As I am in an LTR right now, I have the chance to socialize with the multitude of female friends that are in the LTR’s coterie. I’d say 60% of them are married with the other 40% still single. Not divorced, just single. All of these women are college educated, some even have multiple worthless degrees. What they all have in common is that they are in their mid-thirties and either rapidly approaching the wall or have crashed headlong into the wall and come out the other side worse for wear.
Uniformly, the single ladies all believe that they have something special to offer an attractive, successful man. They all believe that they will meet this man, get married, and have kids before their clock strikes midnight. When push comes to shove, there is one woman who understands that the door has shut on this particular dream, but she’s just as quick to dismiss this thought as too painful to think about. Then she can go back to dreaming of the alpha, the house, two cars, and two children again. Of course this one woman with a glimmer of reality also happens to have been influenced by things that both Talleyrand and I have said to her. We gave her a glimpse of the red pill reality. As much as she is willing and able to accept.
The conversations that this group of women get into are entertaining to say the least. The things that are inadvertently revealed sometimes leads me to new insights/thoughts. Phrases like, ‘when I get married’ and ‘when I have kids’ are liberally strewn throughout. No objective assessment of reality is ever offered. Sometimes there’s even the thought expressed about adopting children from some third world country since there is no potential man in their life and their desire for children is overpowering (speaking of adopting from third world countries, it’s gotta be a SWPL phenomenon).
There is a hierarchy among these women and it goes something like this. Starting from the lowest rung: single women, women in LTRs, women who are engaged to be married, married women, women with children. Career and education level do not matter. Seriously, for all their talk about equality, credentialism, etc., it doesn’t seem to matter in the least. Do they see their biological imperative writ large? No, or in the case of my LTR, imperfectly at best. She was the one who pointed out the difference between the single and the married friends with an idea of where she personally fit into the equation.
What has become obvious is that there is little reflection on the choices these women have made that have placed them in the circumstances they are in now. There is no understanding that their focus on career and being independent in their prime has led them to spinsterhood. The desire to adopt is nothing more than an attempt to find meaning in a life that so far is utterly meaningless. I don’t say this to be cruel, but as a disheartening observation. There is a desperate futility to these women that feminism has wrought, and yet the connection is rarely if ever made.
