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| 3 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itI was diagnosed with ADHD very early in my childhood and despite my mother knowing about it, she never bothered to even look it up or inform any of my teachers (or even me) about this illness that affected so many parts of my life. I have no explanation why but it feels like ADHD in girls/ women are very dismissed or even outright punished while boys/men get special treatment and getting constantly sympathy by everyone around. I’ve been called lazy, annoying or even outright stupid for the entir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 23 | This website has been a lifesaver with pre-screening men.I had that once too. Guy said he was in his late 20s... turns out he was 35. Since he was Asian, I wasn’t able to directly see his age. Still haunts me till today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 01:06 AM |
| 3 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantI inspire to do the same! Mine give me so much back pain and make me feel weird, so breast reduction would be the only surgery I’ll ever do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:21 PM |
| 6 | Nothing but truth was spoken.I’m not sure if it was mention already but she also made a photo series and apparently OF content of her being “kidnapped” while looking again like a younger girl (baby blue dress etc), being in ropes in a car and then getting “r*ped” in a forest. It’s so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:35 AM |
| 77 | Guy records a disturbing, upsetting conversation between him and his exasperated mother after she finds a tiger plushie he modified with a fleshlight. He refuses to go on family trip unless he can bring it with him.I speak German and I think the translation can’t convey the absolute heartbreak and terror in her words... it’s actually even worse. I feel so bad for her... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Dating in the 21st century. Funniest roast of men I've ever seen. Her twitter is yellowspoongirlGod so true. I also had this one guy who was bragging how great in bed he is and how much he knows about female anatomy bla bla. Had sex with him and it was the most boring thing ever, barely average. At some times I wasn’t even able to feel anything lmao. They’re definitely noisy when they know there’s nothing behind their words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:23 PM |
| 7 | Mothers have higher expectations from kids? Probably not discussion - but I'm torn and I trust you ladies.I agree that it’s important to be more open to your daughters and explain the struggles and feelings you have because if you always present yourself as a supermom who seems to be able to do everything effortless, your children will get the impression that it isn’t as difficult as it seems. I’m the only daughter and oldest child of my mother and it took me moving out the country and living on my own to fully realise the sacrifices my mother made for me to have a better life. I didn’t knew much ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:34 PM |
| 80 | REPOST: Marriage is a scam for women in the USAgree. Living in japan and I hear how it’s expected of women to give up their careers and previous life when getting marry and getting children, not even mention the stigma and huge disadvantage in the job market when you’re a mom. Who even wants to sign up for that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:54 PM |
| 2 | If a man says he can't think of you sexually because he respects you too much, RUN!🚩🚩🚩🚩May I add. If a men is also saying that he treats you in a special way like he never treats any other women as soon as he does something “nice” (bare minimum), run as well 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:44 PM |
| 34 | Men thinking we don’t like s*x because we didn’t had “good one yet”I’m not sure if that it the case but if my post offended you, I want to apologise for it. I don’t think it’s wrong if women like sex and I’m happy for those who do. I just personally don’t enjoy it and I get tired of hearing that something must be wrong with me or “I didn’t met the right one” when I simply have no desire to have sex. If anything, it’s just upsetting that women get shamed for not liking sex but also for liking it. It’s like men can’t pick a side | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 01:52 PM |
| 3 | You don't owe anyone a chance. You can end an interaction/relationship WITHOUT having to justify your decision.I agree. It sometimes hurt a lot when you remember the good conversations and moments you shared with the person but if anything I learned that if a person shows you they don’t respect you, the won’t in the future. Blocking and moving one is the right way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:29 AM |
| 24 | Asian Standard for men vs. Western Standard in movies and TV.I agree. I find Asian men more attractive for the reason that they’re take more care of themselves, better sense of fashion and also for their more “shy” personality. Of course there’re bad cases as well but living in an Asian country confirmed for me that a majority of western men are absolutely hideous in my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 16 | What happens when I'm both?Late 20s. It’s pretty obvious that drinking every night and only eating fast food doesn’t age you well. Then I also have this one 40 year old guy who looks already like 50+, tries to flirt with teachers and wasted over 15.000 USD on sex workers 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:12 PM |
| 18 | What happens when I'm both?Right? It’s just hilarious and honestly I’m glad we still have to wear masks because otherwise they would see my grin whenever they start to cry about all their “hardships”. Funnily it’s only those guys who drink and smoke all the time, balding and ugly, eating junk and constantly being late to classes 💁♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 36 | What happens when I'm both?The funniest about this is the fact that a lot of Asian women aren’t like this at all and only pretend as long as they want to. As someone who lives in japan right now and has to listen to my daily dose of whining western classmates, it’s hilarious how quickly their bubble pops when they figure out that most of them have no interest in being “submissive” if you don’t have anything to offer. A lot also complained that they felt “used” because apparently they were only interested in getting the “f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 04:55 PM |
| 24 | 🥴🥴I had a guy (at least 40+) apparently following me to lingerie store, waiting outside for me and then “catch up” once again to tell me how pretty I am and that he just had to wait and get my number. He then asked my phone but I was so scared that I asked for his and typed in a fake number. The fact someone followed me without me knowing scared the shit out of me. I was 17 at that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:49 PM |
| 16 | Telling men nobody cares about their compliments.This one ^ I get this compliment so often from men that at this point I don’t even take it serious. Like, cmon, you talk to a girl for days and meet her but all you can say is that? I value personality compliments or archivement ones way more than something based on a body part 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:25 AM |
| 2 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansI’m 100% sure he will do that 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 14 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansI feel you. I used to do coffee and walk dates but at the end it always felt like a waste of time (consider how much I had to invest alone to get ready) and to be frankly, I did more of the talk than most guys did. Once I realised my standards, I had plenty of nice dinner dates and even trips paid but those where with men older than me (more than 5 years). Right now it seems like a waste of time for me to even agree on any dates again because either I’m not being taken serious (being a foreigner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 12 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansI think this was one of my first mistakes too besides giving him my line (Japanese WhatsApp). I won’t repeat the same mistakes again 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:12 PM |
| 29 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansExactly 🤦♀️ Already done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:25 PM |
| 57 | Guy trying to ‘change’ date plansI agreed, I learned this now as well and won’t mention it in the future again. Honestly I wonder if he did it because of low effort or because he thinks “foreigners” aren’t worth it 🤷♀️ (he’s Japanese) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:44 PM |
| 34 | This is why you have your own money on the side (link)I think one major issue guys don’t get is that most women don’t become like this over night and while a women can show less interest and affection, often it’s a product of many things. A good example is my mother. She certainly loves me stepfather besides many negative aspects but she often admits that he’s ridiculously boring as a person when it comes to routines. At some point she can’t be excited and show lots of affection because there’s no point to “praise” him showing the same interest for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:57 PM |
| 22 | Men Trying to Put You in a Position to ServeGod this annoys me soo much too because it seems almost unavoidable with most men nowadays. I can’t even understand how they carry this as some sort of “medal” aka. “Look I need a women so badly to cook and clean for me because I’m a total men child” One situation I had recently was being told that I’m mean for not wanting to give a guy a massage unless he’s my boyfriend. Even when they seem to understand, they will still nag you for it. “Why can’t you just give me a massage, I only want a massa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 04:50 PM |
| 8 | Guys would use my tip to make their dinner cheaperNormally it’s 10% here but most people don’t really make super sure to meet it so it’s something around 5-8%. It’s not necessary but you’re considered more polite to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 01:25 AM |
| 47 | Guys would use my tip to make their dinner cheaperGerman here too. Don’t do this 50/50 things, it’s awful and you deserve much better. If a guy really liked you, wants to be with you and impress you, he wouldn’t be fine with letting you pay. Instead dating guys that just show interest, wait maybe for someone who really wants to be with you. For me that worked the best in friendship circles where bunch of people get to know each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 01:21 AM |
| 43 | FACTS! This is why I will never subscribe to the Pickmeisha “Cool Girl” ideology. If standing up for myself and only accepting the best treatment makes me a nag, then so be it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Or also being told to “chill” and “just stop being so negative, enjoy life”. So sorry that I don’t want to have casual relationships and waste my time on guys who don’t have similar goals in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 08:31 AM |
| 8 | Piercings, tattoos and unnatural hair colorsIt’s so true and I noticed this a lot too. When I was more in my teenage years, up to 19 years old, I was regularly dying my hair, wear more alternative clothes and talk super different. After watching Shera and also wanting to be more girly (I’ve never been ever in my life before because I thought it would make me like the other girls) I changed my make-up routine, thrown out almost all clothes and kept my natural hair colour.. I started to curse less, speak more soft and keep my mouth shut and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 01:56 PM |
| 141 | Girls who are mature for their age...Besides that, you can’t even talk to them about anything. I dated two times (I know, stupid idea) a guy who’s as significant older than me and it’s literally impossible to have a normal conversation... either it goes into nothing because they can’t relate to you or you feel like some child who get lectured. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:08 AM |
| 44 | Queen wanted her manchild boyfriend to learn basic life skills before moving in together. He Got offended and ignored her while turning her friends against her. Finally reaches out, only to offer hiring a maid to his “half” of the chores.The worst about these parental agreement is the entitlement those guys have. I’ve grown up with two brothers and not only do they lack any special skill, they’re also super arrogant and expect you to clean after them or make dinner for them - I can’t even make this up. The older now married a pick me. I still have some hope left for my small brother but there’s just very little I can do as a sister since my mother won’t stop baby him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 07:23 AM |
| 30 | This bus is too loud! Wish I had understood this soonerAlso remember how a guy told me I would be very attractive in the country I wanted to move to (he comes from there) but tried to sabotage my weight that’s is a huge factor is attraction there. Now it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:16 AM |
| 1 | KYLIE JENNER IS A PICKMEI agree. I think at some point she does it at least for her daughter who seems like such a sweet and well educated child. I feel honestly sorry for Kylie because essentially she’s somehow trapped in a situation and changing her ways would risk her business because it won’t appeal a lot anymore. I’m also not a big fan of her mother.. she seems super narcissistic and calculated. Perhaps that’s also a reason why some of the family members take more distance than others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 04:06 PM |
| -2 | KYLIE JENNER IS A PICKMEThe cheating scandal is honestly not confirmed and there’s a lot of evidence also against it, especially from her alleged boyfriend at the time. I can’t link down every resource but you can find some on YT. Of course, that’s not fully confirmed but there’s a lot also that speak against it since this one girl seemed very badly to get some cloud and idolised Kylie Jenner as it seems (trying to look like her). Otherwise... well, I agree. There was an interview even where Kylie admitted that she see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:53 PM |
| 111 | Male friends? What are your thoughts/ experiences? + little storyI used to have tons of male friends back then and let me tell you... it’s not worth it because at the end they still will try to find a way to get into your pants. I had to learn the lesson the hard way and I’m still learning it until now. I genuinely believe it’s impossible to have a normal friendship with the majority of men. They will always try to sneak some romantic/ dating thing in, always test waters to see how far they can go and in worst case absolutely betray your trust. I had even a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Breaking off from pickme friendsThis sounds very thought and I can relate to your feelings. Honestly, those people sounds like they still wear some pink sunglasses and aren’t aware that acting like a teenager as an adult isn’t cute. I remember how I used to lie just to not end up being the “uncool” person whenever everyone went out drinking or partying. Of course it’s not advised to do so but if you prefer less conflict while silently drifting away, perhaps it’s also an option. Either way, thank you for sharing this with me! I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 13 | Breaking off from pickme friendsIndeed... for me it was more luck than anything else because I drastically changed my lifestyle and moved to a different country. I think once you break out of your old surrounding with your new mindset and goals, you will attract the right people. I wish you the best! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 05:38 AM |
| 34 | In a certain sub a female rape victim talks about vocally forgiving her rapistThis is beyond tragic... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 07:25 AM |
| 29 | Men's Reasons for Having ChildrenAgree. It makes me especially sad when you hear some of those men „begging“ to get a son and be visible disappointed when it’s a girl... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 09:56 PM |
| 6 | Asking to split the bill from tinderGerman here. It highly depends but let me say it’s considered rare for them to pay most (!) of the dates unless they’re much older (from the older generation where it was normal to do so) or when there’re turns in paying. In this Culture and my generation (I’m early 20) it’s considered normal to split 50/50, even so common that a men paying all the time is strange. If I can tell you one thing: I would rather stay away from German men unless you’re looking for an older one or can compromise. Othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:53 AM |
| 4 | Dating in Asia vs the westIndeed and generally I find this construct very confusing. What I also observed with Japanese men is the fact that they view cheating very different and label certain things as “non-cheating” that would be absolute dealbreakers for me. I believe it’s getting a little bit better with the new generation of men since they seem to actually care get to know someone. With everyone 30+ I’ve meet and dated, their only concern was that I want children and would marry and be pregnant in two years otherwis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 09:33 PM |
| 13 | Dating in Asia vs the westThis is so depressing to read, yet very accurate - especially the communication part. I also noticed how a lot of them (especially around 30) have only one goal in mind which is find a wife quick, have children and let her do all the housework. When I once mention to them that perhaps she would want to have a career at some point too or priorities university over kids in a relationship, a lot of them assumed I’m not “family minded” and gave me questions like “So you don’t want children” urgh. Ed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:25 PM |
| 5 | Are Asian men normally very distant?This is exactly what I feel about this one particular guy I’m currently dating. FDS wise he seems great and responsible but I can’t get along with this coldness. As you said: He is also very distant, he doesn’t express his feelings, he often seem to “flake” during conversations but then has those moments where he’s telling me “I’m his priority, he likes me a lot, he wants to spend a lot time with me etc”. Since all of this confuses me so much, I wondered if it was a part of the cultural differen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Have I finally been initiated into FDS? MGTOW tried to engage, I parry and block.Lmao he once messaged me too regarding a comment I left in a post. Talking to him is pointless because he will absolutely ignore whatever you say until it slightly may agree to something he thinks (in my case: Oh she might have debt from studying medicine??) and when I said I’ll stop engaging with him (and did so), he tried to provoke me again by stating that no one will date a girl with debt and pay it off... when this basically was never said or even implied ANYWHERE. Just keep ignoring him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:19 PM |
| 6 | Why do women believe they should hide their husbands toxic abusive behavior from their children?I agree but the constant excuse of „I don’t want to damage their relationship“ is kind of weird. I think it breaks a child trust more when their view of family and especially their parents was projected as „fine“ just to find out as an adult that was a lie. I speak from personal experience. Besides excuse or even hide all the bad treatments of a parents shows the child that this kind of behaviour is acceptable which leads to them adapting it later. I see it work my own brother.. he became a mirr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 08:53 PM |
| 7 | Lack of Communication?Oh god now that you state it this way, I see resemblance in your ex and the guy I date. You can’t imagine how awkward some situations was because I felt like an idiot for starring at him, wait for him to say something and nothing happens. As a women you also don’t want to constantly take the lead and talk 90% of the time. It just really frustrated me because all his other qualities are amazing but this communication thing is killing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 02:10 AM |
| 77 | Poor him. It must’ve been so hard for him. She should have been more understanding...I bet the only thing he was scared about was her leaving him and have no access to the P anymore. Most men are so possessive over women that this is almost the consequence they hate to face and even then they play the victim lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:09 AM |
| 5 | My stepfather is an absolute jokeAbsolutely. I see it with my own mother and it hurts me to say that she’s a living example of someone I’ve never want to become in my life. I‘m just happy that two months of this bs is left until I never have to see his face again but knowing him and knowing what a strong shoulder I’m for my mother, I feel things will drastically go bad once I’m out of sight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 08:22 PM |
| 4 | My stepfather is an absolute jokeOf course not! Also the way he said it has such a hidden message too. It wasn’t just about „don’t shave in this shower“. It’s about not shaving at all, basically nowhere he could see it and also to „dispose“ of the hair without flush it in some sink... which is practically impossible? I mean beside the fact that shaving dry in some areas can leave burn marks and be very painful, he even had such an arrogant tone when saying I should figure out on my own how to deal with this. I have no words rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 08:02 PM |
| 7 | My stepfather is an absolute jokeThanks god I don’t have to since I’ll move to a different country for studying in roughly 2 months... still, the audacity totally left me speechless. It’s not the first time he messes up with my life but even go so far with personal hygiene...??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:37 PM |
| 10 | My stepfather is an absolute jokeGod how awful.. I’m very sorry to hear that. I don’t know why he suddenly does that... all I can assume that it’s a part of revenge because my mother and him was about to divorce and I played a big role into convince my mother to finally leave him... sadly she’s so far gone, that he was able to say the right words to keep her at the end. That’s the only explanation I have at this point.. beside him being an ignorant ass who wants everyone to apply to his rules and only his rules. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:22 PM |
| 18 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?You must be aware that (if he has bad intentions) he’ll tell you whatever you want to hear to make sure you trust him again and decide to still do the trip. Not saying it will absolutely happen but if there’s a relative possible chance... don’t risk it. Besides writing gives a men a lot of chances to hide his emotions and intentions, overwrite sentences until they sound trustworthy. Better ask him to meet you again in a public place and then have this conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:31 PM |
| 72 | "No one is going to put up with my son" -- straight from the horse's mouth.This hits home. I’ve grown up in a male dominant household with two brothers, one 30 years, one 14 years. I’m 22 years old. You see, I do love my mom and want to help her but it’s getting so tiring and down unfair how much is expected of me and how I’m labelled as even lazy while my other two brothers don’t even meet the bare minimum and getting the absolute praise and support out of everyone. It’s even small things as always assuming that I’m the only one expected to help in the household, to s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 11:12 AM |
| 15 | [Discussion] What are your deal breakers, and why?There’s also the saying that if he treats strangers this way, you’ll end up being treated the same once the „honeymoon“ phase is over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 08:37 PM |
| 8 | I'm not wrongHah good idea! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 08:35 PM |
| 5 | I'm not wrongI feel the same. I don’t gift often but I make sure to give the person something meaningful no matter if expensive or inexpensive. The whole „goal“ of a gift is showing someone how much you love them and what they mean to you, isn’t that so? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 08:35 PM |
| 37 | I'm not wrongI find it sometimes beyond crazy that some men seem to have „no idea“ what to gift a women and think we expect some high-end designer items to be „happy. How about you listen what she likes, be attentive and symbolise this in a thoughtful gift? I’ve never meet any women who would feel terrible for a small but special gift than any of those random gift sets. To be honest: I would even felt slightly insulted if a men would buy me a random shower set ... like.. what do you try to tell me with this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Yes and that also made me question how miserable made the old girlfriend feel for him to label her „crazy“. She was probably totally shattered and so desperate for a little bit affection for him to dump her. If I could, I would love to meet her and assure her her feelings wasn’t unjustified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)So true! I was shocked when reading this lines. Old me would had felt bad and run after him but I have more then enough options. On top he was the guy who told me I was too „sceptical“ for taking my time to know someone and not reply to hyper specific questions he wanted (aka. „Tell me what you want, so I can mirror it and get to sleep work you faster“). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 06:21 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Haha yes! I found this whole conversation so off. Who in their right mind would thing of marriage after two dates?! I also forgot to mention that he said (before mention to remain friends then) that he doesn’t have time to „convince“ me ... but I should spend my 20s on this guy and give him kids? Lol, no way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Dating someone with lower qualificationsI agree and I wouldn’t use this approach usually either. Perhaps down playing was not the right word but instead just not reveal everything. He’s a stranger, so you don’t owe him your whole life story. Otherwise I definitely agree with you. If a men feels to intimidated by my archivements, I don’t know if I would be able to see anything long term with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 01:01 PM |
| 9 | Update from my last postI’m so sorry to hear that and hope your situation can improve. Of course that’s not a long term solution but what used to help me was being active in communities (like this one) and communicate with people who has a similar mindset or hobbies like me. Sure it’s “just the internet” but those are also real people and can be just as supportive as friends in rl. I also believe it may help you to gain more self confidence which in return will also attract people in your circles to approach you. Eithe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:58 PM |
| 24 | "Women are so lucky! Everyone takes their feelings seriously!"Exactly. Generally speaking it’s the nature of women and the way we got teaches by parents and society. A much as it sucks, it also has the great benefit that we’re able to break out and strive to be the best version of ourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:54 PM |
| 51 | "Women are so lucky! Everyone takes their feelings seriously!"Yeah and that’s the thing some people don’t get. If you constantly do the same thing and always receive the same results, there’s either something wrong with you or you look at the wrong places. Even I had many issues in the past and had to work on them. If I would had pointed the fingers to everyone else all the time and cry, I wouldn’t be in the same mindset and position I am right now. It’s really not that hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:42 PM |
| 84 | "Women are so lucky! Everyone takes their feelings seriously!"I believe the issue is not often having problems but the way people express them, how the act and what they do to solve them. For me gender doesn’t matter but I have to admit that I see more women self-reflecting and first looking at them self to find the cause of it instead blaming it on others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:27 PM |
| 8 | Dating someone with lower qualificationsThe issue is that most men have such a fragile ego that they get intimidated if a women had a higher education or abilities than them. One way could be to downplay them. This would also help to weed out those guys who’re looking for a mother replacement to finance their miserable life. Other one would be not to state these facts normally but instead package them in an emotional way for example: „I studied this subject because I’m a very nurturing person and want to help others. By getting a job … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 11:24 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)I agree. One of the biggest red flags he gave up at the beginning was the „my ex was crazy but I stayed with her 3 years“. First I’ve been confused but after recall posts in FDS, I understood it was a tactic and felt sorry for the girl. Just now I find it amusing how he wanted me to give in or chase him. I definitely know that he was very aware that I was too informed to not see through his tactics and probably wanted to pressure me now 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 06:31 AM |
| 29 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Had 2 dates with a guy who seemed really funny and honest while also work for an famous company. Thought we had similar mindsets but called him always out when he made some tasteless jokes, was always very honest and showed my intelligent side. I’ve collected all the few red flags I saw and wanted to test it till Date 3. Now, while he failed to tell me his schedule in advance to slightly arrange my hours, he suddenly wanted a „direct talk“ and told me he only wants a serious relationship which i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 06:17 AM |
| 4 | How to stop being bitter?Thank you! I have to admit I didn’t dated a lot, not even as a teenager and also didn’t had many relationship generally speaking. While I feel I was very selective, dating right now makes me feel more miserable now because I want to trust people and be genuine but at the same time I don’t want to be used. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:05 PM |
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