A study of college students revealed that more and more men are faking orgasms, mainly because they are not all that impressed with the sex.
Researchers, however, are blaming the trend on antidepressants and internet porn, because it couldn’t possibly be that some women are lousy in bed, just plain unattractive or boring. One sexuality counselor suggests that men are becoming “harder to please,” yet doesn’t seem to consider the fact that young women are possibly harder to look at and listen to than ever.
The simple presence of a female – even a naked one – is not sufficient to arouse a man, but today’s women may not have internalized that fact. There are a number of things that can turn a guy off during sex, including unpleasant odors, unpleasant sights, loose flesh, annoying or ridiculous noises, a woman’s lack of interest or enthusiasm or even a woman’s overenthusiasm/dominant behavior.
Lots of young men feel pressured to have sex with women they are not all that attracted to, and today they are pressured to perform due to the obsession with the female orgasm, which sometimes results in men exhausting themselves by drilling away for unnaturally long periods of time. This can have a desensitizing effect and lead a man to want to simply end it in one way or another. And if she can fake it to get it over with, why can’t he?
In fact, it is probably the obsession with the female orgasm that led to the “faking it” trend amongst women as well. The truth is that about a third of women usually climax from vaginal sex, a third climax some of the time, and about a third rarely if ever do, but men are taught that their value as a sexual partner lies entirely with their ability to give women orgasms. Women who want a guy to feel adequate will sometimes fake an orgasm, so that he feels he’s “done his job,” and men who want to be good sexual partners will keep going until they are entirely worn out and the sex is no longer pleasant for them.
Now, it looks as though a few guys have grown tired of this, and are using the same trick as the women. For guys, it’s an even better excuse to finish up than it is for women, because following the climax it’s all over.
The idea that men are sexually dysfunctional due to porn or drugs almost seems calculated to give “sex counselors” more work. Actually, when sex becomes a chore for men and all about pleasing a demanding woman, it should be expected that some of them will look for excuses to cut it short.
