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82

In my experience they're obsessed with what you "do" ("bring to the table") and simultaneously try to derail it. So you suck for not being more successful but he sure as hell won't let you get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:26 AM
17

In my experience, never. Absolutely NEVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:00 AM
7

Oh my God this sounds like my ex. I don't want to go into detail but it's a similar situation and a similar horrible personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:51 AM
18

In my definition of what adventurous means to them, it means a woman with no boundaries and no vetting process. A woman without her own life who will conform to his whims. And the moment she can't or won't join him on an adventure he's onto his next adventure of a woman. He basically won't be dating you. you're just sharing a bed immediately because you're camping for example lol. Or traveling out of state. You know all that safe stuff to do with a stranger. His current adventures lack sex. That…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:40 AM
35

Women are brainwashed to be "good" and "nonjudgmental" and "kind" and "empathetic" and to "not care about mAterial things". She hasn't learned to break attachments and about sunk cost fallacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:06 PM
109

“I am so sad we will never have sex again.” See men can CoMmUnICATe sometimes. Poetry! I just realized my most recent ex said the exact same thing with slightly different wording. 🥰 Edit: Actually I think all of them did! Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 07:56 PM
18

Other prime victims are those that have only been in one long term pickme relationship (like through their 20s), and haven't dated aka experienced the huge disappointment that is the majority of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:24 PM
100

Damaged and baggage= experienced (wisened up) and growth of a backbone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:59 AM
19

I don't want to watch the video but from the thumbnail I'm zero% attracted. So genetic alpha male?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:15 AM
60

Men absolutely cannot stand it once they realize I'm at least as, if not light-years more intelligent than them. There are many many many measures of intelligence. But if you outshine a lvm in an area he either prides himself too much in or is insecure/incompetent in, that's when the negs begin and/or outright tempter tantrums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:49 AM
88

No one's EVER preaching to trust in women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:46 AM
2

I've been literally told a lot of things we discuss here as well. They are shameless about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:05 AM
48

If they hype it up as thick it's short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:39 AM
27

I only start to REALLY crave it when I am dating a man. Between men I pretty much can kind of turn it off.. sort of. Definitely would NEVER use anyone for sex unlike men. Because that's disgusting... And a danger to only me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:18 AM
42

Yes, and when it happens I realize that I was legitimately not attracted to the hundreds of males I encountered between. lol..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:15 AM
31

I picked my ex nearly entirely for PeRsoNalIty cause I was essentially trained not to value anything else. I really feel so mislead and it's taken me over a decade of abuse in the dating world unlearn this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:13 AM
115

Masturbate in you 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:06 AM
8

You're spot on and I've come to all the same conclusions about myself. We are very similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:03 AM
36

Throughout my life I've always been puzzled when my boyfriends would tell me about how some dudes, once I had left the room a few minutes had approached them and said "good job man" or commented on my butt/body/etc. But the "good job man". Like. There's not even any context and it's a full conversation apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:12 AM
313

Trust your gut. I've had weird experiences with male doctors too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:08 AM
133

Ok I just had a realization. I was actually reading an article recently that was about how to successfully manage your harem. It's about not inciting jealousy. This entire elusiveness is part of managing the harem. They'll never flaunt the new women in your face as a girlfriend. They carefully maintain respect on some level simply to maintain the connection. Not to preserve your feelings for YOUR sake. Not only do they hope maybe they access sex from you again, they will actually settle purely f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 01:10 AM
24

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:52 AM
85

Or he will post hints that he believes have plausible deniablility for triangulation purposes, but nothing overt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:49 AM
161

These guys are out of sight out of mind people There is no loyalty, only compliance. You literally can't leave his side. Once you acknowledge your own life, someone else is in his bed. They don't want a relationship. They want instant access to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:47 AM
4

I was just thinking the other day about this. People are looking for uses in people. Does this person increase my social status? Is this person a "connection". Networking I guess. While this is natural, it's also like most interactions are that shallow the older you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:16 AM
8

The accuracy of this. Makes you want to cringe that she's leaning into a dumpster. You can't get on tinder without getting dirty. Like. Dumpster dirty. Like. There's nothing redeaming about it dirty. Also she's that much closer to potentially being a body in a dumpster by taking that "dive".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:35 PM
48

That is so not cute at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 09:33 AM
56

I doubt she believes him. Her goal is to win vs the other woman. Pickmes compete with other women. And they do so by attempting to be everything the other woman isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 09:18 AM
30

What did you do to make him cheat??? 😂😂😂 Jk..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:39 AM
7

Exactly...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:24 AM
20

I think the dead bedroom problem is that women lose attraction when men show low value behavior like blurred boundaries with other women in some way or otherwise blatantly disrespects you, and you realize your fleshlight status. Kinda ruins attraction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:28 PM
70

Anger issues, videogames over sex, porn over sex, childishly competitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:19 PM
49

When you have undeniable good looks the first thing they do is neg you by saying you're going to have to bring something else to the table/be intellectually compatible, implying that you don't/won't/aren't (even when you're literally also smarter than them), and insisting they aren't like "other guys" who only care about looks. Further negs. This is always unprompted and exposes their obsession with your good looks.. they want you to "prove" yourself. They want pickme behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:08 AM
19

As soon as a lvm "gets" a woman. No matter who she is.. basically in his eyes she's downgraded. I mean think about it. He's a lvm and he has to feel superior to you. So you must be really low lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:00 AM
5

Men's emotional intelligence is devoted entirely to subterfuge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:39 AM
4

Definitely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:32 AM
99

He cheated on you. That doesn’t happen accidentally. It takes thousands of micro-decisions CHOSEN over time. He CHOSE to treat you like shit and now he has the SCROTACITY to expect you to come back to him crying and sucking his dick. Inside he’s feeling quite proud of himself right now. That was beautiful Furthermore. I think men are so used to rejection in attempting to acquire mates that putting feelers out like this means nothing to them. It appears to be vulnerability but it's not. It's trul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:24 AM
46

And their "friends"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 06:49 PM
249

I'd like to meet these men who would consider watching a woman he knows having sex cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:37 AM
30

No joke. Real life is even more HD than porn. 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 08:46 AM
35

His "perception" of his options 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:27 AM
66

Sounds like my last relationship. We increase the man's value. Like I've literally forever increased that man's value by being someone that pickmes envy and "choosing" him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:55 PM
115

Cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:52 PM
104

We will most likely die alone with our cats anyway if we caretake them (men) til they die (leaving us alone). Or if we need caretaking we will still die alone because they will not be around. It's the weakest threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:48 AM
39

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:39 AM
13

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:20 AM
26

Or simply "proof" that his ex was crazy and he already bagged a new one. No failures here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 06:43 PM
67

Men do not communicate with words period. Everytime we explain absolutely anything is waste of breath. Literally if you don't spell it out for them, they always figure out what they did wrong and if they want to fix it they do. If you do spell it out for them it like validates them just the way they are regardless of your words. You're so fucking right. They respond to attention or no attention and that is all. I don't think it'd make much difference if men and women didn't even speak the same l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:27 AM
62

She aired that in public? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:06 AM
7

Petite lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:54 AM
21

He's already on the "repeat" part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:52 AM
34

6 months? That's generous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:30 AM
32

Can always do the I have a boyfriend line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:20 AM
5

Anyone know what the photo is from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:32 AM
9

"I hate drama". LVM translation for "I cause a lot of drama."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:53 PM
113

Actually he would be asking you to be the cook lol. Edit: for free. And the waitress. And the dish washer etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:02 AM
7

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:55 AM
17

I think other self aware lvm are the ones who point out all the other men's "game" and explain it to you. They have their own "game". They're just not going to explain it to you. Also, any man who calls every conflict a "game" is playing games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:02 AM
72

Men will literally buy drinks for randoms (even other men) to impress, and then skimp on his gf/wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:57 AM
54

I don't get why they're ALL like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:53 AM
48

I told my pickme ex friend that he knows exactly what he's doing. She's like "I think he's really that dumb!!". No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:39 AM
14

He "discovered" it 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:54 AM
39

Women don't have options either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:51 AM
135

I love how they like to sing from the roof tops about how they find literally every woman around them attractive (entitlement) and then throw a fit at the mere thought of you finding another man attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:15 AM
169

This is why MEN love romantic/love story movies. Their favorite part is always the part where the lead actress chooses the lvm at the end and they always want ME to watch that part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:43 PM
72

Dating him would be a voluntary hardship so he needs a woman who enjoys such undertakings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:54 AM
198

Ever notice how men are always like "we have feelings too" when they feel like pulling that card... Wait what? Too? Huh? Never had a man give a singular fuck about mine. They absolutely do. Not. Care. How their actions affect us. Only them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:44 AM
2

Yes I've noticed that. The moment they're not the center of the room it's like their tails are between their legs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:49 PM
59

They also use female "friends" to shit talk you and whine and complain instead of resolving issues with you. They loooooove to bitch about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:44 PM
34

Spot on about pickme friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:57 PM
50

Dating men turns into a job interview once they've had sex with you a few times. Til then there's zero vetting process bc their priority is the notch on their belt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:34 PM
47

Exactly. The red flag they're looking for is that it won't be easy sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:55 AM
198

Something similar happened to me. I said no I have to be somewhere. He got so pissed off and inquired where I have to be. There were plenty of other people. Why me? Easy target I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:51 AM
49

You don't have to be compared to and triangulated with other women. I pretty much never feel animosity toward other women when I am single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:21 AM
49

He's literally looking for validation to marry her and then pursue affairs. He knows the alternative is to be miserable and alone, otherwise he wouldn't be even considering marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:22 AM
77

He has had no slim delicate girls show interest in him otherwise they wouldn't have made it 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:46 AM
20

Paragraphs is always the wrong answer. Always!!! And you must forgive yourself when you break what you already know and do better next time 😅. It is. Alllllways. The wrong answer. Always!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:07 AM
6

I was actually just thinking about this earlier. Why is there a competition as to who is the least jealous cool girl who puts up with the most shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:19 AM
50

Men who seek fame come off as feminine to me. They're the prize. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:16 AM
107

As for needs the last man I dated ticked off like every fantasy box ever. Like everything I could find attractive in men all in one man. However he offered me nothing and saw me as a subordinate background woman that was just a cog in the machine that is his life, made a lot of tall claims that he routinely didn't follow through with, saw my time as his time, but oh I was his woman. Highly esteemed. In public and in his bed. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:11 PM
3

Girl your feet are a half size too small. But you're good enough for sex (not marriage)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:54 AM
4

Why? Very curious now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:24 AM
70

Had one tell me all men need is a hole- spoke for all men. He was just being real. Lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:59 AM
32

Furthermore spreading STDs to an expectant mother can have severe consequences for the baby, even death. Monogamy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:45 AM
6

Yup the alternative is to sell your soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:43 AM
83

And guess what. If he wasn't watching the VR porn he'd be cheating instead. She should be thankful he's home every night!!!! Like a good man. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:17 AM
35

So I went on date with a guy.. He asks me out the next day he's free to HiS HoUSE ("the backyard"). I said I have work to do which was true but still. His HoUSE. I asked if we could do something later in the week he says of course. He is free any day. Monday I ask if he wants to do something wedneday. "Ya, I might be free Wednesday." That was the last and only communication we had. MIGHT? Like why bother even replying. I'm glad I didn't respond. Glad I didn't accept the HOUSE DATE. And glad I po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:58 AM
49

So despite glaringly failing at FDS principles in actually participating in my most recent relationship in the first place, I also followed them way more than I had in my previous relationships. I'm absolutely incapable of worshiping a man or bending over backwards for him. I refuse to be placed into a subordinate zone. I realize when he's asking for literally free labor. I notice when the cost is majorly outweighing the benefits. And I know that I should cut my losses and move on. Just need to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:59 AM
50

Men are the ultimate gold diggers. Time and Time again I am proven right and I'm done feeling bad in making that blanket statement. They're the absolute most ruthless gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:43 AM
20

Mmmmmhmmmmm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:00 PM
12

He just described an actual relationship 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:34 PM
2

So I knew not to reveal past traumas or abuse but I totally did anyway overtime and in conversation, and I will never do it again. "I treat you better than your exes" that's a low bar. And also not true. Also not revealing to women either. After experiencing a pickme supreme "friend"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:59 AM
101

I honestly think the more attractive the woman the more likely (or equally likely..) she will be cheated on. Men are extremely insecure and with a beautiful woman he always feels like he is going to lose her to another man because she truly has way more sexual power than he has or ever will have. So they cheat. The woman will demand respect. she can upgrade in a heartbeat. He absolutely cannot. This is painful to a weak man. The inferiority. He will balance the scales in a pathetic way. Not to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:39 AM
51

They are probably social media influencers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:31 AM
10

Men don't even do that for us. So um yeah. No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:22 AM
5

They literally use their dogs as a prop to make themselves interesting. It's sad how uninteresting they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:08 PM
92

It's a definitely a red flag. These men are invested in these low effort imaginary relationships. Not you. It's like their giant fake security blanket. Lol. It's plain unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:21 AM
39

So he can complain she nagged him into it. Exactly. All part of the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:45 PM
99

It's not a compliment though. When they dumped you or you broke up with them or whatever, they went back to whoever was before you and tested those waters. I really think it's as simple as lvm cannot go five seconds without female validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:05 AM
135

@ B. Not only do they go back to their habits, they literally reintroduce them one by one. They erode your new boundaries one boundary at a time because the goal isn't to get rid of you, it's to get you to accept below the bare minimum like you did before. Ease you into it so you don't realize it's happening. You know, the reason they came back for. Other women required effort. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:00 AM
428

I can't get past the fact that when you have sex with a man you are symbolically and potentially allowing him to father your children. Of which you will inevitably invest disproportionately more into by nature. It makes sex very not recreational to me. Anymore. Especially since as has been said so many times before. Dick is abundant and of low value. I don't really see sex as a display of love or symbolic of a special bond anymore but a replaceable and disposable resource highly sought after by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:17 PM
30

Lvm literally do. Not. Care. About anything but getting laid and physical attraction is all the matters til this is achieved. There are some whose ego/opinions/anger issues override this. But many many men will pursue women and pretend to share their beliefs even if they strongly believe the contrary just to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:01 PM
72

A hvm would continue to provide a stable supportive role to his daughter instead of throwing her to the wolves aka the abuse of lvm. It's why the father "gives her away" at her wedding to a man that is supposed to be capable of fulfilling that role. He definitely felt emasculated by your dad and weeded himself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:33 AM
1

I'm glad I'm beyond my days of pandering to men. You will never be special to men. You're just another hot girl and that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:17 PM
11

His profile literally was describing our relationship minus the drama. It’s like, if you really wanted what we had, why didn’t you just do the fucking work?? Exactly. I will never understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:44 AM
11

They are keenly aware of what brought about the "change". However playing the game on more women is preferable to the same one all the time. They value quantity over quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:29 AM
104

"you used to love me" aka have no boundaries and be more easily manipulated to accept below the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:01 PM
55

It's a cluster manchild personality disorder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:53 AM
17

"what is the catch?" "The catch is that you didn't make the cut. Bye." Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:32 PM
5

Many LVM only have an issue with you posting selfies once they are actually dating you. Until then they will happily consume. Yes consume. Your "material". Don't underestimate the literal service you are providing them even if it's just pictures of your face. Many orbiters ignore half to 100% of the things on women's accounts that are not selfies. But they literally cannot miss those selfies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:55 AM
188

This is why the comment "how are you still single?" By men I'm on a date with offends me. It's not WHY it's HOW. Like isn't the answer obvious..? I'm choosing to be.. they act like our relationship status is not our choice lol. Like someone else decides that for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:10 AM
27

Im sure it's for the next engagement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:41 PM
29

If her sex drive was high he would still cheat and be very annoyed when she wants sex. My ex actually would lie that he "had to get it from somewhere" when I was overly available to him and sexually neglected. They want to cheat and it's that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:49 AM
41

Men literally will trip over other men in a race to open the door for you if they find you attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:04 AM
12

Time boundaries also apply when no time is made for the relationship and everything must revolve around that person's time table. And it's a chore to budge at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:19 PM
27

I did it to an ex to prove a point (ogled another man blatantly that I had literally zero interest in lol) He seriously freaked out. And what really gets me is that he didn't realize how out of character it was for me aka fake...? I can't believe how horrified he was when the tables were turned. Edit: like why would I ever stare at someone like that in the first place in any other context. it's creepy and embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:34 AM
25

Lol why would you volunteer to be his new "within the US" gf who doesn't put in enough effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:32 AM
26

That's literally just an example of swiping left til you fall asleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:31 AM
68

Yes. I actually had an ex who complimented me and told me he'd never do it again or it will go to my head all in the same breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:03 AM
31

As dumb as that sounds it's actually how they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:02 AM
64

So I had an ex that always wanted anal but no real efforts were made. Five seconds after our official breakup which involved a huge move, he was looking up how to do anal on his YouTube account that was still logged in on my computer. Literally his priorities for a relationship that he would not find for another year and a half or something was anal sex. ??? So weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:16 AM
15

We all have struggled with pickmeisha ways. Or many of us have and still do. Nothing is more empowering than choosing yourself. Which is the opposite of being a pickme. Hopefully every woman learns to pick herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:52 PM
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My mental health and self esteem went haywire when I started dating men many years ago now. I was so much better off before. And so much better off the closer I get to my pre dating self and all the times I am single and not talking to anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:46 PM
10

Lvm are hell-bent on getting you to accept their bare minimum. It's that simple. A relationship to them is literally them trying to "tame" you or break you in to their ways. Gaslighting is an effective tool when their behavior that they're unwilling to change is offensive to the majority of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:32 AM
3

They seek us out to sexually terrorize because they love to see our reactions – our hurt, our pain, and they get off on it BECAUSE we are HUMAN and they can understand the emotions we are going through. That’s why they like it. They love to see our very-human-suffering! That’s what gives them their porn-sick, criminally debased sexual satisfaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:43 AM
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I've decided that to the majority of men.. "the one" is the one who accepts his bare minimum. To women it's the one who respects her. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:30 AM
68

I've actually noticed myself doing that on fds and sometimes correcting statements. "In my opinion" "to me" "personally'. It's meant to soften yourself. It's literally a submissive thing.. I almost said imo just now. WhY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:02 PM
27

They would literally die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:08 PM
60

You know what just blew my mind. My ex used to claim it was his responsibility to let these women know they're beautiful. He is "being supportive of them" (and their thirst traps). If their self esteem is his responsibility.. a man they don't even know exists yet he refuses to quit orbiting.. Then why doesn't he feel responsible for his gf's "self esteem". Why is his gf's "self esteem" her responsibility? While these women's self esteem is his responsibility. At that point you are orbiting the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:44 PM
64

We were so miserable being that man's pickme that we eventually left. All of us have tried to accommodate them. They bring your standards lower and lower the longer you stay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:08 PM
80

Exactly. He is acting single. Therefore I must be single right. Us actively dating other men is equivalent to men constantly shooting their shot and being rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:03 PM
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I keep dumping men over this. What I've noticed is the ones who continue it never maintain another long-term relationship. It's not about insecurity. It's about being respected. You want to let those women know you want to date them while you're with me? Then go date them. It is the audacity. Also when I let a man have all the freedom in the world "because it's harmless" aka be a doormat, he cheated on me the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:52 PM
33

They also just love anything that makes a woman look crazy and they run with it embellishing it, adding lie after lie to the collection through the grapevine. It's like a witch hunt. Even seemingly hvm will switch sides. Otherwise he's a wHiTE kNiGht. All we have are ourselves to defend ourselves. You are correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:30 PM
20

Options don't make you a high value man. How a man handles his options is what makes him high or low value. The man with more options still values the woman who invests in him and he continues to invest in her. He doesn't need backups or fuckbuddies. He doesn't cheat. He's matching the woman he benefits from long term. He's showing his investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:17 AM
13

It's really hard to lose the barb the builder mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:20 PM
76

This is why they always come back. But as soon as they have your validation again they use it as leverage to "upgrade". Women literally increase a man's value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:41 PM
36

This is the truth. Makes me nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:19 PM
3

Umm I have "the body for it" and that has never made me feel comfortable attracting attention to myself.. ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:01 AM
6

I would absolutely love a women only gym that has all the same equipment as a regular gym
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:33 PM
27

Why are monogamous people bullied Edit: monogamous women? And jk I know the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:51 AM
99

Half of them don't wipe their ass though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:36 AM
100

And when they level up financially they automatically look for women to spend it on. Nevermind the one who accepted the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:22 PM
13

Women can't bond after a few sex partners aka relationships (men define a large n count as anyone prior to them at all. Minimum n count to be a slut is 1) because they are traumatized and their dreams of reciprocated love are squashed after being exposed to the same crap over and over again and realizing it's men, not them. Men were never able to bond. Which is why they cannot stay interested in one woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:24 PM
10

She is treating him right 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:18 PM
41

Women help women... I think this sub is what destroyed whatever lingering need I had to compare myself to other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:20 AM
82

Wow you are so right?? How pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:15 AM
17

Ohhhh this is definitely it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:38 AM
68

Their coveted phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:37 AM
22

Oh yes. My analysis is probably too deep 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:29 AM
55

My results are even worse than this when I search. But I don't get this "how to get my wife to have an affair". Why? So that he can have an excuse for everything he does and continue the abuse cycle without feeling guilt? Blame her. I don't understand..?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:23 AM
4

They're present with us before they start living their double lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:49 PM
13

Or anytime he needs an alibi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:23 AM
21

"I'm not good at describing myself, let's meet in person!" Also means he wants to meet asap in person so that you have less time to properly vet him. Men try to have sex on the first date. The sooner you meet the better chance he can get his dick wet before he messes it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:23 AM
76

When I'd get checked out my ex would be like "haha omg that guy was looking at us so weird..." Then it dawns on him that he was checking ME out. And I'm just like yeah I know. And I think it's funny that he saw how idiotic rubber necking scrotes look from our point of view. Also once it dawns on him you can see the wave of insecurity and jealousy wash over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:37 AM
5

Looooove
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:46 AM
63

The "to hell with those women" comes off weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:14 PM
179

Yes so much less toxic than sharing tips and tricks on how to avoid and recover from rape, sexual coercion, harassment, assault, abuse, and exploitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:52 PM
36

They will grow up to make money and support him and possibly their bangmaids will be his caretaker. Edit: Also do any physical labor he won't be able to do as an old man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:00 PM
38

I saw a woman's proposal announcement on Facebook recently and I still have PTSD from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:58 PM
58

A guy literally told me his sons are his retirement plan. That's why their sons come first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:55 PM
37

Dated a guy who was heavier in person than I expected. He told me he got "catfished by a fat chick" and he left the restaurant before they ordered food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:21 PM
56

Exactly. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:08 PM
5

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:22 PM
56

It pisses them off soooo much. They try to convince you that you do in fact need a man. For this and that. Then when it comes time for them to do that thing for you "need" a man for... he can never find the time. Even if he's beyond capable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:21 AM
6

We should just internalize that being considered a " bitch" by men is a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:24 AM
49

It's so hard for me to think about something other than the current/recent scrote that wrecked my heart. I don't really have sexual desire for men unless I already have a relationship with them. So I have to try to ground myself and not think about a man at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:06 AM
62

It is no joke that abusers love to hear that you've been abused and then legitimately use the same tactics on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:57 AM
78

I know. These men actually prefer images to real women. You supply men who mistreat their girlfriends and wives with what they literally prefer over their gfs and wives. I'm not completely clean of this behavior. I am proud of my body. But I am constantly conflicted by the literal pleasure I give scrotes by existing and not covering up my figure. They are greedy with our bodies. They don't appreciate seeing us naked or nearly naked. They feel entitled to it. I came to the realization that the re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:55 AM
27

My abuser did less than the bare minimum. I fell for a guy who less than bare minimumed me. Then I fell for him again after he stalked me and then bare minimumed me into more abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:05 AM
26

It sucks. I feel alone in being exploited by them and like it's my fault. Or that I should have done things differently. They take advantage of our good nature. But clearly. I mean extremely clearly. I am not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:12 AM
7

Yeah what is the point in seeing if you're sExuALLy cOmpaTiBLe upfront if you're not compatible with the woman's standards upfront? It saves them from wasting a sexual trial period on the wWrOnG WoMan! WHAT A RELIEF FOR THEM! On to greener pastures and better women who deserve a sexual trial period!! Makes quite a bit of LoGiCaL sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:13 PM
14

I literally thought it was my number one job to keep a man happy and from straying. Lmao.. it doesn't do either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:02 PM
40

Perfectly translated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:43 AM
105

When I was a naive younger pickme I could not understand why people had "dead bedrooms". Why the woman wouldn't want to have sex with her husband over an extended period of time. It's the man. He turns his wife off in various ways. Triangulates her with other women, porn habits, etc. Creates massive trust issues and actual disgust in his wife. When a woman doesn't feel loved and respected, when she's aware of her fleshlight status, it's really hard to desire your partner. When you realize he doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:40 AM
54

Honestly it's the opposite of shallow. You're looking for more depth in a relationship. A relationship that aligns with your values and has a purpose. You're leaving a more shallow relationship behind- fulfilling in at most a very limited number of ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:20 AM
101

It took me a looooOoOOng time to realize they play dumb as a manipulation tactic. It's pathetic. Infantile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:55 AM
11

"CraAaAZY cAaAaat LaAAddDY". So crazy lol. Almost an oxymoron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:43 PM
26

Your fish won't wreck your life, heart, and health whether it's capable of love or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:15 PM
38

And they don't "need" one of us, they "need" all of us. They oooonly behave "committed"ly to a woman because otherwise they won't have consistent attention and benefits from a woman. It's an act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:41 PM
37

Gaslighting requires zero intelligence. It just requires gall. Men are not as smart at they think they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:52 PM
181

"You're going to die alone"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:43 PM
45

When other women verbalize their standards, it really wakes me up to how lax/ nonexistent mine are/were. Women should vocalize their standards with no shame. For the sake of all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:56 AM
40

I think the key is to not want any man's approval of your life path as a human. Men don't give a shit about our humanity. Our weakness either repells them or attracts predators. Having weaknesses/making mistakes is being human. That's fine. However doubting your self worth is a weakness men don't ever have to see. Also yes telling them your traumas or past relationship abuse is always always always bad. Keep it vague. Protect your inner world. Let him see that you're steering the ship, not lost …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:40 AM
1

If you're wearing sunglasses it gives them the illusion you can't see their eyes as much as they can't see your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:13 AM
1

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:01 AM
25

The unfortunate reality is human males are sexual parasites that bring nothing but negative energy into our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:45 AM
31

Yes I was wondering how this was gold instead of receiving a pickme flair lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:21 AM
2

This is like how men love to voluntarily tell us we are more beautiful than our friend, our sister, etc, when we never asked to even be compared to them. It's not a compliment at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:09 PM
59

They're basically the flying monkeys of the narcissist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:56 PM
39

Men in this age range have a lot less shame. They seem to develop more and more entitlement as they age. I will walk past a man with his adult son, and the older man will be absolutely leering at me while the son continues conversation with his dad like a normal person. I had a guy comment about me today to his teenage sons and it completely went over their heads bc perving on a random woman wasn't relevant to what they were doing/talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:39 AM
1

This is sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:08 PM
11

Oh my god this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:52 PM
119

I've done this most of my life. The more conventionally attractive and expectant I perceive them to be (that hopefully I'll meet their gaze) I absolutely refuse to even see them. Like a shirtless buff dude. Or a dude who is reving his engine or something. A loud cocky guy. I absolutely don't see him. This has worked well for me only in the satisfaction I get from it. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:48 PM
15

This is how I feel... I guess there is a chance the ex wife was an addict or something which led to divorce or maybe he's a widow lol... but usually I think divorce is a woman getting sick of a man's low value behavior. Also these men already have families. Most do not want another family. They want a therapist bangmaid who "doesn't want their money".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:56 AM
59

Your best option is to get not just a formal education, but also gain life skills and solidify your base of support so you're not easy pickings for the legion of predators trying to make you feel guilty for not giving a deserving penis a warm home. This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:45 AM
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I was definitely not picky. I saw one good trait, fell in love with that and their "potential", and suddenly a butt fucking incel could be an Adonis to me. You just described me. And I could have been as been as picky as I wanted. Guess what happens when you date clearly below you? Men harrass and shame you for dating below you. They ask why are you with that loser? Yet we are brainwashed to date losers or we are a "bitch", "gold digger", "only like big dicks", "shallow"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:12 AM
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Yes it's absolutely ridiculous that we have to protect our reputation in the professional world yet a man won't lose his job for looking at thirst trap images. Even on the job. Like I think technically it's not allowed but it's most definitely allowed. I had an ex whose boss browsed LinkedIn profiles all day just to perv on women working under him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:46 AM
5

Maybe you can simply ask him to take you on dates/buy gifts/celebrate holidays/increase the romance? Maybe he will step up to what you need. You seem to have a good partnership. Your views have changed. Maybe he will appreciate the change since he naturally was generous toward you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:48 AM
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The only thing dating multiple men did for me was get me into dangerous and regrettable situations with men who didn't deserve a second of my time. Increasing the quantity of men you date will not increase the number of quality men that exist. It's pointless to increase the number because you will just date more terrible men. You're 100% right to level up before you even start looking. I did not do that. As long as you are vulnerable you will let bad men into your life. You will be manipulated. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:29 AM
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I'm just amazed at how vulnerable we are to predators the moment we let our guard down or before we realize we've been brainwashed into an vulnerable state. And these "predators" are abundant to say the least. It's like we are literally looking for the bare minimum of not being preyed upon. That's a hvm lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:09 AM
42

Thanks for this post! This is something we all need to internalize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:49 AM
7

True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:33 PM
77

I feel lighter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:58 AM
3

I've experienced the other kind of porn addicts in my actual relationships- never want sex bc they prefer their hand. "It's easier". They also are very boring in bed, because again they prefer porn. Sex is a chore to this kind. Edit: unless they're cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:12 AM
14

that has always made me so mad. It’s sad that he’ll pay other women for sex work, but let me guess - he didn’t spend any money on you during the relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:39 AM
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All of mine were pity relationships now that I think about it. And I have always dated waaaaaay below me. Not just kind of. Like way below me. I was extremely manipulated into each one of them. Ooh my goddd. I wish I had had some sort of guidance from fds minded women. My self esteem seriously declined with each relationship. I'm on my way back up thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:39 AM
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Yeeeeeesssssssss. They can learn to mimic other men with the superficial stuff. But doing the bare minimum of dating activities also ends once he gets bored again. He will try to get you to expect less and less from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:31 AM
9

Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:42 PM
14

Yeah I had to learn through very detrimental to myself experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:33 PM
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They do this when they have absolutely no plans in changing their behavior. Their hope is you will give up and the issue at hand goes undiscussed. Forever. They hope they will get away with this and quite frankly, if they don't get away with it, almost never will they step up lol. It's the end of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:34 PM
109

Millions of years. No wonder they literally all do it. Let me know if any of you meet one who doesn't. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:18 AM
60

This is actually so true. You place yourself at risk for disease and poverty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:04 PM
68

Yes it is a dangerous addiction. Very well written post. Why do they take us for granted is what I don't get. Why are they so selfish, entitled, and grandiose? Why do we accept so little and they expect so much. I heard a song on the radio and the guys like.. talking about how he gave her everything and she gave him nothing. Um no. She gave you herself. It's so hard for men to find women and they don't value the ones they "get".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:46 AM
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I haven't dated since I lost literally 99.9% of my attraction to men and my pickmeness. So my experience might change now that I actually expect certain treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:21 AM
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Maybe it's the way you're dating. You agree to the date too early maybe? I usually make men wait an extremely long time mainly bc I really have almost no Interest in meeting them. Even when I AM dating lol. PS. You were/are/always will be too beautiful for them I promise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:16 AM
3

Yes this is exactly what it is. You feel guilty and they exploit what they see as your naivety. I'm working on this too. A lot of us are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:11 AM
3

Guys always ask me if they can take me out to dinner. That means they are paying. I assume. Since I've never had someone want to split the bill. And I most certainly never offered. I only offer when I'm trying to make a clear distinction that it's NOT a date and usually these men are offended and kind of embarrassed to let me pay my own anyway. I really think if a man doesn't want to pay that says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:09 AM
27

That's the average man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:36 PM
74

Thank you for this comment. I used to think this way like it was common sense and I've become so brainwashed over the years that I started believing I'd have to accept less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:32 AM
6

Exactly this and never ever forget it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:21 AM
43

Men are what have made dicks undesirable to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:31 AM
3

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:27 AM
25

Also everyone posting their Valentine's Day on here was actually my best Valentine's Day ever. Seeing other women treat themselves on Reddit. I am thankful for it! it only reflects on the LVM I've dated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:49 AM
97

We legitimately all should wear them if we so please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:44 PM
37

I feel this subreddit is very grounding. Things get messy, and we have a way to course correct by referring back here for support vs absorbing the damaging gaslighting of pickmeishas and men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:39 AM
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The last guy I pickme'd for was the literal most pathetic thing I've done. Now I have no idea why I even interacted with him. I literally want to vomit at the thought of him. It's like I had drunk goggles on for him. I'm so glaaaad he was so flakey. I think I am evolved from extreme pickme behavior though after this incident. So maybe consider this the experience that makes you grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:50 AM
56

This is what they mean by "BaNtEr". I notice the same thing. The more you joke about basically rejecting them the more intrigued they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:24 PM
81

I've decided I'm done apologizing to men. I have already found the same exact thing. Apologies to them are leverage. That's all it is to them. Despite knowing this I still apologize sometimes and the results are always the same. I'm done apologizing to men. For anything. Ever. It's unlikely they will ever deserve one from me anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:09 PM
7

He probably hired the nanny and maid and carefully selected them in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:31 PM
80

If we are supposed to WooRRkK while raising our children, what is the point in having a man around? Like don't they realize that makes them useless. We stay and raise our children with the man bc he provides the environment to do so. I don't understand the confusion here. Why the resentment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:09 AM
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To me this proves she never gave a shit about his success in terms of WhAt sHe CoULd UuUusE hiIM FOR and most certainly was not a gold digger. She was just raising her family. He however is the judgmental unhappy greedy one. He should be grateful someone agreed to birth his children and then raise them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:18 AM
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Why are they so obsessed with women "working" anyway. Like do they not know their role. Why the f**** don't they understand how nature works. I'm sick of this bs. 50/50 is a scam and I'm so sick of this crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:10 AM
23

Most likely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:22 PM
16

Yes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:40 AM
16

I do think you articulated it well in your post. But when you're feeling insecure maybe shift your perspective to how he benefits from you. You know what you have to offer. You worry you come off as bragging by sharing factual information about yourself. I completely get this because I am the same way. I guess the first step may be to quit worrying about being perceived in a "pleasant" way. If you're habitually downplaying what you offer in your own mind, you are more likely to accept way less i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:36 AM
19

They also don't fear impregnating women or catching STDs. They literally have no fears. Other than being caught or "used" aka reciprocating in some way in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:15 AM
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Regarding your income, that is your independence. That saves you from emotional choices made from desperation or weakness. That's not something you need to worry if it is "good enough" for a man. That's something a man might be looking to benefit from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:01 AM
107

I definitely am being seen as a "bitch" lately around men and it's hard to adjust from my past people pleaser "nice girl" ways. But... Nice for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:15 AM
23

They have no idea. None. They're absolutely delusional about it. They think you have a big head for being well aware of reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:44 AM
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You could find younger guys for that too if you wanted to. Also there's no shortage of gold digging young men either. Finding a loving relationship is the struggle for every women on earth bc men don't want those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:49 PM
319

I successfully manipulated nudes out of my 35(f)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:41 PM
11

If you dislike another woman for her manipulative, boundary overstepping, or otherwise horrible behavior toward YOU- jealousy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:46 PM
29

Wow I just saw the absolute must horrible ad that actually blew my mind and it was right above this post. I was floored that it wasn't a post in FDS about the ad, but an actual ad. The ad was for onlyfans. The woman says she was super pissed and confronted her husband about onlyfans and it "did not go how she expected". It then shows her confronting him while he's on his laptop on onlyfans and he's like "onlyfans has lots content that is not adult content" all matter of factly. "REALLY?" (Wife i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:16 AM
37

Also EVERYTHING is written off as "jealousy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:06 PM
36

Women need to protect other women because men, "the protectors", sure as hell won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:04 PM
122

Yeah but it's always a big warm body that betrays you and constantly fantasizes about literally any other warm body with a vagina. I swear it's all so one sided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:48 AM
87

Attract more men and you sift through more men. You have the pick of the litter and you come to realize none of them are worth "picking". Men absolutely never will understand how many other men you turn down every second you spend with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:32 AM
21

I definitely am feeling this right now. Very disappointed in myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:21 PM
89

They do. Their audacity. It never expires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:22 AM
4

In a spray bottle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:02 AM
26

I was realizing this today. It WILL catch up. You will lose your confidence in yourself. It is inevitable. That person does not align with you and the you that you have created and want to maintain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:18 AM
37

This is why I don't give a fuck anymore how I'm perceived by anyone in a guy's circle or anywhere. It's my standards and boundaries not the gaslighting world's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:50 PM
79

They're trying to figure out what it is that you picked up on/caught/saw/heard and YOU must spell it out so that he can then zone in on the topic (while avoiding accountability in any way possible) and distract you from the other possible millions of offenses, thereby continuing to get away with them due to ignorance. So many variables and possibilities and loopholes that you did not specifically address! Gasp, however was he to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:33 AM
1

How is this actually the bullshit we put up with. And we are so used to it yet still adversely effected by it everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:43 AM
3

Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:39 AM
233

They want kids and forever access to you without ever having to become better than what they are which is trash. In fact, conveniently they can become even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:36 AM
30

I know exactly where you're coming from. I am still recovering from my dark times where I decided to quit listening to myself and listen to the bs about how I'm too this or that and basically degraded myself and lowered my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:51 AM
47

You can be a 10/10 to the vast majority of men and still get rejected by your long term boyfriend. Once they've conquered you, they want to conquer the next. If they can't blame your looks, they will relish in signs you've aged, or they will attack your intelligence, what you bring financially to the table, your competence as a mother or potential mother, or your character, and they will use your good looks against you. Glowing up protects you. And we should always be glowing up in some way. Aka…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:20 AM
42

Communication is literally the worst advice they give women. Communicate in your actions. That's absolutely it. Either respect me or get out. The less words the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:22 PM
55

I'm doing better in this department as well. Instead of basically begging for a change in behavior I just drop them. I let them know my boundaries and then I go about my day. I am still a huge work in progress but considering where I came from it is so so so so so satisfying to compose myself and behave in a way that respects myself. The key is to be always willing to give up everything about that person at a moment's notice basically. Completely opposite from my previous extreme attachments tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:18 PM
24

Inconsistency just turns into consistent inconsistency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:11 AM
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Aka a lot of them..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:16 PM
56

I had that loyalty thing too. Loyal to another person while betraying yourself everyday. It's not the way lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:29 PM
120

Currently my goal is to never have anything substantial invested in a man or relationship, only in myself, regardless of if I'm seeing a man or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:19 AM
12

Literally means their dick is in their hand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:57 AM
12

If a guy considers you his dream girl he will consider you his dream girl as long as he doesn't have you. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:59 AM
6

The silent treatment is blocking communication, refusing to discuss issues, so that eventually their own wrongdoings are whitewashed and the other person caves just to have the "relationship" back. -while never being allowed to address the issue if they want that person to acknowledge them. If it is brought up again, the silent treatment is resumed. It's an intense control tactic. The person administering a silent treatment does. Not. Want. To (and will not) discuss issues and come to resolution…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:19 AM
28

A perfect sex doll who does all this, PLUS remains faithful, while allowing of his porn use/cheating/pursuits of other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:11 AM
12

Yes I've come to the same conclusion. The moment you give yourself to a man fully is the moment he needs something else to pursue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:39 PM
10

He probably IS excitedly planning lunch bc she is paying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:17 AM
13

He is absolutely not into her. It does not matter how reserved a guy is. With that much of an opening for him to make a move, he would have a looooooong time ago. As soon as he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:59 PM
11

I knooow. Your confidence has to come from them and their highly coveted opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:13 AM
2

I've made plenty of mistakes with "casual" bs too. Should really just be happy we made it out and forgive ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:40 PM
3

My chaotic stage of talking to and sometimes dating all kinds of guys makes me actually cringe looking back. But it may have been necessary for me to learn just how much I'd rather focus on me than get caught up in a whirlwind of lvm bs. Idk how I entertained any of them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:44 AM
30

I got gaslighted my whole life by men. I wish fds was around when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:06 PM
12

Laaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:09 PM
25

Had a similar experience with a guy who was extreeeemely jealous that his dog liked me. So incredibly weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:59 AM
35

Animals die down there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:54 AM
99

why can’t you understand that knowing, enjoying, intimate parts of someone’s body, that they don’t share with everyone is sacred? I've wondered this a lot. The question speaks volumes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:06 AM
49

Same. They do not give any shits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:27 AM
61

You are right that it means he just doesn't care. The same man will behave entirely differently when he does care. Suddenly he doesn't have an avoidant attachment style. It's that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:28 AM
266

I personally don't think he had any shame about it. He prefers porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:23 PM
110

I'm sure his mom was in major denial just to feel better about cleaning the cum stains without confronting the reality of the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:35 AM
20

Yes. I learned this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:25 AM
4

Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:25 PM
80

It's "not all men" when it's something already illegal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:43 PM
12

😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:13 PM
44

I suspect he is "unenthusiastic" because he already masturbated lol. And he's pretending to even complete one week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:07 PM
16

Yeah it definitely still happens but there is way less of a male gaze when you are in the presence of a man. What you're describing in the second situation sort of sounds like he was was trying to negotiate a price or something lol... Like they were discussing a race horse and seeing if he was willing to sell. Well, anyways... Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:38 AM
119

Yes, like they will oggle women in front of their gf with zero consideration of her feelings(boundaries) but won't oggle another man's "property" in front of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:17 PM
15

Not drinking alcohol offends so many people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:02 AM
6

There already is a next girl. Guys pretend to pull back into themselves but they are absolutely always pursuing someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:21 AM
14

The funny part is them thinking we are miserable. When we find and assert our boundaries we gain confidence and freedom, clarity, and disappointment in how the world works. Not misery. Misery was being walked on. I still have an ex's words of "stupid" rolling around in my head but truly the only stupid people are the ones who can't acknowledge other's intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:00 PM
12

I'm embarrassed by some of the completely inappopriate behavior I have put up with from men. This guy is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:55 PM
27

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:03 AM
53

They feel emasculated plain and simple. They can't extract any sort of flirtation which would make them feel powerful aka superior. If she's strictly professional and they are forced to work alongside her as an equal, where is the fun in that? Women are meant to provide fun and stroke their egos. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:11 AM
18

The key here is self interest. We are sooo programmed to sacrifice ourselves. Self interest self interest self interest. Attach to ourselves and not the outcome of a man's whims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:01 PM
32

You're seen as dressing sexy even when wearing literally what anyone else is wearing simply because your body "provokes" them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:45 PM
19

All of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:43 PM
74

They pretend to respect you until they either achieve sex or feel rejected
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:39 PM
38

She's telling us to behave like a "lady" toward men who don't treat us like ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:53 AM
4

i love to hear from a woman about what is typically a "man's" field of knowledge. It's one less man to depend on in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:41 AM
17

I had an ex who would get upset if someone called me funny because I "don't have a sense of humor and I'm not funny." He also would forcibly pull me so close to him in line at the grocery store to be out of the way of others that I'd be standing on top of his toes. I apparently didn't deserve to take up my own space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:16 AM
2

Same...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:39 AM
5

I've also become rather disgusted by male attention by this age. I haven't lost any "attractiveness" yet.. people think I'm early 20s or even younger (therefore can't be used as an excuse for why male attention disgusts me now past 30). Literally had a guy asked if I'm a cheerleader in his attempt to hit on me. A balding guy who was probably mid 40s. Cheerleader..? Like he thought he was hitting on a teenage girl and I was way closer to his age than that and still disgusted. Anyway. Living life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:40 AM
21

I remember stumbling across this sub maybe a year and a half ago and thought it was a bit much, but also did not stick around long enough to really understand what it was about. I instead favored an extreme pickmeisha approach to attempt to salvage a very abusive situation. As you can imagine, the abuse and disrespect only got worse as I became even more of a doormat. After moving on from that, I put myself out there and attempted to date several men, most of which were from the wonderful world …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:51 AM
11

Sex hooks women emotionally. A lvm "scoring" sex with a higher value woman gets his foot in the door. Ideally he can impregnate her and he can continue his lvm lifestyle while producing offspring and doing basically nothing but seeking new partners to do the same. A higher value woman who seeks a casual relationship with him is actually coming from a state of weakness in my opinion and therefore exploited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:50 AM
15

Literally they all do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:37 AM
36

Men are the ultimate gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:32 PM
19

The ice/snow storm has affected my mental health as well. Seems like there is event after event that leads to isolation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:08 PM
65

"I think its socially engrained in women to be pleasers and for someone who is new to FDS, it feels “wrong” or counterintuitive to “take advantage” of a man without giving him anything sexual in return"' Isn't that sad? I've definitely betrayed myself due to this conditioning. It took me a while to realize what was happening. It's something I still struggle with, but have also gotten better and learned better boundaries. I still make mistakes and it sucks. I think being single and dating creates…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:02 AM
8

I've come to this conclusion as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:34 AM
17

So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:59 AM
31

I love the OLD profiles that say "must have a sense of humor". Huge. Red. Flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:57 AM
8

Yes, that's true I just take them personally, but I realize it helps overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:27 AM
59

I hate these graphics. Because sometimes the victim of gaslighting is saying a lot of these things to the gaslighter. The gaslighter IS twisting the truth. Telling you you did or said things you never and would never say or do. Saying they said things they never said. The gaslighter is rewriting history. I'm literally getting a major stress response just trying to go through this list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:48 AM
4

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:12 AM
54

I think he asks for consent because he's aware that there are legal repercussions tied directly to him if he doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:27 AM
34

I have similar long time "friendships". I barely ever catch up with any of them but they apparently always bring me up in conversation to this day and basically passive aggressively believe I'm in love with one of them. Absolutely delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:02 PM
2

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:19 AM
2

Wish I could upvote more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:08 AM
65

I had an ex start to resent me because his boss was married to a rich woman. Also realized an ex liked me largely for my earning potential. Women are not the only ones who consider how a potential match affects our livelihood. We are just heavily brain washed to go against our instincts because it benefits more men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:28 AM
6

That's actually so insane to imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:54 AM
25

Mmmhmm lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:25 PM
99

I accidently swipe left on potential rights all the time bc I'm so used to swiping left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:55 PM
214

So. Ac. Cur. Ate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:36 PM
67

Lmaooo. "I was with...someone...who was buying all of the household items including my hygiene supplies, while I followed her around. so I couldn't say hi. Tell me what I was wearing if this was you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:45 PM
8

Wow didn't realize this was so common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:33 PM
121

It's worse. They expect sex because you spoke to them for 5 seconds or more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:21 PM
34

This is sad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:17 PM
71

"I'd still be making myself vulnerable to both physical and mental harm. It's just not worth it." It's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:50 AM
49

Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:29 AM
25

She could really be a catfish/bot though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:57 PM
41

Also something I've noticed. Men will not respect their gf/wife when it comes to checking other women out in front of her. But a man is careful not to check out another man's gf/wife in front of him. Men only respond to what they see as physical/social threats aka other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:19 PM
20

That baby does not have a father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:57 PM
384

By a man her own age even lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:15 PM
5

This is so. Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:25 AM
35

I love how in this sub it is acknowledged that men play dumb. I see naive women everywhere saying "Men really dont know they're doing anything wrong usually!! ComMunIcAte more!" It's gaslighting..they know what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:50 AM
25

That is perfect...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:33 AM
33

I thought this too. When I was younger I used to be perpetually blown away by the ages of famous actresses. The rapid onset of aging by 30 is a huge myth perpetuated by "the wall" more than anything. If I'd known how uneventful transitioning into your 30s was in terms of physical aging I would have had so much less anxiety in my 20s constantly feeling like I was losing my youth even on my 22nd birthday. I genuinely felt sorrowful. Now I am more concerned with my actual life and the shortness of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:45 AM
11

I agree with your assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:27 AM
11

This. This this this this. This. Thiiiiiiiiisssssssssssssssssssssssssssss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:45 AM
9

I've had more than one man straight up take unimportant/bickering phone calls from their ex wives while on "dates".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:29 PM
22

Ok furthermore they make up excuses regarding the kids to last minute ditch you. They straight up use the kids and lie as to why they were late etc. Stuff that just doesn't even add up. And they use you as a therapist for dealing with their ex wife and the new guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:54 PM
27

PS they have the nerve to still play the field after they think they've secured you as a bang maid. Men always. Always. Absolutely always. Have time for their dicks. So they should have time for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:42 PM
37

Dating is synonymous with sex. Didn't you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:35 PM
56

Yes. They use the kids as an excuse to put a woman he is seeing on the literal bottom of his priorities. There's a difference between family first and an excuse. Furthermore from my experience it's also ONLY their family first. Yours is irrelevant. Your responsibilities are irrelevant and should revolve around his kid schedule and you should be on call for the moments you can fulfill his um, "needs". All of his resources go to his kids. You're literally a bang maid. If the ex wife has a new high…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:23 PM
41

They really do think this. They love to show off every aspect of their single dadding. They can't make a single post without mentioning being a single dad even if it's hardly relevant to the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:17 PM
29

My last two Valentine's days were so beyond embarrassingly bad. This one's my best ever and it's just like yours lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:05 PM
4

The scene in the rain at the ball I was cringing. I was like that does not work irl girl -begging a man to love you back. And we were supposed to be marveling at her in awe at her pickme speech lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:13 PM
11

I'm just shocked that he acknowledged he's not immortal and forever ageless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:12 AM
32

Beautiful. So thoughtful. Thank you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:58 AM
112

Her mom said that it's her belief that reformed rakes make the best husbands. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:57 AM
7

I'm actually so glad to be single this year. I don't have a sinking feeling in my heart on Valentine's day because of a lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:15 AM
21

Exactly same experience here. Can't say this enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:02 AM
36

"and my diaper wouldn't be changed without her. I love you Mom"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:27 AM
23

Oh my God. You're not even wrong bout the catfish bot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:29 AM
13

Happy Valentine's day 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:26 AM
59

I looooooove seeing their fake ass super sugary sweet pick-up line directly juxtaposed to "bitch" a few lines later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:43 AM
87

Have you ever noticed that guys will tell you "oh that's a well known trick that crappy guys use. I have friends like that. I'm not like that though." And they end up being "like that".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:34 AM
24

The last guy I dated I "felt excited and hopeful for once" as well. I was like omg maybe I've just been sooo jaded. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:21 AM
219

Something I absolutely loathe about men is how their dumbass good morning and good night texts directly reflect the status/health of your relationship on any given day. I literally gag on all gm and gn texts now. I'm just like. Oh hey. Midday. I'm sick of being hostage to gm/gn texts. Its all so silly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:31 AM
29

Or a broke guy a chance. He will think you're unable to attract a "richer guy". Which simply is the furthest thing from the truth. Being humble about resources only bites us in the ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:57 PM
17

And they do give women they're not attracted to "a chance". To be a filler while they continue to harrass targets who don't want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:54 PM
19

A lot of them out themselves early this way. There is absolutely no reason to rush and meet any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:04 AM
92

I'm hotter too somehow and I always took care of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:16 AM
14

This gave me chills. I had to figure this out on my own. This lady's mom was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:49 AM
129

What's amazing is how they think things should start off with sex and then maybe they will like us enough to call us a girlfriend (not). Like I'm literally gagging as I type this. That is the scam. And it doesn't even make sense. It's like reading backwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:37 AM
31

Same here. I end up avoiding the stores, finding new locations, using different entrances or exits, or working out times when there might be different employees. Which is pathetic on my end but reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:04 AM
10

Lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:53 AM
140

I always hate being a regular anywhere because there's always a bunch of men working that basically are competing to interact with their repeat crush of a customer. Then they start asking all kinds of personal questions like about your job etc. And making sure you know this is just their "side job". It's like excuse me I'm buying groceries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:28 AM
68

A lot of them think not having their relationship listed on their fb somehow yet being tagged by an entire girlfriend that they just bought a house with.. 50/50 will go undiscovered. They majorly underestimate women. This is why I never understand why they adamently want to add us to FB in the beginning, then are blown away when we notice shady stuff once the relationship is underway. We. Have. Brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:46 PM
13

Another common thing men tend to do regarding our hobbies/jobs/entire existence is they think it's somehow "stress free". Like okay. Why do they always think they somehow have a bigger plate than everyone else. They literally always have time to juggle women. Edit: ty for sharing your good experiences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:54 PM
94

Kind of like how it's men's immediate reaction to tell you you're hotter than your friend or sister when you first show them a picture of you involving other women. Some guys will even go so far as to say horrible things about their looks or personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:05 PM
95

He would be saying that for an entire relationshit too. "I don't know why I still associate with you but I do." "I don't know why I kind of miss you but I do."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:56 PM
1

This is why casual sex is not even a thing. Every man you have sex with, you are selecting to father your children. birth control is one if the only reasons we are so far removed from reality but birth control is not entirely effective. Also, the act of sex still pair bonds us regardless, which leads to wasting a lot of our time on fruitless relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:56 AM
59

I know? This reflects my inner voice/private thoughts that have rarely been shared in my life. And there's so much more to share still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:37 AM
330

I think about how backwards it is that pictures can ruin our careers. And that men understand the power they hold with those pictures. I don't even want to talk about pictures. But yes, our reputation. Our entire society has the madonna whore complex. Either you're a career woman or a whore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:16 AM
39

Lol I thought the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:45 AM
38

I don't want to be exploited anymore. All I've ever wanted and also projected onto the men I was with was basic integrity. That's as low as the bar goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:47 PM
193

This is exactly how I feel! They always say they want a woman who doesn't know she's beautiful but is drop dead gorgeous and I'm like trust me if shes exceptionally beautiful to your standards then she already knows. This upsets them so much. Because they basically want someone who doesn't know their marketability to other men but also is way beyond attractive. They don't want to earn her and continue to earn her, which pretty much just means respecting her. Also they love to treat us with disgu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:23 AM
40

They brush it off as oh so you don't like "masculine men"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:47 PM
15

So I personally got to this point by leaving abusive relationships. And breaking my heart to leave the last one in favor of myself. Then I tried dating a lot of men, don't put up with their crap anymore, drop them way quicker and easier. Am amazed how exactly the same they all are. They secure a woman and immediately go back on the prowl (behind your back) and the pursuit is over. Also the gaslighting. Especially the gaslighting I recognize it for what it is now. The difference is that before I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:37 PM
59

To me it's like we've gathered enough experience to realize for ourselves that it's bs. And yes it's liberating. Im having a hard time figuring out why I'd want to give away this feeling of freedom again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:21 PM
8

This...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:19 PM
6

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:57 PM
3

I mean he did use the opportunity to hit on me afterward. I only accepted him bc he was a friend of a friend. That is so lame and prideful to pretend it was an accident. There are dudes that say they accidently super swiped me on tinder sometimes (which I've stopped using). I don't for one second believe that. You can actually undo super swipes im pretty sure too. And if they never brought it up I literally never notice the super swipes. How is sloppiness attractive anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:54 PM
3

Omg had friend of a friend use the accident line and until now I actually didn't think anything of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:51 AM
33

Sadly this is what older guys tell her in the grooming process and she just regurgitated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:13 AM
11

Omg I was just about to say this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:08 AM
7

Exactly... My relationships truly held me back. They kept me emotionally and physically drained. They took some major blows to my self esteem. They cost me so much more than I ever gained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:47 AM
23

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:21 PM
41

Completely true. That it's enforced by the woman.. even with seemingly "good" men. If a man is just friends with a woman it's because she won't have sex with him. A woman however is just friends with a man because again, she won't have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:20 PM
117

I think in your 20s you can believe the delusion that men are friends. But the more experience you have with them eventually you will learn that none of them are. Not a single one. So with the understanding that they have a repressed desire to fuck you, you can be friends with them. Eventually they will start to resent you for never fucking them in all these years. I'm sorry to hear about the assault. It's best to start believing that it will happen you. Unfortunately for me that came with more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:03 PM
2

Thanks for sharing your slipup. I'm cringing remembering my recent slipups too and I had started out so "high value" when the bullshit started. The mistake I made was not following through with my clean break after the yellow/orange flags, which led me to a place of weakness. But trust me once you cut off the communication again and process it some you will feel better each passing day that you did salvage your dignity. What I have learned prior to this sub and am now seeing in this thread other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:48 PM
27

Or devaluing and then breadcrumbing. The whole goal is to setup a friend with benefits situation with someone susceptible. Lovebomb, get her sexually bonded/addicted, then tell her she's defective as a human being and oops he had overlooked that but why not remain friends aka downgrade her to harem member, feed her breadcrumbs and overstep all her boundaries to make sure she's still on the hook. He won't directly ask for benefits- he'll try to trick her into thinking it's her idea. He wants her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:43 AM
25

There is a huge difference in their physical fitness vs a younger womans. They become physically weaker with age. They have labored breathing. They make jokes about Viagra. You can literally feel their age. They absolutely are not nearly as marketable to young women as they think they are. Also a lot of them think that their ED will be cured by a young woman. If they're lucky enough to get in bed with one they soon realize they still have ED so it's better that they never have that opportunity f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:36 AM
9

Also he will pursue the fuck out of a woman (women), she will finally agree to date him, then she will suddenly be a gold digger. Men forget that they pursued us half the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:45 AM
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Definitely not alone. We make love. At least I do. Whether it's early or late in the relationship. We give a huge part of ourself for every man we let into our body and he literally gives us a small part of himself- whatever is left in his balls at the moment. And the only criteria we had to meet for him is that we actually agreed to have sex him. Whereas even if we choose a lvm, we picked him. We make an investment by making a choice. We have a finite number of eggs. He has infinite sperm. Ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:35 PM
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What's worse though is that he will hoard all the "defective" vacuums. Never know when the current one will "break" right. Can always use a backup while he looks for a replacement. Sometimes he'll see an upgraded version of one he shelved out and about and on the market. By then it's out of his price range, lol. But it sure looks shiny compared to his most recent purchase. Be the ungettable vaccuum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:16 PM
120

Something I finally have come to realize is that they are straight up jealous and threatened by our general SMV compared to theirs. Men loooOOooOooove me initially because I'm sooOooOOoo hot. Then they start telling me I think I'm "perfect" and all I have are my looks, when I won't take accountability for things that are THEIRS to be accountability for. Once they start to despise me for having boundaries and not allowing myself to be gaslighted, well at the end of the day, I'm still "hot" (now s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:31 AM
65

Exactly.. I feel like when they pry in the first place, they are actually just vetting you for your past weaknesses- sometimes to exploit. They don't care about what you've overcome. They want to make sure you were never "defective" in any way in the first place. They want to know "everything" and then they see you as weak or having an "easy" life somehow aka completely dismissing everything you went through, while expecting you to "get them" based on their past experiences that excuse their cur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:10 AM
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