zeteomegaleio Archive

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1	Friend is making a huge mistake... Should I even say anything? Yes, you should tell your friend he is being a fucking idiot, but if you go straight to attacking then he'll just get pissed off and dig in. I would basically ask him what the rush is, and why he can't just chill out for a little while and get to know the woman in person over at least a few trips before doing something stupid like that? You can't possibly know someone either a) only 1 month or b) only through webcams enough to even be contemplating that question. It's obvious he is in the honeym…	/r/askMRP	15/11/17 12:55 AM
1	Wife Will Babble On Why don't you try engaging with her? I don't mean talking to her like you're one of her girlfriends. Why not amuse yourself by practicing some game? Tease her a bit, make sexual innuendos, ask her to go into the most excruciating and insanely stupid/small details just to see how far she can go, etc. Be fun.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/11/17 01:13 AM
3	Question for those whose wife had/has cheated. I went through this and touched upon it in my main reply. You were blindsided and lost trust in your own abilities to spot this kind of thing and protect yourself from it. "If I didn't know then, how can I trust myself to spot anything with anyone in the future?" This is exactly why you have to shift from a person who is worried about blind spots, because you'll never be perfect, to a person who is confident in themselves handling anything if and when it comes up. You have to learn to trust in y…	/r/askMRP	07/11/17 01:41 PM
1	Question for those whose wife had/has cheated. You are too hung up on wanting to continue to be a victim. Forgiveness is a shitty word because we often confuse it with "letting the other person off the hook," when really it is about acceptance. You don't forgive the other person, you forgive yourself. You fucked up. You talk about betrayal but how is being a drug addicted loser who drove your wife away not a betrayal as well? You were separated and she fucked him. And you "deserve a wife that is honest with you?" Newsflash, she was when she …	/r/askMRP	07/11/17 01:13 PM
3	Guilt and Freedom I look at this slightly differently. Not everything that happens to you is your fault, but everything that happens to (or for) you is your responsibility. As in, it isn't my fault if I'm in bumper to bumper traffic and the idiot behind me spills hot coffee on their lap, causing them to press the gas and rear end me. It IS now my responsibility to deal with it though. Not trying to be pedantic here; I do think it is an important distinction because sometimes you can make good choices/moves and st…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/10/17 09:10 PM
1	Backsliding and Major Failure VP You are blurring the lines between "what is acceptable treatment in a relationship to me" in general compared to how you react to it in the moment when things go wrong. It doesn't matter where the middle ground is in your reaction or how you rebut her remark. So if she takes a mile, so what? You could stand there with a goofy grin on your face laughing at her internally the entire fucking time if she goes on some crazy rant about how worthless you are for 10 minutes. You could burst out into som…	/r/askMRP	27/10/17 06:27 PM
2	Backsliding and Major Failure VP No, you did not in an instant undo all the progress you have made. Get out of that mindset. You are not starting from 0 only five minutes later, you are starting from X days since you started minus 1. Maybe 3-4 given you kicked a door off the hinges. No progress is 100% linear and upwards. There are setbacks. You fucked up by losing your shit but it doesn't mean any other progress was for nothing. Stop being silly. You now know you have some other things to work on. I think your zero tolerance n…	/r/askMRP	27/10/17 05:50 PM
1	Accepting apologies? Withdrawing attention when someone tries to legitimately apologize is stupid. You do not punish someone for that without bad consequences. She obviously was worried she upset you and apologized in case that was it. That's a good thing; she cares and wants you to be happy with her. Read the link someone else posted about handling apologies; this is a time to be an oak.	/r/askMRP	26/10/17 12:44 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 24, 2017 Your therapist probably isn't wrong that being direct will not work out favorably, I just wouldn't give a shit because that is ridiculous to still be actively avoiding healing traumas from years ago and letting it ruin your marriage while in your 50s. I expect that out of people who are 20 or 30. It's not "change now or I'm out" so much as "start getting help, and take whatever time you need, otherwise I'm not going to want to stick around." I see it as only fair to be honest as you don't want t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/10/17 09:45 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 24, 2017 This might not work with someone younger, but you're in your 50s so fuck it. I am a few decades from 54, so I might have no clue what I'm talking about, but I wouldn't put up with your wife not doing the work she needs to do to fix herself. My LTR is also decades younger than your wife and putting herself through the work of addressing past issues specifically because it was destroying our relationship - shit way worse than your wife being triggered over sex. Your wife is 50, so it is decision t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/10/17 08:59 PM
13	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 24, 2017 I read this and was suspicious because so much of it was about your wife. So I looked at your post history and see the same thing over and over for at least the past few weeks. You follow some D/s shit on Instagram, it upsets wife so you unfollow. Your wife gets whiny and complainy about how she knows you are changing and will cheat on her, and completely withdraws sex, so you placate her to show you're a guy who doesn't just want sex all the time. What the fuck? You just rewarded her for withdr…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/10/17 02:10 PM
1	procrastination and adulting The best way I know is to hit rock bottom from being a total fucking loser and not kill yourself. Because the work to get out of that special hell and turn into a different person who will never go back to being the way you were is so brutal that it requires you build discipline. If you don't want to do that, then lift and want something so bad that there is no choice but to be disciplined enough to make it happen. And remove all the shit holding you back - distractions that waste your time and …	/r/askMRP	24/10/17 03:18 AM
1	Came for dead bedroom, realized my problems much deeper Hiding, lies, GNOs, leaving places with other dudes, out "20 minutes" for a drink without you and comes home 3.5 hours later, and goes to raves wearing the kinds of clothing she is in when you fuck. And your question has nothing to do with lifting or what sidebar resource might be best for you as a newly single man. You haven't done an ounce of real prerequisite work which is obvious as this puke is all about her aside from 1 fucking line about BJJ and a finance business. No, your question is "h…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/10/17 05:17 PM
3	2 Questions: Separation & Don't Leave the House I am not a lawyer, but I distinctly remember talking to one who said making payments towards the mortgage meant I had equity in the house despite it being in ex-wife's name before we married. Not sure on laws of your state or how that affects who moves out, just saying that you married in and helped pay the mortgage which may mean you have some legal ownership despite it only being her name on the deed. Again, I am not a fucking lawyer. Go talk to one, but don't move out until you ask about this…	/r/askMRP	19/10/17 02:40 AM
2	Where Is The Good? Also, another step somewhere in the middle there, maybe after teasing her ass with your thumb, should be to buy one of those butt plugs with the decorative fake gem on it. They're tiny and no big deal. Say it's a huge turn on for you. Get her into the idea of something going in her ass. After a few times, begin to play with it and slightly push/pull it in and out of her asshole while fucking her doggystyle. My LTR was down aside from the pain, and maybe your wife will get there after trying the …	/r/askMRP	17/10/17 01:03 AM
4	New sub, lose the faggotry Exactly this. Turned into a shit show in less than a day.	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/10/17 02:46 PM
4	Married, crushing on younger girl. Need MRP's help. Dear diary, I allowed myself to focus on another girl than my wife for so long that I started getting feelings for her. I kept taking actions to build attraction and tension up with this woman over 6 weeks. Now I'm existential about monogamy and wondering why I feel this way about her as if it came out of nowhere and that I had no hand in it. Damn you feelings, why must you always be so mysterious and hard to figure out?	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/10/17 12:30 PM
1	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing I should have been more clear, by saying "they need counseling" I meant it more like "she thinks they need counseling, right?“ I don't think it works for most people, although a small number here report that the counselors go beyond recommending choreplay and lots of communication about feelings. I think the guy is right to avoid it. Maybe I'm jaded, but even so, marriages that get to the point where these people are at never get there only because one party is at fault. She can play the victim …	/r/MarriedRedPill	15/10/17 07:07 PM
1	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing Absolutely. There are a lot of men here who don't get it when they first get here. That man still sees this as a war with his wife and is likely angry. I do not subscribe to that. I'm not apathetic. I'm on a "team" with my LTR otherwise what is the fucking point? I subscribe to "The Family Alpha"s way of thinking, which is a blog you can find. But that doesn't mean I agree with you. In no other "team", be it sports, organizational, or whatever else, do you have co-leaders. You have a hierarchy w…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/10/17 10:57 AM
2	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing No, I scanned your history and see there is no point in either of us discussing this point because neither of us will likely change our minds. Unlike you with red pill, I have lived the other way before where I constantly made sure everything was equal and even. It led to divorce, being cheated on, and years of misery and pain across many areas of life. I found this place and turned my life and relationship around for the better. My LTR is fully aware of this place and has embraced being a red p…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/10/17 02:10 AM
1	Horrified to get into a relationship now Can't let fear control your life. Become a man who can handle whatever happens IF AND WHEN it happens. You need to accept that shit happens in life. And you also need to learn that you usually cause more shit to happen when you act the way you are. These things often become self-fulfilling prophecies when you are constantly looking for problems and accusing others of doing things you don't want them to do.	/r/askMRP	14/10/17 02:01 AM
1	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing Yeah, ok. "By any means" appears to mean that your thoughts, beliefs, and ideas are "correct" and "indisputable" and no one else could possibly have a different way of living and operating in a relationship, so I'll just make sure to get right on going back to my old miserable life because some random woman said so. This place isn't for you. It wouldn't be even if you were a red pill woman. Go be a feminist in your own subreddits.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/10/17 01:46 AM
10	Deconditioning the wife who is disgusted at your touch - 10 Levels of Kino You nailed it about the lack of OI and DNGAF being the issue here. I can't imagine having to slowly classical condition (because that's what this is) someone I'm married to just to fucking hold hands when out walking. This entire method is focused on her responses, her frame, etc. It is slowly pushing her while up against all this resistance instead of simply becoming awesome to where she starts to want to follow. And I don't give a fuck what he says about the work he has put in the past few mon…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/10/17 11:52 AM
1	New to MRP and the marriage looks like it's coming to an end You have few options right now, so despite this advice being hard to implement instantly in reality, you have to get stoic: What can you control? You can choose to not be upset about your wife being a whore. You can focus on yourself; you have more to read, but lots more to internalize. You need to keep losing weight and lifting. Fuck your wife for a few months, or don't, whatever, but you need to focus on saving and fixing only yourself here. The next 4 months needs to be a complete focus on fi…	/r/askMRP	12/10/17 01:08 PM
4	Read the sidebar and STFU Seriously, fuck these guys who delete their posts. I don't care if they delete their account but men here spend time writing to answer them, which could help others who see it too, and they fucking waste the effort, time, and knowledge because their snowflake feelings get hurt. Fuck that.	/r/askMRP	06/10/17 02:21 AM
10	So what are the thoughts surrounding infidelity and MRP? I just read your history. She's been checked out for 5 years and asked you to kill the puppy recently. You are utterly naive to not think there is an 80% chance at a minimum that she is fucking this guy in his car after dinner or that it is on soon. I think most guys here would say that number is too low. Your hamster is on overdrive making excuses for her behavior and ignoring the reality of your situation. Work spouse? Are you for real accepting that shit? "it's common in the work world" give …	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 10:31 PM
4	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing I value her, but not enough to eradicate some of my best memories until I feel she’s not going to bail. I get it because I was there too, but this is the issue doggie. The chick I lost my virginity to was a 19YO HB9 and that is not a bullshit hyped-up rating. The only thing she might have been docked on was having big tits that were more on the droopy side than perky when out of her bra, but you wouldn't know that seeing her on the street. Very small-time, part-time model who I didn't have much …	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 09:17 PM
6	Sleeping Naked I can't wait to read the field report where you figure out to be the big spoon and flex your cock repeatedly as it is nestled along her ass crack/rubbing against the bottom of her pussy.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 08:38 PM
10	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing I don't think a good leader antagonizes people under him for no good reason. Teasing is one thing, and you have every right to do whatever you want, but I deleted all the photos and videos of my exes because I no longer had any use for them. And to play fair here, I used to hang onto them before I realized how pathetic I was being. The only reasons to have them are because you 1) want to reminisce about the past, 2) jerk off to it, or 3) keep your first mate thinking that you're not on the same …	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 05:39 PM
7	She’s Mad Because She’s Losing Uh, no thanks, I'm not in my early 20s any longer. I'll stick to having a first mate and not living in the past.	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/10/17 12:47 PM
2	Nexting wife with a 3 month old baby? Exactly this. OP sounds like a giant validation seeking faggot who does not own his shit and take responsibility for his choices whatsoever. Probably because his huge ego is getting in the way. Expecting to hear reply about how he isn't the problem and only wanted an answer to his question if it is ok to leave his chick with a 3 month old. How we all need to answer him on that because we're wrong about him. He said he was a drunk captain, that's enough right guys?! This is disgusting, pathetic, …	/r/askMRP	30/09/17 10:25 AM
12	I keep fishing for reassurance and I know it’s fucking lame This is terrible advice. He'll get nowhere during that conversation if he doesn't make them both some herbal tea first. You need to make sure she is calm and relaxed so that the communication flows very smoothly.	/r/askMRP	28/09/17 07:28 PM
2	I keep fishing for reassurance and I know it’s fucking lame Because you can't trust anyone else 100%, period. Either you accept that human beings are fallible or you live in fairy tale land. Your choice.	/r/askMRP	28/09/17 07:25 PM
6	Not sure what to do about my teenager First, you needed to fucking lawyer up yesterday. Second, maybe you need to get some help? It seems like multiple people in your family are scared of you. No doubt your wife sounds like a sociopath, but I highly doubt you are a special snowflake doing nothing wrong. Describing yourself as touchy-feely with your kids is awkward as another person said. I think you need to take a look at yourself and what you're doing to cause these issues. You said your wife came down screaming that you lied - wha…	/r/askMRP	27/09/17 04:31 PM
5	Complete breakdown. Help! You are at the bottom of the dominance hierarchy. Everything is a threat. That's why you acted like a giant faggot and got overwhelmed. Is this an MRP success? No, this is pathetic. This is legitimately sad. You are not ready for family vacations. You need to focus on small things in your immediate daily life that are out of whack and solve those things. Handle all your responsibilities (kids, work, etc.) but stop doing any extracurricular activities besides reading the sidebar and go watch Jord…	/r/askMRP	25/09/17 01:40 AM
18	To give support or not? I think this is the answer. Repressing shit for decades and then working on it in therapy now is going to fuck things up. She is trying, feeling guilty that she can't do it, and even trying to give something to make you happy even if she isn't into it. That's way different than her giving you a hard no because you're a loser with a dad-bod. Grief/trauma recovery work is tough shit to go through and she's a human being, not a sex robot. This is the time to be her rock and a good, strong captain.	/r/askMRP	24/09/17 09:02 PM
5	Wife doesn't let me go out with my friends...another one Not a single word about your lifting or your reading of the sidebar. Not a single other post here ever. And a ton of "she..." in your post. You should stay home and be two miserable cunts together.	/r/askMRP	24/09/17 08:26 PM
1	Need some advice You need to focus on yourself. Dive into all the material. Start doing things for you. Go have fun with your friends. Stop asking to join her and make her wonder when you're coming home instead. Before this place, I'd likely say it was fine your wife went out with two male coworkers to drink. She should be able to be friends with guys, right? After finding this place, and given the reason I found this place, I wouldn't be surprised if they were Eiffel Tower'ing her. I'd tell you to next her just…	/r/askMRP	23/09/17 10:25 PM
7	Wife might want me to kill the puppy. Possibly being gaslit- in a fog I would act the same way towards you if I were your wife. You are needy, have no frame, and are mentally obsessed about her possibly cheating. The truth is, your actions and attitude are likely pushing her to make that happen moreso than anything else. I can't believe she still fucks you. Get ahold of yourself and get your shit together.	/r/askMRP	23/09/17 01:31 PM
1	Let my story be your lesson Congratulations. You are getting away from that. I know when I finally let go and walked away from a marriage to my psycho ex-wife, it was one of the happiest times of my life. No more caring, no more stress, I was free. And I decided to start taking on challenges and get better at life. Some setbacks along the way including what brought me here, but regardless, that doesn't change that directly after that event led to so much growth and happiness, and so I'm happy for you. It's awesome that you…	/r/askMRP	20/09/17 01:59 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 19, 2017 Have you tried changing your wifi channel? Hardwire is awesome nonetheless but thought I'd ask as it is amazing how many people don't know about or try this. I just helped someone recently after their ISP tech support failed and even sent them new equipment.	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/09/17 09:57 PM
1	FR: Classical Conditioning and Fallout Dude, this is not how you do it. First off, your wife is acting like a total cunt, and you can tell it is because she has had to be the leader in your relationship up until now. But you're acting like a child being scolded by mommy and you have to break that routine. Start standing up for yourself calmly and with no emotion. No DEER'ing, just make a statement and then that is it. Example: Wife is texting and then calls because you dropped the ball on letting her know things are ok with the kids.…	/r/askMRP	16/09/17 06:53 PM
3	Creating an Iron Sphere: Thoughts on Frame Fantastic post and great analogies with the spheres.	/r/MarriedRedPill	15/09/17 03:43 PM
102	A month out from the wedding... Finds TRP... Do I call it off? So, basically you have oneitis for a bitchy HB6 that you met online and who you've never had a good relationship with, but you keep getting back together after a million break-ups because you're codependent with one another and also sunk-cost fallacy. Yes, this sounds like the perfect woman to marry. She absolutely sounds like a "high quality woman." You should totally do this. I mean, she's so great that you had to puke your life story and get the approval of a bunch of real men to marry her, s…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/09/17 05:28 PM
1	FR: "Stoic" victim puke What a bunch of horseshit. You're not red pill; you're a fucking pussy. You're an entitled drug addict with no job. You obviously have issues stemming from your past that you refuse to get help for, so you use drugs to avoid the pain of looking in the mirror and getting your shit together. All the little life hacks like cold showers don't mean shit when you don't address the root of the problem. Meditation and proper sleep are essential but you will still never get ahead with the obvious emotion…	/r/askMRP	14/09/17 12:07 PM
2	I hate my wife You are a faggot who takes no ownership or responsibility for his life. You are blaming everyone else for your problems and issues. You should be disgusted with yourself. When is that disgust going to make you man up and get your shit together?	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/09/17 02:00 PM
1	Be A Good Partner Like others said, his two podcasts with JRE are the best place to start to learn what he is generally about. Then, there are lots of little clips around on YouTube that people cut out from his lectures, and you might dive into a few just to get a taste. They usually link to the source video which is almost always one of his full lectures, though some are from speeches/talks he has given in the past year or so. If you find stuff that matches your interests the most from the clips, then start with…	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/09/17 09:17 PM
1	Need some advice (dishonesty) Why in the fuck did you not put this in your original post? The story you gave is childish (yeah, your wife is petty and wants to make a dude jealous, AWALT). I would agree with everyone else here that you need help until I read this. (And you probably do need some based on that first post - not that you're wrong, per se, just that you gotta deal with the root of those insecurities unless it really all is just your wife acting this way with dudes.) Anyway, meeting up with dudes who call her baby…	/r/askMRP	07/09/17 08:58 PM
4	What value does your wife bring? Your wife sounds like she is depressed. Sleeps a lot, always negative, does nothing, etc. People need shit to do and achieve. If she lays around the house all day because everything is taken care of for her, she is going to be bored, feel worthless, and that will manifest as what you now see. The struggle is what makes humans happy. You're the captain. Lead her to figuring out what she wants to do that will make her feel better. What did she want to do growing up? The kids can't be her only miss…	/r/askMRP	04/09/17 11:18 AM
1	Best way to "restart" date night? I don't know, maybe you should check in with the person who wears the pants in the relationship?	/r/askMRP	04/09/17 12:34 AM
3	Is asking for a "thank you" a sign of weakness? Yes, your wife is a bitch for not saying thank you, boohoo, I agree it is common courtesy, but whatever. The bigger deal is probably that she is going out with the girls on a Sunday night - it sounds like she doesn't want to be around you, not to mention how quickly she jumped to being angry and then just cancelling the entire night over it. You're obviously unattractive and sounded butt-hurt when you said "Well, a thank you would be nice." It wasn't even close to something that could have been …	/r/askMRP	04/09/17 12:33 AM
2	Constantly Apologizing You sound like a nice man. If only there were some book you could read, something about maybe no longer being an overly nice guy, that could maybe help you out.	/r/askMRP	02/09/17 10:07 PM
3	Shit test/Comfort test pointers. "You're gonna be good right?" "Depends how naughty you're going to be for me later" You made it weird and uncomfortable. If you're not ready for some text game and "trying to think of a suitable response" was all you could do then stick to logistics.	/r/askMRP	02/09/17 12:04 PM
2	Is this what depression feels like? This is right on the money. OP thinks the idea of this woman will make him happy, and so he has "oneitis". Happiness comes from taking on a mission (and maybe multiple sub-missions) that is meaningful to you and working at it. If you aren't happy, you need to evaluate why you are not generating happiness for yourself, NOT find someone else and expect they will "make you" happy. OP's coworker saved him from himself and he should be thankful she didn't let him ruin his marriage.	/r/askMRP	02/09/17 11:58 AM
31	Lost frame, embarrassing myself in front of friends/family Going to keep this as short as possible as I don't want to waste your time on my entire fucking life story as if I'm some special snowflake. Long story short, I just had a mostly awesome wedding, but I let my drunk great-aunt push me into doing something I didn't want to do and I killed the whole party because of it. Don't let drunk old people rattle your frame and tell you what to do. But that should have been obvious to all of you. FTFY	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/09/17 07:18 PM
3	If what everything TRP/MRP says is true. How aren't 100% of married women cheating on their husbands who don't have this information? Assuming it has a reason to, thinks it can safely make the branch swing, or the opportunity still exists longer than a moment, then yes. No argument there.	/r/askMRP	01/09/17 12:05 AM
33	If what everything TRP/MRP says is true. How aren't 100% of married women cheating on their husbands who don't have this information? I think TRP is mostly full of younger guys who are in their 20s and enjoy banging chicks left and right (god bless them). I don't think many of them have the kinds of life experience people here do. Around here I see business owners, successful men, fathers - people who have done some real living and went through the real pain that comes along with it. So I wouldn't take the TRP guys' word as the gospel. Things are more complex than a bunch of bros parroting how every woman will cheat given the …	/r/askMRP	31/08/17 11:39 PM
1	New to MRP, starting to understand the concepts but no idea how to apply them. What are you so afraid of if you're not a nice, helpful guy? That she'll get angry with you, or not like you, or anything else that is actually happening to you right now anyway despite your nice-guyness? You just posted saying "It is against my nice guy nature, but I will work on STFUing", you keep talking down about yourself saying shit like "my pathetic situation," and in general you put yourself down with the way you talk. Stop doing that shit. Respect and love yourself. Take control of your…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/08/17 01:15 AM
1	New to MRP, starting to understand the concepts but no idea how to apply them. Do you know what STFU stands for? Shut the fuck up. Do not engage her. Stop feeding her shit tests. You clearly aren't ready for AA or AM. Just shut up. Note: That doesn't mean be autistic and literally don't respond at all. Just keep it short and acknowledge she said something. "Ok." "Sure." "I understand." The problem is you're not attractive and she loathes you. In her mind, you really did rush her out, because her reality is viewed through the lens that you're an unattractive asshole. So rig…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/08/17 12:37 AM
7	Show outcome indifference, or take charge? This is the correct answer. Stop being an idiot OP. The main purpose in life for most women is to have kids. She got pregnant, probably had a million exciting thoughts and emotions about what it will be like to have this turn into a baby, might have started to think up names, etc., and instead she miscarries and all those dreams were crushed. That baby she was dreaming up literally died - both the physical one in her and the one she likely made up in her mind about how it was going to be. She ph…	/r/askMRP	30/08/17 11:41 PM
1	Fiance is away for 3 years, need advice "Here's a bunch of rambling bullshit, and I want to know how to fix it because I recognize I am trapped by the sunk cost fallacy. Well, that's what I say, but the truth is less about sunk cost fallacy and more that I'm a giant pussy who keeps going back to a low value woman that won't put out. The only fucking she does is finger fucking her phone. She puts up with me being a loser because I'm her beta bux, and I put up with her being an overweight cunt who 'just has no libido' because any woman …	/r/askMRP	30/08/17 11:19 PM
8	Cheated I personally don't buy cheating being "OK". What comes next isn't about the morals of whether fucking other chicks is right or wrong. The issue is how you go about it. My thoughts are in-line with Jordan Peterson's about speaking your truth and not lying across your entire life. I've been down the road of being a manipulative, under-handed person... and the results I got are why I think the whole "Dark Triad" thing some RP'ers espouse is fucking ridiculous, because it often advocates taking the …	/r/askMRP	29/08/17 10:56 PM
2	How does a butch apply RP? First, 150 pounds at 5'1" means you need to lose weight. The other issue is that you changed the dynamic of the relationship. You had an eating disorder, so you were smaller and (despite being unhealthy) likely more attractive, but you ALSO were mentally unhealthy and possibly a person for her to 'fix' when you first started dating. She was the man to a certain extent as far as how the roles played out in the beginning. She was the breadwinner. She had to take care of you. She did all the financ…	/r/askMRP	28/08/17 01:39 AM
1	There is no formula to having a healthy marriage. Choose your partner wisely, love and cherish them and hope that they do the same. Fuck. Well, let's all wrap it up and shut down this forum then since it's all a crap shoot based on hoping you picked the right person. Hands are tied after that point I guess.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/08/17 02:07 PM
15	Botched main event Every time you see "main event" in the title, you can be assured it is a bitch fest about how OP broke down, cried to his wife, and thinks he ruined his marriage by giving a weak non-ultimatum. To answer your question: yes, you should run back to mommy and give her comfort so she knows that you know what a bad little boy you were. Explain you were just throwing a temper tantrum and then offer to make her some herbal tea to calm her down. Then tell her you'll make sure the strap-on is clean and r…	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/08/17 02:01 PM
33	Car Broken Down Shit Test Are you autistic? Your wife calls for help/looks to you for some leadership and you say you're too busy stuffing your face with melted cheese to take 5 minutes to order her an Uber and that you'll handle the broken down car when you're done eating? No, you didn't handle that correctly. Melting Pot is a dinner you can go to any time, multiple times in your life, and at the least is something that could wait for 5 minutes. This was something that needed to be addressed right then. You were an assh…	/r/askMRP	20/08/17 01:14 PM
15	You fuckers are awesome You've been here like a whole fucking day, did a load of laundry, and now you're "owning shit around the house?" You aren't owning shit around the house. You did the wash and didn't look at mommy immediately after with big doe eyes hoping for an attaboy. When you're proactive about shit for a month or two straight, then maybe you're starting to own your shit around the house. Keep it up, but keep your shit in perspective.	/r/askMRP	19/08/17 12:10 AM
1	"Never split the difference" by Christopher Voss I saw this book browsing around on Amazon as a "Other people bought this" (probably while looking at RP suggestions) and added it to a list of books I was interested in. Thanks for this, I'll move it up in priority.	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/08/17 11:52 PM
2	FR- Lots of progress, lots of fuck ups In my opinion, it's admirable to a certain extent that you tried to stay for your kid. I think too many guys here are too quick to destroy their family even if the man would be totally justified in leaving. Sometimes you have to make hard sacrifices in life, and that might mean staying and legitimately finding a good way forward with your spouse. Now, staying and NOT finding a good way forward is even worse, but if you can manage to reconcile despite her being a whore, then it is almost certainl…	/r/askMRP	10/08/17 11:48 PM
2	Trouble with fogging and BR You are not nearly proactive enough here. If you want to move, you need to read and understand the terms of your lease before you talk to your landlord. Of course it is their job to get everything they can from you and hold you to the terms of the lease. That's not them being a dick, that's them doing their job. And you need to do yours as a tenant. If you want to get the best cable package, you need to talk to someone and figure out your choices. Look around online a bit before-hand too. Take c…	/r/askMRP	10/08/17 12:07 AM
2	Turns out I am a married beta I'm not going to get into what you should or should not do as far as your relationship goes. Humans are infinitely complex creatures, and while we want so badly to simplify things and especially situations like this to grasp them easier, the chances are that there is a myriad of things that led to the events which happened in your life. I don't know you or your wife. The world is not black and white. However, here is what matters now: 1) What you want. Not what your parents want. Not what your f…	/r/askMRP	07/08/17 01:12 AM
2	Men are violent - women disapprove. How do you deal? This OP. I would not even take the rehome comment seriously. And train your fucking dog like spt said. There are tons of videos by awesome trainers like Sean O'Shea and Jeff Gellman online. If you aren't starting with a dog who has problems, there is even less of an excuse to not have basics down. It's for the safety of your dog and everyone around.	/r/askMRP	29/07/17 02:41 PM
11	How to Handle Lack of Motivation and Short Temper? Bottom line after reading all your replies to everyone else: you're an asshole who thinks too highly of himself and takes life way too seriously. You sound like no fun at all. No one here knows better than you because you made a bunch of money and are on the city council, so you're just God's gift to us, aren't you? Hopefully that knowledge continues to soothe your ego when you get your monthly starfish sex. Do you smugly say to yourself how right and awesome you are as you fuck her? Does hearin…	/r/askMRP	28/07/17 11:41 AM
2	So far so good, I think So less than a month ago you found out about the emotional affair and she is being a bitch in any way, shape, or form as if nothing happened? No.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/07/17 02:34 AM
1	First Post - Accidentally Alpha Well, I know I for one can say my day is now so much more fulfilled after reading your life story. This post has added so much value to my life. But, if I might make a small suggestion, here is how I would edit it: I’m a career AFC who has settled into being a Beta Provider over my 13 year relationship, just over 8 of which we’ve been married. I was a beta pussy with every chick I met or dated before her, but I won't bore you gentlemen with the details because you all have better shit to do, hav…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/07/17 08:35 PM
3	A combination of OYS and puke Her: "You're just doing that because you read it in a book or on MRP, not because it is genuine!" You: "K" You don't need your wife's validation about why you are doing MRP to turn yourself into a better man. One of the principle things here is that you improve yourself for YOU, not for her or the relationship. If she doesn't want to believe you then that's on her - why the fuck do you care? I might have also suggested some version of A&A like saying over-dramatically "Yes, I'm just such a dumb,…	/r/askMRP	21/07/17 06:14 PM
6	The after/eternally persistent test ... ? Guys (and people in general) are usually linear/systematic/process-oriented thinkers combined with men specifically having a preference for logic rather than emotions. So it's natural to want to know solutions to all these situations. If A, then B. So you keep asking "what is B?" in all your posts. That's fine, and a necessary step. Especially early on as you are learning to crawl. So I'm not being critical of you wanting to know this answer. Still, there is a line in The Matrix where Neo asks s…	/r/askMRP	30/06/17 11:59 AM
1	Still learning, help me understand this. Regarding your agreement to foster trust, have you deeply considered you are here because the things you have done up until now aren't working as intended? As in, are you going to challenge your way of operating in life, or are you just wasting everyone's time because you only plan to sprinkle a little alpha on it? From what I've read of your posts, your wife must be the most secure snowflake in the world. She has no initiative or reason to try being anything besides being a good Christian woman…	/r/askMRP	28/06/17 11:58 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 30, 2017 I was not given money by anyone I know. It has to do with pushing back bills that would have been due.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/06/17 01:28 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 30, 2017 Work - Have yet to hear back from one prospect I'm really high on, though I'll be emailing them either today or tomorrow to follow up. One project paused just slightly, giving me a little time to enjoy the holiday weekend. Other than that, I feel the past week was extremely productive as far as getting stuff done. Yesterday went very well. Today started off a little slow but I'm ready to get after it as I have to one project off my plate in the next few days. Another project had gotten off track…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/05/17 03:24 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2017 Still F in the big picture, but decided to score myself and how I handle finances week to week since the rest of the categories are rated weekly.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/05/17 02:54 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2017 Going for the old school traps, but I read they like chocolate quite a bit? This is actually how we found out we have a mouse problem - a bunch of chocolate just disappeared. Don't have to worry about the dogs, they don't go into the basement unless they are with us. We can place the traps out of reach.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/05/17 02:52 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2017 Work - Lost one of the deals I was waiting to hear back on from my last OYS, still waiting on the other. Spoke with a potential new client twice so far and everything appears to be going really well with that. Expecting it to come through by the end of this week, which will be a huge benefit for us right now. Also have been told there may be someone on deck ready to reach out to me soon, but I haven't heard anything just yet. Still, I spent a lot of the past two weeks assessing a number of thing…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/05/17 03:54 PM
2	Weekend Challenge: Do something and a Gift from ReddJive Solid post. I noticed this in myself at the beginning of the week. I made a conscious decision to avoid this place throughout the week so as to stop reading/thinking and get back to being 'myself.' Not that I am giving up on the core tenets and things I've learned at all, and getting away from some things I previously 'enjoyed' has been good for me (video games used for escaping), but I was putting too much emphasis on the work/results to the point of losing myself. Hard to be fun around the hou…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/05/17 05:05 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2017 Out of curiosity, is the salt iodized or no? Iodine issues popped into my head when you mentioned adrenal insufficiency and fainting. If you weren't eating enough salt before, and salt is the main way we get iodine nowadays, then this might be worth looking into. I supplement with Iodoral every day and feel a lot better with it. With that said, I am not a doctor.	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/05/17 07:05 PM
2	Dealing with a dog Look up "The Good Dog" (Sean O'Shea) and "Solid K9 Training" (Jeff Gellman) on Facebook, YouTube, etc. Both are excellent dog trainers who run very successful businesses (and also train other dog trainers). They both have put out tons of free information (thousands of YouTube & social media videos), and are clearly men who have their shit together. They are about teaching dogs how to behave in the real world rather than tricks. O'Shea is more of a big picture guy, Gellman is more about the speci…	/r/askMRP	15/05/17 11:19 PM
1	Bitter Pill to swallow epiphany - my fault All that puke and only one goddamn sentence at the end that you're going to "apply it to become the best I can"? What the fuck.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/05/17 05:24 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2017 Good shit man, keep going. Female bosses are the best when you have a good frame. Also helps to be a star performer. I had a female boss at my last job before forming my own company, and I got away with anything I wanted because a) my work product was always superb, b) she never had to actually manage me, and c) I had a strong frame at work. It worked on my other bosses too, but you'll be amazed when you start acting like a confident man how that relationship will change. She was more like a co-…	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/05/17 05:56 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2017 I have and I'm not against it at all, though I'm concerned about cost and side effects. I'm in my early 30s and not sure I want to potentially fuck up ever producing T naturally again. I see it more as a last resort once I have my lifestyle on track. Before my neck injury last summer, I could definitely tell my T was higher than usual from lifting/eating right/etc. I don't even remember the last time I felt like that in my life, if ever. If I'm still not feeling it once I get back to lifting hea…	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/05/17 05:37 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 09, 2017 Work - Another new client signed on last week, bringing me to a total of 5 in just a little over a month's time. Waiting to hear back from 2 more; I feel strongly about both but we'll see how it goes. Getting buried a bit by the actual work, and this week is critical to get stuff done. The next 2 weeks are also extremely busy and tight. If we navigate and get through it all, finishing up a few projects in the process, the waters get calmer and we'll be right on track. Last week LTR and I tried t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/05/17 04:01 PM
7	I need help I think your issue is that you are seeking validation. Married a hot wife, made lots of money, have a big house, 3 kids, etc. - the way you said all this makes me think they are status symbols for you. As if part of your reason for doing it was just to have them on your shelf or in your collection. So, you seem to me to now be restless because you ran out of things to chase/achieve/accomplish. I say this because you describe your situation as "living my life in silent desperation." I think a guy…	/r/askMRP	08/05/17 11:35 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2017 Work - May is hell month. There is so much to do and so little time to do it. I'm looking forward to it though as I know we'll get it done and come out the other side better off and with less on our plates. A new deal from last week is still up in the air; I know the person wants to do it, just need to get signature on paper. Got a meeting with another potential client for a very small project later this week and trying to make an initial connection with another person today. Clients are mostly …	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/05/17 02:15 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2017 Get out of your bitchy wife's frame. Stop giving a shit about what she thinks. You are a few weeks in. This shit takes at least a few months. Stop thinking so much and keep taking action. Start internalizing abundance and outcome independence. Be amused by her teenage tantrum nonsense. You take her way too seriously. Sucks about the dog, and that's a hard position to be put in. Don't chalk it up as a loss, come from the position that you would have done it anyway for your kid regardless of anyth…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/05/17 11:19 AM
2	About to get married I can't imagine even thinking about marriage without living with someone for at least 2 years. Your "5 year LDR" was a FWB setup and you would go on vacation to fuck. That's way different than living with someone day after day and seeing who they really are (as much as one can). Who cares who they are in some tropical resort sipping Mai Tais and fucking most of the day away? What you need to know is who are they on Thursday night after their boss was a jackass all day, the dishes need to be done…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/05/17 11:01 AM
11	How can I try? I get that you have kids with this chick, but you are insane if you are considering getting back with her. She doesn't miss you. She misses your money. She misses your transportation. She misses her easier life with you. She had an emotional affair for a long time. She fucked him. She got an STD AND got pregnant. She lied to the cops and had you thrown in jail. She got restraining orders against you. Lawyer up. Get away from this low value whore and just do your best to protect your kids.	/r/askMRP	01/05/17 11:59 PM
22	An email from the wife This will totally get your wife's panties wet. You're going to get laid AND get to win your argument over an email! The only thing to consider is that I don't think you spent enough time from your life doing this - you should spend another hour or two typing up even more points to show her how stupid she is. If you do that, I think you can fully expect her to walk through the door and jump on your dick for about 4 hours straight while she just keeps moaning over and over "You're so right! You wi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/04/17 08:53 PM
5	Baby Needs a Spoon! You need to get started and take action with the same three things everyone else does. You're not special. STFU Lift Sidebar Don't even think about any kind of active dread, just the passive stuff that comes with actually starting to follow the plan and make the changes in life. You sound like I used to be. "If I just read everything, then I'll know it and internalize it and it will all be fixed!" I still fall into that trap a bit sometimes. This shit takes hard work and you have to experience i…	/r/askMRP	28/04/17 05:45 PM
1	Moderating self deceptive bullshit by disputing : "Your kids will be fine or even better in a divorce" My parents divorced when I was 5. Things were bad between them, obviously. The divorce fucked me up. My Dad being shitty fucked me up. My living situation going from awesome to not so awesome, and suddenly moving around between different towns in my formative years fucked me up. A lot of issues as an adult can be traced back to my parents divorcing and the ensuing life that came about because of it over the next 13 years before I was off to college. I royally fucked up from 18 to 25 and even wou…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/04/17 05:21 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2017 Tons of debt from needing to use it to pay bills/survive after last year, where I made a little less than half of what I usually earn. And only recently have new clients started to really come back at the same rate they used to about 2-3 years ago. I did get a few projects through last year and early this year before now to keep us surviving (literally, barely able to pay the bills). Credit cards + huge interest payments on them are all bills we didn't have a year ago whatsoever, and after a bad…	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/04/17 11:35 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2017 My business was basically 100% referrals or people finding me for the first few years. A few of my clients even try to sell me to their colleagues, as in they are proactive about it like "Holy shit, you seriously need to hire zeteomegaleio." I have some strong connections in the industry and I'm really, really good at what I do. The 3 clients I just got were referrals, and the 4th that I hope to close this week found me. The main issue has really been that I've gotten so good in the past few yea…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/04/17 11:59 PM
5	Rebuilding a relationship - critique my approach Ok, you cheated on your wife twice in the past and finally tell her 3 months ago. Then you relapse a month ago into the thing that led to you cheating on her which she absolutely hates, she has to ask about it to get an answer from you, and gets freaked out before moving back into the other bedroom and takes her ring off. Then, you come on here and write a post all about her/what she is doing and how pissed off that she isn't doing what you want. And you decide to tell her what's what by saying …	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/04/17 01:17 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2017 Work - Finished off the hat trick of new clients in 1 week's time by signing 2 more at the end of last week. About to follow up on the last one I spoke with last week that I was unsure about - I give it maybe a 50/50 chance. Even better, another potential client inquired last week and I spoke with them yesterday. Discussed pricing even though nothing firm yet, everything sounds good to go and I should be closing this deal soon as well for a total of 4 new clients in 2 weeks. The time investment …	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/04/17 04:49 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2017 I look for every reason to keep a positive growth mindset that is laser focused on success, because mindset is everything. Conditioning myself to and for success makes sense.	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/04/17 06:17 PM
2	Help motivating wife of five years to start doing anything? Your wife - sounds majorly depressed, likely due to her past abuse/trauma, and has not taken counseling seriously enough and/or gotten a seriously good therapist. You - well, your entire post was about her and how she doesn't do jack shit, so I imagine developing some leadership and frame is probably the first order of business. No longer enabling her is likely #2. Though seeing as you are down with letting her go fuck whoever she wants and have no interest in sex, why the fuck are you bothering…	/r/askMRP	21/04/17 12:02 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2017 It's a long journey - just wanted to make sure you weren't bullshitting yourself. Good on you for most of your OYS aside from the apology, too.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/04/17 08:00 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2017 Me? No, LTR has access to it all (and me to her stuff as well), mostly because she often needs to get into my accounts (especially email) for our work-related stuff anyway. All the work-related bookmarks are under my Chrome account, so that is setup on her computer too and she can look at my history. I've stated the same to her as you to yours, more or less, that she'll be the first to know. I questioned this because his wife on the other hand is snooping with the intent to catch him cheating, g…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/04/17 07:55 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2017 She rifled through your shit multiple times while you comfort her, then you apologize for "fighting" with her. And this is a positive in your opinion all because you got laid? Am I misunderstanding something?	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/04/17 12:44 AM
4	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2017 Work - Landed 1 of the 3 leads I had lined up from last week, almost certainly lost another (all but confirmed), and still have to talk to #3 which I have the highest hopes for. I'm really looking forward to that call. Another suddenly came to me a few days after my last OYS, spoke to them and waiting to hear back - a smaller project, but not too bad in terms of work. I don't know if the client was enthusiastic or not, but I was under a time constraint (by them) on the call and had to race throu…	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/04/17 03:25 PM
2	Wife accusing me of cheating. It might not seem like it in the moment, but this isn't a bad thing in the long run. Your gun license is temporarily on hold. Use this as an opportunity to exercise patience. This shouldn't be more than a week or two delay unless you fuck it all up, as I expect something is going to have to give and I'm sure she will eventually want to have "a very serious talk" with you. Pre-emptive: this is almost certainly not going to be a Main Event. Do not whine or argue with her about signing the form. Do…	/r/askMRP	16/04/17 12:49 AM
1	Problem: wife cuddles with good friend / flatmate Whoa, Rambo, slow the fuck down. We said set a boundary, not lay out an ultimatum. Dread comes from your ACTIONS, not words. You don't tell a woman she should be fearful of you leaving. Your actions and how you handle yourself should be what makes her fearful. If only this place had some kind of slogan to remind men to shut the fuck up and let their actions do the talking. Things might have gone your way this time, but this is not how you do it. You don't speak English natively so maybe somethin…	/r/askMRP	15/04/17 10:19 PM
9	Problem: wife cuddles with good friend / flatmate That's a negative, Ghost Rider. Establish a firm boundary. Being caressed lovingly by other men is not ok. Cuddling with other men is not ok. Full stop. Your gut is right about everything that happened. He is trying to take the nice guy route to attract her (knowingly or not doesn't matter). You can't control her or him, but you can establish your own conduct and what you are willing to accept or not. Don't be afraid here, she is out of line.	/r/askMRP	15/04/17 02:07 PM
2	wife responded with nukes Dipshit, you and your wife just modeled to your kid that physical violence is acceptable in a relationship. Her for doing it, you for accepting it. I've been where you are with an ex-wife who was physically abusive. To be honest, she sounds like she has mental issues to go straight to fuming mad and throwing slippers at you over such a small thing. You lack confidence and frame. Everything comes back to this. You know how on an airplane you put your mask on first before you do it for your kids? …	/r/askMRP	14/04/17 02:19 AM
4	I'm done with "cheaper to keep her" and afraid of divorce in general. Sometimes you have to ignore sunk costs and take a loss on something so that it no longer takes up your mental processing power which will be better spent going after bigger wins that recover the loss and then some. Get after it.	/r/askMRP	11/04/17 09:55 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2017 Work - 3 sales calls lined up today through next Tuesday, all from people referred to me by existing clients. All seem to be very serious prospects and not just tire kickers, so I'm fired up about this. I've also been made aware some other clients are referring me out too. Doing my absolute best to be prepared to receive all these opportunities. I also got started with the person I spoke to last week about business development. That ought to take 1-2 weeks to get started in earnest, but so far I…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/04/17 02:56 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2017 Short-term goal: Get out of hell. So much work wasn't getting done before I found MRP last summer, and that plus life caught up and beat the shit out of me in 2016. Since last summer, it has been a matter of continually hammering away at the client work on my plate so I can free up enough space to take on more work and keep surviving. The two areas I focus on right now are a) getting new clients, and b) go balls out finishing up projects and create as much space as possible to have room for thos…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/04/17 02:03 PM
10	Confirmed. She's cheating Obviously you need to save those texts, and I would go so far as to do a remote backup of all that you have to a new, hidden cloud account with whatever service you like (Dropbox, etc.). Basically, don't give her the chance to destroy any files physically. Anyway, congratulations! Your post history says you have been in marriage counseling, she has cheated before, and now you know she is still doing it. So now you get to leave this low value whore WITH RP knowledge and tactics in hand as you nav…	/r/askMRP	11/04/17 11:21 AM
1	Is it even possible to be an alpha stay at home Dad? Exactly why can't you look into working from home? You did IT, you post on Reddit... why not learn to do something useful and freelance? You can have your kid in her carrier against your chest while you learn how to do web design, internet marketing, graphic design, remote IT support for very small businesses who can't afford a full time employee, whatever. You don't need to take expensive classes to start. I run my own business from home and am completely self-taught. Within two years I closed …	/r/askMRP	07/04/17 04:21 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2017 Look, the marriage is not yours to accept full responsibility for. You can only accept responsibility for your half of it, or basically just yourself. It takes two people. If your wife checked out, didn't respond to your dread, etc., then that is on her. Of course you can set a good example and hopefully the other person will want to go along with your leadership, but they still have personal agency and get to decide how they want to act. And maybe it isn't a failure, rather just two people who …	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/04/17 03:07 PM
5	Need your advice on emotionally cheating wife. The good news is that trust evolves away from trusting in other people to trusting yourself. As for your update, I'll reiterate what someone else said about reading Chump Lady's post on real vs. imitation remorse. Real remorse is being fully open and honest about everything. Real remorse is agreeing to give up all privacy. Real remorse is her doing whatever it takes, for however long it takes, to try to restore the relationship even without any guarantees it will work. With that said, be very ho…	/r/askMRP	06/04/17 01:45 PM
3	Need advice on cheating LTR that just broke up with me. Dude, it's time to see the writing on the wall. It doesn't matter what any of us think of what she did. This "relationship" if you can even call it that was dead a long time ago. Since you are young and this was your first relationship and first heartbreak, I'll go easy on you. Not every relationship is meant to last. Sometimes they are just to teach you things. Right off the bat, I can tell you one lesson this is supposed to teach you is to not do LDRs. You did not have a 6 year relationship. Y…	/r/askMRP	06/04/17 12:20 PM
4	Need your advice on emotionally cheating wife. Go look at the texts and see what she is doing for other guys. You might find she lied more by not confessing everything, and at this point if she wants to work anything out then she loses the right to privacy. Not to say this is an automatic divorce. Your money situation is not good. You have kids. People stay together over a lot worse. I'm not suggesting that you come at it from a scarcity mentality specifically regarding other women, and it sounds like she doesn't really want to work things o…	/r/askMRP	05/04/17 10:14 PM
3	Battling some anxiety and upset Do not get this woman pregnant. Think about if you were observing a friend in your situation; you need to detach and look at this rationally. Your wife is running off to another country, to go to the same place as a guy who she cleared the chat logs of. That's not decompressing, that's running off to fuck another man. Married people in good relationships don't just book flights to another country out of the blue, even if that is where they are from. Why in the fuck would you even consider gettin…	/r/askMRP	05/04/17 02:47 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2017 Work - Didn't feel like it at first, but after reviewing what tasks I had set out for myself at the beginning of the week, I realized I accomplished almost all of them besides some that were not urgent and not a huge deal. They will need to get done at some point, but it is more of the "When I can eventually fit it in" variety as those clients are not actively waiting on that stuff. Also really glad I was able to catch up with all my clients this week after getting that work done, which always t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/04/17 06:03 PM
1	Help Me Find My Masculinity You need a thing. A reason. Something you really enjoy that is yours. Learn an instrument. Play a sport. Learn how to code. Take up BJJ. Don't have one? Then get working on figuring it out. Whatever sounds best to you right now, go start trying that thing out.	/r/askMRP	31/03/17 01:52 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2017 I hate to say it, but the answer is to find out why you want to eat the cake in the first place. Because if you don't fix a narrative that drives you to do things out of fear, then you're going to keep running into problems throughout your life. If you were coming at this from a place of "this is who I am and what I believe," that would be one thing, but you have been trying to rationalize this and also talked about the feelings of dread after you cheated. You also likely would have never entere…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/17 07:52 PM
3	[FR] Went Rambo The point is that it doesn't matter where she is. Get out of her frame. You can be aware, but you let it affect you because of your need for validation and that is a big issue. Focus on sorting yourself out. Take care of your own shit. You really need to start reading up on stoicism along with all the books in the sidebar. Whether she is done or isn't DOES NOT MATTER, you still have to do the same work on yourself.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/17 01:20 PM
2	[FR] Went Rambo I know it is attractive when you get inspired to think you are a "new man from here on out," and yes a switch might flip and you decide to go down the MRP road from then on out. But there are things you have to go through, practice, and change over time. You don't go from being a fat ass to having a 6pack overnight and you similarly don't get to act like you have a 6pack just because you worked out for 1 day yet are still a fat ass. Acta non verba. Shut the fuck up and just start taking actions.…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/17 12:15 PM
3	A Practical Guide To Building Frame Agreed, this is a superb post. Great work OP.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/17 11:42 AM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2017 "This is who I am" is bullshit. I'm not judging what you do; you can do whatever you want. However, you are being driven by some story or narrative right now which is obvious by the amount of trying to rationalize this. "Well, men in older generations used to do it!"... so what? Example of a narrative would be something you pondered about earlier, "I need to prove I'm not a loser when it comes to women." If that is your story then of course you will be driven to seek validation by cheating on yo…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/17 11:24 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 28, 2017 Work - I landed a new client last week via inquiry through my website, contract signed and deposit paid. Small project that just keeps us afloat, more or less, but I think the client will turn out to be cool to work with. I need about 2-3 more of these in the next month or so. Cold emailing campaign not going well at all, though I haven't really reached out nearly enough to be conclusive about it. Going to adjust a little bit and put some effort into other outbound marketing as well. I'm also ju…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/03/17 02:15 PM
2	Petty Behaviour 2.0 That is some solid, impressive decision and action. I'm sure she will try to apologize and get back together with you some time in the next 1-3 days. When you don't cave, she will go nuclear and try to ruin you in this divorce. Make sure you are mentally prepared for every cunty maneuver and tactic. She will not play fair whatsoever; women are emotional terrorists, especially feminists with kids involved. Take everyone's advice here about documenting every interaction. Don't get sucked into trap…	/r/askMRP	27/03/17 02:56 PM
1	Low Testosterone, experiences? Just plastic Rubbermaid water bottles with a flip cap. Any water bottle type thing will do as long as it holds like 20oz of liquid and the mouth is large enough (it is a thick shake after all, not just pure liquid). You might also consider something like a Hydroflask or similar insulated bottle if you need to take the shake with you to work or somewhere for a few hours before you'll be able to drink it.	/r/askMRP	26/03/17 08:25 PM
1	Low Testosterone, experiences? Another fan of replacement shakes, though I use Ketochow rather than Soylent. The owner seems really cool, very active in their subreddit, and big on customer service and quality of product (keeps delaying new Ketochow 2.0 for months now because they haven't been up to snuff in his QC testing). Also, buying 4 at a time gets you 10% off (~2.5 weeks for LTR and I), makes the most sense for shipping costs (4 bags of powder fit in 1 large priority mailer), and we usually try to cash in on whatever t…	/r/askMRP	26/03/17 03:28 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 21, 2017 Work - Have spent the past week studying up on prospecting, found a bunch of businesses that could really use my help, and began to send cold emails. I've joined a few groups that share this information and have a good amount of success with this method in my industry - and usually it is by people with a lot less experience and skill than I have. The biggest obstacle in my way with my business is finding/being found and selling to clients; I'm more than talented enough at what I do to charge 5-f…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/03/17 03:56 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2017 It got briefly worse and then has slowly been getting better. I wouldn't say I'm sold on the chiropractor being the best way, but I can't deny that I am now slowly getting better when I was previously staying injured for months. In the past week I had another person besides mojo recommended physical therapy after they went to a chiropractor for years, so I'm going to start looking into it. After reading your reply, we picked up some fruit at the store today to help work in healthier carbs. My is…	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/03/17 05:57 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2017 Thanks for the heads up. This is the first injury that didn't just heal up after I took care of myself, so I'm stumbling around in the dark a bit trying to figure out how to handle it. "Hrm, this is a neck/shoulder thing, I guess a chiropractor would handle that" was the thinking. Luckily the chiropractor is all covered by insurance though. I'll give them a call and see if PT is covered or not.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/03/17 05:49 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2017 Work - All out of leads; yet another one did not move past initial stages. I'm positive this one was because of funding issues, though it was also a person that I had serious reservations about working with. Not that I'm trying to be a chooser while being a beggar, but it went far above and beyond something like a mismatch of personalities. We are mostly caught up with everything and today/tomorrow will be prospecting many new clients along with our regular work. Lucky to not really be horribly …	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/03/17 04:20 PM
5	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 14, 2017 Frame is acting and doing what you want without or regardless of the fear of what others think, want, how they respond to you, etc. It is truly being you, specifically being both confident in yourself and vulnerable enough to showcase exactly who you are, at the same time. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yl3tvigPbBU In this video, it's John Cena's world and his girl is living in it. THAT IS FRAME. It doesn't matter what she says or how upset she gets; he is having fun, having a good …	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/03/17 03:49 PM
7	BP level expert or DGAF...? Not my point whatsoever. If the person I am with tried to send me off alone on my birthday, I would get the message that they don't want to be with me. I think that would be a great way to make someone feel completely unwanted. It would likely end up exactly as you described in your last paragraph. If I were his wife and he did this, I'd say "Ok, I'm so undesirable to my husband that he doesn't even want to spend time with me or do anything with me on my birthday." At that point, I don't even bl…	/r/askMRP	12/03/17 09:44 PM
7	Chores How about conditioning your affection and availability on her behaving like a grown up who can put her fucking dishes in the sink? If you don't want to be surrounded by filth, maybe you just shouldn't be around? And exactly where do you see the future going with a woman who can't take any part in keeping a house up? This isn't even Adulting, it is Basic Humaning 101. I mean, I managed to figure out the "dirty dishes go in the sink" thing when I was like 4 or 5? Or, is there something you aren't …	/r/askMRP	12/03/17 08:43 PM
2	BP level expert or DGAF...? I absolutely think you should do this. It's a great idea. There is no chance in hell your wife will get her birthday fuck from a random Chad she meets exploring this city. It'll totally just be her leaving for a weekend to wander around a city by herself, whilst thinking how badly she wants to be back in your arms every moment she's out there. This will go swimmingly.	/r/askMRP	12/03/17 08:22 PM
2	Do I have to end my marriage? So you're a slave to your emotions, like a woman? First, you're able to change your feelings about things, people, places, etc. If you spent any effort on your attractive wife and building whatever she isn't giving you (hence why you want to fuck your coworker beyond the physical aspect of things) then you wouldn't be in this position. Example: Your coworker laughs at your jokes, but your wife doesn't pay attention. You want to fuck your coworker because she is validating you as a person which i…	/r/askMRP	11/03/17 12:39 AM
4	Please, Tell Me I'm Being Crazy. Please. Your wife is depressed to a level that requires professional help. She can barely function as a person, much less as an adult or parent. She pulls this shit because she gets attention from you - even if it is negative attention. You buy into it. This is just like teenagers who act out and get into trouble all the time. It is how they get attention. This does not mean she actively knows why she is doing it. I think she is too depressed to be able to self-analyze why she acts the way she does. You…	/r/askMRP	10/03/17 07:46 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - March 07, 2017 Work - Busted my ass and created some margin this week to work on my own stuff. Which is necessary as I absolutely need not just a new client, but probably 2-3 at this point to get through the next month. Going full on into prospecting/outbound marketing at this point along with a few efforts to raise my profile in hopes it helps inbound marketing. The good news is that so much work the past few months has allowed us to eat into all the work we had outstanding on lots of other client projects th…	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/03/17 02:24 AM
1	How to deal with obsesivelly jealous LTR? You can't fix crazy like that through RP tactics. This woman has major issues and trauma she needs to work on/through. This is psychotic behavior. Run like hell.	/r/askMRP	06/03/17 12:35 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2017 Lead generation has been all referral and people finding me in the past; no marketing whatsoever on my part. Like I said, all my clients are big fans. That is changing as we are starting to implement a bit of inbound marketing and a little outbound marketing possibly as well. Also did a major upgrade and facelift on my website, while also swapping the content/feel of the site away from smaller entrepreneurs and towards established businesses instead. My former target client just really can't aff…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/03/17 03:12 PM
8	How to talk to fiancé about shortening vacation ? Oh no! She'll be upset that you aren't following through on a full vacation when you have no savings and just started a new job! How mean of you! I don't know how you'll possibly survive when she gets upset! Whatever will you do?! Maybe you should just mentally prepare yourself now for a few nights on the couch! With any luck she'll let you come back to bed after a few nights out there. Maybe sooner if you apologize and beg. Or maybe just cave and let her emotions force you into an ill-advised v…	/r/askMRP	03/03/17 03:43 AM
3	One week in MRP, I think I might have done this too much too soon. please advise So... you prep your woman on one of the biggest purchases a person can make by giving her a 5-minute crash course when "she doesn't know shit about this stuff"? Exactly how are you leading her in this scenario and setting her up for success? She was correct that you didn't prep her for the sale. She was looking to you for guidance/leadership and you failed her here. You could have discussed this and provided her with a list well before she went to the dealership (either verbally so she could wri…	/r/askMRP	28/02/17 07:16 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 28, 2017 Work - Not very successful at all. The previous week took a shitload out of me and personal issues wrecked the weekend too. I was really hoping to have an easier week this week, but instead I'll be in catch-up mode starting right after this OYS. That's not to say I didn't do anything, but the actual amount of work getting done and productivity is so below what is necessary right now. Constantly exhausted, constantly stressed. Also really disappointed that my one prospect that I thought was incre…	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/02/17 01:31 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2017 Work - The past week was very successful as far as shipping goes - 1 client project and 1 project of my own to up my business game. The last few days were hell getting my own project done but it happened and I can now move forward to being introduced to a very, very large prospect that has the potential to quickly turn things around for me. I tied up a few smaller tasks and also will be moving forward on a few other marketing efforts within the next few days. Speaking of prospects, one came back…	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/02/17 07:02 PM
6	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 21, 2017 2 months ago you said you had been lurking for over half a year and "started lifting," now you need to "find the motivation to start a lifting program." You don't need motivation, you need to discipline yourself to stop being a pussy. No excuse to not be lifting 3x/week with SL5x5 unless you are injured. Lifting is more than just physical gains. You will become mentally stronger and more confident, thus fixing your initiating issues. The rest of what you said doesn't matter until you start commi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/02/17 12:33 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2017 Are you serious? Why in the fuck is there nothing about contacting a lawyer and moving towards divorce in your OYS? She has threatened you with false rape charges and said she would divorce you with no problems if you paid her law school for 3 years. There is no point in talking about how to swat away shit tests or whatever else. Get the fuck away from this psycho.	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/02/17 02:20 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2017 I hear you, but I supplement with iron pills and also add spinach to all keto shakes. Then again, we had steak for dinner last night and cut up the leftovers into eggs for breakfast; I still crashed and took a nap. Maybe it wasn't a red meat issue. I'm starting to feel at a loss aside from just being under tons of stress.	/r/MarriedRedPill	15/02/17 10:37 PM
2	How to get out of Rambo mode as a newbie Well, you didn't say anything about how you won't speak to her unless she changes her tone this last time. So when you have something to say, call and say it? What's the problem? As for the overarching issue of Rambo'ing: I think you're OK just because of how mindful you are about it. A large part of going Rambo is letting your emotions (usually anger) control you in moments where you really needed to keep a cool head. That, as well as a fundamental misunderstanding that you can't go demanding s…	/r/askMRP	15/02/17 12:15 PM
2	Can we be salvaged???? There it is. Prioritize and execute. Listen to Jocko Podcast to start developing your discipline and mindset. Get after it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/02/17 04:37 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 14, 2017 Work - Agreed to terms with a new client last week, but waiting for them to get back to me and lock in under contract has been frustrating. Especially because I'm cutting it extremely close to the wire on debt payments. Busted my ass around the end of last week to get one project mostly wrapped up. Client is raving about the work product. I did not get nearly as much done as I wanted to, due to some health stuff through the weekend. Getting back at it since yesterday though. Most clients are hap…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/02/17 04:34 PM
5	Can we be salvaged???? Your standard for yourself is that you were a victim of a friend showing you porn. Your standard for yourself is that you can't control yourself with your smartphone. Your standard for yourself is that you're a dipshit now too? Why would you use that kind of language about yourself, even joking around in a self-deprecating manner? You're only reinforcing it on a subconscious level. The point is not to grovel and think you're some low-life scum. The point is not to come back with a smart ass rema…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/02/17 03:32 PM
2	Is it all worth it? This isn't about improving your relationship, it's about improving you so that you like your life. You're going to do the work either way. You can either suffer up front to become stronger and get awesome results, or be weak/lazy and suffer more when life comes along and slaps you like a bitch. Pick your suffering.	/r/askMRP	14/02/17 01:57 PM
1	Can we be salvaged???? Why are you 40 and calling us bros? I'll call my best friend that and LTR to tease her when I ask if she lifted that day, but I'm not in a frat with you. Start having some standards for yourself as a gentleman. I have no idea if your marriage can be saved. But you could become someone who doesn't suck as a husband/man if you start internalizing the sidebar and putting some real effort into building a better you. And every time you want to jerk off, either initiate with your wife or go lift.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/02/17 12:45 PM
1	I hate my wife and I wouldn't marry her again. How do I accept my wife and marriage and stop hating her? You're a victim and even though you "know all this stuff" like forgiveness and the sidebar, you are hamstering that you're a special snowflake who it doesn't apply to. Boohoo, you made bad choices in the past. Your wife is an evil cunt and you wish you could get a do-over. So that must make you unique and different from the rest of us and the regular advice doesn't apply? Adults own that they make mistakes and figure out a way to learn from them and move forward. Stop wasting everyone's time and…	/r/askMRP	13/02/17 10:47 PM
1	New member, some advice on managing tests Maybe you didn't go Rambo, but do you show affection or bring any fun into her life whatsoever? You can STFU/withdraw attention when she is being a bitch, and apply dread by simply following the steps. But do you make her feel wanted at all when she is being a good partner? Not just for sex, but as a person you are going through life with? She is supposed to be the first mate, not a passenger. Is your anger phase getting in the way of having her walk alongside you, with you leading the way, into…	/r/askMRP	13/02/17 03:00 PM
1	Stuck in limbo between anger and depression phases. (and another country) Your sole focus needs to be on getting the fuck out. Use that to motivate you more every day. Fucking hustle with the online stuff. I hope the kid isn't yours. You said pregnant the second time; do you already have a kid?	/r/askMRP	12/02/17 03:50 AM
3	Question 7 myths in..., Ok, so you refuse to try being a fun and interesting husband because that seems like it would be really hard. So you hamster some reasons up like it probably wouldn't change anything anyway, even though you could at least do it for yourself so that you're fine with or without her. Just keep doing what you're doing. I'm sure something will magically change. One last question: Have you already bought your midlife crisis sports car? If not, have you at least started budgeting for the one you've got…	/r/askMRP	11/02/17 02:50 PM
4	Question 7 myths in..., So you're both miserable, don't enjoy time around one another, and staying together for your kids sets the example of what being married is supposed to be like. So they will possibly have shit marriages too unless they get disgusted by the shell of a marriage you have and vow to not do the same thing. You stopped after saying you lift more and dress better. Are you fun or interesting? Are you leading your life and that of your family? Do you tease and flirt with your wife? Or do you just STFU an…	/r/askMRP	11/02/17 02:14 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - February 07, 2017 Work - Worked hard on knocking out a large project. Client extremely happy. Now in the mode of finishing up my own marketing efforts in the next few days while also knocking off tons of little tasks that have been waiting to get done. Need a client in the next 2 weeks to make sure payments for debts are made. Other payments on other projects are coming throughout the next few months, so it is more an issue of liquidity. Today, two opportunities for nice-sized projects came my way, with one being…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/02/17 03:23 AM
3	Boundary enforcement/power struggle You're an idiot for getting sucked into her bullshit over a coat on the fucking chair. If she is pissy and hounding you over that, either she has OCD or you're an unattractive faggot. You're an even bigger idiot for making an ultimatum you can't back up... over a fucking coat. You were experimenting with managing your frame? Then why the fuck didn't you just say "Thank you! I was just about to go to the basement to grab -something you could grab-. You're so sweet, babe!" and be on your merry way…	/r/askMRP	07/02/17 03:14 AM
2	On a downward spiral of self-made misery; please help Your victim mindset is fucking you over - not just with your wife but across your entire life. Others already said it well. You need to switch from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Stop letting your circumstances get you down. Let them fire you up to take massive fucking action to turn around this shit storm you created for yourself. You will be better for this in the end if you dig yourself out. One particular point to address is the "I pretty much hate her" line. You gotta let that shit go…	/r/askMRP	04/02/17 04:10 PM
28	First post You have a kid, are in school, and there is no or little income coming from you? She pays everything? Everything is in her name? You're 25? I disagree with the other guys; you have no right to walk out on her and your kid right now until you get your fucking shit together. I don't blame her at all for fucking other guys behind your back. Yes, that happened. You're talking about ultimatums? What, that you might stay and continue to drag her down? I can't believe she hasn't had you served yet. The…	/r/askMRP	04/02/17 03:37 AM
8	question about self hatred u/abdada and u/Scurvemuch gave two solid answers. I'm going to add on to those. Most people have that void in themselves that they need to fill because they don't feel worthy of loving themselves for whatever reason. So you seek love outside of yourself (in this case, your wife). The two main reasons boil down to: 1) You have learned lessons in your life that make you think you are unlovable, and thus you can't love yourself. Typically, you had a fucked up childhood in some way if this is the ca…	/r/askMRP	03/02/17 08:21 PM
25	So pissed off. desperate for advice, Cant take the fights anymore. Have you ever seen Wargames? You're playing Global Thermonuclear War. You can't win if you play the game. So stop playing the game, dipshit. In this case, playing means becoming emotionally invested whatsoever in what she has to say right now. As soon as you get pulled into her frame, you lose. She feeds off the emotional drama you allow (and actually encourage her to do) by your reactions. You have to detach yourself emotionally from this situation. Step outside of your own mind, emotions, etc.…	/r/askMRP	03/02/17 03:38 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2017 Lack of fiber in the meal replacement shakes, and especially the addition of MCT oil if you do that to aid with keto, can lead to diarrhea for some people. Especially when starting out and throwing your whole system for a loop.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/02/17 12:37 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 31, 2017 Work - Productivity back but not kicked into high gear enough. Juggling lots of things that are taxing me creatively as well as stresses of real life. The work getting done is good, a lot is getting done between myself and LTR, and pretty sure most/all clients are happy right now. People are replied to, feeling positive about the direction of things overall even though they look bad from the outside. I have a strong sense of optimism things are about to happen. Forced myself to put time in on my…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/02/17 01:54 AM
10	Why bother? Yeah, I've been here before and am still dealing with it. Is it your fault? Yes and no. Look, it is not your fault whatsoever that she chose to go down that path. She is an adult human being with her own agency. With that said, are you perfect and do you have the perfect relationship? Obviously not. Is there a few things you could have done better? Definitely. I don't know the story of how you spend each day, and I don't need to. Because we all fail, every single day, at some things. We are impe…	/r/askMRP	29/01/17 03:39 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 24, 2017 Work - Productivity bombed for a few days when I hit a giant slump at the end of last week. Stuff still got done, but not happy about the pace. Picked things back up on Monday and back to checking shit off my todo list. Again, still not too happy about the pace. Will be setting project milestones to get us out of this over the next few weeks. Grade: C+ Lifting/Exercise - Still sticking to cardio due to neck, but have to admit I used work and research as excuses not to even do some of that most d…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/01/17 01:52 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 It comes from a self-hypnosis system called the "Lifelong Success System" by Igor Ledochowski. Self-hypnosis as in deep, guided meditations, not the kind where you cluck like a chicken on stage. You can Google the name and the first result that comes up is it. Yes, the landing page looks scammy, but this is one thing I would absolutely vouch for if you are into personal development whatsoever (and if you are here at MRP, then you should be). It also MIGHT be on torrent sites too if you are into …	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/01/17 10:21 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 Agree with just about all this. Proraso is great stuff, although I didn't have any pre-shave cream, just the normal shaving cream. Instead I used Shave Secret oil before-hand which I thought also worked well. Have you tried Personna blades? If so, how do they compare to Feather? I went with Personna initially but have wanted to try Feather. Growing beard out so I'm using a trimmer instead at the moment though.	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/01/17 02:26 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 Nice, I'm going to pick that up when I start lifting again. I can see how that would help - my ankle has had issues for years and I sometimes use an ankle brace. Price isn't too bad either. Thanks man. Re: Keto and Metamucil - Really? I think the Metamucil is the only thing keeping me from a bleeding ass right now. It's helped "normalize" me at this point, along with cutting the MCT oil and working in more veggies. I literally just re-upped on 3 more weeks' worth of Keto shake mix (at 5 shakes o…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/01/17 01:58 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 I know. You can purposely not think about the past events themselves, but you can't keep the unconscious lessons you learned from those situations from sprouting up. This is the issue. I'm going to give you my own explanation, and then throw some resources at you to read if you really want to learn more. Let me explain it in the sense of "frame" which we know very well here. Let's say you had a father like mine who sucked and got physically violent with your mother in front of you. This would ab…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/01/17 02:39 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 It is survival, and also I am on deadline for one project right now for the next few weeks. Can't do a weekend in the city yet, but maybe just a half day adventure by myself some time after the deadline would be good. Thanks.	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/01/17 01:28 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 Pretty sure form is good. I haven't had a trainer check me out but I have watched the Starting Strength videos and asked LTR to compare me against them very recently. bogey also gave me some tips awhile ago regarding squats that helped too. When the shoulder heals up and I am more confident in it, maybe I'll take some video and post it to the SL sub for form checks. I usually play in limited time situations, so I know my lack of ability to sit and think about every move is killing me. Not exactl…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/01/17 01:27 AM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 Anxiety is generally rooted in past issues. It doesn't have to be shit like your father beat you or anything (though it obviously could be), just stupid shit like being made fun of when you were 5 when someone asked you a question and you hesitated. So now you have implanted that someone asks you a question, you freeze to think, and a feeling of embarrassment/anxiety comes over you. All because of stupid shit on the playground when the other kid was just being a tool. And this lesson stays with …	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/01/17 01:24 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 17, 2017 Work - Productivity starting to taper off a bit compared to the last few weeks. Tonight I hit a wall and I think it is time for some relaxation time to recharge. Going to take the night off to watch a movie so that I can get back at it tomorrow. Other than that, I've been making very slow but steady progress on projects and things are getting done. Grade: B+ Lifting/Exercise - Neck flared up again after 2nd time lifting last week. Tired of injuring myself every time I try to lift just when I thi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/01/17 01:01 AM
4	"Can you imagine where you'd be without me?" Your comment was good. You only turned the tables on her when they were doing the same thing. Bonus that you didn't take her shit and reminded her she is replaceable in the process. Don't doubt yourself here, just own it and don't take your wife so seriously.	/r/askMRP	15/01/17 12:56 PM
5	My night - shit test - and I sleep alone STFU is key advice here while you are getting started and going through the material, OP. Don't go Redpill Rambo on Day 1. Put your head down and start doing the work. It doesn't get fixed overnight.	/r/askMRP	13/01/17 11:18 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2017 No PTO; I run my own company and finances are very bad. But still doing what I can to increase productivity and balance despite that. I'm definitely more productive now than I was most of last year. Just need to lock up a few clients and things will be much better.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/01/17 01:18 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 10, 2017 Work - Productivity through the roof lately, despite life getting in the way and fucking up some plans. There has been a little bit of resistance here and there to working, but overall I'm easily able to tell my mind "No, just shut the fuck up, I'm doing this" and getting to work. I've gotten back to almost all clients, some who were waiting over a month since my last update, and tackling projects as best I can. Also spent about 4 hours today training LTR on a bunch of questions she had concerni…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/01/17 02:30 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 03, 2017 Another thing - take a few minutes to setup your timer with bells at 5 minute intervals, and make the bell ring once after 5 minutes, twice after 10, and three at 15 so you know where you are in the meditation. It will help you get past your mind wanting to know how much time is left (an issue early on until you start to really enjoy meditation) and can help you refocus when your mind wanders. It also helps me time the various things I want to do each meditation. I switch from focusing on my bre…	/r/MarriedRedPill	05/01/17 02:30 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 03, 2017 I use Insight Timer on my phone. Any meditation is better than no meditation, and forming the habit is most important. So whatever you need to do (5 minutes, guided, etc.) then you should do it. With that said, I had failed a bunch of times in the beginning until I got some training from an experienced meditator and started with 20 minutes. This allows you much more time to get into the right state. Stretching beforehand helps a bit. Make sure to do a few deep breaths at first (I usually do 2 mo…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/01/17 10:41 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - January 03, 2017 Work - Absolutely killing it the past few days, including New Year's. First time in forever I have felt clear-headed and energized throughout the day. I continue to be able to start working without any anxiety at all flaring up as I sit down and begin. I have failed at getting as much as I wanted accomplished, though it has not been for lack of time or effort. Sometimes things just take more time, but I still am behind a bit which has to go into my grade for this week. Grade: B+ Lifting - Last w…	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/01/17 02:17 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - December 27, 2016 Work - Christmas break gave me some time to recoup. I didn't get as much as I wanted to completed before the big day, but did knock a number of things off my to do list. I was basically average. I am hitting it very hard today and through the week as January 1st is a hard goal date for a few things I'm working on. Short OYS today as a result. Grade: C Lifting - Felt my neck was up to par enough to get down in the basement and do a light workout today. Deloaded quite a bit, only did 3 sets of squ…	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/12/16 04:28 PM
6	Am I out of bounds for wanting to leave.? I know what I have to do it just suck cause of all the time invested. Sunk cost fallacy. You lived, you enjoyed (presumably both of you did), and now this may or may not be over. You have to decide that. Either way, physical attraction and sex are massive, major components of a relationship no matter what a bunch of SJW-retards want to say about how guys should love fat chicks because they are just such amazing sneauflaykes. You have to look at where things are at right now and weigh the pros an…	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/12/16 09:57 PM
7	Seriously, messed up life, advice would be good Yep, I'm a troll and you're just too fucking smart for me. You're a snowflake. Just keep not lifting and playing video games all day. That seems to be making her panties drop for you and solving all your problems. Anyway, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go take a piss standing up with the door open while my LTR is in the next room. I wonder if she'll make sure I wiped my pee-pee like a good boy?	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/12/16 03:29 AM
8	Seriously, messed up life, advice would be good I've read a lot of fucked up stories and been through a lot myself, but this is the first time I've heard of a woman actually trying to force a man to take a piss like a girl. Does she make you wear panties too or just a skirt? Anyway, your wife is probably already fucking other dudes at this point because you are not attractive at all. You are completely in her frame. She has so little respect for you that she is asking you if you wiped your pee-pee off like a mother asks a toddler. I have an i…	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/12/16 03:15 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - December 20, 2016 Work - Spent as much time as possible with my visiting family through Sunday and didn't work at all. Had to take care of personal life stuff yesterday and back at it today. An old client came back to me about a new project. Will be very small but also probably pretty easy. I wouldn't say it will be the client I really need before the end of January, but it will pad my income slightly in the beginning of 2017 if it works out. Quick pow-wow today with LTR to plan out our work the next two weeks be…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/12/16 05:42 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - December 13, 2016 Work - Killing it this week on actually mowing through work. It has been frenzied but still achieved strong results. Doubled down due to family visit so that I could spend time with them as much as possible. Had best call yet with my difficult client. Other clients all very happy. Got an inquiry from my previous job/boss about a small project that would bring in a little extra cash if that works out. Also picked up an extra few hundred dollars' worth of work for a current client. Regular inquiri…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/12/16 03:36 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - December 06, 2016 I do ask for testimonials and get a lot of work by referral - over 50% or so. I'd say over 60% of my clients love me and rave about me, another ~25-30% like me, and less than 10% are neutral or kind of dislike me. I've yet to have a client outright fire me, walk away, or do anything besides get slightly angry on a call or two. None have walked away to a competitor after working with me and only 1 stopped working with me because they stopped being in business; my retention rate is off the charts.…	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/12/16 08:11 PM
5	Feel like I am choking on the red pill. What am I doing wrong? If your wife isn't so remorseful that she is begging you for forgiveness and doing whatever it takes to regain trust day in and day out, she is still out there fucking the other dude. Not to mention, there is no "salvaging things" without that even if you want to live in a fairy tale world and believe she isn't still fucking him. Just look at any serious site about recovering from infidelity and you'll see that it is an absolute prerequisite that the betraying spouse is doing everything in their…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/12/16 04:37 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - December 06, 2016 Work - Lost the project I spent a few hours on last week, which would have really helped to set me up well going into next year. In some ways though I feel like it might have taken up a lot of time and prevented me from the bigger clients I intend to go after in the next month. Glad I keep seeing inquiries lately as another came in today, but my initial impression is it won't go past the early stages. Still, I finished a project up last week and client very happy with it. That was a nice win. I …	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/12/16 04:46 PM
1	Victim puke: Going to pieces enforcing boundaries You're asking for advice on a specific situation and how others would handle it when you really need to unfuck yourself and never put yourself in that kind of position in the first place. Zoom out and look at the bigger picture.	/r/askMRP	01/12/16 12:52 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 29, 2016 Work - Fucking killed my call last week and landed a new $10k project with a current client. I was then emailed over the weekend by someone who inquired 5 months ago and chose to go another direction which didn't work out. I feel like I owned that call as well and spent 3 hours today creating a proposal and video presentation which I'll be sending them once the video is done rendering/uploading. In competition with someone who is much cheaper but isn't going to provide nearly the kind of value I…	/r/MarriedRedPill	29/11/16 10:26 PM
15	I'm new here, and I have no idea wtf this is all about but.... Wrong. Lawyer the fuck up right now. That doesn't mean you need to go start divorce proceedings. It means you need to have a chat with them and gain the knowledge of what might happen if you or your wife pulls the trigger. Do you really want to be unprepared if you get served papers?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/16 09:03 PM
3	New guy stuff and some FR I quit jerking off a few months ago around the time I found MRP and the results were significant. YMMV but I'd agree you should try it out, even if only for 2 weeks. If you are only having sex on the weekends, you might go a little stir crazy on the 3rd or 4th day, but stick with it. You are going to start giving off more pheromones and will start feeling more energized/like the man right afterwards. I can't say if your woman will notice, but I know mine was eye-fucking the shit out of me after …	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/11/16 08:55 PM
3	Divorce process question Fucking listen to your lawyer. He's not making shit up to torture you by keeping your dick dry. I made the mistake of my ex-wife finding out that I started dating just under a year after I moved out while the divorce was not finalized yet. Suddenly I had been "cheating on her" and it threw a wrench into everything.	/r/askMRP	23/11/16 01:49 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 22, 2016 Shit, I hadn't thought of that. Figured it was mostly bad posture at the computer. Will get LTR to form check me next time around. Thanks bogey.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/11/16 01:44 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 22, 2016 Work - Closed deal with client from my last OYS, they seem pumped to be working with me. Then I got a message from a current client talking about wanting to discuss a new project with me. That call is happening this week. Also still have one other in a holding pattern until after the holidays. With all that good news, I still failed this week miserably as no real progress was made on numerous projects because of shit coming up. This is not to say I did not work, so much as it was constantly putt…	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/11/16 03:10 PM
3	I previously told my wife I would be happy raising a family with her. I think I was lying to myself. This is a dealbreaker that you need to get clear on regardless of whether or not you want to stay with your wife. There is no middle ground or compromise on kids. If you decide you never want to have kids, then you owe it to both yourself and your wife to say that out loud now and determine the next steps. You're both adult human beings with goals, dreams, etc. If a big shared vision suddenly changes for one then either the other person can get on board (unlikely on something this big unless the…	/r/askMRP	16/11/16 12:46 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 15, 2016 Work: New inquiry late last week going well with a second call coming up this week. Another potential client came back after not responding for awhile, though sadly not the one who went radio silent from my last OYS after agreeing to work with me. Overall, happy about having two on deck and hoping at least one leads somewhere to help carry me through while I adjust my business and marketing plan over the next 1-2 months. I fell behind in the past week on work and am not pleased with that, though…	/r/MarriedRedPill	15/11/16 05:43 PM
1	Wife wont let me watch movies You want to talk about your feelings? Ok: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/09/08/bros-dogs-beer/ You're either going to create results and become a stronger man or create excuses as to why you couldn't. You've had your hand held long enough already. The resources and advice are all there on the sidebar and here in this thread. You create your own reality. Start putting in work to make yourself in the image that you want or go back to suckling on your wife's teat and stop wasting everyone's time.	/r/askMRP	11/11/16 03:10 PM
6	Wife wont let me watch movies This is your second marriage and you've been together for 10 years. So we're talking about someone AT LEAST in their late 30s? Possibly 40s or even 50s, depending? And you're still letting Mommy tell you what you're allowed to watch? You've got to be fucking kidding me. You need this place badly, but I doubt you're going to take it seriously. You're seemingly not at the end of your rope, even though you should be hating yourself for being so weak. How many other areas of your life do people just…	/r/askMRP	11/11/16 03:59 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 08, 2016 Craigslist is a good idea once we get a little more cash, but right now it is total survival mode. I do have the squat rack and the sawhorses work for now in case I fail. I live out in the sticks - I think the high school is about 30 minutes away and gym would be even further. Can't take the time to drive it multiple days a week when I can just pop down into the basement. But I will keep CL on my radar rather than jumping straight to buying new for the cage.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/11/16 11:42 PM
1	UPDATE: Wife threatening divorce have four kids HELP! You know it. Ex-wife went so far as to hand me a fake pregnancy test strip in person a few months after I had her served, yet forgot that we had sex so long before then that she would be ready to deliver any day by that point. But go figure, she sure as hell wasn't in her third trimester. Of course when I called her on her bullshit, she then "had a miscarriage" a few days later and that was my fault too for stressing her out and disavowing that I got her pregnant. Psychotic cunt.	/r/askMRP	09/11/16 11:30 PM
5	Found MarriedRedPill two months to late. Getting divorced, and in a really bad state. Any help, insight or analysis would be helpful. Thanks This group could not have saved your marriage. You might have been able to change and your STBX might have become attracted to you again, but seriously she was fucking around behind your back from before you even got married 3 years ago. Even if you turned shit around 6 months ago, that is 2 1/2 years of her fucking another guy. That's who you want back? You need to be throwing yourself a fucking party that she is gone from your life tonight. And then tomorrow you're lifting and reading the side…	/r/askMRP	09/11/16 12:22 AM
5	UPDATE: Wife threatening divorce have four kids HELP! Get your head out of your ass. This relationship is over. Your wife filed for divorce and got a restraining order on you. This is not a shit test and it is not something to be fixed. That's the nuclear option and it was used. There is no "fresh start." You can't "fix her" - that's not RULE #1 which is Lift, but I think it is UNDERSTANDING #1 of MRP. You can only, and must, fix yourself. It's not like tomorrow you can all be like "let's just wipe the slate clean and try again." Her gambit failed …	/r/askMRP	08/11/16 07:44 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 08, 2016 Work - A few large insights that I need to shift my target client even further than I thought when considering the money I should be making for my talent and skills. Was hoping to work with high-end individuals but now see I likely will have to target businesses making at least $1m in revenue who will have the kind of budget to pay for my level of work. This has led to a few deep dives on learning a few new sales skills to start closing more and bigger deals. Took too much time though and now I'…	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/11/16 02:31 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - November 01, 2016 Work - Just kept my head above the water this past week. Frustrating because I did work, but nothing moved forward that much. Though I do believe I finally signed a new client. Verbal agreement, contract sent. I never count them as a client until I see a paid deposit to hold their spot since too many deals have broken down before money comes. Not a big project and I had to compromise on some things, but it breaks my drought and helps if it does go through. Worked with a coach on plans to transit…	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/11/16 04:24 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 25, 2016 I think I like category and grade a bit better: Work - Did great with a milestone on one client's project and got huge praise. But most of the past week has been either putting out fires (business and personal, especially financial), spent in meetings (2 solid days), or fixing problems/issues that came up. Felt drained from a lot of this and didn't get nearly as much work to move projects forward as I wanted done. Grade: C+ for too much downtime and not enough forward movement on projects. Perso…	/r/MarriedRedPill	25/10/16 06:09 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 18, 2016 GOOD: Ownership - I'm in a very tough spot that seems to get worse every day. Two nights ago my father asked how I was doing; previously I would just say "I'm doing ok" or something, as we've never been close and I had a lot of issues with him as I was growing up. But I decided to own it and be very transparent and honest with him. He came back at me and said in a rather demeaning way that I give up the business I've been running for 3 years and go get a job, even at McDonalds, to pay my bills. …	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/10/16 03:24 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2016 Actually we do but it is tiny. I still gave it a shot this morning and it helped a lot even though it was just a cardio day for me. Thanks for the advice.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/10/16 10:12 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2016 Glad to hear M is doing better. She likely will continue as the drugs and therapy become more routine, but that is a good time to be vigilant and keep your eyes peeled for her slipping back into the same kinds of behaviors exhibited before she got to the day at the park. Basically try to cut it off early before it reaches that point. Though sometimes shit is just out of your hands, like a bad day at school.	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/16 03:17 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 11, 2016 GOOD: Lifting/Exercise - Still on track and working in cardio on 2-3 of the off days. Failed on last set of OHP one day but fought through it the next time around. Squats are getting very difficult and my leg muscles and joints are starting to feel "slightly injured" as in they are too sore to simply be 'sore,' but I'm still managing to get through the sets and don't feel like I'm at a failure point just yet either as I wouldn't say I'm pushing with all my might to get back up. Will see how it g…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/10/16 03:05 PM
1	I need a hobby Are you really asking other people to tell you what you're interested in? Do you not have any idea what you might be interested in doing to get you started? I checked out some of your posts. You're apparently in great shape but wife is totally closed off. Granted you have a 2 month old, but still: 12% body fat and the wife is still shutting you down completely to the point of not wanting you to touch her practically at all. So you either have a facial cleft, or you are physically attractive but …	/r/askMRP	11/10/16 02:56 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 04, 2016 GOOD: Lifting - Back on track and approaching the point I was at when I injured myself a few months ago. Missed lifting this morning due to work obligations and went slightly off my normal schedule last week, but still making sure I am doing 3 times a week with StrongLifts no matter what. Also beginning to get back into some cardio on rest days. Work - Launched a massive project that had taken up months of my time today. Still have a number of things to do in the future that the client added on …	/r/MarriedRedPill	04/10/16 09:49 PM
2	Into the family therapy dome I have been in the same position as M around that age; suicidal, taken to hospital, locked up in teen psych clinic, meds, etc. Not as high functioning as your daughter, but still introverted, lots of anxiety, and lots of pressure to succeed (real and imagined). Straight A's most of my life until just a few years before that point, played an instrument, and so on. 7th grade is when I started to crack, psych clinic lock-up was 10th grade. So probably more or less parallel to your daughter. I do no…	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/10/16 07:57 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 27, 2016 GOOD- Work: Continuing to get a lot done. Also had two new leads directly from the SEO work I did about 2 weeks ago. Feeling pretty good about the output of work and general direction of things in this area. OK - Lifting: Thought I was good to go but finding my neck is now hurting. Still trying to figure out how to sleep in a better position to allow myself to heal more - trying different pillows, body pillows, etc. I am still lifting but resting more in-between. BAD - Frame: Completely lost it …	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/09/16 01:29 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 20, 2016 GOOD - Lifting: Back to lifting SL5x5 3x/week starting last week. In general I'd like to get a little more physical activity in throughout the week, but at least the lifting is there. Work: Killing it for the most part. A computer went down for about a day, so that set me back on continuing project work while dealing with it. All clients that I'm actively doing work for are very happy or at least content by their responses and interactions with me. Getting more done every week than I have in a l…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/09/16 08:37 PM
2	I'm a Junior in high school, been lurking TRP for about a year. My overprotective controlling single mother and her female roommate constantly try to betafy me and limit my freedom/potential. I'm going crazy. What do I do? There is a quote, "Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so." which applies here. If you want to research what I'm talking about, look for the book "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. It goes into how despite your situation, you can choose how you think about it. In the author's life, he had to choose how to view being in Nazi concentration camps. Also, there is the NLP technique of reframing, which is more of a specific technique as opposed to the bigger picture described in the…	/r/askTRP	15/09/16 04:00 PM
2	I'm a Junior in high school, been lurking TRP for about a year. My overprotective controlling single mother and her female roommate constantly try to betafy me and limit my freedom/potential. I'm going crazy. What do I do? Stop blaming other people for your shit and making excuses. You need to start looking at your problems as opportunities. Yes, you have limitations put on you and there are walls in front of you. Guess what: this won't change when you get out of the house. You will just trade them for different ones. Yes, you should lift, but that doesn't mean you don't do body weight exercises or cardio if you can't get to a place with weights. Is she literally trapping you in the house to keep you from putting …	/r/askTRP	14/09/16 09:44 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2016 Three times before leaving, nice. By the time I am on the long flight back, I am thinking WTF was that….why didn’t I fuck her. You went on the trip with the intention to meet and mingle, but no sex. Mindfully brought no condoms, staying congruent to marriage, etc. If all of that is because of your own values, then on one hand: you had a great opportunity to break your word to yourself and get some pussy. You didn't. You should look at that as a win that you had some resolve/didn't give in to tem…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/09/16 09:21 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2016 Roughly a month ago I remember reading you losing your shit a lot more while needing a lot more nicotine. Now I'm reading you are practically off the nicotine and reporting no rage, no anxiety, etc. for the week - even mindfully pulling through when tough problems came up. Good shit.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 02:23 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 13, 2016 About 3 months since finding RP, 2 months of OYS minus skipping a week while family was here. Time to assess the journey so far on a more macro-level. GOOD: Lifting - When I can, I do. Even when I was injured and not fully healed, I did, which was stupid and set me back. Spent the past few weeks trying really hard to let myself heal and this morning was my first time back under the bar in a few weeks. Took it easy but was happy just to be in the routine again. Overall since starting I'm going to…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 02:15 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2016 Been there a number of times through teens and 20s, though what really helped was someone coaching me through grief recovery work. I was actually doing the reflection as part of working with a different coach when I came upon that realization. I hadn't thought of the lazy boy. I tried the pillows, but I'm used to rolling in place (literally picking myself up and rotating, rather than just rolling to the left or right). However, an unexpected benefit is that it has become like a body pillow and I…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 12:47 PM
1	[Theory] The best laid plans of mice and men…. That was fucking excellent. I just moved back to the tri-state area and spent some time this morning considering preparations for the winter after reading TheFamilyAlpha's post. I was prepared for hurricanes having come from the deep South, but need to set up for the new/different conditions. Not that I expect Sandy-level destruction from a blizzard, but no electricity for even 2-3 days would be brutal in a house off the beaten path with no other heating/cooking sources. I'll definitely consider…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 12:33 AM
1	How to plan a new life? Look at the intersection of your natural skills/talents, your values, and the lifestyle you want. So, someone who is very quick-witted, has "justice" or "fairness" high up on their list of values, and who doesn't mind long work hours for good money should consider being a lawyer. Start with your values: Google around until you find a big list of values. Pick out the top 8 that speak to you the most. Then try to order them by what is most to least important. Next, list out what you are naturally …	/r/askMRP	12/09/16 03:25 AM
3	Preparing my Plan B - executing a clean break. Advice from those who've been there? I know a lot of guys are talking about money and lawyers, but I think this one is important: Iron Rule #5: Never allow a woman to be in control of the birth. This is important anyway, but especially so if you are considering divorce. I know you said no kids, but you never know what tricks women will pull to trap you if shit goes down and she doesn't want you to leave. About 4 months into divorcing my batshit crazy ex-wife, she handed me a positive pregnancy test. This was hilarious to me because…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/09/16 02:01 AM
1	Low Self esteem wife giving me grief and shit You don't even love me (She'll roll her eyes and then get sad/mad) You don't want me. I'm just a great starter wife for you. Why don't you go talk to your hoes? I know I'm a horrible wife, you must have the divorce papers in your back pocket don't you. All you want to do is just cum in my hole and be done with me. Or she'll bring up some old stuff that have happen to us before and throw it up in my face. This is all validation seeking behavior. If you break down and cry for her to stop being ups…	/r/askMRP	10/09/16 05:14 PM
2	Main event - happening now? Pokémon Go is not exercising. Lifting weights is exercising.	/r/askMRP	09/09/16 03:12 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2016 GOOD: I can't give myself a gold star or say I was owning anything this week. OK: Diet has overall been 'ok' as I've been playing it safe since being sick for the most part. I recovered from the 2nd round of having a stomach bug enough to work a day after last OYS and hustled to catch up on work through the week, and felt fully better around Friday, but I was too distracted over the holiday weekend when I really should have kept it going to fully get back on track. I wouldn't say I completely fa…	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/09/16 11:16 PM
7	Wife went nuclear, struggling with my options. You can't say you're doing your best to kill covert contracts when your entire post is one giant covert contract. You are doing ALL of this with expectations from her - it seems like every sentence is "I did this, but she doesn't do anything back" and "I'm changing, but she isn't losing her ego and changing too." Her, her, her. Even worse, you expect it all to be a magic pill that will make everything change in less than a month after years of being horribly fucked. So fucked that you guys separ…	/r/askMRP	31/08/16 02:32 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 30, 2016 OWNING: General health - I've been battling a stomach bug the past week, but still managed to lift twice (shoulder injury felt mostly healed at the time, regressed just slightly though), walked dogs a few times, and have been eating healthy pretty much across the board. Basically, if I felt good enough, I made sure to get active at the level I thought was appropriate. That might have caused me to go backwards on the stomach bug this morning though. STARTING TO OWN: Work - I feel like I went back…	/r/MarriedRedPill	31/08/16 12:13 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 23, 2016 I can, but it still uses my mind too much to read stuff for even 10 minutes if I do that on every break. I think there is a happy balance, I just need to implement more of the "turn brain off for 10 minutes" breaks so that I can marathon through the rest of the day, or not multitask when eating lunch, and things like that.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/08/16 08:57 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 23, 2016 OWNING: Work - Making decent progress on all my projects. Hamstrung by health lately. No alcohol - Have not had a drink in weeks since my family visited. Not a huge deal since I never drank much anyway, but there have been 2-3 nights when it would have been nice to relax with a glass of Lagavulin. STARTING TO OWN: Time wasting - Starting to make better choices about replacing time wasting activities with better ones. My work is demanding mentally, but I'm in the bad habit of wasting time on Redd…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/08/16 03:10 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016 It's definitely possible. I'm not saying I have a unicorn and I'm just a white belt here. I am divorced from an evil psycho cunt beast who did shit test me left and right, so I know what shit tests are. I swore I'd never deal with that shit again (at least on that level) when I left her. I'll say LTR does it occasionally, but it'd be hard to classify as a legit shit test as I think she does it to hear my responses. I've never had a problem being very quick with a sarcastic remark, AM, A&A, whate…	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/08/16 10:07 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016 I hear you. Police were called in my marriage (by her, after she was hitting me, and hilariously they took her away). It wasn't even a best case scenario that she was hot and crazy - she was just crazy. I divorced her long before I found this place. I'm still new here and wouldn't take my advice over the endorsed contributors, and am not sure about it escalating to physical violence, but my best guess would be you just have to remember to not engage right from the start. STFU and go lift or fix …	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/08/16 09:36 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016 This is my first boundary i'm setting, and honestly the thought of enforcing it is frightening. The thought of doing something like this that I might find fun and not getting approval first is frightening. You should consider the Stoic practice of negative visualization. Imagine the worst case scenario ahead of time. Not just 'be' fearful when you think about what you want to do, I mean actually think out logically the exact worst case scenario? Chances are you already know the worst case scenar…	/r/MarriedRedPill	18/08/16 12:19 AM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016 I try to make my sleep pretty consistent and get somewhere around 7-8 hours. Minus last night, I don't have very many wild swings. I do have the sunrise lamp, though found it was losing effectiveness. It's been a battle for years to wake up consistently at 6AM and to have a routine go from there - mostly because for so long I didn't have very many good reasons to get up and out of bed. I find it is easier now in the morning when I am immediately reminded of my new outlook on life and personal mi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/08/16 06:45 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 09, 2016 Man, thank you. I was definitely doing it the wrong way - and even keeping it up since I was wanting to build up more calluses.	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/08/16 04:08 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 16, 2016 OWNING: Work - Busted my ass for the past few days and stayed up until 4AM to get a massive website project launched. It's the best work I've done in my life so far - which I push to do on every project, but this one is a milestone moment I think. NoFap - I am still going on not actually jerking off, though to be honest I've had a number of times where I browsed /r/all to procrastinate and wound up looking at all the pics. Truth moment: Also helps that I'm fucking my ex-fiance again. Explicitly …	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/08/16 04:06 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 09, 2016 Will give changing the grip a try. Heating pad definitely helped and am intending on working in some yoga as well. Started at least doing some stretches to help in the recovery process. Thanks!	/r/MarriedRedPill	16/08/16 03:32 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - August 09, 2016 Last week: Skipped OYS since family was in town. Overall I think I provided a pretty awesome trip and I feel mostly good about how I stepped up to be a leader with that. Started out by taking them to a few different activities which all went well. Then we spent the day going into NYC and it was a let down because I tried to allow my Mom and Sister to run the show as they were the ones who wanted to do it and they had a checklist of places to go. Turns out my sister just wanted to take selfies of…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/08/16 12:39 AM
1	Raised by a single Mum, what do I need to know that should have been taught by a Father? I have to second that NMMNG needs to shoot to the top of the to-read list. Out of the recommended reading, that one has been the biggest revelation for me having been in the same situation with an absent father.	/r/askTRP	26/07/16 10:48 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2016 I had thought about mentioning you when writing that post and saying that you were right. The harder she is working to help me and take care of shit, the better we are right now. I wouldn't turn down her increased effort regardless of the reason behind it as this can only help me for now as she would be here anyway. No shit tests and even the panty dropping hasn't been an attempt at getting out of the work, at least not yet. I'm being hyper-vigilant about this knowing that it is a possibility wh…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/07/16 10:43 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2016 Regarding salt: I don't know if this is the case, but it could also be iodine-related. A lot of people are deficient in this even with eating salt that has iodine. I take Iodoral and believe it has a positive effect. With that said, it could also just be the lack of salt, I am not a doctor, and am only speaking from personal experience.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/07/16 02:01 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2016 SHIT I AM OWNING: Lifting: Still killing it on lifting every scheduled day, though I finally reached failure on OHP on my last fucking rep. Refused to let that beat me and failed one more time before I finally hit it. This week will be the second time in as many weeks that I need to go buy more weights for deadlifts. Have made plans to ensure my lifting does not get derailed while family visits. In the past week, which is about 7 weeks since I started, I am finally starting to actually see why l…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/07/16 01:51 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2016 SHIT I AM OWNING: Lifting/exercise: Still doing SL5x5 3x/week, weight is getting heavy and form starting to falter on some of the lifts. Still getting in cardio activities on rest days. About to try out DDP Yoga to mix it up with treadmill on the off days. Food/health: Still doing IF, eating 2k cal/day or below tracked with MFP, and eating healthy for the most part. Weight is very slowly going down, but I think my body composition is changing which is the bigger deal. I think I need to take body…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/07/16 02:28 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2016 Thank you for all that. I think it is more accurate to say that the Adderall of course helps me focus, but I would find ways to focus on unimportant or useless stuff. So it wasn't helping me work since focusing on the right thing is a different issue. Bed has always been a struggle and having that purpose is what I meant by having a 'why.' Right now life is just a grind for the most part and has been for a long time. But you're right, I do put a lot of emphasis on reading and learning and not en…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/16 03:04 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2016 I really appreciate this. I'm also intending to get T checked soon; I think that has been a big part of it. I'm not against Adderall, but I do feel like it wasn't helping me with work when I was taking it and the anxiety just detracted more. But now that some time has gone by and I'm a little more at ease with everything, it may be worth revisiting or just trying a smaller dose to fight through some of the blocks I've been running into.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/16 04:42 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2016 Thanks. Yes, she is absolutely not wife material. Aside from all the shit that went down between us, it also revealed that we have different visions for how we want to live our lives. There is no chance; I know she would hold me back. And I deserve better than someone who has treated me like she did. After that weekend, I'm not interested in pursuing sex any longer either. Admittedly, she may try to use sex to get out of our agreement and we do have a long way to go. Just doing what I can right …	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/16 04:32 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2016 You're right. After the weekend, I dropped any hopes or desires to have sex and realize how bad of an idea it is. The stuff she said happened a few days after the holiday weekend, but I'm not hoping or trying to get laid by her any longer and what she said didn't change that. I do view her as an employee as well as a roommate, and she has held up her end of the bargain so far. I have been very clear that without that, there is no way she gets to stay here since she would just be living off me en…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/07/16 04:07 AM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2016 Backstory: Fiance and I had been together for 4.5 years when she confessed to emotional affair right around New Year's. Me 32, her 25. 2 dogs, no kids, snipped 2 years ago. This was 2 weeks before we were moving across the country together. Stayed together to "try to work it out," then she confessed she was still texting the guy a month later after we had moved, at which point I believe it ended. She started seeing a therapist. We stayed in a temp apartment for 3-4 mos. while looking for a more …	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/07/16 04:52 PM