I had dinner with some friends over the weekend. The topic of conversation roamed somewhat until it landed on some celebrity that all the ladies believed is beautiful. Now compared to the ladies at the table, I’d have to agree, this celebrity is more attractive than they all are. They were going on and on about her love life, who she might be seeing, the latest sightings. You know, boring stuff. I decided I’d interject a comment to see how it would go over. I described in detail the various flaws in this woman’s beauty. Man jaw, nose that is too large and hooked, bad skin due to too much sun, and while still attractive, she is past peak and on the steep decline to visual mediocrity.
The ‘strong woman’ feminist, cat lady spoke up immediately told me I was wrong. She undershot the celebrity’s age by 7 years, and downplayed all the other issues I brought up. I smiled and told her and the other ladies that women have no idea what men find attractive. I know, I was lobbing bombs just to get a reaction. Sometimes I do that. Cat lady rolled her eyes at me and retorted that it was obvious women don’t know what men find attractive. That’s why they spend so much time and money on their looks. She then proceeded to paint all women as victims of men’s visual desires in the sexual marketplace. Thus I was graced with what was to this woman unassailable logic. I replied that she and the other ladies may spend inordinate amount of time and money on beauty products and clothes but that doesn’t address a woman’s beauty or lack thereof.
Cosmetics, hair, clothes, and grooming have two basic goals and are the result on one primary drive. The two goals are to look younger/healthy and to advertise sexual maturity. The primary drive for all this primping and preening is competition with other women for the best available man. It takes a special kind of delusion to blame men when what these women are doing is nothing different than what a used car salesman does to dress up the old beater car he’s trying to sell. A little touch up paint, a tune up under the hood, some leather treatment in the interior, tire gloss on the rubber and a shine to all the chrome. All cosmetic fixes, but it doesn’t change the hundreds of thousands of miles the old girl has been driven.
Think about the various ways a woman advertises youth and health. Shaving the hair off their legs, their armpits, plucking facial hair, maybe even going bald down below. These are all attempts to appear younger. Bleaching their hair to a cornflour blond color is also an attempt to be appear younger. Hair of that color is typically only found on very young girls. Creams and lotions applied to their skin to make them soft and smooth are also attempts to retain a youthful, healthy appearance. Foundation and other makeups applied to the face to hide blemishes and make it appear smoother. High heels point the toe downward giving the lower leg a longer and more supple appearance and making the feet look smaller. Take the desire for small childlike feet to an extreme we see the ancient practice of foot binding in China.
In conjunction with the desire for a youthful and healthy appearance is the need to advertise that the woman is sexually mature enough to mate. Lipstick is the first thing that comes to mind. A painting of the lips to mirror the flush of blood during sexual arousal to a lower set of lips. Blush on the cheeks to mirror the flush of sexual excitement. Enhancement of the breasts to mirror the round fullness of the rump of a sexually mature primate. Form fitting clothes to draw the male eye to the waist and advertise the optimum waist to hip ratio of a sexually mature female.
The reality is that women are in a sexual cold war with other women. The sides are always escalating. Attempting to come up with one more weapon to attract a better mate. Think about a group of women who are in the same social group. Most of them are typically around the same general level of attractiveness. With minor differences for coloring and body type, they typically have similar dress styles and none of them stray too far from applying the same level of cosmetics in about the same way. Nothing they do to appear more youthful, healthy, and sexually mature changes the overall symmetry of their facial features or their skeletal structure. Their weight is the one factor under their control that has a direct impact on their beauty. No amount of make up or clothes is going to change that fact that a UB3 will never be a HB10 (or even an HB5 or HB6 for that matter).
