7 hour date (!) gone wrong?

zaphaq · 2021-01-16T22:43:48+00:00

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trouble-kinda · 2021-01-16T21:25:11+00:00

IMHO-

She spent 7 hours waiting for you to fuck her, then left feeling rejected.

mehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh · 2021-01-16T21:08:13+00:00

Maybe she really likes you and wants it to be more than a quick bang?

BruddaRed · 2021-01-16T21:47:47+00:00

BROOOOOOO!!!!! Okay let's take this from the top cause we gotta review what exactly is happenin here.

Quick first date is great especially from Tinder. She probably planted that seed with you incase she met you, wasn't feelin ya, n wanted to bounce. Buuuuut she was feelin ya HEAVY and that's why she stuck around. Y'all went to different locations and had a nice date, I saw in one of the comments below that you hadn't touched her at all, but that's okay because you still took her home!! Now for future reference, yes, you HAVE to touch and escalate through KINO. Start subtly and work your way up. A great way to practice this is think, two steps forward, one step back. Anyways, y'all back at your place cause she wanted to fuck. EVERY GIRL KNOWS WHAT IT MEANS TO GO BACK TO A GUY'S CRIB!!! That being they finna fuck or at the very least sex is on the table and certainly a possibility. You can ask any woman and they'll agree. But unfortunately that didn't happen because you were too concerned with making a move...

So here's what you need to learn from this. You need to initiate everything as the man. You claimed she never touched you, but that's where you pick up the slack and begin by touching her. I guarantee she'll start touching you as well. A little hand placement on the leg goes a long way, try going that when she says something funny or unbelievable. Then again, she went back to your place open to having sex with you, but 9 time outta 10 she's not going to be the one to initiate that with you on a first date. You have to be the one to initiate and see how far you can go, again... Two steps forward, one step back. Start kissing her on the lips, move on down to kissing her neck, feel her up a bit, she doesn't like that? Stop feelin her up and continue kissin her and try feelin her up again later. But with all that said I feel it necessary to make this clear so that there is no confusion, NO WILL ALWAYS MEAN NO so don't push it.

If you'd like to see her again, I would suggest waiting a few days, then invite her out to do something with you n see if she tags along. For example, "Wassup Jane, I'm feelin some tacos HEAVY rn and I wanted to see if you'd like to go get some with me later tonight"

diegggs94 · 2021-01-16T22:22:33+00:00

My first thought..

Girl: yeah in Japan I met this guy and after we got tea I blew him while watching the sunset.

OP: looking at the sun heh, hey what’s your favorite kind of tree?

Jhadiro · 2021-01-16T21:29:07+00:00

Make a move. Even if the timing feels off. You're on a date, If you make a move and she doesn't reciprocate then great, now you know she isn't interested.

You just wasted both her time and yours.

slowhandz49 · 2021-01-16T21:57:14+00:00

She’s wondering why you didn’t fuck her. You missed it buddy.

BouncyBlue12 · 2021-01-16T22:24:14+00:00

So it only went badly because you didn't end up f***ing? She gave you 7 HOURS of her time and then had to leave. That sounds like a great date. That being said.... You could have made a move if you had wanted to. She may have thought that you weren't interested if you didn't initiate any touching or a kiss. I would have left too.

bdelgatto21 · 2021-01-16T22:35:40+00:00

Idk doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. Maybe she was on tinder for dates, not a quick bang. She is getting to know you and feel comfortable around her

sailormoon42020 · 2021-01-16T22:38:15+00:00

What makes you think this was a “failure”? Sounds to me like it went really well and she enjoyed your company so much she stayed all day!

aloe_shearer · 2021-01-16T22:04:07+00:00

My mans you had a 7 hour window where she was talking about sex and kinky shit and you didn’t clap them cheeks. You done fucked up.

joli7312 · 2021-01-16T22:09:14+00:00

Sometimes you gotta go Donald T on 'em...jus grab' 'em by the pussy

rockyroad25 · 2021-01-16T22:15:39+00:00

Did you initiate any kind of touching ? that's the big question. You mention "There was also no body contact from her side, no touching, nothing" . If she didn't initiate, you should've and see how she reacted. A 7 hour long date, plus she went from venues to venues with you, plus she talked about sex and kinky stuff. She definitely likes you.

FalconVita · 2021-01-16T22:18:53+00:00

Without a doubt, she is waiting for you to make the move. Damn, I feel sorry for you man! I feel sorrow by just reading this.

fjklm · 2021-01-16T22:19:11+00:00

She did everything to let you know she is ready to fuck. I couldn’t believe the ending when I read it. Gotta learn my dude. All in good time.

K3ystr0k3 · 2021-01-16T22:34:18+00:00

OP, I'm guessing that you're a nice guy who actually has something going for themselves in life, and is the kind of person women find 'non judgemental' - hence her opening up about her kinks.

She likes you, OP. And long as your attempts to escalate didn't come off as creepy, she's probably feeling DISQUALIFIED that you didn't make a move on her in seven hours.

billsmashole · 2021-01-16T22:34:27+00:00

Sounds like you didnt try to initiate any touching. Thats the impression i got.

tacticalassassin · 2021-01-16T22:45:17+00:00

People do things differently, don’t take it personally. The only way to know for sure if what your feeling is valid is to ask her directly or go on another date.

primallyours · 2021-01-16T23:57:23+00:00

Hey man, listen...

I know you’re getting medium roasted in these comments (warranted lol) but you learn a lot more from Ls than Ws, especially at the stage you’re at I’m dating experience. Nothing wrong with the L, reflect, take what’s valuable and let the rest make you cringe for eternity.

Get back on that horse sooner rather than later and try again. The only way is through, Daniel san. That goes for life in general.

Doctor0z · 2021-01-16T21:07:04+00:00

we sat close to each other

Did you initiate any contact? You have to play with your body language in this situation - touch her, rub her, kiss her neck, or something.

a-little-spice · 2021-01-16T22:04:48+00:00

You need to touch her dumbass. She was pushing you to escalate and you were a coward

TTirpitz · 2021-01-16T22:20:42+00:00

You didn't even escalate? Kino? Are you serious blaming this on her?

IkoIkonoclast · 2021-01-16T22:33:56+00:00

She was able to get tea, dinner, and a beer from a quick get to know you. Seems you were her meal ticket for the day.

Title	7 hour date (!) gone wrong?
Author	zaphaq
Upvotes	38
Comments	78
Date	January 16, 2021 9:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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