I’ve made the analogy before that reason and logic are like food and emotions are like flavor. A dish doesn’t exist to women if it is separated into individual ingredients. In fact, individual ingredients are simply distasteful.
It’s normal for women to find individual ingredients distasteful — marriage, fear, and dread or why I don’t respect women — without the flavoring of say ‘kindness.’
For example, if I explained the entire picture:
Breaking a dysfunctional relationship pattern will generate two types of fear:
- The “unknown” and “conflict” will cause fear.
- The husband getting used to acting as the head will cause rational fear because his previous pattern of behavior was not particular trustworthy.
The first is the fear of change. The second is the rational fear of authority exacerbated due to lack of trust.
The fear of change should be dispelled with kindness: “I’ve decided to work towards becoming a better husband and father. Things will be different.”
The rational fear of authority is the same as which we should have toward the Father as Christians. Additionally, trust in authority takes time to build especially if there was a lack of trust already. This is a natural part of the healing process.
What is for men is not for women. The way men interact with men will probably offend most women.
It’s natural for women to not understand unvarnished truth without kindness. This leads to the conclusion that being offended is not synonymous with ungodliness.
Life lessons. “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”
