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I understand your concern, I will ask the question just to prove my point
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 10:01 PM
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Please trust me there are a lot of good men on that sub and you’ll get good answers. At the same time there’s a couple of D bags that will also post but overall, I think it would really ease your mind. That’s like my second favorite sub on Reddit. It is so enlightening.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 08:26 PM
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You know what, go ask this question on r/askmenadvice I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised 😉
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 08:24 PM
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Kind of like personality tests, you can also measure general reasoning/processing speed. 2 people can be capable of learning the same volume of information, but if you compared a 5 gallon bucket to a 5 gallon vase, the vase is going to fill up more slowly that the bucket because of the opening (learning speed) I suspect you’re a faster learner than him. I am a fast learner. I struggle sometimes talking with people when they are discussing things I already know. In my head I want to fast forward …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/26 05:51 AM
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The Four Agreements The Queens Code by Alison Armstrong
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/25 05:39 AM
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I would mentally thank him for ruling himself out so quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 07:17 PM
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What does he do for you/provide for you? Also, he wants you to think him for NOT treating you poorly? You’re unsettled for a reason. Do you feel you can be your genuine authentic person when you’re with him? A good man wants to protect those he cares about. Even if it’s protecting you FROM himself. And he wants a pat on the back for doing the honorable thing?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/25 12:13 AM
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I think you have a valid question, I’ve ran across that before, but I would give it some more time before going there maybe on the second date ask that question.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 08:49 PM
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I would respectfully disagree with this observation. She talks about this too. And when she talks about men and women, she clarifies by saying most men and most women, assuming that most men and women want to do well and take care of their partner. She also states clearly that in studying men for over 30 years, she came to understand women a lot better too. In both her understanding men and understanding women courses, she presents the material by contrasting. I was frustrated as a female just f…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/25 12:23 AM
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I am a huge fan of Allison’s. She would talk about how to communicate this to your significant other and it’s a matter of explaining that what having him pick up after himself does for you and when it provides for you. She has a mini webinar called a great ask and beyond, and she talks about how to structure it so that they respect what you’re asking for because they understand respect And if this is a dealbreaker for you, then you need to know that upfront. Not all men are messy, shoot my broth…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/25 12:16 AM
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Absolutely and I credit Alison Armstrong. I’m more comfortable in my skin and being a women and I appreciate men so much more overall.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/25 02:45 AM
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SISTER!!! what has he done to earn your loyalty and respect?!?!? I guarantee you, healthy honorable men have ZERO respect for him. If good men don't respect him, he is NOT worthy of yours. He is not taking any responsibility for his choices. If you're 'causing him to make bad choices' then why would he stay with someone that has a negative influence on him. He's not respecting himself with that decsion. He is literally avoiding any personal responsibility when you follow his logic to the conclus…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/25 12:27 AM
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She’s the 2nd person I’ve heard to respond with ouch. I’m like you I need time to process and I’ve been a horrible people pleaser in the past. I still struggle with it. If he’s using words like ‘she is always upset’ Are the good times worth you having to walk on eggshells? Are you trying to address imaginary issues a or are these serious issues that need to be addressed so you can feel sale, loved and cherished in the relationship? I might be wrong here, but as I’m rereading what you’ve written,…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 08:58 PM
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If he’s struggling to take ownership of his actions/decisions now, that will ONLY GET WORSE. that’s a character flaw and personally for a huge dealbreaker for. I’m not perfect, I abhor making mistakes but I will suck it up and admit when I do. Almost every one of my friends husbands’ waste 30 minutes EVERY time playing victim, deflecting, defunding what they and sometimes they’ll admit they screwed up, but then after they admit it, “it’s whoa is me, I’m such a bad person, why are you with me… “ …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 08:26 PM
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This is controlling and only gets worse. He’s a sick man, and not worth your time. I’ve watched my friend get worn down but this, the sexual coercion is horrible. Either she’s too into sects because she’s thinking of someone else, or if she’s not into it she’s thinking of someone else, when she has her regular appt like you do, she’s sucking off her coworker while her boss is railing her from behind. He is sick in the head and until he acknowledges that HE has a problem it DOES NOT GET BETTER.wh…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 03:07 AM
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You have a point about the messaging. I’m not on a lot of social media myself. I just enjoy learning, especially when it makes my life better. I like Alison Armstrong because after reading the Queen’s Code, I started realizing maybe there wasn’t anything wrong with me. My emotions and feelings didn’t mean I was inferior to men. The things I loathed about myself, men actually want and appreciate. I also learned my instincts are for survival and are counter intuitive to fostering good relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 05:36 PM
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I get what you’re saying. Here’s the thing about Alison Armstrong, she has a lot of free content on her website. She’s never offered this class as a gift before. I’ve been learning from her for over 8 years now and I’ve only ever signed up for specials she’s offered. Search her on YouTube, you’ll find men and women interviewing her from all types of backgrounds. Most importantly what she teaches regarding men vs women, or hunters vs gatherers, is so spot on. I’ll ask male friends about certain c…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 05:17 PM
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Alison’s been studying men for over 34 years and she still hasn’t learned everything there is to know about them. She learned she was a frog farmer, meaning she was meeting princes and turning them into frogs based on how she was treating them. This course, she’s offering for free, is more about learning about yourself and learning to honor yourself. One really profound concept she shares is that we will only let people love us to the extent we love ourselves. Alison puts Extraordinary Relations…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 05:06 PM
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I was really just quoting Alison Armstrong, she should get the credit 😊
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 07:54 PM
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okay this was harder to answer than I thought it would be. Here's my stab at it, what I needed to know back then. It's OK to ask why, it is not a sign of rebelliousness or a sinful nature. It's another indicator of intelligence. Just because no one else has the same idea or thoughts, doesn't make you wrong. Sometimes you see things differently than other people and there's nothing wrong with that, In fact the world needs different views. Yes, you have bigger boobs than the other girls, but that …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 07:51 AM
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That’s a great question and thank you for asking. Let me formulate that and I’ll come back and answwer
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/24 11:00 PM
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Finally!!!! Someone else to discuss this with. She’s so good, after the Bible she’s had the 2nd or 3rd biggest influence on my life. Her site is having a GREAT sale right now. 45%off a lot of stuff. I’ve taken or read most everything that’s on sale if anyone has any questions! I want everyone to know what she teaches. But then I’m always worried when people hit the big time too. I figure if a Searcher comes across her, then they’re worthy of her information.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 08:56 AM
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The Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong Just search podcasts for Alison Armstrong. You’ll find a slew of interviews and will give you a really good idea on how to embrace your femininity and, start understanding who men truly are I’m comfortable in my body for the first time, no longer resent that I’m a romantic, and have so much hope about finding a future spouse. OH!!!!!! She has an amazing sale going on right now, 45% off a lot of her products. I already done most everything that’s currently on …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 06:28 AM
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I think I’m one of those people that can fall in love easily, but I remember seeing a TED talk about that. Very interesting.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 04:11 AM
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He’s got good stuff!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 04:10 AM
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Interesting. That’s the first time I’ve heard it that way. Do you happen to know the source? I love to research and want to be in the best space for when I get married again.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 01:03 AM
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You’re asking how be stable. You become stable by addressing your issues and healing. Babe, with all the love in my being, you need to get at the root of your insecurities, address them and heal from them. When you ‘control your insecurities’, this means you’re not being transparent with your partner. This will erode over time and they will come out in other ways you will not be able to control. I could be wrong but I would almost guarantee he already has an idea that the feelings are there. We …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 05:01 AM
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YOU determine YOUR own worth.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 11:48 PM
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Feeling free to fart is literally one of the first signs of true vulnerability and intimacy in a relationship. Men get aroused and turned on when they realize we are turned on by them. Our passion will ignite their passion. Did you ever initiate in your sex life? Would you consider letting him have some transition time to wind down when he returns home from work and when he’s ready, greeting him with a very passionate kiss? Does he get to have some transition time when he’s off work and coming h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 08:40 PM
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Two?!?! I’ve only ever heard one a week. when I was married, I think I would’ve been happy with once a month
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 08:34 PM
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I haven’t don this my self BUT I read a book that showed me how I could have. the Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong she has been studying men for over 30 and let me tell you, men are AMAZING. Alison text Riesen in as Harry females. I’m still grappling with that image personally. But when they do something wrong we think it’s wrong because we think they know better but really they may perform the same actions but their logic and motivation is completely different than us, and she breaks it down so…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 08:04 AM
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Would you be open to seeing a therapist on zoom? I’m in Atlanta and I can prob get you a couple of names.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/24 07:35 PM
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You’re going to have to consciously change your thought pattern. May I ask why you can’t a to on it?
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 12:09 AM
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That’s an interesting problem. Have you heard of Alison Armstrong? You can search her name for interviews on YouTube. I’m wondering if on a certain level you’re emasculating them and don’t realize it. The behavior you’re describing sounds incredibly frustrating. Either you’re around a bunch of very unhealthy men or they’re reacting to you for some reason (not that that’s a good reason to behave as they are).
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 03:18 AM
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That’s so awesome, thank you for sharing your story!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 05:43 AM
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You are describing a lot of red flags. First and foremost, a healthy man wants you to feel safe and protect you. How do you see him treat other people is how he will eventually treat you, for good or bad. Is that the kind of person you want to tie yourself to for the rest of your life? Not his potential, but who he is as he is right now.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/24 12:50 PM
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I would believe him when he tells you what he wants. You need to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you and from what you’ve shared it sounds like it is. I would def be tested for STD’s and since you mentioned your great sexual chemistry, stop having sex with him until you’ve decided what you can live with. I would advise honoring yourself first but you need to define what that looks like for you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 02:07 AM
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Oh gosh. That’s a good challenge. I need to noodle on it. It might be more of a synopsis of Alison Armstrong’s work since that’s where I learned it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 05:52 PM
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Wow that’s an incredible realization and break thru! Google frog farmer. I would be more specific but I get in trouble like I’m selling something and I am not. Feel free to DM me if you want more info. I learned and understood men in a better light. We emasculate them all the time and don’t even know it. It’s really devastating. Conversely I started understanding myself better and accepting myself as well. I’m in awe you were able to come to this conclusion on your own. Took me decades.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 06:41 PM
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We can’t control our feelings, but we can control our thoughts. One thing I did to move on from someone is I Cchanged their contact photo to something unattractive. My ex loved Buccee‘s and Buccee’s overwhelms me. So when he texts or calls and I see that logo, my first thought is Ugh! Instead of AWW HE’S CALLING ME!!! If you find your thoughts drifting and going down a rabbit hole, tell yourself ‘he’s not for me, but there is someone even better out there!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 11:52 PM
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“He’s been struggling in his career/finances. For context, we are both healthcare professionals. When we started dating, he was finishing up school and getting ready to take his licensure exam. He’s since taken it twice and failed by only a few points or 1-2 questions. It’s been incredibly frustrating for him and I think he resents me for making more money.” Since this is the case, Maybe you can look at it this way, he’s experiencing hardship and most likely feeling insecure, so he’s criticizing…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 06:29 AM
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I’ve yet in my life to hear of a man using the phrase a “real woman or a real man” and that man be emotionally mature. I just read a bunch of dealbreakers. What keeps you with this person?!?!? BTW pretty much every person has a leg longer than the other, it’s just more noticeable in some people. Health wise it would be good to see a chiropractor and get a lift for the shorter leg. Your body will thank you as you age! At best you two aren’t a good fit, and in a worst case scenario, he’s an AH and…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 06:24 AM
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You’ll be more happy and have more fun when you are able to accept yourself, know who you are and are able to relax into that. I’m not currently in a relationship, but working on those things myself has really allowed me to feel more settled. I used to be so anxious, wary, always worried what I was doing wrong. I still struggle with those things but it’s become the exception as opposed to a way of life.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:01 PM
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You can’t. You can only work on being the healthiest version of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 09:53 PM
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Thank you, I was too reactive with that. My apologies.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 12:17 AM
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I don’t think it’s really any different than other people dating, you need to know your values and understand where your boundaries should be. Don’t be afraid of sharing your dealbreakers. It’s better to move forward in transparency. I’m in the same boat as far as waiting until marriage. I’m divorced and I won’t have another sexual partner until I get married. I am a Believer and in away you would think there’s a certain expectation about waiting until marriage but oddly enough even among Believ…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/24 05:38 PM
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Dating is a time in life where you learn a lot about yourself. You’re might be tired of hearing this, but you’re still young and learning. The only pressure you’re feeling is what you’re creating for yourself. Take your time, get to know who you are. You really have no idea of the luxury of time you have at this age. It sounds like you might be a Believer. If you are then you’ve got your guidebook, your foundation. There are plenty of good men out there, and honorable men. When you meet the righ…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 10:43 PM
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Potentially a great man, does not equate to a great man. This is a huge difference between men and women. We look at potential, they look at who we are right now. When he tells you who he is you need to take him at his word. You need to get really honest with yourself with your dealbreakers. Honor yourself first and then decide how much of this works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 03:18 PM
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This is what The Four Agreements changed for me, especially the 2nd & 3rd agreements: Don’t assume anything & Don’t take anything personally. It’s amazing the freedom and strength those have given me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 04:45 PM
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Hahah, that’s fairly true. But I am not a geezer, lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 05:01 AM
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You feed what you focus on. Pick another thought or belief and every time your mind starts drifting back to that person purposely choose to “change the topic”. Instead of what you miss about him, maybe think about the lessons learned, be grateful for the experience and focus on how much better the next one will be. If he was that great and he’s not your guy, that means you’re meant to be with someone who’s even better! Also a little tip that worked for me, I changed the cute photo of him to the …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 04:58 AM
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Some wise friends told me, when I was in a similar situation, that when someone truly cares for you, they don’t leave you wondering what your status is.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 05:44 AM
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This is an interesting post and it’s commendable you’re able to identify this about yourself. I’m curious, how comfortable are you with yourself? Do you have confidence in who you are and do you know who you are? I could partially relate to what you shared. I grew up, always questioning myself if I was giving the appropriate responses, but that was because of my emotional mother and always walking on eggshells around her. And frankly, I had turning point in my life when I was 30 and that was whe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 03:27 AM
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What part of ‘continue improving yourself physically’ is supporting obesity and an eating disorder?!?!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/24 10:08 PM
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You’ll look and feel better when you accept and embrace who you are. Men aren’t as hung up on “imperfections” like women think. Don’t give me wrong. Attraction is a big deal, but they don’t see the same details we do. I would also argue against 23 being your prime. Keep your eyes open and stay out there but keep taking steps to improve emotionally, mentally and physically. If you want to attract a high-value man, you need to become a high value woman. Establishing healthy habits, and especially …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/24 09:25 PM
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Everyone has baggage, it’s more a matter of how they manage it and what they’ve learned from it. You are worthy of a man that worships you and is grateful to be with you. You kind of sound like a catch, and this guy sounds a little slimy. I promise you, it’s a tale as old as time, whatever bothers you about this man now will only become bigger AFTER you exchange vows and then you no longer have options. You’re in a great place in life and he is not a HVM. I mean this with the greatest of love, y…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 07:26 PM
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Do you enjoy kissing? It’s interesting you phrased it as I don’t like being seen in a sexual light. Have you ever explored this, meaning is there a reason you don’t like it or that you could be asexual? Whatever the reason, it’s important to be honest with yourself, learning more about who you are and honor yourself. Also, if you’re considering a future with this man, you’ll need to be honest with him and allow him to make his own decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 03:45 PM
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Consciously or unconsciously it sounds like he’s messing with you. Sex and money are both sensitive topics in relationships and not topics to mess around with. It sounds like you have a very high drive, but his sounds almost non-existent. I was married to someone with a lower drive and it was up to me to initiate, but he was almost always receptive.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 11:24 PM
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Depending on his love language cooking WITH him could be considered quality time or supporting his cooking by being his soux chef could be considered acts of service. I would love to date a cook, it’s on my wishlist!
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 12:21 AM
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You sound like you’ve had normal, expected experiences and stayed chaste. I don’t hear anything there that’s regretful. Now, if you’re still talking to a guy that you flirted with in the past, that might be cause for concern. Another thought, something I keep learning the ‘hard way’ is: we feed what we focus on. If you keep worrying about the past and what might or might not have been mistakes, you’re keeping them a high priority in your mind. Would you have done anything differently looking bac…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 08:56 PM
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Sounds like control. But whether it’s regret or control neither are good signs, when he could be mature and adult about it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 11:53 PM
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Absolutely disrespectful to his marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 04:57 PM
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Statistically speaking- the greater the age gap more than 4-5 years, the likelihood of divorce goes up exponentially. I married to man almost 9 years older than me. When I was younger the age gap wasn’t noticeable. When he was approaching 50, and I 40, I could really see how it would impact our lives. The age gap wasn’t the reason for divorce, but just wanted to add that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 03:15 AM
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I get this. I started dating again for the first time in almost 30 years and have also decided to abstain until marriage again. I didn’t know where to draw the line though. We broke up and remained friends. Ultimately we weren’t a good fit for each other’s lifestyles. I finally realized only a couple of months ago, that I most likely won’t be able to remain friends with him when I’m in a relationship. I feel like that would disrespectful to the current partner. So now I have a new perspective go…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/24 07:14 AM
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I used to struggle with this. I got to a point where I finally needed to know who I was, so I knew what boundaries I needed in my life. I’m learning who I am, what I want from a partner and what I’m willing and not willing to provide in a relationship. I'm finally identifying what my highest values are. It's changed my thinking from, can I attract that person, to will they improve my life or not. These are some of my boundaries for reference and these are just mine based on experience: - How the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 06:14 AM
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If you’re thinking about how to talk to Guy 2 to end it, it might be that you two aren’t a good fit. If he’s not wanting to think about the future and you’re looking for more security in a relationship, you have a major mismatch right there.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 03:18 AM
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It ended, ultimately we weren’t a good fit, but we’ve remained friends. It took a while to get over him, I really thought he might’ve been the one. We both really thought that but with enough time, it became apparent, there were a few differences that were too great for it to last in the long term. It was an amazing first dating experience after getting divorced.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:39 PM
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Once you’ve crossed one boundary physically, it’s almost impossible to go backwards. I say almost, because I don’t want to limit God, lol I’ve struggled with this myself this last year. I started dating again and met an amazing guy. Neither of us could really decide where to draw the boundary, other than we were both waiting. But where to draw the line before that was hard to decide.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:30 PM
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I’m sorry for your pain, but you just dodged a 20yr waste of time and heart ache. He’s punishing you for his problems. Run and learn what lessons you can from this to avoid similar men in the future. With that mindset he shouldn’t even be dating. He needs to work on his heart and his relationship with Jesus. I think the one thing you didn’t really address was your own choices. He ‘led you to sex in the third date”. You had a choice, multiple choices. I don’t know where you draw your boundaries b…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 06:42 AM
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There’s being sensitive to his trauma and then there’s managing his trauma for him. This is part huge red flag. He needs to seek professional help to process his trauma. I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt here, but I have a friend whose relationship sounds just like yours and he got even more controlling after they married and eventually cheated on her in retaliation for “cheating on him” except she’d never even looked at another man, it was all in his head.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 04:23 PM
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I’m really curious, you’ve other forums jump to calling this an abusive relationship but you disagree? How do you define an abusive relationship? How do you define a healthy relationship? Either way you define those, this is not a HVM and he has not proven himself worthy of you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 04:00 AM
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1st - You need to be able to talk about sex in a healthy relationship. 2nd - it doesn’t matter what we think about this. If it bothers you then it bothers you. This may be something where your values don’t align. Also Porn addiction is a real problem, more common than we think. He may not have it but only going to third base with you after a year and porn in the picture are red flags and combined together. Just for the record I’m someone who’s waiting until marriage so it’s not that I think you …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 03:09 AM
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It's incredibly honorable to always be searching for the truth, but remember it's not just truth about other people but also about yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 01:42 AM
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Here's the thing, if you focus on being your healthiest/strongest self, you become UNATTRACTIVE to manipulators. I just learned this recently myself. There's this book The Voice of the Heart - Chip Dodd (in all transparency, I am a Believer and the author is a Christian) I came across a set of videos on youtube where he teaches the principles of our emotions, how they're meant to help us and he also shows when you don't acknowledge your feelings, what that looks like and the damage it causes. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 01:41 AM
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Honey, you can’t see it, but this is like a huge big red flag that’s waving in your life. This is his problem that he needs to address and needs to seek help but you’re the one paying for it. This is not how a healthy man is supposed to lead his home and take care of his family by falsely accusing them of things, this is called emotional abuse. You should feel safe and cherished not defensive and isn’t free to be authentic. I know you’re doing what you can to survive but there is a cost to suppr…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 05:28 AM
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He doesn't sound like he's in a place to consider a LTR. Another way to look at is too many of your values do not align and he doesn't sound like a good fit for you. I have a friend who's married and her husband doesn't have many friends and he thinks if two men grab a beer or coffee together, everyone assumes they're gay. He's in his 40's thinking like an adolescent.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 09:28 PM
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I feel that this is all a choice no? It is a choice and you two might have different values. I don't have 1 friend that would propose a trip and then discuss the finances afterwards. That's just bad communication on his part. Finances are always going to be a sensitive subject, that's why it's important that it's something the both of you can safely communicate about. If he doesn't understnad how you feel about this, he's not listening to you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 08:19 PM
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Super hot bath or hot tub before sex.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 07:20 PM
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If he doesn’t like your style then it sounds like he isn’t a good fit for you. You’re both young and each are learning what’s important to you. He liked your style well enough to commit to a relationship. It doesn’t make sense that he doesn’t like your style now unless he thought he could change you. Whether it’s frumpy or too revealing, he accepted it when he committed to you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 06:28 PM
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Missjaiya.com There is a quiz, and it gives you language to discuss this with your significant other
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 04:46 AM
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It is muuuuuch worse to settle and then be tied to that person with kids. Now you still have freedom and the power of choice.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 08:47 PM
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You were on the right path, and if you think about it, what you’re looking for is not common, and that makes it more valuable, which it is. So, just keep working on yourself, and you’ll see things change your view changes, your attitude changes, and that attracts different people to you, the people you want to be around. I know it’s so cliché, but it is also so true.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 05:20 AM
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I totally agree with you! Even though I watch TV and movies and read books and know that it’s all fiction it has still limited my understanding of who men really are, and they’re just as complex and diverse as women are. And that idea, that belief excites me because I believe that if I’m doing what I should be doing and putting myself out there that our paths will cross and I’ll find someone that fits my unique set of needs and I’ll fit his Mine are in a pretty mixed set of values & beliefs. Som…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 05:05 AM
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Am I missing something here? As a woman who believes that the husband is the head of the home, we still get to choose who we marry. We get to choose who were willing to submit to. So if your career and where you live is very important to you, then those are things you two will work out together. Especially when you’re up front about your dealbreakers. There are also men out there who don’t like to move and want to stay in one city. They’re out there, you can find one.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 04:00 AM
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With my last break up, I was so hung up on him, but when I realize the relationship needed to end, I was still focused on him. And I couldn’t figure out how to convince my heart to let go of this. But then I finally realized that I needed to look at the experience and what I learned from it as opposed to focusing on the person. And that helped me shift pretty quickly to getting over him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 03:54 AM
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same, I had a physical reaction. I can't think of a good reason for this that isn't an indicator of a major red flag. You're incredibly accommodating, but this bears more. understanding on his viewpoint. If he's this insecure about how he's seen in public with total strangers, what is he insecure about with close relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 08:56 PM
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Get out now. It doesn't get better. It just sounds like the two of you aren't a good fit. 2 years are when the 'masks' come off. If you're not content with the current state, it's not going to get better. These are hard wired personality differences.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 05:32 AM
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Please PLEASE Walk away from this man, and start the journey to understanding your VALUE. Romantic or not, this man is a waste of your time and energy. If you can’t walk away, you need to ask yourself why.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 01:41 AM
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You are, of course, correct. A better explanation would be from the Hunter/Gatherer perspective. Traditionally women as Gatherers have diffused awareness, more commonly thought of as multi-tasking. Instinctually it’s what keeps us safe Whereas Hunters typically focus on one thing at a time. So if your Hunter is trying to wind down for the day watching sports or on his phone, his brain is literally not in a space to hear you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 10:22 PM
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The other side of this could be when you’re talking to him, he is not in a head space to be able to listen. Before you start trying to share something with him you could try asking if it’s a good time. Also try asking when is the best time to try talking to him. If he isn’t allowing any space in the relationship for you to share that’s on him. Guys don’t multi-task like women do. They tend to focus on one thing at a time. If they’re winding down from getting off work, try asking after that trans…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 06:11 PM
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I wasn’t saying she should find someone else. More that she needs to examine her own needs and priorities. If this is important enough to her then he MIGHT not be the right fit.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 07:47 PM
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I don’t mean this to come across as harsh, but if your boyfriend isn’t capable of meeting your needs, then you need to find another potential partner. Knowing that our partner desires us is such a foundational thing in a relationship that if you’re not feeling that then something is very wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 10:41 PM
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So he was cheating on you in the relationship, and blamed you for his affair. That is classy! You’re mourning the loss of possibility or the what ifs and I get it. It hurts. I’m in he middle of it myself, we weren’t a good fit, but man I swept myself away seeing all the possibilities. I had to end it because it wasn’t working anymore. We ended on good terms, and I’m really fighting letting it go. I know it doesn’t feel like it yet, but you have dodged a major bullet. This hurts now, but imagine …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 04:05 AM
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If this is your flaw, then you need to identify the source work on what it in yourself. This could be because it helps distract you from flaw within yourself. I’m not trying to be judgmental, it’s something I’ve struggled with also. I’m pretty sure it’s a codependency issue. 🙋‍♀️ I will say one book that’s really helped me grow and change my mindset is The Four Agreements. I listened to this on tape several times. It would calm me down when my boss or my mom would frustrate me and my mind was sp…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 10:48 PM
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I just heard this recently and it is so helpful!!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 10:17 PM
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The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong - its an easy but profound read, life-changing The Four Agreements - the intro is kinda 'woo-woo', so just start with the 1st agreement, and continue from there. The 2nd and 3rd agreements were what I ended up focusing on and practicing. It's incredibly freeing to #2 Don't take anything personally & #3 Don't make assumptions. We can be so critical & judgemental, and then take things very personally, and MOST of the time, it has NOTHING to do with you. I can't…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 09:00 PM
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Alison Armstrong - she's no redpill but what she teaches on, a lot of it lines up with RP naturally. She's studied men for over 30 years and how she breaks down the differences between men & women is really incredible It's turned my world around. I wish I'd learned this before I ever married. I will also say, learning from her, I've learned to accept and appreciate myself as a female.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 05:59 PM
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He sounds incredibly unhealthy. I know you're grieving it ending, but in the long term, I think you will look back and be GRATEFUL he showed his true colors.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 03:13 PM
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You have a very valid reason for why you feel the way you feel and I applaud your intereset in learning a different way to manage this. I HIGHLY recommend The Queen's COde by Alison Armstrong. I read the book and it changed my life/how I approached men. Then she recorded an Audio version and offers and '7 week online experience with Q& A" about the chapter that was read that week. I'm a huge fan and signed up for it. I really didn't think I'd get much out of it since it was so revolutionary for …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 03:56 PM
3

Do you know what you NEED in a partnership versus what you WANT?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:18 PM
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he does go into this and he recommends a pretty aggressive way of going about this. "Get your numbers up!" putting yourself in places to meet new people. He even recommends not having any requirements, just to date a lot and date often. But ONLY if you can hold your boundaries and not sleep with someone or fall in love with them. He says dating is one of the best ways to get to know yourself. He advocates committing to NOT committing to anyone for 6 months, to get to know yourself, push yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:17 PM
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These are excellent questions. I'd like to address the "I want to be an overall perfect woman." She doesn't exisit and this Ideal/Perfect woman in your head will BEAT YOU UP! You're going to have to learn to quiet that voice. There are 3 books that have CHANGED MY LIFE and I've read/listened to them numerous times. The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong: I read this about 5-6 years ago, but she just released, in the last year, an audio version and offers an online experience, with Q&A time with he…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 01:24 PM
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As Dr Henry Cloud says, if you're waiting on God to bring you a man, then I hope you're attracted to the Fedex Driver, lol. Yes, God can or will bring you the person He wants for you, but you have to be out there living your life, not figuratively sitting at home waiting on God. There's a great book that Henry Cloud wrote "How to get a date worth keeping". It's a really balance Biblical view of dating. It's an easy read, and the best part is the last half of the book is all about the types of re…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 12:52 PM
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I remember hearing that in a sermon years ago, I loved seeing it again.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 12:47 PM
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Christian view here..... I grew up being busty & curvy (think 50's pinup) and was always overly conscious of my figure. I have friends that get hit on all the time etc... and not me. I used to believe it meant I wasn't as attractive. Now I've finally learned some universal truths: men don't need women to wear attention getting clothes, they notice our figures naturally. The way God designed Men and Women, they don't need the obvious put in front of them to appreciate the female form. If that dat…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 08:38 PM
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This is where he shouldn't have entered into a realtionship with you in the first place if that is really what he values. His actions haven't backed up his words, but now he's acting on his words, and it just causes heartache.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 07:26 PM
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The queens code by Alison Armstrong!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 04:08 AM
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They’re born with the natural instinct to protect. But a man can only be attacked so many times, and they switch to protecting themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 12:29 AM
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I was married to someone almost 9 years older for almost 20 years. It wasn't creepy at all, but I will tell you my observations: the age gap wasn't a big deal for a long time, similar personalities/interests and we both looked younger than we were. We met at 18/27, married at 22/30 I started feeling the age gap at about 35. Also I'm a night owl and he's a morning person. (This can have a huge impact on your sex life) Statistically, the likelihood of divorce goes up exponentially with age gaps gr…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 09:08 PM
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The Queens Code by Alison Armstrong
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 05:22 AM
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I have a friend that married a man like this. Again, she would never cheat, loved him a lot. His verbal abuse has escalated and now, he is the one that has cheated on her. In retaliation for her cheating on him, which she never did. She’s about to serve him papers and I’m terrified for her life. You can’t keep him calm. This is all in his head. You can’t rationalize with someone who is irrational. The question they never seem to answer is if you are a cheater and a hoe, then why are they staying…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 07:07 PM
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It sounds like you both have different values that don't align. This is the perfect time to discover that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 09:48 PM
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For me mom issues = having issues with being a female. I have a tough relationship with my mom. I'm pretty sure she has Borderline Personality Disorder. I could relate to some of the examples you gave. Also I have ZERO desire to have a relationship with her for reference, and I was never close to my dad, and he ended up passing when I was 18. Things I 'learned' growing up: women's emotions were silly, men were better, and it was better to bottle that stuff up. It's taken a long time to unlearn t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:55 PM
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Then he needs to get help to deal with intrusive thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 10:30 PM
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The Four Agreements! Listen to this book on tape, they’re all excellent, but the 2nd & 3rd will really address what your asking about. IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Skip the intro and go straight to the 1st agreement.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 04:19 PM
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It’s up to you to determine how much value you place on your faith. Statistically successful relationships are based on shared values. If your faith is a priority to you, then I’m also going to assume you already know the answer to this. The odds are not in your favor though. Maybe not impossible but definitely not easy. Something you might not know, men and women evaluate potential partners differently. Women look at the potential of a man, but men look at women as they are at that home to feed…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 06:16 PM
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One thing about men, is you don’t have to do something to makeup for how you’ve been treating him. Change your behavior. Own your mistakes and start showing appreciation and respect. Also Alison Armstrong’s the Queens Code is so insightful for men and relationships with them. The book is also an easy read but chock full of incredible information.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 10:40 PM
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I'm a Christian and believe the man is to be the authority figure in the home, but it's a servant leadership not a dictator. I was seeing a Christian therapist a while ago, I was raised in a legalistic church & home, and it was the therapist that taught me that God chastens his children, NOT punish them. And He chastens them to get them back on the right path. There's more going on with your husband. Obviously pray about what's happening in your home. I understand that some of your actions may h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 05:58 PM
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Alison Armstrong just did a webinar about femininity that was really good. https://youtu.be/NySisSsKSSY.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 06:44 PM
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You're feeling that way because your gut is trying to communicate to you that something is wrong. You're struggling because you're compromising your values to be with him. Trying to not be judgmental, I'll say it this way, this is a 'value/belief' of his that you do not have. For most people this is a deal breaker. Can I ask what you get from a relationship with him? What makes being with him more important than you're own peace of mind? At least with masturbation you don't have the risk of STD'…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 04:25 PM
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so first Congratulations for identifying this about yourself. That was really brave. I feel like half the time we get ourselves into trouble because we don't know what we want or need. I get where you're coming. To those saying you should have had this discussion previously, well a. you can't change the past and b. you weren't feeling that way back then and c. people change. A parent dies or they have a near death experience, and it changes their values or perspective. The point is working with …
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/22 07:39 PM
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I'm interpreting a few things from what you wrote: he mislead you intentionally or unintentionally he isn't taking responsibility for his choices and his actions. you're the one experiencing the consequences of his actions. When you keep doing the same thing without a result it's called insanity. I'm wondering if when you're able to sit down and have a nice calm discussion, if you can ask him if he could share or explain how he wants to solve this problem? Sometimes they 'think' about it in thei…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 09:03 PM
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23 is in the middle of a transitional time of really getting to know yourself. It's kind of sounding like you two have opposing values. it's not that you're right/he's wrong or vice versa. If you're having questions about your dynamic together it's absolutely worth exploring them. You need to identify what you want in a relationship and what you need. Is he ablate provide what you need and/or is he willing to negotiate with you about that. That is what partnership is. If he's inflexible, that's …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 04:02 AM
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The anger, the roiling bitter ball of resentment, I can remember it all to well. My sister says my superpower is to construct just the right sentence that will slice someone in half and annihilate them. I'm also a first born and also grew up in church, a pretty strict legalistic baptist church, I'm not asian but I totally get the push to 'perform' or conform to a certain behavior as to appear to be a good Christian girl. To question anything was considered to be rebellious or a backslider. So ma…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 03:52 AM
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I’m curious, are you thinking that going with the flow is a character flaw or not enough? I guess what I’m thinking is he knew this about you when he proposed and married you and because he is so driven he may really appreciate that part of your personality, it may complement him in a way that he really appreciates. A lot of men are happy when their wife is happy. I’m curious if after a month of being married if you’re thinking has gone off course and you’re focusing on just your flaws. I applau…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 02:05 AM
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This is a reality we just can't avoid, but something I keep hearing over and over is men are very attracted to confidence. While they obviously note physical beauty, it's confidence that really draws them. That gives me some peace of mind except I personally need to build my confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 08:43 PM
2

Something about OCD you may already know, but I'm just learning is people with OCD tend to be controlling. I never really put it together until recently. It's really important that they know this about themselves and learn to manage it. But if they don't think it's a problem, it's going to be a lifelong relationship issue, that's just the reality. I feel like OCD is on the extreme end of being detail-oriented/organized. It has it's benefits for sure as you've noted, at the same time everything h…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 08:40 PM
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AGE DIFFERENCE - Another thing I heard lately is not worrying so much about the age difference but the vitality difference. If your energy levels are matched, that's more important the number!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 04:39 PM
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That kind of comment tells you more about that person than about your relationship. ALSO beauty is subjective, AND everyone has different needs for their relationship. Asking how they can 'get someone like you on your country' is such an ignorant question and I'm guessing they're pretty bad at objectifying women. Your man wants to be your hero, make sure he knows that he is, and he'll be pretty happy with that. I love that statement, something about knowing a man, by how happy his partner is. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 04:35 PM
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ooof, this sounds really uncomfortable, I feel for you! There's a couple things that stood out to me: I responded "wow, so quick to judge and criticize!" - this comes across as pretty judgmental and critical in response, even though you were just calling out what he was doing. TO BE CLEAR he was wrong, how he responded I would consider controlling. I've heard that responding with "ouch, that hurt' can be better because it's sharing how you're feeling and not reacting to what he just did. I would…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 04:25 PM
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Maya Angelou, but pretty darn close!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 08:51 PM
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You have to take him at his word. Men are different from women. IF that's what he said, he means that literally. Women look at potential in men, but men look at women as they are right now. You could be setting yourself up for a heartache and in his mind he clearly stated his intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 08:48 PM
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The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 06:34 PM
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I’m sorry you were harassed by that ignorant family member. The right thing is what you and your partner agree to. That is all that matters.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 09:12 PM
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2 years is about the time all the 'masks' come off, and probably any rose-colored glasses as well. Without making any judgements about your SO, it sounds like the both of you aren't a good fit for each other. His needs may be being may by the relationship as it is, but yours obviously are not. Also there's your age. Ignoring the age difference, you're in a stage of life where you're learning who you are. He is past that phase or aged out, however you want to say it. It's perfectly natural at thi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 06:54 PM
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You might want to peruse r/JUSTNOMIL and you'll see you're right on with your instincts about this. That truck story is INSANE! I can't even fathom the audacity of that demand. I probably would have laughed. His mothers bad behavior has NOTHING to do with you being 'asocial' he's denying and deflecting. Yes he's been 'trained' to be this way by his mother, but this will be a life long struggle for the two of you even if he comes out of the FOG. If he never comes out of the FOG it's going to be e…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 12:52 PM
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yes and another book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone It really hit me because I'm someone that would let it go and address it later. This tidbit and another are really stressing to me how intentional I need to be in the beginning and less go with the flow which is my fallback. There was something else I'd learned in the last couple of weeks, about becoming the person being reacted to as opposed to reacting to them Notes I'd taken from that Webinar: Become the person who's being reacted to and …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 08:36 PM
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I think he means the first 10-15 dates with each person, not over your lifetime.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:27 PM
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it's so frustrating also! it's a dangerous word and to be flung so casually at someone who expresses a differing opinion or observation or is sharing a want, it's so annoying. I feel like narcissistic, love-bombing, gaslighting etc... are the current buzzwords but half the people using them don't really understand what they really mean. Or they are narcissistic and using them to abuse/control someone, lol
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 06:39 PM
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I think it's easier to apply critical thought outside of a situation, but I know for me I can get emotionally flooded and start 2nd guessing myself. I've had some pretty bad experiences with narcissistic personalities in the past. At this point I'm more likely to write the person off and they could be innocent. I'm a researcher and like details so I try to arm myself with info or insight to keep in mind when approaching dating. Also for me, it feels like Narcissism is thrown around so much and c…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 06:17 PM
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Got it! Sorry for the confusion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/22 05:49 AM
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I’m not an advertiser, I just really appreciate learning from Alison. A lot of her stuff falls in line with RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 11:12 PM
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The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong (her observations of men as compared to women are so insightful. While I don't believe she is a Christian, I believe her observation of God's design for the male/female dynamic is excellent) Also her book is written as fiction so it makes for an interesting story while you're learning at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 12:47 PM
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Follow-up question - are you looking for him to be wowed or wanting him to show appreciation for your effort and thoughtfulness? This is not meant to be a passive-aggressive critique, just trying to figure out the 'why ' behind this. What need will it meet if/when your husband gets wowed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 06:43 PM
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question - is your husband capable of being 'wowed'? I had a BIL who's 'wow' response was 'it's ok'
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 05:14 PM
1

Costco. I feel like they always have pajamas for sale around Mother’s Day and Christmas. And they’re definitely modest ones.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 05:05 PM
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What about starting a separate sub for Surrendered? There are unhealthy men, but there are certain behaviors that are healthy but we misinterpret.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 06:15 PM
1

The answer is when it is right for you, to honor yourself. When you honor yourself then you’re bringing your whole person to the relationship instead of parts of you. Sex is a PIECE of the relationship not the POINT of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 05:58 PM
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Also came back to add, have you heard of Alison Armstrong? She explains what a Great Ask is and lays out a formula of asking something from a man. Obviously we all speak the same language but some words have different meanings between the sexes. for instance, women tend to prefer to use the work 'issue' instead of 'problem'. But men find the word 'issue ' esoteric whereas 'problem' is something that is concrete to and they can understand more easily. There's another really cool thing I picked up…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 05:32 PM
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you can try sitting down with him and asking for what you need, and then let him know what it means to you when he does these things. You feel cared for, treasured etc.. That's the 'why' that he'll need to hear. Men go through a mental equation on whether the the effort is worth it. When he learns it's something that's important to you, he may rise to the occasion. If you're asking for something that will continue to 'pay dividends' for you, be sure you 'continue' with expressing your gratitude!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 05:29 PM
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yay! I'm so glad. Bras as so hard to find the right fit & cut. Those lines also make bathing suits based on bra size and they're awesome also.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:49 PM
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not sure of your size, but I've found Panache & Fantasie to consistently be the best looking + supportive. If you can I suggest buying several if you can't go to a store to try on and figure out your size. THEN I go on ebay find the right style/sizes and purchase from there. Only new not used. If you're will to spend $50 the french brand Empriente is G L O R I O U S. The heavens opened and I heard angels singing the first time I tried on one of theirs. retail is insane ($200), but if you know yo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:37 PM
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I haven't read Laura Doyle's books yet. I will say the Gottman Institute puts out some really incredible materials, but really I came here to say ALISON ARMSTRONG. She started out 'studying men' over 30 years ago and thought she'd be done in a few months. She isn't done. Her insight in to the male & female dynamic is incredible. If you want to check her out you can open up your podcast app and search by her name to find episodes where she's interviewed. Also going to her website <insert her name…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 06:51 PM
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wow, that is fascinating
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 06:16 PM
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I appreciate what you're trying to communicate. Also Something I recently learned about a difference between men and women is that women like to ask question and to them asking questions shows a sign of interest. But men in general think asking questions is intrusive. So it's a potential communication point to enquire where someone is regarding asking questions. Personally I would be hard-pressed to stay with someone who wasn't interested in my day and that's my preference. I think it comes down…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 05:23 PM
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I really appreciate your frankness and sharing. Would the fact that she's married not be a problem if seeing her as a potential avenue for sex?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 07:04 PM
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That's a tough area of the country but they're out there. I grew up in a small private Christian church and school in the 'burbs there. Have you thought about trying to create a Meetup for this?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:33 PM
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Wow, this guy sounds like the ultimate d!ck! I know you're grieving what you thought you had. You need to process this. At the same time, or a later time, I hope you'll be able to be thankful he did this sooner rather than later. You're only 21. This is the age where you learn so much about yourself and what you really want and need. There are some really good lessons to learn from this experience: don't give so much to a man who gives you so little (not saying I love you for 3 years) Learn your…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 06:08 PM
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if kids are in your future, what is their view on raising them? values they want to instill and how to handle discipline? This is such a hot issue and yet doesn't get discussed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 06:23 PM
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Read The Queen's Code STAT!!! it's written like a story about 3 different women, but the INSIGHTS are insane, my mind was blown so much. Also in a Podcast app search Alison Armstrong and listen to those interviews. She has such amazing insights and you will learn as much about yourself as your husband. You'll learn how your instincts meant to protect you, harm your relationship. Also The Gottman Institute - incredible stuff and everything mentioned here will improve all your relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 06:17 PM
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Do you know what your needs are? What childhood issues have you identified and how did you work on them? You're already in a relationship but I would HIGHLY recommend the book by Dr Cloud - How to get a date worth keeping. The last half of the book addresses potential red flags to look for in a partner and examine yourself with. I cannot recommend the book enough. I was raised in a traditional Christian church and home. Some of his thoughts contradict current beliefs about dating, but they felt …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 06:54 PM
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I search for Alison Armstrong interviews and listen to those. I've also fallen down the Jordan Peterson rabbit hole and working my way through his stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 05:01 PM
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My mom was very emotional, like feelings ARE facts to her, (pretty sure she has Borderline Personality Disorder). I feel I observed my dad having contempt for her emotions and irrationality, so I remember having this message in my head that men are better, don't show emotions (there really wasn't room to have them either). I prided myself on not being your 'typical female'. I wasn't a feminist just that I wasn't "clingy, needy, emotional". In my thirties and definitely now in my forties, I have …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 07:12 PM
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