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| 1 | Is it true women get free Lawyers in Family Court?No they don’t. They (or a father owed child support) can ask the state to help get and enforce child support. Otherwise maybe a non profit may help in DV cases but that’s not provided by family court. Btw The Lead Attorney doesn’t give his name. Red flag. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | i made a big big mistake guys..Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Any examples of alimony post tax changes?It slightly reduces your ability to pay as much on a monthly basis. That’s it. Of course any reduction can (in theory) be made up with assets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 07:07 PM |
| 12 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."I’m not trying to minimize your emotional pain, but the financial stress and effect on standard of living is exponentially worse for most. Many can’t even afford a lawyer. I won’t even get into children. Consider yourself comparatively lucky. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 09:53 AM |
| 2 | Divorce LawsFewer are getting married and they’re older when they do. Boomers have the highest divorce rate between 40%- 50% and then percentages edge down each generation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/23 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Divorce LawsOnly about 1/4 get divorced overall but then it the percentages differ based on different factors. Remarriages end up divorcing 75% of the time. Article But even 1/4 is high, so you can stay unmarried. But most states have common law or analogous laws that treat that as a marriage anyway. You can stay a single bachelor and get a dog. You can get a cohabitation or prenup agreement that replaces the law. I know legal contracts are badmouthed for some reason but that’s your safest path right if you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/23 11:48 PM |
| 11 | Men, Marriage and Michelle ObamaWould love to see the reaction if Obama said he couldn’t stand his wife for 10 years. He probably couldn’t but he’s too afraid to say it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/22 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Currently co-parenting well, but thinking about leavingOld man shouting in the wind - you know how to use links. You know what a link even is, boomer?You use it to link to that lawyer marketing blog and other crapola you call data - right here on reddit!! Ask a younger person (say 50) to show you where to find it. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/22 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Currently co-parenting well, but thinking about leavingThat’s a marketing blog from a law firm about the possibility of toxic co-parenting. You have no “data”. No academic studies. Nothing. You’re just bloviating based on personal experience and making up stuff. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Currently co-parenting well, but thinking about leavingSo there is none. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Currently co-parenting well, but thinking about leavingI don’t know how you leave a 5 year old behind and only see them during summers. Especially when you’re a lot more flexible to move around with remote work. I could see moving when they’re teenagers but not a 5 year old. Were you going to get up and leave if you were still married? No. You were committed to stay with family. Now that family is your child, but you’d be happier elsewhere. That comes with a price. They’ll always have an insecurity about abandonment. It will shape their development … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Currently co-parenting well, but thinking about leavingWould love to see the data showing co-parenting is only marginally better than no dad and single mom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Getting marriedI’m not sure why people think it’s easy to breach a contract with lawyers involved (that’s the key). You ever tried getting out of a real estate contract due to coercion you had to agree or you wouldn’t get the house? Good luck with that if you had time to read and understand it with a lawyer. A prenup is a legal contract. The wealthy don’t get married without one. Btw your HR is wrong. Family is the default beneficiary if you don’t have designated beneficiaries. You can change the beneficiary a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/22 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Getting marriedParents are under a legal contract to their children too. That’s child support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/22 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Help Getting a divorceEvery state has different laws on this, and you’re asking anonymous redditors to figure out child support in a 50/50. If you’re going to do this right, get a lawyer to compute child support for you and give legal advice. Pay a little upfront because trying to change it later can be impossible. And know that what looks like agreement often becomes contested. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/22 03:58 AM |
| 7 | Getting marriedIf you’re going to get married, you need to do a prenup. Practically speaking, she’s not having kids unless you’re married. If she’s raising them and. not working, she needs financial security. That’s fair isn’t it? So if you don’t want to give 1/2 away plus alimony, the only way is a prenup. Done correctly with lawyers, they’re almost always enforceable. I’m not talking about prenups where you keep everything. There’s a BIG range between 0-50. It’ll hold up if it’s within that range if you use … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/22 12:38 AM |
| 3 | What are the best ways to protect yourself in a divorce with two kids?You’re just trolling at this point. Point 1 is illegal, easily found out and gets the divorce overturned. Then you get to pay her lawyer for going through the trouble. Literally every law requires disclosing all assets and debts. Point 2 and 3 won’t ever happen. A Wife’s lawyer would have a fun time crushing you in court with this advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/22 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Words of wisdom.....Here’s two pieces of advice off the top: 1) Encourage her to work. The more she makes, the less you pay. 2) Texas has fault divorce for adultery. You may end up paying more. I seen some of your prior posts. You should delete that and be careful on social media. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/22 11:04 AM |
| 0 | So, I read this board, and see all these horror stories…. What would you all consider Best Practices? I can think of vasectomy and a Cohabitation Agreement? What else have you all considered doing, done, or will do?Not if you have a lawyer and follow the right steps. Don’t wait until the last second. Disclose all assets. They’re not held up when they’re done wrong. They may not hold up if one spouse makes zillions of dollars and everything is kept separate or very long marriages where one side is completely screwed. But otherwise they’re held up. It takes $$$ to challenge them in court too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/22 06:48 PM |
| 0 | So, I read this board, and see all these horror stories…. What would you all consider Best Practices? I can think of vasectomy and a Cohabitation Agreement? What else have you all considered doing, done, or will do?Cohabitation agreements are recognized in pretty much every state. Prenups and post nups are easily set aside if you do it yourself with no lawyers. But it’s not easy if you use lawyers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/22 09:59 AM |
| 1 | So, I read this board, and see all these horror stories…. What would you all consider Best Practices? I can think of vasectomy and a Cohabitation Agreement? What else have you all considered doing, done, or will do?Why would get a legal separation and stay married? What is that even? Why would anyone continue cohabitating? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/22 09:52 AM |
| 6 | I am an emotional mess today…You didn’t have to be at the deposition. One advantage in having a lawyer is they show up for you so you don’t have to be there. She used that opportunity to hurt you with the new boyfriend talk. You can bend over and keep taking that by giving it your attention, or see it as confirmation she’s a toxic B and you made the right decision. That boyfriend, if he exists, can have her. He won’t though. She’ll do the same to him. Your lawyer should ask for her bank and credit card statements. If she’s … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | STBX not paying GALIt depends on how good the GAL report is. They’re a paid expert witness so if it meant nothing to a judge it means they did a crap job. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/22 07:24 AM |
| 1 | STBX not paying GALPay it. You absolutely need it for mediation to try to settle and for trial. Parenting won’t settle without it. Your wife will need to reimburse anyway you so you’re not out. She wants you not to pay because it’s probably in your favor. Also, if it cost that much, the report should be solid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/22 07:16 AM |
| 2 | Trump tax returns teach men in divorce how to beat the systemTrump does prenups. His property settlement and child support wouldn’t be on tax returns. The other thing is he’s got buttloads of money to pay attorneys for audits and lawsuits, and probably a lot of govt connections. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Trump tax returns teach men in divorce how to beat the systemBezos got 75% of Amazon stock. We don’t know what the settlement was in either Bezos or Gates, or if there was a prenup or postnup. And the reality is even the greediest wife would be good with say 10 billion. It’s a ridiculous amount of money you can’t even spend down if you wanted to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 09:39 PM |
| 2 | I filed for divorce. Wife retained an attorney. Am I dumb for not retaining?Some great advice given already. Yes, get a lawyer asap. This is a divorce lawsuit. There’s a lot at stake. Don’t say anything more about the divorce to her or her lawyer until you get one. That part about giving her whatever she wants. Rethink that strategy. You’re giving away leverage. She’ll take that as your minimal offer and ask for more. Don’t hangout with the g/f (or keep it minimal contact). Don’t introduce her to your kids. Don’t spend money on her. You’re going to be asked about her an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 09:07 AM |
| 3 | Help Needed! Regret over Excruciating DivorceTry to go easier on yourself. Those were learned behaviors. You’re honest and caring enough to admit to and work on them and get better. That’s something to be proud of. The past is gone there’s no point beating yourself up. If you do, that’s your critical parent voice in your head. Turn it off. Forgive yourself. I would probably seek medication for a temporary period to cool your nerves and dull the intensity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 08:39 AM |
| 3 | Need adviceI didn’t even get to the apple watch story before I knew this marriage was done. There’s no reason to stay married. Just hang out together like you did for 7 years, but assume she’s meeting up with the Vegas guy to fill her love tank. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Petition to Modify Support OrderHe said his 14 year old told him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/22 07:28 AM |
| 5 | Just feeling over it all...This seems more like a financial arrangement with a roommate you had a lot of sex with than a marriage. And now the sex is boring and she just irritates you. She didn’t agree to a post nup so it’s not all about love and romance for her either. This isn’t working for you at all so I’d just end it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/22 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Petition to Modify Support OrderSaying your daughter is telling you this is a horrible idea. It’s probably a violation of your parenting order to be discussing it with her. It’s also hearsay so they won’t even consider it and empty words if you can’t prove it by getting her bank or venmo statements. Also her tax returns and her monthly expenses and new purchases. If she’s claiming less than minimum wage but living like she makes a lot more that’s also evidence she’s not reporting money. Maybe you can get a witness other than y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/22 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Looking at divorce after 25 years of marriageLaws are different in each state so you have to check with a lawyer. In mine, her being 10 years younger could be a justification to give you a bigger share of retirement and lower alimony. She’s expected to gain skills/education to work again and she’s got 10 more years of earnings. If you have solid medical reasons and doctors recommendations to limit or not work, that may factor in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/22 10:55 AM |
| 1 | Breaking Agreed OrderYour lawyer didn’t answer your question. He should at least send a letter to her lawyer demanding she do that. Ask the lawyer how you’ll be reimbursed for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/22 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Divorced gentleman, question for you. If your prenup got invalidated by the court, what was the reason?The uniform premarital act says it’s enforceable if it’s not “unconscionable.” Maybe a law will require “fairness”, but “fairness” wouldn’t require a husband to give up 1/2 his salary for alimony - definitely not for 1-20 year marriages. The point of a prenup is to have terms that control property division and alimony instead of the law. That applies to premarital and post marital property. Uniform prenuptial act | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Kids are off in college. About to file and wonder if I'll have to fight to have the current home sold or have her pay out equity if she wants to keep it.You can’t force a sale if she’s able to pay off your interest and keep paying the mortgage. She should have to get your name off the mortgage at some point but it’s not always required. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 09:26 AM |
| 4 | Divorced gentleman, question for you. If your prenup got invalidated by the court, what was the reason?I’ll give some reasons: - no attorneys to advise - done at last minute just before getting married - signed under pressure | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 07:47 AM |
| 2 | Divorced gentleman, question for you. If your prenup got invalidated by the court, what was the reason?To be enforceable prenuptial agreements don’t have to be fair. That’s not the legal test. Otherwise there’d be no point in doing them. No offense but your answer is pretty much hot garbage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 07:43 AM |
| 3 | "Just offer her more money for primary custody"It’s against the law to exchange money for custody. By that I mean you won’t see a lawyer making that argument in a court document or in court. But if you having primary custody is possible under the law, and mom thinks you’re ok and wants money, that’s possible to negotiate in a mediation. It sure won’t be written that way in a legal document though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 11:35 PM |
| 1 | would it betray my son's trust?I would talk to the lawyer about your concerns. They’re legitimate, but there may not be other options. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | would it betray my son's trust?I don’t understand this comment. The lawyer’s putting it in the rebuttal to show alienation by mom, not to make more money. If you tell the lawyer you won’t pay, the response will be get another lawyer. I’m not saying some aren’t like that but it works against you to treat your lawyer as the enemy. If you think that, you should get another one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Should I go back?I get having online friends but I think in-person friends is still important for a 13 year old. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Should I go back?Your daughter didn’t commit to van life I’ll tell you that. Lawyers are just guessing because this is such a weird scenario. The law would say van life is against a child’s best interests. The studies about military families show frequent moving is a negative. That’s a transitory lifestyle with no stable friends or peer group or social structure she sees everyday. That’s important for a 13 year old to have. Friends are everything to teenagers. So unless mom is a really crappy parent or doesn’t w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 06:01 PM |
| 5 | Is it just me?Exactly. It’s a big red flag you have a controlling B on your hands. Why divorce then be with that? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 04:13 PM |
| 23 | Is it just me?You’re going for your daughter. She grew up celebrating christmas in that house. It’s a treasured memory and the last time she’ll get to do it. This woman is already controlling you and interfering with your daughter. You’re not causing a stir. She’s imposing control. I’d tell her to f off on that and deal with it or get lost. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 05:39 AM |
| 2 | What is the Most Man Friendly State in the USA for Divorce?I hope you find happiness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 03:16 PM |
| 6 | What is the Most Man Friendly State in the USA for Divorce?All states allow alimony. Texas caps it at 5k but you have to move there and show it has jurisdiction. You can’t just pick a state to divorce in. I don’t see the point in getting divorced near retirement after a long marriage. You or she gonna start dating again? I don’t see the point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?You really want to take care of a 1 year old baby 50% of the time? Can you even do that and get those big salary increases coming? Child support would be a lot more than alimony right now and that’ll go for 17 years plus. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 12:57 AM |
| 2 | It’s OverYour divorce is just property division. The other guy has parenting and child support and a lifetime of pain coming from his hurt children tbh. She’ll get to enjoy that turmoil with him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Just heard from my Ex's Attorney...Cant Pay b/c she wants the house...That’s BS. This is TEMPORARY maintenance. You’re not dividing assets yet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/22 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?I’m assuming his justification for changing jobs is to make more later. But in reality the court will just probably assume he’s earning what he’s capable of earning. Especially for computing child support. Maybe there’s leeway in spousal support. That’s the law in my state. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?It’s just a red flag. They’ll call you on it and generally make you pay one way or another. Example-They may give wife more property because you said you’ll be making more later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/22 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?Talk to a lawyer in your state about a postnup and what your spousal support would be. You probably can’t waive spousal support but maybe reduce it. By the way I think a baby has priority over getting laid. Gotta love that baby because they need you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/22 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?You take a risk the court won’t find that legitimate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/22 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?Then he’s deemed underemployed. It doesn’t work | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Should I leave a good woman just to be single?The reason I couldn’t advise is because the answer is so specific to his situation and the reasons he wants to leave. I agree people should marry latter, if ever, after some experience in life including with other women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/22 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Should I leave a good woman just to be single?That’s a different topic. OP is focused on getting laid with unknown sexy women on travel adventures. He’s not talking about getting married, but leaving one based on fantasies with other women he doesn’t know yet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/22 02:54 AM |
| 4 | Should I leave a good woman just to be single?We don’t know you. Some men are legitimately happier being single and uncommitted. Others just want to get laid because they married too young and live in a fantasy world that will collapse like a dying star. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/22 08:44 PM |
| 4 | [US-IL, child support]Those are additional expenses. Whether you owe it depends on what your child support order says. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/22 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Divorced then back together?I saw statistics that between 10–15% reconcile. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Divorcing a narcissist with a child involvedGetting a good GAL on your side is the key to winning a parenting dispute. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/22 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Can my wife stay on my health insurance after we are divorced?Maybe because she may be able to ask for alimony to get her own | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/22 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Can my wife stay on my health insurance after we are divorced?No | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/22 03:49 AM |
| 3 | I screwed upDepends on the state’s laws but transferring title shows intent to make it marital property. Don’t beat yourself up for it though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/22 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Divorcing a narcissist with a child involvedSounds like you need a guardian ad litem for parenting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Telling friends and family about abusive STBX.Family are ok. Mutual friends will hear her version and you may lose them as friends. If I’m her, I’d also think you’re trying to get them on your side of a custody case because they may be witnesses. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/22 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Telling friends and family about abusive STBX.If he’s actually a victim he’s just communicating facts. Playing the victim card means you’re manipulating facts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/22 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Today my wife finally admitted that she doesn’t want to work on the relationship anymore. Started planning a divorce. I’m heartbroken.She sounds like a cold B. Doesn’t care about your feelings and talks sh*t about you to her equally cold identical twin sister who won’t let you visit her children. Unless you pose a danger, that’s f’d up and reflects more on her and her sister than you. That’s why she doesn’t want to be held accountable- she knows who she is and wants to justify it by blaming you. The husband sounds like a weak co-dependant. F this whole gang. She’s doing you a favor. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/22 05:50 PM |
| 4 | How screwed will i be?Yes that’s a community property division. Divide net assets in half. Can she agree to less? Yes. Postnuptials are prospective. It won’t help. You sound like you’re bent over in a fetal position and ready to escape the country. It’ll be ok. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/22 04:26 AM |
| 10 | Spouse with mental illness and financially dependent on me.The illness doesn’t prevent her from working or she’d qualify for social security which she doesn’t. Lots of people with mental illness work full-time with medication because they have to. She’s also stable and disciplined enough to get a bachelors and masters degree. She can work if she wanted or needed to. You’ll be truly AMAZED at how stable and sharp as a tack she gets when she goes for the jugular in a divorce. Her deep depression will quickly dissipate and she’ll become a workaholic when i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/22 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Mid-divorce, daughter won't respondIt’s horrible, but her being 17 leaves just one year until ex has no legal control. She’s also developed a bond with you. You want to ask for time with her but expect it to be challenging in the short term because older teenagers just want to avoid their parents drama and if mom is going apeshit it’s just easier not to deal with it. That’s how I was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/22 06:13 AM |
| 3 | All women hate men…I don’t think character is a gender thing. There are nice men and women and complete aholes in both genders. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/22 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Please someone tell me this gets easier. Tell me I'm going to survive this.Get medication for depression and anxiety if you need to. She abandoned you and the family after cheating and skipped town to live with mom. That’s not normal, and now your kids get to travel 3 hours back and forth and their lives and yours are in upheaval because of her. There’s nothing wrong with some righteous anger and contempt at her morally weak character. This is like a wound that just takes time to heal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/22 03:45 AM |
| 1 | about to file for divorce, wife is telling me my son isn't mine.You also lose your right to challenge paternity and force a DNA test if you wait too long since you’re the default parent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Lump sum instead of alimony?I notice under pricing they don’t give their pricing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/22 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Lump sum instead of alimony?A mediator who’s not a lawyer doesn’t know the law. They’re not allowed to advise on the law. So if you do that you want to know the law first by meeting with a lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/22 03:40 PM |
| 4 | A man’s guide to life after divorce.So that’s 15 guys paying $300 = $4,500 for an 8 hour course that’s $562.50 an hour. Pretty good post divorce side gig. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/22 10:14 AM |
| 4 | Any Successful Comeback Stories?What made her decide not to proceed? She realized she loved you and wants to get back together, or realized you’re useful financially and can’t live off what she’d get? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/22 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Ex Won't Sign Final Divorce OrderIf she texted you that she agreed to sign but just hasn’t that may be good enough to have a binding agreement. Then a lawyer could ask the court to enforce the agreement by having her sign the order. Lawyer can ask for fees for going through the trouble. This happens also when there’s a mediated agreement but spouse doesn’t want to sign the decree. is for your lawyer to figure out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Ex Won't Sign Final Divorce OrderIt doesn’t sound like you have a written agreement and this a proposed agreed order that’s just an offer she can out of. So, yes. she could be working a new angle to get more. Talk to your lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/22 07:39 PM |
| 5 | I want to abandon my childrenWhatever you do don’t have anymore children. We have enough miserable abandoned children with no fathers in this world. That goes for everyone agreeing with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:39 PM |
| -1 | I want to abandon my childrenIf you abandon your children, you’re a POS. Period. Even convicted felons write their children from prison because they care. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Steps to a “successful” divorce.But if she makes 15% more, in a community property state he gets 1/2 of that plus his 50%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/22 04:17 AM |
| 12 | Wife makes plans without meIf she wants to get a job, strongly encourage it. It’ll cost you a lot less in a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/22 01:10 AM |
| 1 | 10months into divorce negotiations and lawyer didn’t realize house was not marital property!?!?Seems like it but contract law is complicated | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/22 09:16 AM |
| 1 | New vs older assets at divorceThis is the answer | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/22 02:34 AM |
| 5 | Man losing 50% of his assets from a divorce?There is no way a man who earns 10 million BEFORE marriage has to give up 50% of those assets. If you can cite a law or a case where that happened, please do. | /r/MensRights | 22/09/22 02:31 AM |
| 2 | IsolationI’m really sorry to hear that | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 05:12 PM |
| 2 | 10months into divorce negotiations and lawyer didn’t realize house was not marital property!?!?True, it could be malpractice. I’m just saying scriveners error doesn’t apply here to get out of the agreement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | IsolationI hear you. I guess - other than a dog - a good mom or very caring wife would be the closest thing to replicating that level of kindness. I’m sorry your wife turned into a turd. I’ve found that we tend to base our opinions of people on just a few intimates, and if ex-wife was a turd, then the assumption is that everyone is a turd. Which is a depressing thought. It’s not true, but you just have to be observant and carefully vet people before committing to a relationship. If empathy and kindness i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | IsolationHave you thought about a dog? I have “family”, but only my dog cares when I come home. He’s always happy to see me too and spend time together. And I’m introverted and boring and moody. But I’m the GOAT to him - especially when I give him treats. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Help figuring separation agreementImagine the shoe on the other foot. You’ll split assets, but she has to be out of the child’s life until later. I bet she wouldn’t react well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Should I let my ex-wife fail with our 5 y.o. son?You be there for him, and you can call her out for not being there. If she doesn’t take her days, she’s in contempt. If she does that enough times, you can seek more time and ask her to pay child support. Just the threat of her paying you will make her start showing up all the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Should I let my ex-wife fail with our 5 y.o. son?He’s being a loving dad to his 5 year old son. Why let her failure leave a boy feeling abandoned by both parents? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:37 AM |
| 1 | 10months into divorce negotiations and lawyer didn’t realize house was not marital property!?!?It’s not scrivener’s error. That’s like writing the wrong address. It’s factual error. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:27 AM |
| 1 | 10months into divorce negotiations and lawyer didn’t realize house was not marital property!?!?Whether you can get out of the agreement is a complicated legal question for a lawyer. It’s over reddits pay grade. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Past TextsYour lawyer is right. Lots of custodial parents are treated for anxiety. She’d need a diagnosis of a severe condition that effects parenting. I’ll assume she also asking for child support based on a full-time income because you’re somehow stable enough for that just not parenting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/22 06:05 AM |
| 2 | I don't know what to do.There’s nothing more to be done in this marriage except not take her shit for one more second. Honestly, this was hard to read. She’s horrific. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | Divoce After 15 YearsActually he’s right. No state in the country allows people to agree to child support because a child is an independent third party. Also, courts are focused on making sure child support is paid so taxpayers don’t have too. Once she figures out she has to pay it, she’ll suddenly want full custody. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Question regarding child support and alimonyWhy would you want more than 50/50 time? You said you’ll have difficulty doing 50/50. Anyway very unlikely you’ll get it if she’s a good parent. Interest rates go up and down so her paying you 1/2 the difference makes no sense. She should either have to refi or sell in X number of years, or you get the home and refi. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Question regarding child support and alimonyI think you’re wrong. Louisiana does allow for deviation if inequitable to the parties. A 50/50 with her earning 130k calls for a deviation. Louisiana child support If you leave your name on a mortgage, you may never get it off - that’s probably a 30 year mortgage- and still be liable for and get your credit dinged for missed payments. You can give her 5 years to refi or force sale in the order. She doesn’t have to sell it now. But you NEVER just leave your name on the mortgage, because then you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/22 05:04 PM |
| 2 | why cant I call the lawyer?As a teenager in that type of family, I didn’t know what took my dad so long to divorce. Kids understand what a mess their mom is. As long as you stay fully committed to them as their dad and don’t start dating crazy and marry a nasty second wife who alienates you from them - because there’s no shortage of these witches - you’ll be good with them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Kicked my kid out today......did I do the right thing?You assume the worst of your son without the facts. If you expect the worst in people, you’ll the worst in people. Worse, this is about money. You don’t want to pay for something that will benefit him. And behind it is high conflict with your ex because you don’t want her getting away with her decision a pay for. That’s got nothing to do with him. This was completely her idea and you’re faulting him. He’s the child from the broken home who has to deal with this BS conflict over who pays for his … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/22 03:39 AM |
| 3 | avoid mediation?Get an attorney to at least advise you on the law and then decide what to do. That child support may be much less with a 50/50 custody. As others have said, you don’t just go in front of a judge who decides, and not knowing your rights is dangerous because you can’t change a divorce order later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/22 12:14 PM |
| 7 | She left yesterday.Your wife’s a pos. I’ll take my downvotes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/22 06:04 PM |
| 2 | ALIMONY.. What if I just STOP paying ?This is the son or daughter asking. No 83 year old knows what Reddit is. Good luck junior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/20 05:32 AM |
| 4 | Mediation set for Mid February... need some help!A lot depends on your state’s laws. Is it a no-fault state? Is it a common law marriage state? Listen to your lawyer. This is too complicated for Reddit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/20 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Is it wrong that I want my kid to prefer me over his mom?Your psychological reward becomes your child’s psychological weakness. The same impulse makes you punish the child when you think he favors the other parent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/20 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Can’t believe this is really happeningI’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s likely she’s thought about this for a while and its not due to any certain event. It looks she waited until you were fully employed to file. If she filed when you were unemployed, she’d have to prove you have the ability to earn your current salary. That could be disputed. Once you got the job, she filed, because that possible dispute goes away. That’s probably what her attorney advised her - wait until he’s working full-time. I’m not saying its evil. It… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/19 05:27 AM |
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