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Hey friend, I really appreciate you sharing your story. Reading through it honestly felt like I was looking at my own life in some ways. I’m also an introvert at heart, been that way since I was a kid. Up until about 25 I lived a full-on introvert lifestyle, just like you I guess. Then I met this amazing, beautiful goddess of a woman and flipped my life upside down. I went into full extrovert mode for many years, parties, social events, constantly meeting strangers, dating, putting myself out th…
/r/seduction05/09/25 07:47 PM
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Agree with most of what you said, except Models has entire chapters about game, specifically about qualifying, push-pull, frames, leading, what you mentioned. OP has just totally misinterpreted the book and put all the focus on the “being vulnerable and honest” part, so much so that he entirely overcompensated on the “honesty” part ignoring social norms and general human modesty (seeing the video of OP that was linked in the thread.) not Models fault though
/r/seduction30/08/24 10:45 AM
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Which app is it?
/r/seduction12/04/24 07:21 AM
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I was wondering about this, too. I am in a very similar situation to yours. So the woman you ended up staying with always knew your real age? She wasn’t one of those online dates? Where did you meet her then, when the online dating with the lower age was just for fwb’s and fun?
/r/seduction16/02/24 10:14 AM
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Hey, 29M here who skipped years of socializing as a kid and teenager because of attachment trauma and other things that happened in my life. I can relate to this. I was a kissless virgin until 25, preceded by years of social isolation and distraction. With 24 I randomly had a kind of "awakening", tried to steer the wheel around, finally change things. Took me one year from that point to find a beautiful girlfriend, but she was 18 and it was basically this relationship that most people have as a …
/r/seduction19/07/22 10:39 AM
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How old are you if I may ask?
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:24 PM
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This was actually incredibly helpful, thank you kind stranger. Hope it's working out for you too :)
/r/seduction10/03/22 10:56 PM
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Thanks dad. I appreciate it. Gonna be bolder in life.
/r/seduction10/03/22 10:31 PM
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Steady bro, keep your shirt on. Appreciate your advice, but calling me a lying bitch is a bit too much, don't you think? Hahah Gonna try to make a bit of a bold move then. Just wanted to avoid to look like an absolute simp coming back after a year.
/r/seduction10/03/22 10:23 PM
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That's really funny haha. What if it's you? Jk. No, but any ideas what I could say to not make it too weird? Like what would it be that you would want to hear from that guy after such a long time? And did your conversation with him also end by you not replying anymore?
/r/seduction10/03/22 10:18 PM
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Thanks bro. Exactly the info I needed. I think you are right. The gay guy is a friend of both of us. Now I won't waste more time thinking of her as more than a friend. I don't mind having a few really cute female friends. She likely has cute friends too and she is also a great person that I genuinely enjoy. But you know, being the male human I am, of course I'm also attracted to a great body and cute face. Thanks again, now I know where I stand, and to focus romantic advances on other girls. Lot…
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:51 PM
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Amazing post. One of the best I've read here in a long time and I read here everyday. This deserves more traction. Please don't delete, OP. I saved this and gonna re-read tomorrow when I go out for approaches. I can see myself a lot in you. Thank you for summarising your experience and helping others out.
/r/seduction20/01/22 12:55 AM
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I'm not OP, but I'm very grateful for this post. I heard about attachement styles before and did some research but somehow you put the concept into a context that makes more sense for me now. I'm 28 and many of those point you make ring true for me. I might be one of those cases you referred to as an extremely rare case of fearful avoidantly attached person who became self-aware. With 24 I suddenly realized some things, stepped out of my comfort zone and our of coincidence found a girlfriend tha…
/r/seduction25/11/21 12:51 PM
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What are you working with if I may ask? I'm trying to set up a similar life for me, for exactly those reasons (and many more).
/r/seduction03/11/21 07:39 PM
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Thank you so much for all the effort in helping me my friend. Indeed it was a very momentary joy. I saved your post and will have a look into these resources. Much appreciated, my friend. All the very best to you!
/r/seduction03/11/21 12:20 PM
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Not OP, but I love this. Thank you, you're my stranger of the day.
/r/seduction28/10/21 07:50 PM
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Thanks bro, that's a lot of motivation! I'm going to check out this Todd guys YouTube channel. I read "Models" by Mark Manson, which also helped with the inner game. All the best to you too, keep on rocking.
/r/seduction28/10/21 03:35 PM
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Great to hear that! Keep on going my friend.
/r/seduction27/10/21 11:39 AM
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Thanks a lot for the open and honest words, I'm gonna prepare myself for tougher approaches in the future for sure. I was surprised how smooth this one went. The first one was on the universe apparently haha. Yes, action seems to be the best remedy against depression for now. Actually, what you said with making up for lost time, that is one of my main factors of my depression. So much regret. It's sometimes hard to cope with that. I'm. 28, turning 29 in 4 months and I'm just starting this... I a…
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:47 AM
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You can do it!
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:23 AM
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Amazing my friend! Way to go. I'm following your footsteps and many before and after us. Thanks to this sub
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:07 AM
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Thank you my friend!
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:06 AM
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Thanks!! Do you know of similar things that give a healthy dopamine rush like that?
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:05 AM
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It's this 10000x times. I agree. Repetition is key. Going out today again to keep the momentum. Thanks for the moivation. Rewiring of the brain happening now
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:05 AM
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Legend in the making, hopefully. Thanks mate! And thanks for this sub
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:03 AM
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Will do! Thanks!
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:03 AM
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I'm glad I could be of help. Trust me if I can do this, everybody can at this point haha
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:02 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:02 AM
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I'm so glad to hear this! Always good to hear from the approached side lol The funny thing is that I had this massive dread of doing it, but at the same time I know from friends that I am quite witty, polite & I know how to use the right words at the right time (probably from years of being an introvert inside my head haha). But this specific scenario was another world for me, maybe because Society still doesn't really accept this or is trying to put the "creep" sticker on people who do that. Bu…
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:01 AM
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Thank you my friend. I just got that ebook and will try to use it for a date! I definitely don't wanna be her pen pal.
/r/seduction26/10/21 09:41 PM
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This is the way. This approach anxiety has been one of the biggest hurdles of my life so far, ngl. It feels utterly crushing and overwhelming sometimes. I will do my everything to keep this momentum up. I know this feeling of "being closer and closer to actually doing it". But in the end I was just tricking myself into postponing it forever. Now I only count the real deal.
/r/seduction26/10/21 09:34 PM
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Thanks bro! I'm gonna try to implement that advice. Not gonna get too attached.
/r/seduction26/10/21 09:32 PM
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That's amazing! Congrats man, maybe I should have gone for the instant date too. Great, hope you can keep the momentum! I'm gonna try to do this once a day from now on, at least.
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:21 PM
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Thanks bro, I'll try to keep that momentum
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:01 PM
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Thank you, the sub was rooting for me, I could feel it
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:48 PM
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Maybe one day! Thanks bro
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:48 PM
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All for the sub! I really felt this energy of all the people in this sub rooting for me.
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:48 PM
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Thanks, I hoped by sharing this I can inspire some other people who consider themselves hopeless cases
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:47 PM
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Thanks bro, gonna do that. I needed that.
/r/seduction26/10/21 04:20 PM
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You tell me? Hahah I don't knoooow
/r/seduction26/10/21 03:46 PM
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Hey, my friend, just wanted to tell you that your post inspired me to approach the first woman for a looooong time in my life and I actually got her number. It was in the grocery store. Thank you so much brother!!!
/r/seduction26/10/21 03:11 PM
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Only way to get her back is for HER to come back to YOU. That means you don't contact her for ANY reason your brain is telling you right now. Want closure? Fuck closure, just disappear. Keep her wondering what happened to that nice guy. The one thing she'll definitely expect from a nice guy right now is him begging her back on his knees. That's the most unattractive thing you can do. Actionable advice: NO CONTACT Unfollow her from all social media If it's your first gf or you have some kind of u…
/r/seduction12/10/21 03:58 PM
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You don't even know how much this means to me. I'm 28, just starting to learn game. Always seeing them 18 year olds here in the sub and I'm to myself like "dude, your time had passed." Reading this is hugely motivating. Thanks for this bro. I can still score numbers like this which is incredible. All the best to you!
/r/seduction09/10/21 02:12 PM
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How old are you with those numbers?
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:20 AM
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Which city is that?
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:59 PM
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What is your usual opener? Congrats for the discipline and courage!
/r/seduction26/07/21 09:54 PM
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Let's do this boys. I'm in.
/r/seduction17/07/21 10:50 PM
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How did you built natural confidence with your education/career? Asking for a "not great looking at all" friend.
/r/seduction30/06/21 01:10 PM
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Read my post about self-confidence. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ndkkul/the\_skill\_of\_self\_confidence\_repetition/ Watch this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHQv2CR7QVU Change your attitude.
/r/seduction16/05/21 10:18 PM
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I wanted to reply you, but instead made a new post about it, if you are interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ndkkul/the\_skill\_of\_self\_confidence\_repetition/
/r/seduction16/05/21 09:28 AM
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Thanks, yes, that helped. When did you start your journey and how old are you now? I'm pretty much at the same point as OP.
/r/seduction15/05/21 07:19 PM
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How did you become a natural?
/r/seduction15/05/21 06:56 PM
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Amazing story, great way of writing it down. I needed this today. I'm gonna read the last paragraph at least a dozen more times. Would love to hear a follow-up of the date that came out of this story.
/r/seduction15/05/21 06:03 PM
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Same in Germany bro. It's a different world here in Northern/Central Europe compared to what I see and read from North America. However, see the positive side. Girls here are even less used to being cold approached than in North America. There is far less competition and far more profit to be made. Sure the initial hurdles may be higher, as approaching someone is even less socially approved as in NA, but high risk high reward.
/r/seduction08/05/21 11:36 PM
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How old are you if I may ask? I also feel like the train has departed for me already, I may be too late to jump on it now. I had a long term relationship most of my early twenties and now I'm in my late twenties and slowly starting to get into seduction and cold approach , but I feel like it takes years to get good.
/r/seduction08/05/21 11:26 PM
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Thanks Bro. I know this in my head, but it just seems physically impossible sometimes. I guess I just have to push myself beyond my current capabilities.
/r/seduction08/05/21 10:12 PM
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How old are you? Just curious
/r/seduction03/05/21 09:32 AM
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Supermarkets, book stores, parks, public squares, public transportation. Where there is a will, there's a way.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:10 AM
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Solid advice, thanks for the details bro. I'm taking two main things out of this: Don't think, let your thoughts naturally flow & show confidence in every way, even if you don't feel it in the beginning. For my first 100 (well I already got like 10) I'm gonna use that canned line, wish me luck. I already started watching some YouTube prankster approach videos and noted everything I found out about good lines, openers, etc and they do it very similar to how you described it. I'm still in that pha…
/r/seduction20/03/21 10:02 PM
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May I ask, do you have a go-to phrase to hit off a conversation in daygame?
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:23 PM
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Great post. I always like the posts of experienced dudes who learned their lesson through real life exposure in some way or another. Some things seem obvious and 'basic', but they are so hard to implement in each and every situation of your life. Just like you said it 'The Nice Guy never dies'. Men also sometimes like to just chill, not have to make all the decisions, not always pretend to be a f-ing rock in a scary universe. But in the end, this is what you're meant to be as a Guy, and this is …
/r/seduction11/03/21 08:10 PM
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What's WA?
/r/seduction11/02/21 07:45 PM
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ahaha I like the idea, but I also have a thing for funny romantic situations. I think it depends on the guy. If there was some kinda tension the whole date but he didn't go for a kiss PLUS he seems like a genuinely funny guy, I believe playing the song from the little Mermaid in his car should be a valid way of giving him a huge friggin broad hint to do the deed, finally. Speaking from a personal perspective (27,m), I'd giggle my ass off and definetely do it. I like the idea, honestly. Go for it…
/r/seduction11/02/21 11:45 AM
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Absolutely amazing read. Saved it, need this right now. Gonna check out your channel. Thanks for sharing this
/r/seduction11/02/21 09:06 AM
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Hard to tell without details, but probably you need to learn how to screen better. That means watch out for body signals (crossed legs, smiling) and conversation signals (she asks questions, shows engagement). If this is not the case and she shows disinterest, leave her be, reject her yourself. On your side you need to be more flirty and set your frame right. You are there to flirt with her and you want to communicate that this is a thing between man and woman.
/r/seduction09/02/21 07:58 PM
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Thank you for the honest reply - and for the compliment. I hope so. Any idea how to still save this?
/r/seduction17/01/21 12:00 AM
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Thanks, I will try the drinking game with the bottle for sure. Thank you!
/r/seduction16/01/21 11:55 PM
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Thank you! What makes you think that? Most people in this thread seemed to think differently :)
/r/seduction16/01/21 11:54 PM
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Are you ironic or for real? I will text her tomorrow, it is after midnight already here in Europe
/r/seduction16/01/21 11:49 PM
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Thank you very much! I will try the stair steps next time. I like the one with the freckles. She actually had freckles. It's so hard to do these things out of nowhere with no experience. Step by step. I will write her tomorrow, it's after midnight already in Europe.
/r/seduction16/01/21 11:46 PM
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Could I have flagged the post differently to keep it up? It was helping me a lot.
/r/seduction16/01/21 11:11 PM
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I did. It is what it is now. Maybe it happened for a reason? I feel like I learned a lot from this thread.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:46 PM
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Will do next time. I fucked this one up. Paying the price now :(
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:46 PM
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I tried, I moved real close to her, sometimes we sat leg to leg, but I didn't know if it was okay to do more. The problem is also I have problems with self-esteem with myself, my looks, so it is tough for me sometimes to see if someone genuinely likes me or just is being polite. I didn't know if she was attracted to me, but now that all these guys are showing me these signs I see she obviously was. I just cannot read it, I couldn't see it. It is really hard if you don't speak the language, if yo…
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:45 PM
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I feel sorrow too. I'm paying the price for missing out on this, she was real cute. 7 hour dates don't just happen for no reason. Really liked her. This one's on me. A man gotta learn. This is the way.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:43 PM
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I couldn't believe it too. This one's gonna sting for a while. Thank you my dude.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:42 PM
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😂 ah Jesuuuus, I fucked up.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:42 PM
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No I'm not blaming her at all. I am just confused. I got a big wake up call in this thread. I didn't even escalate, I fucked up my man. We all gotta learn somehow. This one stings a lot to be fair. I am paying my price for not doing the deed. Lots of sorrow on my side. I swear I didn't realize how hard I fucked up before this thread.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:41 PM
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Why now and not tomorrow? It's almost midnight now doesn't it feel kinda weird to send a text now?
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:35 PM
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I love how heartbreakingly honest you guys are, but it hurts hahah 😭 I didn't spend 7 hours with her because I didn't like her. I hope she saw that and doesn't think that I wasn't interested. I mean who spends 7 hours with someone who they aren't interested in. I fucked up anyway. Thank your for your radical honesty :)
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:30 PM
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Thank you a lot for this analysis my friend! I appreciate it a looot. I really am a fuckin rookie with these things. I started recently and I am pretty lost most of the time. This is gold advice for me, thank you very much. I have a lot of problems with escalating and KINO. It is really a lot for me, has always been. I know I have to initiate, but I don't know how to read signs at all! So we didn't exactly go to my place, but to my office (which is like an apartment, because I work for a start-u…
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:57 PM
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Thanks for the honest reply. I fucked up, I see it now. I'm not that young, mid 20s, but I started dating recently. I have very little experience and basically all I know is from YouTube and Reddit. I will take your advice to heart. I have another date tomorrow with another girl, it's a 2nd one. I will do my best. Thanks again.
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:50 PM
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You're right. I swear it sounds and looks so easy when I read it here, but in the moment I have some complete blockages with these things. I just don't know when is the right time to make a move, but maybe I'll never feel like it's the right time. Thanks for your honest reply, I need honest words.
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:46 PM
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Maybe, I fucked up then. I really don't wanna be a creep and I just don't know when is the right time to initiate something. I have literally no feeling for these things. I hope with time & practice I know better. She was really cute and we could talk for hours. Damn. Thanks for the honest reply.
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:45 PM
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I don't know. It has been 2 1/2 hours now and I feel like if that was the case, she would have sent me a message already saying something about the date or suggesting another one. But she went complete silent so far. Gonna give it some time. I'm so confused.
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:14 PM
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No, I feel like that would have been way too much in those situations. We sat close, but I didn't feel any energy or signs from her. She had a very hard time keeping eye contact. I think she was nervous but kept talking and talking. We sat literally right next to each other, but I didn't see any oppourtnity to touch her. I need at least some eye contact to start touching her leg or smth, she was avoiding eye contact a lot. But I don't get it, she had 7 hours to leave, why would she waste 7 hours…
/r/seduction16/01/21 09:13 PM
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