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The Four Fundamentals of Game (Part 1: Leading/Overcoming Rationalization)

Avery
October 6, 2017

If you want a better dating life, you probably donât need to master the apocalypse opener, the October sequence, or perfect the subtleties of the âcubeâ.  Instead, if you want to get results, improve on the fundamentals. The basic skills that matter most.

 

But, how do you do this?

Most mistakes in game come down to a lack of awareness of the four fundamentals of game:

-You might be unaware of what the girl is feeling, and why sheâs feeling that way.

-You might be unaware of the fact that youâre falling for terrible rationalizations.

-You might be unaware that the girl liked you, but she lost interest because you failed to lead.

-You might be unaware that you are too pushy and you scare girls off.

The most important skill to develop in game is self-awareness. Awareness isnât built through some pickup trick, itâs built through honest, shameless self-inquiry. To become more self-aware, you must start to ask yourself the right questions. As you do this, youâll start to become conscious of mistakes you were previously blind too, with awareness, your blindspots will be easy to overcome.

In this article, Iâm going to outline the most useful questions to ask yourself when youâre out so you can master the four fundamentals of game by developing your self-awareness.

 

One

Am I Leading My Interactions Enough?

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One of the most common mistakes men make when interaction with women is they donât lead their interactions forward. They approach a girl, sheâs receptive, they chat, and chat, and chat⦠until, eventually, the interaction starts to feel like itâs going nowhere and the girl says, âWell, I have to go find my friends, it was nice to meet you.â

When a girl is receptive itâs very tempting to keep doing whatâs working. Men tend to avoid taking risks that might “rock the boat” when they’re in an interaction that’s going well. They hesitate to go for the kiss, lead her to another area, or sexualize the interaction. This is attraction suicide.

Hereâs the harsh truth: guys who lead effectively get the best results. Hell, Iâve seen guys who arenât charismatic or charming at all pull extremely attractive girls because they lead hard. In many cases, leading will get you more results than âgood gameâ will.

So, what exactly do I mean by leading? Leading is anything that moves an interaction towards sex. In many cases leading is as simple as moving the girl to another area. For example, if  youâre in a club you might invite her to get some fresh air or to join you at the dance for. If youâre doing daygame, you might invite her to get some coffee with you for an instant date.

Leading also includes physical escalation (touching her, holding hands, kissing, etc.), either way, leading is what gives an interaction forward momentum. It prevents the girl from feeling awkward after chatting with you in the same place for fifteen minutes.

Ask yourself if youâre leading your interactions enough. Are you suggesting moving to another area? Are you being physical? Or are your interactions stagnating because you canât transition out of nice small talk?

If you find that youâre not leading enough, a simple solution is to make a habit of attempting to lead every interaction in one of two ways.

Either:

  1. Try to physically move the girl in each interaction, âLetâs get some fresh air/coffee/etc,â or
  2. Try to initiate physicality in each interaction by touching the girlâs shoulder/dancing with her/etc.â

This is such a common mistake, and if you donât overcome it, youâre not going to get the results you want. Women are very rarely going to lead an interaction for you, if you have trouble leading interactions, dozens of girls might like you, but nothingâs going to happen with any of them. Start leading and your results will dramatically improve.

 

Two

What Rationalizations Am I falling for?

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You see her walking by, sheâs gorgeous. You feel an uncomfortable combination of anxiety and excitement as you decide whether to approach her. You see that sheâs walking quite briskly and you think, âWell, sheâs in too much of a hurry, I donât want to bother her.â You decide not to approach her; youâre not the kind of guy that bothers people in a hurry.

We rationalize when we feel a negative emotion and make up a seemingly logical explanation for that negative emotion. In the above example, you donât really care that sheâs walking briskly, youâre just feeling approach anxiety and your brain is coming up with an excuse to avoid facing your fear. The fact that she seems busy registers in your mind as a logical enough excuse, so you buy into it.

Ultimately, rationalizations are one of the biggest mistakes we all make that prevent us from getting the results with women we want. We all do it, and we all do it often:

âSheâs too hot,â

âSheâs not hot enough,â â

âSheâs with a guy, itâs probably her boyfriend who will beat me up,â

âShe looks like sheâs in a deep conversation,â

âI shouldnât kiss her right now, I need to wait for the signal

âIâm not going to pull this girl tonight, sheâs not that kind of girl, sheâs special- Iâll go on a few dates with her first.â

Whenever you hesitate with a girl, whether it is to approach her, kiss her, pull her, etc., ask yourself, âWas that a rationalization?â Thereâs a good chance youâll find that the answer is yes. After you catch a rationalization in that way, the next time the same rationalization comes into your mind, youâre less likely to fall for it. Then, because you know your excuse is bullshit, youâll have no excuse but to suck it up and do the approach, lean in for the kiss, etc.

If you want a more extensive guide for how to catch your own rationalizations, check out the:  ultimate guide to writing field reports.

Also, if you don’t want to miss parts 2 and 3 of The Four Fundamentals of Game, fill out the form below and you’ll get them emailed to you later this week when they’re released. Plus, you’ll get the eBook, The Psychology of Seduction (for free).

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Title The Four Fundamentals of Game (Part 1: Leading/Overcoming Rationalization)
Author Avery
Date October 6, 2017 1:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Blog Red Pill Theory
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