The world is filled with people who act on incentives.

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Author’s Note: This post is based on a conversation I had with RedPillBoomer and has had some input from Jack.
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Competition, not Causation

Earlier this month, NovaSeeker wrote about The Influence of Pornography and OnlyFans on Women (2021/8/4). The main point of this post was that much of the trends we see in society, personal presentation and appearances, fitness, what is considered attractive, and even private sexual activities have been strongly shaped and contoured by standards that were only present in pornography not more than 30 years ago.

The post is good, but I think it misplaces causation on what is a symptom and an intensifier instead of the underlying sickness. While I understand that porn can and does have cultural impacts, I don’t think today’s women are trying to imitate porn from 30 years ago. I might agree that today’s women are trying to imitate role models who resemble porn from 30 years ago, but more to the point, what we see today is more along the lines of social relevancy and competing for the attentions of the prime men.

As I read NovaSeeker’s post, I kept questioning if the causation attributed to Bimbofication could not be equally, or even to a greater extent, attributed to other cultural factors. With each point, I found myself asking, “Did porn directly create this, or was porn just one of the players reinforcing a cultural trend?”

Marketing Incentives

My take on porn is that it is a for profit endeavor and, as such, it is more likely that it picks up on cultural trends to be able to profit from them. So according to my understanding, the Bimbofication of society works like this. As the acts, appearances, behaviors, and so on become normalized, it thereby creates less novelty and excitement. As the quest for money continues concomitantly, it leads to a persistent state of searching for the stimulus needed to create the same reaction. Thus, it must exacerbate the trends by eventually depicting them in the extreme. This cycle has continued over the years, leading us to the Bimbofication of the entire society.

A Clearinghouse Auction Marketplace*

This leads us to wonder, why is society now going down this path, when in the past (say, before the mid 20th century or earlier), there was always understood a boundary of decency and propriety that prevented this downward cycle from blowing full steam ahead?

I think a likely explanation is that when feminism unmoored female sexuality from the patriarchy, and then eviscerated the patriarchy itself, the biblical ideals of sex within marriage and the characteristics that are required for successful marriage, were deemphasized in favor of unchecked female hypergamy and male visual stimulation. As we now know, this produced a culture of promiscuity, but also one that retains a residual social expectation of monogamy. This veneer of pseudo-monogamy has just as much of an impact as the loss of patriarchal authority, because if soft harems were socially acceptable, then men (and women too, to some extent) would not place such a high emphasis on catching the best (looking) mate possible, and since patriarchal authority is not present, men cannot defend their harems from monkey branching and mate poaching.

The resulting situation would, and did, lead to a hypergamy-fueled, so-called “arms race” of women trying to be the “one” who would be awarded the attentions and investment from the best man around, and that means being the most physically alluring. In the clearinghouse auction analogy, the “sale” is made to the highest (most attractive) bidder.

Within this context, the female competition for the most attractive men and those men’s position of relative strength allows these men to elicit the acts they want from women.  Here we’re talking about the top 10% of men with options.  They are the men who women will “break the rules” for, and if one woman does not, the next one will.  It leaves women in a strategic place of complying with a dominant man’s wishes or else, risk having him move on to the next option. Ultimately, an “arms race” of bimbofication and sexual acts ensues as part of the equation for judging overall attractiveness in the quest for an optimal partner.

* A clearinghouse auction liquidates all assets of an estate at the current market price.

Case Study 1 — Fellatio

Take fellatio for example. Men have always wanted this (there are good arguments for this act being depicted in the Song of Solomon with his Shulamite bride) and it is understandable as it is an act that clearly defines male dominance and female submission as well as being highly erotic. I find it more likely in this case that Victorian cultural stuffiness regarding sex was undone by women having to be more willing to accommodate the top tier male’s desires in the absence of patriarchal governance of the sexual market place. If this is what men desire, and porn sells what men desire, then porn is more likely the downstream indicator of culture, albeit with a powerful reinforcing feedback loop.

Furthermore, Jack noted that engaging in fellatio is not such a big leap for women who truly Tingulate for their man.

[In regard to fellatio], it is not men who dictate the terms. Fellatio is a natural expression of unrestrained sexual passion. It’s not just men who want it. Women love to do it too (but only with certain men, of course). Fellatio is one of those weird evolutionary quirks about human instinct. It’s like there is a powerful magnetic tractor beam between the tip of a man’s penis and the back of a woman’s throat. Women are highly sexualized beings, and they don’t need to be taught, they just need encouragement to trust the man and get past their inhibitions. Years ago, women would not admit to this because it was socially unacceptable and many women wouldn’t do it for the same reason. But now, it is accepted and kind of expected, so we see the feral nature coming out in full expression.

Case Study 2 — Personal Grooming

Female personal grooming could also be more driven by the SMP than by porn. Keep in mind the rule that women want to look good for the top men. Clothing companies, who do a very good job knowing what women want to buy, started creating smaller and smaller swimwear and underwear in the 1970s and the minimalist trend intensifies in the 1980s and 1990s. Removing and grooming pubic hair becomes part of the equation in completing the look. Men like it and porn picks up on the trend and takes it further, influencing the existing trend.

Case Study 3 — Body Shape and Fitness

Women’s body shape and fitness level changes (in some segments of society) fit the same trend of women trying to get the top tier men. Men have always liked shapely women. As locustsplease noted in his comment, the waif thin model types of the 90s were not very attractive. God made men to recognize good genetics for reproduction in the form of hips, backsides, and breasts. What women found out with the advent of the Jane Fonda workout videos and then the tsunami of imitators that followed, is that men really like shapely female bodies (can I get an amen?!), and that toning those bodies makes them look even better to many men in our culture.  After that realization, women’s fitness becomes another avenue to compete with each other over being the object of a top tier man’s desires. Body modification surgeries and tight gym clothing (yoga pants are akin to a push up bra for her posterior a$$ets and smooth out problem areas) are the results of this competition’s incentives to the chagrin of all the feminists fighting the evil patriarchy. Again, porn follows trends that sell and serves as the reinforcing feedback loop that propels the image to the end of the normal curve.

Flaunting the Flesh Ensures a Competitive Edge

RedPillBoomer noticed that no matter where he goes, the gym, the beach, or wherever, women are pushing the limits of modesty just as far as they can.

Even though the gym has ‘rules’ posted, and it covers clothing not considered appropriate for working out in, this rarely seems to get enforced. Women are violating the gym clothing rules by wearing swimsuits or workout tops that leave their entire midsection uncovered to include their rib cage area. The part of the top approaching their breasts and covering their breasts looks something like a push up bra held in place with spaghetti straps. Of course, their tight and form fitting yoga pants, short or long, still leave little to nothing to the imagination.

Good luck on ever having those gym attire rules ever being enforced on a woman. Women who dress like that keep the guys coming back and none of the guys would ever complain. It’s like having a lady’s night at the bar.

At the beach, ALL of the beach bums were wearing thongs and stringy tops, There were copious displays of side-boob, under-boob, nips showing through, camel toe… and full moon fever back below. All that covered their pubic area were patches of some shape and size. 

Even girls as young as 16 were flashing their catnip, and their mothers and sisters were egging them on!

RedPillBoomer went so far as to offer us an inside glimpse of the “transaction” which incentivizes Bimbofication [edited for brevity and clarity].

“It seemed to me that [these women] had a ‘do not approach’ sign about their demeanor, unless you were THAT guy. I saw average dudes try it, the girls might laugh a little at their pick up lines, flirt just a bit (crumbs), but then inevitably dismiss them in some way; not mean, just “Okay, enough’s enough Beta boy, now just run along.” Now if Chad showed up, that demeanor radically shifted, plus the body language as well, e.g. positioning themselves on their towels so Chad couldn’t help but get the message. Many of them set up near the lifeguard stands because 99% of those guys were Chad, and the bikini contest was on!”

“Big sis was wearing a thong, little sis might as well have been naked. …it was not a bathing suit in my opinion. Quite frankly, it was a freakin’ porn show what she was wearing and doing by displaying herself… …big sis should have been Chad’s number one pick, but I think little sis (or mom maybe), gave herself a competitive advantage with the thong being so skimpy, so revealing.”

“[All the scantily clad women] wanted general attention for sure… However, what they really wanted (fantasized about?) was HIS attention. And to get it, he had to notice HER and not the other girls. What better way than to dress and ring the proverbial “Come and get it!” ‘dinner bell’ for Chad.”

“…those lifeguards… just sat in that chair all day, and… just picked their ‘date’ for the evening; easy peasy pickings for them!”

Apparently there is no self-awareness, nor any sense of decorum, modesty, nor propriety. Their awareness is exclusively focused on feeeling sexy and snagging Chad’s lecherous gaze. They aren’t even aware that they are arousing the libido of all men within eyeshot. All they may realize is that they get more of the type of attention they want, without even actively seeking a specific person’s attention, and acting on that incentive, we know, is the whole point of the exercise, no holds barred.

Conclusions

In conclusion, I believe what we are seeing is an environment created by feminism that leaves female sexuality unchecked, allowing their natural tendency of hypergamy to operate without checks nor guidance.

Gunner Q capped it off like this,

“Keep in mind the rule that women want to look good for the top men.”

This is the heart of most discussions about the influence of porn. Ordinary men are simply not consulted, not involved, not wanted, not noticed, except as lightning rods for blame. The modern sex/dating scene going to extremes is nothing but an iterative Pareto principle.

Yes, an iterative Pareto principle of incentives. I wrote in a comment to RedPillBoomer that…

“The world is filled with people who act on incentives. The better we become at discerning those incentives the more predictable and ordered the world becomes to us.”

The better we are at recognizing this, the better we can be at both fixing problems and creating environments that allow desired behaviors to flourish.

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