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What’s He Doing Wrong?

The Private Man
September 24, 2012

What’s He Doing Wrong?

My incoming mail yields greatness. This one arrived just today and I’ve posted unedited and uncorrected. So, what’s he doing wrong? This is a test. Consider his age and the nature of his out-going messages. Your comments are expected. If you don’t comment, my dog will bite you. Ta.

We all know women on dating sites get a ton of messages.  However, they almost unanimously say that it’s still very difficult to find someone decent, because those messages aren’t from the âright type of guy.â  Well, I’ve come to a realization:  They are completely, 100% full of it, and I’ve got proof based upon my own experience.

Iâm going to describe myself a little; but first, let me add in a little disclaimer to avoid any misunderstanding.  I am in no way trying to imply that Iâm an amazing guy every woman should be swooning over.  I can’t be the judge of that; and even so, I really donât see myself that way at all.  What I’m going to tell you are just characteristics that can be picked up from my dating site profile, and elements of my conduct on these sites.  I will try to keep it as objective as I can.  So here we go:

-Iâm six feet tall.
-I work out regularly and am in excellent physical shape.
-In my early 20’s, I have a well-paying full-time job in a highly respected field. (Income is listed at $50,000-60,000)
-On OKCupidâs MyBestFace, an app which pits your photos up against others and has people judge which are more attractive, mine are chosen the vast majority of the time.  In other words, strangers have rated my photos as significantly more attractive than most.
-I donât have any cell phone mirror pics or other forms of douchebaggery.
-I donât have a sketchy or threatening look about me.  Iâm clean-cut⦠no facial hair, no tattoos, no piercings, etc.
-I always write with proper grammar in mind.
-When I message someone initially, I always try to start a conversation based on something in her profile.  I end every message with some kind of open-ended question.  I do the same throughout the convo if she responds and we start going back and forth.  I never give physical compliments, make mention of anything sexual, or say anything even remotely impolite.
-I donât message the hottest girls I can find; I message girls who are realistically cute, and who I think Iâd get along with based on their profiles.  I donât believe that my standards for âcuteâ are all that high, as I tend to find more women attractive than my friends do.
-I only message girls within a few years of my own age.
-My profile doesnât brag in any way, or contain any hint of negativity/bitterness.  It has a playful tone throughout.  Itâs about medium as far as length (yea yea thatâs what she said).

Jaded older men probably believe that Iâm the kind of guy these women devote all their attention to.  Well, want to know what kind of results Iâve gotten after messaging over 100 women?  Not one date.  Not even a phone number.  Nothing.  About 70% of women ignored the initial message I sent.  Of the 30% who responded, every single one either put in zero effort and basically forced me to drag her through the conversation (in which cases I gave up), or randomly bailed out of the conversation at some point (always within several messages each back and forth, because at that point I suggest exchanging phone #s/adding each other on facebook).  Iâve taken a bunch of messages that resulted in seemingly interested girls ceasing to respond, and run them by a female friend, asking her âhow Iâm managing to scare off every girl I talk to.â  She said she could find absolutely no fault with any of my messages; that I sounded fun, interesting, intelligent, and normal.

Letâs go back to the original point of contention⦠that girls claim to only get interest from the âwrong type of guy.â  Now go back and reread the facts I listed about myself, this time with this horrible little tidbit in your mind:  That person whom those facts describe⦠is STILL the âwrong type of guyâ according to these women.  Wrap your head around that one.

As I alluded to before, I am very far from a perfect person, and I make no claim of being an Adonis that every girl should want.  I have no problem acknowledging that.  But while I have my share of faults, none of them are really things that come through in a dating site environment.  From what little info about me these women possess, I have no apparent flaws.  Yet not a single one ultimately deems me worth getting to know.

I write this not to whine about my situation.  In fact, I feel very lucky to have some superficial things going for me in the first place.  God help the poor bastards who are 5â7â, or unemployed; Iâm sure theyâre discarded even more readily.  I write this to give other struggling guys some perspective on the type of women theyâre dealing with on dating sites.  These are people who are completely and hopelessly self-deluded.  They have convinced themselves that anyone who doesnât meet their pathetically specific, unrealistic vision of Prince Charming is âthe wrong type of guy.â  You should not feel inadequate for being unable to gain their approval, because no one can.

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Title What’s He Doing Wrong?
Author The Private Man
Date September 24, 2012 12:56 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Blog The Private Man
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/blog/The-Private-Man/whats-he-doingwrong.26701
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Original Link https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2012/09/23/whats-he-doing-wrong/
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