A nice little article by Jag Carro attacking some myths (and ending up supporting some of them).
Before we get to the article, the obvious reason for people to seek dating advice is . . .
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What they are currently doing is not working for them.
Nice guys realize they are not getting sex. Women are not getting the long term commitment they desired from the man.
So, good advice on the dating scene is going to tell a person to do something different, generally the opposite of what they have been doing. Keep that in mind when reading dating advice. It speaks volumes about typical male and female behavior often by what it implies.
So here we go, the five lies this “rules” girl:
1) “He’s intimidated by you.” I agree with Jag that this is a lie women tell themselves when a man is not romantically inclined, this is especially true for educated, post 35 women that are complete bitches. Men can be intimidated by a woman if she is a great beauty. The are not intimidated by education, wealth, accomplishments or just about anything else. They are actively repulsed by women that are crude, nasty and vicious. That’s not intimidation, that’s just good common sense to avoid unpleasant people.
Men either want you, or they don’t. The End.
Abandoning this though, means a woman accepting her short comings. That’s about as likely as Moses hanging out with me on the mountain top while I’m praying.
2) “Women love men that treat them like crap.” Remember what I said about dating advice being the opposite of what people do? This is it in a nutshell. Women are like this. Even when they wise up (and I am making an assumption that they can wise up) they still feel the draw of the bad boy. A quote: ”women with high self-esteem find adoring, persistent and respectful attention an incredible turn-on.”
Note the first qualifier “high self-esteem” by definition any woman that likes Cads has low self-esteem, convenient, no? There are very few women with high self esteem apparently. “Adoring, persistent and respectful attention” is not a “turn-on” it’s an ego boost. Big difference. Any man that has treated a woman with persistent, respectful adoration and then watched her sleep with a creep right away knows that this is not a lie. This is the truth.
Further, even if some women are like this and you can get in a woman’s pants this way after six months, or get in the pants of six girls during that time that are as attractive, which path should a man choose?
If women actually reward good behavior and not bad, the world would be a far better place.
3) “It’s what’s inside that counts.” Jag starts out saying this is a lie, but she doesn’t want to believe it. Men fall in love on sight. They either feel the pull or they don’t, nothing internally is going to change that so this is a lie. Once you have a man interested in you, it certainly makes a difference, but the odds of it being enough are miniscule.
A man that is committing to a long term relationship with you has generally decided you are the best he can do, or that he has no other options.
Looks aren’t just important. They are the most important thing.
4) “He’s teasing you because he likes you” She says this is a lie, but the reality is that if a man is interacting with you in any way other than a professional one, he likes you. Jag points out that players use this tactic, a lot. Why would players do this unless it excited the women?
Of course it does. No teasing, no banter, no fun conversation = boring. Women do not like boring. Jag points out that the man that really likes her, won’t risk offending her.
Mayhap, but from the woman’s perspective, the man that is afraid of offending her is weak . He is not powerful, he’s so beta that there is no tingle.
5) “It doesn’t matter what night he sees her” While she is correct that a man seeing her only on the weekdays is keeping his options open, the sad fact is that women see a man with options and other women as more attractive so even though they know he’s a cad to them “it doesn’t matter what night he sees me, so long as I get him even once a week because I love him”
So the truth is women are attracted to men that are teasing assholes and are grateful to sleep with him when he gives her the chance because they believe someday he will learn how special she is inside, and if he doesn’t they tell themselves it was because he was intimidated by them.
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