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I think this is all an evolutionary adaptation. Your brain uses pain (depression) as a mechanism to motivate you to undertake certain actions that help in the continuation of your genes. In this case, your brain has evolved to pressure you to reproduce, and so humans are therefore built to crave the attention and approval of the opposite sex. If you fail in this biological imperative, then the brain sends you signals of pain (depression) to prompt you to undertake certain actions (seek females t…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:32 PM
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Since when is askTRP only here to help guys that have "easy" cases? I've been around here for years, and it's always been a place to help anyone who genuinely wanted to be helped - regardless of whether their situation was easy or difficult.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:21 PM
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I'm not "in school" in that sense; I've already got degrees, and I'm simply working on a higher-level, research-based, advanced degree. And I'm not "flunking out" of anything - it's just that my situation has caused me to reassess my mental model: where I am in life, what I want, the results my work has gotten me, etc. I'm being totally open and honest in this post. I certainly don't talk like this or convey this type of attitude in my public life or in my interactions with others. If I told peo…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:13 PM
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I appreciate it and look forward to your advice. I know that, in a cold approach situation, first impressions are extremely important - and that means appearance (clothes). This was also reinforced by Krauser and Torrero in their Beginner Daygame book that I mentioned. And if you read my previous thread, you'll see that I was strongly considering wearing nice(r) clothes to and from the gym because of this. The issue is the stuff that I mentioned in my post: It just doesn't seem practical.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:04 PM
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Is this Rian Stone? Keep up the great content. Looking forward to watching the upcoming "Rule Zero". I'm not trying to argue with you here, but I'm genuinely surprised that you of all people are telling me to see a shrink? You of all people know how shrinks are. And based on Rollo's work, I think I already have a good idea of how to fix (actually fix, not burn money and pretend to fix) my mental problems - it's just not going to be as easy as seeing a shrink. As Rollo says: confidence comes from…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 08:56 PM
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I understand why you guys do this, but I am not going to see a professional. I'm not here to lie to myself, and you guys, and refute everything people tell me. I'm here seeking advice so that I can take action; but it obviously has to be advice that is reasonably expected to be correct. I'm not going to blindly accept anything and everything anyone throws at me. And I am happy to discuss things to figure out whether I'm wrong. I think we can all agree that this is reasonable and that just blindl…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 08:44 PM
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Women are not attracted to men with no social skills,depression, and suicidal. What work have you done to fix yourself?You suggest that you “deserve” a woman. It doesn’t work that way. You have to be attractive to them. This is something we went over in one of my last threads. I'm absolutely socially retarded when it comes to gaming women. My inexperience shows here. Here's the thing: I have excellent social skills (excluding game, so call it non-game social skills), and I even gave examples in …
/r/askTRP23/08/19 08:24 PM
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This is the only part that mattered.You don't know if the approach was going well because you didn't ask for the number. You bailed rather than having her reject you.Those MMA chicks are definitely attracted to SOME of those sweat monsters they train with. This is NOT a rationalization/ego-protection thing, but the conversation went for a minute while we walked, and then I had to go in the opposite direction to the other side of the train station, which is a decent distance to walk, to catch ano…
/r/askTRP24/07/19 02:22 PM
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I can't go the prostitution route; it would destroy my confidence and self-esteem. It's not the sex act itself that pains me, it's the fact that I do not possess the skills to do something as basic and vital as getting with a woman. You’re an introspective guy, very good for understanding yourself to a point. The point where introspectiveness becomes a hindrance is when you never apply the thoughts you have to action under the pretense of “identification and outlying problems”. The best advice t…
/r/askTRP22/07/19 05:45 PM
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Thanks for the serious reply. So my social skills are fine, and I just need to stop being a pussy and spend more time approaching women I'm sexually interested in?
/r/askTRP22/07/19 05:22 PM
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I am a scared pussy, but I'm ready to do what is necessary to change that; I'm just looking for direction. Are my general social skills the problem? Or is it my social skills with women I am sexually attracted to? If it is the latter, as I think it is, what do I need to do from here? I want to know, and I will do it.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 04:45 PM
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Get a hooker and get that virgin persona out of your head asshole. That way you cant use is as an explanation for your lack of success. Getting a prostitute will not fix my deficiencies; and it won't help me emotionally either. It's better to do the hard work by identifying and fixing my weaknesses. That's why I made this thread: I want to identify and work on fixing my problems.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 04:34 PM
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Yes, exactly! I just have no idea how to do it. I can make conversation, but that conversation will lead no where unless I implement game.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:20 AM
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I’m not seeing a therapist, because a therapist isn’t going to help. Nor do I think I need medication. I think we’ve established that lack of social interaction with women, combined with a lack of social skills to escalate with them, is the problem. Given this, do you have any specific advice?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 10:30 PM
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The problem is more so actually getting the dates in the first place.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 10:25 PM
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Ok, so what advice do you have for me? What steps should I be taking? I am currently reviewing the sidebar stuff on social interactions with women. Is there anything else you suggest?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 10:20 PM
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Thanks for the advice. What resources do you recommend for learning to interact with women?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 01:39 PM
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I really appreciate the advice. So where should I start with the social stuff? What resources should I study? What steps should I take? Or do you recommend that I create a new thread to ask about the social stuff?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 01:27 PM
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I upvoted your comment as well. So if I don't want to attend parties and festivals, what should I do? Should I just be approaching more women as I go about my usual activities and trying to close? What are the specifics that I should be doing? Do you think I should take up the invitation to fight in MMA?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 10:36 AM
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As I said in my response to the other poster, I think that taking time off from my other pursuits will make me worse off, since these are the things that really define me, give me purpose in life, and where I derive my confidence from in the first place (as Rollo says, confidence comes from competence). And If I take time off, my progress will suffer. I agree that I have problems socializing with women in a sexual manner (game). What I meant was that I am not the type of guy that enjoys things l…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 09:19 AM
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You're right. I just thought that If I did the work to become a "high value man", then the women would sort themselves out. I mean, that's the message the keeps getting pushed by red pill guys: Don't focus on women, focus on becoming a high value man. Now I just feel despondent. How do I go about this? On the one hand, I'm a confident guy and don't mind approaching women (as I said, I've done it before); but on the other hand, I am just not the type of guy that enjoys parties and festivals. I al…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 08:17 AM
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I only approach when I get clear IOIs from a woman. The problem is that I don't really ever get IOIs from women - or, at least, I don't notice that I do. A lot of the things I do are pretty intense and require focus, and so I'm not really paying attention to the signals that women are sending. I don't use online dating, nor do I want to. I think you have a much higher chance of closing if you approach IRL, but people use online dating as a buffer for, as you said, ego protection. I also think in…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 07:04 AM
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Yeah, I honestly don't know. I think it's probably because I look so intimidating, but as one of the other posters said, I could just be hideous and not realizing it. Fuck ... I just don't understand how, after everything I've been through and done, it's gotten to this point. I'm being completely honest. I don't gain anything from spending all of this time to lie. I just want to stop feeling like a biological failure. And I'm certainly not gay, haha. I don't think I'm rejecting women myself, bec…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 06:18 AM
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Maybe I am. I thought the fact that I've pursued the things I want in life so vigorously and unapologetically is evidence that I'm not a pussy, but maybe I'm just lying to myself. I could be overestimating, but a lot of the stuff I mentioned is tangible (competitions, startup funding interest from VCs, etc.), so if I am, I don't think I'm too detached from reality. What type of action do you think I should be taking that I'm not? I'm honestly just confused at this point.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 06:07 AM
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I have a huge what? The word was cut off. I'm guessing huge ego? And I totally understand that there is no "one", just better ones and worse ones. I never thought of myself as beta, but maybe I am, given my situation. So you're saying that the problem isn't that I'm not practicing game, but that I'm just not interacting with women? But how does just just talking to more women change things? But it's probably true that I don't spend enough time interacting with women. I'm just so focused on doing…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 06:01 AM
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I've honestly never done any of that stuff. I've just been so focused on surviving that I never wanted to do any of that. Just thinking about grinding on girls makes me super uncomfortable. It just feels awkward for me. Honestly, the house party and music festival stuff is not what I think of as fun. I prefer doing more "productive" things, if that makes sense (see my post). I think I would be super awkward and uncomfortable at these things, because I honestly don't see them as fun. It's just no…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 05:47 AM
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I'm able to initiate conversations with both guys and girls, but they're not the type of "sexualized" conversations that involve game. For example, if I initiate a conversation relating to the startup work that I do, everything is about that. I will then somehow slowly steer the conversation between the guy(s) and myself into things outside of that (by asking questions, etc.). As I said in my post, these conversations often end up being interesting and engaging, and we end up hanging around for …
/r/askTRP21/07/19 05:28 AM
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I’m not a troll. Seriously, what type of troll puts so much time into writing a detailed thread like this? I’m here looking for help. If you have questions, I’m happy to answer them. And yes, I do think I have psychological problems, as I stated in my post. However, I don't think it's not the type of psychological problems that you're referring to (the type that would negatively affect social interactions). As I said, I'm able to interact initiate conversations with both guys and women, but thes…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 05:05 AM
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Ok, but what do you mean “talk to girls”? Obviously it’s not just about speaking to them. Do you have a book on game that you recommend or what?
/r/askTRP20/07/19 08:12 PM
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Leave my comfort zone? Did you not read what I wrote? “Talking to women” isn’t exactly helpful advice.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:53 PM
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Haha, yeah. The funny and sad thing is, everything I wrote is absolutely true. Now, can you imagine how bad I feel after reading your post? It’s so pathetic that even random people on Reddit don’t believe it. That was exactly my point; I can barely believe it. Yeah, I’ll get the MMA stuff sorted.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:48 PM
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Thanks for the input. Going to a bar seems super boring. I’m honestly not that interested in hearing her talk, which is what I’ll be forced to do at a bar. At least at the zoo we’ll be actually doing something (and something interesting), in addition to conversing, which will itself make the conversation more interesting. And there will be lots of walking (and no alcohol), which seems like it would be a better situation for going back to my place for drinks (and chill) than already drinking at a…
/r/askTRP08/09/18 01:01 AM
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doing exciting things doesn’t brew a lot of sexual tension. If you must do something else, so something that excites you Will do. I really appreciate all of your help! ​ One last thing: What about going to the city zoo? Is this a good idea or?
/r/askTRP07/09/18 08:37 AM
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syrup What wine would you recommend? I have 0 knowledge of this.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 08:26 AM
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Ok, thanks for the advice. I've got rum, whiskey, and vodka. Is wine really necessary? I've never even drank that rubbish. ​ And do you have any ideas? I know girls want to do exciting things rather than these stereotypical "boring" date ideas, but this place seems to only have stereotypical "boring" date things to do.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 08:15 AM
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Hold up, you've jumped. So are you saying that we should go some where first and THEN I should take her back to my place? It seems that that's what you're implying.
/r/askTRP07/09/18 08:11 AM
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She's Wait, what do you mean isolate and escalate? I'm super confused here. Do you mean text her to sort out a date first, and THEN escalate, or do you mean isolate and escalate after class? If the latter, then escalate to what? I don't know how I would physically escalate after just having a conversation? Shouldn't I sort out a date first and leave the escalation for then? And the issue with escalating after class is that we have classes after that class, so we usually need to rush off.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 09:58 AM
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Really? You don't think she was signalling that she isn't interested? ​ Also, how would you suggest I proceed? Contact her via text or first feel her out by starting a conversation in-person? ​ ​
/r/askTRP03/09/18 09:02 AM
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I appreciate your input, but I'd also like advice from some of the more experienced guys. I think you're being a bit too reductionist here, but, again, I appreciate that you took the time to comment and help out.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 06:24 AM
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Thanks for the comment. Look, I thought I made the right choice in not contacting her, since she went completely cold afterwards? I took this as a sign that my intuition was right? ​ You're right, I'm not an experienced guy, but that's why I'm here: to learn from you guys. What do you suggest I do?
/r/askTRP03/09/18 01:19 AM
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"Redpill for years" but doesn't know that you can take a girl out for a drink, fuck her and plate her. Like I said, I've never been the type to go out and drink. You're right, this is a deficiency of skills on my part. That's why I'm here: to get advice from people who know better and learn. At the moment, I'm probably going to invite her over to have a drink and "study", as suggested by HurricaneHugues. What do you think?
/r/askTRP08/08/18 11:26 PM
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But grabbing coffee seems too weak? I'm not interested in a serious relationship, I just want a fuckbuddy relationship. Wouldn't getting her to come over for "study" or a "movie" be a better option?
/r/askTRP08/08/18 07:05 PM
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right Thank you. I am reading it now.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 06:54 PM
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I know, I skipped the game part. I fucked up. Can you please recommend any threads to help me with this part?
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:53 PM
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just do it. If she's into you then she'll say yes. You're right. I will do it, I just would like some advice on the details. Specifically, if I ask her to come over to study, what happens then?
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:38 PM
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This is great advice. Thanks. It's winter here, so do you think it's best to just stick to the studying/movie? I'll buy the projector, but If I ask her to come over and study next class, then I'm guessing there won't be enough time before it arrives, since it'll probably be scheduled for her to come over on the weekend. What do you suggest I do? Thanks again.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:36 PM
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But how do I proceed to escalate and then fuck her? Come on guys, I expected a little more advice.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 03:56 PM
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Wouldn't asking her out imply that I want to develop a serious relationship? I don't want a serious relationship, I want to fuck her and perhaps develop a fuckbuddy relationship.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 03:56 PM
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I think you guys are misunderstanding me. I'm not shy about hitting on her, I'm just unsure of how to proceed. How do I escalate, etc? Some substantive advice would be appreciated.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 03:36 PM
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I don't need college help, nor have I ever given that impression.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 03:34 PM
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