heard a couple arguing so I whipped out my phone and this is what I gotš pic.twitter.com/29P2lTkfH2
ā DÉ¹ĒŹ (@DrewBrands44) March 17, 2018
This clip arrived in my Twitter stream a couple of days ago and I was going to dismiss it until I read through some of the comments about this guy on the ensuing Twitter thread. Iām going to give you my take on what I think is really going on here and then Iāll contrast this with how other viewers interpreted this incident. I was about to pass on this until the conversation really made this an interesting social experiment.
I have seen things like this before. Remember, for the better part of my āreal jobā career Iāve been around a lot of people who are socializing and drinking. I watch guys pick up women, I watch women pick up guys, and Iāve seen a lot of couples argue in public. One thing that these couples all have in common (or at least 90% of them) is the guy trying his damnedest to get his girlfriend/wife to ācome around to himā. As you may guess, the majority of these men were Betas who ājust didnāt get itā and were appealing to their womanās reason in order to resolve whatever it is that was making her turn off to him.
Again, most of these guys were oblivious to the fact that their trying to reason with her was only emphasizing the fact that he just didnāt get it, and that she was paired off with a guy who needed to be told how to get it.
The guy with the capacity to call a womanās bluff with a confidence that implies she is to be worthy of him rather than the other way around is the Man to be competed for. Essentially the āchick speakā, āchick adviceā phenomenon is a shit test writ large on a social scale. And even your own mother and sisters are in on it, expecting you to āget itā; to get the message and see the challenge for what it really is, without overtly telling you.
She wantās you to āget itā on your own, without having to be told how. That initiative and the experience needed to have had developed it makes you a Man worth competing for.Ā Women despise a man who needs to be told to be dominant.Ā Overtly relating this to a guy entirely defeats his credibility as a genuinely dominant male. The guy she wants to fuck is dominant because thatās āthe way he isā instead of who she had to tell him to be.
Observing the process will change it. This is the root function of every shit test ever devised by a woman. If masculinity has to be explained to a man, heās not the man for her.
I have been this guy before. Iām not happy to admit that, but in my 20s, during the time I was with the BPD girlĀ she made a habit of airing out her insane jealousy, insecurities and general relationship disorders as publicly as possible. When this becomes a way of life for a guy it changes you and particularly when itās part of a womanās personal neurosis. At that point in my life I had fallen very Beta (almost Omega by Voxās standards) and I made all of the same mistakes I see guys in this predicament make when Iām working. I also know better than to try to correct these guys, because, like myself, they can get really hostile towards you or themselves when you point out the obvious to them.
So, a couple of caveats here; I donāt know for sure whatās transpired before or after this incident, and I have no idea if the guy is imbalanced (Iām being polite). It could be him, it could be her, likely itās both, but I do know the patterns and I can see that the guy will resort to self-injury to make a point. This is a classic expression of Blue Pill Beta frustration with a girl.
The girl could be blameless and heās just a nerdy Blue Pill Beta reacting to his frustration in not understanding how to resolve whatever it is that set him off with her. Iāve watched a lot of guys in the āGamerā social set who fall into this type. They buy into the āopen communication is the key to everythingā ideal that the Blue Pill told them women want, so when that āopen communicationā is actually the reason for his problems he gets frustrated. Women are supposed to be reasonable, co-equal egalitarian agents in a relationship and when his appeals to that reason are ineffective, whatās left for the kid?
Again, this is me speculating. What we do know is his reaction. Imagine if this guy had actually broken the window and cut himself (and maybe a few bystanders) to ribbons. I mention this because itās the reaction Iād expect from the Blue Pill mind that makes a guy believe that killing or hurting himself will in someway emphasize the seriousness with which he wants to resolve the issue he believes is crucial to his happiness with a woman. This is one of the main reasons Iāve always saidĀ kill the Beta before it kills you. Thereās a very real danger that a Beta mindset will lead to you or someone elseās injury or death.
This is what happens when men are conditioned to hate their own masculinity. Attempting to do physical harm to yourself out of self hate and frustration for your Beta ways, is alarming. Notice how she reacts after his action: cold and indifferent. Hypergamy doesnāt care
ā escapedthematrix (@RPpragmatic) March 18, 2018
Iām actually inclined to think that the incident was his own doing though. She seems indifferent to him even after the head bang, but likely that might be due to embarrassment. Sheās certainly frustrated with his attempts to get her to ālisten to himā.
Iāve mentioned this before, but as women have become more self-assured about their own personal safety they feel more secure in provoking physical altercations. I understand that women love to say that they feel threatened by men all the time, or they have to always think about their personal safety no matter where they are, but I really donāt see this in real life ā certainly not at my own promos. In fact itās quite the opposite. I have seen women on many occasions (both drunk and sober) deliberately instigate confrontations that never needed to be started. All of them did so from a feeling of invulnerability because theyĀ knowĀ that no man would dare to actually assault her while she could wail on him with impunity. I think this is a new social trend with women today. They understand that if the guy she was hitting actually hit back there would be half a dozen men in the room who would beat his ass for raising a fist, much less his voice, to her. Women know the power that an opportunity to defend a woman has over men; itās a confirmation of the old social contract that women still expect men to adhere to.
Iāve also seen women start altercations with other women in the same confidence that her man will fight the other womanās man if the two of them get into a fight. They do so by appealing to their manās Alphaness (or lack thereof) and having her back no matter what ā even when sheās being stupid, catty or drunk. Itās kind of a new play on the āLets you and him fightā social convention, but if cooler heads prevail and one or both men pull their women away from the other they just look like pussies or less than men. Again, this is one more way women can socially reserve their bestowing or confirming manhood on a man.
Is any of this happening here? Likely no, but itās important to remember these things in context with incidents like this. Thatās important, because a few of the female readers of this Twitter thread seemed to think that, rather than his kid being a potentially terminal Beta, he had the potential to be an abuser. In fact this was their first impression. I guess I can sort of see this from a womanās perspective, but I really think the Sisterhood Ćber Alles kicks in when women see something like this. Always take the womanās side first.
I think women see this through the girlās eyes. They understand what sheās going through in having the guy try to ālogicā her into understanding. They understand the girlās frustration at just having to deal with this Beta.
https://twitter.com/yourpacrat/status/975455414568587264
Iāve probably done a really bad job at this, but my intent here is not to beat this guy up over this whole thing. When I first watched this clip I thought, āYep, been there, done thatā, and like this guy I was in my 20s when I did. It seems like this is something men must learn for themselves as part of their unplugging. I think one thing that makes unplugging more difficult today is that the stakes are so much higher when a guy just ādoesnāt get itā. There are guys who never get past any of these Blue Pill trials because they make bad decisions that seemed logical or profound at the time and they have to live with the consequences for failing that Blue Pill trial.
I would bet that this guy is still with this girl today. Even with this going slightly viral I doubt heās learned anything from the experience and Iām sure heās still trying to figure out how to make this pudgy little HB 3 happy. His head bang against a window (which he had no idea was plexiglass) is really a manifestation of his own self-loathing. He wont hit her, heāll hurt himself to make his point. This is what guys like this have been taught, to express his emotions, but in this instance that emotion is angst and frustration.
Itās easy to think that guys like this are too far gone. Itās easy for guys whoāve been Red Pill aware for a long time to dismiss Beta behaviors that they were also subject to, but have been so far removed from now that they think shit like this doesnāt happen.