There are some among my gentle readers, that doubt the strength of body language and its importance. They believe a persons societal status is the be all end all for whether someone is alpha or not.
Not so. Don’t take my word for it, go look at this entry which will connect you to research on body language. What does that tell you? Some researchers believe that 97% of communication is through body language. Other dispute this, placing the number somewhere around a lowly 60-70%.
So when you are talking, your words say far less than your body language.
I recommend Desmond Morris’ People Watching. For every man, especially anyone that wants to use game, and anyone that wants to understand the cues they are picking up subconsciously.
I also recommend studying the body language of any man who seems to be confident, together, commanding and study their actual body language. It is important.
Let me give you an example.
I am at the weekend market walking around with a woman.
She points out all the men trailing behind their wives carry bags of purchases. Waiting off to the side as the women look through babbles and vegetables.
“I kind of feel sorry for all those married men.” She says to me. “The are so slump shouldered.”
“Emasculated.” I reply.
“Yes.” She answers.
Did she talk to any of these men? No.
Does she know where they stand in the social hierarchy just by looking at them?
Yes.
What do actors study if they want to be good? Body language.
If they are on stage, they learn to exaggerate the body language cues so that a far away audience can pick them up. On film they learn to be more subtle, so they don’t appear “hammy.”
What are the cues that trigger “gaydar?”
Body language.
Men project their self-confidence through their body language.
Body language communication is far older than verbal communication, evolutionarily.
Animals use body language in their displays for dominance, in protecting their mates, in their mating rituals, the list goes on.
It is far older than the spoken word. It is far older than any auditory form of communication.
It is primitive communication and in seducing women it is more important than the words you speak.
Some people still seem to get hung up on the symbolic and modern trappings of power and status and think that these symbols are what women long for in a mate.
Please.
That is as realistic as saying they like nice guys.
In their upper brain functions a woman recognizes the advantages of a man with the trappings of high status within society.
But that does not mean it makes her tingle.
Just as a man could recognize that a nice, smart witty girl is someone they like, but it is the Bitchy Megan Fox that lights a fire in their loins.
The tingle is primitive. The sexual drives are old, not cognitive based, but instinctual, emotional and it is best to remember that.
All these trappings of society are new in biological time.
Body language is old, and gives important cues.
A woman sizes a man up in a couple seconds on whether they are marriage prospects, fuck prospects, or losers. This is all done by body language. This was absolutely essential for females that might be taken in by a new tribe. The female had to gauge the subtle differences in the hierarchy and figure out which men were the dominate ones, which ones were better than the lesser ones and the differences in a nomadic, animal setting were small but important. Her survival and her children’s survival depended on picking the man who would get the most food, over the man who would get the least of any shared kill.
Women that tell you that body language is not important are lying to you, so that you can get cut out of the reproductive herd.
Your body language is the difference between whether a woman will even consider you as any kind of prospect.
Granted, if I dress like a slob, it is harder to garner attraction, but even the best suit won’t make a downtrodden, morose man attractive.
Now, a man of high status can engage in Beta behaviors, a type of handicap principle at work and it will make him more attractive.
Certainly this is true, but engaging in nonalpha body language is not one that will make you successful with women.
Peacocking will not work with a guy hunched over. You have to be bold, confident, to carry that off. If you dress all in pink and look embarrassed, this will not be a turn on for women.
If you can dress all in pink and walk in like you’ll kick the ass of anyone that makes fun of you, you are exuding alpha behavior.
We constantly communicate to others with our body language and subtly influence their opinions of us.
After having the proper mental state, your body language is the most important thing, not just in game, in all your interactions with other people.
