The “mommy wars”, the debate whether women should stay at home with the kids or go to work, is rarely brought up in the manosphere if at all. There is an excellent reason for this. In terms of anti-feminism the mommy wars are meaningless. In fact, the mommy wars serve as nothing but a distraction for actual anti-feminism and are another example of the argument between various forms of feminism/female supremacism on how to best extract money and resources from men (or how to best hold the whip over men).
Socons (social conservatives) use two main arguments for women staying home, traditionalism and children. ”Traditionalism” isn’t about what was traditional over human history but what the archetypal stay at home mother of the 1950s which was an aberration and wasn’t even universal back then. Throughout history women have done work that added income to the family. In addition there weren’t washing machines, stoves, refrigerators, vacuum cleaners, etc. so there was more work to be done in maintaining a household. In the future more and more of household maintenance will be handled by robots such as the roomba leaving less and less work for a woman in maintaining the household. The idea that women should stay home with young children has merit. However, children grow up, move out, and live their own lives. As people live longer the time a woman would spend having young children is a diminishing percentage of woman’s life. What is she doing with the rest of her life? What socons seek to produce is not stay at home motherhood or traditional families but domestic divas who have little to no work to do.
The level to which socons want women to not be involved with things outside the home is extreme. Some socons even object to having their daughters spend any time at church ministries. Considering that a church ministry usually involves some degree of community service, they are even objecting to women doing any community service whatsoever in favor of “being at home”. The question must be asked, “What are these socon domestic divas and proto-domestic divas (their daughters) doing all day?” The answer seems to involve claiming that it takes an army of women to clean a house and that unmarried daughters should stay at home doing make work jobs of questionable merit like “sewing her wardrobe”. It seems to be all about minimizing work that women do and hiding this fact from men.
While feminists want women to go to work (or more accurately to a job), they are similar to the socons. Feminists will claim that women with jobs are “more productive” and “doing real work”. This is wrong. Over the last several decades many women have poured into the workforce into jobs like public sector jobs, quasi-public sector jobs like healthcare and education, human resources, etc. What do these jobs have in common? They are bureaucratic, bloated, inefficient, ossified, and in most cases unnecessary. In addition, they wreck the productive sectors of the economy. Many of these jobs are nothing but make work jobs, and women hold these economy wrecking make work jobs. Even outside of these sectors of employment, women can cause problems. A feminist had this to say about housewives trying to get work:
During preliminary interviews with housewives she saw that they had one thing in common: an extremely infantilized mode of behavior. Whenever the conversation didn’t go exactly as they wanted, they would become highly emotional, raise their woices, bcome irritable, cry, make unreasonable demands. They had no understanding of how to negotiate or listen to others. Their expectations of what they are owed by recruiters and employers were extremely inflated. It was obvious that inscribing themselves into the hierarchies of a workplace, curbing their highly emotional response to every slight contretemps and learning to listen to other people was going to be next to impossible for them.
Any man willing to be honest about it will easily be able to come up with multiple examples of women acting like this who are not housewives or former housewives. These are more reasons why feminists are wrong about women in jobs automatically being productive or doing real work. Like with the socons, it’s about minimizing the work women do and hiding this from men. The feminists and socons just disagree about the best way to do that.
On the other hand the feminists and the socons do agree that men are at fault for not making their respective positions happen. Feminists claim that men are evil brutes trying to keep women at home, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. Socons are claiming that men have become “unmanly” and are forcing their wives to work, and that men are “pressuring” women to go college. Whatever their positions in the mommy wars, both the feminists and socons attack men with truckloads of shaming language. This is why the mommy wars are a distraction completely useless to men and useless to anti-feminism. It is nothing but an argument about how to best hold the whip over men in a very literal sense because the mommy wars are about women doing as little work as possible and making men do more.
