BGR has a post up on not to teach daughters to be independent. The comments are pretty long, but I eventually was able to figure out some of the roots of dysfunction with this comment:

Even attempting to compare men and women is wayward. Comparison breeds covetousness, jealousy, and discontent. The modern feminist is the epitome of this.

No, men and women are not equal. The reason why God created certain positions in marriage, in the Church, and on earth is to teach us how to live in harmony with His design. When we deviate from those positions, we think it’s beneficial but in reality it’s sin and destructive in the long run.

For example, 1 Peter 3 teaches husbands to view wives with understanding as the weaker vessel and in the grace as a co-heir in Christ lest their prayers be hindered. The meaning is ultimately that men and women are different and need to be treated different, but that we should all remember that we are all created by God. Treatment needs to come from love not harshness.

Feminists, egalitarians, and complementarians are paranoid that men are going to abuse women because they have authority. They make up stories about how “Patriarchy” was used to abuse women in the OT and NT when the Law of Moses and Jesus show us that Authority is mean to Protect, Provide, and Love. They live in Fear not Love.

After you stop buying into that nonsense, the Truth is pretty clear to see.

The one theme that is common between feminists, egalitarians, and complementarians in their waywardness from God’s design is that they promote paranoia in women and men of men in authority. This is true whether in marriages, the Church, or elsewhere. They’re all paranoid of men in authority positions.

The only reason why “Patriarchy” is demonized is because of the longstanding effort of feminists, egalitarians, and complementarians to demolish the structure of marriage that God intended for men and women.