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3	I would say my pickup skills are intermediate. How do I get to expert? Physical escalation terrifies most guys and is the only thing that matters. You need to pull her in, and be comfortable with her right up against you. You need to feel comfortable kissing her. Go for kisses until it's second nature. Obviously it will feel uncomfortable at first but you need to try. It's actually impossible to have sex with a girl you haven't kissed or pulled close. There are no words to get her to take her pants off...you have to pull them off for her. I don't mean any of this i…	/r/seduction	27/09/20 06:53 AM
1	I'm consistently dating having "very good" first dates but then no second dates When are you asking for date two? You need to keep the conversation going. That means texting her that night, saying hi the next afternoon, and trying to make plans for a second date within a week of the first one. If you wait too long she will think you were just messing around, you have to keep the momentum up if you want it to be real. It sounds like your first date game is actually completely fine, it's just the follow-through that's lacking. All I really do is text "I had a really nice time…	/r/seduction	27/09/20 06:19 AM
3	Quit drinking = no game So this will probably be the worst thing I'll ever post: I was completely sober for 8 years, and it is so much fucking easier to meet women when you drink. I prefer quiet one on one dates and hate loud bars. But so many damn women loosen up after one or two glasses of wine, relax and get talkative, and that's when you can connect. That same woman will refuse to drink if I don't. I will refrain from giving you advice, because telling 23 year old me to start drinking again would have killed me by …	/r/seduction	27/09/20 06:16 AM
1	How to ask a girl for long term relationship? Ummm...without sex it's not a real relationship in my experience.	/r/seduction	27/09/20 06:08 AM
6	How important is having friends and social media for attracting women? Not at all important. I talk about friends but it rare that I introduce a woman to them. I do not use social media and do not talk about having accounts. The only thing that matters is connecting with her and escalating physically. Literally those are the only two things that matter. Also if you "don't really have friends" you still probably have people you're friendly with. That counts. Classmates and co-workers who you chat with ocasionally are still friends. Don't apply negative and self-defe…	/r/seduction	27/09/20 06:04 AM
1	Should I give up Never give up. Ever. Fight for what you want.	/r/seduction	31/01/20 02:00 AM
1	Just got rejected and I feel like my heart was broken before I even went on a date I did see myself having a future with her, but she didn't see one with me. And that fact was enough for me to say "okay, I don't feel the same way, and I don't agree, but I can accept that." You can't force somebody to feel what they don't feel. It was new and exciting and I was falling in love with her, but ultimately I think she was right: we didn't have a future together. There are words to start a relationship, words to get her to bed, words to salvage a relationship thats on the brink, but …	/r/seduction	28/01/20 03:00 AM
10	Just got rejected and I feel like my heart was broken before I even went on a date Sometimes you just need to get your heart broken. I got dumped today. It didn't really hurt. The last time I got dumped, Ihonestly thought I wouldn't make it through, the pain was so deep. Maybe you have to feel that pain, and get over it, and keep going, so that you learn that it's really not so bad, thereare othef girls out there, and you'll get over it. Good luck.	/r/seduction	25/01/20 10:01 PM
1	How do you actually get a personality? I pay $20 per session through insurance. At least in my city you can find a therapist in network, I can't speak to other plans or policies.	/r/seduction	25/01/20 09:57 PM
5	How do you actually get a personality? Not everybody wants to be helped. Some people are only here to reinforce how much they hate themselves.	/r/seduction	25/01/20 09:55 PM
1	We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuck I mean...if you're not in an exclusive relationship, aren't you going on a few dates a week with different women? Why is it relationship or nothing? Isn't the point of all this to develop the habits and mindsets to get laid with the type of women we want, and not settle for less than we know we deserve?	/r/seduction	12/01/20 10:53 PM
2	We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuck How to feel "whole" is probably too big a question to even address in a reddit response, but it does deserve a response so I'll try. For me, I needed to go to therapy and take it seriously. I needed to get to the core of my issues: depression, anxiety, sexual inadequacy, loneliness, absence of self worth, substance abuse. The heavy shit. Just lay it all out, and get help. There's something very powerful about being seen, about exposing all of my flaws and vulnerabilities, and chipping away at th…	/r/seduction	12/01/20 03:30 PM
22	We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuck Adding my two cents. It's really about feeling complete internally, with or without her, and being happy with who you are. Girls are fun, sex is fun, deep connections are rewarding. But at the end of the day, all of this is fleeting. I think it's important to have the proper perspective. She's just a girl. I know I have been crushed emotionally by women before, and until you have, it can be hard to have that core confidence that there is nothing a future woman can do to make me feel worse than I…	/r/seduction	12/01/20 03:49 AM
2	We all know girls are attracted to guys who don’t give a fuck "Not giving a fuck" is something subtle. I think newbies think it's something aggressive, some set of words and actions you do to make the right impression. At the end of the day, you either care what she thinks of you, or you don't. You either need her to like you, or you don't. You either care what people think of you, or you don't. But it's a subtle thing. You should want people to like you, and do things to make sure they do, but you should not need people to like you. For me, being friendly…	/r/seduction	12/01/20 02:00 AM
3	In a split second, clothes makes a person more competent in the eyes of others, suggests new study. Faces were judged as significantly more competent when the clothing was perceived as “richer.” This judgment was made almost instantaneously. When explicitly asked to ignore, the bias still remained. Yea, if you're in an old tshirt and sweatpants, it's going to be tough to be taken seriously. It's not that hard to throw on a button-down, pants that fit, and a stylish pair of shoes. It's really not that more expensive to dress well as to dress badly. Ugly clothes cost the same as stylish ones. Same with shoes, those weird grey new balances everybody wears cost the same as a pair of shoes that aren't fucking sneakers.	/r/seduction	11/12/19 01:45 AM
5	Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive Girls That's why you spend so much time finding a girl who checks all of your boxes, and don't settle for less. There are some cool, smart women with great jobs, who are also very attractive. I don't have any interest in dating a hot, bitchy girl long-term (...again). It's not worth it. Personally, I need somebody as smart as me, who makes as much money as me, and is as attractive as me. It's what I deserve, and I won't settle for less. When I'm 50 and single maybe that less attractive girl becomes mo…	/r/seduction	30/11/19 05:55 AM
81	Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive Girls This 100%. We can't help who we're attracted to. It's cool that you tried, I think it's important to have that life experience to know what you want and what you don't. Especially if the girl checks all the other boxes. But at the end of the day, there needs to be sexual chemistry. When I'm lying next to a girl on the couch, I need to feel that sexual energy. It's not fair to either of you to try to force it if it's not there.	/r/seduction	30/11/19 05:50 AM
2	Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive Girls Yea I ran into this too. I friendzoned a few girls, then moved. Even though it was nearby, it was a process, and with work, shopping, getting the apartment prepped, dealing with the super, I really only had time for family, my real friends, and the girl I'm actually fucking. Would have been cool to keep some friends but they were beyond an afterthought once life got in the way.	/r/seduction	30/11/19 05:42 AM
4	How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"??? lol it's definitely not me. I go after what I want, I'm not going to sit back and hope the girl guesses what I want. For most guys here, if they wait for the girl to approach, initiate the conversation, make it physical, and go for the first kiss, they will wait months or years before anything happens for them. Or, they can go out, approach girls, get numbers, set dates, and get laid this week. I know which one I choose.	/r/seduction	21/11/19 01:19 PM
8	How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"??? Usually a girls version of "making a move" is laughing at jokes, touching his arm, looking at his eyes...basically things men can interprit as meaningless if they're not paying attention. Pretty much all of the bold decisions are going to be up to the guy to initiate. As for the girl: if she likes you, she'll let you. You find out what she'll let you do by trying. I used to wish it would be more reciprical, and that a girl who wanted to kiss me would actually initiate it. But it's rarely the cas…	/r/seduction	21/11/19 12:29 PM
14	How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"??? I hope guys here are not listening to you. 99% of girls will never make the first move.	/r/seduction	21/11/19 11:07 AM
1	How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"??? Preach.	/r/seduction	21/11/19 05:43 AM
-16	How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"??? The truth is, all of the above, even ghosting, usually just means you didn't show any intent, and didn't bother escalating. When I kiss a girl, she wants to see me again. When I don't kiss her, she doesn't want to see me again. It's really that simple. And if I didn't want to kiss her, that was my decision to make, and she's just saving face to avoid rejection by pre-empting a second date. This all gets really easy when you realize that girls are wimps, they're terrified of rejection, and will f…	/r/seduction	21/11/19 05:42 AM
1	Full direct game is better for your mental health I guess I'm weird like this, but I start indirect because I am screening the girl. I actually care what she does, where she's from, where she went to school, and what she studied. I also need to know how smart and funny she is, so I mess with her a bit, tease her, see if she can play along and make it fun, or if she's stuck up or boring. Once I like her as a person, I'm more inclined to just go direct and be blunt about what I want. Which is frankly, not a one-night-stand. It's not a wife either…	/r/seduction	20/11/19 05:25 AM
2	How long do I wait till I ask about setting up a 2nd date? I think 3-7 days is usually about right. It's good that you're busy. When I was going on a ton of dates, I'd just say "I should be free Wednesday, want to grab a drink?" if she's busy, I'd just propose the next day I was free. Ideally it's like 3-4 days after the first day I was free, it shows that I have a lot going on and if she doesn't fit herself into my schedule it's not going to happen for her. If the date went well and she wants to see you again, showing that you have options and a full l…	/r/seduction	20/11/19 05:06 AM
3	Sometimes I find my values in conflict with the best ways to play "the game" You do what makes you happy. I'm monogamous. I keep the seduction mindset to not get trapped again. It's healthy to remind myself that I have the skills and confidence to get any woman I want, but when I find somebody I like I don't feel the need or desire to keep dating or sleeping with other girls. But that's just me. Many guys just want to fuck as many girls as possible, and unapologetically don't want a relationship. That's fine too.	/r/seduction	20/11/19 04:57 AM
2	How to deal with sexual depression Do you think the girl I'm with now cares when I lost my virginity? You don't even have to address it. It is completely, utterly irrelevant. The truth is, if a girl likes you, she doesn't want to talk about or think about the girls you have or have not had sex with. And if it comes up, you can literally say "I wasn't ready for it before. Now I am." Don't overthink this. It doesn't matter at all. Just go out there and get it over with.	/r/seduction	19/11/19 04:51 AM
1	Should you approach a girl who saw you get rejected harshly by another girl in the club/bar? Honestly, if you like the way she looks, just approach her. It doesn't have to be "first choice" and "second choice," you just go to bars to meet people, you happened to see the other girl first, went to say hi, she was rude so you moved right on and saw somebody else you wanted to meet. It's pretty easy to reframe it in your favor. You can reframe anything in your favor, it's a pretty good habit.	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:42 AM
1	Is it really necessary to play mind games to get laid? There is nothing tricky or manipulative about dressing and grooming better, getting fit, becoming a better conversationalist who's fun to be around, and being good in bed. That's what women actually want in a man. The "trick" for most guys is convincing themselves that they can and should do it and that they deserve the female attention it will bring them. This is exactly right. Well said. All the games I play at this point are playful. If I get her alone on a couch, my natural physical escalati…	/r/seduction	17/11/19 04:37 AM
1	How does living at home potentially affect my prospects at a LTR? You can definitely hook up with girls while living at home. I struggled with it personally, but that's in large part that I didn't want to invite a relative stranger into my parents' home without speaking with them about it first. It was not conducive to just going to bed after a date, because I didn't want to use my parents' home that way. It will depend on your relationship with your parents. As for an LTR, do you really want to commit to somebody now, when your entire life is in flux? I don't…	/r/seduction	16/11/19 09:36 PM
1	Has the idea of 'seduction' been relegated to folklore? The reason you tell the guy "ask her out" is that he needs to have the courage to take action. Obviously the first time he will likely fail. If he's ever going to succeed, he needs to face that rejection and ask the next girl. Just like anything, there are levels to this shit. The true key is to strip back all the layers, and place total trust that you are enough and your instincts will not fail you. That true belief in yourself lets you say what you want, when you want, and own the outcome, goo…	/r/seduction	16/11/19 06:53 PM
3	How does living at home potentially affect my prospects at a LTR? I think at 21, it probably doesn't matter too much. But if you're 21 and living at home, are you really ready for a LTR? What's your plan for the next year? Do you have a job? Have you chosen a career? Are you planning to move out?	/r/seduction	16/11/19 04:26 PM
2	Losening yourself to The Game? 100% right. I think the key takeaway is this: if you feel like you're pretending, you still have work to do. The end goal is to have girls be attracted to you when you are 100% being yourself without even trying. But that took me what...12 years? And a lot of what cut away the try-hard bullshit was just...life. Getting fired. Falling in love. Getting married, getting divorced. Having my heart broken. Finding a career, finding happiness. If you feel like you have to pretend, you probably still do…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 10:28 PM
3	Being hell bent on making out with the opposite sex will definitely lead to failure! I agree. Guys have this mistaken notion that sex is something only guys want. And that if a girl is feeling grateful or generous, she will provide the gift of sex. But sex is really just the culmination of the physical connection between human beings. Girls find it gratifying and flattering to turn a guy on and see him overcome by desire. Obviously she doesn't want unwelcome advances. But after an hour of laughing and teasing and playful flirting, she wants you to kiss her. She wants you to pull…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 05:42 PM
17	Being hell bent on making out with the opposite sex will definitely lead to failure! Strong disagree, but I guess everybody has their own goals and own style. I get very tired of having emotional connections with girls I have no physical chemistry with. For me the emotional connection comes easily, so I'm more interested in finding out how she responds to my touch and my kiss. I also think most guys here would benefit from just ramping up the physicality and the sexuality. I'd rather get blown out going for sex then have my cute little friendship fizzle out due to boredom. For m…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 03:21 PM
6	Losening yourself to The Game? How much og your "true self" did you sacrifice to be a better you? None. Have you discarded your true self entirely in favor of a persona that produces more success? No. It's actually fascinating. There's an old RSD trope of Identity Level Change that I think applies here. It's about building habits that get incorporated into who you are. Ultimately, it's about being who you are comfortable being, and doing the things you enjoy doing, and incorporating meeting women into that larger ecosystem of…	/r/seduction	14/11/19 01:59 PM
2	Please don’t fuck up like me ! good bot	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:30 AM
2	Best way to casually tell my best friend I'm in love with him? If he doesn't want you out of your life, then you are safe to tell him that you want him to be exclusively yours. It sounds like it's time, just work up the courage to be 100% honest about what you want.	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:28 AM
1	My cousin once told me that when he's hanging out with a girl, he likes to "bring out her bad girl". What does this mean to you all and how do YOU do it? I find that it is not verbal. At all. It's how you touch her. How you look at her. I love when a girl is stylish and reserved, and presents well in public, but when we're together I get to see that animalistic side nobody else does. It's such a fuckin turnon for me. The girl catches that vibe and knows that what happens in the bedroom is only for us. But it's not something I say. It's how I kiss her, touch her. Fearlessly. I just let myself be shamelessly sexual and she knows she can do the same…	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:24 AM
1	Are women more/less likely to hookup with drunk guys ? If a guy gets more confident, assertive, and charming when drunk, then yes. If he gets sloppy, then no.	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:16 AM
1	Girl counter offered my date, is this a booty call? Do you have work the next day? Is your job demanding enough that it would be noticeable that you were up all night? If you don't have shit to do on Tuesday then grab a drink with her ffs.	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:14 AM
1	I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic life I know plenty of good looking guys who don't get laid because they don't know what the fuck to do. OP is one of them. I 100% agree that solving the depression/anxiety/ self esteem issue is A1 priority. But it also sounds like he'd benefit from just practicing game. I don't think you have to go out 5 nights a week and approach 100 girls to get better, he just has to try, focus, and not chicken out when he wants to approach somebody.	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:12 AM
2	I'm focusing on my hobbies and work, but at the end of the day I'm still not content with my romantic life "Aggressive" is a weird word for it. I'm not aggressive. I'm subtle, and patient. But I can and do escalate. I always make the first move, but I don't view that as aggressive at all. Assertive. Fearless. Confident. Walking up with no fear of rejection, kissing with no fear of rejection, taking off her dress with no fear of rejection, that's what she wants. But she wants a smart, decent guy to do those things. The problem is that the smart, decent guys are scared, and the assholes aren't. The fun…	/r/seduction	13/11/19 04:09 AM
2	Best way to casually tell my best friend I'm in love with him? Okay, you can have an actual conversation with him about this. If you have sex and have been best friends for that long, you are ready for an exclusive relationship. I'm sure he feels the same way. You could probably call him right now and tell him "I don't want anybody else, I want you, let's have a real relationship." The truth is, one of you will meet somebody, and it will change between you. You might as well give it an honest try while you're both single.	/r/seduction	13/11/19 03:58 AM
6	Please don’t fuck up like me ! Maybe it's a generational think, but sliding into DM's is weird as fuck to me...	/r/seduction	12/11/19 11:41 PM
2	Please don’t fuck up like me ! It's just one girl. Do better next time.	/r/seduction	12/11/19 11:40 PM
2	What are your views regarding being a financial provider once you are in a relationship? All the women in their late 20s and early 30 that I date support themselves. I fell in love with and supported a much younger woman (23) and it was such a disaster, I would never do that again. At this point in my life, if I am going to date a woman exclusively, she needs to earn at least $90k. To be honest, if a girl doesn't have a career (as opposed to a job), I'm not even interested. Does it limit my options? I don't care. Why do I want to take on somebody else's financial stress? Why do I wa…	/r/seduction	11/11/19 06:55 PM
1	Rejecting a married girl FR Good job having boundaries and sticking to them. Her life choices are not on you, and realistically you should not be hooking up with married women, it is a recipe for disaster. If she wants to cheat, let her do it with somebody else.	/r/seduction	11/11/19 10:35 AM
8	What are your views regarding being a financial provider once you are in a relationship? You picked the wrong girls. I will never be a financial provider again, I would never date a girl who is unwilling or unable to support herself financially. A woman who thinks I should provide for her is not a woman I want. It's a deal-breaker for me.	/r/seduction	11/11/19 10:30 AM
2	Does she like me or am I overthinking things? If she compliments your looks, she is not out of your league. There's mutual attraction. You should have already kissed her. Don't ask her out formally, just hang out one-on-one like normal, and fucking kiss her dude. You don't get your little logical relationship where you talk until sex, that's not how it works. Make it physical and sexual through your actions, and see where it goes. Pull her in, kiss her, hold her close, caress her body, and let her feel that you are a man. If you try to have…	/r/seduction	11/11/19 10:26 AM
3	Is there anything on this sub that is for women trying to attract men??? I wrote this in a similar thread, hope it helps. Actual advice: A lot of it is confidence, a lot of it is looking good. Work on yourself, be the person you think guys want. It's what men have to do to get the girls they want, treat it the same. Go out clean, hair at least controlled (I don't think most guys mind a ponytail or messy-bun, it doesn't need to be perfect, just good.) Dress well, flatter yourself, have a bit of style. Hit the gym, and I mean weights. Turning fat into muscle will make …	/r/seduction	09/11/19 06:48 PM
2	Establishing frame? Get a bunch of phone numbers, text a bunch of girls. Set a bunch of dates. When you don't have time for all of the girls you're talking to and the dates you have/want to set, that's abundance. It doesn't take much, to be honest. For me, 4 girls at one time is too many, 2 or 3 is right, 1 is acceptable, 0 is not enough. When the number is 0, get back on the grind. But it doesn't matter when the number is zero. She doesn't know that, if you're attractive, she'll assume you have options. Girls tend…	/r/seduction	09/11/19 06:45 PM
2	How can I make it normal to be touchy with girls? If you ask me personally it really just feels unnatural, feels like I'm overdoing it, feels like I'll be judged by people while doing this, feels like I'm doing it just for my pleasure. I'd want to stop this mindset. The mindset is definitely the issue. I touch girls because I like it. Because I am a man, and I like feeling a woman against me, holding her, letting her body next to mine turn me on. She's not a delicate flower, she's a human being. She wants to feel you next to her. She wants to f…	/r/seduction	09/11/19 05:39 AM
2	I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive. It's up to you. People have off days sometimes. It really depends how long you've been together. That said, nipping it in the bud early is a good idea. Especially something as dismissive as acting like you're not even there, she should know that you deserve to be treated better than that.	/r/seduction	07/11/19 03:33 AM
2	I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive. As somebody who has been in a truly toxic relationship: if the woman you are with doesn't make you happy, leave her behind and go on your own path. A woman should add to your life, not detract from it. I felt so awful with my ex, I just wanted her to like me so badly. The second I decided "that's it, I'm done" a weight just lifted. I was just...free. To be me, to live my life, my way. Don't let a girl make you feel unattractive, she doesn't deserve to have that power: she doesn't even want that …	/r/seduction	07/11/19 03:15 AM
1	I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive. Accomplishments and deservedness are different thjngs. They may have surface accollades, but at the core of their being, do they feel like they deserve them? Or do they feel like a fraud? Somebody whose parents paid for their expensive school, got a good job in the right field, where everything was always easy, the path was always there and they just stayed on it...where's the struggle? Where's the feeling that they earned something in their life? A sword is not pulled out of the ground a sword.…	/r/seduction	07/11/19 03:03 AM
2	I’m struggling to understand what makes a man attractive. There's no magic bullet for confidence. It's earned. It's earned through struggle. By trying valiently, failing spectacularly, and learning that failure is not that big a deal. I don't know if this will help you too much, maybe it will. But I was a child at 20. A scared little boy who had never been with a girl and was terrified to try. At 32 I'm a man, who's had beautiful women, and if I don't choose just one, I will have many more. But this is not some rah-rah bravado, build myself up with aff…	/r/seduction	07/11/19 02:51 AM
1	Do I have to be masculine to attract women I haven't done any of that mostly due to the fact that I've never had any opportunity to ever do so. I mean in order to do any of that you have to have someone like you or consider you attractive first. Girls will not come out and tell you "hey you are attractive! ask me out! k thx ❤" You have to lead. You have to approach, even though before you do she probably doesn't want a stranger to come and talk to her. Do it anyway. Make her forget how she felt before she was talking to you. You have to …	/r/seduction	05/11/19 01:19 PM
1	Do I have to be masculine to attract women So you are exactly average height and weight, you just have body dismorphia from when you used to be obese. You are no longer fat. You might have some skin stuff from losing half your body weight, that could be true. If it's really bad and really bothering you, plastic surgery is not an awful idea, only you can judge that. The core issue does not change: either you think you are worthy of attracting women, or you do not. If you think you are, or at least you think you can be, then get after it. …	/r/seduction	05/11/19 04:51 AM
1	Do I have to be masculine to attract women Are you like, physically deformed? 5 feet tall? 300 pounds? If you're average height and build and have no physical deformities, you're likely at least a 5 that can groom and work himself to a 7. And if you really are out of shape, get in the damn gym dude, work at it.	/r/seduction	05/11/19 04:08 AM
1	Do I have to be masculine to attract women But again, that's about people it doesn't really have any correlation to my issue at hand. Yes, it does. Girls are just people. They're wary of guys because most guys are too dumb to realize that girls are just people. A lot of guys hype it up snd make it weird, and make the girl uncomfortable. Make her laugh, keep her at ease, then from that place, tease her, make her laugh, push her away, pull her back in. Do all that, and within reason, you'll attract girls. If you'ee like a 3/10, you may be …	/r/seduction	05/11/19 03:48 AM
1	Do I have to be masculine to attract women Most guys have had a woman look at him and find him attractive. Your issue is you didn't notice it, and you didn't do anything. The adage that looks do not matter is objectively false, but practically true. It is absolutrly fucking useless to think that your looks are holding you back. You cannot change your face (well...you can, but don't). But you can dress better, get a better haircut, get in better shape, improve your posture...any number of things to make yourself more attractive. But perso…	/r/seduction	05/11/19 12:19 AM
1	Do you give up on a girl if she doesn't respond to a single text/message? If I don't get a response, I'll text a few days later. Then maybe if I want to pursue it, one more time after that. I've never texted more than 3 times, at that point it's dead, and there's no point.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 09:43 PM
1	Can you give us your sample of "texting" after getting her number until date request? I send a message saying who I am and where we met, ask how week/weekend is going, tell her I've been super busy. Tell her I'd like to meet, and propose a place and a day. Then work out logistics. You should be able to do that in less than 10 messages. On a dating app I like to have a convo before getting her number, over text it's just low-key small talk and logistics.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 09:41 PM
0	YOU ARE DYING. I'm immortal. How dare you	/r/seduction	04/11/19 09:20 PM
1	Going really well with a girl, suddenly she's become distant? Do I address it or just silently move on? Have you gone on a date with her? Kissed her? Fucked her? A few weeks of texting will usually fizzle if nothing materializes from it, that's how it goes. Escalate. Ask her out. Kiss her. Try to have sex with her. She wants to be desired, she doesn't want to just casually flirt with a scared little boy.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 06:25 PM
1	Getting Laid Will Not Solve Your Problems What if my probldm is that I like having sex, and Iwant to have more of it?	/r/seduction	04/11/19 06:18 PM
7	How to be playful? The example I saw was in a fanfiction. It just so happened to talk about asking girl to spend your life together then later saying “fine fine, how about just a single date then?” This is a good line, and I'm stealing it. Bring playful is about having the confidence to look silly and foolish, to laugh it off, and to know that it doesn't matter, you'll take the conversation back to whwre you want it, you're in control. Laughing at yourself is very attractive, it shows that you are not easily offen…	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:17 PM
3	Do I have to be masculine to attract women You have to be the sex-worthy version of yourself to attract women. I'm masculine in that I am not at all afraid to escalate all the way to sex, and to let loose and be with her. I'm good at kissing, I'm good at foreplay, I can use my body to get her physically turned on. But I'm not super macho or any of that stereotypical alpha bullshit. I'm just me. I'm smart, funny, and confident. I think extremely highly of myself, and believe at the core of my being that I am a very attractive guy that wom…	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:09 PM
3	How to cut down the mind games? Some girls aren't that into texting. A text or two every couple days should be fine.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:04 PM
3	How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps? What's wrong with dating apps? Also, guys in here are fucking naive. How does it surprise people that women can't just point at a guy and have sex with him? It's no wonder most of these guys aren't getting laid, they can't empathize with a woman at all. Actual advice: A lot of it is confidence, a lot of it is looking good. Work on yourself, be the person you think guys want. It's what men have to do to get the girls they want, treat it the same. Go out clean, hair at least controlled (I don't th…	/r/seduction	04/11/19 04:45 PM
1	Ahhhh LMR Forgetting her name is it. Perhaps not as salvageable as I thought, unless you are willing to put in a good amount of effort to show that she is more than a "piece of meat" (relevant turn of phrase used by the Russian girl I am seeing, when I invited myself up to her apartment after our second date). Girls have this thing, where they want to feel like it "just happened" ...like it was fate, they were just caught up in the moment and hooking up was inevitable. You forgetting her name most likely …	/r/seduction	04/11/19 11:08 AM
1	Ahhhh LMR I think this is salvageable. Have you connected with her on any emotional level, or is it purely physical and raw attraction, push-pull sort of thing? A lot of girls just want to feel a connection before they turn attraction into sex. Also, are you doing any foreplay? Making out, kissing her neck, touching her breasts, kissing her nipples? Eating her out? Where are you getting resistence? Or are you just expecting sex without getting her physically prepared for it? If I am kissing a girls nipple…	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:09 AM
1	Ahhhh LMR Learned that the hard way by getting totally shut down after the second date...but goddam was the sex good when I finally got it 😁	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:05 AM
1	Ahhhh LMR Maybe because every woman is a unique human being and RSD bullshit doesn't apply for all women in all situations?	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:04 AM
2	Not kissing on first date? My experience is that if you like her, kiss her on the first date. If you kiss her on the first date and then have a second date, there will be natural sexual tension. It will set the expectation that you will always kiss, and that there is always the potential for more than just a kiss. It makes you real to her. If I don't kiss on the first date, I usually don't even remember her...why would I? Just another girl I didn't deem worthy.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 05:00 AM
2	Escalate with coworker Ehh, gym is fine, but weird. Work is an absolute no-go, the closest I've gotten is asking a girl out the day I left the job and then dating her afterwards. That way none of the gossip ever actually came back to bite me, because I had nothing to lose.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 04:49 AM
1	When you hookup are you big on foreplay or just smash? This. I always start out kissing. Sometimes I think that I'd be happy just making out for half an hour, but we usually get really turned on and I accidentally start grabbing her breasts and then sucking her nipples...and then after that's it's just on... I don't think I've ever even had sex without sucking her nipples first. It turns me on, it turns her on. I've honestly had the thought that the only time I'm ever truly happy is when I'm eating a girl out.	/r/seduction	04/11/19 04:46 AM
1	To the loners/introverts here. No, you don't need a rich social life in order have some success in this (at least that isn't my experience) To add to this: meeting and going on dates with a bunch of women is a rich social life. You can reference what you did on a date and just say "I did x with a friend the other day."	/r/seduction	02/11/19 05:12 PM
17	Read your brain on porn by Gary Wilson I watch a lot of porn, but good sex is way better than porn can ever be. How can you even compare having a girl push down on your shoulders while she rides you to staring at a screen with your hand on your dick?	/r/seduction	02/11/19 03:14 PM
2	How to know if a girl is interested in you from just simple conversation? When I kiss her and she kisses me back, I know she likes me. Everything before that is just talk.	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:47 AM
12	"Why don't I ever see you around women?" Im 22, in college, and havent even gotten a kiss because I wasted my life up to the last few years. No, you didn't. Men hit their prime in their 30s, not at 22. Most guys at 22 have no fucking game at all. Just relax, keep learning, keep trying, and build the mentality and skillset. You'll be fine.	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:45 AM
2	Is it just me or does she not like me? Sounds weird AF to be honest. I wouldn't think about her too much more. Gym can also be a weird place to meet somebody, a lot of people are there because they have goals, and she may just be treating you the same way she would if she was busy at work. You ever stopped to think that she was next to you because she picked that machine for her routine and you happened to be there? If you want to actually meet her, ask for her number, set up a date outside the gym, and talk to her.	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:41 AM
1	Getting ghosted even though things seemed to be on course / attraction being built? Is this more common these days? 'hey you seem like a great guy but Im just not ready to date anyone.' is better. only one girl has done this in the last few months, the rest Istopped texting, or they did. It's pretty rare for the girl to have the balls to actually communicate that, and I told her I honestly appreciated her telling me, and I did genuinely appreciate it. Far more often one person ghosts the other, or it's mutual.	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:36 AM
13	Instagram Model Reveals How She Feels About “Nice Guys” and “White Knights” on LAHWF. I think deep down most girls look in the mirror and only see their flaws. So telling a girl she's beautiful is meaningful, but only if it comes from the right place. That can't be the only thing you see in her, or your only observation. But 15 minutes into a conversation letting it slip that she's very pretty is fine. What, I'm going to pretend she's not? That doesn't mean she's better than me, far from it. She's just had a different type of life, easier in some ways, harder in others. It can't …	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:31 AM
8	Instagram Model Reveals How She Feels About “Nice Guys” and “White Knights” on LAHWF. rekt	/r/seduction	01/11/19 02:28 AM
2	Best style of game for if you're not friendly? I'm going to be honest with you: you're using "introversion" as a cop out. It's like you read about introverts somewhere, decided you are exactly that, and don't have any interest in trying to be a more social version of yourself. If you don't want to talk to people, don't expect to meet anybody new. People develop trust through conversation, that's how we operate. And honestly, I'm introverted too. I just decided that I needed social skills to self-actualize and become the best version of mysel…	/r/seduction	30/10/19 11:48 PM
2	Best style of game for if you're not friendly? Before I can actually give advice I need to know what you really want. You describe yourself as somebody, who is not "fun," has no intetests, etc... What would "seduction" add to your life? What's the goal? Do you want to have sex with girls? If you see an atteactive girl, do you want to be able to approach her and have a conversation? Do you want to get her number and set up a date? Do you want a serious, excusive relationship? What's throwing me off is that you keep saying "what style of game …	/r/seduction	29/10/19 04:48 PM
1	My crush rejected me Good. Now you can move on.	/r/seduction	29/10/19 04:04 AM
2	Best style of game for if you're not friendly? Okay man, I can see you don't actually want help, but I'm a pathological helper... Here's your game. Find a girl, make her laugh, get her number. Invite her to a bar, order a drink or two each, get her laughing again, touch her, pull her in, escalate quickly. Try to get her to go home with you as soon as you can. If you don't want your game to be verbal, the only other option is physical. In this case the bar is the socially acceptable place you are meeting her, not the place where there are wom…	/r/seduction	28/10/19 11:06 PM
1	Faced my anxiety and talked to a female stranger. Funny enough, that "self-awareness" actually means you are in the moment. You're slowing down, acknowledging yourself. It's meditative. I think what you're missing is that second gear. Put that shit back in drive and turn it up a notch. For me it's like..."look at this pretty girl I'm talking to...this is cool, this is fun, I actually feel a connection with her." I find that focusing on her helps the most. Get close to her, touch her. Hear her voice, her words, what she's trying to share. Get in…	/r/seduction	28/10/19 10:58 PM
2	I’ve been at this university for over a year now It was one girl. It's soo easy to catch feels, but you need to see it for what it is. It matters in general that you're a good guy. It might not matter to the one girl you want it to matter to. Believe me, I've been there. If she doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. On to the next one. You need to realize that the girl needs to be in the right place mentally and emotionally to be ready for a real rrlationship. If she is, and so are you, it will happen. If she's not, there's no amount of convinc…	/r/seduction	28/10/19 10:40 PM
3	I’ve been at this university for over a year now Being in shape is not some magic bullet. An out of shape guy who is confident, can make a girl laugh, and knows how to escalate will blow out a male model with no personality and no confidence. And your problem is obviously confidence. Here's the thing about being a guy: very occassionally, a girl will approach you, and take the lead. But she will rarely if ever escalate. As a man, you need to stare rejection in the face and face it with a smile. You need to be willing to go for the kiss and acc…	/r/seduction	28/10/19 02:43 PM
2	21 year old first attempt So here's thing about online dating: send messages to a ton of girls. Maybe you match with 1 in 25, maybe 1 in 20 of those responds... It's literally just numbers, don't even think too much about your first reply, she probably won't respond anyway. Just start as many conversations as you can, and maybe something sticks.	/r/seduction	28/10/19 02:07 PM
0	Need help getting my reality straightened out, please That's actually useful. Listen to your dick, not your head. Your dick wants to be inside of that hot girl. Let him dude, why you gotta be a cock-block?	/r/seduction	28/10/19 03:37 AM
4	Need help getting my reality straightened out, please Like do girls compliment people's clothes if they have 0 interest whatsoever? Just for the sake of giving a compliment? Girls who think you are hot compliment your clothes. I'm going to put this out there: you probably need CBT. I had just about the lowest self esteem in the world. Having somebody stop me and reframe every time I talked shit about myself...it actually rewired my brain. The gist is: you are loveable and deserving and valuable for only one reason: you are a human being. Actions, l…	/r/seduction	28/10/19 03:33 AM
3	I never realized how complicated sex can be I love sucking nipples, I think a girl who doesn't like having her nipples touched and sucked would probably be a deal-breaker for me.	/r/seduction	28/10/19 03:17 AM
35	I never realized how complicated sex can be I'm just going to be super blunt here. I bet some of you need to read this and internalize it. Start with kissing. Your hands should be touching her. Somewhere. Lower back is usually good. Or a hand on the lower back, one on the leg. Slide your hand from her lower back up her side, and then on to her breast. Keep it there, then start massaging. Keep kissing her. You will notice a difference. She will start breathing differently, more heavily. That's pleasure sir, keep going. Lift up her blouse, …	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:34 PM
1	I'm receiving mixed messages, not sure about how to go from here Meet up with her, and kiss her. If she kisses you back, you're golden, if she doesn't, at least you know. I don't know why people are so afraid of the friendzone...just kiss her, and kiss her again. Make it super clear with your body and actions this is not what friends do, this is what two people who are hooking up do.	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:31 PM
3	Best style of game for if you're not friendly? Realistically, your game should just be going to a bar, having a few drinks, and trying to get her home with you that night. Sounds like you have no real interest in a lasting relationship or building rapport over time, so just be in good shape, dress well, and show raw intent. For me, I have a conversation with the girl because that's what I like to do. If you don't, and you really are a bit of a dick, then don't be afraid to just try to escalate fast. You may get some blowouts, where a friendl…	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:21 PM
1	Why do hot girls see you as their worst enemy if they like you but you don‘t do anything about it? Truth is, they see you looking, and it's a moment of excitement. There's a couple minutes where it's like "will he approach? He keeps glancing my way..." Then 20 minutes later it's just like...why is this creep still fucking looking at me.	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:18 PM
5	Okay so I’ve been on this sub for a while but rarely see any advice specifically for females. Could you guys share some tips with me? Touch his arm, grab his hand, smile, tell him he's cute. Kiss him. Women are so afraid to lead, and most guys will absolutely let a pretty girl lead them. As a girl you can legit just invite him to your place, sit next to him, grab his face and kiss him, push him down and get on top. I totally forget the context, but two nights ago I told a girl she could just get on top and have her way. She told me she wasn't just going to rape me. I told her she could if she wanted. It is so fucking hot to be…	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:15 PM
1	What advice would you give a virgin? Just have sex. The less it means, the better. You might not be able to get hard, you might cum almost instantly. Just put yourself in the situation, realize that most girls have a degree of empathy, and move on. If you wait for that one-true-love moment for your first time, it'll probably be worse than just getting it over with.	/r/seduction	27/10/19 06:04 PM
3	What do you do to pick up girls at parties? I never quite know who's on the other side of the keyboard. What I do know is that my genuine personality got me laid last night.	/r/seduction	27/10/19 12:02 AM
2	How can I build attraction without a date? So come up with a spontaneous thing to do that is "not a date." So later she can be like "omg he asked me to do x and it was super fun, isn't that random?!" What's something in your area you've been meaning to do? Why not invite her?	/r/seduction	27/10/19 12:00 AM
2	“I’m sorry to do this, but something came up at work! I’m going to have to rain check out date tomorrow.” If you set a date a week in advance you should be texting at least every couple days in the leadup. It's actually a bit weird to set a date 6 days out and not even text until the day before. I get busy too, we all do, but at the end of a long day there's gotta be some menial text you can fire off.	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:57 PM
9	Traits that make you attractive to women They're thinking about it less than you. Do you enjoy talking to women? Do you make them laugh? Do they make you laugh? Do you have fear or anxiety when talking to a girl, or asking her out, or going to kiss her?	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:54 PM
3	What do you do to pick up girls at parties? Thanks for sharing, a lot of guys here have such a messed up view of the world that they have a hard time accepting that girls actually do like being around guys who are nice to them.	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:43 PM
3	What do you do to pick up girls at parties? Dang, people here have some warped opinions of women. Women like nice guys, they just don't like wimpy guys. I'm nice. But I'm also irreverant and self-deprecating and unapologetic. But I'm not an asshole. Mostly. Okay maybe a bit, it goes with being unapologetic. Assholes get girls, but do you want to be an asshole? Is the girl you ultimately want to be with attracted to assholes, or attracted to you? Because my goal is to be loved by a woman who sees exactly who I am, good qualities and bad, a…	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:41 PM
2	What do you do to pick up girls at parties? I have bad knees, my trainer taught me to push through the heels and activate the core and the glutes to alleviate knee pain when lifting.	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:27 PM
1	weirdo could need some advice I'm just going to be super blunt here. I bet some of you need to read this and internalize it. Start with kissing. Your hands should be touching her. Somewhere. Lower back is usually good. Or a hand on the lower back, one on the leg. Slide your hand from her lower back up her side, and then on to her breast. Keep it there, then start massaging. Keep kissing her. You will notice a difference. She will start breathing differently, more heavily. That's pleasure sir, keep going. Lift up her blouse, …	/r/seduction	26/10/19 11:16 PM
2	Everything I know so far is wrong. Do you want sex? For me, I'm constantly screening: do I want to have sex with her? Could I be in a relationship with her? Either way, the conversation is similar: I just want to enjoy myself. Sometimes that's a deep, serious conversation where I expose flaws and fears, sometimes I just tease relentlessly. Depends on my mood and her personality. I'm reminded of an old RSD term: act through your own intentions. Meaning: what do you, personally, in that moment, want? I think most virgins don't quit…	/r/seduction	26/10/19 08:00 AM
1	Everything I know so far is wrong. I am far too emotional with girls. As soon as we get talking, I get sooo deep and philosophical. I reveal too much of my inner self - something I would never ever fathom if I was talking to a male friend. I guess I'm missing the part where this is bad. All you're missing is escalation. And really, you don't need to trust her necessarily. The beauty of the game is you don't need ro chase anybody who knows anybody in your life. Trust only matters if you're going to be exclusive. If not, what's she…	/r/seduction	26/10/19 07:49 AM
1	I don't want to this, but how beta it would be to ask my friend for her number? (He is her friend, I think she has her number) You have to reframe this for yourself: not trying is worse than not interested. You have to learn to not care about rejection. You had a nice time with this girl, you laughed with her, and now you want to see her again. So you got her number through a mutual friend. It's commonplace, people do it all the time. Play your part in the story. If she thinks it's weird that you text, that's cool, move on, find the next girl, and the next one, and the next. If she is excited to hear from you, that's co…	/r/seduction	24/10/19 05:41 PM
1	I don't want to this, but how beta it would be to ask my friend for her number? (He is her friend, I think she has her number) I used to do this too. It's just your fear of rejection. You want her to do the hard part and text first. You're going to have to get over that and be proactive.	/r/seduction	24/10/19 03:27 AM
2	I don't want to this, but how beta it would be to ask my friend for her number? (He is her friend, I think she has her number) Not beta at all. Get her number however you can get it.	/r/seduction	24/10/19 02:03 AM
0	Always something Why should a girl want to be with you? For me, I think about it like this: I'm smart, good looking, successful, and kind. I've been through a lot, gotten through it, and gained experience and perspective. I care about people, I have a range of interests, can relate to anybody, can find enjoyment in most any situation. I've traveled, I've loved, and I've lost. I've been successful in vastly different careers, and could be successful in many, many more. I know what I want, and what I don't want. I…	/r/seduction	24/10/19 01:58 AM
5	Im freezing when meeting girls, not kissing, holding hands, problems figuring out things to say, etc. I've had success with this: if you like her, at the end of the date, kiss her goodbye. Just go for the kiss. That moment when you're like "should I...does she want me to..." just fucking kiss her. This will sound crass, but it doesn't matter if she wants you to before you kiss her. After you do it, she finds out if she wanted you to. And if she didn't, good, now you know not to waste your time.	/r/seduction	24/10/19 01:44 AM
7	Have I been misinterpreting Models by Mark Manson? You need to couple that feeling of vulnerability with actual personal development. AKA: do the work, go through the struggle, and kill that anxiety. You know why I don't feel anxiety at work? Because I've had extremely tough jobs, and this isn't one of them. I've had extreme stress, and this isn't real stress. I've burned out, I've flamed out, I've gotten fired. And I'm better and stronger, more knowledgeable and more talented for all of it. You know why I don't feel anxiety with a woman? Becaus…	/r/seduction	23/10/19 11:46 PM
1	Not much of a seduction, but how's my 'game' in texting? So did you schedule a date? If you did, good job. If you haven't, it's a layup., schedule the date. If you don't even try, you need to ask yourself if you're texting just to text, or if you actually want to go on a date with this girl.	/r/seduction	22/10/19 12:25 AM
2	Guys of Reddit, how can I ultimately seduce my new boyfriend? Where a sexy dress. Order a bottle of wine (or bring one). Put your hand on his. Look in his eyes. Tell him how turned on you are, and that you want him. Men are easy.	/r/seduction	22/10/19 12:21 AM
0	How to isolate a girl who is always with her female best friend ? This is the right answer.	/r/seduction	22/10/19 12:18 AM
1	what is your biggest barrier preventing you connecting with women? Logistics. I move into my new apartment next weekend. Once that happens I'm afraid that I will be unstoppable.	/r/seduction	22/10/19 12:15 AM
2	Might have fallen for long distance girl. 4 years in game and might have problem please help! Hell no. Don't do it. Just don't. I just went through it, the odds of this working are astronomically small. Don't waste your time and energy, there are so many girls out there. Don't feel guilty. It is so fucking hard to have a relationship over the phone. You need to see somebody at least a couple times a week for it to be real. Honestly, just move on. Date, have sex with other girls. Don't wait for her. She's probably not waiting for you.	/r/seduction	22/10/19 12:09 AM
1	Girl is Keeping her Ex as a Backup Your original post said: im not going to get emotionally involved unless the ex is gone. then ill consider it. Don't consider it. She's keeping him in her back pocket while she's fucking around with you. If you ever commit to her, she will almost definitely keep you around even after she's found the next guy, and the next. She's just a player. Have your fun, just remember who she is before you expect her to treat you better than she treated him.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 09:36 PM
1	I CAN'T TOUCH A GIRL I can't take control of your arms and make you do it. You know when, you know how. The only thing holding you back is you. Ultimately, the game starts when you pull her in and kiss her, and feel her body against yours. That's when she knows you're more than just a boy who's afraid to touch her. And frankly, kissing and touching is what I like, talk is just talk. Getting her to laugh is great, but you find out she actually likes you when you put your hand on her knee and she puts her hand over yo…	/r/seduction	21/10/19 09:28 PM
1	Girl is Keeping her Ex as a Backup As long as you know that if she's hanging on to her ex and fucking around with you behind his back, she will do the same to you if you ever decide to commit to her. Have your fun with her, but you really should not think of her as deserving of anything more than that.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 09:02 PM
2	Any tips for being less needy? Good advice all around. Life experience is the best remedy for neediness. Neediness is the feeling that there's a hole in you that only she can fill. Having a full life is what reminds you that you don't need her at all, and that you're only with her because you want to be.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 01:10 PM
1	What are some ways to approach a woman you’ve seen multiple times in the span of a month or so but haven’t said anything to? "I've seen you here a few times and should have introduced myself sooner. I'm [your name here]." Don't overthink it, put it in your own words.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 01:07 PM
4	Girl is Keeping her Ex as a Backup Sounds like a train-wreck. Do not entangle yourself emotionally in this mess.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 01:04 PM
1	What the fuck am I doing wrong Just keep trying. The right girl is out there, living her own life. There are thousands like her. You'll find more than a few if you keep living your own life, keep talking to girls, keep escalating, keep positive, and continue to be the person you want to be. Self improvement is a great goal, as is physical health. Every day that you've grown as a person makes you that much more attractive. My one piece of advice is never enter into a serious relationship with somebody who is not right for you.…	/r/seduction	21/10/19 12:59 PM
2	Should I further explain an embarrassing typo? Don't overthink it, that's actually pretty funny.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 12:50 PM
1	Bad joke or uptight girl? Neither. It's just banter. Your next message sets the tone going forward.	/r/seduction	21/10/19 12:46 PM
7	How to create interest with a girl that you’re already friends with? You're overthinking it. Don't call it a date, you don't need to. You're already friends. Friends do stuff together. Ask her to do something, doesn't matter what. Could be a walk after work/class, a burrito, a movie, doesn't matter. Just ask her. Sexual tension is built by having sexual intention and acting on it. Asking her, no matter what you call it, will get her thinking "ohhh...what is this???" looking her in the eyes will do the same, complimenting her outfit, saying she looks good... Don't…	/r/seduction	13/10/19 11:17 PM
2	Is it okay to date/hookup with sister’s friends? Do you think they can be cool about it? This is the same boat as fucking a friend's ex, or fucking a co-worker...proceed with extreme caution. This can blow up if you're not on the same page, if they don't know how to hook up and then play it cool afterwards...just not worth it. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Which is why your intentions here matter. If you actually like her and can be exclusive with her, then fine. But if you can't you're basically just creating drama in your sis…	/r/seduction	13/10/19 09:06 PM
2	How do you text game a girl you meet online ? Maybe I'm backwards, but I've had a lot of success just being friendly, low-key, and non-threatening, getting to know her a bit and playing the long-game. I find that when I finally have a free day and ask them out, they are super receptive. That said, I have more chats going than I even know what to do with. The ones I've ramped up quickly just flame out if I'm not actually free that week, but there are a few that I've just popped into every couple days for a month or so that have ended in good…	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:58 PM
2	Tinder Shit Test Say whatever you want, don't overthink it.	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:53 PM
1	Girl not reading my text for a week Is this over phone text or on Facebook? A girl messaged me on Facebook once and I didn't see it for three years.	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:52 PM
2	Need help telling if a guy (24M) is interested in me (24F) If he remembers you, he likes you.	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:50 PM
3	Got rejected, but she doesn't seem sure about it. Wanna get her chase me. Have you kissed her? Have you had sex? If the answer is no to both, you are only friends, and your "feelings" are both unwelcome and unwarranted. In the future: you need to kiss her and try to escalate beyond that before you can have a conversation about feelings. Anything else is backwards, and you're just asking her permission to go further, which she will never give in that situation.	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:49 PM
3	Is it okay to date/hookup with sister’s friends? I think they should be off-limits for a casual hookup, but if you are actually on the same page about a real relationship you should make sure your sister is okay with it too. Don't fuck up your sister's friendships for a one-night stand, that is beyond fucked up.	/r/seduction	13/10/19 08:41 PM
3	How to create interest with a girl that you’re already friends with? Okay, here's the actual truth: there's only one way to get out of the friend zone. You don't have to be weird and flirty and play a bunch of games. You just have to kiss her. Once you do that, you're not just friends any more. Whatever happens after that, things will be different. And honestly, if you are already friends, you can just ask her to a one-on-one activity with you. Talk like normal, act like normal. Joke around, connect, the usual stuff. Then when the conversation lulls like it alway…	/r/seduction	13/10/19 07:19 PM
1	How many disagree with this? I guess my honest question is: if that's how you view yourself, why should a woman view you differently? Why should there be magical words that unlock a woman's pants for a guy who doesn't even believe he has a proper place in the world? Ultimately, you act the way you give yourself permission to act. When I thought of myself as a loser, I acted like one. But it's also a two-way street-> your habits can change your thoughts just like thoughts can change your actions. What could your life look li…	/r/seduction	13/10/19 03:03 PM
3	How do you flirt? Careful telling a girl how you feel about her emotionally at first. Frankly, you shouldn't be feeling much about her. She's just a girl you barely know, one of thousands. Complimenting appearance is usually good, it really frames the interaction correctly. (I, as a human male, think you are an attractive female) And yes, ask her to do a thing with you. Get her number. Tell her when you want to do the thing. Then confirm a couple hours before. Then do the thing. Smile when you see her, hug her, k…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 07:35 AM
1	So very frustrated In cold-approach sales we had the 10/10/80 rule. 10% will be super nice, open, happy to talk. 80% will be somewhere between accepting and politely dismissive. And 10% just needed somebody to be horrible to today, and here you are, waltzing right up to them... You want to meet all of the good 10%, but there is legit no telling what the bad 10% will do or say, especially if you're unpolished. Eventually you just look at the bad 10% and know not to bother. Or get to the point where it's so casual t…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 07:23 AM
1	Feeling self conscious about employment? Ultimately, if you are going to really connect with somebody, it's likely to be somebody with a similar life circumstance. I think it's actually fair that women with professional careers judge your circumstance. But you know what? There are a ton of pretty girls in service industry jobs. They can pretend they deserve a professional with salary and benefits. They can say they want one, but do they truly deserve one? No. All respect to the minimum wage world, I was a guy with a degree in that worl…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 07:03 AM
1	Advice for a teen going on a first date You probably will. That's fine. Don't let yourself get down about it. Don't let it stop you from asking her out again. Or from approaching the next girl. Or fromasking her out. Or from gaining more and more confidence that you have earned frompushing yourself and having experiences and living your life. Just enjoy it. Laugh and have a good time and remember that one conversation with a girl is just...one conversation with a girl, one of many you will mhave in your life.	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:59 AM
2	I managed to have a conversation with a girl today I'm not going to critique any of this. It's such an important step to just have these conversations. Keep it up. 🙂	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:56 AM
1	When it becomes about you I agree with much of this, and I'm not here to pick nits. I think there are a few people you should want to impress. But they have to earn the right for me to care what they think. If somebody is smart, and mature, and has high standards for themselves, I tend to think their opinion matters. My boss, for example, is an admirable human being, and because I think that, his opinion of me matters. I want him to view me the way I view myself, so I make sure he knows exactly the type of person that I …	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:53 AM
1	Feeling self conscious about employment? What is your plan for getting a better career?Do you have the steps laid out in your brain? Have you gotten started on that path? Truthfully, anything but starting down the path that you know you need to take is a waste of energy at this point in your life. If you need to get a better career, focus on that. If you still make minimum wage 5 years from now, but somehow have figured out the words that make women go to bed with in spite of it, would you feel fulfilled, or still unfulfilled because d…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:33 AM
5	How many disagree with this? I mean, there's so many women out there, there's going to be one out there for everybody, within reason. But if you want a smart, successful, attractive woman, on average she'll want a smart, successful, attractive man, so it certainly helps to be one. Also, the great thing about being a guy, is that over the course of ten years I went from an insecure, asocial, depressed loser with no job and no prospects, to smart, good looking, well traveled, and with a good career. And some wild stories I wi…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:26 AM
1	Dating multiple girls is honeslty exhausting 3 is about all I can handle at any one time. I think more than one is healthy if you're not exclusive, but I tried 5 dates with 5 different women in 5 days a couple weeks back and it drained the hell out of me, there's no way I could keep that up.	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:17 AM
14	Anxiety turns me into a complete idiot. Can I ask a question? Do you have male friends? Do you joke and laugh and have a good time? Do you have common interests? If the answers are yes, then just think about being that same person around more than just your male friends. And remember, it's just talking to girls. Some of them hit pretty hard, but you'll more than likely be fine 😂	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:15 AM
21	Anxiety turns me into a complete idiot. Just keep going, keep living, keep going for it. Fall in love, get your heart broken, get over it. Social anxiety never quite goes away, it just changes forms. I just got out of an emotionally devastating, year long relationship. Now a date feels like the lowest stakes game in the world. Getting rejected trying for sex barely registers, I just asked her out again two days later... Just live your life, say what you want to say. Have fun. Be you. You got a girl to really like you for you. My best …	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:10 AM
1	I have failed Realistically: are you trying to actually close, or are you just talking? The last time you got close to getting laid but didn't, what happened? Why didn't you? What could you have changed? In my case, we were making out in front of her apartment building. I started getting turned on, I pulled back, grinned, and said "want to head upstairs?" she said "don't be an asshole, get home safe" I smiled, said okay, and headed home. I like her, I'll see her again, no reason to burn it to the ground after…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 05:03 AM
1	Models Study Guide Well...that's depressing.	/r/seduction	11/10/19 04:48 AM
2	[Male 26] I have never had a sexual relationship (virgin). I do not smoke, drink, eat out, or attend places with loud music. Where can I meet women? So realistically, you do need hobbies outside of your house. People tend to like to leave and go places, even if just once or twice a week. Dinner, movies, parks, it doesn't have to be crazy, and it doesn't have to be bars. But it has to be somewhere. I have a date this weekend playing tennis. I'm kind of weird in that I like different things and really enjoy doing what somebody else likes to do. I sort of dip into somebody else's interest, try it out for a bit, settle back into my routine, and …	/r/seduction	11/10/19 04:45 AM
2	[Male 26] I have never had a sexual relationship (virgin). I do not smoke, drink, eat out, or attend places with loud music. Where can I meet women? I think it depends on age and location. Tinder has never worked for me. Most of my dates are Hinge at this point.	/r/seduction	11/10/19 04:32 AM
2	[Male 26] I have never had a sexual relationship (virgin). I do not smoke, drink, eat out, or attend places with loud music. Where can I meet women? Honestly, I just meet women online. But also consider your lifestyle. Eating out is a nice date. It's cliche, but just find a place in your budget with good food and invite a woman to go with you. It's a socially accepted first date, it's normal for a guy to ask a girl to dinner. Parks are great, tennis is great, if you like a sport like that. Museums are great. Really, just get six very good pictures of yourself and make a profile. Seem interesting, traveled, handsome... I dunno, I was a virgin…	/r/seduction	11/10/19 04:29 AM
1	Models Study Guide That actually sounds fascinating. What did you end up learning?	/r/seduction	10/10/19 07:17 PM
2	PUA applications in a small highschool? It's a delicate issue. Really, you just want to know that at any moment of the day, no matter where you are, you can start a conversation. Your knowledge of social hierarchy can also help. I think that in a tight knit community, low key game and core confidence are key, and trump the higher energy routine based stuff. It's really just establishing yourself as a fun, outgoing, sexual guy, without going over the top or trying too hard.	/r/seduction	13/08/10 05:46 AM