49 AM
2

great. hope that works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:45 AM
1

what does that have to do with the fact that none of what he mentioned is “oppression”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:44 AM
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while i know some man is going to come here and tell me (a woman who is surrounded by women 24/7) that women only like bad boys and don’t like genuine personalities, what you describe is what most women want (or at least the ones i’ve met anyways). most of the guys on this sub are projecting and as previously stated, having a self-pity circle jerk with one another. the guys who say “i used to be nice but girls don’t like that” and who now put on an act are just previous Nice Guys ™️ who believed…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:41 AM
2

good for the women with standards. see the difference between you and them is they aren’t complaining about the men they’re incompatible with. if you don’t meet their standards, they drop you and move on to the next guy who could potentially be what they’re looking for. unlike decades ago, men are an accessory not a necessity so it’s easy to do that. but you on the other hand decide to complain about it, and want people to feel bad for you or hold your hand and coddle you. no one cares. you’re n…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:26 AM
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i’m convinced PPD is literally a self-pity circle jerk for lots of men on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:21 AM
2

lots of men get that. my partner does. but i can understand why women wouldn’t be interested in giving that to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:20 AM
2

i’m sure they’re getting trauma from interacting with you too
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:18 AM
2

lol you’re delusional and obviously dealing with some sort of trauma. i’m sorry you feel the way you do and i hope you take the proper steps to get help with your issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:17 AM
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entitlement isn’t oppression. none of what you’re saying is oppression. it just sounds like you’re angry and mad at women so you’re raging. find someone you’re compatible with instead of complaining about women you wouldn’t be compatible with. your morals and goals just don’t align.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:12 AM
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if it’s their standard, it’s their standard. again that’s not oppression. most isn’t all. if you don’t wanna pay for the date then find a woman who is okay going half or who will pay herself. literally no one is making you do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 07:03 AM
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no. especially since most women like and enjoy sex, and find it pleasurable. most women are not using sex to exploit men for resources, especially in a society where women can get those resources on her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:59 AM
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do all women? no. do some women? yes. just like there’s some men who exploit and play with women’s emotions just to get laid. are all men like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:55 AM
2

you didn’t mention that the first time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:54 AM
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you’re defining it as oppression based off of emotions, not logic. everything you said in this back and forth has been based off your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:50 AM
2

she probably enjoyed that or wanted that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:48 AM
3

All women expect those things. as soon as a guy starts thinking that all the women in the world are the same way (despite me just telling you that i haven’t and don’t do many of those things in my relationships, there’s not even a possibility of a solid, clean debate happening because someone is blinded by irrational bias. again, nobody is making men do these things whatsoever so it’s not “oppression”. you are free to be single forever or date men or a non-binary person since aLl WoMeN in the en…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:42 AM
1

i told you stop using that point because it was a justifiable example of oppression that i accepted. unfortunately, you couldn’t provide any other answers of substance and just ended up looking a little confused and lost. and again, that’s okay! nothing to be ashamed of. we all get a little ditzy sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:29 AM
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i’m not doing or haven’t done majority of those things in my current relationship lol. but besides that, how are those standards “oppression”? men aren’t required to do any of those things whatsoever. they can put their foot down and say no and they and said woman would be incompatible. no one is forcing men to do that. she can find someone else and so can you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:27 AM
1

not everyone knows comprehension skills, don’t feel bad! i know it’s difficult to provide an argument when you have none so using the same argument that someone already told is justified (pretty sure i said “besides child support” which means use an argument other than child support), is a bit hard to do. there’s classes and exercises you can do to work on those lacking skills. it’s okay. understanding what one reads is not for everyone <3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:23 AM
5

in what ways do majority of women demand to be treated as superior?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:17 AM
0

you didn’t call out a damn thing. your examples of women “oppressing” men were rulings by judicial courts which in the US, are filled with an overwhelming amount of men. you gave extremely poor arguments and you’re not getting a participation trophy for them. try again next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:09 AM
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pretty sure i said “besides child support” responses ago. just take the L and call it a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:05 AM
1

he sounded pretty serious
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:55 AM
1

i asked because someone on this sub essentially said it’s a lot of work for men to get their partner to finish so women shouldn’t care so much about not orgasming
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:53 AM
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you’re giving me an example based on your assumptions. i want the solid examples of women “oppressing” men that you claim to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:52 AM
1

what do you mean it shouldn’t be work? aren’t you supposed to put in some effort to try to get your partner off? or do you like fucking silent starfish who just lay there?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:51 AM
1

you went a bit off topic but i appreciate the response lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:43 AM
2

this is a really weak argument of women oppressing men. if a woman is in a bad relationship or the man is not being a good husband and/or father, she shouldn’t stay with him because “he might get screwed”. and again, the judges determine those decisions, most of which are based on the woman’s income compared to the man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:41 AM
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“mercy of me”? explain that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:36 AM
1

for the men who have sex or who have had sex, do you actually care about getting your partner off or is it not a major concern for you? serious responses please.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:19 AM
1

doesn’t work that way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:16 AM
1

relax about what? our pleasure mattering too? are you serious right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:13 AM
1

not in my experience. that being said, what does that have to do with doing the work to help your partner finish? or is that too much work and time for you so it doesn’t matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:09 AM
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i’ll have to look into this as i’m unfamiliar with the topic but thank you for answering my question
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:08 AM
2

it’s not even 90% though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:07 AM
1

yeah the same way men do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:06 AM
7

for everything besides the child support one, how is that women “oppressing” men? especially when there are way more men in judicial positions compared to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 05:06 AM
2

give me more
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:58 AM
2

what do you mean by “less uniform”? do you mean you actually have to put in work to make the woman orgasm and not just think your two minutes worth of pumps are going to get her there?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:57 AM
0

what do you mean it “doesn’t add up”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:54 AM
3

in what ways do women “opress” men in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:53 AM
5

in what ways do women “oppress” men in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:53 AM
4

“being good at sex” is the ability to excel in an array of various areas. it’s not just about dick size. it’s not just about skills. and it’s not just about behavior/enthusiasm. it’s a whole package of variables that makes someone “good at sex.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:46 AM
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to add onto this, being good at sex also usually means that the guy puts in the work to get the woman to finish. you would think that’s common knowledge but it’s not for many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:43 AM
1

i can’t speak for all women as there is always a large amount of outliers for any situation, but myself and the women i know do. i agree that there are certain men most women think are attractive. these are what i consider the “hot” ones and that can be seen with a lot of celebrities and athletes. let’s take chris evans for example. if you took ten women, not all women are going to say he’s attractive. but i would bet money majority of them would say he’s attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:12 AM
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hot to me is usually a guy with unique features that make them stand out or a guy who has few to no imperfections physically. these guys also tend to be guys most women would find attractive regardless of their preferred types. this is the type of guy you think about all day because you were so stunned by how attractive they were. cute is an attractive guy who’s not conventionally attractive but he’s attractive to me. he also may have features that aren’t wanted by most but work for his overall …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:54 AM
2

damn it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:38 AM
2

will you bring them to your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:38 AM
2

Q4M what do you bring to the table in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:37 AM
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not getting pregnant and not getting STDs. that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:30 AM
2

not really. i don’t know anyone who would take a guy with a high n count seriously. just like some men don’t like women with high n counts, the same is true vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 12:59 AM
1

i don’t know the exact measurements of that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 11:22 PM
1

6.5
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:34 PM
2

men your age definitely hit a wall too lmao. the wrinkles, dad bod, and balding aren’t panty droppers. a year ago i upped my preferred age range on OLD sites (for shits and giggles) to men 30+ and instantly regretted it. put it back in my age range real quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 08:42 PM
1

for me it does
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:56 PM
0

my current partner is definitely my best and biggest lover
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 06:47 PM
1

i’ll get back to you on that one
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:13 AM
3

no but i can introduce you to my dad, her husband
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 09:11 AM
2

damn is that why my mom is still getting hit on by men of all ages at 41? that’s a disappointing shift. this is not looking good for me :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:35 AM
2

i feel like that’s up for debate but whatever. i respect your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:14 AM
2

not for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:10 AM
2

okay and men have similar things they all tend to want
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:06 AM
2

that both genders are picky and not all women find the same traits attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:44 AM
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that there’s a normal distribution in men’s preferences and that most women like the same exact traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:56 AM
1

oh yeah i totally get it. i play devil’s advocate all the time on subs. i like to learn how people think and come to their conclusions. pretty fun :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:56 AM
1

i think his standard is perfectly fine. he likes what he likes and that’s awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:53 AM
2

crack is wack
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:44 AM
1

She’s massively limiting her standards by requiring a man who's that tall AND is okay with dating a woman who is 6'3" why does she have to lower her standards? she’s been made fun of by guys her whole life for being a taller girl (i would bet these same guys are the ones complaining about women’s height preferences today) so she simply doesn’t give a fuck anymore, and why should she? women don’t need to create standards to appease men and vice versa. believe it or not, she’s never really had any…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:43 AM
1

my definition of a tall girl is 5’9 and up. i have a friend who is 6’3 though and she also agrees with the her height or taller metric. for me, it’s a rule. i’m really not a fan of being taller than the person i’m with at all and it is a bit of a turn off. i’m also not that tall either (5’6) so i feel like my standards are pretty reasonable compared with the average height of men. my ex was about my height and my current bf is 5’8.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 03:23 AM
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please tell me you’re joking. there’s no way you actually believe this…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:39 AM
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nope. not interested in single dads at all. not a fan of the baggage that situation could bring and i also don’t want to play mom for someone else’s kids. having children one day is a huge deal to me, so ideally i want a partner who is new to the experience as well. all of our child’s first and their growth will be something super new and exciting for both of us. i don’t want a partner that’s jaded because they already had a kid with some other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:34 AM
1

not that i know of
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:16 AM
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neither. i think because women have the freedom to choose their partners and don’t need to depend on men like they used to, they are just exercising their right to do so and aren’t settling for less. unlike in the past, just being a man is simply not enough anymore, and many men don’t know how to deal with that realization.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:14 AM
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nobody said men were bad. i was just telling that person that there is no need to bring up emotional aspects of a relationship in this post because majority of the men here don’t care about the emotional aspects of a relationship. most of the men here are just looking for consistent sexual access and lots see women as sexual objects. you’re on something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:53 PM
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all my friends and i literally have the same rule: our height or taller. this includes my tall friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:47 PM
2

i’m from california. i need the beaches lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:44 PM
1

jamaica
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:39 PM
2

i probably wouldn’t. it shows a lack of trust and seems like they’re already thinking about divorce. but who knows? maybe my mind will change about it in upcoming years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:34 PM
1

OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:30 PM
1

i’d have to kill him first
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 07:19 PM
1

definitely. there’s nothing i would change or take away. he’s perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:48 AM
2

exactly! gotta even the score right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 08:01 AM
2

i’ll definitely save that idea for another time. thank you so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:33 AM
1

i wish! don’t have time and i’m a broke college student.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:18 AM
1

thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:00 AM
1

thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 05:00 AM
1

trying to think of date ideas to take my bf on this upcoming week. i’m stuck between a projector movie night (his favorite movie) with his favorite candy. or go kart racing (he likes cars and driving). please help me pick lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:50 AM
2

i love the way she stood up to him and told him off
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:39 AM
2

all of them. strong arms are super attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:34 PM
1

arm muscles!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:26 PM
2

if they both wanted multiple kids, then the twin boys would be the best option
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:25 PM
4

no, society hasn’t. infidelity is never justified regardless of who does it or why it occurred.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:20 PM
4

all divorces aren’t initiated due to sex and monogamy so bad argument there
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:18 PM
6

then these men should get in poly relationships so they can sleep around and so can the woman. perfect solution to a solvable problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 10:15 PM
2

What are your expectations for sex within LTRs? first and foremost, for us to respect each other’s consent and boundaries. second, for us to always have fun and enjoy our time with one another. even if it’s a quickie. i shouldn’t feel like a fleshlight afterwards and he shouldn’t feel like a dildo. respect my body and my time always, and i’ll do the same to you. How do you prevent dead bedrooms? communicating. keeping things fun by being adventurous. and most importantly, finding ways to make ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 09:40 PM
1

you forgot to add /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:18 PM
1

1/10
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:16 PM
2

5’6, 125 why?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:11 PM
4

if i was looking for a dynamic where the man paid all the bills, i would be fine with this ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:05 PM
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this. i’m a pretty impulsive person who doesn’t like waiting so i started approaching guys a couple years ago. i’ve been successful and it’s nice to go after what i want instead of waiting for someone to come to me. initiating a date got me the bf i have now so i say it’s a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:54 PM
2

i thought about all of the family and friends that i could think of. i have a huge family on both sides and a solid amount of friends. there’s only one person i could think of that’s with someone who i consider dangerous and is abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:07 PM
1

one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:59 PM
1

we met online. 8 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:53 PM
1

lol it was another user. i’ve had some time to cool off so that impulsivity to hurt feelings has tampered off. gotta love maturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:31 AM
7

oh i totally get it. it also makes sense why those men are in that “drought” and why they won’t be getting out of it anytime soon unless they visit their local downtown street corner at night with some cash in their wallets :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:11 AM
1

ugh that sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:05 AM
1

can you roast someone in the discussion thread? or does that still violate rule two?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 08:01 AM
2

to add onto this, people need to stop making so many blanket statements like they’re a spokesperson for their whole gender. especially on a sub like this where everyone has different perspectives on topics. not all men share the same set of values regardless of whatever “it’s biological, it’s because of evolution, muh urges!” justification they want to pull out of their ass that day. same goes for women. i do appreciate the people who specify “most” or “some” in their responses
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:59 AM
21

you and the women who only see men as money bags should date. fair trade :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:50 AM
20

Sex is the best information a man has available to him to know how someone feels abotu them. no, that’s how you feel someone expresses their love to you. physical touch is obviously your love language and that’s fine. Most men just knwo that a women will readily do or fake the other stuff even if they dotn liek the man much just because he fills all the other stuff. the way some of you guys think women are willing to do things like that with random men they’re not even remotely attracted to is l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:36 AM
1

100% agree. i think the people who call others shallow or high maintenance for their standards are the ones upset they don’t fit in said person’s standards. or they feel offended by said person’s standards. it’s projection at its finest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:02 AM
1

ah is that what you guys are telling yourselves now? okay :) wink wink
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:58 AM
-1

same can definitely be said about men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:54 AM
3

great point. this sub makes me more grateful for my partner everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:32 AM
1

i love how the first comment is calling you a 30 YO incel lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:57 AM
1

i’m watching the american version at the moment! i haven’t seen any episodes from the australian seasons but i will definitely check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:53 AM
1

omg yes! 90 day fiancé and love after lockup too. not a bachelor fan though believe it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:48 AM
1

are you really interested in the topic of marriage? or is it just something you see on this sub often?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:46 AM
2

you’re right on the second part. i love reality dating shows. i think i read this sub because it gives me great discussion topics to talk to friends about. it’s also interesting/funny/sad/insightful to see how people think about certain subjects. i’ve always been big on debating too so i think that helps gravitate me to this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:45 AM
4

Q4 the people in relationships… why are you on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:39 AM
1

lol yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:39 AM
2

no. i would probably end up developing a sex addiction and i don’t want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:38 AM
1

i know. i’m in a great relationship with an amazing man. i was just answering your question lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:37 AM
1

sure but i was just answering your question. because of stuff like that, you gotta keep your guard up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:34 AM
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lmao you’re right but you’re saying this like guys like OP care about a woman’s orgasm and pleasure during sex. for them, the woman is just there to get railed into so he can finish, then he’ll go to bed or play xbox or some shit. she’s on her own after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:30 AM
4

exactly. posts like this really display how some men see women as fleshlights with pulses.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:26 AM
1

many men solely see women as sex objects. they only want to date or entertain women for consistent sexual access.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:22 AM
1

once you start, you’ll see what i’m talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:17 AM
1

do you not see how lots of the guys on here talk about women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:56 AM
0

because that’s how many guys present themselves. look at the guys here. they don’t care about women. they just see them as sex objects to boost their ego. and lots of guys are like that offline. if you wanna protect your heart, mind, and body, have a “guilty until proven innocent” mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:54 AM
0

nope
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:51 AM
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men on this sub tend to only focus on sex. it’s like an obsession for them because they see having sex and creating “lineups” as prizes. the only reason they want relationships is for consistent sexual access. few men here care about the other stuff, so it won’t be the focus of their posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:45 AM
-1

i would feel betrayed if he hadn’t told me about it earlier. and i would no longer date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:36 AM
11

great math but you’re missing some variables that could result in a man’s cheating. it’s not as black and white as you’re trying to make it seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 04:34 AM
2

who said they didn’t? notice how i gave my response and said i find them ugly and you’re saying they’re gonna get laid like i give a single fuck. i don’t care dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 01:53 AM
2

yeah because they have money and fame. and some people would consider them attractive. i’m just not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 12:35 AM
2

bodies aren’t the only factors that make someone attractive. faces are huge for me and none of their faces are visually pleasing. therefore, i think all of them are unattractive. if you like them and find them attractive, so be it. i don’t feel the same though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 12:23 AM
1

that’s not how that works lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 12:17 AM
2

my parents are together still but damn does my mom do almost everything. she’s a real life superhero.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:33 PM
1

“nothing revealed/everything denied” by the 1975
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:32 PM
1

what? i’m sure most women would be happen if you had the money to hire a maid for the household. that’s a win for both of you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:31 PM
1

they’re all unattractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:29 PM
2

not doubting what you’re saying but most mothers don’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:11 PM
2

i know. it was just a general statement. nobody’s standards are “too high”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:35 PM
2

no. people who find someone’s standards “too high” are just mad they don’t fit in that person’s standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:30 PM
8

why would a mother think about dating or giving romantic attention to her child? that would never cross a mother’s mind. what a weird thing to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:28 PM
2

nope i think they’re reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:26 PM
2

If we were married, yes I’m staying with him. Whenever I vow to be there for someone “in sickness and in health”, I mean that. Working another job and getting used to different forms of intimacy aren’t enough to push me away from someone I promised to spend the rest of my life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:23 PM
1

i don’t think they’re “terrible relationship material”. they’re just not relationship material for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:59 PM
1

lol i guess? that’s their choice to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:58 PM
1

it’s not about the prostitutes. it the fact that he paid for sex and that our morals don’t align. if he’s paid for sex, he wouldn’t be seeing me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:56 PM
1

i can support someone doing something and not want to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:55 PM
1

i doubt that’s true but if it is, i’ll just find the 30% or be alone :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:54 PM
1

i doubt that’s true but if it is, i’ll just find the 30% or be alone :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:54 PM
1

that’s awesome. i’m happy you have those standards and preferences :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:37 AM
1

i’m not reasonable for thinking that a man who has literally paid for sex isn’t relationship material? do you say the same thing to guys who think a woman with a high n count isn’t relationship material?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:33 AM
2

thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:30 AM
0

if they told me or if i found proof that he had
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:30 AM
2

our morals don’t align and to me, it looks like he lacks self respect. also shows some desperation too. that’s not boyfriend, let alone husband material to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:28 AM
5

AITA for thinking guys who have paid for sex workers aren’t relationship material? like is it really that bad that it makes me think of a guy less and it’s an immediate dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:15 AM
6

you can notice other attractive people in a relationship and still be loyal to your partner. you guys are in a relationship, not blind. i think realizing that will help you get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:10 AM
3

not a guy but people change and mature. people also find out what they don’t and do like due to past experiences, which could have been bad and has lead to their present perspective of whatever sexual act they don’t want to do. just offering another perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:07 AM
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i honestly have never seen women act the way you described. i want to be clear, I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but i have literally never heard a woman say that a man expressing his emotions to her was weak or bad. if anything, i’ve heard positive things about men showing their emotions because it shows that the guy trusts her enough to be vulnerable with her. this helps soothe any potential worries about being used or taken advantage of from the woman’s perspective. i imagine that what you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 03:57 AM
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i don’t consider comforting my partner when he’s emotional as “being a mommy”. my partner is a person. he goes through shit too and let’s be real, life is tough. if he needs to vent or needs advice, i listen to him and give advice if he wants it. maybe it’s because of my parents’ relationship (started dating as teens, got married young, been married for 25 years, etc) but i see a relationship as being a team. i’m supposed to pick my partner up when he’s down and vice versa. when my partner was c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:21 AM
1

no unless they say something related to his sexual assaults. r.kelly is a stable in black music.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:37 PM
2

women do need to do more approaching from here on out. it’s always been something i’ve done and it’s gotten me far while my friends are too scared to approach guys, and the guys who do approach are bottom tier men. so then they look like deers in headlights waiting for a good man to come to them. my mom always told me closed mouths don’t get fed and she’s been right.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:35 PM
1

has to want marriage someday edit: also if they want 50/50, they’ll have to be okay going 50/50 on everything. not just finances. also can’t be old or fat or shorter than me. i’m done now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:30 PM
0

while majority of the men on this sub are in denial and come up with fake narratives and perspectives to reason their failures with women and in dating, a lot of you guys are genuinely funny and everytime i come on this sub, i’m guaranteed to laugh. i even read some of the stuff here to my friends and boyfriend so they can laugh too. let’s give it up for you guys!! :) edit: damn guess i can’t give out compliments anymore. cancel me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:29 PM
1

sure but you can’t tell me what women do and don’t want. that’s what i was arguing against :) anything involving what women want and deal with can not be talked about as fact from a man. and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:03 AM
1

Lady, I'm a dude and I know how some men operate. and I’m a woman and know how women operate. i’m not going to take a “dude’s” opinion on women as fact when i’m a woman and all my friends are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:49 AM
1

i disagree and think men who say that are projecting. also a lot of men who say that are certified Nice Guys who think men should be rewarded (through a relationship and/or sex) for being the decent human beings they should be naturally. then, why they don’t get rewarded or some participation trophy for being a decent human being, they go into their “women don’t like nice guys. they only like bad boys” phase. that’s why i don’t feel bad for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:31 AM
2

nah my post wasn’t linked to that meme it was a general question. i don’t identify as a feminist (i’m probably more purple pulled honestly) but i do believe men are getting a taste of their own medicine right now in society and should be held accountable for their general wrongdoings. that being said my father is my best friend and i am a total daddy’s girl. i didn’t think it was a full proof hypothesis men who don’t really like women or see them as nothing more than sex objects, didn’t like the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:13 AM
2

why use feminists as your example?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:05 AM
1

that’s interesting. all the women in my family have careers and quality relationships. the men on the other hand are lonely and not doing too well in the dating world, especially the older they get. funny how everyone has different experiences and views on things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:44 PM
0

very good point that i hadn’t considered. thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:58 AM
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because i still stand by what i said. people explain stuff all the time. doesn’t mean i have to agree with them if i don’t align with their views. i also feel like if a woman said the same thing about wanting a man to accept her flaws like her father has done throughout her life, she’d be getting some negative feedback on this sub. if she said her father would always pay when they went out to little bonding dates and that’s what she looks for in a man, a bunch of guys would be saying she has dad…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:45 AM
1

yeah they went on to explain that to me hours ago
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:41 AM
-1

there’s nothing wrong with that as i’ve already said. both men and women want that in a romantic partnership. the comparison of a romantic partner to a mother is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:38 AM
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It made me think for a good portion of my life all women were good and kind and loving and would tolerate my bullshit like she did. this is what i asked the user about it. what people don’t understand is, no spouse is supposed to treat you like a parent does. those are two different kinds of love. if a person is saying they want a spouse that treats them like their mother does, it sounds like they’re looking for another mother figure instead of a romantic partner. wanting similar qualities is fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:33 AM
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i explained in another comment on this thread the difference between looking for a romantic partner and wanting another mother figure. wanting to be loved unconditionally does not equal mommy issues. that’s the basis of a romantic relationship for both women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:51 AM
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i definitely understand where you’re coming from and agree with you. for me, i feel like cocobabe is right that some men who have issues with women are looking for mother figures and i think this shows in how many men expect to get without giving. that’s the difference between a mother and a partner. a mother takes care of and loves her child because she sees it as her duty to protect her baby. mothers are usually selfless and rarely ask for anything in return from their children. lots of men ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:15 AM
3

mothers do more than provide emotional support. emotional support is one of the basis of a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:46 AM
-5

same can be said about modern day men. men from the past really prioritized courting their partners, and providing/protecting their families. that’s something i see in my dad that lots of modern day men lack. that being said, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:40 AM
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funny how he definitely did
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:27 AM
0

yeah after reading some of the responses, this is what i think may be the case as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:26 AM
1

i know the basis of RP ideas. regardless, i asked a simple question and was curious what people would respond with. edit: also the responses will help me with raising my own son :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:19 AM
3

im just asking a simple question. i have no preconceived notion, hence why i asked the question. i’m trying to create a hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:14 AM
1

you obviously missed the last sentence of my original response to you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:12 AM
-20

It made me think for a good portion of my life all women were good and kind and loving and would tolerate my bullshit like she did. So were you looking for a partner or another mother?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:09 AM
2

what i said still stands
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:03 AM
1

all of my other comments are just reiterating that old men are not the prize that they think they are. pretty sure another one of my comments that’s one of the most upvoted on this thread said i don’t date anyone over five years older than me, and why that is. i don’t think it’s great at all. i didn’t think it was great when i was 19 two weeks ago, and i don’t think it’s great now at 20 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:33 PM
1

when did i indicate that i think that’s “great”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:24 PM
1

stats show most women get married around 26/27, in the US anyways. regardless, i respect your opinion and meant what i said. women who are trying to start a life with someone are not overly concerned about someone’s financial status or their stability, as they are both trying to establish themselves at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:00 PM
1

like i said, all women aren’t like that though. you’re using a blanket statement when there’s still thousands and thousands of women starting families and getting married in their early to mid 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:36 PM
1

all women aren’t like that. all the women i know want to get married and have a child by 30. some women prioritize their career over all, some don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:59 PM
1

not as much as an advantage as you think it is. especially if the woman has a place/room of her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:07 PM
2

exactly. most of the guys on here are in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:42 PM
2

i’m in a sorority and asked all the girls in my house if they would date an older guy (someone 28 or older+) during game night. all of them, which is a total of 35 college aged women, said “ew, no” besides one who’s honestly a bit mentally unstable. take what you want from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:41 PM
1

it’s preferred but doesn’t matter. majority of young women are not going to break up with their young boyfriend because he lives in a dorm. we’re all broke college kids trying to get by.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:36 PM
1

i think so. i saw the “friends” cast do a reunion on a tv show and all of the men from the show looked pretty bad. it was obvious they had let themselves go and that their age was catching up to them. the women on the other hand, who are around the same age or older than the men, we’re still very beautiful and had healthy glows. majority of males don’t look better than their female counterparts as they age. i don’t think one gender looks better than the other with age honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:27 PM
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i’m not saying all women in all parts of the world, but definitely most. it sounds like you’re an older man who got his feelings hurt by what i said so i’ll just end the conversation here. have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:24 PM
3

the only one who has a biased view of the world is you since you’re choosing to blatantly disregard the inability women had to choose their mate throughout history. reality is most women want someone close to their age. they’re not checking for or interesting in men out of that age range. that’s just what it is :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:15 PM
1

sure i agree. but majority are still not interested in dating someone more than maybe five years older than them. that’s what i’m saying. we’re talking about the averages, not the anomalies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:03 PM
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i do read history. and based on that, i’m telling you it’s not a fair argument as the ability for women to choose their partner is a privilege that many women around the world just obtained within the past century. let’s not forget that in many parts of the world, women still don’t have rights and are often forced into arranged marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:02 PM
2

the stats i referenced are showing the age difference between all couples in the US. if the average age gap is less than three years, that says a lot. majority of women are not interested in finding spouses that are way older than them (more than a couple years).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:54 PM
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human history when women couldn’t choose their partners or had no rights so they could do so? not a good argument
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:52 PM
2

i and others i know don’t think so as previously said, but i respect your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:35 PM
1

most women i know want to work on their career while having a relationship. they’re both a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:34 PM
2

ah got ya. thanks for the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:59 AM
4

I think you truly see this with “The Wall” concept men created. They think as soon as women turn 35, they suddenly become unattractive and unwanted because of their age. But at the same time, men think they’re in their “prime” as they get older? The average older man I see shows significant signs of aging such as balding, wrinkles, and a dad bod/beer belly. Those aren’t super appealing features, especially to young women. There is a reason why famous male Hollywood actors get treatments and proc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:57 AM
1

if i may ask, what is “betabuxxing”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:38 AM
2

I just don't see statistics transpolating to real life. this is where you’re going wrong though. you think this experience that you claim to be having is fact when multiple statistics with hundreds to thousands of participants are saying the opposite of what you’re saying. we’re talking about the real world here and what the majority is looking for whether that be in casual dating, romantic relationships, or hookups. your personal anecdote with no proof is not going to outweigh the multitude of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:35 AM
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perfect! i think my number is a bit different because it’s based on the average age difference of a U.S. couple. not just US married couples. but it helps add to my point even more. OP shouldn’t worry about the age thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:37 AM
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I’m not disagreeing with that. But I think it’s important to add that the women who are looking to build and grow with someone are mindful of these factors. Why expect all these things when you don’t even obtain them yourself? That’s the point of wanting to build with someone because through time, you’ll obtain these things together as a team. I, and friends I have talked to, just don’t see the lack of these traits as “disadvantages”. I honestly find it more appealing as we’re on the same page i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:25 AM
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Can you source? I don’t doubt what you said. I’d love to just read into it more and educate myself :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:16 AM
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the average age gap in the US for couples is almost three years with the man being the oldest. relax. i don’t think young men are at a disadvantage at all other than for financial reasons. young men actually have perks such as being more physically attractive and stronger due to youth, and young men don’t have as much baggage as their older counterparts. younger men also have more potent, healthier sperm from a biological standpoint. for the women who want to grow and start a life with someone, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:29 AM
1

what do you mean “those men aren’t the men you want”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:19 AM
2

you had me in the first half ngl i agree that money is needed to be in a relationship. women are attracted to stability and security, so a man who can make his own income and provide for himself is wanted. for me personally, income is important because i don’t want to be with someone who solely depends on my income or who i’ll have to coddle because they don’t have an income. having a family is also big to me so if we were to have children, will this man be able to help provide for his family an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:31 PM
1

i think one can be truly selfless
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:40 AM
1

no but i think it’s good to keep in mind. it can help look for red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:24 AM
1

right so whatever happened is solely her fault. got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:03 AM
1

the guy wrote the story…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:52 AM
1

how does the victim thing relate to this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:23 AM
1

i said majority about my overall conclusion that majority of men aren’t selfless partners in relationships. that majority of men only give to get. the word majority didn’t apply to the leaving dying partner story or stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:08 AM
2

well there’s a lot of shitty ones then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:17 AM
1

thank you! i’ll read it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:37 AM
1

is it propaganda or is it actually facts that you don’t like? i feel like you’re only calling it propaganda because it’s not in favor of you and your gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:25 AM
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feel free to share that link of the retraction. i’d love to be educated :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:24 AM
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so anything not in favor of men whether it be anecdote or actually statistical, is all “misandrist propaganda”?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:20 AM
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understandable but my conclusion isn’t totally based on just this article alone. even on this sub, men admit to doing xyz to get something out of a woman (most of the time that’s sexual access). every week i see a “women don’t like nice guys and only like CHADS” post on here because lots of men think being nice and doing the bare minimum should be what’s needed to get them sexual access and a romantic relationship. this all boils down to “i’m only doing this to get this from her.” that’s not gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:01 AM
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i fixed the link so it should work now :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:36 AM
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you can check my recent post on r/nothowgirlswork to see the post in question the nbc link has also been fixed!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:35 AM
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i did ask but only because we were playing dirty truth or dare and i couldn’t think of any other questions to ask
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:40 AM
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lol this post made me giggle. thanks for the laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:35 AM
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how early are we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:46 AM
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the whole concept of this thread wasn’t about cancel culture and i think that’s where we are misaligning. you’re focusing on cancel culture when i just used it as a detail to support my main point. regarding your porn preference, neither of you are in the wrong for the basis of your feelings. you feel porn is bad. he sees no problem with porn. i think the issue is the insulting and degrading someone who has a different opinion from you which all goes back to what i was saying originally. in mode…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:39 PM
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i’ve already explained it throughout this conversation lol. regarding the no porn thing, as i just saw that question, lots of men aren’t going to be okay with that. but there’s tons of men who don’t mind laying off porn and many men who don’t even watch porn at all. just gotta find that person you’re compatible with. like i said, there’s someone for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:17 PM
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no. i was just saying cancel culture has helped diminish the privilege of free speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:11 PM
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all the time. for example, if a woman outwardly expresses she only wants to date guys who are at least 6 feet, she’s gonna get bashed for that preference. people don’t know how to just let people have opinions and go on about their day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:04 PM
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if a guy were to say he wants a partner with a low n count, he’s usually bashed and seen as sexist or misogynistic. when i mention cancel culture, i’m not saying people have specifically been cancelled for sharing an opinion about n counts. i’m just saying cancel culture has opened the door for people to get bashed for having an opinion that’s in opposition of someone else’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:57 PM
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i don’t think people should be disrespectful with their opinions but it’s okay to express your feelings. i think guys with super high body counts aren’t relationship material for me. mentally, i just equate it to desperateness or having no standards. i wouldn’t tell the guy this outright, and i wouldn’t call him demeaning names, but i would stop seeing him. it’s okay to have standards. cancel culture loves to try to make people feel wrong for feeling a certain way and it’s ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:53 PM
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it is what it is. people are allowed to have preferences and standards. the key to any type of relationship is finding someone you’re compatible with and someone who will accept you as you are. there’s someone out there for everyone. they just haven’t found their person yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:47 PM
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great. well hopefully men use all of that to stop complaining about women and how much women don’t want them. it’ll be a win for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 04:09 AM
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ooh the sexism card. awesome! hopefully you and the rest of your male companions can think of a way to all become desirable and get all the sex you need instead of judging women for your personal issues and lack of mental, emotional, and physical attractiveness (insert “80/20 rule”). when you guys come up with a solution for that, let me know. i’d love to invest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:54 AM
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i’m just gonna smile and nod just like i do when my 5 year old cousin talks about unicorns being real
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:49 AM
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sperm from 18 to 25 is the healthiest and has the best mobility. science has shown this for decades. but again, we’re gonna listen to you instead of actual professionals :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:42 AM
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Right everyone lets listen to the random Redditor over actual doctors! While most of what you said is just emotion-based opinions that hold no substance, I do agree that everyone ages at different rates. This is why every year there are thousands of women over 35 still giving birth and having healthy children. And in recent years, the percentage of women over 35 having children has actually increased by over 9%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:34 AM
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There’s multiple studies on it and not all of the men were “old” and “obese” in all of these studies. I work in a Women and Family Planning Health clinic and there’s a reason why the doctors suggest men freeze their sperm by ideally 25 if they want kids later in life. The older men are, the more their sperm becomes faulty and defective. Being healthy and attractive does not change your internal age. That’s not how bodies work. Your internal could care less about your external looks. This is simp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 03:18 AM
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100x times this. I turn 20 in two days and feel the exact same way. If the persons in the relationship are in similar places in life, then I don’t think age gap relationships are that much of an issue. The issue arises when one person has very little life experience and the other person does. This applies to older man/young woman and older woman/young man couples. Lots of these relationships are manipulative and mentally/emotionally abusive as well. Also, this belief that young women are just he…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 02:52 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:43 PM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:02 AM
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for me personally, i think it all comes down to the feeling of wanting to be wanted, needed, and completely vulnerable with another person. those feelings of intimacy and trust just can’t be replicated with porn because sex is more than feeling (to me anyways). in my current relationship, sex has another meaning because i genuinely love my partner with my whole being and love the emotional connection with my partner. it feels nice to be desired by him and anytime we have sex, i’m putting all my …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:45 AM
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https://usatoday.com/4933666002 this is just one article but there’s multiple studies and articles on the subject that you can find through research. regarding more info about the millennial women data, i can post the link to that when i’m able to (out at the moment but can edit later).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:45 AM
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sorry, millennial women are on average earning more than their male millennial counterparts. about half of the women in the US earn the same or more than their male partner. apologizes on my end
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 04:36 AM
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i consider it transactional. they needed a woman to have sex with. i’m the woman. i needed a man to have sex with. they’re the man. it was nothing more than that for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:06 AM
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when i did have casual sex, i saw it as purely transactional and simply sex based. i only had casual sex with those people knowing i wanted casual sex and nothing more. granted, i did need to find them physically attractive, and we talked for awhile before so i was at least confident that the person wasn’t going to assault me or murder me (safety first kids). but it was just sex. i never asked for more after and never felt any sort of emotional attachment to any of them. believe it or not, women…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 12:55 AM
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again i hope things work out for you. sincerely!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:58 PM
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that’s not true at all. there are so many men who marry for sexual access or because they feel obligated to or because they come form religious upbringings. being married does not necessarily guarantee that he is committed to her and only her for the rest of his life as you’re trying to make it seem. i never said the majority of married men cheat. there is not an argument to be had in this area. a woman can get government mandated security and provision alone or in a relationship, physical prote…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:47 PM
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no that’s not the secret of long marriages. my mom only became the breadwinner about three years ago due to a promotion at her job. but they’ve always been in the same pay grade for the most part. my father was happy for her and happy to see his wife succeed because he loves her. that’s the secret to long marriages. love and wanting to see your partner win in life. not being bitter and made at the world due to baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:30 PM
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the only one trying to avoid reality is you. no one is disagreeing with what you’re saying and i’ve agreed with you throughout this conversation. all i’m saying is nothing you’re saying is gender exclusive. women aren’t always the ones filling divorce and they’re not always the ones who earn less. if you want to have a realistic conversation, lay it all on the table. mention your bias but mention that this is not a one size fits all situation. that’s all i’ve been saying the whole time. i apprec…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:27 PM
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never said it did. but let’s say there’s a relationship (such as my parents who have been married for 23 years) where the woman is making more than her husband. wouldn’t he get access of her wealth if he feels unhappy and decides to leave? or is that ability only exclusive to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:18 PM
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i’m not saying it affects both genders equally. but i’m asking, what are some exclusive things women can only get from a husband that they can’t get in a boyfriend? alimony isn’t gender exclusive. if my bf and i got married today and we happened to divorce in a year, i’d be paying him alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:09 PM
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being married doesn’t mean that the man is highly committed to her or that he actually loves his wife and values her as a person. if that were true, so many married men wouldn’t be cheating on their spouses. besides social validation, a woman can get all of the things you mentioned alone or with a boyfriend. and some of those things you mentioned also are incentives for married men, as they wouldn’t be able to get those benefits without having a wife. you also didn’t answer my second question bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:04 PM
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i never said anything about a pay gap. you mentioned that. all i’m saying is your answer to my question isn’t valid. access to wealth isn’t exclusive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:49 PM
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most women out-earn men today and are more likely to have a college degree. there are a multitude of female celebrities who have to pay alimony to their ex husbands as well, because the women were the breadwinners in the relationship while their husbands were not. so this access to wealth answer is not gender exclusive as you’re trying to claim it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:35 PM
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i agree. i don’t think confidence makes a guy more attractive unless he’s at least somewhat attractive to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:29 PM
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that would be the same story the other way around if the woman was more wealthy than the man
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:28 PM
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what do women get in a husband that they can’t get in a boyfriend? and what do men get in a girlfriend that a wife can’t give him?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:19 PM
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so… the question asked what i thought about the opposite gender. i’m a female so the opposite gender in question, for me, would be male. therefore, my response to the question was internal male entitlement. i strongly suggest you read the titles closely and make sure you comprehend them well, instead of taking a comment like mine as an opportunity for you to do the tit-for-tat, extremely childish “what about women?/ well, women do it too!” route. work on reading a comment and processing it, inst…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:50 PM
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and this applies to both men and women right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:03 PM
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internal male entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:33 PM
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i see. well i guess everyone i know is just super hot lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:35 AM
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i asked what women’s standards were but i meant in terms in what are their standards
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:09 AM
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you didn’t answer my question
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:06 AM
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“women have high standards”. what are these high standards that you speak of that all women seem to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:42 AM
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interesting because i’ve never known any woman to have this issue of not getting anyone they’re not at least semi attracted to. again, men are desperate so it’s not hard. what i do know is, many women abstain from sex because they want a solid mental and emotional connection with a person first. this does not signify a woman not enjoying sex or not being into sex/having a high drive. especially when things like masturbation and toys that guarantee orgasms (which many men can’t give women anyways…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:38 AM
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i have a high sex drive and enjoy sex a lot. that being said it’s literally impossible to have sex with someone i don’t find attractive. i would be disgusted and wouldn’t be into the sex at all. also as a woman, there is a multitude of opportunities out there for sex and i can easily find someone i think is attractive to have sex with. why would i settle with someone unattractive just to get laid even though i’ll be turned off the whole time? i don’t have to. i can find someone i find attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:27 AM
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so not having sex with literally anyone with a penis equates to women not enjoying sex? people with that logic have projection issues lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:13 AM
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and what’s wrong with that? it’s not women’s fault that men have no standards and women do. who wants to have sex with someone they don’t find attractive? that’s not a flex and shows that they’re desperate. why can’t women take advantage of that desperation with someone she finds attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:09 AM
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Oh for sure. As you said, those terms start to lose meaning because the definitions of what qualifies someone as a “simp” or “pickmeisha” become so broad and loose. From my understanding, both terms depict people who put the opposite gender on a pedestal, and often degrade themselves and members of their fellow gender, for the attention and approval of the opposite gender. Under that definition, there are many women and men like that, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong for calling them out…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:05 AM
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What’s problematic about it? It’s just the female equivalent of “simps”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:27 AM
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This was a perfect explanation. Totally accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:53 PM
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Exactly this. I think people forget that women like and enjoy having sex. If me and a guy are not in a committed relationship and they have no standards, that’s fine. I’m using you to get off and vice versa. Then I’ve got what I needed and we can go about our day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:49 PM
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My boyfriend and I are planning to get married pretty soon lol. Regardless, a past sexual history doesn’t indicate a future sexual history. Like I said previously, most of those sexual interactions came from LTRs. I highly doubt I’m going to get in 14 romantic relationships by age 30, as I learned from my two non relationship hookups that hooking up with no emotional connection is not for me. Your logic of 30 by 30 makes no sense and is just based on your personal projection and insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:33 PM
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Lots of these bitter guys are nice guys. There’s different types of bitter. Regardless, they’re all hurt and have internal baggage and trauma that won’t get them anywhere. And I don’t feel bad for them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:25 PM
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Wish that was true. Then there wouldn’t so many “nice guys” in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:21 PM
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Yeah lots of them do. Are you saying the men who complain about being undesirable and go on and on about Chads don’t want to interact with women ever again?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:18 PM
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Being bitter does not attract people to you. It pushes them away. I do have empathy for people who haven’t had the best experiences with the opposite gender. Whether that be never having a relationship or just having shitty relationships with selfish partners. However, I do not have empathy for people who have dealt with trauma, and then proceed to become hateful to the opposite gender and began objectify them for their bodies or for what they can give them. You can’t act that way towards people…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:11 PM
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How is he single at 40?! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:00 PM
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That’s not a “wild” body count to me. If it is to you, then so be it. Majority of those are from LTRs, not hookups. My last “body” is my current boyfriend of a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:55 PM
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Okay? The person asked me if I knew any 20+ virgins and I answered the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:53 PM
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If that were true, I wouldn’t be with my boyfriend lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:52 PM
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Throughout this comment section, I’ve seen “Chad” defined as a super attractive male, and someone who’s very successful in life and with women. So going off of the latter definition, I did have a sexual experience with one Chad (I chose not to have penetrative sex with him). The other four guys I did have actual sex with weren’t Chads but I loved their personality and I did find them attractive (because like most non-desperate people, I don’t have sexual relations with anyone I don’t find physic…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:05 AM
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Once I became sexually active, two and a half months
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:48 AM
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I don’t have sex with other men while in a committed relationship. Nor have I ever indicated that was my situation. So what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:22 AM
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He doesn’t care because he values me as a person and for how I make him feel, not just my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:05 AM
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Personal anecdote, from what I’ve seen, most of the guys who get little to no attention from women are the main ones treating women like objects because they’re so bitter about their lack of success with women. It’s like a defense mechanism for them. They think treating women like they’re subhuman is better than reflecting on the reasons why women aren’t interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:17 AM
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When was my own “measure” talked about in my comment? My comment wasn’t a debate on what’s high and what’s not. It was about how women are perceived and what’s accurate for the majority of women. You’re putting your own opinion on the situation like it matters when it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:11 AM
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Probably because they’d rather have someone to show them attention and to have some type of sex with, rather than no one at all. That’s what bitterness, desperation and low self esteem usually does to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:51 AM
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One night stand
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:49 AM
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I’m not preaching anything. The point of my post is women aren’t sleeping around like men think they are. My body count doesn’t depict me being promiscuous as most of the people I slept with weren’t random hookups with Chads and were from committed relationships. Edit: Also most of the studies I’ve seen on the subject said that women don’t tend to exceed over ten sexual partners in their lifetime. I’m at six and my current partner of a year is my sixth “body”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:40 AM
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Because my boyfriend sees me as a person and not property
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:32 AM
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That’s your opinion. There are tons of men who don’t agree. All opinions are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:42 AM
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Very true. The funny part is, lots of the same men go on and on about women only wanting the top 20% of men and that they have super high standards that the average guy can’t compete with. But when they make these claims, they aren’t focusing on the average woman. They’re usually focusing on the super hot women who are extremely desirable, meaning they have a multitude of options they can choose from for a romantic partner or hookups. These women don’t have to settle and can essentially do whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:41 AM
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Cant wait to see it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:28 AM
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I mean to be fair, I did tell you they were in my first reply so what is there to assume…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:27 AM
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Haha my boyfriend has the same body count and loves the experience I have :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:26 AM
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Ah yes. A man telling me, a woman, what women want when I’m literally surrounded by women 24/7!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:25 AM
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We didn’t get into all that because that’s a little too personal lmao. But they all said they’ve never had penetrative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:20 AM
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I do! I’m in a sorority and I live in my sorority house (so when I say I’m surrounded by women everyday, I mean it). We’ve had late night bonding conversations where we’ve talked about things like body counts. There’s nine seniors who live in the house, four of which are virgins. Three of them are 22 while the other is 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:12 AM
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So men who respect women and don’t see them as objects, are moderately attractive, are faithful, that express to their partner that they are desirable and loved, and are actively trying to do something with their life are the “top few men” in society? Well I’d say that’s a damn good group of men to go for if all the other men can’t even do the basics of treating their partner with common decency and not being bums. Again as a young woman who talks to women every single day and who has had a mult…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:10 AM
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Yeah this used to be me. I would always say I’ve been with more people then I had actually been with because I was afraid of being seen as “inexperienced” or weird. Talking to friends, this is a pretty common sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 12:52 AM
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Last week, I chatted with a male who said the #1 most important thing to him in a relationship was having sexual access to his female partner whenever he wanted without any push back. I asked him why and he said (and I quote), “She’s given it out to a hundred other dudes, over a thousand times, it shouldn’t be that big of a deal.” He believed that “certainly most” women would sleep with over 100 men by age 30. When I sent him over ten studies showing that women don’t typically exceed 10 partners…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 12:41 AM
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men really overestimate their importance in a woman’s life. they really think we do everything for them and their approval.
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